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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Highest Calling | July 27, 2025
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- Pastor ed: what is a world view?
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- Somebody would say, well, i don't know.
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- Let me tell you exactly what it is.
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- It is a philosophy of life.
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- It is how you and i look on life, all of life, animal life,
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- Homo sapien, human life, and how we relate
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- To the universe and to the earth.
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- Basic definition of worldview.
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- A christian worldview begins in genesis, 1, 2, 3.
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- And there are four cornerstones,
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- Got me, of a worldview,
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- Four cornerstones of how those who are in christ,
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- See and view the world in which we now live in the 21st century.
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- Four cornerstones.
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- This is the foundation, our worldview, these cornerstones
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- Upon which we have to stand before we can proceed
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- To any other assumptions or decisions in life.
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- "if the foundation are being destroyed, what shall
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- The righteous do?"
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- We've looked at that verse before and i think all of us
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- Can agree as we look at these foundations,
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- That they're being destroyed.
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- That is the central attack of slew foot, the evil one,
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- Destroy the foundations.
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- And we see around us, all of those foundations upon which
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- Western civilization, and of which all of us really have
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- Basically stood for most of our lives.
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- They're being systematically destroyed.
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- Here's the foundation, that's our christian worldview.
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- There are one, two, three, four cornerstones in the foundation.
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- The first cornerstone, jesus tells us, he was asking
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- Matthew 22, by a lawyer-- typical isn't it?
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- By a lawyer, "what is the great commandment according
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- To the law?"
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- And jesus answered, "you shall love the lord thy god with
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- All of your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind."
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- That is the first cornerstone.
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- And then we look in the new testament and we discovered that
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- If we love god with all of our heart, our soul and our mind,
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- With our emotions, with our conscience, with the total
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- Essence of who we are, and with all of our strength,
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- That enables us to understand how god loved us in bringing
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- His son, jesus christ, into the world, who gives us abundant
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- Life now, and a full life forever.
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- So the first cornerstone is to love god and to love
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- Jesus christ.
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- And this enables us to do the next thing,
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- The next cornerstone, remember what jesus said?
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- Love the lord thy god with everything you got.
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- That's the first commandment, the first cornerstone.
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- The second cornerstone is to love your neighbor,
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- Love other people.
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- We're not able to love, only as we have been loved.
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- Some people have a tough time loving because they haven't
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- Understood the total love of god, and they haven't been loved
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- By others.
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- So we do not have the total capacity to love.
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- First cornerstone, love god, love jesus christ.
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- Second cornerstone, we're able to do that, to love our
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- Neighbors and to love people, because we have been given love
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- Through christ and through the love of god, second cornerstone.
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- Third cornerstone is, marriage.
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- You love your wife, you love your husband.
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- And we're taught about this in many places, but particularly
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- In ephesians chapter 5, third cornerstone.
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- Love god, love jesus christ, love your neighbor, love other
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- People, and finally, husbands, love your wife and wives,
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- Love your husbands.
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- Fourth cornerstone, love your children, love your kids.
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- Now, how do you do that?
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- How do you love your children?
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- How does that operate?
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- So we're going to be talking about for the next several
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- Weeks, about loving kids, and we're going to look at the bible
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- That tells us, with clear instructions as to how to truly
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- Love our children.
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- And so where do we start?
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- I think we start with a most familiar verse we have about
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- Family and kids and all the bible, most of us are familiar
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- With founded proverbs.
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- We all know it, but i'm gonna read it in order to be accurate.
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- How do we love our kids?
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- We, "train up a child," a kid, "in the way he should go:
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- And when he is old, he will not depart from it."
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- That's how we love our kids.
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- We train, not down, we train up our children.
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- I wanna put this into a grid.
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- And by the way, it begins the first season of training,
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- Ecclesiastes says there's a season for everything,
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- And with our children, there are seasons.
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- There is zero to three.
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- In that season, i call it the season of being a servant.
