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John Hagee - The Power of Communication

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Hagee Ministries | John Hagee - The Power of Communication | February 3, 2025

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♪ music ♪ pastor john hagee: turn with
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Pastor john hagee: turn with me, please, to proverbs 18:21,
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Me, please, to proverbs 18:21, as today we begin
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As today we begin a three-sermon series
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A three-sermon series taken from my latest book
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Taken from my latest book "absolute power."
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"absolute power." absolute power can transform
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Absolute power can transform every one of your problems into
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Every one of your problems into an opportunity for success,
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An opportunity for success, because that is, in essence,
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Because that is, in essence, the word of god.
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The word of god. today,
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Today, "the power of communication."
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"the power of communication." this sermon is priceless
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This sermon is priceless for every person who uses
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For every person who uses words when you speak.
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Words when you speak. (laughter)
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(laughter) the single biggest problem in
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The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion
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Communication is the illusion that it's taken place.
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That it's taken place. two people can hear the same
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Two people can hear the same sentence and come up with
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Sentence and come up with a very different translation.
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A very different translation. "words fitly spoken,"
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"words fitly spoken," the bible says,
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The bible says, "are like apples of gold
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"are like apples of gold and pitchers of silver."
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And pitchers of silver." words fitly spoken,
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Words fitly spoken, therefore are absolutely
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Therefore are absolutely priceless.
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Priceless. the bible declares there are
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The bible declares there are joyful words,
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Joyful words, there are loving words,
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There are loving words, there are gracious
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There are gracious and healing words,
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And healing words, there are encouraging words,
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There are encouraging words, there are hopeful words.
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There are hopeful words. it also says there are
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It also says there are hurtful words,
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Hurtful words, vicious words,
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Vicious words, divisive words,
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Divisive words, mean-spirited words,
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Mean-spirited words, words designed to destroy
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Words designed to destroy peace,
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Peace, words that will destroy
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Words that will destroy your marriage;
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Your marriage; that will destroy
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That will destroy your children;
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Your children; that will destroy your church,
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That will destroy your church, and listen,
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And listen, words that will destroy
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Words that will destroy your nation.
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Your nation. right now,
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Right now, america is being destroyed
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America is being destroyed by hateful,
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By hateful, bitter,
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Bitter, vicious,
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Vicious, vindictive,
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Vindictive, godless,
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Godless, socialist,
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Socialist, semi-communist words flowing
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Semi-communist words flowing out of the mass media.
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Out of the mass media. let us look to the word of god,
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Let us look to the word of god, ladies and gentlemen
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Ladies and gentlemen of america;
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Of america; for it will lead us into
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For it will lead us into all truth.
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All truth. can i hear and "amen"?
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Can i hear and "amen"? [amen!]
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[amen!] (applause)
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(applause) the words you choose to speak
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The words you choose to speak can make your life on this
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Can make your life on this earth heaven or hell.
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Earth heaven or hell. the choice is yours every time
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The choice is yours every time you open your mouth.
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You open your mouth. [amen.]
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[amen.] we're going to address today,
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We're going to address today, the communication in marriage.
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The communication in marriage. a committed marriage is where
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A committed marriage is where you and i can honestly tell
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You and i can honestly tell each other who we are,
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Each other who we are, what we think,
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What we think, and how we feel,
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And how we feel, what we love,
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What we love, what we honor,
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What we honor, what we esteem,
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What we esteem, what we hate,
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What we hate, what we fear,
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What we fear, what we desire,
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What we desire, what we hope for,
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What we hope for, what we believe in,
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What we believe in, what we're committed to without
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What we're committed to without the fear of an emotional
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The fear of an emotional hiroshima coming out of
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Hiroshima coming out of your partner.
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Your partner. for those of you,
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For those of you, who failed american history,
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Who failed american history, hiroshima was the nuclear blast
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Hiroshima was the nuclear blast that ended world war ii.
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That ended world war ii. (laughter)
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(laughter) many are married,
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Many are married, but not very many have
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But not very many have a committed marriage,
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A committed marriage, and there's a world
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And there's a world of difference.
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Of difference. the absolute power of
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The absolute power of communication will produce
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Communication will produce a committed and loving
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A committed and loving marriage.
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Marriage. why this subject now?
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Why this subject now? because america is coming apart
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Because america is coming apart at the seams.
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At the seams. our families are crumbling.
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Our families are crumbling. seventy percent of america's
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Seventy percent of america's children do not live with both
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Children do not live with both of their birth parents.
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Of their birth parents. the point is,
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The point is, as the family goes in america,
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As the family goes in america, so goes the church
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So goes the church and so goes the nation.
