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Steven Furtick - Is It Good For A Man To Not Have Sexual Relations With A Woman (Part 1)

February 3, 2025 | S25:E33

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Steven Furtick | Steven Furtick - Is It Good For A Man To Not Have Sexual Relations With A Woman (Part 1) | February 3, 2025

An encouraging message
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From pastor steven furtick
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Of elevation church.
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If you're looking
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To strengthen your faith
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And shift your perspective,
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Stay tuned.
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♪ ♪
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>> we're starting
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>> we're starting this series today,
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This series today, which i have boldly called --
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Which i have boldly called -- well, the title is
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Well, the title is meant to be,
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Meant to be, but the subtitle says
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But the subtitle says it's the bibles best kept
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It's the bibles best kept secrets about sex, marriage,
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Secrets about sex, marriage, and being single.
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And being single. and, i say it because
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And, i say it because i'm gonna preach
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I'm gonna preach from a chapter of scripture
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From a chapter of scripture for the next five weeks
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For the next five weeks that i haven't heard a lot
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That i haven't heard a lot of preachers preach from
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Of preachers preach from because it's very bizarre.
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Turn in your bible
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Turn in your bible to 1 corinthians 7.
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To 1 corinthians 7. last week we said goodbye
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Last week we said goodbye to jacob in our series,
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To jacob in our series, "death to selfie."
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"death to selfie." i have been mourning
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I have been mourning the loss of jacob all week.
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The loss of jacob all week. i enjoyed preaching about him
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I enjoyed preaching about him so much and i've been,
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Yeah, i've been --
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[applause]
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Yeah, i've been --
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Yeah, i've been -- i've been in mourning
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I've been in mourning this week.
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This week. just, like, just not even
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Just, like, just not even wanting to move on, just --
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Wanting to move on, just -- but we gotta go now.
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But we gotta go now. and, i like to teach
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And, i like to teach and preach in several
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And preach in several different styles as well.
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Different styles as well. i don't think that you should
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I don't think that you should come to church and just be
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Come to church and just be addicted to one style
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Addicted to one style of ministry,
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Of ministry, one style of music,
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One style of music, or one style of preaching.
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Or one style of preaching. so, i would say our last series
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So, i would say our last series was a pretty preachy series,
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Was a pretty preachy series, yeah?
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Yeah? give you
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Give you a lot of opportunities
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A lot of opportunities to get up on your feet
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To get up on your feet and respond to god's word.
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And respond to god's word. i wanna teach a little bit over
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I wanna teach a little bit over the next five weeks and just
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The next five weeks and just get into this one chapter
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Get into this one chapter of scripture
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Of scripture and just take it
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And just take it verse by verse and see what
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Verse by verse and see what god has to say to us about
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God has to say to us about the relationships in our lives.
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The relationships in our lives. i wanted to do it in a way
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I wanted to do it in a way that would feel fresh
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That would feel fresh and so i haven't divided up
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And so i haven't divided up each week into
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Each week into this is the week for
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This is the week for the single people and this is
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The single people and this is the week for the married people
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The week for the married people and this is the week --
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And this is the week -- i didn't wanna do that
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I didn't wanna do that because it's so predictable
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Because it's so predictable and so i'm gonna let
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And so i'm gonna let the scripture be our guide,
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The scripture be our guide, which is probably a good idea
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Which is probably a good idea anyway rather than me
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Anyway rather than me dividing up my opinions
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Dividing up my opinions of what i think you
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Of what i think you need to hear about.
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Need to hear about. just let the text set
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Just let the text set the trajectory of the series
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The trajectory of the series and so, whereas in our
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And so, whereas in our last series we covered,
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Last series we covered, i think 12 chapters
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I think 12 chapters of scripture give or take,
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Of scripture give or take, we're only going to stay on one
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We're only going to stay on one for this five-week series
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For this five-week series and just take these verses
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And just take these verses and see what god
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And see what god would say to us today.
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Would say to us today. and, i know it'll speak to your
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And, i know it'll speak to your situation wherever you are.
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Situation wherever you are. he has the ability to do that
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He has the ability to do that and only he can.
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And only he can. i mean, this is a
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I mean, this is a supernatural thing
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Supernatural thing that we could have people
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That we could have people in the room who are on
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In the room who are on their fourth marriage
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Their fourth marriage and people in the room
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And people in the room who are 14 years old
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Who are 14 years old and god can, through his word,
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And god can, through his word, just divide it and get you
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Just divide it and get you the portion that you need
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The portion that you need and the way you need
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And the way you need to hear and we're praying
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To hear and we're praying that he would do that
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That he would do that and we just,
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And we just, we're believing for some
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We're believing for some really great things
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Really great things in this series.
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In this series. let's get to it.
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Let's get to it. i'm taking up all my time
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I'm taking up all my time in introductory remarks
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In introductory remarks and i've got a lot
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And i've got a lot to say to you.
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To say to you. god's put a lot on my heart.
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God's put a lot on my heart. 1 corinthians 7:1-7.
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1 corinthians 7:1-7. i'll read it really fast
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I'll read it really fast and then i'll back up
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And then i'll back up and take it apart
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And take it apart a little bit this week.
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A little bit this week. you'll need to come
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You'll need to come several weeks of this series
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Several weeks of this series or you're going to get
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Or you're going to get an imbalanced view
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An imbalanced view of what we're trying to say.
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Of what we're trying to say. i cannot possibly address
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I cannot possibly address everything in the opening week.
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Everything in the opening week. so, you're gonna have to take
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So, you're gonna have to take some initiative for this
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Some initiative for this to really make a difference
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To really make a difference in your life and we believe
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In your life and we believe that it will.
