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Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception

August 5, 2025 | S25 E189 | 28:53

Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception
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Creflo Dollar | Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception | August 5, 2025
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  • Creflo dollar: self-deception is kind of tricky because we're
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  • Often not aware of it when we're doing it, okay.
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  • It's tricky because we're not aware of it when we're doing it.
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  • I mean, that's how good we are at it.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Please hear that.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Creflo: when we deceive ourself, we become our own enemy posing
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  • As a friend.
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  • I need to say that again.
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  • When we deceive ourselves, we become our own enemy posing as
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  • A friend.
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  • It's not gonna end up right.
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  • Eventually you're going to have to see the sabotage, and you're
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  • Gonna have to see the destruction of what comes when
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  • You keep doing that.
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  • Self-deception can involve denial of a hard truth,
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  • Minimizing of painful matters.
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  • See that defense mechanism?
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  • Or projection of faults onto others.
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  • A lot of times when people are in self-deception, blame becomes
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  • The name of their game.
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  • I'm in self-deception, so is you and you and you.
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  • And it's you and it's you.
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  • And it's y'all, and it's what y'all did, and y'all--if y'all
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  • Done raise me right, then i wouldn't have no problems.
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  • Can i get a witness in here?
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  • Okay, i never claimed to be a perfect father or parent, so
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  • Whatever i didn't do right, 'cause i had a parents and my
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  • Parents were not perfect and they were not flawless, and they
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  • Did things that i wondered about and, you know, but, you know,
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  • I wasn't allowed to express myself.
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  • See, the kids today, they're being trained to express their
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  • Selves and their parents are raising them up so they can--
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  • Now i understand that you wanna--you want your kids to be
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  • Able to express themselves, but they need to know--they need to
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  • Have some wisdom.
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  • See, i had--i tried expressing myself one morning when i was on
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  • My way to school, and that was the days when you had to get
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  • Your parents to sign your report card, and my dad looked at the
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  • Report card and signed it, and i did pretty good, but i had a c
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  • On something.
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  • It was a, it was a hard subject, physics or something, and he
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  • Said, "you need to bring that up."
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  • I'm like, you--i said, "well, you probably couldn't have did
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  • No be--no better than what i did."
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  • Oh yeah, i did. i did.
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  • And there was something sudden that happened.
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  • All of a sudden, blackness filled the room.
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  • I felt like i was floating, and stars came.
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  • And i realized i had been knocked out.
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  • I was never enthusiastic about expressing myself after
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  • That day.
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  • And so, even though i got knocked out i didn't call nobody
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  • And say that was abuse.
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  • I thought it was a necessary correction.
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  • It worked.
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  • I don't advise anybody to do that.
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  • Don't go around here talking about, "pastor recommending for
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  • His church to knock they children out."
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  • Well, you know in the old testament when the children
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  • Acted up, they would bring them out of the house in the village
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  • And everybody in the village would stone them to death.
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  • I ain't saying do none of that.
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  • What i am saying is, is that whatever they did wrong or
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  • Didn't do right, it was up to me to grow up, meet jesus, and
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  • Whatever i lacked from their parenting, he would take
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  • Care of.
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  • And so the same way is true here.
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  • Don't beat your parents up because you heard something on
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  • Tiktok, and you got to see because they told you, you need
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  • To do this with your parent, you need to do that with
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  • Your parent.
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  • Don't do none of that. don't do none of that.
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  • Respect them 'cause they gave you life.
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  • Oh, ain't nobody clapping. they gave your butt life.
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  • "well, i ain't ask to be here." but you is.
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  • My mama made me go see my grandmama every week.
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  • I ain't feel like going to see grandmama.
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  • "you need to go see her." "why?"
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  • "she ain't gonna be here always. you need to go see her."
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  • That's the kind of stuff we were raised with.
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  • So, we're not perfect parents.
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  • You can take that off the plate.
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  • Nobody in here is a perfect parent.