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- It's the servant season, because that's when the parents,
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- Especially, particularly a mother, 90% of it, looks after
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- That little one in every way, health, food, care, sleep,
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- Nurture, that's when the child, follow me closely, is the center
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- Of everything, and the mother and the dad surrogate, the
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- Mother is a total servant of the child for the child to survive.
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- Now, other animals, when they're born, by the way, they can
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- Survive, they can make it.
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- Humans cannot make it.
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- We have a longer period of time in order to be safe and secure
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- Than other animals.
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- And we are not an animal in the general sense.
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- But in the particular sense made in the image of god.
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- God planned evidently for it to take more time, takes more time
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- For mom to be in this servant role.
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- Where guess what?
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- The child is the center of everything in the life
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- Of that mom, health, safety, food, temperament, everything.
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- Now the mother here misunderstands what i'm saying,
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- It's a time of being a servant.
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- And then the second year, you begin to move into the wonderful
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- Experience of toilet training.
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- You see you begin to require something of your child.
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- Then the child begins to, you know, to eat,
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- Maybe get something on them.
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- Maybe they begin the second year to try to put on their clothes,
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- And we develop that and all of this is involved of those
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- First two years.
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- Now season number two goes from three to 13, 10 years.
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- And now things totally change, parents.
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- No longer are you the servant and the child is the sinner.
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- But now mom and dad are the sinner.
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- Stay with me.
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- Some people do not make this transition and the child
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- Becomes an idol.
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- Mom and dad are the center and the child begins to feel this.
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- All of a sudden they're required to eat at a certain time.
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- I don't want to eat.
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- Now this is what we eat.
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- They get up at a certain time, i don't wanna get up.
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- This is when we get up.
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- We go to bed at a certain time.
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- This is the second stage.
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- The first stage, you're a servant.
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- The second stage, you are a leader, and you teach that child
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- Obedience and submission.
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- You are in control.
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- Now, the modern world says, you know, you've got to tell
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- Your children.
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- No, no, no, no, you don't explain anything.
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- Why?
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- Just because i told you, that's that period from 3 to 13.
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- If you try to go into something else, you're not ready.
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- It's just because i told you so.
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- Stop, turn around, don't do that.
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- When god gave the ten commandments, did he ask
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- The israelites, well, let's talk about the, what about the one
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- On adultery?
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- Y'all all for that one?
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- Of stealing?
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- No.
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- God said this is it.
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- So parents 3 to 13, what you say, what you command,
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- That is when you authoritative.
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- Well, you will be mean.
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- No, that's a sign of love.
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- We'll talk about discipline later on.
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- It's a sign of love, you love that which you discipline,
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- That's what you require.
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- And we'll see that developing in our study.
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- So this is a time of leadership, a time which mom and dad takes
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- The role of god in their life.
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- I read about a christian psychotherapist.
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- He tells the example.
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- A mother of a 16 year old said, my 16 year old
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- Doesn't respect me.
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- Man, he comes home and he's on drugs, and he's drunk and i get
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- On to him, and we fuss and we argue and he's just mean to me.
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- He says, he hates me.
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- And she said, what am i to do about it?
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- And, and the christian psychotherapist said, well,
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- What you have to do is squeeze them back
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- Until they are 12 months old.
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- Parents get that three, 13, unquestioned obedience.
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- Well, you're being hard.
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- I want my children to love.
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- Listen, your child doesn't need a buddy, buddy, mother
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- Or a buddy, buddy daddy.
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- They need a dad and a mom who teaches them obedience
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- Between 3 to 13.
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- This is god's plan.
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- We'll develop on discipline.
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- We'll talk about this later but indicates you really love.
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- So this is a time in which you spell it out, you explain it and
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- Say this is how we do things in our house, in our family and you
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- Do it because you love them.
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- I went to a play in a secular school this week, and they had,
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- Kids were there and as i was leaving, i went out the door
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- And a whole bunch were hurrying at me.
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- So i just held the door and let them go flying through, bang,
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- Bang, bang.
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- And toward the end, there's a young man, the man said,
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- Thank you, sir.
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- Hello!
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- What kind of parents you think he had?
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- Did they teach respect?
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- Did they teach manners?
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- Did they teach appreciation?
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- This is when you do it primarily between three and 13,
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- Those 10 years, in which mom and dad are now the center,
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- And the child is not a center, and the child doesn't like it.
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- Man, it'd be good to have a servant all your life,
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- Wouldn't you?
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- And some parents keep on serving, serving, serving.
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- We'll talk about that style of parenting as we move
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- Through this time.
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- Stage two, authority leadership by the parents.
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- Stage three, this is from 13 to 18 and this is when you give
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- Reasons, folks.
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- This is when you explain what you're doing.
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- Now, you reason with them, 3 to 13, don't do any explanation.
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- You don't need any explanation.
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- You don't ask an explanation, explanation, won't do any good.
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- They're beyond that point of reason.
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- They just, this is it and this is that.
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- You see if we do these things in these stages.
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- Stage one, stage two, we're ready for stage three,
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- They're growing up.
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- They make decisions of their own, primarily,
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- You're still there.
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- The jews have a wonderful thing, a bar mitzvah,
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- Which they graduate.
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- They become adults, they learn scripture.
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- And almost every culture has that.
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- The japanese have a culture which you get to be 20 years
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- Of old, you dress up in a suit, you go to business,
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- Go down business with your dad.
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- There's a celebration.
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- That's when you begin to vote.
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- That's when they say you move into adulthood.
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- An ancient tribe that lives today on the amazon river.
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- They had a way of letting their child grow up when they got
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- To be about 13 years of age, they put, they had them put on
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- Gloves, and in that gloves were bullet ants.
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- And a bite from a bullet ant they say is about 30 times worse
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- Than a bee sting.
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- They have to put on those gloves and keep them on for 10 minutes,
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- And do it 20 times.
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- And the thesis is, they're teaching their kids as they go
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- Into adulthood, there will be pain and there will be
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- Suffering, there will be heartaches and you have to learn
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- How to do that, if you're gonna be a man or you're gonna be
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- A woman.
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- You see that was their way of transition.
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- But the cherokees had a wonderful way.
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- When a young brave would become a certain age, they would take
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- That brave out in the middle of the forest.
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- They would say they would blindfold him and he would have
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- To sit there on a stump for no reason, taking the blindfold
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- Off, rain, snow, sleet, cold wind, never take
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- The blindfold off.
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- As the sun went down until the sun came up the next morning.
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- And you can imagine a 13 year old young man out there in the
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- Forest surrounded by bears and lions, and you know what in that
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- Day, and snakes, the fear that had come with that blindfold
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- All night long.
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- And the child was instructed never to tell anybody
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- What happens as you go through this transition into manhood.
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- And they sit there all night long with all the animals,
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- All the possibilities coming down.
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- When the sun comes up, then they could take off their blindfold.
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- And when the young cherokee takes off the blindfold, he
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- Looks though he did not know it, there was his father sitting
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- On a stump about 10 ft away.
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- See, that's it parents.
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- Do you get the picture?
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- And so this is when you begin to give them independence,
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- You begin them a way to make their own decisions.
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- You built the right stuff in their life.
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- You've gone through season one, and now you've gone through
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- Season two when you were the commander in chief, the role
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- Of god in their life and they obeyed without question,
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- Without pouting.
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- You didn't negotiate.
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- I'll give you this, if you'll do that, parents don't do that.
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- That's stupid.
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- You're losing the battle of being a godly parent.
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- So let's not cover all of it, this is a general introduction
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- To our whole study of parenting.
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- But let's see, the third thing i want you to look at,
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- Is what is the goal of parenting.
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- What is the goal?
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- By the way, it's helping them find out god's purpose
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- For their life.
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- And this is the goal that parents have that lead them
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- Into that.
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- Let me say something just to the side, you know what being
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- Unsuccessful, somebody whose unsuccessful, is somebody
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- Who was a success and it didn't have any meaning.
