Allen Jackson - A Celebration of Life (Part 1)

May 31, 2025 | S25:E155

Pastor Allen Jackson's mission is to help people become fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ.

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Allen Jackson Ministries | Allen Jackson - A Celebration of Life (Part 1) | May 31, 2025
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  • Allen jackson: hey, i believe it's more important that we lead
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  • With our faith now than at any time i can remember in
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  • Recent history.
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  • It's not always easy to do if you're at work, or sometimes in
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  • A family setting, or with children, you don't know how to
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  • Get a conversation started.
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  • Well, we've created a tool that we believe can be really
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  • Helpful, they're conversation cards.
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  • They're designed for a variety of settings, children, family, a
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  • Small group setting, but the idea is it's a way to initiate a
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  • Faith-based conversation.
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  • You can share 'em with other people and do it together, you
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  • Can simply look through them and use it as an imagination starter
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  • For yourself when you're thinking about a coworker or a
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  • Neighbor or a family member or you're gonna have some time with
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  • Children or grandchildren, or maybe something happening in
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  • The neighborhood.
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  • We want to lead with our faith, you don't have to preach a
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  • Sermon, or quote a bible verse, or present a small group study,
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  • We simply want to engage a conversation so that faith
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  • Becomes a part of who we are, no matter where we go.
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  • I think these conversation cards will be a real blessing to you
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  • And a very useful tool as we lead with our faith.
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  • Allen: nah, it's mother's day and i think it's appropriate to
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  • Try to glean a bit of a biblical perspective around that.
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  • This one's a bit more personal to me.
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  • It's the first mother's day since my mom went to heaven.
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  • Oh, yay god.
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  • Her gain, our loss.
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  • And i'm determined to celebrate her gain, amen.
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  • So if i reference her during the course of this and i'm sure i
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  • Will, i need this disclaimer on the front.
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  • I'm very clear she was not a saint.
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  • I knew my mom bc.
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  • Most of y'all didn't.
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  • And the transformation in she and my father was so dramatic
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  • When they came to know jesus in a personal way.
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  • We were churched.
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  • We went to church every week.
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  • But we weren't christians.
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  • You know, you can do that.
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  • You can do that here.
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  • But when they had a personal encounter with jesus, there was
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  • Such a transformation in their lives that i walked into the
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  • Kitchen and said, "what's happened?"
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  • And i was 8 or 9 years old.
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  • That's not a normal question for a boy at that age.
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  • There was a real transformation in their lives and i continued,
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  • I had the privilege, i became a christian not long after that
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  • And i watched god bring change in our lives, and he still is.
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  • And that's the invitation i would give to you today.
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  • We need men and women who have not checked a box that says,
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  • "i'm christian," as opposed to muslim or agnostic.
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  • We need people who are being transformed by the power of the
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  • Living god on a daily basis.
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  • Haven't coughed all day.
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  • You know, i suppose many of you know the story.
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  • My mom was healed when i was a boy.
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  • The doctors gave her a few months to live.
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  • And she prayed.
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  • Not to--not to be healed, she just prayed to know the truth.
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  • And god really, in an act of his sovereign grace, intervened and
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  • Brought health to my mom's body.
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  • She lived more than 50 years longer than the doctor said
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  • She could.
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  • My takeaway from that wasn't very complicated because it
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  • Impacted my life as a boy and it changed my life, i'm quite
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  • Certain, but was that god can, and you can fill in the blank.
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  • God can heal a body.
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  • Doesn't mean he heals everyone i pray for, but i'm not
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  • Particularly open to people saying that god doesn't do that
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  • Because my life was changed when god did.
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  • You know, i've been in some very fine academic institutions with
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  • Some very well-trained professors who were very adamant
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  • That healing ended at the end of the first century and i'm going,
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  • "well, not completely."
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  • It is not theoretical to me.
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  • God can. he can change a life.
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  • He can--he can heal a body.
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  • He can be mercy--he can show mercy to someone who's pagans
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  • Because we were.
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  • It wasn't because we knew the right prayer to play.
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  • We didn't know the right response.
