Joyce Meyer - How Can I Change? (Part 2)

November 14, 2025 | 29:29

Are you ready to experience change in your life? Today, Joyce shares on the importance of studying and applying God's Word in the areas of your life that need to change.

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Joyce Meyer: Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer - How Can I Change? (Part 2) | November 14, 2025

>> joyce: only god
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>> joyce: only god can change a heart.
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>> joyce: only god can change a heart. >> [audience applauding]
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Can change a heart. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: otherwise, all we are,
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: otherwise, all we are, is into behavior modification.
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>> joyce: otherwise, all we are, is into behavior modification. and that's not what
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Is into behavior modification. and that's not what christianity is,
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And that's not what christianity is, it's not an invitation
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Christianity is, it's not an invitation for behavior modification,
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It's not an invitation for behavior modification, it's about transformation.
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer.
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer. i've seen god's power
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer. i've seen god's power transform my own life,
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I've seen god's power transform my own life, and he will do it for you.
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>> joyce: god created man
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>> joyce: god created man because he wanted somebody
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>> joyce: god created man because he wanted somebody to love, and he wanted
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Because he wanted somebody to love, and he wanted somebody to love him back.
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To love, and he wanted somebody to love him back. and the most important
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Somebody to love him back. and the most important commandment in the bible is,
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And the most important commandment in the bible is, “you shall love the lord
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Commandment in the bible is, “you shall love the lord your god with all your heart,
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“you shall love the lord your god with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.”
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Your god with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.” the more you fall in love
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Soul, mind and strength.” the more you fall in love with jesus, the better
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The more you fall in love with jesus, the better you will behave.
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With jesus, the better you will behave. now, knowing that god wants
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You will behave. now, knowing that god wants us to change, we try and we try,
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Now, knowing that god wants us to change, we try and we try, and we try, and we try,
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Us to change, we try and we try, and we try, and we try, and we try.
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And we try, and we try, and we try. and that may sound noble,
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And we try. and that may sound noble, but that's not what god
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And that may sound noble, but that's not what god is asking us to do.
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But that's not what god is asking us to do. he's asking us to believe,
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Is asking us to do. he's asking us to believe, to lean on him, to rely on him,
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He's asking us to believe, to lean on him, to rely on him, and to know that apart from
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To lean on him, to rely on him, and to know that apart from him, we can do nothing.
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And to know that apart from him, we can do nothing. if you could change yourself,
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Him, we can do nothing. if you could change yourself, you would take the credit.
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If you could change yourself, you would take the credit. and god's not gonna share
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You would take the credit. and god's not gonna share his glory with anybody.
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Now, i'll give you an example
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Now, i'll give you an example of what we do.
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Now, i'll give you an example of what we do. i'm fairly new when--
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Of what we do. i'm fairly new when-- not a new christian.
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I'm fairly new when-- not a new christian. i was born again at nine,
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Not a new christian. i was born again at nine, but i never had any teaching
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I was born again at nine, but i never had any teaching really until i was
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But i never had any teaching really until i was in my late thirties.
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Really until i was in my late thirties. and so, you know, no matter
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In my late thirties. and so, you know, no matter how born again you are,
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And so, you know, no matter how born again you are, if you don't know anything,
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How born again you are, if you don't know anything, you can't change.
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If you don't know anything, you can't change. and so, when i started hearing
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You can't change. and so, when i started hearing really good preaching--
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And so, when i started hearing really good preaching-- i'd been in church for a long
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Really good preaching-- i'd been in church for a long time, and i was hearing
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I'd been in church for a long time, and i was hearing messages, but there was
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Time, and i was hearing messages, but there was no real anointing,
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Messages, but there was no real anointing, it was a lot of religion.
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No real anointing, it was a lot of religion. and when i started hearing
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It was a lot of religion. and when i started hearing really good, anointed bible
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And when i started hearing really good, anointed bible teaching, i started learning
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Really good, anointed bible teaching, i started learning that i had a lot of problems.
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Teaching, i started learning that i had a lot of problems. up until then, i thought dave
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That i had a lot of problems. up until then, i thought dave had a lot of problems.
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Up until then, i thought dave had a lot of problems. >> [audience laughing]
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Had a lot of problems. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i mean, i was sure
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i mean, i was sure if he would change,
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>> joyce: i mean, i was sure if he would change, then i could be happy.
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If he would change, then i could be happy. if he would buy me more gifts,
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Then i could be happy. if he would buy me more gifts, i'd be happy.
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If he would buy me more gifts, i'd be happy. if he would stop playing golf,
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I'd be happy. if he would stop playing golf, i'd be happy.
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If he would stop playing golf, i'd be happy. if he wouldn't watch football
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I'd be happy. if he wouldn't watch football every sunday, i'd be happy.
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If he wouldn't watch football every sunday, i'd be happy. and i remember the day that
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Every sunday, i'd be happy. and i remember the day that dave said to me, "i have done
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And i remember the day that dave said to me, "i have done everything i know to do,
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Dave said to me, "i have done everything i know to do, to make you happy, and you are
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Everything i know to do, to make you happy, and you are determined to be unhappy.
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To make you happy, and you are determined to be unhappy. so, i just wanna let you know
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Determined to be unhappy. so, i just wanna let you know that i'm done trying."
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So, i just wanna let you know that i'm done trying." and then he said...
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That i'm done trying." and then he said... >> [audience applauding]
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And then he said... >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: and then he said,
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: and then he said, “however, i am going to be happy
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>> joyce: and then he said, “however, i am going to be happy and enjoy my life.
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“however, i am going to be happy and enjoy my life. you can do what you want to.”
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And enjoy my life. you can do what you want to.” now, that was one of the best
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You can do what you want to.” now, that was one of the best things that he could have
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Now, that was one of the best things that he could have ever done for me, because
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Things that he could have ever done for me, because really what he was saying,
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Ever done for me, because really what he was saying, although we didn't know
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Really what he was saying, although we didn't know all these words then,
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Although we didn't know all these words then, he was saying i am not gonna
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All these words then, he was saying i am not gonna be codependent on your problems.
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He was saying i am not gonna be codependent on your problems. see, if you're in relationship
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Be codependent on your problems. see, if you're in relationship with somebody who is unhappy,
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See, if you're in relationship with somebody who is unhappy, and you let--and your happiness
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With somebody who is unhappy, and you let--and your happiness depends on whether they're
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And you let--and your happiness depends on whether they're happy or not, now you're
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Depends on whether they're happy or not, now you're not living your own life,
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Happy or not, now you're not living your own life, you're codependent on them.
