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Power Point with Jack Graham | Jack Graham - Honoring Marriage | August 31, 2025
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- ♪♪♪
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- There is no person that god cannot save!
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- There is no promise that god will not keep!
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- There is nothing that our god cannot do!
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- Now, marriage should be biblically and clearly defined.
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- Because there are those who would not just diminish
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- Marriage but even distort and redefine it.
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- So, as followers of the lord jesus christ we need to
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- Know what does the bible, (because the bible is our
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- Source of authority, not the world, it's the word) so what
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- Does god's word say about marriage? it is this, that god
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- Has created the marriage relationship and when he made
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- The man and the woman in the very beginning he created them
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- Male and female and said the two should become one, (and you
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- Can read the account in genesis chapter 2) but jesus, he
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- Commented on this very important truth about marriage
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- And the definition of marriage in matthew chapter 19 and
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- Verses 4-6. here's what our lord said: “have you not read
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- That he who created them from the beginning made them male
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- And female and said, therefore, a man shall leave his mother
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- And hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one
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- Flesh.” that's miracle mathematics right there! one
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- Plus one equals one! it's the miracle of marriage that god
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- Has made. the two become one, soulmates. spiritual lives
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- Wedded together. so, they are no longer one flesh, jesus says
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- (verse 6), “what therefore god has joined together let not man
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- Separate.”
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- In other words, this marriage relationship is created by god
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- Himself. it is offered to the man and the woman that he
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- Brings together in life and in love. it is an exclusive
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- Relationship between a man and a woman. it is permanent,
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- Supreme in relationship, permanent in commitment, and
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- Divine in origin. that is the marriage that is to be honored!
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- For the scripture says,
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- 4) let marriage be held in high honor among all, and let the
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- Marriage bed be undefiled, for god will judge the sexually
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- Immoral and adulterous.
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- What a scripture! honoring marriage. the word honor here
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- Means to be highly esteemed, to celebrate marriage, to cherish
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- Our homes and our families, to lift high this beautiful
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- Relationship that god has made in heaven and on earth called
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- Marriage. let marriage be held in the highest of honor and
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- Esteem.
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- Before there was a government... before there was
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- Even a church, there was a home and a family built upon a
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- God-given marriage. again, supreme in relationship.
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- Exclusive of all others. faithful to one another,
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- Honoring god and honoring each other.
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- And this includes both a partnership—the two should
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- Become one, soulishly, spiritually linked together. it
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- Not only is a partnership, but it is a passion. and that is
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- Why he speaks here of the gift of god of the marriage bed,
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- Which is to be undefiled. when it speaks here of the bed, he's
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- Not talking about taking a nap. he's talking about sex. i
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- Picked up a birthday card; it said on the cover, sex. i
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- Opened it up. it said, “now that i have your attention,
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- Happy birthday.” [laughter]
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- So now that i have your attention, the marriage bed is
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- To be pure and holy within the bonds... the beauty... the
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- Blessing of a marriage relationship. sex is god's gift
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- To the man, to the woman, to express that oneness. the
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- Spiritual and psychological oneness of two lives together
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- Expressed in physical love, the act of marriage, and that is a
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- Gift from god. sex is not dirty. we can make it dirty
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- Like a beautiful lawn, a lawn on the outside where it belongs
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- Is a beautiful thing. but if you take the grass and the dirt
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- And you bring it into the living room suddenly it's a
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- Dirty thing. the grass belongs where the grass belongs! love
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- Belongs where love belongs! and this is the marriage
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- Relationship. again, a gift from god! it is expressed in
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- Love, not lust. and there is no sin and no shame in the
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- Marriage relationship, in the sexual relationship that
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- Husbands and wives share together. and god created adam
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- And eve and placed them in the garden, there's a note there
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- That says "and they were naked and were not ashamed."
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- And so, in that intimacy, in that openness, in that
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- Transparency of this marriage relationship, you are to
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- Cultivate a healthy, wholesome and, yes, holy sex life in your
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- Marriage. it's a way you honor your marriage. and honor the
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- God who gave you one another. again, no shame! that you are
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- Not just roommates when you get married and stay married but
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- You are bedmates as well.
