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Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah | Fully Engaged With My Family | December 4, 2021
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- male announcer: Passionate, courageous, bold, resolute.
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- All around us, people live fully engaged.
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- We witness in real time as athletes push the boundaries
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- of their physical ability,
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- and performance.
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- Ours is a life best lived fully engaged,
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- but what if we did the same with our faith?
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- What if we took our faith to more
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- than we thought it could be,
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- if we, as believers, lived fully engaged?
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- Be undeniably dedicated, utterly committed.
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- Even you might be surprised by who you can be
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- through the power of God.
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- You are unlimited and you are fully engaged.
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- announcer: And now here's your host,
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- Dr. David Jeremiah.
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- Dr. David Jeremiah: Susanna Wesley, the mother of John
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- and Charles Wesley, gave birth to 19 children.
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- And to find a moment's peace, she would sit in a chair
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- and cover her head with her apron.
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- With a house full of active children,
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- the Wesley family must have definitely been hectic.
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- But more importantly, their story tells us
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- that they were fully engaged with one another.
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- Somebody once said that whether you have one child or a dozen,
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- family takes everything you have.
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- But being busy is not the same as being totally committed,
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- that is, being personally and fully involved
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- in each other's lives.
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- Families that work, play, talk, hug, and pray together,
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- are families that are blessed together.
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- God wants us to be just as closely engaged
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- with our families as we are with him
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- and that's why I've titled today's message
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- "Fully Engaged With My Family."
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- So, please join me
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- Dr. Jeremiah: I read about a man who said
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- that before he got married,
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- he had six theories about raising children.
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- He says, "Now I have six children,
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- I don't have any theories."
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- I'm sure you've heard about Mark Twain's succinct advice
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- about raising children.
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- He said, "Things run along pretty smoothly
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- till your kid reaches 13,
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- that's the time you need to stick them in a barrel,
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- hammer the lid down nice and snug,
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- and feed him through a knothole."
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- And he said when he turns 16, plug up the knothole.
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- No, I don't think--if there ever was a time
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- when we needed some encouragement
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- and instruction on this part of family life,
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- this is it.
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- But let's be honest, parenting is tough.
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- I have four children, and 12 grandchildren
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- in all stages of ages.
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- And we still have some toddlers that come to our house,
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- and we have a big box there with blocks in it.
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- Donna has it all set up so when they come.
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- And when one of them comes, it's peaceful.
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- When two of them comes, it's really interesting.
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- I called Jennifer this week and I told her I said,
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- "I found this, I think you should hear this
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- and you tell me if it's true."
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- And she was laughing all the way through it.
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- These are the property laws of a toddler,
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- the property laws of a toddler.
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- "If I like it, it's mine. If it's in my hand, it's mine.
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- If you take it from me, it's mine.
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- If I had it a little while ago, it's mine.
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- If it's mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.
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- If I'm doing or building something,
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- all the pieces are mine.
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- If it looks just like mine, it's mine.
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- If I saw it first, it's mine.
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- If you are playing with something and you put it down,
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- it automatically becomes mine.
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- If it's broken, it's yours," the property laws of a toddler.
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- Well, the Bible tells us in Ephesians 6,
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord,
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- for this is right.
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- Honor your father and mother,
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- which is the first commandment with promise:
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- that it may be well with you and you may live long
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- on the earth.
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- And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath,
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- but bring them up in the training
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- and admonition of the Lord."
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- If you read the Book of Ephesians,
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- you will discover quite quickly
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- that this passage is at the end of a section of Scripture
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- where Paul is teaching the believers how to live
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- by being filled with the Holy Spirit,
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- that means being controlled by the Holy Spirit.
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- Let me just lay this down as a principle.
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- If we're gonna have families that honor the Lord,
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- it's gonna take more than we have to offer.
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- It's gonna take the Holy Spirit working through us.
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- And the interesting thing about it
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- is that the Bible teaches that one of the results
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- of being filled with the Holy Spirit
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- is that we will be submitting one to another.
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- And the Bible says, wives submit to their husbands
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- and husbands are loving their wives,
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- and children are obeying their parents,
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- and parents are bringing oversight to their children.