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Not living your own life, you're codependent on them. if they wake up in a good mood,
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You're codependent on them. if they wake up in a good mood, you can be in a good mood.
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If they wake up in a good mood, you can be in a good mood. but if they have a lousy day,
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You can be in a good mood. but if they have a lousy day, you have a lousy day.
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But if they have a lousy day, you have a lousy day. it made me so mad that dave
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You have a lousy day. it made me so mad that dave was gonna enjoy his life.
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It made me so mad that dave was gonna enjoy his life. >> [audience laughing]
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Was gonna enjoy his life. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: you know, when you're
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: you know, when you're unhappy, you don't want other
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>> joyce: you know, when you're unhappy, you don't want other people to be happy.
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Unhappy, you don't want other people to be happy. their joy irritates you,
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People to be happy. their joy irritates you, terribly!
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Their joy irritates you, terribly! and so, you try to do things
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Terribly! and so, you try to do things to annoy them and make
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And so, you try to do things to annoy them and make them unhappy.
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To annoy them and make them unhappy. and dave just stayed happy,
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Them unhappy. and dave just stayed happy, and i hated it.
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And dave just stayed happy, and i hated it. >> [audience laughing]
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And i hated it. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but one of the
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but one of the worst things you can do,
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>> joyce: but one of the worst things you can do, if you live with a controller,
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Worst things you can do, if you live with a controller, is let them control you,
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If you live with a controller, is let them control you, because as long as you do it,
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Is let them control you, because as long as you do it, the more you're feeding
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Because as long as you do it, the more you're feeding their desire to do it.
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The more you're feeding their desire to do it. now, when you stand up to them,
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Their desire to do it. now, when you stand up to them, they are going to get mad,
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Now, when you stand up to them, they are going to get mad, you can count on it.
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They are going to get mad, you can count on it. but actually, secretly, down
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You can count on it. but actually, secretly, down deep inside, they want you
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But actually, secretly, down deep inside, they want you to stand up to them, and they
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Deep inside, they want you to stand up to them, and they don't respect you because you
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To stand up to them, and they don't respect you because you let them walk all over you.
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Don't respect you because you let them walk all over you. >> [audience applauding]
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Let them walk all over you. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: so, i got so mad.
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My--it was like rage
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My--it was like rage coming out of me.
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My--it was like rage coming out of me. but when i finally got
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Coming out of me. but when i finally got it through my head that he was
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But when i finally got it through my head that he was not gonna let me control him,
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It through my head that he was not gonna let me control him, and he was gonna be happy
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Not gonna let me control him, and he was gonna be happy whether i was happy or not,
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And he was gonna be happy whether i was happy or not, i decided, “well, i guess
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Whether i was happy or not, i decided, “well, i guess i might as well get happy too.”
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I decided, “well, i guess i might as well get happy too.” >> [audience laughing]
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I might as well get happy too.” >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: come on now.
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: come on now. and i honestly--i was
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>> joyce: come on now. and i honestly--i was so deceived, i mean, i really
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And i honestly--i was so deceived, i mean, i really thought that dave
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Was the problem.
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Was the problem. and john 8 says, “if you
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Was the problem. and john 8 says, “if you continue in my word, then are
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And john 8 says, “if you continue in my word, then are you my disciples indeed; and
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Continue in my word, then are you my disciples indeed; and you will know the truth, and
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You my disciples indeed; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.”
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You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” but it's not the truth about
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Somebody else that will make
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Somebody else that will make you free, it's the truth about
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Somebody else that will make you free, it's the truth about you that will make you free.
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You free, it's the truth about you that will make you free. and there is nothing harder than
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You that will make you free. and there is nothing harder than facing truth about ourselves.
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And there is nothing harder than facing truth about ourselves. >> [audience applauding]
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>> joyce: it is so painful
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>> joyce: it is so painful to admit that you're
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>> joyce: it is so painful to admit that you're the problem.
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To admit that you're the problem. i said, "it is so painful
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The problem. i said, "it is so painful to admit that you're
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I said, "it is so painful to admit that you're the problem."
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To admit that you're the problem." >> joyce: i'm just trying
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The problem." >> joyce: i'm just trying to open up your mind
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>> joyce: i'm just trying to open up your mind to the fact that you
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To open up your mind to the fact that you could be the problem.
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To the fact that you could be the problem. >> [audience laughing]
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>> joyce: i mean, maybe
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>> joyce: i mean, maybe you're not, but you could be.
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>> joyce: i mean, maybe you're not, but you could be. so, would you at least take
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You're not, but you could be. so, would you at least take it before god and say,
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So, would you at least take it before god and say, "am i the problem?"
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It before god and say, "am i the problem?" and he will tell you the truth.
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"am i the problem?" and he will tell you the truth. i remember one day when i was
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And he will tell you the truth. i remember one day when i was praying for dave to change...
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I remember one day when i was praying for dave to change... >> [audience laughing]
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Praying for dave to change... >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and god
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and god interrupted my prayer.
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>> joyce: and god interrupted my prayer. can you imagine god interrupting
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Interrupted my prayer. can you imagine god interrupting your prayer when you're
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Can you imagine god interrupting your prayer when you're praying to him?
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Your prayer when you're praying to him? “oh god, you gotta change dave.
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Praying to him? “oh god, you gotta change dave. you gotta change dave.
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“oh god, you gotta change dave. you gotta change dave. i can't go on like this, god,
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You gotta change dave. i can't go on like this, god, you gotta change dave.”
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I can't go on like this, god, you gotta change dave.” and god spoke and said,
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You gotta change dave.” and god spoke and said, “dave's not the problem.”
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And god spoke and said, “dave's not the problem.” i thought, “well, who is?
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“dave's not the problem.” i thought, “well, who is? there's only me and him,
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I thought, “well, who is? there's only me and him, >> [audience laughing]
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There's only me and him, >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: couldn't be me.”
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: couldn't be me.” and god opened my eyes,
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>> joyce: couldn't be me.” and god opened my eyes, and he showed me what
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And god opened my eyes, and he showed me what it was like to live with me.
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And he showed me what it was like to live with me. >> [audience laughing]
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It was like to live with me. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and i cried
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and i cried for three days.
