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Steven Furtick | Steven Furtick - Fix Your Focus (Part 1) | February 17, 2025
- An encouraging message
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- From pastor steven furtick
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- Of elevation church.
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- If you're looking
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- To strengthen your faith
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- And shift your perspective,
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- Stay tuned.
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- ♪ ♪
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- >> turn in your bible
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- >> turn in your bible to matthew 6:31.
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- To matthew 6:31. and we want to get
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- And we want to get into this series today
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- Into this series today called "the other half".
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- Called "the other half". if i were to ask you
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- If i were to ask you the question are you
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- The question are you in a relationship
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- In a relationship and your hand didn't go up
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- And your hand didn't go up you misunderstand
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- You misunderstand the very nature of what
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- The very nature of what we intend to communicate.
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- We intend to communicate. this series is for everyone.
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- This series is for everyone. would you touch your neighbor
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- Would you touch your neighbor and say this is totally for you.
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- And say this is totally for you. >> congregation: this is
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- >> congregation: this is totally for you.
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- Totally for you. >> when we do it, we'll talk
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- >> when we do it, we'll talk a little bit about if you're
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- A little bit about if you're married that's important.
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- Married that's important. but there is half
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- But there is half of the church
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- Of the church that isn't married,
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- That isn't married, statistics say half
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- Statistics say half of marriages end in divorce.
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- Of marriages end in divorce. lets be honest,
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- Lets be honest, if we don't have
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- If we don't have our relationship with god right,
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- Our relationship with god right, our relationship
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- Our relationship with ourself right,
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- With ourself right, we're never gonna have
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- We're never gonna have a relationship
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- A relationship with others right.
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- With others right. so i hope you'll just listen
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- So i hope you'll just listen with an open mind today
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- With an open mind today and let me pick up
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- And let me pick up in matthew 6:31.
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- In matthew 6:31. i'm probably partial
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- I'm probably partial to this scripture,
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- To this scripture, my dad loved
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- My dad loved the sermon on the mount
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- The sermon on the mount and he would read it
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- And he would read it every morning
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- Every morning so he'd challenge me
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- So he'd challenge me to memorize it
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- To memorize it and i memorized some of it
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- And i memorized some of it but, he memorized
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- But, he memorized the whole thing, i didn't
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- The whole thing, i didn't memorize the whole thing.
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- Memorize the whole thing. but i like this part
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- But i like this part in matthew 6:31
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- In matthew 6:31 and i never really saw it
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- And i never really saw it as a relationship scripture
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- As a relationship scripture but now that i read it
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- But now that i read it in this season of my life
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- In this season of my life i see that its nothing
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- I see that its nothing if not a relationship scripture.
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- If not a relationship scripture. it is all about intimacy
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- It is all about intimacy and provision
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- And provision and you'll see what i mean.
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- And you'll see what i mean. jesus speaking says
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- Jesus speaking says "so do not worry.
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- "so do not worry. saying what shall we eat,
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- Saying what shall we eat, or what shall we drink,
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- Or what shall we drink, or what shall we wear.
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- Or what shall we wear. for the pagans,
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- For the pagans, people who don't even know god
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- People who don't even know god run after all these things
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- Run after all these things and your heavenly father knows
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- And your heavenly father knows that you need them."
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- That you need them." somebody say god knows.
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- Somebody say god knows. >> congregation: god knows.
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- >> congregation: god knows. >> what i need.
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- >> what i need. >> congregation: what i need.
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- >> congregation: what i need. >> and tell your neighbor
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- >> and tell your neighbor too incase they been
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- Too incase they been staying up stressing about
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- Staying up stressing about things that are outside
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- Things that are outside their control,
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- Their control, tell them god knows
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- Tell them god knows what you need.
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- What you need. >> congregation: god knows
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- >> congregation: god knows what you need.
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- What you need. >> god knows what you need
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- >> god knows what you need and that's a good thing to say
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- And that's a good thing to say anytime in your life
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- Anytime in your life that you feel like you don't
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- That you feel like you don't have enough,
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- Have enough, or you don't have what you want,
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- Or you don't have what you want, or you don't have
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- Or you don't have what others have.
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- What others have. just remind yourself over
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- Just remind yourself over and over again that
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- And over again that god knows what i need.
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- God knows what i need. now sometimes the reason
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- Now sometimes the reason that we can't receive
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- That we can't receive his provision in some areas
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- His provision in some areas of our life is because
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- Of our life is because we don't have
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- We don't have our priorities aligned.
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- Our priorities aligned. and sometimes what we interpret
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- And sometimes what we interpret as a lack of provision
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- As a lack of provision on god's part is a lack
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- On god's part is a lack of prioritization on ours.
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- Of prioritization on ours. can i go further?
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- Can i go further? >> congregation: yes.
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- >> congregation: yes. >> so he says "seek first."
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- >> so he says "seek first." 33 "his kingdom
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- 33 "his kingdom and his righteousness
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- And his righteousness and all these things
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- And all these things will be given to you as well."
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- Will be given to you as well." god says when you
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- God says when you align your heart
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- Align your heart with my heart and your plans
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- With my heart and your plans with my purposes i will give you
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- With my purposes i will give you the things the rest
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- The things the rest of the world has to grasp for.
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- Of the world has to grasp for. i will give you the peace
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- I will give you the peace that millionaires can't buy.
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- That millionaires can't buy. i will give you,
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- I will give you, come on somebody.
