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Your Move with Andy Stanley

Andy Stanley - The Responsibles (Part 1)

October 4, 2025 | 30:10

Andy Stanley - The Responsibles (Part 1)
Your Move with Andy Stanley — to help people make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.
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Your Move with Andy Stanley | Andy Stanley - The Responsibles (Part 1) | October 4, 2025
  • ...
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  • Andy stanley: hey, everybody, welcome to "your move," where we
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  • Help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.
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  • I'm andy stanley, and i'll be your guide.
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  • Did you know that 75 million americans identify as either
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  • Atheists, agnostic, or not religious at all?
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  • Seventy-five million.
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  • And most of these folks are under 30 years old, your kids or
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  • Maybe your grandkids' age.
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  • For many people, faith has just become, well, irrelevant,
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  • Christianity in particular.
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  • But it wasn't always that way.
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  • Once upon a time, the christian faith was irresistible.
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  • The original version, the version depicted in the new
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  • Testament, well, it's still very much irresistible.
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  • And what did the original, the irresistible version look like
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  • And what did it sound like?
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  • Stick around and we'll talk about it today right
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  • Here on "your move."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Andy: today we are launching a brand new series entitled
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  • "the responsibles."
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  • This series, this is going to be so exciting.
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  • This is actually an invitation to join a select group of
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  • Literally superheroes.
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  • They're the--they're super citizens.
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  • They're super family members.
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  • They're super--they're employers and employees.
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  • It's men, it's women, it's students, it's college students,
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  • It's singles, it's married, it's adults.
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  • Everybody's invited to be this kind of superhero, and what
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  • Makes these people super and what makes them amazing is they
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  • Are taking responsibility for their lives: their past, their
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  • Future, what's going on currently, their internal life,
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  • We're going to talk about, and their external life.
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  • These incredible people, they refuse to make excuses, they
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  • Refuse to blame, and they understand--and this is why this
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  • Is so important, and this is why you need to be become
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  • A responsible.
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  • They understand that their irresponsibility eventually
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  • Becomes someone else's responsibility, and the
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  • Responsibles, they're not having it.
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  • That's not who they are.
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  • They consider that an epic fail.
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  • Now, they don't just consider that irresponsibility, they
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  • Consider it a fail.
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  • The responsibles, these are the people that clean up what they
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  • Mess up.
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  • These are the people that look around to make sure they're
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  • Fully carry--they're carrying their weight.
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  • They're carrying their load, that nobody else is having to
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  • Take responsibility for their irresponsibility.
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  • This is just who they are.
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  • They're the best neighbors. they're the best friends.
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  • They're the best bosses. they're the best employees.
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  • They're the best sons and daughters
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  • And husbands and wives.
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  • And all of us, every--this is not a religious thing or a
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  • Christian thing, this is just a general invitation for all of us
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  • To join this elite group of people.
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  • So, for the next few weeks, this is a four-part series, we're
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  • Going to come back to this question over and over and over,
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  • And here's the question.
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  • And it's not the question you think it is and it doesn't mean
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  • Exactly what you think it means so we're going to kind of tease
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  • It out a little bit, but here's the question.
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  • "am i taking responsibility for my life?
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  • Am i taking responsibility for my life, for my actions, for my
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  • Reactions, for my obligations, and for my future obligations?"
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  • And i know the answer to the question for you.
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  • As soon as you ask it out loud, internally you said, "well, yes,
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  • I am.
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  • I'm taking responsibility for my life."
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  • But you know people who aren't, and you are not one of
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  • Those people.
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  • But before you check out, before you decide this series isn't for
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  • You, this is super important.
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  • Our question is not--the question is not, are you a
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  • Responsible person?
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  • That's a different question.
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  • You are.
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  • But the focus of the--of our question, the focus of this
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  • Series is not do you pay your bills and do you show up for
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  • Work and do you show up for school and even
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  • Do you show up for church.
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  • Yes, you do.
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  • In other words, you follow through on what's expected of
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  • You because in most cases, what's expected of you, there is
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  • An immediate penalty if you don't do what's expected of you.
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  • But our question, our question is different.
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  • Our question is broader.
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  • Our question requires all of us to look back and, as we're going
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  • To see, look ahead.
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  • Are you owning or are you taking responsibility for the things
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  • Left unattended in your past and are you preparing for the
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  • Eventualities of the future, the things that you know are going
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  • To eventually show up in your life?
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  • And this is a very challenging question for all of us, me
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  • Included, and this is going to be a challenging series for all
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  • Of us because if it hasn't already, it's going to make
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  • Us--it's going to make most of us feel bad about ourselves, and
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  • We've been taught that the worst thing in the world is to feel
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  • Bad about ourselves because when you feel bad about yourself, it
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  • Hurts your feelings, and this