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- Do you get that?
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- Unsuccessful person, if somebody who was a success,
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- But their success has no lasting meaning or significance.
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- That's somebody who is unsuccessful.
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- Success without meaning.
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- Parents, we have an obligation to say to our children, god
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- Has a purpose for your life, has a plan for your life, an agenda
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- For your life, and you will find it when you, and we point them
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- Toward the goal.
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- What is the bull's eye that parents have?
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- Let me say by the way, i'm not including everything.
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- Let me say by the way sometimes parents can do everything
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- That's possible, to do it all right,
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- And still a child will go astray.
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- Some will come back, some will not.
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- And we use this verse by the way, inappropriately, "train up
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- A child, the way he should go and when he is old,
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- He'll not depart from it."
- 00:18:17.152 --> 00:18:18.854
- Well, my child, i tried to train him but now he's out there.
- 00:18:18.854 --> 00:18:22.558
- He is drinking and he's had 16 marriages, but he's gonna
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- Come back home.
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- Listen, that verse is not a promise.
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- It's a principle.
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- Get the difference?
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- "train up a child, the way he should go, and when they're old
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- And not depart from it," that's not a promise.
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- That is a principle.
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- Was god a good father?
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- Adam and eve?
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- What happened to them?
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- Because they had the freedom of choice, they made a decision
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- That affected them and affect all of humanity.
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- So we have to realize there's a way to parent.
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- It's not the way of cain, read the old testament.
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- Look what happened to all his descendants, killed his brother.
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- Look at the other child seth, look at all his descendants.
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- They followed in god's way.
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- Cain followed in his way.
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- Look at what happened in the results.
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- Doesn't take somebody phi beta kappa to figure that out.
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- So what is god's method of parenting?
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- I'll be quick.
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- Number one, the goal is to let them imitate jesus,
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- To be like jesus.
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- Well, that is so high up there.
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- It is, romans 8:28, "all things work together for good
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- To those who love the lord, those who are the called
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- According to his purpose."
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- Doesn't that sound great?
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- I love that verse.
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- Whatever is happening, all things gonna work out for
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- God's glory and for god's good.
- 00:19:54.549 --> 00:19:56.351
- I love that verse.
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- That's romans 8:28, but romans 8:29 said, your children are
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- To conform to the lord jesus christ.
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- Oh, all things work together for good.
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- And then your children are to conform.
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- In other words, they are to follow jesus christ and we are
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- To build in their lives, godly principles, morals and manners,
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- A love and a respect and a reverence for god.
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- Deuteronomy 6, the shema.
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- That's what a jewish father did every day with their children
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- Every night, with their children.
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- What does it say?
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- He said, "hear ye, o israel, there is one lord, one god."
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- And you are to build these godly principles in their life
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- When they go to bed, remember?
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- When they get up in the morning, when they eat their meals,
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- When they go out the door.
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- Well, that sounds awful hard and super posed.
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- No, it's just the atmosphere of a christian home.
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- I came up in a christian home because of my mom, my mother
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- Saw to it that we prayed when we sat down and ate a meal.
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- We had a blessing, three meals, we prayed.
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- Every night, before we went to bed, didn't matter.
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- When i came in, my mom would be there with the bible,
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- You missed.
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- With the bible and she would read it and i would read it
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- And we would pray for missionaries and for people.
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- I did that every night of my life when i was old, when i was
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- Born all the way until the last night i spent with my mom
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- Before she went to heaven.
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- We did that in our home, and i would come in every day,
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- I never rode to school in my life.
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- I walked to from the first grade all the way through high school.
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- We walked there up and coming.
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- When i would come home, i'd hear my mother singing
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- Thousands of times.
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- The same chorus, "in the morning, i see his face.
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- In the evening, his form i trace.
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- In the darkness, his voice i know.
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- I see jesus everywhere i go."
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- She didn't just pour it into us, it was the atmosphere
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- Of our home, the atmosphere.
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- It wasn't a super pious kind of thing.