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- Now there are three purposes for sex according to the bible.
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- Are you with me? three purposes... one is - i'm going
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- To start with this one - recreation. recreation. fun,
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- Enjoyment. god wants you to enjoy this relationship. there
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- Is passion and sizzle in a marriage relationship and in
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- This commitment physically to one another. it's... you know,
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- Bring the fire to your marriage. [you] say, "well, i'm
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- Trying." well, keep trying! you know a fire is a good thing as
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- Long as it's in the fireplace, where it belongs. if you get
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- The fire out of the fireplace and into the house, it can burn
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- The house down! so, god has given us a place for the sexual
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- Relationship, committed husbands and wives, together,
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- Closer. it is the creation of closeness and intimacy. and
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- This soul relationship that we have... this spiritual
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- Relationship...
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- This is why there's no such thing as so-call casual sex.
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- That's a concoction of the media or hollywood, or someone
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- Else. casual sex. there's nothing casual about the sexual
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- Relationship. it's not a hook-up or a link-up or a
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- Shack-up. it is a commitment to one another and a closeness
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- That is divinely inspired, and blessed by god.
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- Recreation, intended for pleasure.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Take a look at the world today, and i think you'll agree
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- Something's not right. turn on the television, or scroll
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- Through your news feed on your phone and watch as war rages.
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- In our cities, crime and lawlessness is rampant. in our
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- Classrooms. sin and perversion is celebrated and corruption
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- Fills our capital. but in the midst of this chaos, god says,
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- Hope can be yours. for christians, our joy, hope and
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- Peace is secure. keep coming to me, god pleads, and i promise i
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- Will fill you up.
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- Over five decades pastoring a local church, and if there's
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- Secondly, the sexual relationship in a marriage is
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- For the purpose of procreation. that's obvious, isn't it? we
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- All look around. you were procreated by your parents,
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- Delivered by your mother who went deep into the valley to
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- Deliver you. and therefore, because of this blessing of
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- Procreation, the sexual union brings about the blessing of
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- Children and children are a blessing. even though
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- Unfortunately there are so many unwanted children apparently in
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- This country and in the world. let me remind you that children
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- Are a heritage from god, wanted and welcomed into this world.
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- Every child is conceived and created in the womb at
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- Conception.
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- So, the primary purposes of sexual union is recreation,
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- Procreation and one other thing; communication. in
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- Describing this relationship in the bible, the scripture said
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- Adam, the first man, "knew" his wife. this wasn't "hi, nice to
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- Meet you." but she... he knew her and in knowing her she
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- Became a mother. adam knew his wife and she conceived and gave
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- A son. so, the word "to know" in the bible is descriptive of
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- This sexual union which is to know one another intimately and
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- So personally that our bodies are even connected. this is...
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- This is life; this is love; this is communication at the
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- Deepest level. again, this is why sex can never be casual; it
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- Can never... it should never be adulterated; it should never be
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- Carnal or convenient! it is commitment together because sex
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- Is sacred before god. it is holy. not something to be used
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- Or abused.
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- And therefore, the bible says the marriage bed... see it
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- There in hebrews 13:4, is to be undefiled, unpolluted. don't
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- Bring anything into your bed into your marriage relationship
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- That would pollute it or destroy it... distort it or
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- Destroy it. and, of course, immorality of all kinds whether
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- It is adultery, before marriage or after marriage. pre-marriage
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- Adultery or after marriage adultery. immorality is the
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- Same, and it is always emotionally destructive. if you
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- Say, "what's... what's the big deal? why did god make these
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- Rules? why uses these boundaries?" because god knows
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- How he made us and created us, to love one another. and
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- Anything else beyond his purposes and his plan is
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- Destructive.
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- Now you may presume that there are
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- Medicines for everything these days, but did you know that
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- Sexually transmitted diseases are still epidemic, and
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- Growing? and the break down of the body of these diseases that
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- Are uncontrollable, often uncontainable. physically
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- Destructive. the bible says sexual sin is a sin against
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- Your own body. and then that's not even to speak of physical
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- Destructive of abortion that comes as a result of immorality
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- So often. unplanned, even unwanted pregnancies. it is
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- Physically destructive; out of bounds.
