Dr. Robert Jeffress

Robert Jeffress - The Divorce Question (Part 2)

May 13, 2025 | S25:E228

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - The Divorce Question (Part 2) | May 13, 2025

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[narrator] from the pulpit
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Of the first baptist church of dallas, texas,
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This is pathway to victory with dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i'm robert jeffress,
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And welcome again to pathway to victory.
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Few topics cause christians more confusion than the issue
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Of divorce and remarriage.
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The bible is clear that divorce wasn't a part of god's plan
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For husbands and wives, but does god make a few exceptions?
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Well, today we're going to explore the scenarios
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In which god permits divorce and remarriage.
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My message is titled:
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The divorce question on today's edition
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Of pathway to victory
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I believe that god prefers for there to be reconciliation.
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However, if your mate is engaged in hard hearted adultery,
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They will not repent.
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They are involved in multiple affairs,
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And multiple sexual partners.
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In a day of aids and sexually transmitted diseases,
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You may have no choice but to divorce,
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But the bible does allow for divorce
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And remarriage in the case of adultery.
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Now the second allowance for divorce and remarriage
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Is found in 1 corinthians seven.
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I hope you haven't lost your place.
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Let's go back to 1 corinthians seven,
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And that is in the case of desertion. desertion.
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Now remember what was going on in corinth?
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A lot of people were being saved in corinth.
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They were coming out of immoral, decadent backgrounds.
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They were coming into the church,
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And they started asking the question,
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Now that we're christians,
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How does our christianity affect our sexuality?
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I mean, should we remain single if we're not married?
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What about if we're married, is sex wrong?
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Should we try to be celibate in the marriage relationship?
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Or what if we're married and we became a christian,
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But our mate is still an unbeliever,
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Are we supposed to divorce that mate
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And go find a christian?
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Lots of questions about this issue
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Of divorce and remarriage.
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And so paul answers three typical cases
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That apparently the corinthians had asked him about.
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Here's case number one in verses 10 to 11.
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What about a believer who wants to leave the marriage?
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Now let's go back and look at verses 10 and 11
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And at that parenthesis,
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"but to the married i give instructions, not i,
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But the lord that the wife should not leave her husband."
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Now here's the passage, "but if she does leave,
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She must remain unmarried or else be reconciled
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To her husband.
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And that the husband should not divorce his wife."
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And the same applies if he does leave,
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He's to be remained unmarried
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Or he is to go back to his wife,
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Be reconciled to his wife.
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Now obviously he is speaking for another reason
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Other than adultery.
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Jesus has already talked about adultery
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Being a permissible reason for divorce and remarriage.
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Paul has in mind another situation.
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He has in mind somebody who decides they want out
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Of a marriage for something other than adultery.
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Maybe it's a case where there is an emotional abuse,
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Or physical abuse or the person feels like his life
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Is in danger.
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A number of situations that come to mind
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That a person wants out of a marriage.
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Remember, god hates divorce.
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He doesn't want divorce.
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But paul says if a believer leaves a marriage
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For any other reason other than adultery,
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If he leaves that marriage, he or she is to remain unmarried
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Or be reconciled to his or her mate.
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That's what paul is saying here.
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A believer who wants to divorce
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For some reason other than adultery.
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Pastor, what about if that mate leaves and abandons me?
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Well, that's a whole other story
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We're going to get to in a minute,
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But here i'm talking about leaving for some other reason
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Than adultery, you're to remain unmarried or be reconciled.
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Now here's case number two paul deals with.
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A believer married to an unbeliever who wants to remain.
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Look at this in verse 12,
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"but to the rest i say not the lord,"
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Paul said the lord didn't address this subject,
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But i'm going to address it.
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"that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever
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And that unbeliever consents to live with him,
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He must not divorce her.
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And a woman who has an unbelieving husband
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And he consents to live with her,
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She must not send her husband away."
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Here's the case.
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A husband or wife becomes a christian in the marriage,
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The remaining mate is an unbeliever.
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And let's say this new christian wife says, you know,
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Being a christian is such a wonderful thing.
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I'm meeting so many great men down
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At the first baptist church in corinth.
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Man, it is great down there.
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I think i want to leave this non-christian pagan mate
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That i have and i want to go be married
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To a fine christian man.
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Paul, isn't that what i need to do?
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After all, you keep teaching us over,
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And over and over again.