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  • We didn't know.
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  • We just didn't know and i'm quite confident our behavior
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  • Didn't justify it.
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  • It was an expression of god's mercy.
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  • And if you ask me for one statement to help define the
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  • Ministry that i've been involved with all these years, it's that
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  • God can.
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  • We wanna be guilty of inviting god in the midst of people's
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  • Lives to do those things that only god can do.
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  • You know, i like to learn, i like to study.
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  • I encourage you on a very regular basis to read your
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  • Bibles, to make time to do many things.
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  • But at the heart of all of that is this conviction that god can.
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  • And whatever you bring to the lord, if you'll keep seeking
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  • Him, he will show you ways through.
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  • I have lived it out, doesn't mean i always get the answer i
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  • Want in the time i want it, or the outcome in the way i
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  • Imagined it, but god can change a life.
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  • I think the notion that this biblical notion of family, of
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  • Men and husbands and fathers, of women as wives and mothers, the
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  • Family and the children are notions that are considered
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  • Antiquated, a little out of date.
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  • They're not really chic anymore.
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  • You know, it's--you're far more chic or courageous if you say
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  • They're confusing.
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  • Well, i don't believe those are things we should be
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  • Confused about.
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  • I don't find them to be confusing at all, but i'm gonna
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  • Start with children.
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  • Because i think we all need to understand that children is not
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  • Defined by our age.
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  • It's--it signifies a relationship.
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  • You know, i'm still a child, not by age any longer.
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  • But i'm the child of someone.
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  • But i think we think of children only in terms of little people.
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  • And the reality is all of us stand in that role as a child.
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  • If we got here, we had to have parents.
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  • It's a sovereign expression of god.
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  • We don't choose our parents, any more than parents choose
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  • Their children.
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  • There are characteristics and gifts.
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  • Some are shared by dna and some i think are inexplicable, other
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  • Than almighty god.
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  • You know, lots of debates around whether it's nature or nurture
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  • And you watch family systems very long and you'll go, "yeah,
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  • There's some other things too."
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  • God's involved in this.
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  • Proverbs 23 and verse 25 says, "may your father and mother be
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  • Glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice!"
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  • Biblically, it's very clear, we are given by god a
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  • Responsibility towards parents, as children.
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  • We're told to honor our father and mother.
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  • When jesus quoted it, he added a penalty to that.
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  • Not just that our--we would have a long life and be blessed,
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  • But that there would be--we'd be penalized if we failed to
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  • Do that.
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  • We have a responsibility before god towards our parents.
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  • It comes with a kingdom opportunity.
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  • There are rewards offered, but there's also punishment if we
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  • Neglect it.
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  • So this isn't an optional kind of a thing, and we think about
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  • Our families and our relationships, every family
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  • Faces challenges.
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  • The ones that you think are perfect, you just don't know
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  • Well enough.
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  • I didn't accuse you or your family.
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  • I don't know you well enough.
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  • But one of the challenges is to keep short accounts, and this
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  • Really isn't that complicated.
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  • There's some simple things we can do.
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  • I don't like, you know, the things that i can truly
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  • Understand, i can explain to a third grader.
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  • And you can always know, if i'm using--the bigger the words i
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  • Use, the less i understand the topic.
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  • And so this one to me is not particularly complicated.
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  • If we're gonna honor our father and mother, we have to learn to
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  • Bless them.
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  • You can do it with your words, you do it with your attitude,
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  • You can do it with your posture.
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  • Proverbs 20:20 said, "if a man curses his father or mother, his
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  • Lamp will be snuffed out in pitch darkness."
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  • That's pretty plain, folks.
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  • There are no perfect parents.
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  • Some are even evil.
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  • I meet children, i meet adults who have suffered greatly at the
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  • Hand of parents who were wicked.
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  • And i'm not suggesting that blessing your parents means you
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  • Should get back in line for further abuse or you should
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  • Deny the mistreatment that you received.
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  • I'm simply saying that once you can acknowledge the reality of
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  • That, it's still possible to acknowledge that your parents
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  • Gave you life.