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  • Everybody in here--
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  • [laughter]
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  • And i don't know why our kids think we're perfect.
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  • It's like, "well, such and so such and so's mom and dad, they
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  • Didn't do that."
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  • "well go live with such and so such and so."
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  • That's what my daddy would say, "you don't like it here, you can
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  • Go live with such and so such and so."
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  • None of us are perfect, so, you know, i'd have to tell my kids,
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  • Whatever we did wrong or didn't do to your liking, make jesus
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  • The lord of your life, and he'll fix whatever we didn't do right.
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  • You need to trust in the lord.
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  • But we got, we got, we got strange deception going on, and
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  • This generation is rising up.
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  • They're moving into the job market now, and they don't wanna
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  • Go to work, and they don't wanna be on time, and they wanna dress
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  • Like they wanna dress, and they wanna act like they wanna act,
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  • And they wanna look at videos while they're at work, and right
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  • Now there is a large number of gen zs that have been dismissed
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  • From the job market because people ain't ready to deal
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  • With that.
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  • Now on the other hand, they can start their own business and
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  • They can do all that.
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  • I don't wanna work for you 'cause i'm a planner, but the
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  • Generation--the gen z generation, two things
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  • Are happening.
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  • At the same time they're leaving church, there's a revival
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  • Going on.
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  • I don't understand it.
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  • Whole bunch of gen zs getting saved and a lot of them leaving
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  • Church, but a whole bunch of them getting saved.
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  • I trust god with this next generation, that it is gonna be
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  • One of the greatest generations that have ever entered the
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  • Planet, i do.
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  • And you know what i asked god?
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  • Give me patience.
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  • Okay, so self-deception can involve denial of hard truths,
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  • And you do that to minimize the painful matters, projections of
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  • Faults on to other people.
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  • Look at 1 corinthians chapter 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • 1 corinthians 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • I wanna make sure this first series goes--this first teaching
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  • Goes well so that you'll know what we're talking about
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  • Throughout this thing.
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  • 1 corinthians 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • He says, "stop deceiving yourselves."
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  • "stop deceiving yourselves."
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  • We need to figure out, how do you know when you're
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  • Deceiving yourself?
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  • He's telling us to stop.
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  • It's pretty clear so far, he's saying, "stop fooling yourself,
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  • Stop deceiving yourself."
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  • Eventually we're gonna have to talk about, well, how do we know
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  • We deceiving ourselves?
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  • Now look at galatians chapter 6 and verse 3 in the nlt.
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  • Galatians 6 and verse 3 in the nlt.
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  • "if you think you are too important to help someone, you
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  • Are only fooling yourselves.
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  • You are not that important."
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  • Can i read that again?
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  • If you think you are too important to help someone,
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  • That's a form of deception, and there are people in the church
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  • Who think that they're too important to help someone.
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  • That's a deception.
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  • There are people who are born again, who think that they're
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  • Too important to serve somebody.
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  • That's deception.
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  • He says, "you are only fooling yourself.
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  • You are not that important."
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  • God is trying to get us to see.
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  • Let's go to the word, because the words you're gonna find--in
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  • The word you're gonna find ultimate truth.
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  • If you keep going to all of the sources, and not the word,
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  • You're gonna get further and deeper and deeper in deception.
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  • I love this part.
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  • It humbles me.
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  • "you are not that important."
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  • That does something to me.
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  • "you are not that important," dude.
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  • Don't let people think you are that important, that you can't
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  • Help somebody.
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  • Wow, god.
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  • I need to put that in my, in my pocket.
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  • I am not that important.
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  • Now go and help somebody.
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  • I am not that important.
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  • Now go and bless somebody.
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  • I'm--sometimes people just always sit back and wait on
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  • Somebody to do something for them.
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  • Now, i think it'd be a good time to talk about some examples.
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  • Let's look at some examples of self-deception, because
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  • Self-deception is kind of tricky because we're often not aware of
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  • It when we're doing it, okay.