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And so goes the nation. communication keeps families
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Communication keeps families together.
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Together. i want you to listen today,
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I want you to listen today, because you're going to see
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Because you're going to see yourself several times
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Yourself several times before we get to the end of
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Before we get to the end of this message.
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This message. read with me proverbs 18:21.
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Read with me proverbs 18:21. ready?
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Ready? "death and life are
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"death and life are in the power of the tongue.
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In the power of the tongue. and those who love it
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And those who love it will eat of its fruit."
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Will eat of its fruit." father god,
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Father god, bless this message today,
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Bless this message today, because it comes to the heart
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Because it comes to the heart of america,
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Of america, the heart of our crisis.
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The heart of our crisis. and we, as a people,
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And we, as a people, must return to the biblical
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Must return to the biblical principles of what a family is
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Principles of what a family is and is not;
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And is not; that we, as a church,
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That we, as a church, may be effective in a society
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May be effective in a society that has lost its way.
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That has lost its way. in jesus' name,
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In jesus' name, we pray and ask these things.
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We pray and ask these things. and all of god's children said,
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And all of god's children said, amen.
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Amen. [amen!]
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[amen!] you may be seated.
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You may be seated. let me begin with
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Let me begin with this simple question;
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This simple question; how many of you in this room
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How many of you in this room have ever been misunderstood
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Have ever been misunderstood when you said something?
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When you said something? let me see your hand.
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Let me see your hand. boy, that's a hundred percent
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Boy, that's a hundred percent and quick.
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And quick. (laughter)
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(laughter) men,
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Men, how many of you've ever told
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How many of you've ever told your wife something as clearly
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Your wife something as clearly as you could speak?
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As you could speak? i mean you laid it out as
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I mean you laid it out as clearly as it can be said,
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Clearly as it can be said, and she got it all wrong;
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And she got it all wrong; how many?
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How many? (laughter)
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(laughter) one hundred percent.
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One hundred percent. we're flying high here already
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We're flying high here already today.
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Today. ladies,
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Ladies, how many of you have told your
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How many of you have told your husband something as clearly as
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Husband something as clearly as human speech could get it,
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Human speech could get it, and he got it all wrong,
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And he got it all wrong, totally wrong?
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Totally wrong? let me see your hand.
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Let me see your hand. some are holding up two hands
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Some are holding up two hands and waving them.
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And waving them. (laughter)
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(laughter) yeah.
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Yeah. (laughter)
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(laughter) everybody.
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Everybody. (laughter)
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(laughter) for a communication to be
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For a communication to be effective,
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Effective, it should be clear.
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It should be clear. we have developed communication
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We have developed communication systems that make it possible
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Systems that make it possible for men on earth to talk to
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For men on earth to talk to people walking on the moon;
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People walking on the moon; yet,
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Yet, husbands can't talk to
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Husbands can't talk to their wives,
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Their wives, wives, mothers can't talk to
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Wives, mothers can't talk to their daughters,
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Their daughters, fathers can't talk to their
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Fathers can't talk to their sons across the dinner table,
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Sons across the dinner table, because there's a lack of
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Because there's a lack of communication.
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Communication. if you're letting
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If you're letting your children bring cell phones
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Your children bring cell phones and computers
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And computers to the dinner table,
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To the dinner table, that's a wrong move to make.
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That's a wrong move to make. get rid of that stuff.
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Get rid of that stuff. (applause)
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(applause) start asking them questions
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Start asking them questions about what they did that day,
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About what they did that day, where they went,
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Where they went, what did they say.
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What did they say. find out what's going on
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Find out what's going on in the life of your child.
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In the life of your child. [amen.]
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[amen.] problems and differences
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Problems and differences in a marriage or in a family
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In a marriage or in a family are not dangerous.
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Are not dangerous. not being able to communicate
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Not being able to communicate those differences
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Those differences is very dangerous.
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Is very dangerous. it's the end of
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It's the end of your relationship.
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Your relationship. a man or a woman,
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A man or a woman, who will not communicate,
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Who will not communicate, is alone.
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Is alone. you can be married
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You can be married and be alone.
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And be alone. you can be in a crowd
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You can be in a crowd and be alone.
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And be alone. you can go to church and sit
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You can go to church and sit with thousands of people
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With thousands of people and be alone.
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And be alone. if you can't communicate,
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If you can't communicate, you are a prisoner on an island
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You are a prisoner on an island that you have created and you
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That you have created and you refuse to live.
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Refuse to live. you live behind bars that you
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You live behind bars that you have created and allow yourself
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Have created and allow yourself to stay there.