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- The Bible says that
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- when we are controlled by the Holy Spirit,
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- it affects how we live our lives at home.
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- And I'm here to tell you
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- that if you're gonna be a Christian at home,
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- it's gonna take you and the Holy Spirit working together
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- because none of us has the creative power and energy
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- to do what needs to be done on our own.
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- The Book of Ephesians, in the 6th chapter,
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- begins by speaking to us concerning obedience.
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord."
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- I read about a father who won a toy at an office game.
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- He called his three kids together
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- to ask which one should have the present.
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- "Who is the most obedient?" He asked.
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- And the children all stared back at him in silence.
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- Then he said, "Who never talks back to mother?"
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- Again, the kids appear to be mystified
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- by the question.
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- Then the father said,
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- "Who does everything she says?"
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- With that question, the kids were finally able
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- to come to a conclusion the three small voices
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- answered in unison, "Okay Dad, you get the toy."
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- Obedience is the fundamental building block of the home.
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- Whether there are Christians in that home or not,
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- obedience is what makes a family work.
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- In fact, there are two remarkable passages
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- in the Word of God that help us to understand
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- that obedience in the home is at the center of our society.
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- In the Book of Romans in the first chapter,
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- Paul is describing a culture that has come unglued
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- to the point where the Bible says God gives this culture up.
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- And he gives us a list of characteristics
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- of that culture, guess what's on the list.
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- Disobedient to parents.
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- When you get to the Book of 2 Timothy chapter 3,
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- Paul is writing to Timothy
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- and he's describing the culture
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- that's gonna be on this earth when Jesus comes back
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- to take us to heaven.
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- And then again, there's a whole list of characteristics
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- of what the world is gonna be like
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- when Jesus comes back.
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- Guess what's on the list.
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- Disobedience to parents.
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- Sometimes, we need to just remember
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- that what we do in our own home
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- is creating the society in which we live.
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- Society is made up of many families.
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- And the Bible gives us some instruction
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- to hold our families together
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- that becomes the glue that holds society together.
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- In this passage of Scripture, Paul gives us four reasons
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- why children should obey their parents.
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- The first reason is because it's a principle of morality.
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord."
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- Now, watch this, "For this is right."
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- Colossians 3:20 says, "Children, obey your parents
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- in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord."
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- Do you want to please the Lord?
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- Then do what is right.
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- If you want honor the Lord who formed you,
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- and gave you life,
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- and who sent his only Son into this world for your salvation,
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- then why don't you just do what is right?
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord.
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- For this is right."
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- Number two, we should obey our parents
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- because it has a promise associated with it.
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- Ephesians 6:2 says, "Honor your father and mother,
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- which is the first commandment with promise."
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- And it goes back to Exodus chapter 20
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- where we have the Ten Commandments,
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- and the commandment in verse 12 is,
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- "Honor your father and your mother,
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- that your days may be long upon the land,
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- which the Lord your God is giving you."
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- Now, if you go back and look at the Ten Commandments
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- in Exodus chapter 20,
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- what you'll discover is God had given Moses
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- four commandments up to this point,
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- and there was no promise attached to any of them.
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- But then we come to this fifth commandment,
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- something changes.
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- Why the promise?
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- I don't know the answer to that except,
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- for no other reason, I believe it is the evidence
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- that God has placed great priority on this instruction.
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord,
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- and Honor your father and mother
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- so that you may live long upon the land,
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- which the Lord your God has given you."
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- We are to obey our parents in this culture
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- because this is God's design.
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- And God says that somewhere down the road,
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- we will look back and be glad that we did.
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- Even though we might struggle with it now,
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- struggling with obedience to parents
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- is part of the unhooking process
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- that we go through as we get older.
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- But if we try to push that process ahead of schedule,
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- it will cause great damage to us and to our families.
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- Number three, the Bible tells us
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- that we are to obey our parents
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- because it provides protection from harm.
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- "Children, obey your parents in the Lord," and it says verse 3,
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- "that it may be well with you."
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- You see, in life, the principle of service, and working,
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- and being submissive to people who are over you,
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- is a building process.
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- If you cannot understand what it means to report to someone,
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- you have no right for anybody to report to you.