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  • Series is going to hurt your feelings.
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  • And if you're honest and if i'm honest, we're going to hurt our
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  • Own feelings, but there is something worse than feeling bad
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  • About yourself, and maybe no one's told you that before.
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  • I bet they have or you'll figure it out as an adult, right?
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  • There's something worse than feeling bad about yourself,
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  • Namely refusing to acknowledge and address something bad
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  • About ourselves.
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  • That's worse than feeling bad about yourself.
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  • Because if we're not willing to acknowledge and address the
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  • Things that are bad about ourselves, we will continue to
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  • Stay in the same doom loop and some habits and some ways of
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  • Thinking that penalize us and eventually penalize other
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  • People, and that's bad and that's bad for you.
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  • So our question, our question, "am i taking responsibility for
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  • My life?" requires an honest look in the mirror.
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  • And let's just be honest about an honest look in the mirror.
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  • The easiest person in the world for you to deceive is the person
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  • In the mirror because you have a little salesperson in your head
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  • Like i have a little salesperson in my head and the salesperson
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  • In my head, that person's voice sounds exactly like mine.
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  • And my voice, it can sell me on the worst ideas, and your little
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  • Voice in your head has sold you on your worst ideas.
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  • You've bought some ridiculous stuff.
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  • You've borrowed money on--for some--i mean, it goes on and on
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  • And on, but in the--within the context of this particular
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  • Series, that little voice in your head will defend you and
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  • Defend you and defend you and excuse you and excuse you and
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  • Excuse you to the point of never taking responsibility for your
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  • Past and refusing to plan and take responsibility for
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  • Your future.
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  • So this requires an honest look in the mirror and it requires us
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  • To be honest with ourselves really because there's so much
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  • At stake, and it's easy to see what's at stake when you look at
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  • Other people around you who haven't taken responsibility for
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  • Their lives, but somehow we all think
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  • We're going to be the exception.
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  • And to be honest, and this is where we kind of lose all of our
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  • Excuses, whether you're a religious person or not, to
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  • Refuse to address our irresponsibility,
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  • Do you know what it makes us?
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  • It doesn't just make us irresponsible.
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  • This is a little bit harsh, okay?
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  • It makes us hypocrites.
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  • Don't answer out loud.
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  • Do you want to be a hypocrite?
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  • If i--if you're not a religious person or a christian person,
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  • One of the things you would say you don't like about christian
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  • People or church people or religious people is that the
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  • Church is full of hypocrites, and that's true.
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  • It is full of hypocrites.
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  • But that just means you think being a hypocrite's bad, so
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  • Let--just let me ask you if you're not a religious person or
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  • A christian person, do you want to be a hypocrite?
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  • I thought i should define it for us in case we don't know what a
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  • Hypocrite is.
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  • The--anyway, here's--i made this definition up.
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  • It may not even be right.
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  • Someone who pretends to do but doesn't do what they expect
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  • Others around them to do.
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  • Isn't that what a hypocrite is?
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  • Someone who pretends to do--looks like, you know, on the
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  • Outside i got it all buttoned up.
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  • Someone who pretends to do but doesn't actually do what they
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  • Expect others around them to do.
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  • And here's what i know about you, we've never met,
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  • You expect the people around you to take responsibility for their
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  • Life, right?
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  • So if you don't do what you expect other people to do, that
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  • Makes you a hypocrite.
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  • And you don't want to be a hypocrite,
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  • And i don't want to be a hypocrite.
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  • Now i've hurt your feelings.
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  • I told you we're go--we're all going to get our feelings hurt,
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  • But there's things worse than feeling bad about yourself.
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  • It's knowing something there's bad about yourself and
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  • Refusing to do something about it.
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  • So we're going to do something about it.
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  • Andy: hey, i wanted to take just a minute to address a growing
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  • Crisis in america.
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  • Did you know that nearly 75 million americans have no
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  • Religious affiliation, none whatsoever?
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  • Most of us know some of these people.
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  • Many of us are related to some of these people.
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  • So for us, they aren't statistics, they're people we
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  • Love and would love to see return to faith in jesus.
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  • So at "your move," we are committed to reaching people
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  • With the teaching of jesus right where they are and when they
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  • Least expect it.
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  • We use a research-backed digital strategy that's
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  • Already making a difference.
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  • So, if you'll stick around after today's message, we would love
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  • To tell you more about it, or visit the website or call the
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  • Number on your screen to learn how you can be a part of this
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  • Revolutionary approach to introducing and reintroducing
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  • People to jesus.
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  • Andy: living responsibly and taking responsibility for your
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  • Life is the will of your father in heaven.
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  • That's going to become abundantly clear throughout this
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  • Series, including in this first episode, that it is god's will
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  • For you--as we're going to see in a minute because of how
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  • You're designed--it is god's will for you to take
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  • Responsibility, not just live responsibly but to take
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  • