Dr. Robert Jeffress

Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center

March 24, 2025 | S25:E142

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center | March 24, 2025

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[presenter] from the pulpit
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Of the first baptist church of dallas, texas,
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This is "pathway to victory" with dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i am robert jeffress.
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And welcome again to "pathway to victory."
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The role of a father in the christian home
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Is both a sacred privilege and a profound responsibility.
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So, how can dads lead their families
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In a way that honors christ?
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Today, we're turning to colossians 3
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In which the apostle paul gives specific instructions
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For every member of the household
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With a special emphasis on a father's divine calling
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To guide and nurture his family.
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My message is titled "dads, front and center"
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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"the test of a christian is how he behaves at home."
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Billy graham once said.
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The apostle paul echoes the very same thought
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In the passage we're looking at in colossians 3.
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If you have your bibles this morning,
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I want you to turn to colossians 3.
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This chapter, as you know, is about how we become
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Like jesus christ in our everyday attitudes,
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Affections and actions.
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And paul says, if you want to know
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Whether you're really becoming like jesus christ,
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Look at how you act at home, how you behave in the home.
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That is the first of two tests
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Of whether you are really becoming like christ.
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And in these four short verses,
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Beginning with verse 18 of colossians 3,
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Paul outlines in a very simple way
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The four responsibilities every member of the household has.
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And he, first of all, he addresses the wives.
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He said, "wives, are you becoming like christ?
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Here's the test for you."
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Verse 18, "wives be subject to your husband's
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As is fitting in the lord."
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A test of a wife's christ-likeness
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Is her willingness to submit to her husband.
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Now, we saw last time
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This word "submit" is not the word "obey."
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The word "submit" has nothing to do
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With inferiority or superiority.
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It has to do, it's a military term,
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That means to place under rank.
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A wife voluntarily submits herself to her husband
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Just as jesus who was equal to god
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Willingly submitted himself
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To the authority of god the father.
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And we talked last time about the fact
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That all of us are told to submit to someone in this life.
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All of us are under some human authority.
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Employees under their employers,
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Citizens under the government,
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Church members under the spiritual leaders of the house,
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Children under their parents.
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God places every one of us under somebody's authority.
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Why is submission important,
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Not just for wives, but for all of us?
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Remember, last time we talked
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About the four benefits of submission.
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Submitting to authority teaches us how to submit to god.
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Let me tell you, if you are unwilling to submit yourself
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To that human authority god has placed over you,
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You'll find it very difficult to submit to the invisible god
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When he asks you to do something
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You don't like or agree with.
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Secondly, submission provides orderliness in society.
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If everybody was the boss,
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In any organization where everybody's the boss,
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Nobody's the boss.
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You have to have a chain of authority to keep orderliness
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In the home, in the church, and in government.
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Thirdly, we saw submission to authority
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Frees us from unnecessary worry.
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When you obey that god-given authority over you,
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You don't have to worry about the end result.
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God is going to protect you.
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And finally, we saw that submission
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Is a way that god gives us direction.
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When we obey that person god has placed over us,
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Many times god will direct his will for our life
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Through that person.
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Now, the fact is submission is limited,
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We saw last time in both sphere and scope,
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When it comes to women.
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All women are not to submit to all men.
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It's wives submit to your own husbands.
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And we also saw that submission is limited in scope.
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That is, there are some qualifications here.
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Wives, if your husband's asked you to do something
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That clearly violates the teaching of god's word,
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Acts 5:29 says, "you are to obey god rather than men."
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Now, you know,
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Submission gets a lot of bad press these days,
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And i think one reason is husbands themselves
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Are responsible for this bad attitude and reaction
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So many wives have toward the attitude of submission.
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My former seminary professor and friend howard hendricks
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Used to say, "a lot of men run around their homes
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Like frustrated drill sergeants yelling,
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'i'm in charge, i'm in charge.'
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And unfortunately, they are the only ones who believe it."
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(congregation laughs)
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Now, the bible says husbands have a responsibility as well.
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And so, beginning in verse 19,
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Paul is now going to move to the husbands and tell them
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How they can know whether they're like jesus christ.
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Look at verse 19.
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"husbands love your wives
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And do not be embittered against them."
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Now you know people who say,
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"well, the bible is a chauvinistic document
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That denigrates women," may never read colossians 3:19.
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Because let me tell you, this was a revolutionary concept
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In a world that did hate women when paul wrote these words.
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You know, the greeks, the romans, the jews
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All treated women like third class citizens.
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And when paul actually addressed husbands and said,
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"husbands, you have a responsibility in the home."
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Boy, the men woke up in the church,.
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Said, "what do you mean we have responsibilities?"
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You see in the greek, roman and jewish culture,
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Women had responsibilities, children had responsibilities,
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Slaves had responsibilities, but not husbands.