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>> joyce: and i cried for three days. >> [audience laughing]
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For three days. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i was controlling,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i was controlling, manipulative, i got mad every
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>> joyce: i was controlling, manipulative, i got mad every time i didn't get my way.
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Manipulative, i got mad every time i didn't get my way. now, a lot of my problems were
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Time i didn't get my way. now, a lot of my problems were because of the way i was raised.
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Now, a lot of my problems were because of the way i was raised. but what people do is they
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Because of the way i was raised. but what people do is they use their past problems
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But what people do is they use their past problems as an excuse for bad behavior.
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Use their past problems as an excuse for bad behavior. and the lord has taught me,
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As an excuse for bad behavior. and the lord has taught me, that is why you were the way
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And the lord has taught me, that is why you were the way you were, but you can't
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That is why you were the way you were, but you can't let it become an excuse
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You were, but you can't let it become an excuse to stay that way.
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Let it become an excuse to stay that way. >> [audience applauding]
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To stay that way. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: so, if by any chance
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: so, if by any chance anybody here is doing that,
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>> joyce: so, if by any chance anybody here is doing that, it won't work.
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Anybody here is doing that, it won't work. so, here's kind of how
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It won't work. so, here's kind of how i did things.
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So, here's kind of how i did things. i go to church, i remember
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I did things. i go to church, i remember this one specifically,
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I go to church, i remember this one specifically, and i started hearing
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This one specifically, and i started hearing messages about the mouth,
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And i started hearing messages about the mouth, the power of life and death
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Messages about the mouth, the power of life and death is in the tongue.
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The power of life and death is in the tongue. and how we need to not
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Is in the tongue. and how we need to not be hasty with our words,
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And how we need to not be hasty with our words, and how much trouble our
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Be hasty with our words, and how much trouble our mouths can get us into.
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And how much trouble our mouths can get us into. and so, okay, i need to change,
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Mouths can get us into. and so, okay, i need to change, because my mouth got
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And so, okay, i need to change, because my mouth got me in a lot of trouble.
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Because my mouth got me in a lot of trouble. and so, i got a plan,
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Me in a lot of trouble. and so, i got a plan, because that's what people
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And so, i got a plan, because that's what people do when they're in the works
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Because that's what people do when they're in the works of the flesh.
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Do when they're in the works of the flesh. they don't go to god and say,
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Of the flesh. they don't go to god and say, “god, will you help me?
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They don't go to god and say, “god, will you help me? there's no way i can change
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“god, will you help me? there's no way i can change without you, if there's
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There's no way i can change without you, if there's something that you want
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Without you, if there's something that you want me to do, show me and give
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Something that you want me to do, show me and give me the grace to do it.”
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Me to do, show me and give me the grace to do it.” no, no, we leave god out of it,
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Me the grace to do it.” no, no, we leave god out of it, and we get a plan.
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No, no, we leave god out of it, and we get a plan. so, i got a plan, and my plan
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And we get a plan. so, i got a plan, and my plan was i am just not gonna
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So, i got a plan, and my plan was i am just not gonna talk at all, then i can't
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Was i am just not gonna talk at all, then i can't get in trouble.
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Talk at all, then i can't get in trouble. >> [audience laughing]
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Get in trouble. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: see, the flesh
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: see, the flesh is always extreme, always.
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>> joyce: see, the flesh is always extreme, always. it's extreme one way
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Is always extreme, always. it's extreme one way or it's extreme the other way,
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It's extreme one way or it's extreme the other way, it's never balanced.
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Or it's extreme the other way, it's never balanced. and so, i was gonna go from
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It's never balanced. and so, i was gonna go from running my mouth all the time
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And so, i was gonna go from running my mouth all the time and getting in trouble,
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Running my mouth all the time and getting in trouble, to not talking at all.
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And getting in trouble, to not talking at all. and i was pretty
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To not talking at all. and i was pretty successful at that.
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And i was pretty successful at that. i didn't, i didn't talk.
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Successful at that. i didn't, i didn't talk. people would say things
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I didn't, i didn't talk. people would say things to me and i‘d go, “mm-hmm.”
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People would say things to me and i‘d go, “mm-hmm.” >> [audience laughing]
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To me and i‘d go, “mm-hmm.” >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and then, you know,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and then, you know, people would say,
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>> joyce: and then, you know, people would say, “what is wrong with you?”
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People would say, “what is wrong with you?” and then that would make
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“what is wrong with you?” and then that would make me mad because i thought,
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And then that would make me mad because i thought, “if i talk you don't like it,
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Me mad because i thought, “if i talk you don't like it, and if i don't talk
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“if i talk you don't like it, and if i don't talk you don't like it."
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And if i don't talk you don't like it." >> [audience laughing]
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You don't like it." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: however,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: however, the longer i didn't talk,
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>> joyce: however, the longer i didn't talk, the more i got depressed.
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The longer i didn't talk, the more i got depressed. and i sure couldn't figure
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The more i got depressed. and i sure couldn't figure that out because i thought,
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And i sure couldn't figure that out because i thought, “god, i'm trying to do
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That out because i thought, “god, i'm trying to do the right thing.”
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“god, i'm trying to do the right thing.” get it?
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The right thing.” get it? i'm trying,
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Get it? i'm trying, to do the right thing.
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I'm trying, to do the right thing. “so, why do i feel depressed?”
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To do the right thing. “so, why do i feel depressed?” and god showed me, he said,
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“so, why do i feel depressed?” and god showed me, he said, you're like a pressure cooker.
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You've got all this steam
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You've got all this steam building up inside,
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You've got all this steam building up inside, because although you're
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Building up inside, because although you're keeping your mouth shut,
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Because although you're keeping your mouth shut, your heart has not changed.
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>> [audience applauding]
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: i was still saying
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: i was still saying all those things, i just wasn't
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>> joyce: i was still saying all those things, i just wasn't verbalizing them, but they
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All those things, i just wasn't verbalizing them, but they were going around inside me.
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Verbalizing them, but they were going around inside me. and see, that's why we can't
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Were going around inside me. and see, that's why we can't change ourselves,
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And see, that's why we can't change ourselves, only god can change a heart.
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Change ourselves, only god can change a heart. >> [audience applauding]
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>> joyce: otherwise, all we are,
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>> joyce: otherwise, all we are, is into behavior modification.
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>> joyce: otherwise, all we are, is into behavior modification. and that's not what
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Is into behavior modification. and that's not what christianity is.