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To stay there. what is communication?
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What is communication? communication is an exchange
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Communication is an exchange or feelings of information.
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Or feelings of information. it takes two people
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It takes two people to communicate.
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To communicate. say that with me.
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Say that with me. it takes two people
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It takes two people to communicate.
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To communicate. how many of you are guilty of
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How many of you are guilty of talking when the other person
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Talking when the other person is talking?
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Is talking? let me press it further.
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Let me press it further. how many of you,
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How many of you, when you're talking,
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When you're talking, and the conversation is getting
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And the conversation is getting steamy,
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Steamy, you're not really listening to
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You're not really listening to what they're saying;
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What they're saying; you're thinking of what you're
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You're thinking of what you're going to say next?
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Going to say next? and as soon as she takes
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And as soon as she takes a breath,
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A breath, you're going to jump in.
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You're going to jump in. how many of you are saying
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How many of you are saying that?
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That? one hundred percent of you.
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One hundred percent of you. the rest of you are lying.
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The rest of you are lying. (laughter & applause)
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(laughter & applause) the most important single
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The most important single ingredient in a long-term
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Ingredient in a long-term marriage is the ability
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Marriage is the ability to communicate.
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To communicate. communication is to love
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Communication is to love what blood is to the body.
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What blood is to the body. when it stops flowing,
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When it stops flowing, you're dead.
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You're dead. you're dead.
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You're dead. communication is not outyelling
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Communication is not outyelling your wife.
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Your wife. "you're just like your mother,
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"you're just like your mother, alice.
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Alice. yak, yak, yak all the time."
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Yak, yak, yak all the time." (laughter)
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(laughter) that's not communication.
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That's not communication. "i'm not arguing with you;
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"i'm not arguing with you; i'm just debating the 13
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I'm just debating the 13 reasons why i'm right."
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Reasons why i'm right." that's not communication
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That's not communication either.
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Either. (laughter)
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(laughter) communication is not outtalking
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Communication is not outtalking your husband.
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Your husband. there's not a woman in
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There's not a woman in the world that can't outtalk
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The world that can't outtalk their husband.
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Their husband. (laughter)
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(laughter) king david said, "create in me,
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King david said, "create in me, o god, a listening heart."
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O god, a listening heart." say that with me.
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Say that with me. "create in me...
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"create in me... a listening heart."
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A listening heart." you have to be willing to have
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You have to be willing to have a listening heart.
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A listening heart. some of you have become
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Some of you have become the masters of intimidation.
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The masters of intimidation. intimidation through temper
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Intimidation through temper tantrums or pouting
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Tantrums or pouting is not communication.
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Is not communication. guilt trips created
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Guilt trips created with crocodile tears
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With crocodile tears are not communication.
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Are not communication. do you whip him in line with
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Do you whip him in line with the water works?
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The water works? that's not communication;
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That's not communication; it's manipulation.
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It's manipulation. stop it!
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Stop it! communication is giving your
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Communication is giving your partner the freedom to disagree
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Partner the freedom to disagree with you completely without
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With you completely without flying into a rage,
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Flying into a rage, or pouting,
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Or pouting, or sulking for two weeks.
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Or sulking for two weeks. listen to these twelve
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Listen to these twelve principles again.
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Principles again. when you and i,
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When you and i, as husband and wife,
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As husband and wife, can honestly tell each other
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Can honestly tell each other who we are,
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Who we are, what we think,
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What we think, how we feel,
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How we feel, what we love,
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What we love, what we honor,
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What we honor, what we esteem,
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What we esteem, what we hate,
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What we hate, what we fear,
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What we fear, what we desire,
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What we desire, what we hope for,
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What we hope for, what we believe in,
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What we believe in, and what we're committed to,
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And what we're committed to, only then can each of us be
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Only then can each of us be a complete person.
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A complete person. husbands and wives,
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Husbands and wives, who are riddled with doubt,
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Who are riddled with doubt, are dogmatic,
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Are dogmatic, because emotionally,
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Because emotionally, they're insecure.
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They're insecure. an insecure person cannot stand
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An insecure person cannot stand for someone to disagree
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For someone to disagree with them.
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With them. they just cannot afford to be
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They just cannot afford to be wrong,
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Wrong, because they're too emotionally
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Because they're too emotionally weak to allow someone
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Weak to allow someone to disagree with them.
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To disagree with them. the fact: if you demand that
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The fact: if you demand that your spouse agree with you
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Your spouse agree with you in all things,
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In all things, you are denying them emotional
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You are denying them emotional vitality,
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Vitality, and he or she will leave you.