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  • And the good news is most of us did not come from family systems
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  • That were evil.
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  • And there are things for which we can bless our parents.
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  • The circumstances of our birth are beyond us, but you and i can
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  • Make a decision to bless our parents.
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  • And i will couple that with another response that's equally
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  • Necessary in every family system, we have to forgive.
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  • Proverbs 10:1 says, "a wise son brings joy to his father, but a
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  • Foolish son grief to his mother."
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  • Whether you are wise or foolish can be displayed in the emotions
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  • That you bring to the home where you were.
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  • It's not about your opinion or your pronouncements or the
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  • Degrees that you earn.
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  • It's about the impact you have on the lives of people who've
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  • Made a sacrifice for you to have an opportunity.
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  • And we have to be willing to forgive.
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  • Forgiveness is not an emotion.
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  • It's not based on outcomes.
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  • We don't forgive because someone apologizes.
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  • Forgiveness is a decision.
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  • It's something self-initiated, it's a choice we make.
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  • You see, as we make our way through life, there are times
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  • The responses towards us are not appropriate.
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  • And the perception, the reality is, there's some sort of an
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  • Injury, emotionally, physically, whatever it may be, and as a
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  • Result of that, there's a debt that's established.
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  • We feel like we're owed something, restitution,
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  • Restoration, an apology.
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  • And when we hold unforgiveness or resentment or bitterness,
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  • We're waiting for the debt to be paid.
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  • It's like a marker.
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  • It's like you've got a chip and i'm not releasing the chip until
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  • There's something done.
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  • And forgiveness says i'm gonna tear up the marker.
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  • I'm not saying the event didn't happen.
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  • I'm not saying you couldn't have done better.
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  • I'm not saying what was done was appropriate.
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  • I'm saying i'm choosing not to carry the marker any longer.
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  • I'm gonna lay it down.
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  • Now here's the challenge in that.
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  • The biblical prescription is that in order for us to be
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  • Forgiven, we have to forgive.
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  • And all of us need forgiveness.
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  • None of us make the journey through time without mistakes.
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  • And so the ability to practice forgiveness, to keep these
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  • Accounts short, to allow the words you use towards the people
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  • Closest to you to be words of blessing and to refuse to carry
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  • Resentment and anger and bitterness.
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  • You can do that and you can change the trajectory of your
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  • Life and bring the blessings of god, or you can reject it and
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  • You'll bring a whole different set of consequences.
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  • You'll never make a case so compelling that you'll cause god
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  • To agree with you in your ungodliness.
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  • Allen: hey, leading with our faith is often not easy, you
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  • Know, you're in a business setting.
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  • How do you start a conversation?
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  • Or you're with family, and maybe it's awkward to bring
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  • Faith forward?
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  • Or maybe it's children, and you're not sure how to get to
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  • It on their level?
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  • We've got a tool that we think will help you, they're
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  • Conversation cards.
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  • They're designed to help you lead with your faith in those
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  • Different settings.
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  • Allen: and so as we walk towards this notion of mother's day and
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  • A weekend where we stop to consider our families for a bit,
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  • I want to give you the invitation and the opportunity
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  • To do both of these things, to bless your parents, your mother
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  • Specifically, and to be certain that the accounts are short and
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  • That you have forgiven what needs to be forgiven.
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  • And if your parents have stepped out of time into eternity, you
  • 00:12:43.411 --> 00:12:46.681
  • Can still be carrying things that you need to forgive.
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  • There's no statute of limitations on unforgiveness or
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  • Bitterness or hatred or resentment.
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  • Please don't carry those things forward.
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  • I saw a little chart.
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  • I thought it was worth sharing about our relationships with
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  • Our moms.
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  • Says when you're 4 years of age, your mommy can do anything.
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  • At 8 years old, my mom knows a lot, a whole lot.
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  • At 12 years of age, my mother doesn't really know
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  • Quite everything.
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  • At 16, naturally, mother doesn't know that either.
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  • At 18, that old woman is clueless.
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  • At 25, well, she might know a little bit about it.