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And that's not what christianity is. it's not an invitation
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Christianity is. it's not an invitation for behavior modification,
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It's not an invitation for behavior modification, it's about transformation.
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For behavior modification, it's about transformation. >> [audience applauding]
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It's about transformation. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: god changing
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: god changing you from the inside out.
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Now, what i really wanna make
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Now, what i really wanna make sure i leave you with this
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Now, what i really wanna make sure i leave you with this morning, and i have 4 minutes
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Sure i leave you with this morning, and i have 4 minutes and 38 seconds to do it,
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Morning, and i have 4 minutes and 38 seconds to do it, >> [audience laughing]
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And 38 seconds to do it, >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: is that this
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: is that this complete change that
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>> joyce: is that this complete change that god wants in us is going
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Complete change that god wants in us is going to take lots of time.
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God wants in us is going to take lots of time. and the best news that i can
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To take lots of time. and the best news that i can give you is that while you're
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And the best news that i can give you is that while you're changing, god wants you to enjoy
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Give you is that while you're changing, god wants you to enjoy yourself and enjoy your life.
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Changing, god wants you to enjoy yourself and enjoy your life. >> [audience applauding]
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Yourself and enjoy your life. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: i can't really tell
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: i can't really tell if you're just clapping
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>> joyce: i can't really tell if you're just clapping to make me happy,
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If you're just clapping to make me happy, or if you really get it.
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To make me happy, or if you really get it. while you're changing--
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Or if you really get it. while you're changing-- see, i love it now when
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While you're changing-- see, i love it now when the holy spirit convicts
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See, i love it now when the holy spirit convicts me of something that
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The holy spirit convicts me of something that i'm doing wrong.
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Me of something that i'm doing wrong. it just makes me so happy.
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I'm doing wrong. it just makes me so happy. that used to make
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It just makes me so happy. that used to make me feel condemned.
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That used to make me feel condemned. you say, “well, why does
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Me feel condemned. you say, “well, why does it make you happy?
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You say, “well, why does it make you happy? because i'm so happy that
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It make you happy? because i'm so happy that he loves me enough to care,
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Because i'm so happy that he loves me enough to care, and not to just leave
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He loves me enough to care, and not to just leave me in the mess i'm in.
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And not to just leave me in the mess i'm in. so i thank him.
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Me in the mess i'm in. so i thank him. “thank you, god,
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So i thank him. “thank you, god, for showing that to me.
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“thank you, god, for showing that to me. now, we both know that
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For showing that to me. now, we both know that i can't do anything about it,
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Now, we both know that i can't do anything about it, so i'm asking you to change me.
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I can't do anything about it, so i'm asking you to change me. and if there is something you
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So i'm asking you to change me. and if there is something you want me to do, please show
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And if there is something you want me to do, please show me what it is.”
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Want me to do, please show me what it is.” the only thing i know to do
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Me what it is.” the only thing i know to do is i will study the word of god
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The only thing i know to do is i will study the word of god in that area that god has told
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Is i will study the word of god in that area that god has told me i have a problem in.
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In that area that god has told me i have a problem in. if you have a bad temper,
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Me i have a problem in. if you have a bad temper, studying prosperity is not
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If you have a bad temper, studying prosperity is not gonna help you.
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Studying prosperity is not gonna help you. >> [audience laughing]
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Gonna help you. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but the bible has
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but the bible has plenty to say about anger,
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>> joyce: but the bible has plenty to say about anger, and how we should behave.
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Plenty to say about anger, and how we should behave. so, you treat the word
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And how we should behave. so, you treat the word of god like medicine.
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So, you treat the word of god like medicine. if i have a headache, i don't
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Of god like medicine. if i have a headache, i don't put a band-aid on my head,
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If i have a headache, i don't put a band-aid on my head, i know to take an aspirin.
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Put a band-aid on my head, i know to take an aspirin. if i cut myself,
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I know to take an aspirin. if i cut myself, i don't stick an aspirin in,
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If i cut myself, i don't stick an aspirin in, i put a band-aid on it.
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I don't stick an aspirin in, i put a band-aid on it. and we need to treat
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I put a band-aid on it. and we need to treat the word of god the same way.
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Study in the area where
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Study in the area where you need help, amen?
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Study in the area where you need help, amen? >> [audience applauding]
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You need help, amen? >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: now, what i'm telling
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: now, what i'm telling you is, i mean, it works, study
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>> joyce: now, what i'm telling you is, i mean, it works, study in the area where you need help.
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You is, i mean, it works, study in the area where you need help. study in the area where you
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In the area where you need help. study in the area where you need help and spend time
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Study in the area where you need help and spend time with god, just loving him.
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Need help and spend time with god, just loving him. “i love you, lord.
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I love you so much.
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I love you so much. i thank you for all that you've
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I love you so much. i thank you for all that you've done for me in my life.
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I thank you for all that you've done for me in my life. thank you, god, for what
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Done for me in my life. thank you, god, for what you've yet to do.
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Thank you, god, for what you've yet to do. i trust you to change me.
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You've yet to do. i trust you to change me. i trust you to do in my life
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I trust you to change me. i trust you to do in my life what needs to be done.”
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I trust you to do in my life what needs to be done.” and then just keep studying
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What needs to be done.” and then just keep studying in the area where you need help,
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And then just keep studying in the area where you need help, and you will change
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In the area where you need help, and you will change little by little, from glory
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And you will change little by little, from glory to glory, you'll change.
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Little by little, from glory to glory, you'll change. and you should give god
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To glory, you'll change. and you should give god the credit and know that
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And you should give god the credit and know that you didn't do it yourself.
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Now, is there anybody here,
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Now, is there anybody here, you ever tried to change
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Now, is there anybody here, you ever tried to change yourself?
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You ever tried to change yourself? okay, and doesn't
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Yourself? okay, and doesn't it frustrate you?
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Okay, and doesn't it frustrate you? because have you ever said
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It frustrate you? because have you ever said this--i've said this a million
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Because have you ever said this--i've said this a million times, “god, i don't know what
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This--i've said this a million times, “god, i don't know what to do, i've done everything
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Times, “god, i don't know what to do, i've done everything i know to do and nothing
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To do, i've done everything i know to do and nothing is working.”
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I know to do and nothing is working.” and then i would, “i give up!
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Is working.” and then i would, “i give up! i just give up.”
