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Allen Jackson Ministries | Allen Jackson - Receive and Believe (Part 1) | September 9, 2025
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- Allen jackson: may i ask you a question?
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- Who's your best friend?
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- I don't want the politically correct answer or the answer
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- That you think you should give, but in reality, who's the person
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- Whose opinion you value the most, the person that you wanna
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- Share your opinions with, the person whose perspective matters
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- To you when you're sorting through a difficult question or
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- Circumstance, who is it that brings joy to your life when you
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- Get a little time with them?
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- Who's your best friend?
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- Well, i wanna plan a seat.
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- I got an idea and it's an objective more than it's always
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- A reality.
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- I want jesus to be my friend and i don't mean some
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- Theoretical way.
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- I mean, i wanna care about his opinion.
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- I wanna know what brings joy to him.
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- I wanna invite him into my life.
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- I'm not trying to keep any of my life secret from him.
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- I wanna live my life as jesus's friend.
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- It's changed the entire context of how i think about my faith.
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- I've been living this out for a long time.
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- It's become a tremendous gift in my life.
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- It's important enough i wrote a book.
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- I think it'll help you.
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- It'll open a doorway to take your faith from the theoretical
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- To a way to engage your faith every day and all you're doing.
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- It'll be a blessing.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Allen: we've been working through a series under the theme
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- Of rejection, from rejection to acceptance, from rejection
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- To freedom.
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- I wanna continue that.
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- It's been a bit disjointed just because of scheduling issues.
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- I'll take a moment or two to recapitulate, but not a great
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- Deal of time.
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- If you haven't heard the previous two or three sessions,
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- It might be beneficial to go back and listen to them at
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- Your leisure.
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- We started with the premise and it's really the foundational to
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- This discussion is that you are significant to god.
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- You matter to him.
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- You know, we kind of nodded that in an age of ego perhaps
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- Run wild.
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- That conversation can be fraught with some difficulty, but the
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- Reality is the scripture tells us that the creator of all
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- Things, the sustainer of all things not only knows you, that
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- He is aware of you, the details of your life.
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- He knows when we come in and when we go out, when we sit and
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- When we stand.
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- He keeps a count of our hair.
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- For some of us, a bigger challenge than others.
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- But you matter to god.
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- And when we talk about rejection, i think it's
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- Important to believe that you're of significance to god.
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- I could have brought, we could spend many sessions on this
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- Theme alone, but in psalm 139, the psalmist said, "you created
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- My inmost being, you knit me together in my mother's womb.
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- I praise you because i'm fearfully and wonderfully made."
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- You're not just a random collision of molecules.
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- You're not just the result of statistical possibility.
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- That you were created by almighty god, that he's the
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- Author and completer of your story.
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- You're not random.
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- God created you for his purposes.
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- The question in play is, will you and i choose to cooperate
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- With god?
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- And it's a question, and it's not a one-time question.
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- It's a question that we have to address on a very regular basis.
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- And what i did yesterday is doesn't determine what i will
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- Do tomorrow.
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- I'll have to choose tomorrow to honor the lord with my life.
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- But i choose to do so because i believe there is a god and that
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- He can be known and that the best possible expression of a
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- Human life is in service to almighty god.
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- You know, bob dylan said you have to serve somebody.
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- And he gave you a list of options.
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- Well, i'm not gonna walk through all the options with you.
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- I'm just inviting you to serve the lord.
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- Not simply to try to be saved, not just with the objective of
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- Going to heaven, but on a regular daily systematic routine
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- Basis to have the objective in your life.
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- How could i be pleasing to the lord today?
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- We're not gonna earn our way to heaven.
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- We're not trying to score brownie points for the blessings
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- Of god.
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- I simply believe that god exists, that he can be known,
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- And i would like to walk uprightly before him.
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- It's important.
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- And we have a revelation in the scripture of what we can do to
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- Imagine that and we have the help of the spirit of god within
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- Us if we're a christ follower.
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- Look at 1 peter 1 and verse 1. "peter, an apostle of
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- Jesus christ."
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- When we meet him, he's a fisherman.
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- He's peter a fisherman.
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- Peter, a man with a lot of local knowledge about the northern end
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- Of the sea of galilee.
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- There's seven warm springs there.
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- The best fishing in the lake is on that northern end.
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- Peter could have told you a lot about when to fish and how to
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- Fish and how to be effective and how to build a fishing business.
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- But when we meet him near the end of his life, he's not
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- Talking about catching fish in galilee.
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- He said, "i'm an apostle of jesus christ."
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- How do you identify yourself?
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- "to god's elect, strangers in the world, scattered through a
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- Lot of places."
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- I pronounce them, but most of us don't know where they are, so.
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- I like whenever i can, i like to use local smyrna and laverne
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- And, never mind.
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- "who've been chosen according to the foreknowledge of god the
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- Father, through the sanctifying work of the spirit, for
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- Obedience to jesus christ sprinkling by his blood: grace
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- And peace be yours in abundance."
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- "chosen by god according to his foreknowledge."
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- God knows the beginning and the ending, but he gives us
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- A choice.
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- What separates us from all the rest of creation is your
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- Free will.
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- You're not just a creature driven by instinct.
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- You're not a creature that's driven by some imprint on
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- Your psyche.
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- You're given a choice to choose the lord.
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- And the great motivation for choosing the lord is you matter
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- To him.
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- You matter to him.
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- You're important to him.
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- You may have been discounted by any number of persons,
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- Institutions, places, circumstances, but the creator
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- Of heaven and earth loves you.
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- That's such an amazing thing.
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- You know, when you're having bad days or you feel alone or
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- Isolated or there's pressure or stress, if you can take a step
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- Back and go, god, i know you care about me.
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- It doesn't mean every day's easy.
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- Doesn't mean every decision works out the way you want or
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- Every circumstance emerges with a polite bow around it.
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- God will lead us through shadowed valleys and he'll ask
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- Us to stand in difficult places.
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- I can give you example after example after example of that.
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- It's a myth to think that if god loves you, you know, that
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- You're--every day is a perfect hair day.
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- And you'll never have halitosis.
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- And your children will always respond with, "i would love to
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- Do that.
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- Thank you for the suggestion."
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- You know we have this mistaken notion of what it means to
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- Experience the presence of god or the blessing of god.
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- The purposes of god often lead us through difficult places,
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- Strenuous places.
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- Are you willing to follow the lord that way?
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- You matter to him.
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- And then we acknowledge the reality that the bible presents
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- To us.
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- Character after character after character who led lives, walked
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- Pathways that were filled with rejection.
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- I gave you any number of examples.
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- We've been reading through some of the historical books in our
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- Bible reading.
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- We just finished 1 and 2 samuel, i mean, samuel's a poster child
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- For this.
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- You know, he's been a judge, a leader over the 12 tribes
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- Of israel.
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- And they come to him near the end of his life and say, we
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- Don't want you to lead us anymore.
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- We want a king, we wanna be like everybody else.
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- You're getting kind of old.
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- And it's a season.
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- You know, at the end of his life where when samuel makes his
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- Farewell speech, you read it if you're doing the reading.
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- You know, he said, "i haven't taken a single thing from you.
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- I haven't mistreated you, i haven't stolen from you.
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- I haven't misrepresented you.
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- I have served you and led you with integrity."
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- And yet they said to him, "we don't want you anymore."
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- But that wasn't the only chapter in samuel's life.
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- His mother wasn't able to conceive and she made a vow to
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- The lord that if he would allow her to conceive that she would
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- Give the child to serve the lord.
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- So when he was old enough to be weaned, she brought him and
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- Presented him to the priest, eli, and said, "he'll grow up
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- With you."
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- You're not sophisticated enough as a child to understand your
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- Mother made a vow.
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- You just know you're not growing up with your birth mother.
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- And you'll process that as rejection.
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- What could i have done?
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- What should i have done?
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- How could i have been different?
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- Why would they do that?
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- I grew up with eli?
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- He couldn't even raise his own kids with integrity.
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- But it isn't just with samuel.
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- We looked at joseph, we looked at joseph's life.
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- I mean, his brother sold him into slavery because they were
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- So jealous of him, but they were suffering from the rejection
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- Their father favored joseph in such a brazen way that they
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- Couldn't overcome their own hurt and so they reacted out of
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- Hatred and sold their brother into slavery.
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- I mean, it goes on and on through the narrative scripture,
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- Moses, david, daniel, jesus.
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- The apostle paul, city after city after city.
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- When he would come and present the gospel, there'd be riots,
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- They would beat him within an inch of his life
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- Quite literally.
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- We can roll that up into all sorts of other things, but if
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- You're experiencing it, it feels a great deal like rejection.
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- I mean, moses's parents put him in a basket and turned it loose
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- In the river.
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- You'll go to prison if you do that today.
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- So this isn't some obscure theme.
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- And one of the things that i think we have to grasp is not
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- Just, you know, there's a vulnerability that we face in
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- Our early years, our developmental years that
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- Sometimes causes those impacts to be formative in our character
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- And we need the help of the holy spirit to overcome them, but it
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- Would be a mistake to think that those challenges of rejection
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- Only come with our childhood.
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- Samuel was no child when the people said, we don't want
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- You anymore.
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- David was no child when saul was trying to kill him.
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- Moses was no child on the other side of the red sea after all
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- The plagues and the red sea parts and the egyptian armies
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- Drowned in exodus 15 when they get to mara and the people go,
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- "you're a lousy leader."
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- He's like, "yeah, i didn't wanna do this with you either."
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- Jesus was no child when he stood on the judgment steps in
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- Jerusalem and the crowd shouted, "give us barabbas."
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- Paul was no child when he took 39 lashes, when they stoned him
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- To death or tried.
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- You see, this is a part of our journey, and we need a tool kit
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- To understand what to do with it or we'll be sidelined, we'll
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- Be diminished.
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- And we'll respond in ways that will cause us to forfeit what
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- God has for us.
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- Allen: hey, i've written a new book.
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- It's called, "my friend jesus," you know, i'm a pastor, a lot of
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- Ritual tradition, a lot of formality in the way we
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- Know god.
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- It's not bad.
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- There's some good things in that, but when i'm in real
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- Trouble or i have something i wanna celebrate, i call
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- A friend.
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- Well, i wanna live my life with jesus of nazareth is my friend.
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- It changes everything in both celebration and when there's
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- A problem.
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- I wrote the book to help.
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- I think it'll open your life to god in a more personal
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- Transformational way than ever before.
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- Enjoy the book.
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- Female announcer: in his book, "my friend jesus," pastor allen
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- Shares how friendship with jesus brings clarity, strength, and
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- Peace in every part of life.
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- This isn't about following a religion or religious rules.
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- Allen: and the first step in overcoming rejection, we said is
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- To recognize the problem.
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- And the goal of our study in this little series is to move
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- From rejection to acceptance.
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- You have been and you will be rejected.
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- But it doesn't have the power to define your life or your future,
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- If we will allow the spirit of god to help us.
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- We looked a little bit at some causes of rejection.
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- We talked about some of those that begin in childhood.
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- A pregnancy that's not wanted.
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- So we have the imagination that an infant in the mother's womb
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- Can be affected physically by the mother's behaviors,
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- Don't we?
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- By what they choose to eat or don't or drink or don't.
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- That that child's physical health and well-being could
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- Be affected.
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- Well, if it's true physically, why would you not believe
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- That spiritually?
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- You know, maybe it's a time when there's great stress in the home
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- Or maybe there's tension between them.
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- The mother and the husband or there's already more work to be
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- Done or the budget's too thin.
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- There's a lot of reasons why a pregnancy could be unwanted.
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- If you can imagine biological damage, you have to imagine
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- Their spiritual impact.
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- Sometimes parents aren't able to communicate their love for
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- A child.
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- Sometimes because of their own emotional circumstances,
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- Sometimes because of physical circumstances.
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- See, the other component in this is evil exists.
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- And he's an accuser.
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- One of the titles given to satan is he's the accuser of
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- The brethren.
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- And he accuses us, and he doesn't wait until you're old
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- And emotionally fully formed to accuse you.
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- That's why he's evil.
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- Christians are incredibly naive.
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- I'm still a bit stunned at our reluctance to acknowledge the
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- Existence of evil and it will exploit any vulnerability to
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- Diminish and ultimately to destroy.
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- Jesus said in john 10:10, "the thief comes to steal, to kill
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- And destroy."
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- He didn't come to cause you to have a bad day.
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- He came to destroy you.
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- That's why peter said to resist him standing firm in the faith.
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- Understand your brothers and sisters throughout the world
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- Undergo similar stresses.
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- Broken marriages, they're common enough.
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- They have an enormous impact not just on the adults that are
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- Involved, but on the children who are involved.
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- They process those things.
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- Children are left bitter towards one parent or another often.
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- Unless the parents are remarkably godly, they'll use
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- The children to gain emotional leverage over the hurt
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- They have.
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- And the outcome often causes the children to feel like they
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- Should have been able to do something, if they could have
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- Been better, if they'd have been less trouble.
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- If they'd have just known what to say.
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- Absentee fathers is a significant issue in our nation.
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- We would not have had more than 60 million abortions if fathers
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- Had been present and engaged and involved.
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- I know it's processed in the secular culture as a women's
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- Rights issue, but it's far more than that.
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- We've been very casual about some things and we have sown the
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- Wind and we've reaped the whirlwind.
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- If you have siblings and there's a perception, whether it's real
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- Or not, in joseph's case, it wasn't a perception.
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- It was real.
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- His father didn't treat them fairly.
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- And his brothers hated him for it.
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- Hated him for it enough to murder him.
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- It may not be that extreme, but if there's perceived unequal
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- Treatment from a parent sometimes it's just because of a
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- Birth order somebody has to be responsible and the older one
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- Oftentimes is tasked to do that and--
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- Or maybe you're the youngest one and you're overlooked.
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- I mean, there's a whole--you can pick your spot because we have
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- An adversary that will cause us to believe we have
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- Been mistreated.
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- And with our old earthly carnal nature, it's pretty easy to
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- Accept that.
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- Maybe your parents wanted a boy and you weren't or they wanted a
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- Girl and you weren't.
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- A lot of reasons you can feel rejection early in your life.
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- A piece that i think is very important to pick up,
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- Particularly for this session because we're gonna deal with
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- Some of the spiritual consequences of this is that it
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- May begin from a relational thing or an emotional thing, but
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- There is spiritual support for every negative attack on
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- Your life.
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- That not every spiritual influence is positive.
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- We talk a lot about the holy spirit and cooperating with him
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- And the spirit of god and his direction and his leading and
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- His power to heal and restore and deliver.
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- But there are unhealthy spirits and unholy spirits.
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- And they diminish and accuse and they will enslave and put you in
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- Bondage and limit your life.
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- And our response typically is the rather naive, you know, i
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- Don't believe in that.
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- Well, that's a wonderful declaration.
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- It just doesn't help.
- 00:18:50.945 --> 00:18:53.481
- Be like me saying, you know, i don't really believe in diet in
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- My fat.
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- In my--i don't believe fat in my diet.
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- Or i don't believe sugar will cause me to gain weight.
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- I think of sugar as a vitamin.
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- I can say it all i want, but it won't make me healthy.
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- And christian, we have this remarkably naive, "well, you
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- Know, i don't know how i feel about that."
- 00:19:16.070 --> 00:19:18.005
- Well, jesus believed in unclean spirits.
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- So if you call him lord, you got to process that.
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- I know how they do it in seminary.
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- I'll say, well, you know, the first century culture had a far
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- More spiritual dynamic.
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- They weren't as sophisticated.