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And he or she will leave you. and if you don't stop that,
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And if you don't stop that, you will be seeing a lawyer.
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You will be seeing a lawyer. and believe me;
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And believe me; that's very expensive.
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That's very expensive. a medical fact,
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A medical fact, your deep feelings must be
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Your deep feelings must be expressed or you will explode.
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Expressed or you will explode. your deep feelings are kind of
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Your deep feelings are kind of like trying to put a beach ball
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Like trying to put a beach ball down under water.
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Down under water. you have to stay right on top
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You have to stay right on top of it every second,
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Of it every second, because the second you let it
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Because the second you let it loose,
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Loose, it will pop up and come up.
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It will pop up and come up. feelings that are suppressed
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Feelings that are suppressed over a period of time will,
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Over a period of time will, in fact,
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In fact, come out at some point in time.
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Come out at some point in time. and the best way is for that
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And the best way is for that to be in a conversation
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To be in a conversation with your wife,
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With your wife, not a fight.
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Not a fight. this is very important.
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This is very important. why is communication
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Why is communication so important?
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So important? because we are not stone
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Because we are not stone statues; we are human beings.
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Statues; we are human beings. a husband said,
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A husband said, "my wife is always changing
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"my wife is always changing her mind."
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Her mind." how many times have i heard
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How many times have i heard that?
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That? but the fact is,
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But the fact is, men change their minds
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Men change their minds as much as women.
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As much as women. [amen.]
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[amen.] if not, more.
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If not, more. in other words,
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In other words, if you knew me yesterday,
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If you knew me yesterday, please don't think that you're
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Please don't think that you're meeting the same person
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Meeting the same person six months down the road.
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Six months down the road. how many of you've ever heard
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How many of you've ever heard the phrase
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The phrase "let me sleep on it"?
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"let me sleep on it"? (laughter)
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(laughter) that's because tomorrow
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That's because tomorrow morning,
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Morning, he may be 180 degrees going
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He may be 180 degrees going the other way compared to what
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The other way compared to what it was at 6 o'clock at supper.
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It was at 6 o'clock at supper. ever hear the statement from
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Ever hear the statement from people getting a divorce;
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People getting a divorce; they say, "we grew apart."
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They say, "we grew apart." what does that mean?
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What does that mean? that means they quit
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That means they quit communicating.
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Communicating. i didn't say,
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I didn't say, "they quit talking."
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"they quit talking." i said,
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I said, "they quit communicating."
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"they quit communicating." communication is telling
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Communication is telling the other person how you feel,
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The other person how you feel, how you deeply feel.
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How you deeply feel. some of you are afraid to have
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Some of you are afraid to have that conversation with
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That conversation with the person you're married to.
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The person you're married to. and you don't have
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And you don't have a healthy marriage;
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A healthy marriage; i will tell you that.
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I will tell you that. how many times,
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How many times, when i was doing counseling,
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When i was doing counseling, "oh, i just can't talk to
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"oh, i just can't talk to my husband about that."
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My husband about that." we're going to talk to him
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We're going to talk to him about that.
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About that. he's coming the next session.
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He's coming the next session. you either get that solved
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You either get that solved or it becomes a cancer
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Or it becomes a cancer in your relationship.
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12 through 13,
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Jesus walked into the temple
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And found a sense of greed
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And corruption.
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Angry,
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He overturned the tables,
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Driving out
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Those who were exploiting
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The name of god.
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This wasn't passive or timid.
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This was righteous anger.
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We as christians are called
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To speak the truth in love,
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But we cannot sit idly
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By while evil
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Takes root in our communities
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And in our homes.
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For your gift of any amount
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To the ministry,
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This month we will send you
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The pathway
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To victory devotional,
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And the fruit of
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The spirit tumbler
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To inspire you and equip
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You as you walk
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With god day by day.
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Live a life
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That honors the lord
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Even when it's uncomfortable.
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Call the number on screen
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Or go to jhm.org/fire
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Communication killers,
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Communication killers, why don't people communicate?
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Why don't people communicate? words,
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Words, vehicles of communication.
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Vehicles of communication. words are as common as the
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Words are as common as the blossoms in a spring garden;
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Blossoms in a spring garden; yet, how mighty their power
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Yet, how mighty their power to destroy or heal.
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To destroy or heal. words are the transcript
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Words are the transcript of the mind.
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Of the mind. matthew 12 says,
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Matthew 12 says, "out of the abundance
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"out of the abundance of the heart,
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Of the heart, the mouth speaketh."
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The mouth speaketh." "out of the abundance
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"out of the abundance of the heart,
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Of the heart, the mouth speaketh."
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The mouth speaketh." [amen.]
