Allen Jackson - Receive and Believe (Part 1)

September 9, 2025 | 28:35

Pastor Allen Jackson's mission is to help people become fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ.

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  • Allen jackson: may i ask you a question?
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  • Who's your best friend?
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  • I don't want the politically correct answer or the answer
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  • That you think you should give, but in reality, who's the person
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  • Whose opinion you value the most, the person that you wanna
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  • Share your opinions with, the person whose perspective matters
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  • To you when you're sorting through a difficult question or
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  • Circumstance, who is it that brings joy to your life when you
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  • Get a little time with them?
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  • Who's your best friend?
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  • Well, i wanna plan a seat.
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  • I got an idea and it's an objective more than it's always
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  • A reality.
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  • I want jesus to be my friend and i don't mean some
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  • Theoretical way.
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  • I mean, i wanna care about his opinion.
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  • I wanna know what brings joy to him.
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  • I wanna invite him into my life.
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  • I'm not trying to keep any of my life secret from him.
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  • I wanna live my life as jesus's friend.
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  • It's changed the entire context of how i think about my faith.
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  • I've been living this out for a long time.
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  • It's become a tremendous gift in my life.
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  • It's important enough i wrote a book.
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  • I think it'll help you.
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  • It'll open a doorway to take your faith from the theoretical
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  • To a way to engage your faith every day and all you're doing.
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  • It'll be a blessing.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Allen: we've been working through a series under the theme
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  • Of rejection, from rejection to acceptance, from rejection
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  • To freedom.
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  • I wanna continue that.
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  • It's been a bit disjointed just because of scheduling issues.
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  • I'll take a moment or two to recapitulate, but not a great
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  • Deal of time.
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  • If you haven't heard the previous two or three sessions,
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  • It might be beneficial to go back and listen to them at
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  • Your leisure.
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  • We started with the premise and it's really the foundational to
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  • This discussion is that you are significant to god.
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  • You matter to him.
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  • You know, we kind of nodded that in an age of ego perhaps
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  • Run wild.
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  • That conversation can be fraught with some difficulty, but the
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  • Reality is the scripture tells us that the creator of all
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  • Things, the sustainer of all things not only knows you, that
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  • He is aware of you, the details of your life.
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  • He knows when we come in and when we go out, when we sit and
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  • When we stand.
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  • He keeps a count of our hair.
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  • For some of us, a bigger challenge than others.
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  • But you matter to god.
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  • And when we talk about rejection, i think it's
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  • Important to believe that you're of significance to god.
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  • I could have brought, we could spend many sessions on this
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  • Theme alone, but in psalm 139, the psalmist said, "you created
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  • My inmost being, you knit me together in my mother's womb.
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  • I praise you because i'm fearfully and wonderfully made."
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  • You're not just a random collision of molecules.
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  • You're not just the result of statistical possibility.
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  • That you were created by almighty god, that he's the
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  • Author and completer of your story.
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  • You're not random.
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  • God created you for his purposes.
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  • The question in play is, will you and i choose to cooperate
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  • With god?
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  • And it's a question, and it's not a one-time question.
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  • It's a question that we have to address on a very regular basis.
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  • And what i did yesterday is doesn't determine what i will
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  • Do tomorrow.
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  • I'll have to choose tomorrow to honor the lord with my life.
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  • But i choose to do so because i believe there is a god and that
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  • He can be known and that the best possible expression of a
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  • Human life is in service to almighty god.
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  • You know, bob dylan said you have to serve somebody.
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  • And he gave you a list of options.
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  • Well, i'm not gonna walk through all the options with you.
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  • I'm just inviting you to serve the lord.
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  • Not simply to try to be saved, not just with the objective of
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  • Going to heaven, but on a regular daily systematic routine
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  • Basis to have the objective in your life.
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  • How could i be pleasing to the lord today?
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  • We're not gonna earn our way to heaven.
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  • We're not trying to score brownie points for the blessings
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  • Of god.
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  • I simply believe that god exists, that he can be known,
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  • And i would like to walk uprightly before him.
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  • It's important.
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  • And we have a revelation in the scripture of what we can do to
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  • Imagine that and we have the help of the spirit of god within
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  • Us if we're a christ follower.