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- Their scientific thought hadn't developed to the point that we
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- Have at this point in the unfolding story of
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- Human history.
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- And so they brought a lot of causation to spiritual things.
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- And then that would--that argument might hold together if
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- Jesus weren't standing in the middle of it.
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- But i'm pretty sure that the creator of all things had more
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- Than a 1st century perspective on the world in which he lived.
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- So when we talk about rejection and the influences and the
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- Impact of it, we have to understand there's a
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- Spiritual component.
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- Every negative emotion, every negative attitude, every
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- Reaction or behavior have associated with them a
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- Corresponding spirit.
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- Behind jealousy there's a spirit of jealousy.
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- It doesn't mean that every time you respond with a jealous
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- Response that there's a demon active in that.
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- But if you indulge yourself in the unguarded expression of
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- Emotions, you open your life to spiritual support for them.
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- Behind anger, there's a spirit of anger.
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- Behind fear, there's a spirit of fear.
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- Not everybody who's afraid has a spirit of fear.
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- But if you don't practice some degree of self-control and you
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- Habitually give in to fear or maybe when you're young or
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- You're not emotionally developed, you have some
- 00:21:03.311 --> 00:21:05.313
- Terrifying experience or even as an adult, we open our lives to a
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- Spirit of fear.
- 00:21:10.384 --> 00:21:13.087
- See, emotional liberty is dangerous, just as dangerous as
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- Dietary liberty.
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- You can kill yourself with a fork.
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- The bible talks more about gluttony than it
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- Does drunkenness.
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- I mean, we wouldn't dream, most of us come into church
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- Like buzzed.
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- But we'll call them fluffy.
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- Ephesians 6, it's in your notes.
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- Says, "our struggle is not against flesh and blood."
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- The struggle of our lives, the great struggle of our lives is
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- Not people-centered.
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- The greatest battles of our life are not with individuals or
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- Family systems or institutions or governments.
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- Not my opinion.
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- It's scripture.
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- "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the
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- Rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark
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- World and against spiritual forces of evil in the
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- Heavenly realms."
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- We had better have a game plan for overcoming spiritual forces
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- Of evil against the powers of this dark world.
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- You don't have to be afraid.
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- I'm not asking you to imagine some demonic cause that you
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- Can't get a parking place on the square.
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- I've told you weird doesn't make you spiritual, it makes
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- You weird.
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- And i've given you multiple examples from my own journey
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- When i would, as a younger person, i would attach cause to
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- Something spiritual and a man would look at me and say, it's
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- Not a spiritual issue.
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- You didn't plan well.
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- Thank you.
- 00:23:05.266 --> 00:23:08.169
- You know, you can't blame the devil when you're lazy.
- 00:23:08.169 --> 00:23:12.506
- Well, you can, it's just not helpful.
- 00:23:12.506 --> 00:23:16.610
- But we are engaged in a spiritual conflict.
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- And not with the seminars on spiritual conflict.
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- Let's get on with engaging.
- 00:23:24.318 --> 00:23:27.588
- Let's learn to pray.
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- Let's learn to understand our authority in scripture.
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- Let's understand the significance of repentance and
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- Renouncing and releasing.
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- Let's begin to act like we believe the scriptures too.
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- How long will we talk about it before we begin to practice it?
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- And you can't close your eyes.
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- You can, but it doesn't eliminate your accountability.
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- The bible says in ezekiel that we're watchmen on the wall and
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- If you see evil coming and you don't say anything, you will
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- Bear the penalty for the evil.
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- It's got my attention.
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- So when people say, "well, you shouldn't talk about current
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- Events," i'm like, "well, maybe you don't, but i'm gonna use
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- My voice."
- 00:24:09.897 --> 00:24:11.932
- 'cause i don't intend to be caught with the consequences
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- Of that.
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- They should stop mutilating teenagers.
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- And i'm grateful for a president or an administration that will
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- Do something to turn that back that said gender really isn't
- 00:24:25.412 --> 00:24:28.115
- Confusing and men shouldn't be competing in women's sports, but
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- It would have been, it would have been a different kind of
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- Victory if those messages had led from the church.
