Steven Furtick - Fix Your Focus (Part 1)

February 17, 2025 | S25:E47

Pastor Steven Furtick shares important tools needed to build healthier relationships.

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Steven Furtick | Steven Furtick - Fix Your Focus (Part 1) | February 17, 2025
  • An encouraging message
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  • From pastor steven furtick
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  • Of elevation church.
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  • If you're looking
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  • To strengthen your faith
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  • And shift your perspective,
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  • Stay tuned.
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  • ♪ ♪
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  • >> turn in your bible
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  • >> turn in your bible to matthew 6:31.
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  • To matthew 6:31. and we want to get
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  • And we want to get into this series today
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  • Into this series today called "the other half".
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  • Called "the other half". if i were to ask you
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  • If i were to ask you the question are you
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  • The question are you in a relationship
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  • In a relationship and your hand didn't go up
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  • And your hand didn't go up you misunderstand
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  • You misunderstand the very nature of what
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  • The very nature of what we intend to communicate.
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  • We intend to communicate. this series is for everyone.
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  • This series is for everyone. would you touch your neighbor
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  • Would you touch your neighbor and say this is totally for you.
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  • And say this is totally for you. >> congregation: this is
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  • >> congregation: this is totally for you.
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  • Totally for you. >> when we do it, we'll talk
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  • >> when we do it, we'll talk a little bit about if you're
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  • A little bit about if you're married that's important.
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  • Married that's important. but there is half
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  • But there is half of the church
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  • Of the church that isn't married,
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  • That isn't married, statistics say half
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  • Statistics say half of marriages end in divorce.
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  • Of marriages end in divorce. lets be honest,
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  • Lets be honest, if we don't have
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  • If we don't have our relationship with god right,
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  • Our relationship with god right, our relationship
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  • Our relationship with ourself right,
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  • With ourself right, we're never gonna have
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  • We're never gonna have a relationship
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  • A relationship with others right.
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  • With others right. so i hope you'll just listen
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  • So i hope you'll just listen with an open mind today
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  • With an open mind today and let me pick up
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  • And let me pick up in matthew 6:31.
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  • In matthew 6:31. i'm probably partial
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  • I'm probably partial to this scripture,
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  • To this scripture, my dad loved
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  • My dad loved the sermon on the mount
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  • The sermon on the mount and he would read it
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  • And he would read it every morning
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  • Every morning so he'd challenge me
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  • So he'd challenge me to memorize it
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  • To memorize it and i memorized some of it
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  • And i memorized some of it but, he memorized
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  • But, he memorized the whole thing, i didn't
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  • The whole thing, i didn't memorize the whole thing.
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  • Memorize the whole thing. but i like this part
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  • But i like this part in matthew 6:31
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  • In matthew 6:31 and i never really saw it
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  • And i never really saw it as a relationship scripture
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  • As a relationship scripture but now that i read it
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  • But now that i read it in this season of my life
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  • In this season of my life i see that its nothing
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  • I see that its nothing if not a relationship scripture.
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  • If not a relationship scripture. it is all about intimacy
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  • It is all about intimacy and provision
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  • And provision and you'll see what i mean.
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  • And you'll see what i mean. jesus speaking says
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  • Jesus speaking says "so do not worry.
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  • "so do not worry. saying what shall we eat,
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  • Saying what shall we eat, or what shall we drink,
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  • Or what shall we drink, or what shall we wear.
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  • Or what shall we wear. for the pagans,
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  • For the pagans, people who don't even know god
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  • People who don't even know god run after all these things
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  • Run after all these things and your heavenly father knows
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  • And your heavenly father knows that you need them."
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  • That you need them." somebody say god knows.
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  • Somebody say god knows. >> congregation: god knows.
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  • >> congregation: god knows. >> what i need.
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  • >> what i need. >> congregation: what i need.
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  • >> congregation: what i need. >> and tell your neighbor
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  • >> and tell your neighbor too incase they been
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  • Too incase they been staying up stressing about
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  • Staying up stressing about things that are outside
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  • Things that are outside their control,
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  • Their control, tell them god knows
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  • Tell them god knows what you need.
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  • What you need. >> congregation: god knows
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  • >> congregation: god knows what you need.
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  • What you need. >> god knows what you need
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  • >> god knows what you need and that's a good thing to say
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  • And that's a good thing to say anytime in your life
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  • Anytime in your life that you feel like you don't
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  • That you feel like you don't have enough,
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  • Have enough, or you don't have what you want,
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  • Or you don't have what you want, or you don't have
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  • Or you don't have what others have.
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  • What others have. just remind yourself over
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  • Just remind yourself over and over again that
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  • And over again that god knows what i need.
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  • God knows what i need. now sometimes the reason
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  • Now sometimes the reason that we can't receive
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  • That we can't receive his provision in some areas
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  • His provision in some areas of our life is because
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  • Of our life is because we don't have
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  • We don't have our priorities aligned.
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  • Our priorities aligned. and sometimes what we interpret
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  • And sometimes what we interpret as a lack of provision
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  • As a lack of provision on god's part is a lack
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  • On god's part is a lack of prioritization on ours.
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  • Of prioritization on ours. can i go further?
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  • Can i go further? >> congregation: yes.
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  • >> congregation: yes. >> so he says "seek first."
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  • >> so he says "seek first." 33 "his kingdom
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  • 33 "his kingdom and his righteousness
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  • And his righteousness and all these things
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  • And all these things will be given to you as well."
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  • Will be given to you as well." god says when you
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  • God says when you align your heart
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  • Align your heart with my heart and your plans
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  • With my heart and your plans with my purposes i will give you
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  • With my purposes i will give you the things the rest
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  • The things the rest of the world has to grasp for.
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  • Of the world has to grasp for. i will give you the peace
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  • I will give you the peace that millionaires can't buy.
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  • That millionaires can't buy. i will give you,
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  • I will give you, come on somebody.
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  • Come on somebody. every good and perfect gift
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  • Every good and perfect gift comes from above, and because
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  • Comes from above, and because i'm in a relationship with god
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  • I'm in a relationship with god i have access to everything
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  • I have access to everything that i need.