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1 corinthians 7:1-7,
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1 corinthians 7:1-7, "paul says,
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"paul says, 'now for the matters
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'now for the matters you wrote about,
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You wrote about, it is good for a man
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It is good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman but since
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With a woman but since sexual immorality is occurring,
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Sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have
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Each man should have sexual relations with
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Sexual relations with his own wife and each woman
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His own wife and each woman with her own husband.
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With her own husband. the husband should fulfill
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The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife
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His marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife
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And likewise the wife to her husband.
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To her husband. the wife does not have
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The wife does not have authority over her own body
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Authority over her own body but yields it to her husband
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But yields it to her husband in the same way
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In the same way the husband does not have
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The husband does not have authority over his own body
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Authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
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But yields it to his wife. do not deprive each other
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Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent
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Except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time so that you may
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And for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.
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Devote yourselves to prayer. then come together again so that
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Then come together again so that satan will not temp you because
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Satan will not temp you because of your lack of self-control.
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Of your lack of self-control. i say this as a concession,
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I say this as a concession, not as a command.
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Not as a command. i wish that all of you were
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I wish that all of you were as i am but each of you
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As i am but each of you has your own gift from god.
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Has your own gift from god. one has this gift,
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One has this gift, another has that.'"
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Another has that.'" let's go back to verse one
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Let's go back to verse one to begin our study today
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To begin our study today where paul says,
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Where paul says, "now, for the matters
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"now, for the matters you wrote about,
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You wrote about, it is good for a man
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It is good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman."
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With a woman." the title of my message today,
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Appropriately i think is,
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Appropriately i think is, "it is good for a man
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"it is good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman."
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With a woman." if you're looking for a title
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If you're looking for a title to put on top of your
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To put on top of your worship guide there,
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Worship guide there, this is the title.
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This is the title. usually they're catchier
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Usually they're catchier and a little punchier
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And a little punchier but this week,
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But this week, we're just going to go with
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We're just going to go with exactly what paul said
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Exactly what paul said in the text
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In the text and we're gonna talk about
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And we're gonna talk about it is good for a man
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It is good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman.
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With a woman. how many of you agree
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How many of you agree with the apostle paul
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With the apostle paul here on this point,
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Here on this point, that it is good for a man
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That it is good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman?
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With a woman? if you're uncomfortable
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If you're uncomfortable already at this point
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Already at this point in the sermon you should
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In the sermon you should definitely go to ekidz,
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Definitely go to ekidz, i'm sure they'd make
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I'm sure they'd make an exception for you as well.
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An exception for you as well. it's gonna get a lot more
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It's gonna get a lot more awkward than this and i know
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Awkward than this and i know there's a guy that is
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There's a guy that is looking at the title
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Looking at the title of my sermon today saying,
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Of my sermon today saying, "oh, crap, i hate this church,"
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"oh, crap, i hate this church," because this is the way
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Because this is the way you've always viewed church
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You've always viewed church when it comes to matters
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When it comes to matters of sexuality.
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Of sexuality. it's like, you know,
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It's like, you know, paul is actually single
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Paul is actually single when he's writing this,
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When he's writing this, most scholars believe
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Most scholars believe that he had a wife
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That he had a wife at one point but she died.
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At one point but she died. because to have a position
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Because to have a position like he had in hebrew culture,
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Like he had in hebrew culture, in jewish culture,
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In jewish culture, he would have had a wife.
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He would have had a wife. he would have been required
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He would have been required to have a wife but he doesn't
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To have a wife but he doesn't have a wife anymore,
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Have a wife anymore, we find out in the chapter,
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We find out in the chapter, and she probably has died
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And she probably has died because he would have not been
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Because he would have not been permitted to divorce
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Permitted to divorce and then keep his position.
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And then keep his position. so, he probably had a wife
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So, he probably had a wife and she died
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And she died but now he's saying it is
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But now he's saying it is good for man to not have
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Good for man to not have sexual relations with a woman.
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Sexual relations with a woman. and, part of us thinks,
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And, part of us thinks, you know,
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You know, "well, oh, is paul like
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"well, oh, is paul like the guy who because he isn't,
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The guy who because he isn't, you know, getting any,
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You know, getting any, we're not allowed to either?"
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We're not allowed to either?" which is how the church
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Which is how the church is often seen.
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Is often seen. like, you guys don't
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Like, you guys don't have any sex so,
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You spend all your time
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You spend all your time trying to keep all the rest
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Trying to keep all the rest of us from having sex as well.
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Of us from having sex as well. and, there's a tendency to think
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And, there's a tendency to think that that's what paul
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That that's what paul is doing here,
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Is doing here, but in order to understand
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But in order to understand the text, you do have
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The text, you do have to understand the context,
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To understand the context, and it's always
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And it's always an important thing.
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An important thing. so, i wanna walk you
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Through this.
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Through this. now, i won't take long,
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Now, i won't take long, i'm just introducing the topic
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I'm just introducing the topic this week and we'll get more
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This week and we'll get more in depth in the coming weeks.
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In depth in the coming weeks. but i just wanna have
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But i just wanna have a conversation and open
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A conversation and open the conversation with you
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The conversation with you from this chapter of scripture
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From this chapter of scripture that was originally part
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That was originally part of a letter that paul wrote
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Of a letter that paul wrote to a church at corinth
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To a church at corinth that was experiencing
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That was experiencing great division and dysfunction.
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Great division and dysfunction. and paul, like a good pastor,
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And paul, like a good pastor, is taking the questions
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Is taking the questions of the people in the culture
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Of the people in the culture of their day with
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Of their day with the complications
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The complications they were facing
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They were facing and he's speaking into culture.