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  • Look at 1 peter 1 and verse 1. "peter, an apostle of
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  • Jesus christ."
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  • When we meet him, he's a fisherman.
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  • He's peter a fisherman.
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  • Peter, a man with a lot of local knowledge about the northern end
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  • Of the sea of galilee.
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  • There's seven warm springs there.
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  • The best fishing in the lake is on that northern end.
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  • Peter could have told you a lot about when to fish and how to
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  • Fish and how to be effective and how to build a fishing business.
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  • But when we meet him near the end of his life, he's not
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  • Talking about catching fish in galilee.
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  • He said, "i'm an apostle of jesus christ."
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  • How do you identify yourself?
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  • "to god's elect, strangers in the world, scattered through a
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  • Lot of places."
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  • I pronounce them, but most of us don't know where they are, so.
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  • I like whenever i can, i like to use local smyrna and laverne
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  • And, never mind.
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  • "who've been chosen according to the foreknowledge of god the
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  • Father, through the sanctifying work of the spirit, for
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  • Obedience to jesus christ sprinkling by his blood: grace
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  • And peace be yours in abundance."
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  • "chosen by god according to his foreknowledge."
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  • God knows the beginning and the ending, but he gives us
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  • A choice.
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  • What separates us from all the rest of creation is your
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  • Free will.
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  • You're not just a creature driven by instinct.
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  • You're not a creature that's driven by some imprint on
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  • Your psyche.
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  • You're given a choice to choose the lord.
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  • And the great motivation for choosing the lord is you matter
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  • To him.
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  • You matter to him.
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  • You're important to him.
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  • You may have been discounted by any number of persons,
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  • Institutions, places, circumstances, but the creator
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  • Of heaven and earth loves you.
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  • That's such an amazing thing.
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  • You know, when you're having bad days or you feel alone or
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  • Isolated or there's pressure or stress, if you can take a step
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  • Back and go, god, i know you care about me.
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  • It doesn't mean every day's easy.
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  • Doesn't mean every decision works out the way you want or
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  • Every circumstance emerges with a polite bow around it.
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  • God will lead us through shadowed valleys and he'll ask
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  • Us to stand in difficult places.
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  • I can give you example after example after example of that.
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  • It's a myth to think that if god loves you, you know, that
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  • You're--every day is a perfect hair day.
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  • And you'll never have halitosis.
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  • And your children will always respond with, "i would love to
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  • Do that.
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  • Thank you for the suggestion."
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  • You know we have this mistaken notion of what it means to
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  • Experience the presence of god or the blessing of god.
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  • The purposes of god often lead us through difficult places,
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  • Strenuous places.
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  • Are you willing to follow the lord that way?
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  • You matter to him.
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  • And then we acknowledge the reality that the bible presents
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  • To us.
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  • Character after character after character who led lives, walked
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  • Pathways that were filled with rejection.
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  • I gave you any number of examples.
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  • We've been reading through some of the historical books in our
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  • Bible reading.
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  • We just finished 1 and 2 samuel, i mean, samuel's a poster child
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  • For this.
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  • You know, he's been a judge, a leader over the 12 tribes
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  • Of israel.
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  • And they come to him near the end of his life and say, we
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  • Don't want you to lead us anymore.
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  • We want a king, we wanna be like everybody else.
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  • You're getting kind of old.
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  • And it's a season.
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  • You know, at the end of his life where when samuel makes his
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  • Farewell speech, you read it if you're doing the reading.
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  • You know, he said, "i haven't taken a single thing from you.
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  • I haven't mistreated you, i haven't stolen from you.
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  • I haven't misrepresented you.
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  • I have served you and led you with integrity."
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  • And yet they said to him, "we don't want you anymore."
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  • But that wasn't the only chapter in samuel's life.
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  • His mother wasn't able to conceive and she made a vow to
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  • The lord that if he would allow her to conceive that she would
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  • Give the child to serve the lord.
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  • So when he was old enough to be weaned, she brought him and
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  • Presented him to the priest, eli, and said, "he'll grow up
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  • With you."
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  • You're not sophisticated enough as a child to understand your
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  • Mother made a vow.
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  • You just know you're not growing up with your birth mother.
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  • And you'll process that as rejection.
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  • What could i have done?
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  • What should i have done?
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  • How could i have been different?
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  • Why would they do that?
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  • I grew up with eli?
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  • He couldn't even raise his own kids with integrity.
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  • But it isn't just with samuel.
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  • We looked at joseph, we looked at joseph's life.
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  • I mean, his brother sold him into slavery because they were
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  • So jealous of him, but they were suffering from the rejection
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  • Their father favored joseph in such a brazen way that they
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  • Couldn't overcome their own hurt and so they reacted out of
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  • Hatred and sold their brother into slavery.
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  • I mean, it goes on and on through the narrative scripture,
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  • Moses, david, daniel, jesus.
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  • The apostle paul, city after city after city.
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  • When he would come and present the gospel, there'd be riots,
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  • They would beat him within an inch of his life
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  • Quite literally.
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  • We can roll that up into all sorts of other things, but if
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  • You're experiencing it, it feels a great deal like rejection.
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  • I mean, moses's parents put him in a basket and turned it loose
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  • In the river.
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  • You'll go to prison if you do that today.
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  • So this isn't some obscure theme.
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  • And one of the things that i think we have to grasp is not
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  • Just, you know, there's a vulnerability that we face in
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  • Our early years, our developmental years that
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  • Sometimes causes those impacts to be formative in our character
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  • And we need the help of the holy spirit to overcome them, but it
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  • Would be a mistake to think that those challenges of rejection
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  • Only come with our childhood.
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  • Samuel was no child when the people said, we don't want
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  • You anymore.
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  • David was no child when saul was trying to kill him.
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  • Moses was no child on the other side of the red sea after all
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  • The plagues and the red sea parts and the egyptian armies
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  • Drowned in exodus 15 when they get to mara and the people go,
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  • "you're a lousy leader."
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  • He's like, "yeah, i didn't wanna do this with you either."
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  • Jesus was no child when he stood on the judgment steps in
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  • Jerusalem and the crowd shouted, "give us barabbas."
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  • Paul was no child when he took 39 lashes, when they stoned him
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  • To death or tried.
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  • You see, this is a part of our journey, and we need a tool kit
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  • To understand what to do with it or we'll be sidelined, we'll
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  • Be diminished.
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  • And we'll respond in ways that will cause us to forfeit what
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  • God has for us.
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  • Allen: hey, i've written a new book.
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  • It's called, "my friend jesus," you know, i'm a pastor, a lot of
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  • Ritual tradition, a lot of formality in the way we
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  • Know god.
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  • It's not bad.
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  • A friend.
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  • Allen: and the first step in overcoming rejection, we said is
  • 00:13:32.927 --> 00:13:35.630
  • To recognize the problem.
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  • And the goal of our study in this little series is to move
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  • From rejection to acceptance.
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  • You have been and you will be rejected.
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  • But it doesn't have the power to define your life or your future,
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  • If we will allow the spirit of god to help us.
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  • We looked a little bit at some causes of rejection.
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  • We talked about some of those that begin in childhood.
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  • A pregnancy that's not wanted.
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  • So we have the imagination that an infant in the mother's womb
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  • Can be affected physically by the mother's behaviors,
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  • Don't we?
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  • By what they choose to eat or don't or drink or don't.
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  • That that child's physical health and well-being could
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  • Be affected.
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  • Well, if it's true physically, why would you not believe
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  • That spiritually?
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  • You know, maybe it's a time when there's great stress in the home
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  • Or maybe there's tension between them.
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  • The mother and the husband or there's already more work to be
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  • Done or the budget's too thin.
  • 00:14:38.860 --> 00:14:40.528
  • There's a lot of reasons why a pregnancy could be unwanted.
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  • If you can imagine biological damage, you have to imagine
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  • Their spiritual impact.
  • 00:14:49.037 --> 00:14:51.005
  • Sometimes parents aren't able to communicate their love for
  • 00:14:51.005 --> 00:14:53.241
  • A child.
  • 00:14:53.241 --> 00:14:54.876
  • Sometimes because of their own emotional circumstances,
  • 00:14:54.876 --> 00:14:58.379
  • Sometimes because of physical circumstances.
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  • See, the other component in this is evil exists.
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  • And he's an accuser.
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  • One of the titles given to satan is he's the accuser of
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  • The brethren.
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  • And he accuses us, and he doesn't wait until you're old
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  • And emotionally fully formed to accuse you.
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  • That's why he's evil.
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  • Christians are incredibly naive.
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  • I'm still a bit stunned at our reluctance to acknowledge the
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  • Existence of evil and it will exploit any vulnerability to
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  • Diminish and ultimately to destroy.
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  • Jesus said in john 10:10, "the thief comes to steal, to kill
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  • And destroy."
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  • He didn't come to cause you to have a bad day.
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  • He came to destroy you.
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  • That's why peter said to resist him standing firm in the faith.
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  • Understand your brothers and sisters throughout the world
  • 00:15:49.831 --> 00:15:51.933
  • Undergo similar stresses.
  • 00:15:51.933 --> 00:15:58.840
  • Broken marriages, they're common enough.
  • 00:15:58.840 --> 00:16:03.444
  • They have an enormous impact not just on the adults that are
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  • Involved, but on the children who are involved.
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  • They process those things.
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  • Children are left bitter towards one parent or another often.
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  • Unless the parents are remarkably godly, they'll use
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  • The children to gain emotional leverage over the hurt
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  • They have.
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  • And the outcome often causes the children to feel like they
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  • Should have been able to do something, if they could have
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  • Been better, if they'd have been less trouble.
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  • If they'd have just known what to say.
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  • Absentee fathers is a significant issue in our nation.
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  • We would not have had more than 60 million abortions if fathers
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  • Had been present and engaged and involved.
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  • I know it's processed in the secular culture as a women's
  • 00:16:55.596 --> 00:16:58.132
  • Rights issue, but it's far more than that.
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  • We've been very casual about some things and we have sown the
  • 00:17:03.004 --> 00:17:07.008
  • Wind and we've reaped the whirlwind.
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  • If you have siblings and there's a perception, whether it's real
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  • Or not, in joseph's case, it wasn't a perception.
  • 00:17:12.647 --> 00:17:14.615
  • It was real.
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  • His father didn't treat them fairly.
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  • And his brothers hated him for it.
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  • Hated him for it enough to murder him.
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  • It may not be that extreme, but if there's perceived unequal
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  • Treatment from a parent sometimes it's just because of a
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  • Birth order somebody has to be responsible and the older one
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  • Oftentimes is tasked to do that and--
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  • Or maybe you're the youngest one and you're overlooked.
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  • I mean, there's a whole--you can pick your spot because we have
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  • An adversary that will cause us to believe we have
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  • Been mistreated.
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  • And with our old earthly carnal nature, it's pretty easy to
  • 00:17:50.351 --> 00:17:53.454
  • Accept that.
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  • Maybe your parents wanted a boy and you weren't or they wanted a
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  • Girl and you weren't.
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  • A lot of reasons you can feel rejection early in your life.
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  • A piece that i think is very important to pick up,
  • 00:18:05.333 --> 00:18:07.368
  • Particularly for this session because we're gonna deal with
  • 00:18:07.368 --> 00:18:09.170
  • Some of the spiritual consequences of this is that it
  • 00:18:09.170 --> 00:18:12.106
  • May begin from a relational thing or an emotional thing, but
  • 00:18:12.106 --> 00:18:15.776
  • There is spiritual support for every negative attack on
  • 00:18:15.776 --> 00:18:18.980
  • Your life.
  • 00:18:18.980 --> 00:18:21.449
  • That not every spiritual influence is positive.
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  • We talk a lot about the holy spirit and cooperating with him
  • 00:18:23.784 --> 00:18:26.487
  • And the spirit of god and his direction and his leading and
  • 00:18:26.487 --> 00:18:29.290
  • His power to heal and restore and deliver.
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  • But there are unhealthy spirits and unholy spirits.
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  • And they diminish and accuse and they will enslave and put you in
  • 00:18:37.331 --> 00:18:41.002
  • Bondage and limit your life.
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  • And our response typically is the rather naive, you know, i
  • 00:18:43.838 --> 00:18:47.041
  • Don't believe in that.
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  • Well, that's a wonderful declaration.
  • 00:18:49.277 --> 00:18:50.945
  • It just doesn't help.
  • 00:18:50.945 --> 00:18:53.481
  • Be like me saying, you know, i don't really believe in diet in
  • 00:18:53.481 --> 00:18:56.317
  • My fat.