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  • That i need. to be who he's called me to be,
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  • To be who he's called me to be, to do what
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  • To do what he's called me to do.
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  • He's called me to do. and so knowing these things
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  • And so knowing these things i seek first his kingdom
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  • I seek first his kingdom and his righteousness
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  • And his righteousness and all these other factors
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  • And all these other factors will be taken care of
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  • Will be taken care of by my father.
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  • By my father. amen.
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  • Amen. sometimes when i'm preaching
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  • Sometimes when i'm preaching i just get into it myself
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  • I just get into it myself and i forget you're there.
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  • And i forget you're there. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] therefore, do not worry
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  • Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow,
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  • About tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry
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  • For tomorrow will worry about itself.
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  • About itself. each day has trouble of its own.
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  • Each day has trouble of its own. now the people that wrote
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  • Now the people that wrote the scriptures didn't put
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  • The scriptures didn't put a chapter marker here
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  • A chapter marker here so i'm gonna keep
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  • So i'm gonna keep right going on in to chapter 7.
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  • Right going on in to chapter 7. it says here this is
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  • It says here this is a new chapter, but to me
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  • A new chapter, but to me its the same thought.
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  • Its the same thought. this verse that comes next,
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  • This verse that comes next, this is the verse that everybody
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  • This is the verse that everybody who smokes weed likes to quote.
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  • Who smokes weed likes to quote. "do not judge."
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  • "do not judge." [laughter]
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  • [laughter] "or you too will be judged.
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  • "or you too will be judged. for in the same way
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  • For in the same way you judge others."
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  • You judge others." i just woke em up uptown.
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  • I just woke em up uptown. "in the same way you judge
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  • "in the same way you judge others you will be judged
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  • Others you will be judged and with the measure you use
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  • And with the measure you use will be measured to you."
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  • Will be measured to you." will you look at the speck
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  • Will you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye
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  • Of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention
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  • And pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
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  • To the plank in your own eye? how can you say
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  • How can you say to your brother,
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  • To your brother, or your wife or your husband,
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  • Or your wife or your husband, whoever, your boss, your kid.
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  • Whoever, your boss, your kid. how can you say let me
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  • How can you say let me take the speck out of your eye
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  • Take the speck out of your eye when all the time
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  • When all the time there's a plank
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  • There's a plank in your own eye you hypocrite.
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  • In your own eye you hypocrite. first take the plank out
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  • First take the plank out your own eye,
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  • Your own eye, then you'll see clearly
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  • Then you'll see clearly to remove the speck
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  • To remove the speck from your brother's eye.
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  • From your brother's eye. do not give dogs
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  • Do not give dogs what is sacred i'm speaking
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  • What is sacred i'm speaking to somebody right now
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  • To somebody right now who is selling yourself short
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  • Who is selling yourself short and lowering and compromising
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  • And lowering and compromising your standard.
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  • Your standard. jesus said "do not throw
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  • Jesus said "do not throw your pearls to pigs."
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  • Your pearls to pigs." [cheers]
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  • [cheers] maybe you need to send a text
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  • Maybe you need to send a text to that guy before you
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  • To that guy before you leave church today
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  • Leave church today and say gimmie my pearls back.
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  • And say gimmie my pearls back. don't even explain it
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  • Don't even explain it or put a verse by it
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  • Or put a verse by it but you'll know what it means.
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  • But you'll know what it means. [applause]
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  • [applause] "if you do, they may trample
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  • "if you do, they may trample them under their feet and turn
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  • Them under their feet and turn and tear you to pieces."
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  • And tear you to pieces." i'll finish with verse 7
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  • I'll finish with verse 7 cause we gotta stop somewhere,
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  • Cause we gotta stop somewhere, "ask and it will be given
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  • "ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find,
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  • To you, seek and you will find, knock [knocking]
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  • Knock [knocking] and the door will
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  • And the door will be opened to you."
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  • Be opened to you." i wanna call this message
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  • I wanna call this message "fix your focus"
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  • "fix your focus" because i believe the only thing
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  • Because i believe the only thing you are ever always in control
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  • You are ever always in control of is your focus.
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  • Of is your focus. so many factors in your life
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  • So many factors in your life are beyond your control,
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  • Are beyond your control, but one thing
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  • But one thing you can always control,
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  • You can always control, if you learn how to do it,
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  • If you learn how to do it, and if you're committed to it
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  • And if you're committed to it is your focus.
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  • Is your focus. i think that many relationships
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  • I think that many relationships fail not because
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  • Fail not because of a loss of love,
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  • Of a loss of love, but because of a loss of focus.
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  • But because of a loss of focus. that would be one
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  • That would be one of the reasons a church fails
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  • Of the reasons a church fails as well while we're at it.
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  • As well while we're at it. is that you lose your focus
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  • Is that you lose your focus when you stop caring
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  • When you stop caring about what god cares about.
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  • About what god cares about. god will no longer
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  • God will no longer back you in your endeavor.
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  • Back you in your endeavor. and so, sometimes what we call
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  • And so, sometimes what we call failure is really
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  • Failure is really just broken focus.
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  • Just broken focus. its the reason why the passion
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  • Its the reason why the passion that exists in some parts
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  • That exists in some parts of relationships
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  • Of relationships when its getting started
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  • When its getting started tends to leak
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  • Tends to leak and you wonder where it went.
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  • And you wonder where it went. it wasn't necessarily
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  • It wasn't necessarily that you lost the love,
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  • That you lost the love, you lost the focus.
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  • You lost the focus. its very difficult
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  • Its very difficult to keep that first love focus
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  • To keep that first love focus in any relationship.
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  • In any relationship. i think jesus is
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  • I think jesus is calling us back to focus.
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  • Calling us back to focus. if you'll notice the bread
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  • If you'll notice the bread on the sandwich
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  • On the sandwich from the little passage
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  • From the little passage that we just read,
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  • That we just read, both of them start with seeking.
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  • Both of them start with seeking. seek first his kingdom,
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  • Seek first his kingdom, ask and it will be given to you,
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  • Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find.
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  • Seek and you will find. on both ends of this passage
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  • On both ends of this passage where jesus is speaking
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  • Where jesus is speaking on several different subjects
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  • On several different subjects is this idea of focus.
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  • Is this idea of focus. especially in our culture
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  • Especially in our culture the focus when it comes
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  • The focus when it comes to our relationship tends
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  • To our relationship tends to be a little broken.
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  • To be a little broken. when i say that its broken
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  • When i say that its broken i mean that its misplaced
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  • I mean that its misplaced and misleading.
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  • And misleading. sometimes we're so focused on
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  • Sometimes we're so focused on falling in love,
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  • Falling in love, that we're uneducated about
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  • That we're uneducated about the process of staying in love.
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  • The process of staying in love. talk to me anytime you want to.
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  • Talk to me anytime you want to. and there's a romantic notion
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  • And there's a romantic notion that is reinforced
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  • That is reinforced with every romantic comedy
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  • With every romantic comedy that the falling part
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  • That the falling part is where the excitement is.
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  • Is where the excitement is. i was looking at an article
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  • I was looking at an article getting ready for this series
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  • Getting ready for this series where the author said
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  • Where the author said "there's a reason that
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  • "there's a reason that fairytales end in marriage,
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  • Fairytales end in marriage, because nobody wants
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  • Because nobody wants to see what happens next."
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  • To see what happens next." nobody wants to talk
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  • Nobody wants to talk about the other half.
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  • About the other half. so today as i open this series,
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  • So today as i open this series, and it really will
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  • And it really will get better every week.
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  • Get better every week. i hope that you'll bear
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  • I hope that you'll bear with me as i lay a sort
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  • With me as i lay a sort of foundation, i wanna talk
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  • Of foundation, i wanna talk about four decisions of focus
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  • About four decisions of focus that you are making every
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  • That you are making every in your life and i know
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  • In your life and i know that some of you should be
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  • That some of you should be teaching the marriage seminar,
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  • Teaching the marriage seminar, all of you patron
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  • All of you patron saints of marriage,
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  • Saints of marriage, been doing 30 and 40 years
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  • Been doing 30 and 40 years and all of that.
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  • And all of that. i'm not quite on your level yet,
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  • I'm not quite on your level yet, i just celebrated my 14th year.
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  • I just celebrated my 14th year. [applause]
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  • [applause] and while somebody's clapping
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  • And while somebody's clapping for that somebody else
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  • For that somebody else is like "pshhh ain't nothin."
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  • Is like "pshhh ain't nothin." [laughter]
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  • [laughter] been married longer
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  • Been married longer than you been alive boy."
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  • Than you been alive boy." [laughter]
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  • [laughter] not gonna let
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  • Not gonna let some whippersnapper
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  • Some whippersnapper in some skinny motocross jeans
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  • In some skinny motocross jeans talk to me about --
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  • Talk to me about -- [laughter]
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  • [laughter] tight jeans up here
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  • Tight jeans up here trying to tell me
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  • Trying to tell me how to be married.
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  • How to be married. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] but regardless of the stage
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  • But regardless of the stage of the relationship, it requires
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  • Of the relationship, it requires a certain kind of focus.
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  • A certain kind of focus. that's what i want
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  • That's what i want to talk about today.
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  • To talk about today. so i wanna lay out four areas,
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  • So i wanna lay out four areas, i want you to take notes.
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  • I want you to take notes. everybody write something down,
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  • Everybody write something down, if your neighbor isn't writing
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  • If your neighbor isn't writing anything down its because
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  • Anything down its because they don't love god
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  • They don't love god and don't care about his word.
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  • And don't care about his word. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] now watch this, the first area
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  • Now watch this, the first area you gotta decide,
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  • You gotta decide, you gotta decide your focus
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  • You gotta decide your focus cause you can always decide
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  • Cause you can always decide your focus,
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  • Your focus, you can't always decide
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  • You can't always decide about all the factors.
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  • About all the factors. you can't always decide
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  • You can't always decide if somebody is gonna stay
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  • If somebody is gonna stay with you or leave you.
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  • With you or leave you. you can't always decide
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  • You can't always decide if somebody's gonna ask you out,
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  • If somebody's gonna ask you out, you can't decide
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  • You can't decide if they're gonna text you back,
  • 00:09:45.448 --> 00:09:46.115
  • If they're gonna text you back, but you can always decide
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  • But you can always decide your focus.
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  • Your focus. so is your focus, number 1,
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  • So is your focus, number 1, on finding or becoming?
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  • On finding or becoming? finding or becoming?
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  • Finding or becoming? jesus said seek first
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  • Jesus said seek first the kingdom and the other stuff
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  • The kingdom and the other stuff will move into position.
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  • Will move into position. but if you seek first
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  • But if you seek first the other stuff
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  • The other stuff then you will have no center
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  • Then you will have no center of gravity for the stuff
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  • Of gravity for the stuff to revolve around.
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  • To revolve around. so its important
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  • So its important that your focus is not,
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  • That your focus is not, i been teaching this for years.
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  • I been teaching this for years. i used to go around
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  • I used to go around to youth camps and i would teach
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  • To youth camps and i would teach dating seminar and i would say,
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  • Dating seminar and i would say, you know its not
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  • You know its not an original quote from me
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  • An original quote from me but i'd say it all the time
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  • But i'd say it all the time cause i think its true.
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  • Cause i think its true. happiness isn't finding
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  • Happiness isn't finding the right person,
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  • The right person, happiness is being
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  • Happiness is being the right person.
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  • The right person. [applause]
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  • [applause] i'll take it further since
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  • I'll take it further since you're applause is so tepid.
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  • You're applause is so tepid. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] if you find the right person,
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  • If you find the right person, and you are not
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  • And you are not the right person,
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  • The right person, what do you think
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  • What do you think you're gonna do to that
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  • You're gonna do to that poor right person?
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  • Poor right person? now i'm not suggesting,
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  • Now i'm not suggesting, please, i'm not suggesting
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  • Please, i'm not suggesting that if you're not married
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  • That if you're not married or something like that
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  • Or something like that its cause you're not ready yet,
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  • Its cause you're not ready yet, cause all we have to do
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  • Cause all we have to do to disprove that stupid theory
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  • To disprove that stupid theory is to look at some
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  • Is to look at some of the people who are married.