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And he's speaking into culture. the first thing,
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The first thing, i have four of these
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I have four of these that we wanna talk about today
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That we wanna talk about today is the tension between
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Is the tension between questions and issues.
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Questions and issues. the tension between
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The tension between questions and issues.
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Questions and issues. see, if you notice here in
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The first verse of this chapter,
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The first verse of this chapter, before paul says it is good
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Before paul says it is good for a man not to have
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For a man not to have sexual relations with a woman,
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Sexual relations with a woman, he says in his
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He says in his introductory phrase,
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Introductory phrase, "now, for the matters
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"now, for the matters you wrote about."
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You wrote about." so, apparently,
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The corinthian church had
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The corinthian church had put together a list of questions
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Put together a list of questions for the great apostle paul
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For the great apostle paul and they asked him questions,
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And they asked him questions, you know, a list of questions.
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You know, a list of questions. "hey, paul, here's what
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"hey, paul, here's what we need to know about.
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We need to know about. here's what we're dealing with."
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Here's what we're dealing with." and in this list you're about
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And in this list you're about to see paul answer many
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To see paul answer many of their questions
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Of their questions in 1 corinthians 7 like,
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In 1 corinthians 7 like, what about widows
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What about widows and what about people
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And what about people who have been divorced?
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Who have been divorced? and okay, if you choose to be
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And okay, if you choose to be celibate is that okay?
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Celibate is that okay? are people who chose to be
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Are people who chose to be single more spiritual than
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Single more spiritual than people who chose to be married?
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And on and on.
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And on and on. and, he's about to answer their
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And, he's about to answer their questions but i wanna point out
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Questions but i wanna point out the fact that it's been
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The fact that it's been six chapters and he's just
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Six chapters and he's just now getting around
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Now getting around to answering their questions.
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To answering their questions. here's why, because often
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Here's why, because often there's a difference between
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There's a difference between the questions that we ask
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The questions that we ask and the real issues
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And the real issues that we're dealing with,
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That we're dealing with, and god is not nearly
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As concerned with answering
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As concerned with answering our questions as he is with
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Our questions as he is with dealing with our real issues.
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Dealing with our real issues. and so, paul,
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And so, paul, paul does something really,
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Paul does something really, really unique, he goes through
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Really unique, he goes through six chapters where he doesn't
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Six chapters where he doesn't even mention their questions
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Even mention their questions and he tells them the answers
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And he tells them the answers to the questions that
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To the questions that they should be asking.
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They should be asking. like, check this out,
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Like, check this out, in chapter five,
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1 corinthians 5,
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1 corinthians 5, here's one, he says,
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Here's one, he says, "hey, it's actually reported,
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"hey, it's actually reported, like i heard this report,
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Like i heard this report, that there is sexual immorality
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That there is sexual immorality among you and of a kind
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Among you and of a kind that not even pagans
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That not even pagans will put up with.
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Will put up with. like, people who don't even
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Like, people who don't even know god don't do this.
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Know god don't do this. you've got a man in your church
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You've got a man in your church who's sleeping with
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Who's sleeping with his father's wife."
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His father's wife." so, paul addresses that
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So, paul addresses that issue in chapter five.
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Issue in chapter five. then in chapter six,
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Then in chapter six, he gets to another issue,
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He gets to another issue, he says,
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He says, "hey, do you not know
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"hey, do you not know that your bodies are members
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That your bodies are members of christ themselves?
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Of christ themselves? shall i then take
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Shall i then take the members of christ
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The members of christ and unite them
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And unite them with a prostitute?"
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With a prostitute?" so, there's widespread
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So, there's widespread prostitution rings in corinth
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And paul finds out that some
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And paul finds out that some of the church members are going
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Of the church members are going and doing this on the side.
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And doing this on the side. now, they didn't put that
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Now, they didn't put that in their list of questions
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In their list of questions that they sent to paul,
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That they sent to paul, but paul knew about it.
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But paul knew about it. so, he spends the first
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So, he spends the first six chapters saying, like,
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Six chapters saying, like, "hey, i know there's incest
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"hey, i know there's incest in the church, stop that!
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In the church, stop that! hey, i heard some of you are
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Hey, i heard some of you are going to hookers, cut it out!
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Going to hookers, cut it out! now, for the questions
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Now, for the questions you wrote to me about."
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[laughter]
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Sometimes the questions that
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Sometimes the questions that we ask are not the questions
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We ask are not the questions that we're really living.
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That we're really living. sometimes the questions that
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Sometimes the questions that we ask don't really indicate
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We ask don't really indicate the depth of the issues
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The depth of the issues that we really face.
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That we really face. we have three children, right,
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We have three children, right, three children.
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Three children. and...
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[laughter]
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Yeah, three children
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Yeah, three children and it will probably
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And it will probably stay right there.
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Stay right there. holly will look
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Holly will look at me many times,
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At me many times, this has happened many times,
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This has happened many times, especially in the last year
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Especially in the last year and she'll ask me a simple
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And she'll ask me a simple question when the kids are
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Question when the kids are perhaps out of hand she'll say,
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Perhaps out of hand she'll say, "do you need me to make you an
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"do you need me to make you an appointment or are you going
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Appointment or are you going to make the appointment?"
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To make the appointment?" in other words...
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[laughter]
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Three is good.
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Three is good. and so, that's where we're at
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And so, that's where we're at in our family planning.
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In our family planning. and so...
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[laughter]
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So...
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So...
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[laughter]
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So, when we had our
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So, when we had our little girl because
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Little girl because our two boys are older
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Our two boys are older and our little girl
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And our little girl is three and everybody
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Is three and everybody would tell me,
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Would tell me, "oh, it's different with girls,
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"oh, it's different with girls, it's different with girls,
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It's different with girls, it's different with girls,
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It's different with girls, it's different with girls."
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It's different with girls." i'm sure i do not understand
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I'm sure i do not understand the full extent
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The full extent of that claim yet
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Of that claim yet and i won't for some time.
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And i won't for some time. i did, however, happen to walk
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I did, however, happen to walk by my daughter on the way out
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By my daughter on the way out to preach today and guess
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To preach today and guess what she was doing?
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What she was doing? she was looking at
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She was looking at pictures of wedding dresses
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Pictures of wedding dresses on an iphone.
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On an iphone. she is three.
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She is three. one of our staff members,
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One of our staff members, named caroline,
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Named caroline, who was getting married,
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Who was getting married, was showing my daughter
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Pictures of wedding dresses.
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Pictures of wedding dresses. first, i fired caroline,
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First, i fired caroline, and second i told abby,
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And second i told abby, "put the phone down,
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"put the phone down, step away from the phone,
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Step away from the phone, this is ridiculous."
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This is ridiculous." and that's just one
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And that's just one of the many differences.
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Of the many differences. i've never seen elijah
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I've never seen elijah look at wedding dresses
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Look at wedding dresses on an iphone, never.
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Never.
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Never. but, one of the things
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But, one of the things i have noticed and this is
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I have noticed and this is probably the most evident way
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Probably the most evident way that it is different even
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That it is different even with abby only being three,
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With abby only being three, is not in just the types
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Is not in just the types of things that she wants
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Of things that she wants to talk about but the amount
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To talk about but the amount that she wants to talk about,
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That she wants to talk about, everything, which i thought was
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Everything, which i thought was a trait unique to holly.
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A trait unique to holly. you know, it shocked me when
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You know, it shocked me when we first got married and i have
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We first got married and i have a very blessed marriage, okay?
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A very blessed marriage, okay? and i don't mind sharing
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And i don't mind sharing with you about how
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With you about how our marriage is blessed.
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Our marriage is blessed. when i used to do
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When i used to do a relationship series,
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A relationship series, i would start with a preface,
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I would start with a preface, "hey, you know, we've only
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"hey, you know, we've only been married for a couple
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Been married for a couple of years and i know as many
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Of years and i know as many of you have been
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Of you have been married a lot longer
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Married a lot longer and i don't have a right
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And i don't have a right to tell you about marriage."
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To tell you about marriage." but i realized in this series,
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But i realized in this series, i've been married 12 years
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I've been married 12 years now and --
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[cheering and applause]
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That's --
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[applause]
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I think that's long enough,
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I think that's long enough, i'm out of, i'm out of,
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I'm out of, i'm out of, i'm out of rookie camp.
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[laughter]
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Like we've been through
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Like we've been through some things together now.
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Some things together now. we've weathered a few seasons
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We've weathered a few seasons together now and yes,
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Together now and yes, they are many
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They are many who've been married much
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Who've been married much longer and i probably will not
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Longer and i probably will not write a parenting book yet
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Write a parenting book yet until i have, you know,
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Until i have, you know, successfully shepherded
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Successfully shepherded my children through
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My children through their teenage years without
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Their teenage years without homicide occurring in our home.
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Homicide occurring in our home. but, i do think i don't
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But, i do think i don't have to get up and, like,
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Have to get up and, like, apologize anymore.
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Apologize anymore. like, we have a marriage
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Like, we have a marriage and i have some things
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And i have some things to say about marriage.
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To say about marriage. we have a blessed marriage
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We have a blessed marriage and we're in ministry together
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And we're in ministry together and we love each other and hey,
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And we love each other and hey, it's not perfect.
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It's not perfect. it's not.
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It's not. it's not perfect
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It's not perfect but it's blessed.
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But it's blessed. it's a blessed marriage
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It's a blessed marriage and there's a difference.
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And there's a difference. there is no perfect marriage
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There is no perfect marriage but there is a blessed marriage
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But there is a blessed marriage and we have a blessed
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And we have a blessed marriage man,
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Marriage man, it's true and i want you
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It's true and i want you to know that because
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To know that because you wouldn't walk in a gym
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You wouldn't walk in a gym and hire a trainer who was
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And hire a trainer who was fatter than you are.
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[laughter]
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Is that inappropriate
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Is that inappropriate to say?
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[laughter]
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I just kinda thought
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I just kinda thought it was instinctive, like,
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It was instinctive, like, i don't look for the guy
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I don't look for the guy who doesn't look better
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Who doesn't look better than me and ask him
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Than me and ask him to help me sculpt my body.
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To help me sculpt my body. so, you don't want a preacher
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So, you don't want a preacher with a jacked up marriage.
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With a jacked up marriage. and i'm just saying, like,
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And i'm just saying, like, we have struggles,
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We have struggles, we have issues
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We have issues but we love each other
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But we love each other and our family's in church
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And our family's in church and so anyway,
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And so anyway, with that being said...
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[applause]
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One of the things
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One of the things that i found very difficult
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That i found very difficult in our marriage is that
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In our marriage is that when i ask holly a question,
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When i ask holly a question, she not only answers
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She not only answers that question,
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That question, but i found
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But i found that she will answer
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That she will answer all of the questions
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All of the questions that she believes
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That she believes i should have asked
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I should have asked before she answers
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Before she answers the questions that i did ask.
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The questions that i did ask. and so, i've had to learn
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And so, i've had to learn to budget my time appropriately
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To budget my time appropriately when i ask her things like,
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When i ask her things like, "how was your day?"
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"how was your day?" or just a simple question like,
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Or just a simple question like, when i say, you know,
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When i say, you know, "how was lunch today?
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"how was lunch today? i know you had lunch today
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I know you had lunch today with nicole,
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With nicole, how was lunch today?"
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How was lunch today?" because she --
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Because she -- when i ask her that,
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When i ask her that, she will answer it but she
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She will answer it but she will not start with lunch,
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Will not start with lunch, she'll start with,
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She'll start with, you know when she woke up
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You know when she woke up 15 minutes late
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15 minutes late and she was already
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And she was already in a hurry and we had
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In a hurry and we had to get the kids to school.
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To get the kids to school. now the kids have been late
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Now the kids have been late two times and so we don't
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Two times and so we don't want 'em to be late for
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Want 'em to be late for a third time this semester.
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A third time this semester. and so, she got 'em to school.
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And so, she got 'em to school. when she dropped 'em off
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When she dropped 'em off at school she remembered
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At school she remembered that she had that thing
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That she had that thing in the back of her car
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In the back of her car that needed to go back
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To target but then she
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To target but then she realized that she needed
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Realized that she needed more gas in the car.
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More gas in the car. now, the gas is cheaper
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Now, the gas is cheaper at the gas station
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At the gas station on the other side of target
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On the other side of target and so i didn't know
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And so i didn't know if i should wait
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If i should wait but i stopped by target.
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But i stopped by target. while i was in line at target,
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While i was in line at target, i met a lady who said
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I met a lady who said she went to the church
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She went to the church and i couldn't tell
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And i couldn't tell if she comes a lot or if
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She just comes a little bit.
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She just comes a little bit. she was from new jersey and she
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She was from new jersey and she said she just moved to charlotte
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Said she just moved to charlotte and she moved to charlotte
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And she moved to charlotte because her husband's
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Because her husband's in the banking industry
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In the banking industry and she was telling me about
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And she was telling me about how their home in new jersey.
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How their home in new jersey. and i'm going, "wait a minute,
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And i'm going, "wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute.
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[laughter]
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In this story, you're telling,
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In this story, you're telling, we're only at 8:30...
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[laughter]
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In the morning.
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In the morning. is this gonna be real time?
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Is this gonna be real time? i wanna hear everything
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I wanna hear everything you have to say.
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You have to say. i am so captivated
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I am so captivated by this conversation,
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By this conversation, i just need to know,
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I just need to know, should i cancel my plans
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Should i cancel my plans for the rest of the night?"
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[laughter]
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Come on, somebody.
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[laughter]
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Don't you men
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Don't you men dare leave me up here
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Dare leave me up here by myself on this,
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By myself on this, it's just different.
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It's just different. because, typically a man
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Because, typically a man is going to respond
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Is going to respond to the question,
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To the question, "how was your day?"
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"how was your day?" with one syllable.
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With one syllable. it's monosyllabic.
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It's monosyllabic. it's just one --
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It's just one -- that's all we need.
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That's all we need. we got fine.
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We got fine. we got good,
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We got good, we got great and sometimes
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We got great and sometimes we can just shrug.
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We can just shrug. we don't even have to be
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We don't even have to be bothered with activating
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Bothered with activating our voice box at all.
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Our voice box at all. so, we have this ability
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So, we have this ability to communicate more succinctly.
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To communicate more succinctly. and, i used to think it was just
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And, i used to think it was just holly until the other day,
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Holly until the other day, i asked abby,
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I asked abby, "what's your
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"what's your favorite thing to do, abby?"
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Favorite thing to do, abby?" and she said, "well, i like
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And she said, "well, i like to go to the pool,
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To go to the pool, but this one time, bubba."
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But this one time, bubba." i said, "oh, god,
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I said, "oh, god, she's got the disease,
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She's got the disease, i mean the gift.
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I mean the gift. she's got the gift, too.
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She's got the gift, too. she's got the genetic
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She's got the genetic generational blessing
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Generational blessing too of elaboration."
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Too of elaboration." and so, in 1 corinthians 7,
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And so, in 1 corinthians 7, the apostle paul is acting
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The apostle paul is acting like a woman, y'all.
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[laughter]
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The corinthians wanna know,
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The corinthians wanna know, "hey, like is it okay
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"hey, like is it okay to be single?
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To be single? what should we do about widows?"
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What should we do about widows?" and they ask him this sanitized
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And they ask him this sanitized list of questions and he takes
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List of questions and he takes six chapters to deal with
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Six chapters to deal with their real issues before
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Their real issues before he will answer the questions.
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He will answer the questions. now, it's very possible that
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Now, it's very possible that you came to church today
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You came to church today with questions about
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With questions about your relationships,
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Your relationships, valid questions about
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Valid questions about your relationships like,
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Your relationships like, "how will i know
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"how will i know when he's the one,
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When he's the one, and how will i know
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And how will i know when the time is right,
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When the time is right, and how will i find
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And how will i find the right one?"
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The right one?" but, perhaps the question
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But, perhaps the question you're asking is not
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You're asking is not the real issue that
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The real issue that you need to be dealing with,
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You need to be dealing with, perhaps there's an issue
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Perhaps there's an issue that's more important
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That's more important than the question.
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Than the question. and perhaps before god
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And perhaps before god gives you some specific answers
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Gives you some specific answers to your questions,
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To your questions, he wants to give you
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He wants to give you some healing for some of your
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Some healing for some of your issues and some instructions
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Issues and some instructions for some of your issues.