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[amen.] i have heard people
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I have heard people say all my life,
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Say all my life, "oh, i didn't mean to say
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"oh, i didn't mean to say that."
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That." but you did say it,
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But you did say it, because it was in your heart
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Because it was in your heart and you said it.
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And you said it. you may have been sorry
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You may have been sorry you said it,
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You said it, five seconds after you said it,
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Five seconds after you said it, but you meant to say it.
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But you meant to say it. how many divorces have been
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How many divorces have been demanded,
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Demanded, how many children have been
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How many children have been crushed,
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Crushed, how many bloody wars have been
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How many bloody wars have been started because of the poison
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Started because of the poison of the tongue?
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Of the tongue? the bible says,
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The bible says, "the power of life and death
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"the power of life and death are in the tongue."
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Are in the tongue." [amen.]
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[amen.] let's look at communication
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Let's look at communication killers.
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Killers. the first communication killer
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The first communication killer is fear.
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Is fear. people fear blame and shame.
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People fear blame and shame. when you think you have to be
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When you think you have to be right to force your opinions
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Right to force your opinions or beliefs on your spouse
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Or beliefs on your spouse or other people,
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Or other people, you're asking for trouble.
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You're asking for trouble. you are becoming an emotional
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You are becoming an emotional hitler.
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Hitler. when you blame and shame
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When you blame and shame your spouse,
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Your spouse, you better find another way
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You better find another way to communicate,
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To communicate, because clearly that's not
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Because clearly that's not going to work.
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Going to work. the first commandment
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The first commandment of communication is this;
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Of communication is this; if i expose my emotional
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If i expose my emotional nakedness to you, as a person,
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Nakedness to you, as a person, do not make me feel ashamed.
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Do not make me feel ashamed. [amen.]
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[amen.] oh, i may continue to talk
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Oh, i may continue to talk to you,
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To you, but i will never,
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But i will never, never tell you anything that
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Never tell you anything that i feel deeply ever again.
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I feel deeply ever again. and that's what communication
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And that's what communication is.
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Is. the second communication killer
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The second communication killer is the lack of honesty.
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Is the lack of honesty. our society places great
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Our society places great emphasis upon being authentic.
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Emphasis upon being authentic. but the truth is,
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But the truth is, many of us lie.
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Many of us lie. we wear masks over
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We wear masks over our real face.
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Our real face. unfortunately,
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Unfortunately, there are christians who have
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There are christians who have been wearing masks for years.
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Been wearing masks for years. [amen.]
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[amen.] [oh, yeah.]
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[oh, yeah.] let's look at some of
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Let's look at some of those masks.
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Those masks. and feel free to throw yours
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And feel free to throw yours in the trash when you get home
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In the trash when you get home today.
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Today. (laughter)
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(laughter) let's call the first one
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Let's call the first one "the john wayne mask,"
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"the john wayne mask," the big, strong,
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The big, strong, invincible iron man.
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Invincible iron man. he sounds like this;
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He sounds like this; "i don't need mushy
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"i don't need mushy conversation.
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Conversation. i don't need all that hugging
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I don't need all that hugging and kissing.
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And kissing. shucks, miss ellie,
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Shucks, miss ellie, i told you in 1996,
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I told you in 1996, 'i love you'.
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'i love you'. anything changes,
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Anything changes, i'll let you know."
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I'll let you know." (laughter)
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(laughter) so what happened?
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So what happened? she stopped saying,
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She stopped saying, "i love you,"
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"i love you," stopped talking.
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Stopped talking. "you don't love me like you
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"you don't love me like you used to," he starts saying,
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Used to," he starts saying, and why?
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And why? because you started it
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Because you started it by saying you didn't need it.
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By saying you didn't need it. but you need it a lot more than
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But you need it a lot more than you think you need it.
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You think you need it. see, communication is
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See, communication is to your marriage
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To your marriage what blood is to your body.
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What blood is to your body. again, it's life.
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Again, it's life. when the communication --
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When the communication -- i didn't say, "talk."
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I didn't say, "talk." when the communication stops,
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When the communication stops, your relationship starts dying.
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Your relationship starts dying. and some of you have a marriage
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And some of you have a marriage that's as dead as
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That's as dead as julius caesar,
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Julius caesar, and you're afraid to admit it.
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And you're afraid to admit it. you better start talking about
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You better start talking about the things that truly
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The things that truly are concerning you.
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Are concerning you. the second mask would be
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The second mask would be "the messiah's mask."
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"the messiah's mask." meet god's little helper,
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Meet god's little helper, the savior of the earth and
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The savior of the earth and general manager of the universe
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General manager of the universe and all planets close by.