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  • Of the people who are married. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] so married doesn't
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  • So married doesn't equal ready, okay?
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  • Equal ready, okay? i could offer you many examples
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  • I could offer you many examples of that, starting with myself.
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  • Of that, starting with myself. but what i am saying is
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  • But what i am saying is that it is important to god.
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  • That it is important to god. its important to god
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  • Its important to god that you have the right people
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  • That you have the right people in your life,
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  • In your life, but the only way you're gonna
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  • But the only way you're gonna have the right people
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  • Have the right people in your life is if you will be
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  • In your life is if you will be the right person in your heart.
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  • The right person in your heart. that's the only way
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  • That's the only way you're gonna attract them
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  • You're gonna attract them to begin with,
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  • To begin with, and that's the only thing
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  • And that's the only thing you can control.
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  • You can control. i can't always control
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  • I can't always control whether this person
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  • Whether this person comes into my life,
  • 00:11:28.851 --> 00:11:29.752
  • Comes into my life, but i can control the kind
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  • But i can control the kind of person that i am.
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  • Of person that i am. you know how you have
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  • You know how you have little memories
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  • Little memories from your childhood
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  • From your childhood that are so random
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  • That are so random that you wonder
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  • That you wonder how they're still up there
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  • How they're still up there from all these years
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  • From all these years and you kinda wish you could
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  • And you kinda wish you could delete them cause honestly
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  • Delete them cause honestly you need that space
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  • You need that space for more important things
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  • For more important things like your children's names
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  • Like your children's names and stuff that
  • 00:11:44.567 --> 00:11:45.134
  • And stuff that you forget sometimes.
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  • You forget sometimes. but i have a memory,
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  • But i have a memory, i don't know why, i remember
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  • I don't know why, i remember in 6th grade they gave us
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  • In 6th grade they gave us the berkeley county
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  • The berkeley county writing test.
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  • Writing test. i remember the prompt
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  • I remember the prompt of the berkeley county
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  • Of the berkeley county writing test
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  • Writing test when i was in the 6th grade
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  • When i was in the 6th grade almost word for word.
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  • Almost word for word. pretend that you are
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  • Pretend that you are on an adventure, they called it
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  • On an adventure, they called it a journey with your friends,
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  • A journey with your friends, and on this adventure or journey
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  • And on this adventure or journey you come across a valuable,
  • 00:12:06.455 --> 00:12:08.357
  • You come across a valuable, unusual object.
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  • Unusual object. describe the object.
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  • Describe the object. a couple weeks later
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  • A couple weeks later the teacher walked
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  • The teacher walked in with all of our writing tests
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  • In with all of our writing tests and made an announcement.
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  • And made an announcement. she said "i've never had
  • 00:12:18.634 --> 00:12:19.368
  • She said "i've never had this happen before
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  • This happen before in however many years
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  • In however many years of teaching, but every
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  • Of teaching, but every single one of you failed
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  • Single one of you failed the berkeley county
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  • The berkeley county writing test."
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  • Writing test." we laughed.
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  • We laughed. she said "its not a joke."
  • 00:12:27.376 --> 00:12:29.145
  • She said "its not a joke." [laughter]
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  • [laughter] she said "you wrote
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  • She said "you wrote beautiful essays,
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  • Beautiful essays, you went into great detail,
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  • You went into great detail, elaborating on the journey
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  • Elaborating on the journey with your friends
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  • With your friends but that was not
  • 00:12:37.286 --> 00:12:37.887
  • But that was not the writing prompt.
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  • The writing prompt. the writing prompt was
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  • The writing prompt was not to describe the journey,
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  • Not to describe the journey, the writing prompt was
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  • The writing prompt was to describe the object.
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  • To describe the object. all of you wrote essays
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  • All of you wrote essays about writing through
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  • About writing through the woods with your friends.
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  • The woods with your friends. some of you traveled across
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  • Some of you traveled across the seas with your friends,
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  • The seas with your friends, some of you flew through space
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  • Some of you flew through space with your friends,
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  • With your friends, it was highly entertaining.
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  • It was highly entertaining. but none of you
  • 00:12:56.272 --> 00:12:56.939
  • But none of you described the object."
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  • Described the object." the object of relationship,
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  • The object of relationship, the object of love,
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  • The object of love, is not that somebody else
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  • Is not that somebody else would complete you.
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  • Would complete you. i'm sorry renee zellweger,
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  • I'm sorry renee zellweger, but you got it wrong.
  • 00:13:16.192 --> 00:13:18.394
  • But you got it wrong. your line was touching,
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  • Your line was touching, it just wasn't true.
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  • It just wasn't true. jerry didn't complete you.
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  • Jerry didn't complete you. touch your neighbor say
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  • Touch your neighbor say you can't complete me.
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  • You can't complete me. >> congregation: you can't
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  • >> congregation: you can't complete me.
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  • Complete me. >> see, we teach this stuff;
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  • >> see, we teach this stuff; no wonder single people
  • 00:13:29.972 --> 00:13:31.574
  • No wonder single people have their fists up ready
  • 00:13:31.640 --> 00:13:33.175
  • Have their fists up ready to fight me when i wanna
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  • To fight me when i wanna preach about marriage,
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  • Preach about marriage, cause the way we preach it
  • 00:13:35.444 --> 00:13:36.779
  • Cause the way we preach it and teach it we teach it
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  • And teach it we teach it like until you get married
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  • Like until you get married your life hasn't started.
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  • Your life hasn't started. i only got one question
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  • I only got one question to ask you, if that's true,
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  • To ask you, if that's true, how can you worship jesus?
  • 00:13:44.386 --> 00:13:47.189
  • How can you worship jesus? [applause]
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  • [applause] we worship a guy
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  • We worship a guy who stayed single
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  • Who stayed single till they killed him.
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  • Till they killed him. [laughter]
  • 00:13:56.498 --> 00:14:02.204
  • [laughter] now i'm not saying
  • 00:14:02.271 --> 00:14:02.972
  • Now i'm not saying you have to say single
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  • You have to say single and be like jesus,
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  • And be like jesus, i would be a hypocrite
  • 00:14:04.807 --> 00:14:05.507
  • I would be a hypocrite to say that, but i'm saying,
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  • To say that, but i'm saying, i'm saying if paul would have
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  • I'm saying if paul would have waited to fulfill his purpose
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  • Waited to fulfill his purpose until he had somebody
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  • Until he had somebody to complete him we wouldn't
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  • To complete him we wouldn't have 23% of the new testament.
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  • Have 23% of the new testament. [applause]
  • 00:14:16.619 --> 00:14:18.854
  • [applause] and we teach it wrong,
  • 00:14:18.921 --> 00:14:19.788
  • And we teach it wrong, we teach it wrong.
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  • We teach it wrong. i've taught it wrong,
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  • I've taught it wrong, we teach it wrong.
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  • We teach it wrong. in the book of genesis,
  • 00:14:23.025 --> 00:14:24.226
  • In the book of genesis, god's describing marriage
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  • God's describing marriage talking about adam and eve
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  • Talking about adam and eve and says that you know
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  • And says that you know the man shall leave his father
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  • The man shall leave his father and mother and go be
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  • And mother and go be with his wife and it says
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  • With his wife and it says that the two will become one.
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  • That the two will become one. let me tell you
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  • Let me tell you what it doesn't say,
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  • What it doesn't say, it doesn't say the halves
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  • It doesn't say the halves will become whole.
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  • Will become whole. but yet we teach it,
  • 00:14:41.877 --> 00:14:42.745
  • But yet we teach it, and we treat it,
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  • And we treat it, and we expect it,
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  • And we expect it, like the halves
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  • Like the halves are gonna become whole.
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  • Are gonna become whole. but i found out
  • 00:14:48.684 --> 00:14:49.151
  • But i found out if you go into a marriage half,
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  • If you go into a marriage half, the two halves
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  • The two halves are gonna make hell,
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  • Are gonna make hell, not whole.
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  • Not whole. [laughter]
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  • [laughter] straight teaching pastor steven.
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  • Straight teaching pastor steven. that's very true pastor.
  • 00:14:59.194 --> 00:15:03.232
  • That's very true pastor. so, what is your focus?
  • 00:15:03.299 --> 00:15:05.000
  • So, what is your focus? eric my best friend,
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  • Eric my best friend, my best friend
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  • My best friend in the world is here.
  • 00:15:06.535 --> 00:15:07.503
  • In the world is here. i mean, holly's my best friend,
  • 00:15:07.569 --> 00:15:08.304
  • I mean, holly's my best friend, but my best friend
  • 00:15:08.370 --> 00:15:11.240
  • But my best friend that's a guy,
  • 00:15:11.307 --> 00:15:11.974
  • That's a guy, other than my sons.
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  • Other than my sons. one of my friends eric is here.
  • 00:15:12.908 --> 00:15:14.677
  • One of my friends eric is here. [laughter]
  • 00:15:14.743 --> 00:15:16.245
  • [laughter] he's been my buddy
  • 00:15:16.312 --> 00:15:17.579
  • He's been my buddy since high school,
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  • Since high school, really since middle school.
  • 00:15:19.281 --> 00:15:20.316
  • Really since middle school. we got in trouble together
  • 00:15:20.382 --> 00:15:21.517
  • We got in trouble together and eric's still saved
  • 00:15:21.583 --> 00:15:22.418
  • And eric's still saved most days.
  • 00:15:22.484 --> 00:15:25.587
  • Most days. and he came over to my house
  • 00:15:25.654 --> 00:15:28.023
  • And he came over to my house the other day,
  • 00:15:28.090 --> 00:15:28.891
  • The other day, we were gonna work out
  • 00:15:28.958 --> 00:15:29.591
  • We were gonna work out and he was all grumpy
  • 00:15:29.658 --> 00:15:30.859
  • And he was all grumpy and sluggish and everything.
  • 00:15:30.926 --> 00:15:31.894
  • And sluggish and everything. i said what's
  • 00:15:31.961 --> 00:15:32.494
  • I said what's "wrong with you man?"
  • 00:15:32.561 --> 00:15:33.429
  • "wrong with you man?" he said well, these,
  • 00:15:33.495 --> 00:15:34.997
  • He said well, these, "i've been up since 4:00 a.m.",
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  • "i've been up since 4:00 a.m.", i said "why?"
  • 00:15:37.199 --> 00:15:37.933
  • I said "why?" he said "these kids,
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  • He said "these kids, these punk kids
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  • These punk kids in my neighborhood
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  • In my neighborhood been ringing my doorbell
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  • Been ringing my doorbell in the middle of the night.
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  • In the middle of the night. they've done it 10 times."
  • 00:15:42.938 --> 00:15:44.206
  • They've done it 10 times." [laughter]
  • 00:15:44.273 --> 00:15:45.674
  • [laughter] he said "i'm gonna catch em
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  • He said "i'm gonna catch em though, i'm gonna catch em.
  • 00:15:46.775 --> 00:15:48.177
  • Though, i'm gonna catch em. i got a camera
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  • I got a camera on my doorbell,
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  • On my doorbell, i put a camera in my doorbell
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  • I put a camera in my doorbell and i'ma catch em
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  • And i'ma catch em but these kids are smart man.
  • 00:15:53.515 --> 00:15:54.950
  • But these kids are smart man. smart punks, they came up,
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  • Smart punks, they came up, they covered the camera
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  • They covered the camera on the doorbell and then when,
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  • On the doorbell and then when, from the side
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  • From the side and i'ma catch em."
  • 00:16:01.290 --> 00:16:02.224
  • And i'ma catch em." but i stopped and asked him
  • 00:16:02.291 --> 00:16:02.958
  • But i stopped and asked him a question, i think
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  • A question, i think its a good question,
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  • Its a good question, i said
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  • I said "and what will you do
  • 00:16:05.294 --> 00:16:06.228
  • "and what will you do when you catch them?"