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  • It's tricky because we're not aware of it when we're doing it.
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  • I mean, that's how good we are at it.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Please hear that.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Now let's look at some things here.
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  • Let's pick three examples of self-deception.
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  • Ignoring obvious red flags in a relationship because you don't
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  • Want to face the possibility of it ending.
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  • There are things so obvious right in your face that this
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  • Woman or this dude don't want you.
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  • They're telling you that.
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  • Somebody just had a ignited moment.
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  • Almost like she was saying, "i'm letting him go today, 'cause
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  • I've been wondering about that.
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  • I felt that."
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  • Obvious red flags.
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  • Lying to you.
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  • Having you to pay for everything.
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  • Every time y'all have an argument, it's your fault.
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  • It's obvious that relationship is toxic.
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  • But, "i don't care, i don't care, i don't care.
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  • The lord told me that's my husband.
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  • I don't care, i don't care, the lord told me."
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  • All right, so two things about that.
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  • Number one, god didn't say nothing to you, okay, and number
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  • Two, look at what--you're dealing with toxicity and you're
  • 00:13:40.755 --> 00:13:43.992
  • Saying, "i'm willing to settle for toxicity.
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  • I'm willing to settle for somebody that doesn't really
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  • Love me."
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  • Have you ever heard this thing?
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  • "well, i love her, but i ain't in love."
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  • What the? what that mean?
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  • What that mean?
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  • "i love him, but i'm not in love."
  • 00:14:03.211 --> 00:14:06.648
  • What does that mean?
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  • And now relationships today are--it's--you ain't even got to
  • 00:14:07.982 --> 00:14:12.120
  • Have no love.
  • 00:14:12.120 --> 00:14:15.757
  • If you have lots of money and no love, they say, "we can make
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  • This work."
  • 00:14:19.794 --> 00:14:22.997
  • You're deceived, it ain't gonna work.
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  • It's not gonna work.
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  • After you finished spending all you can spend and buying all you
  • 00:14:28.403 --> 00:14:31.406
  • Can buy, and you keep looking at him trying to make it work.
  • 00:14:31.406 --> 00:14:36.577
  • It just ain't in the heart.
  • 00:14:36.577 --> 00:14:38.212
  • You don't want them, and it's gonna come out in what you say,
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  • It's gonna come out in what you do.
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  • They put their hands on you, you're gonna pull the hand away.
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  • I just don't, oh, it just makes me feel oh when you--don't touch
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  • Me, i don't wanna be touched, and you sitting up there talking
  • 00:14:51.526 --> 00:14:54.796
  • About, "i don't care.
  • 00:14:54.796 --> 00:14:56.164
  • I don't care.
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  • The lord told me that's my husband."
  • 00:14:57.498 --> 00:15:03.271
  • That's a simple definition, but that's the basis of it.
  • 00:15:03.271 --> 00:15:06.975
  • You're ignoring and choosing to ignore obvious red signs that
  • 00:15:06.975 --> 00:15:13.448
  • This dude don't want you.
  • 00:15:13.448 --> 00:15:17.986
  • The only reason he with you is 'cause you got a good job,
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  • Insurance, nice house.
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  • He don't want you, and you're gonna settle for that, while on
  • 00:15:26.561 --> 00:15:32.066
  • The other side, down the street, around the corner, behind the
  • 00:15:32.066 --> 00:15:35.169
  • Building, you can't see what god got for you, because the time
  • 00:15:35.169 --> 00:15:38.673
  • Hadn't come yet.
  • 00:15:38.673 --> 00:15:40.008
  • Timing hadn't taken place yet.
  • 00:15:40.008 --> 00:15:41.509
  • But when you settle, you disrupt the blessing that god had for
  • 00:15:41.509 --> 00:15:46.280
  • You, because you decided to walk in self-deception.