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  • At 35, before we decide, i wonder if we could get
  • 00:13:37.498 --> 00:13:40.835
  • Mom's opinion.
  • 00:13:40.835 --> 00:13:43.037
  • At 45 years of age, i wonder what mom would have thought
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  • About that.
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  • And at 65, i wish i could talk it over with mom.
  • 00:13:47.709 --> 00:13:56.317
  • You know, this notion of being a mom is so deeply embedded in
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  • Scripture that it's difficult to understand how we've arrived at
  • 00:14:04.459 --> 00:14:10.064
  • The place that we are without almost the complete capitulation
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  • Of the church.
  • 00:14:13.067 --> 00:14:15.937
  • But i thought i would start with mary, the mom that was recruited
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  • For jesus.
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  • Are you ever intimidated by god assignment?
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  • I am.
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  • You know, i don't think usually they show up with, like, a neon
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  • Light that says, "this is a god assignment for you."
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  • But maybe you know, you're at work and he gives you some new
  • 00:14:33.588 --> 00:14:37.225
  • Coworker or an assignment with somebody for a season and
  • 00:14:37.225 --> 00:14:39.627
  • They're really difficult.
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  • And you'd just rather not have to deal with them.
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  • And then you realize that perhaps it's a god assignment.
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  • And i think, "ah, couldn't i have had somebody easy?"
  • 00:14:48.770 --> 00:14:55.076
  • Because once those circumstances that are uncomfortable or
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  • Problematic or once they're cast in the light of perhaps it's a
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  • God assignment, it brings a whole new meaning to it and now
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  • The fact that it's challenging or difficult isn't something to
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  • Be complained about, it's an expression of trust.
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  • You've been trusted with a difficult assignment.
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  • Well, i think mary is a classic example of that.
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  • As a teenager, she's recruited to give birth to jesus, and it
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  • Completely disrupts her life forever.
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  • Well, i mean, i know you could say on the backside, "oh, it was
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  • Wonderful and it's a blessing," but in real time, it was just
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  • A pain.
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  • It brought shame.
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  • It brought a lot of commentary no one would like to have.
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  • It wasn't easy.
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  • But in luke chapter 1 and verse 31, this was the announcement
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  • That mary received, "you'll be with child and give birth to a
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  • Son, and you're to give him the name jesus."
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  • It's a birth announcement.
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  • We do those a lot.
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  • Now we do it with social media or digitally, and they go viral.
  • 00:15:55.203 --> 00:15:58.773
  • You can share them easily, but this one fascinates me.
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  • The birth announcement that god delivered with an archangel,
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  • Even the name of the child was included.
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  • "you're gonna be with child.
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  • You're gonna give birth to a son."
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  • Conception hasn't taken place yet.
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  • "you're gonna be with child.
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  • You'll give birth to a son, and his name is jesus."
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  • You see, i think we labor under a mistaken notion from a
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  • Biblical vantage point, children aren't ours.
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  • Oh, we share some genetic material.
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  • And we're given an assignment as a parent, but god is the author
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  • Of life.
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  • And he knows those children, the scripture's very clear, before
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  • We ever see them or before we hear them utter their first cry.
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  • And that is evidenced in this birth announcement to mary.
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  • "you'll be with child, you'll give birth to a son, and you're
  • 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:55.496
  • Gonna name him jesus."
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  • They're a sacred trust to be cherished and prepared
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  • And released.
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  • Now, most of you aren't raising messiahs.
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  • Probably a little more devilment in the house.
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  • But they're a sacred trust to be cherished, prepared,
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  • And released.
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  • Children make very poor idols.
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  • Mothers choose the gift of birth.
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  • I don't wanna miss that.
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  • Because that message is largely lost in our culture.
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  • We talk in terms of choices.
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  • And from that it ratchets-- the discussion ratchets up so
  • 00:17:42.410 --> 00:17:45.379
  • Quickly with so much emotion and so much animation and so
  • 00:17:45.379 --> 00:17:50.051
  • Many facts.
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  • But from a biblical standpoint, the simplest presentations we
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  • Have are you'll be with child and you'll give birth to a son.