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- Come on somebody. every good and perfect gift
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- Every good and perfect gift comes from above, and because
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- Comes from above, and because i'm in a relationship with god
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- I'm in a relationship with god i have access to everything
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- I have access to everything that i need.
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- That i need. to be who he's called me to be,
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- To be who he's called me to be, to do what
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- To do what he's called me to do.
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- He's called me to do. and so knowing these things
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- And so knowing these things i seek first his kingdom
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- I seek first his kingdom and his righteousness
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- And his righteousness and all these other factors
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- And all these other factors will be taken care of
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- Will be taken care of by my father.
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- By my father. amen.
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- Amen. sometimes when i'm preaching
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- Sometimes when i'm preaching i just get into it myself
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- I just get into it myself and i forget you're there.
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- And i forget you're there. [laughter]
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- [laughter] therefore, do not worry
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- Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow,
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- About tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry
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- For tomorrow will worry about itself.
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- About itself. each day has trouble of its own.
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- Each day has trouble of its own. now the people that wrote
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- Now the people that wrote the scriptures didn't put
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- The scriptures didn't put a chapter marker here
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- A chapter marker here so i'm gonna keep
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- So i'm gonna keep right going on in to chapter 7.
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- Right going on in to chapter 7. it says here this is
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- It says here this is a new chapter, but to me
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- A new chapter, but to me its the same thought.
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- Its the same thought. this verse that comes next,
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- This verse that comes next, this is the verse that everybody
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- This is the verse that everybody who smokes weed likes to quote.
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- Who smokes weed likes to quote. "do not judge."
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- "do not judge." [laughter]
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- [laughter] "or you too will be judged.
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- "or you too will be judged. for in the same way
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- For in the same way you judge others."
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- You judge others." i just woke em up uptown.
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- I just woke em up uptown. "in the same way you judge
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- "in the same way you judge others you will be judged
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- Others you will be judged and with the measure you use
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- And with the measure you use will be measured to you."
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- Will be measured to you." will you look at the speck
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- Will you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye
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- Of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention
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- And pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
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- To the plank in your own eye? how can you say
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- How can you say to your brother,
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- To your brother, or your wife or your husband,
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- Or your wife or your husband, whoever, your boss, your kid.
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- Whoever, your boss, your kid. how can you say let me
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- How can you say let me take the speck out of your eye
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- Take the speck out of your eye when all the time
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- When all the time there's a plank
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- There's a plank in your own eye you hypocrite.
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- In your own eye you hypocrite. first take the plank out
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- First take the plank out your own eye,
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- Your own eye, then you'll see clearly
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- Then you'll see clearly to remove the speck
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- To remove the speck from your brother's eye.
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- From your brother's eye. do not give dogs
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- Do not give dogs what is sacred i'm speaking
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- What is sacred i'm speaking to somebody right now
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- To somebody right now who is selling yourself short
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- Who is selling yourself short and lowering and compromising
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- And lowering and compromising your standard.
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- Your standard. jesus said "do not throw
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- Jesus said "do not throw your pearls to pigs."
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- Your pearls to pigs." [cheers]
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- [cheers] maybe you need to send a text
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- Maybe you need to send a text to that guy before you
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- To that guy before you leave church today
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- Leave church today and say gimmie my pearls back.
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- And say gimmie my pearls back. don't even explain it
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- Don't even explain it or put a verse by it
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- Or put a verse by it but you'll know what it means.
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- But you'll know what it means. [applause]
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- [applause] "if you do, they may trample
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- "if you do, they may trample them under their feet and turn
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- Them under their feet and turn and tear you to pieces."
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- And tear you to pieces." i'll finish with verse 7
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- I'll finish with verse 7 cause we gotta stop somewhere,
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- Cause we gotta stop somewhere, "ask and it will be given
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- "ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find,
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- To you, seek and you will find, knock [knocking]
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- Knock [knocking] and the door will
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- And the door will be opened to you."
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- Be opened to you." i wanna call this message
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- I wanna call this message "fix your focus"
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- "fix your focus" because i believe the only thing
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- Because i believe the only thing you are ever always in control
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- You are ever always in control of is your focus.
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- Of is your focus. so many factors in your life
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- So many factors in your life are beyond your control,
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- Are beyond your control, but one thing
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- But one thing you can always control,
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- You can always control, if you learn how to do it,
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- If you learn how to do it, and if you're committed to it
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- And if you're committed to it is your focus.
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- Is your focus. i think that many relationships
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- I think that many relationships fail not because
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- Fail not because of a loss of love,
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- Of a loss of love, but because of a loss of focus.
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- But because of a loss of focus. that would be one
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- That would be one of the reasons a church fails
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- Of the reasons a church fails as well while we're at it.
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- As well while we're at it. is that you lose your focus
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- Is that you lose your focus when you stop caring
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- When you stop caring about what god cares about.
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- About what god cares about. god will no longer
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- God will no longer back you in your endeavor.
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- Back you in your endeavor. and so, sometimes what we call
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- And so, sometimes what we call failure is really
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- Failure is really just broken focus.
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- Just broken focus. its the reason why the passion
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- Its the reason why the passion that exists in some parts
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- That exists in some parts of relationships
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- Of relationships when its getting started
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- When its getting started tends to leak
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- Tends to leak and you wonder where it went.
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- And you wonder where it went. it wasn't necessarily
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- It wasn't necessarily that you lost the love,
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- That you lost the love, you lost the focus.
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- You lost the focus. its very difficult
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- Its very difficult to keep that first love focus
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- To keep that first love focus in any relationship.
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- In any relationship. i think jesus is
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- I think jesus is calling us back to focus.
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- Calling us back to focus. if you'll notice the bread
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- If you'll notice the bread on the sandwich
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- On the sandwich from the little passage
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- From the little passage that we just read,
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- That we just read, both of them start with seeking.
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- Both of them start with seeking. seek first his kingdom,
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- Seek first his kingdom, ask and it will be given to you,
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- Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find.
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- Seek and you will find. on both ends of this passage
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- On both ends of this passage where jesus is speaking
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- Where jesus is speaking on several different subjects
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- On several different subjects is this idea of focus.
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- Is this idea of focus. especially in our culture
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- Especially in our culture the focus when it comes
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- The focus when it comes to our relationship tends
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- To our relationship tends to be a little broken.
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- To be a little broken. when i say that its broken
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- When i say that its broken i mean that its misplaced
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- I mean that its misplaced and misleading.
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- And misleading. sometimes we're so focused on
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- Sometimes we're so focused on falling in love,
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- Falling in love, that we're uneducated about
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- That we're uneducated about the process of staying in love.
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- The process of staying in love. talk to me anytime you want to.
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- Talk to me anytime you want to. and there's a romantic notion
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- And there's a romantic notion that is reinforced
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- That is reinforced with every romantic comedy
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- With every romantic comedy that the falling part
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- That the falling part is where the excitement is.
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- Is where the excitement is. i was looking at an article
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- I was looking at an article getting ready for this series
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- Getting ready for this series where the author said
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- Where the author said "there's a reason that
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- "there's a reason that fairytales end in marriage,
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- Fairytales end in marriage, because nobody wants
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- Because nobody wants to see what happens next."
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- To see what happens next." nobody wants to talk
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- Nobody wants to talk about the other half.
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- About the other half. so today as i open this series,
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- So today as i open this series, and it really will
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- And it really will get better every week.
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- Get better every week. i hope that you'll bear
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- I hope that you'll bear with me as i lay a sort
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- With me as i lay a sort of foundation, i wanna talk
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- Of foundation, i wanna talk about four decisions of focus
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- About four decisions of focus that you are making every
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- That you are making every in your life and i know
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- In your life and i know that some of you should be
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- That some of you should be teaching the marriage seminar,
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- Teaching the marriage seminar, all of you patron
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- All of you patron saints of marriage,
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- Saints of marriage, been doing 30 and 40 years
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- Been doing 30 and 40 years and all of that.
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- And all of that. i'm not quite on your level yet,
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- I'm not quite on your level yet, i just celebrated my 14th year.
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- I just celebrated my 14th year. [applause]
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- [applause] and while somebody's clapping
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- And while somebody's clapping for that somebody else
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- For that somebody else is like "pshhh ain't nothin."
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- Is like "pshhh ain't nothin." [laughter]
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- [laughter] been married longer
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- Been married longer than you been alive boy."
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- Than you been alive boy." [laughter]
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- [laughter] not gonna let
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- Not gonna let some whippersnapper
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- Some whippersnapper in some skinny motocross jeans
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- In some skinny motocross jeans talk to me about --
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- Talk to me about -- [laughter]
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- [laughter] tight jeans up here
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- Tight jeans up here trying to tell me
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- Trying to tell me how to be married.
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- How to be married. [laughter]
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- [laughter] but regardless of the stage
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- But regardless of the stage of the relationship, it requires
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- Of the relationship, it requires a certain kind of focus.
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- A certain kind of focus. that's what i want
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- That's what i want to talk about today.
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- To talk about today. so i wanna lay out four areas,
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- So i wanna lay out four areas, i want you to take notes.
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- I want you to take notes. everybody write something down,
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- Everybody write something down, if your neighbor isn't writing
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- If your neighbor isn't writing anything down its because
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- Anything down its because they don't love god
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- They don't love god and don't care about his word.
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- And don't care about his word. [laughter]
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- [laughter] now watch this, the first area
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- Now watch this, the first area you gotta decide,
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- You gotta decide, you gotta decide your focus
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- You gotta decide your focus cause you can always decide
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- Cause you can always decide your focus,
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- Your focus, you can't always decide
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- You can't always decide about all the factors.
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- About all the factors. you can't always decide
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- You can't always decide if somebody is gonna stay
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- If somebody is gonna stay with you or leave you.
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- With you or leave you. you can't always decide
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- You can't always decide if somebody's gonna ask you out,
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- If somebody's gonna ask you out, you can't decide
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- You can't decide if they're gonna text you back,
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- If they're gonna text you back, but you can always decide
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- But you can always decide your focus.
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- Your focus. so is your focus, number 1,
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- So is your focus, number 1, on finding or becoming?
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- On finding or becoming? finding or becoming?
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- Finding or becoming? jesus said seek first
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- Jesus said seek first the kingdom and the other stuff
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- The kingdom and the other stuff will move into position.
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- Will move into position. but if you seek first
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- But if you seek first the other stuff
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- The other stuff then you will have no center
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- Then you will have no center of gravity for the stuff
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- Of gravity for the stuff to revolve around.
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- To revolve around. so its important
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- So its important that your focus is not,
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- That your focus is not, i been teaching this for years.