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- We were cowards.
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- Stop pointing at the pastors.
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- Pastors will find the courage.
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- Yeah, i'm gonna--i'm doing a thing on rejection.
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- Ephesians 6:12.
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- I wanna get to this next segment.
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- How do we apply the remedy?
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- If there's spiritual forces, you know, it certainly affects our
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- Emotions, it affects our thoughts.
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- And we have to learn to discipline our thoughts, to take
- 00:25:15.195 --> 00:25:17.264
- Every thought captive to recognize not to give ourselves
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- Emotional liberty.
- 00:25:20.701 --> 00:25:22.036
- There's some very destructive permissions unleashed in
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- Our culture.
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- That if you have a feeling it's legitimate and you should
- 00:25:25.906 --> 00:25:28.576
- Legitimize every feeling.
- 00:25:28.576 --> 00:25:29.944
- No, you shouldn't.
- 00:25:29.944 --> 00:25:33.247
- I mean, my driving.
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- If i legitimized every feeling while i'm behind the wheel of
- 00:25:36.417 --> 00:25:39.420
- The car, i would not be a blessing.
- 00:25:39.420 --> 00:25:45.225
- If you cut me off, i'll just ram you.
- 00:25:45.225 --> 00:25:50.264
- Then i want a little paddle i can hold up that says jesus
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- Loves you, get out of my way.
- 00:25:52.533 --> 00:25:56.637
- I'm working on it, but you can't afford to give license to
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- Every emotion.
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- Well, i can't deny how i feel.
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- I'm not asking you to deny it.
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- I'm telling you not to give expression to it.
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- Every feeling you have isn't helpful.
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- ♪♪♪
- 00:26:12.052 --> 00:26:18.292
- Allen: i'm so grateful i've had a few minutes with you today.
- 00:26:18.359 --> 00:26:20.961
- These opportunities to open the word of god and open our lives
- 00:26:20.961 --> 00:26:23.731
- And invite god into the midst of it, they're transformational.
- 00:26:23.731 --> 00:26:27.034
- I've learned to never take them for granted.
- 00:26:27.034 --> 00:26:28.769
- I used to imagine that they were unlimited, that we could do
- 00:26:28.769 --> 00:26:31.205
- It forever.
- 00:26:31.205 --> 00:26:32.539
- Every time i have an opportunity to talk with a friend and make a
- 00:26:32.539 --> 00:26:35.409
- Journey through the word of god for a bit, i think it's
- 00:26:35.409 --> 00:26:38.379
- Something precious.
- 00:26:38.379 --> 00:26:39.713
- It's a gift from god.
- 00:26:39.713 --> 00:26:41.081
- I'm grateful we had this time together.
- 00:26:41.081 --> 00:26:42.416
- I've got a new book.
- 00:26:42.416 --> 00:26:43.784
- It's called "my friend jesus."
- 00:26:43.784 --> 00:26:45.486
- It's the culmination of years of my own spiritual journey, kind
- 00:26:45.486 --> 00:26:48.389
- Of peeling away the formality of theology and ritual and routine
- 00:26:48.389 --> 00:26:52.092
- And opening the heart of what it means to be a christ follower.
- 00:26:52.092 --> 00:26:54.928
- I wanna live as jesus's friend.
- 00:26:54.928 --> 00:26:57.097
- When i'm in trouble, i call my friends.
- 00:26:57.097 --> 00:26:59.233
- When they're in trouble and i can help, it's the delight of
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- My life.
- 00:27:01.402 --> 00:27:02.736
- I wanna pray with you.
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- Let's invite my friend jesus into the midst of our world.
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- He changes everything.
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- Heavenly father, i thank you that you love us, that you sent
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- Your son.
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- We need his help, his strength, his wisdom.
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- Open our hearts to know him as we've never known him before.
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- In jesus's name, amen.
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- ♪♪♪
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