  • 00:15:46.280 --> 00:15:54.956
  • "okay, so, pastor, i ain't know all this before i got married
  • 00:15:54.956 --> 00:15:58.426
  • And now that i know it.
  • 00:15:58.426 --> 00:16:07.068
  • Come on, pastor, answer it, answer it, answer it."
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  • I have an answer for you.
  • 00:16:11.272 --> 00:16:15.043
  • Ask god, 'cause everything we do in our life is gonna be based on
  • 00:16:15.043 --> 00:16:21.916
  • Our relationship we have with the holy spirit, and that's why
  • 00:16:21.916 --> 00:16:23.951
  • I need--you need to have a relationship with the holy
  • 00:16:23.951 --> 00:16:25.453
  • Spirit, 'cause all the answers are just not plain.
  • 00:16:25.453 --> 00:16:27.789
  • You're still looking for some more laws like they had in the
  • 00:16:27.789 --> 00:16:29.824
  • Old testament, and under this new testament it is the
  • 00:16:29.824 --> 00:16:33.294
  • Leadership of the holy spirit, it is his guidance, it--he's the
  • 00:16:33.294 --> 00:16:36.998
  • Administrator of the holy spirit, and you gotta get a
  • 00:16:36.998 --> 00:16:39.367
  • Relationship with him so you'll know what to do and what not
  • 00:16:39.367 --> 00:16:41.369
  • To do.
  • 00:16:41.369 --> 00:16:42.970
  • 'cause there ain't nothing that's messed up that god
  • 00:16:42.970 --> 00:16:44.872
  • Can't fix.
  • 00:16:44.872 --> 00:16:46.207
  • We were messed up and look what he's done for us.
  • 00:16:46.207 --> 00:16:48.609
  • We were a mess and he's making us a masterpiece.
  • 00:16:48.609 --> 00:16:51.813
  • You need a relationship with the holy spirit.
  • 00:16:51.813 --> 00:16:56.217
  • I'm not gonna sit up here and quote a bunch of rules to you.
  • 00:16:56.217 --> 00:16:58.519
  • "well the bible says that god hates divorce and"--well he
  • 00:16:58.519 --> 00:17:01.989
  • Hates, he hates divorce because of what it does to people who
  • 00:17:01.989 --> 00:17:05.026
  • Getting divorced.
  • 00:17:05.026 --> 00:17:06.394
  • He don't hate you 'cause you get one.
  • 00:17:06.394 --> 00:17:11.566
  • What does that mean? there you go again.
  • 00:17:11.566 --> 00:17:13.234
  • You're waiting on somebody to give you a law.
  • 00:17:13.234 --> 00:17:15.803
  • I'm not gonna give you no law.
  • 00:17:15.803 --> 00:17:17.171
  • I don't preach the law no ma--more.
  • 00:17:17.171 --> 00:17:18.539
  • I preach the gospel of grace.
  • 00:17:18.539 --> 00:17:20.408
  • I preach the spirit of grace.
  • 00:17:20.408 --> 00:17:24.412
  • Go get you one of them relationships with the holy
  • 00:17:24.412 --> 00:17:26.848
  • Ghost, and let him lead and guide you into all the truth.
  • 00:17:26.848 --> 00:17:32.653
  • You're gonna be blaming me for the mishaps in your life,
  • 00:17:32.653 --> 00:17:35.423
  • Talking about what i said.
  • 00:17:35.423 --> 00:17:39.093
  • You better have the holy ghost while i'm saying what
  • 00:17:39.093 --> 00:17:42.263
  • I'm saying.
  • 00:17:42.263 --> 00:17:50.204
  • Here's another one.
  • 00:17:50.204 --> 00:17:52.039
  • Believing you're overqualified for a job when the feedback
  • 00:17:52.039 --> 00:17:55.309
  • Shows you otherwise.
  • 00:17:55.309 --> 00:18:02.517
  • Are you telling everybody, "oh, well, i'm overqualified for
  • 00:18:02.517 --> 00:18:04.585
  • This job."