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- Authority is learned in the family,
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- it's learned in the home.
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- The Bible says that if we obey our parents,
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- it will be well with us.
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- Here's the fourth reason, because it promotes long life.
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- Now, I know everybody's got their ears perked here
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- because everybody wants a long life,
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- "That you may live long on the earth."
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- Obedient children in the Old Testament did live longer,
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- and discipline in a child's life is usually conducive
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- to good health.
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- People who follow God's instructions
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- have a much better chance of living a reasonably good life
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- for a reasonably long period of time.
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- I recommend you follow this principle,
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- fully engaged obedience.
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- Did you get all those reasons, all in those few verses?
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- Why should children obey their parents?
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- Well, there's four good reasons.
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- But in verse 4, the subjects change
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- and now the instruction is given to the parents.
- 00:13:32.194 --> 00:13:35.231
- So, verse 4 is fully engaged oversight.
- 00:13:35.231 --> 00:13:38.901
- This section of Scripture is written to parents.
- 00:13:38.901 --> 00:13:42.304
- Now, I know that the word "father" is in here,
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- so sometimes wives use this passage of Scripture
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- to say, "Whoa, I'm off the hook.
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- This is for fathers."
- 00:13:52.248 --> 00:13:54.884
- But I want to put you back on the hook, women,
- 00:13:54.884 --> 00:13:58.554
- because here's what I learned,
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- the word that is translated fathers in Ephesians 6:4
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- is the exact same word that is found in Hebrews 11:23
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- where we read these words,
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- "By faith Moses, when he was born,
- 00:14:12.534 --> 00:14:14.770
- was hidden three months by his parents."
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- So, the instruction to fathers
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- is really instruction to parents,
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- and there are some principles that we can find this
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- in one verse of Scripture that would transform our homes
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- if we would just follow them.
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- And grandparents, these are wonderful things
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- to share with your children
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- at the right time in the right moment,
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- maybe when they've asked the question.
- 00:14:37.459 --> 00:14:40.329
- The first principle that comes out of this verse
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- is the principle of discouragement.
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- And you fathers, you parents, do not provoke
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- your children to wrath.
- 00:14:50.005 --> 00:14:53.075
- This is the only negative principle you will find
- 00:14:53.075 --> 00:14:55.444
- in these four verses.
- 00:14:55.444 --> 00:14:58.314
- Let me tell you something I've learned.
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- For every time you have to say no, I hope you've worked hard
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- to say yes eight or nine times.
- 00:15:04.920 --> 00:15:07.756
- No in the context of yeses is far more powerful.
- 00:15:07.756 --> 00:15:12.061
- No in the context of noes almost has no meaning.
- 00:15:12.061 --> 00:15:18.000
- Kids today need cheerleaders more than they need critics.
- 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:21.603
- We're pretty good at criticism, a lot of us,
- 00:15:21.603 --> 00:15:23.405
- and not so good at being cheerleaders.
- 00:15:23.405 --> 00:15:26.141
- It's a reversal of the way the world teaches,
- 00:15:26.141 --> 00:15:28.877
- but this is God's way.
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- God is the one who said, of his own Son Jesus Christ
- 00:15:31.647 --> 00:15:34.249
- at the moment of his baptism,
- 00:15:34.249 --> 00:15:35.617
- "This is my beloved Son in whom I am well pleased."
- 00:15:35.617 --> 00:15:41.223
- When was the last time that message came
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- from your parental mouth?
- 00:15:43.826 --> 00:15:47.563
- Don't discourage your children.
- 00:15:47.563 --> 00:15:49.164
- Next, the principle of diligence.
- 00:15:49.164 --> 00:15:50.632
- The Bible says, "But bring them up."
- 00:15:50.632 --> 00:15:53.502
- To bring up children is a scriptural phrase
- 00:15:53.502 --> 00:15:55.537
- that means to help them morally, mentally, and physically
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- become who they should be.
- 00:16:00.009 --> 00:16:02.411
- Parents are to be proactive in trying
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- to help their children develop the right principles,
- 00:16:05.147 --> 00:16:10.686
- the principle of diligence,
- 00:16:10.686 --> 00:16:12.021
- and then there's the principle of discipline.