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And all planets close by. (laughter)
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(laughter) he or she spreads themselves
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He or she spreads themselves so thin doing all these good
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So thin doing all these good and wonderful things;
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And wonderful things; they have nothing to give their
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They have nothing to give their family or their marriage.
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Family or their marriage. stop it!
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Stop it! [amen.]
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[amen.] if you're top priority in life
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If you're top priority in life is not your family,
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Is not your family, you've got the wrong priority.
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You've got the wrong priority. [amen.]
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[amen.] i feel like if i fail
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I feel like if i fail as a father,
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As a father, i have failed at life.
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I have failed at life. i challenge every married
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I challenge every married couple here to get involved
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Couple here to get involved with your family and make them
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With your family and make them the priority of your life
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The priority of your life every day of your life.
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Every day of your life. [amen.]
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[amen.] (applause)
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(applause) lady, take care of your family.
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Lady, take care of your family. kissing wears out;
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Kissing wears out; cooking never does.
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Cooking never does. [that's right.]
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[that's right.] (laughter & applause)
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(laughter & applause) all some of you know to make
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All some of you know to make for supper is reservations.
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For supper is reservations. (laughter)
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(laughter) you need to get a real good
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You need to get a real good cookbook and jazz it up.
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Cookbook and jazz it up. [yes!]
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[yes!] mask number three is
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Mask number three is "the religious mask."
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"the religious mask." you have mastered the ritual
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You have mastered the ritual and rejected righteousness.
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And rejected righteousness. you have a form of godliness,
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You have a form of godliness, but it's hype without holiness.
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But it's hype without holiness. not your good works,
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Not your good works, not your church membership,
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Not your church membership, not what you accumulate,
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Not what you accumulate, not how much society loves you,
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Not how much society loves you, but do you love jesus christ
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But do you love jesus christ and have you made him the lord
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And have you made him the lord of your life?
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Of your life? if you don't know jesus,
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If you don't know jesus, you're not living.
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You're not living. [amen.]
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[amen.] (applause)
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(applause) when you're sick in body --
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When you're sick in body -- i'm talking about the religious
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I'm talking about the religious mask.
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Mask. when you're sick in body,
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When you're sick in body, when you're on the verge of
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When you're on the verge of a divorce,
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A divorce, when your house has just been
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When your house has just been repossessed,
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Repossessed, when one of your children
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When one of your children is in jail and the other's been
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Is in jail and the other's been kicked out of school,
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Kicked out of school, and someone asks you,
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And someone asks you, "how are you,"
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"how are you," don't come off with,
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Don't come off with, "oh, i'm blessed and highly
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"oh, i'm blessed and highly favored;
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Favored; praise god.
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Praise god. everything's just going
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Everything's just going wonderful."
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Wonderful." (laughter)
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(laughter) shut up!
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Shut up! [yes.]
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[yes.] (laughter)
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(laughter) be honest.
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Be honest. [amen.]
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[amen.] say,
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Say, "my life is coming unraveled
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"my life is coming unraveled right now, and i need help,
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Right now, and i need help, and i need your help."
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And i need your help." [amen.]
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[amen.] that's when you can really
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That's when you can really truly be blessed by the body
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Truly be blessed by the body of christ.
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Of christ. because believe me;
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Because believe me; sooner or later,
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Sooner or later, you're going to go through
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You're going to go through a problem that you're going to
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A problem that you're going to need every friend you've got,
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Need every friend you've got, and they should be in the house
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And they should be in the house of god.
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Of god. [amen.]
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[amen.] [come on.]
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[come on.] (applause)
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(applause) the fourth communication killer
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The fourth communication killer is explosion.
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Is explosion. psychologist, dr. henry brandt,
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Psychologist, dr. henry brandt, said,
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Said, "no nakedness is comparable to
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"no nakedness is comparable to psychological nakedness."
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Psychological nakedness." when your wife or husband
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When your wife or husband points out your deficiency,
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Points out your deficiency, we grasp for something
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We grasp for something to cover us up.
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To cover us up. if you're choleric or sanguine
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If you're choleric or sanguine in temperament, you'll explode.
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In temperament, you'll explode. you're telling your wife
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You're telling your wife or husband,
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Or husband, "you're coming too close to
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"you're coming too close to the real problem;
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The real problem; stay away or i'm going to
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Stay away or i'm going to explode."
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Explode." hiroshima is going
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Hiroshima is going to happen.
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To happen. stop that!