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- I been teaching this for years. i used to go around
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- I used to go around to youth camps and i would teach
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- To youth camps and i would teach dating seminar and i would say,
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- Dating seminar and i would say, you know its not
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- You know its not an original quote from me
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- An original quote from me but i'd say it all the time
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- But i'd say it all the time cause i think its true.
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- Cause i think its true. happiness isn't finding
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- Happiness isn't finding the right person,
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- The right person, happiness is being
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- Happiness is being the right person.
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- The right person. [applause]
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- [applause] i'll take it further since
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- I'll take it further since you're applause is so tepid.
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- You're applause is so tepid. [laughter]
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- [laughter] if you find the right person,
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- If you find the right person, and you are not
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- And you are not the right person,
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- The right person, what do you think
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- What do you think you're gonna do to that
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- You're gonna do to that poor right person?
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- Poor right person? now i'm not suggesting,
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- Now i'm not suggesting, please, i'm not suggesting
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- Please, i'm not suggesting that if you're not married
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- That if you're not married or something like that
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- Or something like that its cause you're not ready yet,
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- Its cause you're not ready yet, cause all we have to do
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- Cause all we have to do to disprove that stupid theory
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- To disprove that stupid theory is to look at some
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- Is to look at some of the people who are married.
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- Of the people who are married. [laughter]
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- [laughter] so married doesn't
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- So married doesn't equal ready, okay?
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- Equal ready, okay? i could offer you many examples
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- I could offer you many examples of that, starting with myself.
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- Of that, starting with myself. but what i am saying is
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- But what i am saying is that it is important to god.
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- That it is important to god. its important to god
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- Its important to god that you have the right people
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- That you have the right people in your life,
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- In your life, but the only way you're gonna
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- But the only way you're gonna have the right people
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- Have the right people in your life is if you will be
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- In your life is if you will be the right person in your heart.
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- The right person in your heart. that's the only way
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- That's the only way you're gonna attract them
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- You're gonna attract them to begin with,
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- To begin with, and that's the only thing
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- And that's the only thing you can control.
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- You can control. i can't always control
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- I can't always control whether this person
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- Whether this person comes into my life,
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- Comes into my life, but i can control the kind
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- But i can control the kind of person that i am.
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- Of person that i am. you know how you have
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- You know how you have little memories
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- Little memories from your childhood
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- From your childhood that are so random
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- That are so random that you wonder
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- That you wonder how they're still up there
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- How they're still up there from all these years
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- From all these years and you kinda wish you could
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- And you kinda wish you could delete them cause honestly
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- Delete them cause honestly you need that space
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- You need that space for more important things
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- For more important things like your children's names
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- Like your children's names and stuff that
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- And stuff that you forget sometimes.
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- You forget sometimes. but i have a memory,
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- But i have a memory, i don't know why, i remember
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- I don't know why, i remember in 6th grade they gave us
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- In 6th grade they gave us the berkeley county
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- The berkeley county writing test.
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- Writing test. i remember the prompt
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- I remember the prompt of the berkeley county
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- Of the berkeley county writing test
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- Writing test when i was in the 6th grade
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- When i was in the 6th grade almost word for word.
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- Almost word for word. pretend that you are
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- Pretend that you are on an adventure, they called it
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- On an adventure, they called it a journey with your friends,
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- A journey with your friends, and on this adventure or journey
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- And on this adventure or journey you come across a valuable,
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- You come across a valuable, unusual object.
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- Unusual object. describe the object.
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- Describe the object. a couple weeks later
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- A couple weeks later the teacher walked
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- The teacher walked in with all of our writing tests
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- In with all of our writing tests and made an announcement.
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- And made an announcement. she said "i've never had
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- She said "i've never had this happen before
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- This happen before in however many years
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- In however many years of teaching, but every
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- Of teaching, but every single one of you failed
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- Single one of you failed the berkeley county
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- The berkeley county writing test."
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- Writing test." we laughed.
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- We laughed. she said "its not a joke."
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- She said "its not a joke." [laughter]
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- [laughter] she said "you wrote
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- She said "you wrote beautiful essays,
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- Beautiful essays, you went into great detail,
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- You went into great detail, elaborating on the journey
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- Elaborating on the journey with your friends
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- With your friends but that was not
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- But that was not the writing prompt.
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- The writing prompt. the writing prompt was
- 00:12:39.688 --> 00:12:40.589
- The writing prompt was not to describe the journey,
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- Not to describe the journey, the writing prompt was
- 00:12:42.992 --> 00:12:43.859
- The writing prompt was to describe the object.
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- To describe the object. all of you wrote essays
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- All of you wrote essays about writing through
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- About writing through the woods with your friends.
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- The woods with your friends. some of you traveled across
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- Some of you traveled across the seas with your friends,
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- The seas with your friends, some of you flew through space
- 00:12:51.667 --> 00:12:52.802
- Some of you flew through space with your friends,
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- With your friends, it was highly entertaining.
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- It was highly entertaining. but none of you
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- But none of you described the object."
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- Described the object." the object of relationship,
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- The object of relationship, the object of love,
- 00:13:05.014 --> 00:13:08.117
- The object of love, is not that somebody else
- 00:13:08.184 --> 00:13:10.219
- Is not that somebody else would complete you.
- 00:13:10.286 --> 00:13:13.289
- Would complete you. i'm sorry renee zellweger,
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- I'm sorry renee zellweger, but you got it wrong.