  • 00:18:56.317 --> 00:18:58.019
  • In my--i don't believe fat in my diet.
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  • Or i don't believe sugar will cause me to gain weight.
  • 00:19:03.224 --> 00:19:06.093
  • I think of sugar as a vitamin.
  • 00:19:06.093 --> 00:19:09.197
  • I can say it all i want, but it won't make me healthy.
  • 00:19:09.197 --> 00:19:13.034
  • And christian, we have this remarkably naive, "well, you
  • 00:19:13.034 --> 00:19:16.070
  • Know, i don't know how i feel about that."
  • 00:19:16.070 --> 00:19:18.005
  • Well, jesus believed in unclean spirits.
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  • So if you call him lord, you got to process that.
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  • I know how they do it in seminary.
  • 00:19:26.781 --> 00:19:30.718
  • I'll say, well, you know, the first century culture had a far
  • 00:19:30.718 --> 00:19:35.256
  • More spiritual dynamic.
  • 00:19:35.256 --> 00:19:38.759
  • They weren't as sophisticated.
  • 00:19:38.759 --> 00:19:40.094
  • Their scientific thought hadn't developed to the point that we
  • 00:19:40.094 --> 00:19:43.431
  • Have at this point in the unfolding story of
  • 00:19:43.431 --> 00:19:46.334
  • Human history.
  • 00:19:46.334 --> 00:19:47.702
  • And so they brought a lot of causation to spiritual things.
  • 00:19:47.702 --> 00:19:54.208
  • And then that would--that argument might hold together if
  • 00:19:54.208 --> 00:19:57.144
  • Jesus weren't standing in the middle of it.
  • 00:19:57.144 --> 00:20:00.448
  • But i'm pretty sure that the creator of all things had more
  • 00:20:00.448 --> 00:20:03.417
  • Than a 1st century perspective on the world in which he lived.
  • 00:20:03.417 --> 00:20:10.591
  • So when we talk about rejection and the influences and the
  • 00:20:10.591 --> 00:20:13.761
  • Impact of it, we have to understand there's a
  • 00:20:13.761 --> 00:20:15.997
  • Spiritual component.
  • 00:20:15.997 --> 00:20:17.365
  • Every negative emotion, every negative attitude, every
  • 00:20:17.365 --> 00:20:19.967
  • Reaction or behavior have associated with them a
  • 00:20:19.967 --> 00:20:23.104
  • Corresponding spirit.
  • 00:20:23.104 --> 00:20:26.274
  • Behind jealousy there's a spirit of jealousy.
  • 00:20:26.274 --> 00:20:30.344
  • It doesn't mean that every time you respond with a jealous
  • 00:20:30.344 --> 00:20:32.847
  • Response that there's a demon active in that.
  • 00:20:32.847 --> 00:20:36.584
  • But if you indulge yourself in the unguarded expression of
  • 00:20:36.584 --> 00:20:40.955
  • Emotions, you open your life to spiritual support for them.
  • 00:20:40.955 --> 00:20:48.229
  • Behind anger, there's a spirit of anger.
  • 00:20:48.229 --> 00:20:50.064
  • Behind fear, there's a spirit of fear.
  • 00:20:50.064 --> 00:20:51.666
  • Not everybody who's afraid has a spirit of fear.
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  • But if you don't practice some degree of self-control and you
  • 00:20:55.269 --> 00:20:58.406
  • Habitually give in to fear or maybe when you're young or
  • 00:20:58.406 --> 00:21:03.311
  • You're not emotionally developed, you have some
  • 00:21:03.311 --> 00:21:05.313
  • Terrifying experience or even as an adult, we open our lives to a
  • 00:21:05.313 --> 00:21:10.384
  • Spirit of fear.
  • 00:21:10.384 --> 00:21:13.087
  • See, emotional liberty is dangerous, just as dangerous as
  • 00:21:13.087 --> 00:21:19.527
  • Dietary liberty.
  • 00:21:19.527 --> 00:21:23.397
  • You can kill yourself with a fork.
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  • The bible talks more about gluttony than it
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  • Does drunkenness.
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  • I mean, we wouldn't dream, most of us come into church
  • 00:21:32.173 --> 00:21:34.742
  • Like buzzed.