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- And not only physically destructive but culturally
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- Destructive. the breakdown of the family that we talked
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- About, the society that is so sex-crazed, sex-saturated. the
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- Sexual revolution of the 1960's... i was a teenager in
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- The 1960's, exposed to all of that, as many of you were. but
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- Now we seeing it here some forty ... nearly fifty years
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- Later. we're seeing the seeds of the sexual revolution of the
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- 1960's bear the bitter fruit and the harvest that comes from
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- Hell in disobedience of god. that's what we're seeing! it is
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- Domestically destructive. adulterating the home and the
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- Family! and how many families have been broken up because of
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- Sexual sin? a parent who decides to sacrifice their
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- Children on the altar of their own lust!
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- God knows what is best for you and for you family. honor your
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- Marriage! lest i haven't been clear, listen to the words of
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- The scripture in 1 thessalonians 4:3 to 5... 1
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- Thessalonians 4:3 to 5: "for this is the will of god... (you
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- Want to know god's will for your life?), your
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- Sanctification (that means purity, and in particular,
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- Christ-likeness), that you may abstain (there's a rare word
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- These days) that you may abstain from sexual immorality;
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- That each one of you know how to control his own body in
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- Holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the
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- Gentiles (that is the unbelieving world) who do not
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- Know god;"
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- Listen up! your body belongs to god!
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- Both men and women.
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- Your body belongs to god! what? 1 corinthians 6
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- Tells us in verses 19 and 20: “what? do you not know that
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- Your body is the temple of the holy spirit!”
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- And so, because you belong to god when god gives you a
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- Husband or a wife, you belong, therefore, to one another. "a
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- Three-fold cord is not easily broken." the scripture says.
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- And so, you are united together in christ. and that same
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- Scripture which says our bodies belong to god goes on to say,
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- "therefore, glorify god with your body." are you glorifying
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- God, honoring god with your body... what you put in it,
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- What you put on it, how you treat it in every way? glorify
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- God by living a pure life and walking in obedience to him.
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- Your marriage and your morality is to offer praise to god so
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- That the world may see the presence of jesus in your life.
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- Now in shutting down... closing down this message, i want to
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- Give you very quickly what i would call some spiritual
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- Principles that we establish guidelines to protect our
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- Marriage.
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- If we're to honor our marriage, one of the ways we honor our
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- Wives, honor the mothers of our children, is to provide
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- Protection. that's a big-time role of the father and husband
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- In their lives and in their marriage. so, to provide
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- Protection, to build fences, guidelines if you will,
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- Borders, hedges... whatever... build a wall! [laughter] and
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- Here's how you do it:
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- Number one, respect one another. it's that word honor
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- Again. if you want to keep your marriage strong and pure, your
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- Marriage bed undefiled, if you want to affair-proof your
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- Marriage, not only on the physical side, but even the
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- Emotional side... and there are emotional affairs that end up
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- Being so often physical affairs, but respect one
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- Another. "husbands, love your wives as christ has loved the
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- Church and gave himself for her."... with sacrificial love.
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- "wives, submit yourself to your husbands as unto the lord."
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- And in this... in this relationship of oneness... you
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- Know the goal... the radical militant feminist will tell you
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- That the goal for women should be equally with equal...
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- Sameness. the goal is not sameness! the goal is oneness.
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- There should be equality in the market place, equality in the
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- Culture, equality in government... all those things.
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- In the men's relationship the equality equates not to
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- Sameness but to oneness. get it?
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- Via la difference! the french say. "male and female he
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- Created them." we both as husbands and wives have
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- Different roles and responsibilities. the husband
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- In the head of the home, but i say the wife and mother... she
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- Is the crown jewel and the heart of the home. it's not
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- Sameness; we don't function in the same way, but we are
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- Fulfilled in the oneness of that relationship. when god
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- Created the woman, she was created as his completer, not
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- As his competer, and so respect one another.