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- It was the atmosphere.
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- Therefore, we're teaching our children to follow jesus,
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- To let him be their example.
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- That's the first goal.
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- You know what the second goal is?
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- Is for the parent, particularly the father to be a serious
- 00:22:29.771 --> 00:22:34.276
- Follower of jesus.
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- Some of your dads would say, boy, i'd do anything
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- For my children that i could.
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- The best thing you can do is to be a genuine man of god.
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- That's the best thing you can do for your child, nothing else.
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- All these kinds of parenting helicopter, possessive
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- Parenting, you wanna keep your child from having any pain or
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- Challenges or any shortcomings or fail?
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- No, no, no, no.
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- That's a part of the three to 13 growing up, so they'll be able
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- To be a man or woman when they get in their teens, and they'll
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- Make right choices themselves.
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- That's our goal.
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- Nothing we need more than for mom and dad to say what
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- Paul said in 1 corinthians.
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- He said, oh you children, you're my children.
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- He said, i want you to imitate me.
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- Can you say that dad?
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- Can you say that?
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- Children would do what we require them to do until
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- They're about 14?
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- Then they begin to do and live like we live.
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- I'll do anything for my kids be a godly man, be a godly woman,
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- Love your wife, love your husband, the highest priority.
- 00:23:53.054 --> 00:24:02.297
- So much to say, we've only just begun.
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- We've laid down the principles, you got them?
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- Foundation is being destroyed.
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- We see the role of parents, strategic role of parents,
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- As to how to parent, how to bring up a child, god's way.
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- First two years, remember you're a servant to the child.
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- Next 10 years, 3 to 13, you are a leader.
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- You become the authority figure of your child
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- Without a lot of explanation.
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- You don't do that.
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- Then 13 and up, you see your child begin to grow and develop
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- And make choices on their own by and large.
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- But you're still sitting there on the stump when they go
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- Through it all.
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- Do you get that?
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- Train up a child in the way, not many ways, god's way they should
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- Go and when they're old, when they're older, when they mature,
- 00:24:54.516 --> 00:24:59.387
- The gps system will be built in their heart in their life
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- And they'll make the right choices.
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- Pastor ed: everybody in the world is hungry for something
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- That gives them assurance about the future and comfort about
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- What we are facing right today.
- 00:25:14.002 --> 00:25:17.606
- What all of us are looking for can only be found in god's word.
- 00:25:17.606 --> 00:25:22.844
- That's why now's the time to do all we can to share the proven
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- Truth of scripture with as many people as possible.
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- And so, with a gift today which will be worth double
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- Thanks to a special matching grant, we can help millions
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- Through the broadcast and resources of "the winning walk"
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- And it's a winning walk, as you know, with jesus christ.
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- I'm excited about today, i'm excited about tomorrow,
- 00:25:48.436 --> 00:25:51.806
- And thank you for your contribution, for your prayers.
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- We scatter seeds of god's truth everywhere
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- And lives are changed.
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- Congratulations, thank you for being a part
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- Of "the winning walk" family.
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- Pastor ed: of all the responsibilities
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- God has entrusted to me
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- I can't think of a more thrilling or challenging one
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- Than being a parent.
- 00:26:13.161 --> 00:26:15.163
- Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
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- We are to nurture them, to teach them,
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- To build in them the right stuff as sons and daughters.
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- As you probably figured out by now
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- Parenting is truly a full-time job
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- And it sometimes can be an overwhelming task
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- But thankfully we do not have to do it alone.
- 00:26:32.981 --> 00:26:36.184
- You can begin today by admitting that
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- You don't have all the answers.
- 00:26:37.952 --> 00:26:40.088
- I certainly don't.
- 00:26:40.088 --> 00:26:41.890
- And then we turn to the one who does, god.
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- God's word, the bible, offers practical
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- Principles for parenting, today and every single day.
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- So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills,
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- And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
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- He invented the family.
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- Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
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- Now i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
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- Can you?
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- ♪♪♪
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