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- "Bring them up in the training of the Lord,"
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- says the Scripture.
- 00:16:18.394 --> 00:16:21.497
- In the Old King James, the word here is nurture,
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- which means to train or develop.
- 00:16:24.800 --> 00:16:27.803
- Hebrews 12:6 says, "For whom the Lord loves, he chastens,
- 00:16:27.803 --> 00:16:32.641
- and scourges every son whom He receives."
- 00:16:32.641 --> 00:16:37.046
- Discipline is a basic principle of life that's being lost
- 00:16:37.046 --> 00:16:41.050
- in the culture of our families today.
- 00:16:41.050 --> 00:16:44.286
- The government says you can't touch your child,
- 00:16:44.286 --> 00:16:47.756
- your kids know that rule better than you do.
- 00:16:47.756 --> 00:16:52.494
- But listen to Proverbs, "My son, do not despise the chastening
- 00:16:52.494 --> 00:16:56.865
- of the Lord, nor detest His correction;
- 00:16:56.865 --> 00:17:01.103
- for whom the Lord loves He chastens,
- 00:17:01.103 --> 00:17:05.140
- just as a father the son in whom he delights."
- 00:17:05.140 --> 00:17:09.912
- If you never discipline them, if you never tell them no,
- 00:17:09.912 --> 00:17:12.514
- if you always say yes to whatever they want to do,
- 00:17:12.514 --> 00:17:14.616
- no matter how frivolous it may be,
- 00:17:14.616 --> 00:17:17.052
- what you're saying to your kids is you really don't care,
- 00:17:17.052 --> 00:17:20.189
- they can just go do their own thing.
- 00:17:20.189 --> 00:17:22.524
- Now, there are dozens of verses on discipline
- 00:17:22.524 --> 00:17:25.194
- in the Book of Proverbs,
- 00:17:25.194 --> 00:17:26.562
- and I could take you through all of them,
- 00:17:26.562 --> 00:17:27.930
- but you wouldn't remember them.
- 00:17:27.930 --> 00:17:29.264
- There's just so many of them.
- 00:17:29.264 --> 00:17:30.599
- So, I just want to tell you two things
- 00:17:30.599 --> 00:17:32.101
- about discipline that I've learned from study
- 00:17:32.101 --> 00:17:35.337
- and from experience.
- 00:17:35.337 --> 00:17:36.972
- Number one, discipline for disobedience,
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- not for mistakes.
- 00:17:40.676 --> 00:17:43.512
- Kids are gonna do what kids do,
- 00:17:43.512 --> 00:17:45.781
- and they should never be punished for a mistake.
- 00:17:45.781 --> 00:17:50.285
- Save the punishment for rebellion and disobedient,
- 00:17:50.285 --> 00:17:54.656
- but don't use it up on silly mistakes.
- 00:17:54.656 --> 00:17:56.992
- You know why we do that?
- 00:17:56.992 --> 00:17:58.360
- Because it irritates us and when we get irritated,
- 00:17:58.360 --> 00:18:00.762
- we want to irritate somebody else.
- 00:18:00.762 --> 00:18:03.799
- Discipline for disobedience, and never for mistakes.
- 00:18:03.799 --> 00:18:07.369
- And the second principle is important as the first,
- 00:18:07.369 --> 00:18:11.373
- discipline for an individual act,
- 00:18:11.373 --> 00:18:14.176
- never has an attack on a child's character.
- 00:18:14.176 --> 00:18:19.081
- Here's what I mean.
- 00:18:19.081 --> 00:18:20.415
- If a child tells a lie, that doesn't make him a liar.
- 00:18:20.415 --> 00:18:23.986
- When a kid swipes a piece of candy from a candy store,
- 00:18:23.986 --> 00:18:27.189
- that doesn't make him a thief or a robber.
- 00:18:27.189 --> 00:18:29.725
- Now, he committed an act that was wrong,
- 00:18:29.725 --> 00:18:31.860
- he needs to deal with it.