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[applause]
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See, before you find
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See, before you find the right one and mess up
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The right one and mess up the right one,
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The right one, because you're not yet
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Because you're not yet the right one because you've
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The right one because you've got issues that are undealt with
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Got issues that are undealt with and you're looking
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And you're looking for somebody for security,
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For somebody for security, and before you reach out
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And before you reach out and try to put
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And try to put the weight of your life
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The weight of your life and the expectation
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And the expectation of your happiness
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Of your happiness on another person,
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On another person, perhaps god wants
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Perhaps god wants to teach you some sufficiency
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To teach you some sufficiency inside of yourself
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Inside of yourself in christ so that when
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In christ so that when you do meet somebody,
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You do meet somebody, you won't project
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You won't project all of your dysfunction
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All of your dysfunction on that relationship.
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On that relationship. 'cause you can turn
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'cause you can turn the right one into
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The right one into the wrong one if you
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The wrong one if you don't deal with your issues.
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[applause]
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Touch three people,
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Touch three people, tell 'em, "we got issues."
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Tell 'em, "we got issues." >> congregation: we got issues.
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>> congregation: we got issues. >> we do.
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>> we do. we do.
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We do. the church at corinth was crazy.
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The church at corinth was crazy. prostitutes and incest,
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Prostitutes and incest, and rampant misunderstandings
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And rampant misunderstandings of marriage.
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This church of new christians
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This church of new christians who were living
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Who were living under roman rule,
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Under roman rule, trying to figure out
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Trying to figure out how to do it god's way in
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How to do it god's way in a culture that was ungodly.
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A culture that was ungodly. and paul says, "let's talk about
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And paul says, "let's talk about the real issues."
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The real issues." now, historically the church
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Has been really good
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Has been really good at answering questions
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At answering questions that nobody is asking,
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That nobody is asking, while being silent
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While being silent about the struggles
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About the struggles that everybody is facing.
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That everybody is facing. so, we put charts on the wall
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So, we put charts on the wall about when jesus is coming back
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About when jesus is coming back even though he said nobody knew
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Even though he said nobody knew 'cause he's coming like
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'cause he's coming like a thief in the night.
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A thief in the night. meanwhile, we got
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Meanwhile, we got middle schoolers having
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Middle schoolers having oral sex on the back
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Oral sex on the back of the school bus
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Of the school bus and nobody's standing up
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And nobody's standing up and saying anything
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And saying anything about real issues.
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[applause]
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And we got christians
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And we got christians miserable in their marriages
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Miserable in their marriages and just looking for a way out
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And just looking for a way out and married people wishing
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And married people wishing they were single again,
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They were single again, and single people
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And single people trying all the wrong stuff on
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Trying all the wrong stuff on before the find the right one
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Before the find the right one and nobody's saying anything.
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And nobody's saying anything. we got people dealing with
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We got people dealing with issues of sexual abuse
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Issues of sexual abuse and they can't --
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And they can't -- they can't engage
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They can't engage in a loving relationship
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In a loving relationship in a healthy way because
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In a healthy way because nobody's talking about issues.
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Nobody's talking about issues. oh, we got tips, we got tricks,
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Oh, we got tips, we got tricks, but we don't deal with
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But we don't deal with the real issues.
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The real issues. i wanna take five weeks with you
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I wanna take five weeks with you and have conversations
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And have conversations about real issues,
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About real issues, because some of you
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Because some of you the questions that
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The questions that you're asking are not
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You're asking are not indicative of the real issues
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Indicative of the real issues that you're dealing with,
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That you're dealing with, the issues that you don't
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The issues that you don't even know how to talk about.
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Even know how to talk about. i got teenagers in my church
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I got teenagers in my church trying to figure out
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Trying to figure out how they can deal with
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How they can deal with their sexual conflict
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Their sexual conflict knowing that if they admitted
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Knowing that if they admitted to their friends what they're
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To their friends what they're really thinking about inside,
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Really thinking about inside, they wouldn't have
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They wouldn't have any friends anymore,
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Any friends anymore, and some of them
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And some of them are considering suicide
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Are considering suicide because they can't find anywhere
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Because they can't find anywhere to talk about their issues.
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To talk about their issues. and i'm supposed to stand up
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And i'm supposed to stand up here and just talk about
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Here and just talk about the book of revelation?
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The book of revelation? answering questions that
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Answering questions that nobody's asking while people
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Nobody's asking while people are dying of issues?
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Are dying of issues? i got couples that came
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I got couples that came to church this morning smiling
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To church this morning smiling knowing good and well
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Knowing good and well you're trying to figure out
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You're trying to figure out which divorce lawyer
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Which divorce lawyer 'cause you've got issues.
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'cause you've got issues. already making your escape plan
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Already making your escape plan but came to church praising
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But came to church praising the lord and it's the only time
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The lord and it's the only time you smile all week
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You smile all week is when you're around
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Is when you're around other people 'cause
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Other people 'cause you've got issues.
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You've got issues. so, i'm supposed to stand up
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So, i'm supposed to stand up here and just pontificate about
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Here and just pontificate about crap that nobody's really
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Crap that nobody's really thinking about,
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Thinking about, making it sound spiritual
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Making it sound spiritual while our marriages look
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While our marriages look no different than the world?
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No different than the world? and paul says, "i wanna speak
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And paul says, "i wanna speak to you about real issues."
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To you about real issues." and he says,
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And he says, "now, that we've talked
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"now, that we've talked about the real stuff,
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About the real stuff, i'll deal with your question."