- 00:13:16.192 --> 00:13:18.394
- But you got it wrong. your line was touching,
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- Your line was touching, it just wasn't true.
- 00:13:19.695 --> 00:13:21.697
- It just wasn't true. jerry didn't complete you.
- 00:13:21.764 --> 00:13:24.767
- Jerry didn't complete you. touch your neighbor say
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- Touch your neighbor say you can't complete me.
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- You can't complete me. >> congregation: you can't
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- >> congregation: you can't complete me.
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- Complete me. >> see, we teach this stuff;
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- >> see, we teach this stuff; no wonder single people
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- No wonder single people have their fists up ready
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- Have their fists up ready to fight me when i wanna
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- To fight me when i wanna preach about marriage,
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- Preach about marriage, cause the way we preach it
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- Cause the way we preach it and teach it we teach it
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- And teach it we teach it like until you get married
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- Like until you get married your life hasn't started.
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- Your life hasn't started. i only got one question
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- I only got one question to ask you, if that's true,
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- To ask you, if that's true, how can you worship jesus?
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- How can you worship jesus? [applause]
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- [applause] we worship a guy
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- We worship a guy who stayed single
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- Who stayed single till they killed him.
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- Till they killed him. [laughter]
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- [laughter] now i'm not saying
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- Now i'm not saying you have to say single
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- You have to say single and be like jesus,
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- And be like jesus, i would be a hypocrite
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- I would be a hypocrite to say that, but i'm saying,
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- To say that, but i'm saying, i'm saying if paul would have
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- I'm saying if paul would have waited to fulfill his purpose
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- Waited to fulfill his purpose until he had somebody
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- Until he had somebody to complete him we wouldn't
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- To complete him we wouldn't have 23% of the new testament.
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- Have 23% of the new testament. [applause]
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- [applause] and we teach it wrong,
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- And we teach it wrong, we teach it wrong.
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- We teach it wrong. i've taught it wrong,
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- I've taught it wrong, we teach it wrong.
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- We teach it wrong. in the book of genesis,
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- In the book of genesis, god's describing marriage
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- God's describing marriage talking about adam and eve
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- Talking about adam and eve and says that you know
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- And says that you know the man shall leave his father
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- The man shall leave his father and mother and go be
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- And mother and go be with his wife and it says
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- With his wife and it says that the two will become one.
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- That the two will become one. let me tell you
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- Let me tell you what it doesn't say,
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- What it doesn't say, it doesn't say the halves
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- It doesn't say the halves will become whole.
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- Will become whole. but yet we teach it,
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- But yet we teach it, and we treat it,
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- And we treat it, and we expect it,
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- And we expect it, like the halves
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- Like the halves are gonna become whole.
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- Are gonna become whole. but i found out
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- But i found out if you go into a marriage half,
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- If you go into a marriage half, the two halves
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- The two halves are gonna make hell,
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- Are gonna make hell, not whole.
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- Not whole. [laughter]
- 00:14:53.756 --> 00:14:56.125
- [laughter] straight teaching pastor steven.
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- Straight teaching pastor steven. that's very true pastor.
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- That's very true pastor. so, what is your focus?
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- So, what is your focus? eric my best friend,
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- Eric my best friend, my best friend
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- My best friend in the world is here.
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- In the world is here. i mean, holly's my best friend,
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- I mean, holly's my best friend, but my best friend
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- But my best friend that's a guy,
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- That's a guy, other than my sons.
- 00:15:12.041 --> 00:15:12.841
- Other than my sons. one of my friends eric is here.
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- One of my friends eric is here. [laughter]
- 00:15:14.743 --> 00:15:16.245
- [laughter] he's been my buddy
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- He's been my buddy since high school,
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- Since high school, really since middle school.
- 00:15:19.281 --> 00:15:20.316
- Really since middle school. we got in trouble together
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- We got in trouble together and eric's still saved
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- And eric's still saved most days.
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- Most days. and he came over to my house
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- And he came over to my house the other day,
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- The other day, we were gonna work out
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- We were gonna work out and he was all grumpy
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- And he was all grumpy and sluggish and everything.
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- And sluggish and everything. i said what's
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- I said what's "wrong with you man?"
- 00:15:32.561 --> 00:15:33.429
- "wrong with you man?" he said well, these,
- 00:15:33.495 --> 00:15:34.997
- He said well, these, "i've been up since 4:00 a.m.",
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- "i've been up since 4:00 a.m.", i said "why?"
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- I said "why?" he said "these kids,
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- He said "these kids, these punk kids
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- These punk kids in my neighborhood
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- In my neighborhood been ringing my doorbell
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- Been ringing my doorbell in the middle of the night.
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- In the middle of the night. they've done it 10 times."
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- They've done it 10 times." [laughter]
- 00:15:44.273 --> 00:15:45.674
- [laughter] he said "i'm gonna catch em
- 00:15:45.741 --> 00:15:46.709
- He said "i'm gonna catch em though, i'm gonna catch em.
- 00:15:46.775 --> 00:15:48.177
- Though, i'm gonna catch em. i got a camera
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- I got a camera on my doorbell,
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- On my doorbell, i put a camera in my doorbell
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- I put a camera in my doorbell and i'ma catch em
- 00:15:52.681 --> 00:15:53.449
- And i'ma catch em but these kids are smart man.
- 00:15:53.515 --> 00:15:54.950
- But these kids are smart man. smart punks, they came up,
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- Smart punks, they came up, they covered the camera
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- They covered the camera on the doorbell and then when,
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- On the doorbell and then when, from the side
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- From the side and i'ma catch em."