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And then i would, “i give up! i just give up.” and one day i said that--
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I just give up.” and one day i said that-- i was very dramatic,
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And one day i said that-- i was very dramatic, i fell on the floor and
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I was very dramatic, i fell on the floor and i said, “god, i just give up.
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I fell on the floor and i said, “god, i just give up. >> [audience laughing]
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I said, “god, i just give up. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: “i give up.”
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: “i give up.” and i actually heard
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>> joyce: “i give up.” and i actually heard the holy spirit say, “really?”
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>> [audience laughing]
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he sounded excited.
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he sounded excited. and i thought, “well, why are
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>> joyce: he sounded excited. and i thought, “well, why are you so excited about that?”
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And i thought, “well, why are you so excited about that?” because when we quit, that's
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You so excited about that?” because when we quit, that's the only time god gets to work.
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Because when we quit, that's the only time god gets to work. >> [audience cheering]
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The only time god gets to work. >> [audience cheering] >> joyce: amen?
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You are so precious.
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You are so precious. and the very fact that you
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You are so precious. and the very fact that you want to change, pleases god
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And the very fact that you want to change, pleases god more than you can even imagine.
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Want to change, pleases god more than you can even imagine. and you don't have to stay
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More than you can even imagine. and you don't have to stay mad at yourself all the time
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And you don't have to stay mad at yourself all the time because you've not arrived.
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Paul said, “i've not arrived,
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Paul said, “i've not arrived, but i'm pressing on.
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Paul said, “i've not arrived, but i'm pressing on. i'm pressing toward that
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But i'm pressing on. i'm pressing toward that place of perfection.
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I'm pressing toward that place of perfection. but i'm not there.
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Place of perfection. but i'm not there. but one thing i do: forgetting
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But i'm not there. but one thing i do: forgetting what lies behind pressing
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But one thing i do: forgetting what lies behind pressing on to the things that
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What lies behind pressing on to the things that are ahead.”
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On to the things that are ahead.” you cannot make progress today
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Are ahead.” you cannot make progress today if you drag yesterday's messes
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You cannot make progress today if you drag yesterday's messes along with you, amen.
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If you drag yesterday's messes along with you, amen. >> [audience applauding]
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>> [music]
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>> ginger: joyce, i would
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>> ginger: joyce, i would love to have a conversation
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Love to have a conversation with you that will shock
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With you that will shock everyone who's watching.
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Everyone who's watching. >> joyce: uh-oh [laughs].
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>> joyce: uh-oh [laughs]. >> ginger: i think,
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>> ginger: i think, people think that everybody
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People think that everybody else has it all together.
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Else has it all together. they have no more areas
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They have no more areas of spiritual growth that
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Of spiritual growth that they need to work on it all.
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They need to work on it all. so, let's have a conversation
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So, let's have a conversation about those areas
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We're always working on.
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We're always working on. we're never done,
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We're always working on. we're never done, in other words.
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We're never done, in other words. what are some
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In other words. what are some of the areas for you?
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What are some of the areas for you? >> joyce: well, first of all,
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Of the areas for you? >> joyce: well, first of all, let me say, this very thing
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>> joyce: well, first of all, let me say, this very thing we're talking about, i think,
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Let me say, this very thing we're talking about, i think, is one of the reasons why
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We're talking about, i think, is one of the reasons why we need to be more honest
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Is one of the reasons why we need to be more honest with each other.
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You know, the bible says,
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You know, the bible says, "confess your faults
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"confess your faults to one another that you
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To one another that you may be healed," in james.
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Do people tend to think that
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Do people tend to think that everybody else is perfect,
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Do people tend to think that everybody else is perfect, but sometimes we,
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Everybody else is perfect, but sometimes we, want everybody to think
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But sometimes we, want everybody to think that we're perfect.
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Want everybody to think that we're perfect. >> ginger: that is so true.
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That we're perfect. >> ginger: that is so true. >> joyce: we have a tendency
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>> ginger: that is so true. >> joyce: we have a tendency to really like to share
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>> joyce: we have a tendency to really like to share our victories, but we're
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To really like to share our victories, but we're not quite as open about
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Our victories, but we're not quite as open about sharing our faults.
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Not quite as open about sharing our faults. but as far as me, you know,
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Sharing our faults. but as far as me, you know, first of all, i've been
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But as far as me, you know, first of all, i've been walking with the lord,
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First of all, i've been walking with the lord, studying the word
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Walking with the lord, studying the word for about 45 years, and--
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Studying the word for about 45 years, and-- which is a long time.
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For about 45 years, and-- which is a long time. so, i have some growth,
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Which is a long time. so, i have some growth, but there's usually--
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So, i have some growth, but there's usually-- for each person,
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But there's usually-- for each person, there's a couple things
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For each person, there's a couple things in their life that are kind
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There's a couple things in their life that are kind of like "hang-on" weaknesses,
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In their life that are kind of like "hang-on" weaknesses, things that seem to crop
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Of like "hang-on" weaknesses, things that seem to crop up here and there,
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Things that seem to crop up here and there, all throughout your life.
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Up here and there, all throughout your life. and i would venture
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All throughout your life. and i would venture to say that probably one
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And i would venture to say that probably one of my greatest weaknesses
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To say that probably one of my greatest weaknesses is impatience.
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Of my greatest weaknesses is impatience. >> ginger: i'm right there,
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Is impatience. >> ginger: i'm right there, with you.
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>> ginger: i'm right there, with you. >> joyce: it's part of a type
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With you. >> joyce: it's part of a type a choleric personality.
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>> joyce: it's part of a type a choleric personality. and it's not--
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A choleric personality. and it's not-- for me, it's not so much
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And it's not-- for me, it's not so much like being impatient about
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For me, it's not so much like being impatient about waiting on god to do things,
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Like being impatient about waiting on god to do things, because i've kinda learned,
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Waiting on god to do things, because i've kinda learned, you're not gonna hurry him.
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Because i've kinda learned, you're not gonna hurry him. but if i'm waiting on somebody,
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You're not gonna hurry him. but if i'm waiting on somebody, or if i'm trying to explain
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But if i'm waiting on somebody, or if i'm trying to explain something to somebody that,
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Or if i'm trying to explain something to somebody that, to me, should be obvious,
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Something to somebody that, to me, should be obvious, and they just aren't getting it,
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To me, should be obvious, and they just aren't getting it, and aren't getting it.