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They were free to come and go as they wanted to.
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And yet paul said, "no, you have a responsibility as well,
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And your responsibility is to love your wives."
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He expands upon that in ephesians 5:25,28 when he says,
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"husbands love your wives just as christ
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Also loved the church and gave himself up for her.
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So, husbands," verse 28, "should love their own wives
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As their own bodies.
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He who loves his own wife loves himself."
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Now, the test of a woman's christ-likeness
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Is her submission to her husband.
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The test of a husband's christ-likeness
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Is his sacrificial love for his wife.
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Meaning quite simply his willingness
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To place her interest above his own.
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A willingness to make sure her needs are met
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Instead of his own needs being met.
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That's what jesus did for us, isn't it?
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Jesus, philippians 2 said,
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Didn't merely look out for his own interest,
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But for our interest as well.
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Even though he was equal with god, he humbled himself
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And became obedient to the point of death,
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Even death on the cross.
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Just as christ sacrificially gave his life for us,
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Men we are to sacrificially give our lives for our wife,
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And that means placing her interest above ours.
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Now, how do you go about doing that?
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How do you sacrificially love your wife?
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Men, let me give you three suggestions for a way
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To practically show sacrificial love to your wife.
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And ladies, this would be a good time to make sure
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Your husbands have a pen and a piece of paper
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To write these down, okay?
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Make sure they write these down.
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Three practical suggestions.
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Number one, do something nice and unexpected for your wife.
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Men, when is the last time you did something
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Totally unexpected for your wife?
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You say, "well, i went to work last week."
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(congregation laughs)
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Well, now, that doesn't count, okay? that's expected.
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You have a responsibility, we do,
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To provide for our families.
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I'm talking about something that is unexpected,
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Something that is extra.
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Let me give you a couple of ideas
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About maybe something you want to do.
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Maybe you would say to your wife one day this week,
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"honey, don't worry about dinner.
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I'm responsible for dinner.
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I'll cook dinner or i'll take you out to eat."
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Or maybe you would say to your wife,
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"you know, i've got a surprise for you.
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Next tuesday, i've hired a maid service
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To come in and clean the house.
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Not because the house is dirty."
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(congregation laughs)
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"but i want to give you some time off.
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I'm going to hire somebody to come in
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And wax the floors and scrub the sinks,
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And do the things that nobody wants to do."
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Or if you can't afford doing that,
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Maybe you could organize your kids to do it.
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It might be cheaper to hire the cleaning service to come in.
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But just something unexpected.
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Maybe your wife has parents or siblings that are out of town
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That she hasn't seen for a while.
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Wouldn't it be nice for you to make the arrangement
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So she could go visit her family?
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Do something unexpected and kind for your mate.
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Secondly, to sacrificially love your wife,
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Be concerned with meeting your wife's physical,
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Emotional, and spiritual needs.
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Make meeting your wife's physical, emotional,
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And spiritual needs your priority
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Rather than meeting your own.
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You know, the fact is women have different needs
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Than men have.
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That's true in every area of life.
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It's true, for example, in the physical realm.
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Women have different physical needs than men.
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I read a survey in redbook magazine.
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Don't ask me what i was doing reading redbook magazine.
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That's another story.
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But i came across this survey.
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It was about women's attitude towards sex.
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And this survey asked 500 women a question.
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They said, "how would you rank
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The following seven activities
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According to which gives you the most pleasure?"
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The majority of women, 29% said the number one activity
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That gave them the most pleasure
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Was relaxing on a beautiful tropical beach.
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The second most pleasurable activity that got 28%
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Was having a romantic dinner with your husband or boyfriend.
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Did you know only 9% ranked sex
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As the most pleasurable activity?
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In fact, it barely ranked
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About the next most pleasurable activity,
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Which was having a piece of chocolate cake
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With whipped cream and fudge.
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(congregation laughs)
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Now there's a joke in there somewhere,
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But i'm not brave enough to reach for it.
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But one thing i could say,
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If you took that same survey among men, i guarantee you,
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The responses would be different, wouldn't they?
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Chocolate cake, sex would've probably tied for first place.
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Not necessarily in that order.
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The idea is men have different needs than women.
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Women have different needs for men.
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And that's why it's important that we understand
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Those differences and our intent on fulfilling them.
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Women have different emotional needs than their husbands.
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I mean, men, you know what it's like.
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You come home from working outside the home
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And the last thing you want to do is talk, you know?
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To converse, you've been talking all day.
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And yet if your wife's been at home alone
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Or trapped with some preschoolers, she wants conversation.
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You want to sit and grunt in your chair
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And look at the newspaper or the news.
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She wants to talk.
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To meet your wife's needs means to be aware
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Of those differing emotional needs.
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Many times women have different
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Spiritual needs than husbands.
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I remember in my last church,
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There was a family that was visiting our church.
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Husband, wife, three children.