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Believers are not to be unequally yoked together
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With an unbeliever,
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"for what fellowship has light and darkness."
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So i think i'm going to divorce my mate.
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Isn't that all right, paul?
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When paul says you're not to be unequally yoked together
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With an unbeliever, he's talking about before you marry,
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Don't intentionally marry an unbeliever.
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But here the situation
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Is what if you're already unequally yoked to somebody?
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Are you to leave? paul says no.
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If you're married to a non-christian,
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And that non-christian wants to remain in the marriage,
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You must remain in the marriage.
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Well, why is that?
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Why would god tell me to do that? look at this.
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This is so interesting, for the un...
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Verse 14, "for the unbelieving husband is sanctified
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Through his wife and the unbelieving wife
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Is sanctified through her believing husband;
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For otherwise your children are unclean,
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But now they are holy."
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What does that word sanctified mean?
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It means to set apart.
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It means to make holy.
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Do you know how many christians it takes in a home
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To make a christian home?
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One. just one.
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It just takes one christian in a home
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To make a christian home.
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And what paul is saying here
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Is the reason you as a christian are to remain
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In that marriage with a non-christian
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Is because of the influence you have over
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That non-christian husband or wife,
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That influence you have over those children as well.
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You see, we get the idea that, oh man, if i'm a believer,
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Now remember this is after the marriage, not before.
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If i'm this believer and i remain in this marriage
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With this non-christian, i'm going to be defiled.
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No, no, you're not going to be defiled,
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That unbeliever is going to be sanctified.
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Now, the word sanctified doesn't mean...
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It doesn't mean to become a christian.
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Nobody's saying that, that non-christian husband
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Or wife is automatically saved
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Because you become a christian.
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But what it is saying is your godliness,
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Your influence splashes over to them
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And it benefits them in a very positive way.
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Let me illustrate it this way.
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Let's say my wife, amy receives a large inheritance,
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Okay, she gets a big inheritance.
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Boy, i wish i had married rich.
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No i don't. no, no.
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Let's say she gets a big inheritance.
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Now, that inheritance that amy receives belongs to her.
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It is her, it's not mine, it's not given to me,
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It's not in my name, it's in her name.
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But you know what?
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Even though that inheritance belongs to her,
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Possibly, probably i'm going to get a little benefit from it.
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It may be residual benefit, it may be splash over benefit,
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But you know, she might buy some new lamps around the house
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And put them there with the inheritance she receives.
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I get to benefit from that.
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Or maybe she'll, you know,
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Let me buy an extra carton of ice cream,
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You know, on sunday nights and i benefit from that.
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Or maybe she buys me a tie,
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Or maybe she takes me on a trip.
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It's her money, it's her inheritance,
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But i get some of the benefit from it.
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Now it's the same way in salvation.
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No, we receive salvation individually.
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It belongs to us.
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It doesn't automatically go to somebody else,
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But sometimes our relationship with christ spills over.
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It benefits others in our home.
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And that's what he's talking about here.
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And then he goes ahead and says,
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"for otherwise your children are unclean,
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But now they are holy."
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What's this saying?
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It's just saying the same thing that the children in a home
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Where there's one christian parent receives
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A special benefit and they are much more likely to be saved
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In a home where there's a christian present than in a home
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Where there is no christian present.
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So for that reason, we are to remain in the marriage.
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Now, case number three, paul addresses a believer married
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To an unbeliever who wants to leave.
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Here was the situation going on in corinth,
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Let's say a wife becomes a christian,
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The husband is a non-christian and he says,
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I am so tired of all that god talk coming from you.
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I'm tired of you going down
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To that church every time, the candles are lit.
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I just hate it that you are always down there
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And trying to bring this stuff into our home.
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In fact, tertullian, one of the early church fathers wrote
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That some of those un-christian, non-christian men
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May have had a legitimate complaint
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About their wives going to church at nocturnal hours,
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He talks about because they were going overboard
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With the holy kiss that paul commanded for christians
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To greet one another with.
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And some of the christian women taking advantage
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Of this probably did make their non-christian
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Husbands angry.
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But for whatever reason, here's a case
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Where the wife has become a christian,
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Or the husband's become a christian.
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The non-christian mate remaining says,
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I'm tired of all of this stuff,
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I want out of the marriage.
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Now what are you to do in that kind of a situation?
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Here's what i've heard people teach.
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Why more than anything, god wants to preserve that marriage
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And you make whatever compromise you need to make
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In order to keep that marriage intact.
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If that means not going to church anymore,
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Quit going to church.
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It's not that important to go to church.
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If it means not tithing, quit tithing.
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That's not important.
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If your husband doesn't want you to talk
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About god around the children, don't worry about,
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Just don't talk about god, keep that marriage together.
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Ladies and gentlemen,
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Nothing could be further from the truth.
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I want you to listen to what god's word says you ought to do
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If that husband or wife continues to threaten,
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To leave your marriage.
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Look at verse 15, "if the unbelieving mate leaves,
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Let him leave." let him go.
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We used to have a saying, you know, go ahead and leave
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And don't let the door hit you on the way out.
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You know, that's what he's saying here.
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"if the unbelieving one wants to leave, let him leave.
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Furthermore, the brother or sister
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Is not under ******* in such cases."
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The fact is,
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You can't keep your unbelieving mate from leaving.
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If they want to leave, let 'em leave.
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And furthermore, he says, you're not under *******.
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What does that word mean?
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You are no longer restricted.
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You're no longer obligated to remain unmarried.
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You're free from the bonds of marriage.
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By the way, he uses that same word in romans 7:2
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To refer to a person whose mate dies.
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That person's no longer under *******. he's free to remarry.
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He'll say the same thing in verse 39
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Of 1 corinthians seven,
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You're no longer under *******.
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If your mate dies, you are free to marry.
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Now, what is paul's reasoning here?
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Why does paul say it's okay to let them go
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Instead of trying to hold on to that marriage?
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Notice there's two reasons.
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First of all, he says, god has called us to live in peace.
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Look at verse 15, "but god has called us to live in peace."
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God wants your family to be a family of peace.
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In romans 12:18, paul says,
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"if possible, so far as it depends on you,
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Be at peace with all men."
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Now, that's not always possible,
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But to the extent that it is,
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You ought to have your home be a peaceful home.
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God wants a home, a family that is free from ranker,
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And anger and bitterness and bickering.
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And sometimes it's better just to leave the mate
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Who's threatening to leave all the time.
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Just let him leave.
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But there's a second reason, and that is paul says,
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There's no guarantee that your unbelieving spouse
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Will ever be saved.
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Look at verse 16.
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He says, "for how do you know, o wife,
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Whether you'll save your husband,
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Or how do you know, o husband
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Whether you will save your wife?"
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Why in the world would you live
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In a lifetime of unpleasantness?
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Why would you compromise your beliefs about going to church,
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About giving your money to the lord's work,
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About making god the priority of life?
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Why would you sacrifice all of that
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In some hope of seeing your mates saved
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When you don't know if they're ever going to be saved or not?
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John macarthur says it this way,
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"evangelism is not cause enough to maintain a marriage,
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Especially if the unbelieving partner wants to leave."
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The believer should let god follow that spouse's soul
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With the message of salvation,
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And use whomever he will to take up the call of faith.
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The unbelieving mate wants to leave, let him leave.
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Now, people ask me all the time, well pastor,
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That's an unbelieving mate who leaves?
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What if i'm married to a christian who wants to leave?
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What if i'm a married to a christian
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Who says i'm leaving the marriage?
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What about me?
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Well, paul doesn't address that specifically,
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But i would just have you think about this for a moment.
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The truth is you don't know whether your mate
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Is saved or not.
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Jesus said very clearly.
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"many, many will say to me on that day, lord, lord,
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And i'll say to them, depart from me.
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I never knew you."
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Just because he makes a profession of faith
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Doesn't mean he's saved.
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And furthermore, if he abandons the marriage,
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If he forsakes the vows that he made to you and god,
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He's acting like a non-christian, and jesus said,
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"by your fruits, you shall know them."
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I personally believe that whether the person is a christian
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Or a non-christian, if they are the ones
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Who desert the marriage, divorce is permissible.
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You have no control over that,
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And therefore remarriage is permissible as well.
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There is a third exception to this.
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One man with one woman for life issue.
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It has nothing to do with divorce,
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But it does with remarriage.
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And that is in the instance of death, if your mate dies,
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What does the bible say you're able to do?
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Look at verse 39 and verse 40, "a wife is bound as..."
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Isn't that an interesting way to view marriage?
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"a wife is bound as long as her husband lives,
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But if her husband is dead,
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She is free to be married to whom she wishes,
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Only in the lord."
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Then paul adds his own view.
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"but in my opinion, she is happier if she remains as she is,
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And i think that i also have the spirit of god in this."
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Paul was always a champion for staying single,
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But he also realizes we saw earlier that marriage
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Is the norm for most people.
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Notice what paul says.
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If your mate dies, you're no longer under obligation.
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You can marry whomever you want to marry
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As long as they're a christian, as long as it's in the lord.
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And may i add, not only are you permitted
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To marry whomever you want to marry,
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You're permitted to marry whenever you want to marry.
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In the last community where we served,
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We hadn't been there very long and people,
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You know were continuing to die just like they do
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In our church and lots of funerals and so forth.
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And i kept hearing people talking
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About the three month rule.
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The three month rule.
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Finally, one day i asked what are you talking about,
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The three month rule?
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Well, the three month rule was the acceptable amount of time
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That must elapse before a single woman can bring a casserole
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To a widowed man.
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And you had to wait three months.
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Now let me tell you, if some woman in our community violated
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The three month rule, everybody knew about it.
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Some of those ladies were on the doorstep ringing
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The doorbell before the funeral happened, you know,
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They were anxious.
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Look, the bible has no three month rule,
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There's no two month rule, there's no year rule.
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If your mate dies, you are free to marry whomever you want
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Whenever you want.
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And let me just say, church, let's be gracious to people
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Who've lost their mate.
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Let's don't impose any superficial restrictions,
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Or in some way say they are dishonoring their mate
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By marrying again.
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No, the bible says they are free to remarry in the lord.
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Now, we've covered a lot of ground tonight.
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I want to say, first of all,
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I realize there are some of you here tonight.
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There are some of you listening to this message
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By a variety of means who have been divorced,
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And remarried perhaps for other than biblical reasons.
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Let me say, and i think you saw it tonight,
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If that is the case for you,
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One thing you're not permitted to do is to divorce your mate
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And go back to your original mate.
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Deuteronomy 24 says very clearly that is not to happen.
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If you are listening tonight and you have divorced
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And remarried for other than biblical reasons,
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Remember, divorce is not the unpardonable sin.
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You can ask for god's forgiveness.
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You might say, god, you know, i just never really knew.
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I never took the time to bother to see
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What your word said about this.
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Or maybe lord i knew what i should or shouldn't do,
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But i was so desperately lonely.
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I felt like i had to do this.
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But just confess that to the lord,
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Ask for his forgiveness and most importantly,
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Be the best christian husband
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Or christian wife you can be in this marriage
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From this point forward.
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But i'm speaking tonight not about those
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Who are looking back, i'm talking about looking ahead.
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What about this issue of divorce,
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And remarriage in the church?
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I think we have to avoid two extremes.
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One extreme is libertarianism, that says,
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I can divorce and remarry for any reason at all.
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If i'm not happy, god wants me happy,
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And therefore i'm going to divorce my mate
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And look for happiness.
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That's not allowed. it shouldn't be allowed.
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God has a standard that we as christians are to uphold.
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To say, i'm going to divorce for any reason at all
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Is an umbilical standard.
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But the other extreme is legalism.
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And that is to say you cannot divorce,
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Or remarry for any reason at all.
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To say that divorce and remarriage is never permissible
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Is just as unbiblical as saying divorce and remarriage
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Are always permissible.
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Instead, what we need to do is to uphold god's standard.
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And god's standard is divorce is a forever commitment.
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However, in the cases of adultery and desertion,
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God permits, he doesn't command,
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But he permits divorce and remarriage.
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Straight answers to tough questions.
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Is it okay to eat meat that had been offered to an idol?
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Now, i realize that's not a burning issue
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In the church today.
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You don't go into albertsons,
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And see a section in the meat department,
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Meat that had been offered to idols and wonder,
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Should i or shouldn't i?
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And so i was sitting here thinking this week
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As i was preparing this message,
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What are some comparable issues today
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That the church debates?
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Things that the bible doesn't specifically talk about,
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But christians tend to have strong feelings
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About one way or the other.
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[narrator] set your dvr and join us next time
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For the message, meat market christianity
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Here on pathway to victory.
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Robert Jeffress - The Divorce Question (Part 2)

May 13, 2025 | S25:E228

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