- 00:16:01.290 --> 00:16:02.224
- And i'ma catch em." but i stopped and asked him
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- But i stopped and asked him a question, i think
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- A question, i think its a good question,
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- Its a good question, i said
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- I said "and what will you do
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- "and what will you do when you catch them?"
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- When you catch them?" isn't that a good question
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- Isn't that a good question if somebody's looking
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- If somebody's looking for a woman or looking
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- For a woman or looking for a man?
- 00:16:12.101 --> 00:16:14.570
- For a man? what will you do?
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- What will you do? if you catch them?
- 00:16:17.006 --> 00:16:19.341
- If you catch them? but we are so focused
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- But we are so focused on the catching
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- On the catching that we don't even pay attention
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- That we don't even pay attention to the commitment
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- To the commitment that is required.
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- That is required. [applause]
- 00:16:25.280 --> 00:16:29.685
- [applause] so what is your focus?
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- So what is your focus? is it what you what you
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- Is it what you what you can control which is
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- Can control which is what god is doing in your life
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- What god is doing in your life or is it finding, you know?
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- Or is it finding, you know? gotta find a woman,
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- Gotta find a woman, then you gotta find a ring,
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- Then you gotta find a ring, then you gotta find some money,
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- Then you gotta find some money, and you gotta find a date
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- And you gotta find a date to get married,
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- To get married, and a place to get married
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- And a place to get married that everybody can come
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- That everybody can come to all on the same day.
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- To all on the same day. working out continents,
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- Working out continents, different continents people
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- Different continents people coming together
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- Coming together from all these different places
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- From all these different places in the world and you gotta
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- In the world and you gotta find the dresses
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- Find the dresses for the bridesmaids,
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- For the bridesmaids, something that they'll all wear
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- Something that they'll all wear and won't complain about,
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- And won't complain about, and look good against
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- And look good against their skin tone.
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- Their skin tone. and you gotta find a house,
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- And you gotta find a house, and find a job and finding,
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- And find a job and finding, finding, finding, finding,
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- Finding, finding, finding, finding, finding,
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- Finding, finding, finding, finding.
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- Finding, finding. do you see the pattern here?
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- Do you see the pattern here? but god said,
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- But god said, while all of that has its place
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- While all of that has its place if you will focus on becoming,
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- If you will focus on becoming, remember he said
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- Remember he said the two will become one.
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- The two will become one. that's the focus.
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- That's the focus. what are you becoming?
- 00:17:25.374 --> 00:17:28.077
- What are you becoming? its a good question to ask.
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- Its a good question to ask. another thing that jesus
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- Another thing that jesus mentions is our tendency
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- Mentions is our tendency to live in another time.
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- To live in another time. so let me ask my second focus
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- So let me ask my second focus question, are you focused
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- Question, are you focused on then or now?
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- On then or now? then or now?
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- Then or now? he said don't worry
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- He said don't worry about tomorrow,
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- About tomorrow, not because you don't have
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- Not because you don't have the tendency to or not
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- The tendency to or not because it isn't reasonable to,
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- Because it isn't reasonable to, just because it doesn't work.
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- Just because it doesn't work. you know the corrie ten
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- You know the corrie ten boom quote, you may not know
- 00:17:57.539 --> 00:17:58.407
- Boom quote, you may not know that she said it,
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- That she said it, but she said that
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- But she said that "worry does not empty tomorrow
- 00:17:59.808 --> 00:18:00.742
- "worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow,
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- Of its sorrow, but only empties today
- 00:18:01.610 --> 00:18:02.411
- But only empties today of its strength."
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- Of its strength." and i believe that.
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- And i believe that. while we've talked so much
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- While we've talked so much about the importance
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- About the importance of not living in your past
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- Of not living in your past and the danger of living
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- And the danger of living in yesterday,
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- In yesterday, i certainly think a lot
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- I certainly think a lot of relationships are sabotaged
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- Of relationships are sabotaged by things that happened
- 00:18:17.092 --> 00:18:17.826
- By things that happened before they ever began.
- 00:18:17.893 --> 00:18:20.963
- Before they ever began. that weren't deal with.
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- That weren't deal with. and so we project
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- And so we project onto other people trust issues
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- Onto other people trust issues that were developed
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- That were developed because of another person's
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- Because of another person's actions, and start saying
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- Actions, and start saying things to somebody
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- Things to somebody that we just me like
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- That we just me like who's texting you?
- 00:18:34.676 --> 00:18:35.744
- Who's texting you? [laughter]
- 00:18:35.811 --> 00:18:41.216
- [laughter] and its not that
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- And its not that you ever caught him
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- You ever caught him doing anything its just that
- 00:18:43.886 --> 00:18:45.687
- Doing anything its just that its been done to you before.
- 00:18:45.754 --> 00:18:48.891
- Its been done to you before. and so now you're worried,
- 00:18:48.957 --> 00:18:50.392
- And so now you're worried, you're bringing
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- You're bringing the past into present
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- The past into present and that's dangerous.
- 00:18:51.994 --> 00:18:52.728
- And that's dangerous. you gotta deal with that stuff.