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And the wife loved our church.
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The children were plugged into our children's ministry.
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But the husband, well, he wasn't so sure.
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He was looking for a church
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With a more contemporary worship style.
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So, even though his wife was desperate and wanted to join,
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The kids wanted to join, he said,
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"no, we're going to keep looking around."
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And week after week they went church hopping,
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Looking for the perfect church.
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Let me give you a hint right now.
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If you're one of those looking for the perfect church
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And you happen to find it, whatever you do,
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Don't join it because you'll ruin it, okay?
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There is no perfect church out there.
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But you know, what the wife needed
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Was she needed stability.
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The children needed stability.
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The husband was placing his interest
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Above those of his wife.
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If you're really going to sacrificially love your wives,
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It means putting their interest above your own.
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Thirdly, learn to forgive your mate instantly.
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Notice back in colossians 3:19, paul adds this word.
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He says, "husbands love your wives
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And do not be embittered against them."
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Now, why does he add that?
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Because the fact is, in any relationship,
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There are going to be offenses.
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Just live with anybody for any period of time,
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They're going to do something to hurt you.
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That offense may be as traumatic as an extramarital affair.
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It may be as trivial as a forgotten birthday.
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But no matter how large or how small the offense,
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You have a choice about what to do about that offense.
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You can hold on to it until it grows up into a weed
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Of bitterness and chokes out the love in your relationship.
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Or you can let go of it.
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The writer of hebrews said in hebrews 12:15,
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"see to it that no one of you
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Comes short of the grace of god.
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That no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble,
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And by it many be defiled."
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Anytime you're hurt by another person,
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Did you know god gives you an extra amount of grace
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To accept that hurt?
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But you have a choice.
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You can accept that grace
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Or you can reject it and choose bitterness.
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And that's why he says, "don't come short
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Of the grace of god that's been given to you."
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Our response should be that of paul's in ephesians 4:32
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When he said, "be kind to one another, tenderhearted,
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Forgiving one another just as god in christ
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Has forgiven you."
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That word "forgive" means to let go of, to release.
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And when those offenses come into your marriage,
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Husbands, it is crucial
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That you teach your family forgiveness,
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By modeling forgiveness,
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By letting go rather than holding onto the offense.
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Now, paul says, the test of a wife's christ-likeness
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Is her submission.
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The test of a husband's christ-likeness
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Is his sacrificial love.
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Now, notice in verse 20, there's a third command here,
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And that is for children.
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I think it's interesting that paul addresses children.
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Remember, this letter was read aloud
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In the colossian church,
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And so paul realizing there would be children there
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That sunday morning says, "here's god's word for you."
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You know, many times we say,
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"well, children and teenagers are the church of tomorrow."
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No, they're the church of today.
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They're a part of the church now,
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And they deserve to be addressed as well.
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Look at what paul says in colossians 3:20.
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"children be obedient to your parents in all things
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For this is well pleasing to the lord."
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Now, notice he uses not the word "submit", but "obey".
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Why the difference?
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In submission, you have two equals, a husband and a wife,
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And a wife voluntarily placing herself
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Under the husband's authority.
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You don't have that same relationship
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Between a parent and a child.
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They're not equals.
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The child is to obey his or her parent in all things.
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But even those, even though these are different words,
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Listen to me, children and teenagers
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Listening to this message.
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There are the same benefits that accrue to you
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For obeying your parents,
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That accrue to a wife for submitting to her husband.
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Obedience to our parents teaches us how to obey god.
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Obeying our parents keeps orderliness in our homes.
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Obedience to our parents frees us from unnecessary worry.
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When you obey your parents,
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You can leave the results to god.
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He will take care of you.
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And obeying your parents provides direction in your life.
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As i said last time,
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God mainly is going to communicate his will for your life
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In some specific decisions you have to make
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Through the parents he has placed over you.
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Even if your parents are not christians,
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God can still work through them to provide guidance to you.
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Now, i want you to notice two things
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About this command to children.
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The command to obey your parents.
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I want you to write these down.
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First of all, it is a command made to children, not adults.
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It is a command made to children, not adults.
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When he addresses children, he's talking about children
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Who are still living in the home,
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Children who are financially dependent upon their parents.
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You know, god's plan for children is they grow up
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And they begin homes of their own.
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In genesis 2:24, god said,
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"a man shall leave his father and mother
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And shall cleave to his wife,
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And the two shall become one flesh."
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God's plan for your children is that they grow up,
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Leave home and start a home on their own.
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Do i hear an amen to that?
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(congregation laughs)
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That's god's plan.
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Now, as long as your child is living in your home,
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Or even if your child is away at college
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But is still deriving
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Their primary financial support from you,
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They are under your authority.
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And this is something that is addressed to children.
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Now, hopefully, they will grow up,
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Mature, and start their own homes.