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You know, sometimes,
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You know, sometimes, i can get impatient there.
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I can get impatient there. i don't like it, if people are
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I don't like it, if people are late for appointments.
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Late for appointments. i don't like
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I don't like it if i go to a doctor
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It if i go to a doctor and he's 45 minutes
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And he's 45 minutes late taking me.
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Late taking me. so, that would probably
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So, that would probably be the biggest thing
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Be the biggest thing that i deal with.
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That i deal with. also, my personality
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Also, my personality tends to be a little
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Tends to be a little bit...[gruff sound].
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Bit...[gruff sound]. and so, i'm always working
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And so, i'm always working on gentleness and trying to--
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On gentleness and trying to-- i mean, i think i have
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I mean, i think i have a kind heart,
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Across a little bit
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Across a little bit gruffer partially
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Across a little bit gruffer partially because my voice is so deep
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Gruffer partially because my voice is so deep and partially just because
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Because my voice is so deep and partially just because of the...[gruff sound].
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And partially just because of the...[gruff sound]. i just do everything
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Of the...[gruff sound]. i just do everything in a strong way.
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I just do everything in a strong way. >> ginger: fervor, yeah.
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In a strong way. >> ginger: fervor, yeah. >> joyce: yeah.
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>> ginger: fervor, yeah. >> joyce: yeah. and i think, we're always
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>> joyce: yeah. and i think, we're always all coming up with different
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And i think, we're always all coming up with different areas of pride, in our lives.
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All coming up with different areas of pride, in our lives. that's another one that
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Areas of pride, in our lives. that's another one that i don't know will ever
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That's another one that i don't know will ever completely go away.
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I don't know will ever completely go away. pride is just a real issue
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Completely go away. pride is just a real issue because we want everybody
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Pride is just a real issue because we want everybody to think we're great.
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Because we want everybody to think we're great. and sometimes, you know,
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To think we're great. and sometimes, you know, we're just not, so--
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And sometimes, you know, we're just not, so-- >> ginger: so, what do
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We're just not, so-- >> ginger: so, what do you do in these areas?
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>> ginger: so, what do you do in these areas? how do you continue
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You do in these areas? how do you continue to grow in these areas?
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How do you continue to grow in these areas? >> joyce: well, first of all,
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To grow in these areas? >> joyce: well, first of all, repent.
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>> joyce: well, first of all, repent. >> ginger: which is a really
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Repent. >> ginger: which is a really important first step
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>> ginger: which is a really important first step that we overlook.
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Important first step that we overlook. >> joyce: yeah, admit it
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That we overlook. >> joyce: yeah, admit it and repent.
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>> joyce: yeah, admit it and repent. and i do think that there
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And repent. and i do think that there is real power in talking
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And i do think that there is real power in talking to a trusted friend.
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Is real power in talking to a trusted friend. i mean, of course,
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To a trusted friend. i mean, of course, you can always talk to god.
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I mean, of course, you can always talk to god. but you know, it's healthy
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You can always talk to god. but you know, it's healthy just to say, "this is an area
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But you know, it's healthy just to say, "this is an area that i struggle in,
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Just to say, "this is an area that i struggle in, will you pray for me?"
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That i struggle in, will you pray for me?" so, i'll just say, i struggle
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Will you pray for me?" so, i'll just say, i struggle with impatience, "everybody,
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So, i'll just say, i struggle with impatience, "everybody, please pray for me" [laughs].
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With impatience, "everybody, please pray for me" [laughs]. >> ginger: "and do it right
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Please pray for me" [laughs]. >> ginger: "and do it right now."
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>> ginger: "and do it right now." >> joyce: yeah,
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Now." >> joyce: yeah, "and do it right now," yeah.
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>> joyce: yeah, "and do it right now," yeah. and it's not all the time.
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"and do it right now," yeah. and it's not all the time. and it's not in everything,
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And it's not all the time. and it's not in everything, but there are times when--
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And it's not in everything, but there are times when-- i mean, dave will say, "my gosh,
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But there are times when-- i mean, dave will say, "my gosh, you are so impatient."
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I mean, dave will say, "my gosh, you are so impatient." like, he was trying
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You are so impatient." like, he was trying to help me with something
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Like, he was trying to help me with something the other day, and i just
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To help me with something the other day, and i just wanted to get it over with,
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The other day, and i just wanted to get it over with, and get it done.
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Wanted to get it over with, and get it done. and he's like,
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And get it done. and he's like, "man, you are so impatient."
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And he's like, "man, you are so impatient." and, you know, for me,
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"man, you are so impatient." and, you know, for me, the answer is always studying
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And, you know, for me, the answer is always studying the word in that area.
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The answer is always studying the word in that area. and it's not like, you know,
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The word in that area. and it's not like, you know, going to study on impatience
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And it's not like, you know, going to study on impatience is anything new, but sometimes,
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Going to study on impatience is anything new, but sometimes, we have to study things
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Is anything new, but sometimes, we have to study things over and over.
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And i love the fact that
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And i love the fact that the apostle paul said, "i never
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The apostle paul said, "i never get tired of telling you
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Get tired of telling you the same things over and over."
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The same things over and over." which, i'm glad that god
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Deal with us about
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Deal with us about the same things over,
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Deal with us about the same things over, and over, and over.
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The same things over, and over, and over. so, since we're truth-telling,
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And over, and over. so, since we're truth-telling, here, what about you?
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So, since we're truth-telling, here, what about you? you got any a--?
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Here, what about you? you got any a--? >> ginger: you hit a couple
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You got any a--? >> ginger: you hit a couple of mine right on the head.
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>> ginger: you hit a couple of mine right on the head. the impatience has always
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Of mine right on the head. the impatience has always been an area for me.
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The impatience has always been an area for me. and, like you said,
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Been an area for me. and, like you said, i've grown so much in it.
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And, like you said, i've grown so much in it. i really have,
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I've grown so much in it. i really have, i've learned a lot.
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I really have, i've learned a lot. but i find myself sliding
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I've learned a lot. but i find myself sliding back and getting into
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But i find myself sliding back and getting into those areas of impatience,
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Back and getting into those areas of impatience, and certainly hearing about
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Those areas of impatience, and certainly hearing about it from other people as well,
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And certainly hearing about it from other people as well, cuz it hurts other people,
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It from other people as well, cuz it hurts other people, and i never want that.