  • 00:16:06.295 --> 00:16:09.431
  • When you catch them?" isn't that a good question
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  • Isn't that a good question if somebody's looking
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  • If somebody's looking for a woman or looking
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  • For a woman or looking for a man?
  • 00:16:12.101 --> 00:16:14.570
  • For a man? what will you do?
  • 00:16:14.636 --> 00:16:16.939
  • What will you do? if you catch them?
  • 00:16:17.006 --> 00:16:19.341
  • If you catch them? but we are so focused
  • 00:16:19.408 --> 00:16:20.342
  • But we are so focused on the catching
  • 00:16:20.409 --> 00:16:21.276
  • On the catching that we don't even pay attention
  • 00:16:21.343 --> 00:16:22.311
  • That we don't even pay attention to the commitment
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  • To the commitment that is required.
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  • That is required. [applause]
  • 00:16:25.280 --> 00:16:29.685
  • [applause] so what is your focus?
  • 00:16:29.752 --> 00:16:32.087
  • So what is your focus? is it what you what you
  • 00:16:32.154 --> 00:16:33.589
  • Is it what you what you can control which is
  • 00:16:33.655 --> 00:16:35.190
  • Can control which is what god is doing in your life
  • 00:16:35.257 --> 00:16:36.759
  • What god is doing in your life or is it finding, you know?
  • 00:16:36.825 --> 00:16:38.861
  • Or is it finding, you know? gotta find a woman,
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  • Gotta find a woman, then you gotta find a ring,
  • 00:16:40.229 --> 00:16:41.630
  • Then you gotta find a ring, then you gotta find some money,
  • 00:16:41.697 --> 00:16:44.166
  • Then you gotta find some money, and you gotta find a date
  • 00:16:44.233 --> 00:16:45.000
  • And you gotta find a date to get married,
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  • To get married, and a place to get married
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  • And a place to get married that everybody can come
  • 00:16:47.136 --> 00:16:48.170
  • That everybody can come to all on the same day.
  • 00:16:48.237 --> 00:16:49.872
  • To all on the same day. working out continents,
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  • Working out continents, different continents people
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  • Different continents people coming together
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  • Coming together from all these different places
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  • From all these different places in the world and you gotta
  • 00:16:54.510 --> 00:16:55.377
  • In the world and you gotta find the dresses
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  • Find the dresses for the bridesmaids,
  • 00:16:56.612 --> 00:16:57.579
  • For the bridesmaids, something that they'll all wear
  • 00:16:57.646 --> 00:16:58.981
  • Something that they'll all wear and won't complain about,
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  • And won't complain about, and look good against
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  • And look good against their skin tone.
  • 00:17:00.849 --> 00:17:01.784
  • Their skin tone. and you gotta find a house,
  • 00:17:01.850 --> 00:17:03.419
  • And you gotta find a house, and find a job and finding,
  • 00:17:03.485 --> 00:17:06.688
  • And find a job and finding, finding, finding, finding,
  • 00:17:06.755 --> 00:17:07.856
  • Finding, finding, finding, finding, finding,
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  • Finding, finding, finding, finding.
  • 00:17:08.657 --> 00:17:10.025
  • Finding, finding. do you see the pattern here?
  • 00:17:10.092 --> 00:17:12.694
  • Do you see the pattern here? but god said,
  • 00:17:12.761 --> 00:17:13.929
  • But god said, while all of that has its place
  • 00:17:13.996 --> 00:17:17.132
  • While all of that has its place if you will focus on becoming,
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  • If you will focus on becoming, remember he said
  • 00:17:18.734 --> 00:17:19.468
  • Remember he said the two will become one.
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  • The two will become one. that's the focus.
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  • That's the focus. what are you becoming?
  • 00:17:25.374 --> 00:17:28.077
  • What are you becoming? its a good question to ask.
  • 00:17:28.143 --> 00:17:30.579
  • Its a good question to ask. another thing that jesus
  • 00:17:30.646 --> 00:17:31.380
  • Another thing that jesus mentions is our tendency
  • 00:17:31.447 --> 00:17:33.382
  • Mentions is our tendency to live in another time.
  • 00:17:33.449 --> 00:17:36.251
  • To live in another time. so let me ask my second focus
  • 00:17:36.318 --> 00:17:37.619
  • So let me ask my second focus question, are you focused
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  • Question, are you focused on then or now?
  • 00:17:39.088 --> 00:17:45.027
  • On then or now? then or now?
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  • Then or now? he said don't worry
  • 00:17:46.462 --> 00:17:47.496
  • He said don't worry about tomorrow,
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  • About tomorrow, not because you don't have
  • 00:17:49.932 --> 00:17:50.732
  • Not because you don't have the tendency to or not
  • 00:17:50.799 --> 00:17:51.934
  • The tendency to or not because it isn't reasonable to,
  • 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:53.469
  • Because it isn't reasonable to, just because it doesn't work.
  • 00:17:53.535 --> 00:17:56.605
  • Just because it doesn't work. you know the corrie ten
  • 00:17:56.672 --> 00:17:57.473
  • You know the corrie ten boom quote, you may not know
  • 00:17:57.539 --> 00:17:58.407
  • Boom quote, you may not know that she said it,
  • 00:17:58.474 --> 00:17:59.141
  • That she said it, but she said that
  • 00:17:59.208 --> 00:17:59.741
  • But she said that "worry does not empty tomorrow
  • 00:17:59.808 --> 00:18:00.742
  • "worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow,
  • 00:18:00.809 --> 00:18:01.543
  • Of its sorrow, but only empties today
  • 00:18:01.610 --> 00:18:02.411
  • But only empties today of its strength."
  • 00:18:02.478 --> 00:18:03.979
  • Of its strength." and i believe that.
  • 00:18:04.046 --> 00:18:05.747
  • And i believe that. while we've talked so much
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  • While we've talked so much about the importance
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  • About the importance of not living in your past
  • 00:18:08.984 --> 00:18:10.519
  • Of not living in your past and the danger of living
  • 00:18:10.586 --> 00:18:11.620
  • And the danger of living in yesterday,
  • 00:18:11.687 --> 00:18:13.689
  • In yesterday, i certainly think a lot
  • 00:18:13.755 --> 00:18:15.757
  • I certainly think a lot of relationships are sabotaged
  • 00:18:15.824 --> 00:18:17.025
  • Of relationships are sabotaged by things that happened
  • 00:18:17.092 --> 00:18:17.826
  • By things that happened before they ever began.