- 00:18:31.860 --> 00:18:33.262
- Probably all of you can remember your parents marching you
- 00:18:33.262 --> 00:18:35.464
- back to the store where you grabbed
- 00:18:35.464 --> 00:18:36.899
- that piece of candy and having to tell him
- 00:18:36.899 --> 00:18:38.500
- what you did and you're embarrassed,
- 00:18:38.500 --> 00:18:40.102
- and they make sure you don't ever forget it.
- 00:18:40.102 --> 00:18:43.272
- But one act does not make a character.
- 00:18:43.272 --> 00:18:47.176
- As a man, I am much more than the sum
- 00:18:47.176 --> 00:18:49.344
- of all my individual failures, thank the Lord.
- 00:18:49.344 --> 00:18:52.247
- I've always acted in character in my life, but not always.
- 00:18:52.247 --> 00:18:57.119
- Sometimes to my shame, I've acted out of character.
- 00:18:57.119 --> 00:19:00.589
- All of us have failed in some area.
- 00:19:00.589 --> 00:19:02.925
- We've done things that we're embarrassed about
- 00:19:02.925 --> 00:19:05.027
- as we look back on them, but those individual actions
- 00:19:05.027 --> 00:19:07.663
- didn't create a person in the character of the act.
- 00:19:07.663 --> 00:19:13.702
- So, when you discipline your children,
- 00:19:13.702 --> 00:19:15.904
- don't get caught up in creating
- 00:19:15.904 --> 00:19:17.839
- an exaggerated image of their life.
- 00:19:17.839 --> 00:19:20.409
- If you keep on doing that, your child will become
- 00:19:20.409 --> 00:19:23.745
- the fulfillment of your prophecy.
- 00:19:23.745 --> 00:19:26.515
- You keep calling him a liar when he lied once,
- 00:19:26.515 --> 00:19:29.985
- and he'll become a liar.
- 00:19:29.985 --> 00:19:33.322
- The last of the four principles for oversight
- 00:19:33.322 --> 00:19:35.724
- is the principle of direction.
- 00:19:35.724 --> 00:19:37.459
- Bring them up in the admonition of the Lord.
- 00:19:37.459 --> 00:19:41.196
- Training, in the earlier verse is correction,
- 00:19:41.196 --> 00:19:44.299
- admonition is instruction.
- 00:19:44.299 --> 00:19:46.969
- We need to teach our kids what is right.
- 00:19:46.969 --> 00:19:51.807
- We need to help them learn the Scriptures.
- 00:19:51.807 --> 00:19:55.544
- I remember growing up in a pastor's home
- 00:19:55.544 --> 00:19:58.146
- and my parents introduced me to an organization
- 00:19:58.146 --> 00:20:01.216
- called the Bible Memory Association.
- 00:20:01.216 --> 00:20:04.620
- And I used to go to these classes every week
- 00:20:04.620 --> 00:20:06.455
- and get my little book
- 00:20:06.455 --> 00:20:07.789
- and learn the Scriptures that were in there
- 00:20:07.789 --> 00:20:09.591
- and get points for learning the Scripture.
- 00:20:09.591 --> 00:20:11.460
- I know I didn't always do it for the right reason,
- 00:20:11.460 --> 00:20:13.395
- but what I found out is that by learning the Scripture
- 00:20:13.395 --> 00:20:15.530
- when you're young, they stay with you forever.
- 00:20:15.530 --> 00:20:18.433
- Here's one that's really hard.
- 00:20:18.433 --> 00:20:19.968
- Galatians 2:20, "I am crucified with Christ,
- 00:20:19.968 --> 00:20:22.304
- nevertheless I live, yet not I,
- 00:20:22.304 --> 00:20:23.772
- but Christ liveth in me and the life
- 00:20:23.772 --> 00:20:25.407
- which I now live in the flesh.
- 00:20:25.407 --> 00:20:26.742
- I live by the faith of the Son of God who loved me
- 00:20:26.742 --> 00:20:28.277
- and gave himself for me."
- 00:20:28.277 --> 00:20:29.778
- I learned that when I was seven years old,
- 00:20:29.778 --> 00:20:33.181
- and I never have forgotten it.
- 00:20:33.181 --> 00:20:35.417
- Listen, to the instruction, the Bible tells us
- 00:20:35.417 --> 00:20:39.021
- to hide the Word of God in our hearts
- 00:20:39.021 --> 00:20:41.390
- and children are open to that.