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Cuz it hurts other people, and i never want that. so, that's one,
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And i never want that. so, that's one, and the pride, humility.
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So, that's one, and the pride, humility. i don't think people understand
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And the pride, humility. i don't think people understand the devastation that
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I don't think people understand the devastation that pride does in their life,
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The devastation that pride does in their life, because it's not always
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Pride does in their life, because it's not always outward, like,
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Because it's not always outward, like, people think it is.
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Outward, like, people think it is. >> joyce: it's really kind
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People think it is. >> joyce: it's really kind of the root of all sin.
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>> joyce: it's really kind of the root of all sin. >> ginger: exactly.
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Of the root of all sin. >> ginger: exactly. it's what's happening
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>> ginger: exactly. it's what's happening in here that people
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It's what's happening in here that people don't even know about.
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In here that people don't even know about. and so, one of mine,
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Don't even know about. and so, one of mine, in that area,
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And so, one of mine, in that area, is i really like to be right.
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In that area, is i really like to be right. and so, i can be--
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Is i really like to be right. and so, i can be-- and i--this is kind
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And so, i can be-- and i--this is kind of a personality trait,
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And i--this is kind of a personality trait, and maybe even a little bit
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Of a personality trait, and maybe even a little bit of what we did in my family,
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And maybe even a little bit of what we did in my family, we kind of like
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Of what we did in my family, we kind of like to argue about things.
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We kind of like to argue about things. you know, not in a mean way,
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To argue about things. you know, not in a mean way, more healthy debate.
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You know, not in a mean way, more healthy debate. and so--but not everybody
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More healthy debate. and so--but not everybody does that.
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And so--but not everybody does that. and so, it can come
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Does that. and so, it can come across very wrong.
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And so, it can come across very wrong. and so, i have been
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Across very wrong. and so, i have been learning and god has taught
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And so, i have been learning and god has taught me really firmly, you know,
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Learning and god has taught me really firmly, you know, "when you're wrong, you need
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Me really firmly, you know, "when you're wrong, you need to admit that you're wrong,
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"when you're wrong, you need to admit that you're wrong, and do it as quickly
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To admit that you're wrong, and do it as quickly as possible."
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And do it as quickly as possible." and so, it's always a journey
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As possible." and so, it's always a journey of trying to get better
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And so, it's always a journey of trying to get better at those things all the time.
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Of trying to get better at those things all the time. like you said,
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At those things all the time. like you said, digging into what the scripture
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Like you said, digging into what the scripture says about those particular
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Digging into what the scripture says about those particular things is really helpful.
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Says about those particular things is really helpful. >> joyce: and you know,
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Things is really helpful. >> joyce: and you know, i actually, i really do--
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>> joyce: and you know, i actually, i really do-- and i mean this sincerely,
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I actually, i really do-- and i mean this sincerely, i really do appreciate it when
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And i mean this sincerely, i really do appreciate it when the holy spirit convicts
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I really do appreciate it when the holy spirit convicts me of areas in my life that
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The holy spirit convicts me of areas in my life that are not pleasing to him.
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Me of areas in my life that are not pleasing to him. i don't--
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Are not pleasing to him. i don't-- i think that people need
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I don't-- i think that people need to see that as a real benefit.
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I think that people need to see that as a real benefit. thank god that he cares
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To see that as a real benefit. thank god that he cares enough about us not to leave
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Thank god that he cares enough about us not to leave us alone in our foolishness.
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Enough about us not to leave us alone in our foolishness. but to continue to--
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Us alone in our foolishness. but to continue to-- and he does it out of love.
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The bible says that "whom
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The bible says that "whom the lord loves, he chastens."
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The lord loves, he chastens." you know, he chastises,
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You know, he chastises, he disciplines, he lets
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He disciplines, he lets us know that we're wrong.
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Us know that we're wrong. and god's not mad
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And he doesn't--
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And he doesn't-- these are not--
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And he doesn't-- these are not-- these are things that
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These are not-- these are things that if we obey him,
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These are things that if we obey him, we'll have better lives.
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If we obey him, we'll have better lives. it's not a matter of,
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We'll have better lives. it's not a matter of, "i'm just trying to obey rule
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It's not a matter of, "i'm just trying to obey rule number one, and two, and three,
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"i'm just trying to obey rule number one, and two, and three, you know, so god's
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Number one, and two, and three, you know, so god's not mad at me."
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You know, so god's not mad at me." these are things that
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Not mad at me." these are things that we will be--we'll be better,
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These are things that we will be--we'll be better, we'll be happier,
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We will be--we'll be better, we'll be happier, we'll be more peaceful.
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We'll be happier, we'll be more peaceful. you know, being impatient causes
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We'll be more peaceful. you know, being impatient causes you to lose your peace.
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You know, being impatient causes you to lose your peace. and causes--losing your peace,
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You to lose your peace. and causes--losing your peace, causes stress.
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And causes--losing your peace, causes stress. and you know, we all know
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Causes stress. and you know, we all know that we don't need anymore
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And you know, we all know that we don't need anymore stress in our lives.
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That we don't need anymore stress in our lives. so, i would just say
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Stress in our lives. so, i would just say to our viewers today,
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So, i would just say to our viewers today, whatever it is that you
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To our viewers today, whatever it is that you struggle with sin is sin.
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Whatever it is that you struggle with sin is sin. and trust me, everybody
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Struggle with sin is sin. and trust me, everybody has things, everybody.
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And trust me, everybody has things, everybody. and i think we even
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Has things, everybody. and i think we even go through seasons
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And i think we even go through seasons where sometimes,
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Go through seasons where sometimes, we're kinda worse than others.
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Where sometimes, we're kinda worse than others. >> ginger: definitely, yeah.
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We're kinda worse than others. >> ginger: definitely, yeah. >> joyce: you know, it's like,
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>> ginger: definitely, yeah. >> joyce: you know, it's like, you may, just about the time
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>> joyce: you know, it's like, you may, just about the time you think you got something
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You may, just about the time you think you got something conquered, then it'll--
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You think you got something conquered, then it'll-- it will come up again,
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Conquered, then it'll-- it will come up again, and you'll have to deal
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It will come up again, and you'll have to deal with it all over again, so.
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And you'll have to deal with it all over again, so. >> ginger: and spiritual growth
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With it all over again, so. >> ginger: and spiritual growth is a lifelong process.
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>> ginger: and spiritual growth is a lifelong process. >> joyce: it is.