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And when that happens, whether the home they begin
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Is as a single adult or a married adult,
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They are no longer obligated to obey you in all things.
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But they are obligated to follow ephesians 6:2,
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"honor your father and your mother
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That your days may be long upon the earth."
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It doesn't matter how old children become,
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We always have the obligation to honor our parents.
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What does it mean to honor your parents?
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It certainly means to respect them.
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It means to seek their counsel.
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I mean, after all, even if you're an adult
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With your own home and you're facing a difficult decision,
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Why wouldn't you want to consult your parents?
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They know you better than anyone.
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They love you more than anyone.
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Certainly you'd want to consult their guidance
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Even if you choose not to follow it.
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To honor your parents means that you care for them as well.
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Many of you have elderly parents.
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And if you have elderly parents,
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Let me say this as clearly as i know how.
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You are the one who is responsible
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For the wellbeing of your parents.
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The church is not responsible for your parents.
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1 timothy 5 says, "let not the church be burdened
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If a elderly person has children living.
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It is the child's responsibility
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To take care of their parents."
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It is not the government's responsibility
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To take care of you.
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It is your child's responsibility to take care of you.
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And we who have living parents, it is our job to take care
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Of the physical, emotional wellbeing of our parents.
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You know, i hear people today whining.
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"i have my young children i'm trying to take care of.
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My teenagers, my college students.
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And on the other hand, i've got these elderly parents.
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Woe is me. what am i going to do?"
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I say to that. boohoo, cry me a river.
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(congregation laughs)
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So what? that's what families do for one another.
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They take care of one another.
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And that's what we're to do for our parents as well.
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Even though we don't obey our parents when we become adults,
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Even though the relationship changes,
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We still have the responsibility
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To honor our father and mother.
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Secondly, notice that this command must be qualified.
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It must be qualified.
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Paul says, "children obey your parents
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In everything or in all things."
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He says that to say,
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Your obedience to your parents is not to be arbitrary.
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You're not to say, "okay, i'll obey my parents
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When they tell me to do something i agree with.
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I'll obey those things that are easy to do."
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No, he says, it's not selective obedience.
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We are to obey our parents in all things.
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Think about jesus christ.
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He's a perfect model of obeying his heavenly father.
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What if jesus had said,
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"father, i'll do anything you tell me to do
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Except go to the cross.
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That's the one thing i'm not going to obey you in."
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Where would that have left you and me?
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No, he was obedient to the father in all things.
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And so, children are to obey their parents in all things.
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Now, that phrase "in all things",
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Again, has to be qualified just like submission.
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If there is ever a time,
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Children, teenagers listening to this message,
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If there is ever a time
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Your parent
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Asked you to do something or not do something
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That clearly violates god's rules, god's law,
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You're to obey god, not your parents.
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♪ music ♪
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There's much more wisdom for moms and dads to uncover
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In colossians 3.
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And i hope you'll make plans to join us again next time
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For the conclusion of this message.
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Few things are more destructive
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Than dysfunction in the home,
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But jesus christ in his sacrifice on our behalf
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Provides a model of love that endures.
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And in a similar manner, loving fathers and husbands
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Are the cornerstone of healthy homes.
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Well, we've spent a lot of time
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Talking about paul's admonition to husbands.
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And next time, we'll look at paul's counsel
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To both mothers and fathers
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About raising obedient children who love the lord.
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Stay tuned for a preview
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Of what's coming up next in our series,
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"growing strong in christ."
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Wives, are you voluntarily submitting yourself
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To your husband's authority even though you disagree?
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Husbands, are you placing your wife's needs above your own?
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Children, are you obeying your parents
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Even when it doesn't make sense?
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Parents, are you making your children's relationship
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With god the priority in your life?
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Your answer to those questions
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Will tell you perhaps better than any other question
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Whether or not you are truly becoming like jesus christ.
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[narrator] set your dvr and join us next time
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Here on "pathway to victory."
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♪ music ♪
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If you could go back in time
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And walk with the apostle paul on one of his journeys,
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Would you do it?
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This may, let's go together on the life-changing
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"pathway to victor: journeys of paul" mediterranean cruise.
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[narrator] embark on a voyage of elegance and refinement
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Aboard the luxurious celebrity ascent.
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Enjoy lavish state rooms, spacious balconies,
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And world-class dining.
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You'll experience breathtaking views, famous beaches,
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And crystal clear water in beautiful island destinations
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Like santorini, mykonos, and crete.
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Walk with me and other believers
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In the very places where god's word was written.
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Join us as we study his word together.
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Surrounded by natural beauty,
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We will seek our creator in his creation.
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[narrator] reserve your spot
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On the "pathway to victory: journeys of paul"
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Mediterranean cruise.
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Call 888-280-6747
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Or visit ptv.org.
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Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center

March 24, 2025 | S25:E142

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