  • 00:18:17.893 --> 00:18:20.963
  • Before they ever began. that weren't deal with.
  • 00:18:21.029 --> 00:18:23.799
  • That weren't deal with. and so we project
  • 00:18:23.866 --> 00:18:24.466
  • And so we project onto other people trust issues
  • 00:18:24.533 --> 00:18:26.168
  • Onto other people trust issues that were developed
  • 00:18:26.235 --> 00:18:27.903
  • That were developed because of another person's
  • 00:18:27.970 --> 00:18:29.571
  • Because of another person's actions, and start saying
  • 00:18:29.638 --> 00:18:32.608
  • Actions, and start saying things to somebody
  • 00:18:32.674 --> 00:18:33.509
  • Things to somebody that we just me like
  • 00:18:33.575 --> 00:18:34.610
  • That we just me like who's texting you?
  • 00:18:34.676 --> 00:18:35.744
  • Who's texting you? [laughter]
  • 00:18:35.811 --> 00:18:41.216
  • [laughter] and its not that
  • 00:18:41.283 --> 00:18:41.783
  • And its not that you ever caught him
  • 00:18:41.850 --> 00:18:43.819
  • You ever caught him doing anything its just that
  • 00:18:43.886 --> 00:18:45.687
  • Doing anything its just that its been done to you before.
  • 00:18:45.754 --> 00:18:48.891
  • Its been done to you before. and so now you're worried,
  • 00:18:48.957 --> 00:18:50.392
  • And so now you're worried, you're bringing
  • 00:18:50.459 --> 00:18:50.893
  • You're bringing the past into present
  • 00:18:50.959 --> 00:18:51.927
  • The past into present and that's dangerous.
  • 00:18:51.994 --> 00:18:52.728
  • And that's dangerous. you gotta deal with that stuff.
  • 00:18:52.794 --> 00:18:54.663
  • You gotta deal with that stuff. however, because my texts
  • 00:18:54.730 --> 00:18:55.797
  • However, because my texts led me here i was a little bit
  • 00:18:55.864 --> 00:18:57.533
  • Led me here i was a little bit more fascinated with this idea
  • 00:18:57.599 --> 00:18:59.268
  • More fascinated with this idea of how many of us live not
  • 00:18:59.334 --> 00:19:00.969
  • Of how many of us live not in the past, but the future.
  • 00:19:01.036 --> 00:19:04.873
  • In the past, but the future. jesus said don't worry
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  • Jesus said don't worry about tomorrow,
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  • About tomorrow, and it is equally important
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  • And it is equally important that we don't wish away today,
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  • That we don't wish away today, waiting for tomorrow to come.
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  • Waiting for tomorrow to come. tomorrow is a sexy place
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  • Tomorrow is a sexy place to vacation in your mind,
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  • To vacation in your mind, because its totally imaginary.
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  • Because its totally imaginary. tomorrow is a wonderful place
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  • Tomorrow is a wonderful place to visit in your mind,
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  • To visit in your mind, it brings hope into the present,
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  • It brings hope into the present, i think its cool to have
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  • I think its cool to have a vision for the future,
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  • A vision for the future, you know i think its cool
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  • You know i think its cool to think ahead, plan ahead
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  • To think ahead, plan ahead iras and all of that,
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  • Iras and all of that, i'm a big fan.
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  • I'm a big fan. but i do think at the same time
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  • But i do think at the same time you can't live there.
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  • You can't live there. but its so nice to, you know?
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  • But its so nice to, you know? it is so freeing from
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  • It is so freeing from the constraints
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  • The constraints of my current struggle,
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  • Of my current struggle, which is so real,
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  • Which is so real, to just shuttle myself to --
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  • To just shuttle myself to -- ♪ tomorrow, tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ tomorrow, tomorrow ♪ ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪ see how good it sounds?
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  • See how good it sounds? and it feels?
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  • And it feels? ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ i'll love you tomorrow ♪ you never hear anybody saying...
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  • You never hear anybody saying... ♪ today ♪
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  • ♪ today ♪ see it doesn't even sound
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  • See it doesn't even sound as good, does it?
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  • As good, does it? it doesn't have
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  • It doesn't have the same cadence.
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  • The same cadence. ♪ today, today ♪
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  • ♪ i hate you, today ♪
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  • ♪ i wish you would go away ♪
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  • ♪ i wish you would go away ♪ ♪ but tomorrow, tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ but tomorrow, tomorrow ♪ ♪ its gonna be better ♪
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  • ♪ its gonna be better ♪ ♪ tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ tomorrow ♪ ♪ cause my kids aren't ♪
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  • ♪ cause my kids aren't ♪ ♪ gonna be in diapers tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ gonna be in diapers tomorrow ♪ ♪ my kids are gonna be ♪
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  • ♪ my kids are gonna be ♪ ♪ out of high school tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ out of high school tomorrow ♪ ♪ i'm gonna be an empty ♪
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  • ♪ i'm gonna be an empty ♪ ♪ nester tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ nester tomorrow ♪ ♪ i built my identity ♪
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  • ♪ i built my identity ♪ ♪ around my kids tomorrow ♪
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  • ♪ around my kids tomorrow ♪ ♪ tomorrow ♪
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  • Its about focus.
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  • Its about focus. its about focus.
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  • Its about focus. and the only way to tomorrow
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  • And the only way to tomorrow is through today
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  • Is through today so you gotta live there,
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  • So you gotta live there, you gotta live there.
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  • You gotta live there. you can't do it like,
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  • You can't do it like, well, you know if i had a man.
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  • Well, you know if i had a man. and i know that's easy
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  • And i know that's easy for me to say,
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  • For me to say, i know its whatever its easy
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  • I know its whatever its easy for me to say.
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  • For me to say. but its kind of easy
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  • But its kind of easy for you single people
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  • For you single people to tell us what marriage
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  • To tell us what marriage is like too, alright?