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Is a lifelong process. >> joyce: it is. >> ginger: and so, i think
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>> joyce: it is. >> ginger: and so, i think it helps us not to have
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>> ginger: and so, i think it helps us not to have guilt 'cause god doesn't
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It helps us not to have guilt 'cause god doesn't work in that way.
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Guilt 'cause god doesn't work in that way. he helps us but he doesn't
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Work in that way. he helps us but he doesn't condemn us for what
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He helps us but he doesn't condemn us for what we're dealing with.
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Condemn us for what we're dealing with. so, to realize that
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We're dealing with. so, to realize that he wants us to grow.
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So, to realize that he wants us to grow. he wants to facilitate
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He wants us to grow. he wants to facilitate that in our life.
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He wants to facilitate that in our life. and it really does change
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That in our life. and it really does change the way we look at ourselves,
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And it really does change the way we look at ourselves, and the way we look
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The way we look at ourselves, and the way we look at this process.
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And the way we look at this process. >> joyce: and actually,
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At this process. >> joyce: and actually, feeling guilty and feeling
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>> joyce: and actually, feeling guilty and feeling bad about yourself,
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Feeling guilty and feeling bad about yourself, when god shows you things
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Bad about yourself, when god shows you things in your life that needs
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When god shows you things in your life that needs to change, it actually
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In your life that needs to change, it actually keeps you from growing.
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To change, it actually keeps you from growing. it doesn't help you.
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Keeps you from growing. it doesn't help you. it just deters you,
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It doesn't help you. it just deters you, your spiritual growth.
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And let's remember
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And let's remember that the apostle paul said
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That the apostle paul said that he "had not yet arrived."
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That he "had not yet arrived." that he was pressing toward
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That he was pressing toward that mark of perfection,
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That mark of perfection, but he had not yet arrived.
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Then we're in pretty
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Then we're in pretty good company, if we're
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Then we're in pretty good company, if we're still pressing on, also.
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Good company, if we're still pressing on, also. >> ginger: absolutely.
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Still pressing on, also. >> ginger: absolutely. absolutely.
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>> ginger: absolutely. absolutely. thank you very much.
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Absolutely. thank you very much. >> joyce: you're welcome.
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>> [music]
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>> announcer: we were made
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>> announcer: we were made for more than just getting by.
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For more than just getting by. god created us with
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God created us with a sense of adventure,
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A sense of adventure, hope, expectation,
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Hope, expectation, and purpose.
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And purpose. a purpose to live
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A purpose to live bravely, pray boldly,
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Bravely, pray boldly, and dream big dreams.
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And dream big dreams. >> joyce: if you wanna improve
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>> joyce: if you wanna improve a bad day, have a big dream.
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A bad day, have a big dream. and i don't mean go to sleep
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And i don't mean go to sleep and have a nap and have
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And have a nap and have that kind of dream.
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That kind of dream. >> [audience laughing]
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i mean,
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>> joyce: i mean, see something beyond
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See something beyond where you're at right now.
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Where you're at right now. believe that things
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Believe that things are going to change.
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Are going to change. believe they're
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Believe they're going to get better.
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Going to get better. >> [audience applauding]
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>> [audience applauding]
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>> ginger: things always
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>> ginger: things always get better when we let
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Get better when we let god's word soak in.
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God's word soak in. god handmade us
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God handmade us for something great.
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For something great. you were made for
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You were made for an amazing purpose.
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An amazing purpose. confidently step
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Confidently step into god's purpose
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Through it, joyce helps you
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Joyce helps you to recognize what
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To recognize what it means to live with
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It means to live with an expectant heart,
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An expectant heart, deepen your
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Prayer life, and how you can
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Each section is a beautiful
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Reminder of how much our heavenly
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Much our heavenly father loves us
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Father loves us and the great life
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>> announcer: boldly
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>> announcer: boldly embrace the future
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>> joyce: well, rejection
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>> joyce: well, rejection is definitely painful.
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Is definitely painful. it's something we've all
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It's something we've all endured in one way or another.
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Endured in one way or another. >> ginger: our experiences
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>> ginger: our experiences may be different,
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May be different, but the damage is very real.
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But the damage is very real. whether it comes from
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Whether it comes from a stranger, a friend,
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A stranger, a friend, or someone we love,
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Or someone we love, rejection leaves us feeling
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Rejection leaves us feeling unwanted and wounded.
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Unwanted and wounded. >> joyce: we both know how
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>> joyce: we both know how devastating rejection can be.
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Devastating rejection can be. the good news is
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The good news is healing is possible.
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Healing is possible. >> ginger: m-hmm.
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>> ginger: m-hmm. >> joyce: that's why i invited
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>> joyce: that's why i invited ginger to write
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Ginger to write a very important
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A very important book with me,
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Book with me, "healing the wounds
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"healing the wounds of rejection."
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Of rejection." i believe now is the time
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I believe now is the time to overcome those
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To overcome those wounds and embrace
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Wounds and embrace our true identity in christ.
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Our true identity in christ. >> ginger: you may not
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>> ginger: you may not even realize the effects
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Even realize the effects of rejection on your life.
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Of rejection on your life. i know i didn't for a time.
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I know i didn't for a time. but you don't have
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But you don't have to remain stuck
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To remain stuck in the past or let what
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In the past or let what others have done
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Others have done define your worth.
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Define your worth. >> joyce: in our book,
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>> joyce: in our book, we share the truths that
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We share the truths that have helped both of us,
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And the things that
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And the things that we went through.
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We went through. >> ginger: and together,
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>> ginger: and together, we can all move
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We can all move forward with strength
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Forward with strength and confidence.
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And confidence. >> announcer: "healing
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>> announcer: "healing the wounds of rejection"
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The wounds of rejection" by joyce meyer
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By joyce meyer and ginger stache.
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And ginger stache. request your copy today!
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>> [music]
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>> announcer: we hope you
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>> announcer: we hope you enjoyed today's program.
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Enjoyed today's program.
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We are so grateful
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We are so grateful to our joyce meyer
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To our joyce meyer ministries partners
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Ministries partners who make this
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Who make this and all we do possible,
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And all we do possible, including sharing
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Including sharing god's word
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God's word and offering help
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And offering help to people in need
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To people in need all over the world.
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Joyce Meyer - How Can I Change? (Part 2)

November 14, 2025 | 29:29

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