- 00:20:41.390 --> 00:20:44.326
- That's why we love AWANA because AWANA
- 00:20:44.326 --> 00:20:46.662
- gets kids involved in the Scripture.
- 00:20:46.662 --> 00:20:48.964
- The Word of God in the heart of a person
- 00:20:48.964 --> 00:20:50.532
- will stay with them for life and while they may not
- 00:20:50.532 --> 00:20:52.934
- be following it along the way,
- 00:20:52.934 --> 00:20:54.503
- they will remember that it's there
- 00:20:54.503 --> 00:20:56.271
- and at the right time, it can be brought back up
- 00:20:56.271 --> 00:20:58.173
- to help them find their way.
- 00:20:58.173 --> 00:21:01.610
- Parents, we need to instruct our children.
- 00:21:01.610 --> 00:21:03.578
- I remember reading this exhortation to Timothy
- 00:21:03.578 --> 00:21:06.948
- in 2 Timothy 3:14 and 15.
- 00:21:06.948 --> 00:21:09.117
- "But you must continue in the things
- 00:21:09.117 --> 00:21:10.552
- which you have learned and been assured of,
- 00:21:10.552 --> 00:21:12.954
- knowing from whom you have learned them,
- 00:21:12.954 --> 00:21:15.257
- and that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures,"
- 00:21:15.257 --> 00:21:20.696
- from childhood.
- 00:21:20.696 --> 00:21:22.698
- So, there you have it, folks, what the Bible says
- 00:21:22.698 --> 00:21:24.666
- about being fully engaged parents,
- 00:21:24.666 --> 00:21:27.035
- both from the standpoint of obedience
- 00:21:27.035 --> 00:21:29.671
- on the part of the children, and oversight
- 00:21:29.671 --> 00:21:32.708
- on the part of parents.
- 00:21:32.708 --> 00:21:35.210
- I want to tell you what I know after four children,
- 00:21:35.210 --> 00:21:38.747
- 12 grandchildren, parenting is hard, hard.
- 00:21:38.747 --> 00:21:46.121
- Most wonderful thing in the world, but it's hard.
- 00:21:46.121 --> 00:21:49.725
- And all of us, if we're honest, we struggle
- 00:21:49.725 --> 00:21:51.493
- with how to put all this together.
- 00:21:51.493 --> 00:21:53.328
- How do we make this work?
- 00:21:53.328 --> 00:21:55.163
- How can we manage everything that we do in life,
- 00:21:55.163 --> 00:21:58.967
- and our families and be good parents in all of that?
- 00:21:58.967 --> 00:22:03.905
- And I need you to know that all of us
- 00:22:03.905 --> 00:22:05.474
- have struggled with it.
- 00:22:05.474 --> 00:22:06.808
- I struggle with it in a major way.
- 00:22:06.808 --> 00:22:09.978
- Early on in my life as a parent, I remember getting on my knees
- 00:22:09.978 --> 00:22:16.151
- and asking God to forgive me
- 00:22:16.151 --> 00:22:17.786
- for messed-up priorities and making a commitment to him
- 00:22:17.786 --> 00:22:21.690
- that with all my heart,
- 00:22:21.690 --> 00:22:23.158
- just like in everything else, I was gonna be a father.
- 00:22:23.158 --> 00:22:26.361
- And that whatever my kids needed,
- 00:22:26.361 --> 00:22:27.796
- I was gonna be there for them.
- 00:22:27.796 --> 00:22:29.197
- Wherever they needed me to be, I would be there.
- 00:22:29.197 --> 00:22:33.535
- And I'm looking back over my shoulder now
- 00:22:33.535 --> 00:22:35.103
- and remembering flying back and forth across the coast
- 00:22:35.103 --> 00:22:38.006
- for football games that I should never
- 00:22:38.006 --> 00:22:39.674
- have had any reason to do, except for one thing,
- 00:22:39.674 --> 00:22:41.943
- I was their dad.
- 00:22:41.943 --> 00:22:44.946
- I've never regretted that.