  • 00:21:34.742 --> 00:21:37.645
  • But we'll call them fluffy.
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  • Ephesians 6, it's in your notes.
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  • Says, "our struggle is not against flesh and blood."
  • 00:21:53.294 --> 00:22:00.434
  • The struggle of our lives, the great struggle of our lives is
  • 00:22:00.434 --> 00:22:03.504
  • Not people-centered.
  • 00:22:03.504 --> 00:22:05.606
  • The greatest battles of our life are not with individuals or
  • 00:22:05.606 --> 00:22:09.243
  • Family systems or institutions or governments.
  • 00:22:09.243 --> 00:22:13.280
  • Not my opinion.
  • 00:22:13.280 --> 00:22:14.615
  • It's scripture.
  • 00:22:14.615 --> 00:22:16.450
  • "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the
  • 00:22:16.450 --> 00:22:19.153
  • Rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark
  • 00:22:19.153 --> 00:22:23.491
  • World and against spiritual forces of evil in the
  • 00:22:23.491 --> 00:22:27.862
  • Heavenly realms."
  • 00:22:27.862 --> 00:22:30.498
  • We had better have a game plan for overcoming spiritual forces
  • 00:22:30.498 --> 00:22:34.702
  • Of evil against the powers of this dark world.
  • 00:22:34.702 --> 00:22:38.339
  • You don't have to be afraid.
  • 00:22:38.339 --> 00:22:40.341
  • I'm not asking you to imagine some demonic cause that you
  • 00:22:40.341 --> 00:22:44.645
  • Can't get a parking place on the square.
  • 00:22:44.645 --> 00:22:46.580
  • I've told you weird doesn't make you spiritual, it makes
  • 00:22:46.580 --> 00:22:48.949
  • You weird.
  • 00:22:48.949 --> 00:22:52.019
  • And i've given you multiple examples from my own journey
  • 00:22:52.019 --> 00:22:54.755
  • When i would, as a younger person, i would attach cause to
  • 00:22:54.755 --> 00:22:59.727
  • Something spiritual and a man would look at me and say, it's
  • 00:22:59.727 --> 00:23:01.529
  • Not a spiritual issue.
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  • You didn't plan well.
  • 00:23:02.897 --> 00:23:05.266
  • Thank you.
  • 00:23:05.266 --> 00:23:08.169
  • You know, you can't blame the devil when you're lazy.
  • 00:23:08.169 --> 00:23:12.506
  • Well, you can, it's just not helpful.
  • 00:23:12.506 --> 00:23:16.610
  • But we are engaged in a spiritual conflict.
  • 00:23:16.610 --> 00:23:20.981
  • And not with the seminars on spiritual conflict.
  • 00:23:20.981 --> 00:23:24.318
  • Let's get on with engaging.
  • 00:23:24.318 --> 00:23:27.588
  • Let's learn to pray.
  • 00:23:27.588 --> 00:23:28.923
  • Let's learn to understand our authority in scripture.
  • 00:23:28.923 --> 00:23:32.059
  • Let's understand the significance of repentance and
  • 00:23:32.059 --> 00:23:34.295
  • Renouncing and releasing.
  • 00:23:34.295 --> 00:23:37.631
  • Let's begin to act like we believe the scriptures too.
  • 00:23:37.631 --> 00:23:40.367
  • How long will we talk about it before we begin to practice it?
  • 00:23:40.367 --> 00:23:44.638
  • And you can't close your eyes.
  • 00:23:48.309 --> 00:23:50.744
  • You can, but it doesn't eliminate your accountability.
  • 00:23:50.744 --> 00:23:53.180
  • The bible says in ezekiel that we're watchmen on the wall and
  • 00:23:53.180 --> 00:23:56.450
  • If you see evil coming and you don't say anything, you will
  • 00:23:56.450 --> 00:23:59.820
  • Bear the penalty for the evil.
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  • It's got my attention.
  • 00:24:02.957 --> 00:24:05.593
  • So when people say, "well, you shouldn't talk about current
  • 00:24:05.593 --> 00:24:07.528
  • Events," i'm like, "well, maybe you don't, but i'm gonna use
  • 00:24:07.528 --> 00:24:09.897
  • My voice."