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Stop that! be willing to talk about things
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Be willing to talk about things you haven't willing --
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You haven't willing -- you haven't wanted to talk
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You haven't wanted to talk about,
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About, because it is a problem you
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Because it is a problem you don't think you can handle.
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Don't think you can handle. if you don't solve the problem,
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If you don't solve the problem, the problem will separate you;
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The problem will separate you; that's what i'm telling you.
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That's what i'm telling you. the fifth communication killer
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The fifth communication killer is tears.
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Is tears. this is generally used by
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This is generally used by women,
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Women, but i've known men who could
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But i've known men who could use it just as well.
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Use it just as well. you're saying,
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You're saying, "don't tell me my shortcomings
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"don't tell me my shortcomings or i'll cry."
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Or i'll cry." the first spat after marriage,
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The first spat after marriage, she turns on the water works
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She turns on the water works and teaches the new husband,
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And teaches the new husband, "don't go beyond this line
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"don't go beyond this line or i'll cry,"
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Or i'll cry," and communication stops.
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And communication stops. don't stop talking
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Don't stop talking and don't stop communicating.
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And don't stop communicating. how to communicate effectively,
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How to communicate effectively, ephesians 4:15,
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Ephesians 4:15, "speak the truth in love."
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"speak the truth in love." say that with me.
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Say that with me. "speak the truth in love."
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"speak the truth in love." nothing improves your wife's
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Nothing improves your wife's hearing like the sound
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Hearing like the sound of praise.
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Of praise. proverbs 31:28,
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Proverbs 31:28, "her husband rises up
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"her husband rises up and praises her."
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And praises her." say that with me, men.
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Say that with me, men. "her husband rises up
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"her husband rises up and praises her."
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And praises her." do you praise your wife?
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Do you praise your wife? do you praise your wife?
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Do you praise your wife? why not?
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Why not? the bible says to.
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The bible says to. if you're not, start.
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If you're not, start. are you as courteous to your
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Are you as courteous to your wife as you are the neighbors?
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Wife as you are the neighbors? is it more natural for you to
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Is it more natural for you to complain rather than compliment
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Complain rather than compliment her?
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Her? do you not have the right
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Do you not have the right to complain until you first
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To complain until you first compliment?
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Compliment? all compliments should be
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All compliments should be public.
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Public. all complaints should be
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All complaints should be private.
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Private. [yes!]
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[yes!] don't you ever talk your wife
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Don't you ever talk your wife down in a public place.
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Down in a public place. (applause)
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(applause) the bible says,
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The bible says, the first duty of love is
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The first duty of love is to listen."
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To listen." proverbs says,
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Proverbs says, "the hearing ear is made by
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"the hearing ear is made by the hand of god."
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The hand of god." listen.
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Listen. when you communicate,
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When you communicate, don't raise your voice.
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Don't raise your voice. when you communicate,
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When you communicate, allow for a reaction time.
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Allow for a reaction time. remember that you've been
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Remember that you've been thinking about what you're
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Thinking about what you're going to say probably
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Going to say probably for two or three days.
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For two or three days. and when you hit him with it
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And when you hit him with it when he comes home --
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When he comes home -- (laughter)
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(laughter) -- he says,
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-- he says, "yes" just to get you to
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"yes" just to get you to shut up.
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Shut up. (laughter)
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(laughter) and then he sits down and
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And then he sits down and thinks about what you've said.
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Thinks about what you've said. and an hour later,
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And an hour later, he comes back in the kitchen
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He comes back in the kitchen with a whole new something
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With a whole new something he wants to tell you about
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He wants to tell you about what you said.
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What you said. now, communication is about
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Now, communication is about to happen.
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To happen. can i hear an "amen" here?
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Can i hear an "amen" here? [amen!]
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[amen!] pray together for each other.
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Pray together for each other. how many husbands and wives
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How many husbands and wives pray together and for each
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Pray together and for each other?
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Other? let me see your hand.
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Let me see your hand. the rest of you need to start.
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The rest of you need to start. [amen.]
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[amen.] there are two golden
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There are two golden expressions to help
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Expressions to help communication happen.
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Communication happen. say, "i'm sorry"
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Say, "i'm sorry" when you're wrong.
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When you're wrong. romans 3:23,
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Romans 3:23, "all have sinned and come short
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"all have sinned and come short of the glory of god."
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Of the glory of god." when you're wrong,
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When you're wrong, say, "i'm sorry."
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Say, "i'm sorry." when you're right,
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When you're right, be quiet.
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Be quiet. (laughter)
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(laughter) just be quiet.
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Just be quiet. (laughter)
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(laughter) three words,
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Three words, "i love you" are very powerful
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"i love you" are very powerful when they're sincere.