- 00:22:44.946 --> 00:22:47.582
- One day I was in my office and I wrote down what my priorities
- 00:22:47.582 --> 00:22:51.253
- of life should be based upon being a Christian father.
- 00:22:51.253 --> 00:22:56.224
- Here they are, I'm gonna give them to you.
- 00:22:56.224 --> 00:22:57.659
- There's four of them. They're real easy to remember.
- 00:22:57.659 --> 00:23:00.228
- You probably don't even have to take notes.
- 00:23:00.228 --> 00:23:02.097
- Here they are, I am a person, and I have a relationship
- 00:23:02.097 --> 00:23:06.067
- with God, priority number one.
- 00:23:06.067 --> 00:23:09.004
- I am a partner,
- 00:23:09.004 --> 00:23:10.338
- and I have a relationship with my spouse,
- 00:23:10.338 --> 00:23:13.708
- priority number two.
- 00:23:13.708 --> 00:23:15.577
- I am a parent, and I have a relationship with my children,
- 00:23:15.577 --> 00:23:19.981
- priority number three.
- 00:23:19.981 --> 00:23:22.317
- And then I am a pastor, and I have a relationship
- 00:23:22.317 --> 00:23:26.455
- with my church.
- 00:23:26.455 --> 00:23:28.423
- I believe that with all my heart,
- 00:23:28.423 --> 00:23:30.592
- and I want to encourage you, parents,
- 00:23:30.592 --> 00:23:32.360
- you can make this work.
- 00:23:32.360 --> 00:23:34.296
- You just need to sit down and figure out that your kids
- 00:23:34.296 --> 00:23:37.199
- and your wife are more important than anything else.
- 00:23:37.199 --> 00:23:41.303
- Factor them into your schedule, somehow make it work,
- 00:23:41.303 --> 00:23:44.573
- and then commit yourself to it and you'll fail
- 00:23:44.573 --> 00:23:47.442
- and then you'll always come back.
- 00:23:47.442 --> 00:23:48.977
- But if you have a list, if you have a formula,
- 00:23:48.977 --> 00:23:53.048
- if you have that formula,
- 00:23:53.048 --> 00:23:54.382
- you will always have someplace to come back to,
- 00:23:54.382 --> 00:23:57.819
- and God will help you.
- 00:23:57.819 --> 00:24:00.255
- The secret to our success as a church is the health
- 00:24:00.255 --> 00:24:04.693
- of our families.
- 00:24:04.693 --> 00:24:07.329
- And I hope that today maybe God put something in your heart
- 00:24:07.329 --> 00:24:11.366
- that will help you to make your families,
- 00:24:11.366 --> 00:24:14.503
- your children, your grandchildren, strong.
- 00:24:14.503 --> 00:24:17.405
- We're in this for the long haul and God wants us to be healthy.
- 00:24:17.405 --> 00:24:22.511
- This is one of the building blocks for that goal.
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- Dr. Jeremiah: Nobody will disagree that parenting
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- is critical and challenging,
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- but where do we look to find a role model for parenting
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- to discover how to order our priorities
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- for a task that takes everything we have?
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- We start by looking at God, our Heavenly Father,
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- and our divine parent.
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- To know God as a Father, we must first become his child
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- by faith in Jesus Christ his Son.
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- I would love to encourage you in that direction
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- by sending you two free gifts from "Turning Point,"
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- a booklet called, "Your Greatest Turning Point,"
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- and our monthly devotional magazine
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- called, "Turning Points."
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- These are not specifically parenting resources,
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- but they will lead you into a deeper relationship with God,
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- our Heavenly Father.
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- We will be happy to send them both to you free of charge
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- if you will contact us here at "Turning Point" today.
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- announcer: Next time on "Turning Point."
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- Dr. Jeremiah: I want you to help.
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- I want you to be a part.
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- I want you to be a member.
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- I want you to do today what you're gonna be glad
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- you've done when you stand before the Lord someday
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- and he asks you about how you spent your life
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- Let's get fully engaged with the church.
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- announcer: Join us next time for Dr. Jeremiah's message,
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- Fully Engaged With My Church here on "Turning Point."
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- ♪♪♪
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- into the world around us
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- and live as powerful Christians in today's culture.
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