  • 00:17:55.756 --> 00:17:59.794
  • It's clear the choice to give birth to that child is very
  • 00:17:59.794 --> 00:18:04.031
  • Similar to the choice of what you'll name him.
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  • Moms choose to give birth.
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  • And i would submit that if you've been pregnant and chosen
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  • Other than the gift of birth, that there's forgiveness
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  • There too.
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  • That you can move forward.
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  • In fact, i think mother's day is a good day to take just a minute
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  • With that.
  • 00:18:26.287 --> 00:18:27.755
  • You know, we are several decades into this discussion about the
  • 00:18:27.755 --> 00:18:32.326
  • Sanctity of human life and how we view it, and 60 million
  • 00:18:32.326 --> 00:18:36.497
  • Children is a conservative number that have been lost.
  • 00:18:36.497 --> 00:18:41.002
  • Every family has been touched directly or indirectly.
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  • Our nation would be a different place, a dramatically
  • 00:18:47.608 --> 00:18:51.779
  • Different place.
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  • And i'm not interested in igniting the debate and
  • 00:18:54.515 --> 00:18:59.353
  • The argument.
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  • I'm more interested, for the moment, in just staying in the
  • 00:19:00.688 --> 00:19:02.156
  • Simple presentation of scripture.
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  • And because of the--how widespread that is, i think
  • 00:19:05.860 --> 00:19:08.996
  • There is a--
  • 00:19:08.996 --> 00:19:14.802
  • A candor that we need to take a step towards for just
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  • A moment.
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  • The temptation is to wanna live through things, live through the
  • 00:19:25.046 --> 00:19:29.984
  • Seasons of our lives that weren't godly.
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  • Just to live through those hard times just like if you're
  • 00:19:33.154 --> 00:19:35.756
  • Walking through the valley of the shadow of death, just hurry.
  • 00:19:35.756 --> 00:19:40.795
  • But the message is that when you're walking through that
  • 00:19:40.795 --> 00:19:42.597
  • Valley, the only way really to flourish in that valley is to
  • 00:19:42.597 --> 00:19:45.766
  • Understand who your protector is,
  • 00:19:45.766 --> 00:19:49.103
  • Not just to hurry.
  • 00:19:49.103 --> 00:19:51.405
  • In those seasons in our lives where those very difficult
  • 00:19:51.405 --> 00:19:53.874
  • Decisions have been made, usually there's an anxiousness
  • 00:19:53.874 --> 00:19:58.546
  • Just to get to the other side
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  • And then to do our best not to talk about it.
  • 00:20:01.182 --> 00:20:05.987
  • But keeping those things buried is like carrying unforgiveness.
  • 00:20:05.987 --> 00:20:12.393
  • It's a weight, it's a burden, it's a handicap.
  • 00:20:12.393 --> 00:20:16.464
  • And i think it's appropriate this weekend to take a moment
  • 00:20:16.464 --> 00:20:19.834
  • And just the biblical prescription for when we find
  • 00:20:19.834 --> 00:20:23.604
  • Ourselves engaged in something ungodly isn't to deny it or to
  • 00:20:23.604 --> 00:20:26.974
  • Justify it or to explain it or to blame it on someone else
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  • Or the circumstances were really difficult.
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  • The biblical prescription is repentance.
  • 00:20:34.115 --> 00:20:37.318
  • It has a technical meaning and really it's twofold.
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  • It means we change how we think.
  • 00:20:39.954 --> 00:20:42.390
  • We made an ungodly choice and we thought it was okay, we thought
  • 00:20:42.390 --> 00:20:45.459
  • We could get away with it.
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  • We thought we could overcome it.
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  • We thought there'd be no consequence.
  • 00:20:48.162 --> 00:20:49.797
  • And the reality is there is always a consequence
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  • For ungodliness.
  • 00:20:52.333 --> 00:20:56.270
  • So our thought was wrong, and our bad thought led us to
  • 00:20:56.270 --> 00:20:59.640
  • Bad behavior.