- 00:18:52.794 --> 00:18:54.663
- You gotta deal with that stuff. however, because my texts
- 00:18:54.730 --> 00:18:55.797
- However, because my texts led me here i was a little bit
- 00:18:55.864 --> 00:18:57.533
- Led me here i was a little bit more fascinated with this idea
- 00:18:57.599 --> 00:18:59.268
- More fascinated with this idea of how many of us live not
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- Of how many of us live not in the past, but the future.
- 00:19:01.036 --> 00:19:04.873
- In the past, but the future. jesus said don't worry
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- Jesus said don't worry about tomorrow,
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- About tomorrow, and it is equally important
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- And it is equally important that we don't wish away today,
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- That we don't wish away today, waiting for tomorrow to come.
- 00:19:12.648 --> 00:19:15.417
- Waiting for tomorrow to come. tomorrow is a sexy place
- 00:19:15.484 --> 00:19:16.752
- Tomorrow is a sexy place to vacation in your mind,
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- To vacation in your mind, because its totally imaginary.
- 00:19:20.122 --> 00:19:22.891
- Because its totally imaginary. tomorrow is a wonderful place
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- Tomorrow is a wonderful place to visit in your mind,
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- To visit in your mind, it brings hope into the present,
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- It brings hope into the present, i think its cool to have
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- I think its cool to have a vision for the future,
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- A vision for the future, you know i think its cool
- 00:19:29.097 --> 00:19:29.765
- You know i think its cool to think ahead, plan ahead
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- To think ahead, plan ahead iras and all of that,
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- Iras and all of that, i'm a big fan.
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- I'm a big fan. but i do think at the same time
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- But i do think at the same time you can't live there.
- 00:19:36.071 --> 00:19:39.274
- You can't live there. but its so nice to, you know?
- 00:19:39.341 --> 00:19:41.410
- But its so nice to, you know? it is so freeing from
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- It is so freeing from the constraints
- 00:19:43.278 --> 00:19:44.580
- The constraints of my current struggle,
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- Of my current struggle, which is so real,
- 00:19:46.481 --> 00:19:48.350
- Which is so real, to just shuttle myself to --
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- To just shuttle myself to -- ♪ tomorrow, tomorrow ♪
- 00:19:51.954 --> 00:19:57.593
- ♪ tomorrow, tomorrow ♪ ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪
- 00:19:57.659 --> 00:20:01.296
- ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪ see how good it sounds?
- 00:20:01.363 --> 00:20:02.864
- See how good it sounds? and it feels?
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- And it feels? ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪
- 00:20:05.500 --> 00:20:10.239
- ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪ you never hear anybody saying...
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- You never hear anybody saying... ♪ today ♪
- 00:20:11.740 --> 00:20:14.076
- ♪ today ♪ see it doesn't even sound
- 00:20:14.142 --> 00:20:14.910
- See it doesn't even sound as good, does it?
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- As good, does it? it doesn't have
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- It doesn't have the same cadence.
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- The same cadence. ♪ today, today ♪
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- ♪ i hate you, today ♪
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- ♪ i wish you would go away ♪
- 00:20:33.262 --> 00:20:35.664
- ♪ i wish you would go away ♪ ♪ but tomorrow, tomorrow ♪
- 00:20:35.731 --> 00:20:40.302
- ♪ but tomorrow, tomorrow ♪ ♪ its gonna be better ♪
- 00:20:40.369 --> 00:20:41.370
- ♪ its gonna be better ♪ ♪ tomorrow ♪
- 00:20:41.436 --> 00:20:42.371
- ♪ tomorrow ♪ ♪ cause my kids aren't ♪
- 00:20:42.437 --> 00:20:43.171
- ♪ cause my kids aren't ♪ ♪ gonna be in diapers tomorrow ♪
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- ♪ gonna be in diapers tomorrow ♪ ♪ my kids are gonna be ♪
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- ♪ my kids are gonna be ♪ ♪ out of high school tomorrow ♪
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- ♪ out of high school tomorrow ♪ ♪ i'm gonna be an empty ♪
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- ♪ i'm gonna be an empty ♪ ♪ nester tomorrow ♪
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- ♪ nester tomorrow ♪ ♪ i built my identity ♪
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- ♪ i built my identity ♪ ♪ around my kids tomorrow ♪
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- ♪ around my kids tomorrow ♪ ♪ tomorrow ♪
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- Its about focus.
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- Its about focus. its about focus.
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- Its about focus. and the only way to tomorrow
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- And the only way to tomorrow is through today
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- Is through today so you gotta live there,
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- So you gotta live there, you gotta live there.
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- You gotta live there. you can't do it like,
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- You can't do it like, well, you know if i had a man.
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- Well, you know if i had a man. and i know that's easy
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- And i know that's easy for me to say,
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- For me to say, i know its whatever its easy
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- I know its whatever its easy for me to say.
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- For me to say. but its kind of easy
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- But its kind of easy for you single people
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- For you single people to tell us what marriage
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- To tell us what marriage is like too, alright?
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- Is like too, alright? so we can all have
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- So we can all have a decent conversation.
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- A decent conversation. and by the way, i would just
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- And by the way, i would just put it out there to any of us
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- Put it out there to any of us who are married or single,
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- Who are married or single, lets talk in the realm
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- Lets talk in the realm of what we know,
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- Of what we know, not in the realm of
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- Not in the realm of what we think somebody.
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- What we think somebody. have you ever noticed
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- Have you ever noticed how easy it is for you
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- How easy it is for you to give advice
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- To give advice when you're looking at
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- When you're looking at what's in somebody else's eye?