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I'll deal with your question." and here's a question
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And here's a question somebody had posed to paul,
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Somebody had posed to paul, they asked him, they said,
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They asked him, they said, "is it okay if we wanna not get
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"is it okay if we wanna not get married and we wanna make
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Married and we wanna make a decision to be single?
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A decision to be single? is that okay?"
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Is that okay?" and paul says in verse 1,
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"yeah, that's fine.
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"yeah, that's fine. okay, now about
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Okay, now about the questions you asked."
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The questions you asked." look at this,
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Look at this, "it's good for a man
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"it's good for a man not to have sexual relations
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Not to have sexual relations with a woman.
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With a woman. that's fine."
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And paul's not saying
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And paul's not saying you're better or you're worse.
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You're better or you're worse. he's just saying that's fine.
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He's just saying that's fine. he saying, like in different
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He saying, like in different seasons of our lives,
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Seasons of our lives, we'll all have
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We'll all have different callings that
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Different callings that we'll experience and it's good.
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We'll experience and it's good. you know, one of the things
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You know, one of the things i refuse to do in this series
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I refuse to do in this series is to make single people
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Feel second class.
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Feel second class. to make single people
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To make single people feel like, you know, like,
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Feel like, you know, like, now this is for
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Now this is for the big boys and girls.
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The big boys and girls. we got a little table
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We got a little table for you over here.
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For you over here. happy thanksgiving, kids.
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Happy thanksgiving, kids. here's some hawaiian punch.
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Here's some hawaiian punch. no, i'm not doing that.
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No, i'm not doing that. i'm not gonna do that.
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I'm not gonna do that. there is a verse,
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There is a verse, there is a verse,
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And this is a verse that
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And this is a verse that single people really love
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Single people really love in genesis 2:18 where god
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Tells adam after he makes adam,
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Tells adam after he makes adam, he says, "it's not good
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He says, "it's not good for the man to be alone.
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For the man to be alone. i'll make him a helper
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I'll make him a helper suitable for him."
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He says it's not good
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He says it's not good for a man to be alone.
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For a man to be alone. now, a lot of people have taken
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Now, a lot of people have taken that verse to mean that
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That verse to mean that if you're not married,
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If you're not married, then you're alone
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Then you're alone but that's not true at all.
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But that's not true at all. you can be single and you can be
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You can be single and you can be unmarried and still be complete.
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Unmarried and still be complete. you can be single and not be
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You can be single and not be married and still not be alone.
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Married and still not be alone. you can have a church family,
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You can have a church family, you can have deeper friendships,
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You can have deeper friendships, you can have opportunities
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You can have opportunities that those of us who are
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That those of us who are married used to have.
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Married used to have. hello, those of us who have
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Hello, those of us who have children have forgotten about.
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Children have forgotten about. there are things you can do --
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There are things you can do -- and i'm gonna do this
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And i'm gonna do this in the series, okay,
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In the series, okay, so you gotta come back,
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So you gotta come back, you gotta come back.
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You gotta come back. i'm gonna talk in a way
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I'm gonna talk in a way that maybe you never heard
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That maybe you never heard before about the advantages
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Before about the advantages of singleness.
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Of singleness. "well, it's easy
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"well, it's easy for you to say."
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[laughter]
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I mean, i understand.
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I mean, i understand. i don't understand what it
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I don't understand what it would be like to be single.
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Would be like to be single. holly and i got married
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Holly and i got married right out of college,
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Right out of college, but can i be honest with you?
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But can i be honest with you? each season has strengths
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Each season has strengths and struggles.
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And struggles. each season.
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Each season. and paul says if you're in
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And paul says if you're in a season called single
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A season called single that's not bad.
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That's not bad. you're not some
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You're not some half-baked person
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Half-baked person walking around.
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Walking around. you're not some
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You're not some zombie walking around.
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Zombie walking around. you're not a freak
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You're not a freak 'cause you're single.
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'cause you're single. hey, virgins, you're not weird.
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Hey, virgins, you're not weird. i was a virgin when
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I was a virgin when i married my wife,
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I married my wife, i'm proud of it.
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[applause]
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Look at me crazy.
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[applause]
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He said it's good
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He said it's good to do it god's way.
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To do it god's way. it's good.
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It's good. it's good.
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It's good. i wanna say to my single
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I wanna say to my single brothers and sisters,
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Brothers and sisters, "you're good."
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"you're good." you don't need somebody
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You don't need somebody on your arm to make you good,
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On your arm to make you good, you're good 'cause god made you
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You're good 'cause god made you and god makes good stuff.
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And god makes good stuff. you're good.
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You're good. you're good.
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[applause]
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>> alright, let's interact
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>> alright, let's interact for a moment,
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For a moment, just pretend like
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Just pretend like i'm there with you.
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I'm there with you. have you ever experienced
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Have you ever experienced a challenging relationship?
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A challenging relationship? holly do this, do this.
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Holly do this, do this. okay, be careful how
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You respond if you're sitting
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You respond if you're sitting in your living room watching
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In your living room watching this with your spouse,
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This with your spouse, or someone that you love.
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Or someone that you love. the truth is,
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The truth is, relationships are
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Relationships are challenging by design,
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Challenging by design, it's how god grows us.
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It's how god grows us. >> right.
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>> right. >> but, it's his intention
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>> but, it's his intention for you to do more than just
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For you to do more than just survive your relationships.
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Survive your relationships. i believe he wants you
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I believe he wants you to thrive in them.
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To thrive in them. >> yes.
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>> yes. >> and his word gives us
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>> and his word gives us the tools to make that possible.
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The tools to make that possible. so, today, i have a special,
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So, today, i have a special, most requested resource
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Most requested resource that i wanna send to you,
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That i wanna send to you, it's called,
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It's called, "meant to be."