  • 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:02.143
  • So repentance says, "god, i'm sorry my thinking was wrong.
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  • And because my thinking was wrong my behavior was wrong.
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  • And i'm sorry.
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  • And i ask you to forgive me."
  • 00:21:16.290 --> 00:21:17.692
  • And i think it's appropriate, not just for ourselves, but to
  • 00:21:20.995 --> 00:21:25.032
  • Have that tool in your own tool kit to help other people.
  • 00:21:25.032 --> 00:21:32.873
  • Stop shouting at people, and extend to them the grace and the
  • 00:21:32.873 --> 00:21:42.249
  • Mercy of god to change our lives.
  • 00:21:42.249 --> 00:21:43.984
  • I'm gonna say a little prayer.
  • 00:21:47.321 --> 00:21:48.656
  • I'm not gonna ask you to stand.
  • 00:21:48.656 --> 00:21:50.024
  • I'm gonna stay seated with you.
  • 00:21:50.024 --> 00:21:52.760
  • But in those places--and this isn't just for the
  • 00:21:52.760 --> 00:21:54.495
  • Women, fellas.
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  • I'm pretty sure there wouldn't be those crisis pregnancies
  • 00:21:56.831 --> 00:22:02.236
  • Unless there were men involved.
  • 00:22:02.236 --> 00:22:05.473
  • And we've lived through way too much ungodliness without ever
  • 00:22:09.677 --> 00:22:14.281
  • Stopping to clean it up.
  • 00:22:14.281 --> 00:22:17.451
  • And if we're really gonna have the kind of breakthroughs that
  • 00:22:17.451 --> 00:22:19.453
  • We need to secure the futures for our children and
  • 00:22:19.453 --> 00:22:21.522
  • Grandchildren, we're gonna have to do more than live through
  • 00:22:21.522 --> 00:22:24.191
  • Our sin.
  • 00:22:24.191 --> 00:22:25.559
  • We're gonna have to be repentant.
  • 00:22:25.559 --> 00:22:26.927
  • "well, it was a hard time."
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  • Okay.
  • 00:22:32.400 --> 00:22:34.735
  • "there weren't good choices."
  • 00:22:34.735 --> 00:22:36.670
  • Understood.
  • 00:22:36.670 --> 00:22:39.140
  • We still made bad ones.
  • 00:22:39.140 --> 00:22:40.541
  • So i'm gonna say a prayer and if it's--to the degree that's
  • 00:22:44.145 --> 00:22:46.614
  • Touched your life, maybe it's something that you have already
  • 00:22:46.614 --> 00:22:51.519
  • Presented to the lord and you've already worked through.
  • 00:22:51.519 --> 00:22:54.522
  • I don't think it's a bad idea.
  • 00:22:54.522 --> 00:22:55.856
  • I don't think it's unhealthy or unhelpful to simply say to the
  • 00:22:55.856 --> 00:22:59.126
  • Holy spirit, if there's anything there.
  • 00:22:59.126 --> 00:23:00.861
  • And there's some ways you can recognize that the conversation
  • 00:23:04.198 --> 00:23:06.634
  • Makes you uncomfortable.
  • 00:23:06.634 --> 00:23:07.968
  • The memory of the individuals involved triggers all sorts of
  • 00:23:07.968 --> 00:23:11.005
  • Emotional responses, from anger to resentment to grief.
  • 00:23:11.005 --> 00:23:16.811
  • We need to be forgiven and we need to forgive.
  • 00:23:16.811 --> 00:23:20.281
  • Can we do that?
  • 00:23:20.281 --> 00:23:22.516
  • You just bow with me in prayer for a moment?
  • 00:23:22.516 --> 00:23:25.653
  • Heavenly father, i thank you that you're the author of life.
  • 00:23:25.653 --> 00:23:31.158
  • Or that there's no child hidden from you.
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  • That you know us and we're knit together in our mother's wombs,
  • 00:23:33.961 --> 00:23:36.497
  • That those lives are a gift that begin with you
  • 00:23:36.497 --> 00:23:40.634
  • And then are entrusted to us for a short season.