  • 00:18:04.585 --> 00:18:05.920
  • Well, not according to the--boy, you can't even read good.
  • 00:18:05.920 --> 00:18:09.857
  • What you, what you--how you figure you're overqualified
  • 00:18:09.857 --> 00:18:11.392
  • For that?
  • 00:18:11.392 --> 00:18:13.561
  • That's self-deception.
  • 00:18:13.561 --> 00:18:15.963
  • Somewhere in your head you have convinced yourself of the lie of
  • 00:18:15.963 --> 00:18:20.801
  • The story you've been telling yourself.
  • 00:18:20.801 --> 00:18:26.974
  • Here's another one.
  • 00:18:26.974 --> 00:18:28.643
  • Downplaying personal responsibility by blaming others
  • 00:18:28.643 --> 00:18:33.981
  • For your failure.
  • 00:18:33.981 --> 00:18:35.483
  • Now i wanna spend a little time with this.
  • 00:18:35.483 --> 00:18:37.018
  • Galatians 6:5 in the nlt.
  • 00:18:37.018 --> 00:18:39.287
  • Downplaying personal responsibility by blaming others
  • 00:18:39.287 --> 00:18:43.124
  • For failures.
  • 00:18:43.124 --> 00:18:44.492
  • When you blame other people for your failure, you are
  • 00:18:44.492 --> 00:18:47.094
  • Downplaying your responsibility for that thing, okay, and what
  • 00:18:47.094 --> 00:18:52.366
  • He says in galatians 5 and--6 and 5, he says, "for we are each
  • 00:18:52.366 --> 00:18:56.504
  • Responsible for our own conduct."
  • 00:18:56.504 --> 00:19:00.374
  • We are each responsible for our own conduct.
  • 00:19:00.374 --> 00:19:04.912
  • You've got to stop downplaying your personal responsibility.
  • 00:19:04.912 --> 00:19:10.117
  • You can't continue to say, "it's my parents' fault.
  • 00:19:10.117 --> 00:19:13.354
  • It's my friend's fault."
  • 00:19:13.354 --> 00:19:14.855
  • You can't keep saying, "it's the job's fault.
  • 00:19:14.855 --> 00:19:17.225
  • It's the people at work's fault."
  • 00:19:17.225 --> 00:19:18.960
  • You know, 80% of your success is based on how well you deal
  • 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:22.029
  • With people.
  • 00:19:22.029 --> 00:19:23.397
  • You know that, don't you?
  • 00:19:23.397 --> 00:19:24.732
  • You can't keep downplaying it.
  • 00:19:24.732 --> 00:19:26.100
  • You can't be going around talking about, it's every--it's
  • 00:19:26.100 --> 00:19:27.568
  • Always everybody's fault.
  • 00:19:27.568 --> 00:19:29.270
  • It's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:29.270 --> 00:19:31.405
  • Something's wrong with that!
  • 00:19:31.405 --> 00:19:32.773
  • It's never you!
  • 00:19:32.773 --> 00:19:35.409
  • It's always them!
  • 00:19:35.409 --> 00:19:36.978
  • "them church folks, they hurt me, and them folks over there in
  • 00:19:36.978 --> 00:19:39.947
  • The choir, they didn't let me sing."
  • 00:19:39.947 --> 00:19:41.315
  • Them, then it's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:41.315 --> 00:19:44.785
  • There's a problem when it's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:44.785 --> 00:19:48.489
  • The problem is self-deception.
  • 00:19:48.489 --> 00:19:52.493
  • You won't, you won't accept personal responsibility
  • 00:19:52.493 --> 00:19:54.462
  • For nothing.
  • 00:19:54.462 --> 00:19:56.130
  • That's a problem.
  • 00:19:56.130 --> 00:19:58.232
  • And if you know somebody that that's all they do, it's
  • 00:19:58.232 --> 00:20:02.303
  • Everybody else's issue and you have none?