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- Secondly, guard your heart! it starts in the heart. protect
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- Yourself personally, men and women because the scripture
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- Says “guard your heart for out of it flows all the issues of
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- Life.” keep your heart pure, “blessed are the pure in heart.
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- “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” so guard your heart
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- In the presence of the lord.
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- Secondly... thirdly, and this is very, very practical, and
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- Very, very personal to me. set up these fences so that you
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- Make sure that... that in friendships of the opposite sex
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- In particular, do not flirt or spend time alone with someone
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- Besides your spouse. friendship often can turn to flirting. you
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- Know what i'm talking about. we've all seen it; maybe you've
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- Experienced it. someone at the office catches your eye; you
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- Enjoy the conversation, likeable, she... he may be more
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- Romantic than your husband and your wife. it starts like that,
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- Then it begins a distant flirtation and some laughter.
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- And then the next thing you know, friends and coworkers are
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- Connected at an emotional level. the affair starts in the
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- Heart, and the next thing you know, the adultery, and then
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- The break of the home and the family. it's happened again and
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- Again and again and again. so how do you combat that? you
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- Have to make some radical decisions.
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- I'm just here to remind you today that it's never
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- Appropriate to be flirting with someone of the opposite sex in
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- Your office, in your neighborhood. and spending time
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- Along, traveling together, having lunch together, all that
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- Stuff. [you] say, “well, that's harmless stuff.” it's not
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- Harmless. i'm saying love your spouse enough to protect your
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- Marriage. and that means building these hedges, setting
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- These guidelines that will keep you smart in these
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- Relationships.
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- And that means... next... agree as a couple as to what is
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- Appropriate and what is not appropriate. guys, i guarantee
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- You, if you ask your wife, she'll tell you what's
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- Appropriate and what's not appropriate with the opposite
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- Sex. and vice versa. establish boundaries and never cross
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- Them! these are personal convictions! i have some
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- Personal convictions... some boundaries in my life that i
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- Have set, and i refuse to cross them by god's grace.
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- Here's another one: never discuss your problems,
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- Especially marriage problems with a person of the opposite
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- Sex. now i'm assuming you're not a pastoral or professional
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- Counselor. and even if you are, beware and pay attention and
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- Keep the door open. but one of the ways these things get
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- Started in the breakup of a home is someone discussing
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- Their problems, especially problems about my marriage, or
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- Problems about... i'm having at home, and the next thing you
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- Know there's a connection, and you know what happens. never
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- Discuss your problems, especially marriage problems
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- With a person of the opposite sex.
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- Remember also, temptation is no respecter of persons. no one is
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- Invulnerable. "let him who stands, take heed lest he
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- Fall." i like to say to myself and i say it to young pastors
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- In particular and i'll say it to any man or woman: run just a
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- Little bit scared because "the devil's like a roaring lion
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- Seeking whom he may devour." temptation is real and is no
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- Respecter of persons... of persons. so be aware of that.
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- And then pray for protection. jesus said, “lead us not into
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- Temptation, but deliver us from evil.”
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- And saturate your mind and heart with the word of god. the
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- Word of god is a shield to us, a strength to us! bathe your
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- Mind. your bible says "sanctify them with your truth, o god."
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- Sanctify... make pure with the truth of god's word! and when
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- You... when you walk in the word there is power, there is
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- Strength! you meditate! you answer the onslaught of the
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- Enemy with the word of god! "how shall a young man cleanse
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- His way? by giving attention to your word, o lord."
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- Then strive to be above reproach. the bible says "be
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- Above reproach." ask yourself when you're hanging out with
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- Someone of the opposite sex... you're a married person, you're
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- Doing certain things... having lunch, traveling, getting
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- Together on the airplane. i don't know... name it!
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- Strive to be above reproach
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- And set the highest of standards in your life.
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- Have deep personal convictions!
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- Remember, you made a sacred vow.
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- And if you are not married, in advance of that sacred vow,
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- Commit yourself to godliness and purity. honor marriage!
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- Don't defile it. don't destroy it. don't tear it down.
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- "what god has joined together," jesus said,
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- "don't tear it apart."
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- ♪♪♪
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