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- What's in somebody else's eye? jesus shifts gears
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- Jesus shifts gears in this teaching
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- In this teaching and he's going from comfort
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- And he's going from comfort to challenge
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- To challenge and god is good at both
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- And god is good at both so he says hey i got you,
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- So he says hey i got you, i know what you need,
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- I know what you need, you don't need somebody
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- You don't need somebody to complete you, you are
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- To complete you, you are already the total package.
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- Already the total package. you don't need clothes or food
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- You don't need clothes or food any of these things.
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- Any of these things. i know what you need
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- I know what you need and you're good in my sight
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- And you're good in my sight and your life doesn't begin
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- And your life doesn't begin when the next stage starts.
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- When the next stage starts. it starts right now
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- It starts right now so don't worry about it.
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- So don't worry about it. now don't judge!
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- Now don't judge! just outta nowhere.
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- Just outta nowhere. what's your focus?
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- Is your focus on what is not,
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- Is your focus on what is not, or what you've got?
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- >> i'm so excited
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- >> i'm so excited to share something special
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- To share something special with you that i believe
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- With you that i believe will have a big impact
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- Will have a big impact on your life.
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- On your life. it's called,
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- It's called, "relationship essentials."
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- "relationship essentials." and this set combines
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- And this set combines two of my absolute favorite
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- Series from my husband.
- 00:22:42.391 --> 00:22:44.259
- Series from my husband. we all know that relationships
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- We all know that relationships can be complicated.
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- Can be complicated. navigating love,
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- Navigating love, and friendships,
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- And friendships, and family can sometimes
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- And family can sometimes leave us feeling
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- Leave us feeling lost and confused.
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- Lost and confused. and you could be surrounded
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- And you could be surrounded by friends and family yet
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- By friends and family yet feel completely alone.
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- Feel completely alone. that's why this
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- That's why this set is so important.
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- Set is so important. it offers real insights
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- It offers real insights and practical tools to help
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- And practical tools to help you strengthen your connections
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- You strengthen your connections and heal from past hurts.
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- And heal from past hurts. each sermon provides guidance
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- Each sermon provides guidance on building healthier
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- On building healthier relationships that are grounded
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- Relationships that are grounded in biblical principles.
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- In biblical principles. the bible shows us that god
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- The bible shows us that god intended for you to have people
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- Intended for you to have people in your life,
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- In your life, people who support you,
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- People who support you, and challenge you,
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- And challenge you, and help you
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- And help you to grow in your faith.
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- To grow in your faith. you were not meant
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- You were not meant to live life alone.
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- To live life alone. i truly believe that
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- I truly believe that "relationship essentials,"
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- "relationship essentials," will be a game changer
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- Will be a game changer for you and your relationships.
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- For you and your relationships. to receive this set,
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- To receive this set, all you have to do
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- All you have to do is call or go online.
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- Is call or go online. it's available
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- It's available for your gift of any amount.
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- For your gift of any amount. together, we can get
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- Together, we can get our relationships back
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- Our relationships back on track and make sure
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- On track and make sure that they stay strong.
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- That they stay strong. so, don't wait,
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- So, don't wait, call or go online right
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- Call or go online right now and i'll see you
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- Now and i'll see you back here next time.
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- >> "relationship essentials"
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- Features two
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- Of pastor steven furtick's
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- Most requested series,
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- "meant to be,"
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- And "the other half."
- 00:23:57.399 --> 00:23:58.467
- "meant to be,"
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- Is a powerful five-part series
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- Uncovering the bible's
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- Best kept secrets about sex,
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- Marriage, and being single.
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- And, "the other half,"
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- Is a four-part series
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- That provides practical steps
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- To shift your focus
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- In relationships and prioritize
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- What matters most.
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- Together these two series
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- Provide the tools you need
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- For healthier relationships
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- God's way.
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- "relationship essentials"
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- Is available for your gift
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- Of any amount.
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- Call or visit us online now
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- To request your copy.
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- >> if you love watching sermons
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- >> if you love watching sermons from pastor steven furtick,
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- From pastor steven furtick, there's more for you.
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- >> ♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
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- ♪ heavy with rain ♪
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- ♪ and it looks like revival ♪
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- ♪ is headed our way ♪
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- ♪ i can see a cloud ♪
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- ♪ heavy with rain ♪
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- ♪ and it looks ♪
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- ♪ like salvation ♪
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- ♪ salvation ♪
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- ♪ is headed our way ♪
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- ♪ ♪
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- ♪ he shames every idol ♪
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- ♪ he reigns without rival ♪
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- ♪ he goes by ♪
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- ♪ the name of jehovah ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ he speaks into nothing ♪
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- ♪ and darkness goes running ♪
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- ♪ yeah ♪
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- ♪ he goes by the name ♪
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- ♪ of jehovah ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ belongs to him ♪
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- ♪ all the praise is his ♪
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- ♪ let's go ♪
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- ♪ his foes will be ♪
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- ♪ silenced ♪
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- ♪ he's fighting for zion ♪
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- ♪ oh oh oh oh oh ♪
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- ♪ there's no other god ♪
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- ♪ like jehovah ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ his arm never tires ♪
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- ♪ his eyes are like fire ♪
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- ♪ oh oh oh oh ♪
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- ♪ there's no other god ♪
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- ♪ like jehovah ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ jehovah ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ all our praise ♪
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- ♪ belongs to him ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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- ♪ call the name ♪
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