  • 00:20:02.303 --> 00:20:07.275
  • And then if you decide to accept it, it's always just a
  • 00:20:07.275 --> 00:20:09.510
  • Little bit.
  • 00:20:09.510 --> 00:20:10.845
  • "now i know i do that, but."
  • 00:20:10.845 --> 00:20:12.513
  • And still shift back to blaming somebody else.
  • 00:20:12.513 --> 00:20:17.218
  • I want to deal in lessons of us getting better, so we can have
  • 00:20:17.218 --> 00:20:24.258
  • Impact, and not keep throwing the church stuff to you so you
  • 00:20:24.258 --> 00:20:28.996
  • Can go, "hallelujah."
  • 00:20:28.996 --> 00:20:30.364
  • I wanna get in your business.
  • 00:20:30.364 --> 00:20:31.699
  • I wanna come to you, get in your house.
  • 00:20:31.699 --> 00:20:33.234
  • I wanna, i wanna get around the corner, not in your bedroom, but
  • 00:20:33.234 --> 00:20:37.138
  • Around the corner in your bedroom.
  • 00:20:37.138 --> 00:20:39.273
  • And me and taffi, we going there.
  • 00:20:39.273 --> 00:20:41.642
  • We're going there, because we were talking about couples who
  • 00:20:41.642 --> 00:20:45.146
  • Are talking about getting a divorce, and we were like,
  • 00:20:45.146 --> 00:20:50.318
  • Saying, "okay, well, what do we do?"
  • 00:20:50.318 --> 00:20:52.687
  • I said, "well, i stopped looking at the marriage like it's an
  • 00:20:52.687 --> 00:20:57.024
  • Institution," and it is.
  • 00:20:57.024 --> 00:20:58.526
  • You know, the marriage is not doing well.
  • 00:20:58.526 --> 00:21:00.995
  • The marriage is having problems.
  • 00:21:00.995 --> 00:21:02.697
  • It ain't the marriage, it's you.
  • 00:21:02.697 --> 00:21:06.033
  • The marriage?
  • 00:21:06.033 --> 00:21:08.936
  • I said, "so, taffi, what--do you remember what we did?"
  • 00:21:08.936 --> 00:21:11.105
  • She said, "yeah, we put the marriage on the shelf and we
  • 00:21:11.105 --> 00:21:15.676
  • Started dealing with the individual."
  • 00:21:15.676 --> 00:21:18.646
  • She said, "you remember, you went and did your work, i went
  • 00:21:18.646 --> 00:21:21.515
  • And did my work," and because both of us was doing our work,
  • 00:21:21.515 --> 00:21:24.752
  • When we got back together, the marriage was able to come off
  • 00:21:24.752 --> 00:21:27.955
  • The shelf and be what it needed to be because we were able to do
  • 00:21:27.955 --> 00:21:31.692
  • What we needed to do, because we found out that we as
  • 00:21:31.692 --> 00:21:35.229
  • Individuals, we had some issues in our past life that have not
  • 00:21:35.229 --> 00:21:39.767
  • Been dealt with yet.
  • 00:21:39.767 --> 00:21:43.504
  • I didn't even remember that i was in the middle of a shootout.
  • 00:21:43.504 --> 00:21:47.274
  • That my dad came and picked me up, i was about eight, from my
  • 00:21:47.274 --> 00:21:50.711
  • Grandma's house, and in college park, in college park we had
  • 00:21:50.711 --> 00:21:53.647
  • Pads everywhere.
  • 00:21:53.647 --> 00:21:54.982
  • We--there was always a quick way to the next street.
  • 00:21:54.982 --> 00:21:58.853
  • And we were on--leaving columbus avenue.
  • 00:21:58.853 --> 00:22:01.789
  • That's the real college park.