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  • Is like too, alright? so we can all have
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  • So we can all have a decent conversation.
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  • A decent conversation. and by the way, i would just
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  • And by the way, i would just put it out there to any of us
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  • Put it out there to any of us who are married or single,
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  • Who are married or single, lets talk in the realm
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  • Lets talk in the realm of what we know,
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  • Of what we know, not in the realm of
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  • Not in the realm of what we think somebody.
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  • What we think somebody. have you ever noticed
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  • Have you ever noticed how easy it is for you
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  • How easy it is for you to give advice
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  • To give advice when you're looking at
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  • When you're looking at what's in somebody else's eye?
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  • What's in somebody else's eye? jesus shifts gears
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  • Jesus shifts gears in this teaching
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  • In this teaching and he's going from comfort
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  • And he's going from comfort to challenge
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  • To challenge and god is good at both
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  • And god is good at both so he says hey i got you,
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  • So he says hey i got you, i know what you need,
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  • I know what you need, you don't need somebody
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  • You don't need somebody to complete you, you are
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  • To complete you, you are already the total package.
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  • Already the total package. you don't need clothes or food
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  • You don't need clothes or food any of these things.
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  • Any of these things. i know what you need
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  • I know what you need and you're good in my sight
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  • And you're good in my sight and your life doesn't begin
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  • And your life doesn't begin when the next stage starts.
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  • When the next stage starts. it starts right now
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  • It starts right now so don't worry about it.
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  • So don't worry about it. now don't judge!
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  • Now don't judge! just outta nowhere.
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  • Just outta nowhere. what's your focus?
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  • Is your focus on what is not,
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  • Is your focus on what is not, or what you've got?
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  • >> i'm so excited
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  • >> i'm so excited to share something special
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  • To share something special with you that i believe
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  • With you that i believe will have a big impact
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  • Will have a big impact on your life.
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  • On your life. it's called,
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  • It's called, "relationship essentials."
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  • "relationship essentials." and this set combines
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  • And this set combines two of my absolute favorite
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  • Series from my husband.
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  • Series from my husband. we all know that relationships
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  • We all know that relationships can be complicated.
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  • Can be complicated. navigating love,
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  • Navigating love, and friendships,
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  • And friendships, and family can sometimes
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  • And family can sometimes leave us feeling
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  • Leave us feeling lost and confused.
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  • Lost and confused. and you could be surrounded
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  • And you could be surrounded by friends and family yet
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  • By friends and family yet feel completely alone.
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  • Feel completely alone. that's why this
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  • That's why this set is so important.
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  • Set is so important. it offers real insights
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  • It offers real insights and practical tools to help
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  • And practical tools to help you strengthen your connections
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  • You strengthen your connections and heal from past hurts.
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  • And heal from past hurts. each sermon provides guidance
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  • Each sermon provides guidance on building healthier
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  • On building healthier relationships that are grounded
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  • Relationships that are grounded in biblical principles.
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  • In biblical principles. the bible shows us that god
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  • The bible shows us that god intended for you to have people
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  • Intended for you to have people in your life,
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  • In your life, people who support you,
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  • People who support you, and challenge you,
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  • And challenge you, and help you
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  • And help you to grow in your faith.
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  • To grow in your faith. you were not meant
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  • You were not meant to live life alone.
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  • To live life alone. i truly believe that
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  • I truly believe that "relationship essentials,"
  • 00:23:30.672 --> 00:23:31.873
  • "relationship essentials," will be a game changer
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  • Will be a game changer for you and your relationships.
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  • For you and your relationships. to receive this set,
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  • To receive this set, all you have to do
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  • All you have to do is call or go online.
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  • Is call or go online. it's available
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  • It's available for your gift of any amount.
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  • For your gift of any amount. together, we can get
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  • Together, we can get our relationships back
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  • Our relationships back on track and make sure
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  • On track and make sure that they stay strong.
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  • That they stay strong. so, don't wait,
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  • So, don't wait, call or go online right
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  • Call or go online right now and i'll see you
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  • Now and i'll see you back here next time.
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  • >> "relationship essentials"
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  • Features two
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  • Of pastor steven furtick's
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  • Most requested series,
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  • "meant to be,"
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  • And "the other half."
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  • "meant to be,"
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  • Is a powerful five-part series
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  • Uncovering the bible's
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  • Best kept secrets about sex,
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  • Marriage, and being single.
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  • And, "the other half,"
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  • Is a four-part series
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  • That provides practical steps
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  • To shift your focus
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  • In relationships and prioritize
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  • What matters most.
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  • Together these two series
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  • Provide the tools you need
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  • For healthier relationships
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  • God's way.
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  • "relationship essentials"
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  • >> ♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
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  • ♪ heavy with rain ♪
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  • ♪ and it looks like revival ♪
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  • ♪ is headed our way ♪
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  • ♪ i can see a cloud ♪
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  • ♪ heavy with rain ♪
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  • ♪ and it looks ♪
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  • ♪ like salvation ♪
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  • ♪ salvation ♪
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  • ♪ is headed our way ♪
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  • ♪ ♪
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  • ♪ he shames every idol ♪
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  • ♪ he reigns without rival ♪
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  • ♪ he goes by ♪
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  • ♪ the name of jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ he speaks into nothing ♪
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  • ♪ and darkness goes running ♪
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  • ♪ yeah ♪
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  • ♪ he goes by the name ♪
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  • ♪ of jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ belongs to him ♪
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  • ♪ all the praise is his ♪
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  • ♪ let's go ♪
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  • ♪ his foes will be ♪
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  • ♪ silenced ♪
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  • ♪ he's fighting for zion ♪
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  • ♪ oh oh oh oh oh ♪
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  • ♪ there's no other god ♪
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  • ♪ like jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ his arm never tires ♪
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  • ♪ his eyes are like fire ♪
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  • ♪ oh oh oh oh ♪
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  • ♪ there's no other god ♪
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  • ♪ like jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ jehovah ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ all our praise ♪
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  • ♪ belongs to him ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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  • ♪ call the name ♪
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