  • 00:24:09.897 --> 00:24:11.932
  • 'cause i don't intend to be caught with the consequences
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  • Of that.
  • 00:24:14.201 --> 00:24:15.536
  • They should stop mutilating teenagers.
  • 00:24:15.536 --> 00:24:18.205
  • And i'm grateful for a president or an administration that will
  • 00:24:22.409 --> 00:24:25.412
  • Do something to turn that back that said gender really isn't
  • 00:24:25.412 --> 00:24:28.115
  • Confusing and men shouldn't be competing in women's sports, but
  • 00:24:28.115 --> 00:24:31.919
  • It would have been, it would have been a different kind of
  • 00:24:31.919 --> 00:24:35.923
  • Victory if those messages had led from the church.
  • 00:24:35.923 --> 00:24:39.560
  • We were cowards.
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  • Stop pointing at the pastors.
  • 00:24:45.466 --> 00:24:49.503
  • Pastors will find the courage.
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  • Yeah, i'm gonna--i'm doing a thing on rejection.
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  • Ephesians 6:12.
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  • I wanna get to this next segment.
  • 00:25:03.784 --> 00:25:06.453
  • How do we apply the remedy?
  • 00:25:06.453 --> 00:25:09.423
  • If there's spiritual forces, you know, it certainly affects our
  • 00:25:09.423 --> 00:25:12.860
  • Emotions, it affects our thoughts.
  • 00:25:12.860 --> 00:25:15.195
  • And we have to learn to discipline our thoughts, to take
  • 00:25:15.195 --> 00:25:17.264
  • Every thought captive to recognize not to give ourselves
  • 00:25:17.264 --> 00:25:20.701
  • Emotional liberty.
  • 00:25:20.701 --> 00:25:22.036
  • There's some very destructive permissions unleashed in
  • 00:25:22.036 --> 00:25:24.271
  • Our culture.
  • 00:25:24.271 --> 00:25:25.906
  • That if you have a feeling it's legitimate and you should
  • 00:25:25.906 --> 00:25:28.576
  • Legitimize every feeling.
  • 00:25:28.576 --> 00:25:29.944
  • No, you shouldn't.
  • 00:25:29.944 --> 00:25:33.247
  • I mean, my driving.
  • 00:25:33.247 --> 00:25:36.417
  • If i legitimized every feeling while i'm behind the wheel of
  • 00:25:36.417 --> 00:25:39.420
  • The car, i would not be a blessing.
  • 00:25:39.420 --> 00:25:45.225
  • If you cut me off, i'll just ram you.
  • 00:25:45.225 --> 00:25:50.264
  • Then i want a little paddle i can hold up that says jesus
  • 00:25:50.264 --> 00:25:52.533
  • Loves you, get out of my way.
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  • I'm working on it, but you can't afford to give license to
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  • Every emotion.
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  • Well, i can't deny how i feel.
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  • I'm not asking you to deny it.
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  • I'm telling you not to give expression to it.
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  • Every feeling you have isn't helpful.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Allen: i'm so grateful i've had a few minutes with you today.
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  • These opportunities to open the word of god and open our lives
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  • And invite god into the midst of it, they're transformational.
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  • I've learned to never take them for granted.
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  • I used to imagine that they were unlimited, that we could do
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  • It forever.
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  • Every time i have an opportunity to talk with a friend and make a
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  • Journey through the word of god for a bit, i think it's
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  • Something precious.
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  • It's a gift from god.
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  • I'm grateful we had this time together.
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  • I've got a new book.
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  • It's called "my friend jesus."
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  • It's the culmination of years of my own spiritual journey, kind
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  • Of peeling away the formality of theology and ritual and routine
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  • And opening the heart of what it means to be a christ follower.
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  • I wanna live as jesus's friend.
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  • When i'm in trouble, i call my friends.
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  • When they're in trouble and i can help, it's the delight of
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  • My life.
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  • I wanna pray with you.
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  • Let's invite my friend jesus into the midst of our world.
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  • He changes everything.
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  • Heavenly father, i thank you that you love us, that you sent
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  • Your son.
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  • We need his help, his strength, his wisdom.
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  • Open our hearts to know him as we've never known him before.
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  • In jesus's name, amen.
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  • ♪♪♪
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