  • 00:22:01.789 --> 00:22:03.124
  • College park was a city that was named after colleges, and we
  • 00:22:03.124 --> 00:22:06.994
  • Were on columbus avenue going to princeton, and my dad
  • 00:22:06.994 --> 00:22:10.231
  • Was walking.
  • 00:22:10.231 --> 00:22:11.565
  • I don't know what--we didn't have a car, the car was messed
  • 00:22:11.565 --> 00:22:13.300
  • Up or something, and so he walked and picked me up
  • 00:22:13.300 --> 00:22:15.603
  • And--'cause stayed with grandmama and then walked me
  • 00:22:15.603 --> 00:22:17.638
  • Back home, and then one of our neighbors, he saw somebody
  • 00:22:17.638 --> 00:22:21.442
  • Breaking in the house, and he had his uniform on, gun,
  • 00:22:21.442 --> 00:22:23.711
  • Everything, and he said, "i want you to, you know the curb?
  • 00:22:23.711 --> 00:22:29.283
  • I want you to get next to the curb, hold your head down, put
  • 00:22:29.283 --> 00:22:32.953
  • Your fingers on your ear, and don't move until i come
  • 00:22:32.953 --> 00:22:35.656
  • Get you."
  • 00:22:35.656 --> 00:22:37.458
  • And all of a sudden i'm hearing pop, pop!
  • 00:22:37.458 --> 00:22:39.026
  • And you know, gun live sounds really loud.
  • 00:22:39.026 --> 00:22:44.932
  • Pop, pop, pop, pop, pop, pop!
  • 00:22:44.932 --> 00:22:47.568
  • And i'm a eight year old kid and i'm traumatized, what!
  • 00:22:47.568 --> 00:22:54.241
  • And i had totally forgot all about that, but when i went to
  • 00:22:54.241 --> 00:22:58.712
  • Start doing my work, i realized that from that
  • 00:22:58.712 --> 00:23:03.050
  • Traumatic moment i built up a resistance to anybody that would
  • 00:23:03.050 --> 00:23:09.056
  • Attempt to try to hurt me, so i was always on the ready, and so
  • 00:23:09.056 --> 00:23:15.162
  • When i get married, if taffi would say something that seemed
  • 00:23:15.162 --> 00:23:17.898
  • Like it was attacking me, i was always on the attack, always on
  • 00:23:17.898 --> 00:23:20.367
  • The ready, and my god said, "listen, that's over with.
  • 00:23:20.367 --> 00:23:26.140
  • You didn't get hurt.
  • 00:23:26.140 --> 00:23:27.975
  • Nobody's trying to fight you anymore."
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  • Male announcer: self-deception leads us to believe lies,
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  • Taffi dollar: i open my heart, i open my mind, i open myself up
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  • To god possibilities, to god happenings, god encounters.
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  • Whatever he wants to do, however he wants to do it, but i refuse
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  • To live in the past.
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  • We are world changers.
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  • Received jesus christ as your personal lord and savior, and
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  • There's no better way to embark upon a new stage in your life
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  • Than to enter into a personal relationship with jesus.
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  • So if you want to become born again and begin an exciting,
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  • Intimate relationship with jesus, i want you to pray this
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  • Prayer with me, and i'll say it so you can repeat after me.
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  • Repeat after me.
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  • Heavenly father, i believe that jesus is the son of god, and
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  • That he died and was raised from the dead, and has forgiven all
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  • Of my sins, and i receive him into my life right now as my
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  • Lord and personal savior.
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  • So by faith i declare that i am saved.
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  • Praise god.
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  • Now, that simple prayer changed your entire eternal destination,
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  • And we want to welcome you to the family of god.
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  • Male announcer: because of you, creflo dollar ministries is
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  • Providing a new understanding of grace and empowering change in
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  • The lives of millions of people every day.
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  • Thank you, partners and friends.
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  • Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
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  • Message into millions of homes all across the globe.
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  • The preceding program was brought to you, in part, by the
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  • Partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
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