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When they're sincere. i want you to stand to
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I want you to stand to your feet.
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Your feet. i'm going to ask the lord just
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I'm going to ask the lord just to help us to have a moment of
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To help us to have a moment of honest reflection here,
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Honest reflection here, to stop pretending and come out
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To stop pretending and come out from behind masks that we've
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From behind masks that we've been wearing,
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Been wearing, some of you, for a lifetime;
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Some of you, for a lifetime; to be real,
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To be real, in jesus' name.
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In jesus' name. ♪ music ♪
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♪ music ♪ i'm going to make several
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I'm going to make several statements,
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Statements, and then i'll ask you
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And then i'll ask you to respond.
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To respond. the first statement is,
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The first statement is, "pastor, i'm not happy with
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"pastor, i'm not happy with the quality of relationship
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The quality of relationship in my marriage.
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In my marriage. we have poor communication.
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We have poor communication. i ridicule her.
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I ridicule her. she criticizes me.
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She criticizes me. we are living in a cold war
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We are living in a cold war most of the time."
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Most of the time." thirdly, "pastor,
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Thirdly, "pastor, i explode when my wife or
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I explode when my wife or my husband gets too close
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My husband gets too close to the real truth.
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To the real truth. i have an uncontrollable temper
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I have an uncontrollable temper that's destroying our home."
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That's destroying our home." four, "i manipulate,
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Four, "i manipulate, i intimidate,
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I intimidate, i dominate to get my way."
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I dominate to get my way." five, "i pout for days
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Five, "i pout for days when my partner disagrees
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When my partner disagrees with me."
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With me." six, "i want a happy marriage
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Six, "i want a happy marriage full of love
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Full of love and communication,
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And communication, and i want it enough
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And i want it enough to change.
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To change. i want it enough to ask god
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I want it enough to ask god to give it to me today."
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To give it to me today." how many of you here and those
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How many of you here and those watching by television across
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Watching by television across america and around the world
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America and around the world have one of those issues
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Have one of those issues in your marriage right now?
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In your marriage right now? let me see your hand.
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Let me see your hand. put it up.
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Put it up. ♪ music ♪
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♪ music ♪ ninety percent of this
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Ninety percent of this congregation.
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Congregation. that means that 90%
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That means that 90% of the marriages in this church
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Of the marriages in this church will be improved today
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Will be improved today when we pray this prayer,
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When we pray this prayer, and you go home
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And you go home with a brand-new person.
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With a brand-new person. [amen.]
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[amen.] pray this prayer with me.
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Pray this prayer with me. heavenly father,
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Heavenly father, in the name of the lord
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In the name of the lord jesus christ,
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Jesus christ, i ask you to give us
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I ask you to give us the courage
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The courage to communicate with each other
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To communicate with each other lovingly,
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Lovingly, graciously.
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Graciously. with the power to forgive.
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With the power to forgive. let all of our personal
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Let all of our personal temperamental things
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Temperamental things be totally removed
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Be totally removed by the love of god.
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By the love of god. i recognize that my marriage
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I recognize that my marriage can be a better marriage.
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Can be a better marriage. and i'm going to work toward
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And i'm going to work toward that end
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That end by praying with my wife,
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By praying with my wife, by praising my wife,
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By praising my wife, in jesus' name.
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In jesus' name. let the love and grace of god
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Let the love and grace of god fill our home,
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Fill our home, bless our children,
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Bless our children, and bless our marriage,
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And bless our marriage, in jesus' name.
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In jesus' name. amen.
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Amen.
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Unto you and give you his peace.
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And give you his peace. may you be filled
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May you be filled with the blessed assurance
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With the blessed assurance that god loves you
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That god loves you with an everlasting love.
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With an everlasting love. may you know that he wants you
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May you know that he wants you to prosper.
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To prosper. he wants your children
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He wants your children and your children's children
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And your children's children to prosper,
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To prosper, because you are willing
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Because you are willing to obey the kingdom principles
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To obey the kingdom principles of economics found
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Of economics found in the word of god.
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In the word of god. from this day forward,
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From this day forward, in faith,
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In faith, step out and obey god
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Step out and obey god as he has required.
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As he has required. and see if he will not open
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And see if he will not open the windows of heaven
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The windows of heaven and bless you with blessings,
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And bless you with blessings, you cannot contain,
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You cannot contain, good measure,
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Good measure, pressed down,
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Pressed down, shaken together,
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Shaken together, and running over.
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And running over. in jesus' name,
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In jesus' name, receive this blessing.
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Receive this blessing. amen.
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John Hagee - The Power of Communication

February 3, 2025 | 27:29

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