  • 00:23:40.634 --> 00:23:45.005
  • And lord, our lives have coincided with a cheapening
  • 00:23:45.005 --> 00:23:51.612
  • Of life.
  • 00:23:51.612 --> 00:23:53.781
  • Lord, we have seen millions of children sacrificed
  • 00:23:53.781 --> 00:23:56.217
  • For convenience.
  • 00:23:56.217 --> 00:23:59.320
  • Oh lord, we come today not to point an accusing finger at
  • 00:23:59.320 --> 00:24:01.856
  • Someone else,
  • 00:24:01.856 --> 00:24:04.124
  • But to acknowledge our own complicitness in this.
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  • Forgive us.
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  • Forgive us when we've set your boundaries aside.
  • 00:24:10.865 --> 00:24:13.000
  • Forgive us when we have been casual with things that we
  • 00:24:13.000 --> 00:24:16.437
  • Should not have been casual with.
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  • Forgive us for our disobedience.
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  • Lord, we ask for your mercy in our lives.
  • 00:24:24.645 --> 00:24:27.982
  • And we forgive those who we feel like betrayed us or let us down
  • 00:24:27.982 --> 00:24:32.453
  • Or disappointed us.
  • 00:24:32.453 --> 00:24:36.123
  • Lord, we release them.
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  • We cancel the marker.
  • 00:24:38.526 --> 00:24:41.996
  • And i thank you now that through the blood of jesus, you will
  • 00:24:41.996 --> 00:24:46.000
  • Cleanse us, redeem us, sanctify us, justify us.
  • 00:24:46.000 --> 00:24:50.738
  • Lord, you paid a tremendous price that we could be clean.
  • 00:24:54.508 --> 00:24:58.579
  • So we choose not to treat it casually or flippantly, but to
  • 00:24:58.579 --> 00:25:04.485
  • Recognize it took the life of your son that our lives might
  • 00:25:04.485 --> 00:25:08.889
  • Be clean.
  • 00:25:08.889 --> 00:25:11.191
  • And now by faith we receive that forgiveness.
  • 00:25:11.191 --> 00:25:14.328
  • And i thank you for the good things you have for us, for the
  • 00:25:14.328 --> 00:25:17.598
  • Freedom that awaits us, in jesus's name, amen.
  • 00:25:17.598 --> 00:25:23.971
  • How about just a big deep breath?
  • 00:25:23.971 --> 00:25:28.042
  • You know, sometimes we carry that stuff a long time.
  • 00:25:28.042 --> 00:25:32.513
  • And it's not a--it's not something you earn, but it's not
  • 00:25:32.513 --> 00:25:35.816
  • A simple thing to lay down a burden, an emotion, that you
  • 00:25:35.816 --> 00:25:41.188
  • Have carried for decades and decades.
  • 00:25:41.188 --> 00:25:44.091
  • And the fact that you've buried it in the past or hidden it from
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  • The video, there's a freedom that's available to us.
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  • Allen: you know, it seems to me our nation is more polarized
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  • Than any time i can remember.
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  • I don't believe we're gonna bridge that gap with better
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  • Politics, i believe we will change that by an extension of
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  • Our faith.
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  • Those of us with a biblical worldview, those of us that
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  • Believe jesus of nazareth is lord, christ, and king have to
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  • Understand how to take that message back into the
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  • Marketplace, back into academia, back into our neighborhoods.
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  • We got a tool that we think will help you lead with your faith.
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  • It's really simple, they're conversation cards, we've built
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  • Them around some imagined audiences, whether it's a small
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  • Group, christian friends, family, or even children to help
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  • You engage a conversation.
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  • Whether you share them with other people or you just use
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  • Them to help fuel your own imagination, we're gonna lead
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  • With our faith in this season to help bring the purposes of god
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  • To bear in our communities, our homes, and beyond.
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  • Let's pray.
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  • Father, i ask for your anointing, that these
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  • Conversation cards would be more than a tool, that they would be
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  • Something you anoint for your purposes in this season to
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  • Transform lives.
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  • In jesus's name, amen.
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