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"meant to be." it will show you
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It will show you some of the bible's best kept
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Some of the bible's best kept secrets about sex, shh,
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Secrets about sex, shh, marriage, and being single.
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Marriage, and being single. >> it's so good,
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>> it's so good, and it's really not
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And it's really not just a relationship series.
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Just a relationship series. this resource truly has
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This resource truly has the power to impact your life.
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The power to impact your life. we've heard stories of marriages
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We've heard stories of marriages that were restored,
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That were restored, and single people that
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And single people that learned to embrace the season
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Learned to embrace the season that there in instead of
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That there in instead of focusing on the relationships
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Focusing on the relationships that they don't have.
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That they don't have. i know that this series
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I know that this series is gonna help you like it
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Is gonna help you like it has so many already.
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Has so many already. >> and, we wanna help you,
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>> and, we wanna help you, we're here to help you.
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We're here to help you. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> so, i'm gonna send you
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>> so, i'm gonna send you this resource, "meant to be,"
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This resource, "meant to be," with your gift of any amount
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With your gift of any amount to the ministry today.
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To the ministry today. just go online, right now,
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Just go online, right now, or call the number
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Or call the number on the screen, right now,
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On the screen, right now, and request your copy of
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And request your copy of "meant to be."
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"meant to be." say, "i want it,"
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Say, "i want it," and we'll get it out
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And we'll get it out to you right away.
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To you right away. here's some more info as well
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Here's some more info as well as some additional resources
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As some additional resources you can request today.
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>> "relationship essentials"
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Features two
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Of pastor steven furtick's
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Most requested series,
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"meant to be,"
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And "the other half."
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"meant to be,"
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Is a powerful 5-part series
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Uncovering the bible's
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Best-kept secrets about sex,
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Marriage, and being single.
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And, "the other half,"
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Is a 4-part series that
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Provides practical steps
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To shift your focus
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In relationships and prioritize
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What matters most.
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Together these two series
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Provide the tools you need
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For healthier relationships,
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God's way.
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"relationship essentials"
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Is available for your gift
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Of any amount.
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Call or visit us online now
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>> ♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
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♪ heavy with rain ♪
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♪ and it looks like revival ♪
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♪ it's headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
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♪ heavy with rain ♪
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♪ and it looks like salvation ♪
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>> ♪ salvation ♪
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>> ♪ is headed our way ♪
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>> ♪ i can see a cloud ♪
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♪ heavy with rain ♪
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♪ and it looks like revival ♪
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♪ it's headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
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♪ heavy with rain ♪
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♪ and it looks like salvation ♪
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♪ is headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can hear a sound ♪
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♪ the abundance of rain ♪
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♪ and it sounds like freedom ♪
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♪ and it's headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can hear a sound ♪
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♪ the abundance of rain ♪
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♪ and it sounds ♪
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♪ like provision ♪
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♪ is headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
00:26:20.742 --> 00:26:23.211
♪ and it's heavy with rain ♪
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♪ and it looks like healing ♪
00:26:26.047 --> 00:26:28.783
♪ is headed our way ♪
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♪ oh i can see a cloud ♪
00:26:31.219 --> 00:26:33.722
♪ and it's heavy with rain ♪
00:26:33.788 --> 00:26:36.424
♪ and it looks like joy ♪
00:26:36.491 --> 00:26:39.127
♪ and it's headed our way ♪
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♪ yes it's headed ♪
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♪ our way ♪
00:26:42.664 --> 00:26:43.398
♪ prophesy ♪
00:26:43.465 --> 00:26:44.699
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
00:26:44.766 --> 00:26:45.834
>> ♪ oh it's headed our way ♪
00:26:45.900 --> 00:26:47.302
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
00:26:47.369 --> 00:26:48.470
>> ♪ it's coming
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♪ it's coming ♪
00:26:49.170 --> 00:26:49.904
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
00:26:49.971 --> 00:26:50.972
>> ♪ it's coming ♪
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♪ it's coming ♪
00:26:51.840 --> 00:26:52.607
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
00:26:52.674 --> 00:26:53.642
>> ♪ oh it's headed our way ♪
00:26:53.708 --> 00:26:55.210
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
00:26:55.276 --> 00:26:56.311
>> ♪ oh it's headed our way ♪
00:26:56.378 --> 00:26:57.779
>> ♪ it's headed our way ♪
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♪ ♪
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>> ♪ so darkness ♪
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♪ bow down to the day ♪
00:27:05.253 --> 00:27:07.222
>> ♪ mountains get up ♪
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♪ out my way ♪
00:27:08.657 --> 00:27:09.791
♪ breaking out of yesterday ♪
00:27:09.858 --> 00:27:11.793
>> ♪ i got a new thing ♪
00:27:11.860 --> 00:27:12.761
>> ♪ i got a new thing coming ♪
00:27:12.827 --> 00:27:14.763
>> ♪ so tell this giant ♪
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♪ in my face ♪
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♪ you're not greater ♪
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>> ♪ than my faith ♪
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♪ best believe me ♪
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♪ when i say ♪
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♪ i got a new thing coming ♪
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>> ♪ i got a new thing ♪
00:27:25.040 --> 00:27:26.041
>> ♪ i got a new thing coming ♪
00:27:26.107 --> 00:27:27.342
>> ♪ i got a new thing ♪
00:27:27.409 --> 00:27:28.410
>> ♪ i got a new thing coming ♪
00:27:28.476 --> 00:27:29.010

Steven Furtick - Is It Good For A Man To Not Have Sexual Relations With A Woman (Part 1)

February 3, 2025 | S25:E33

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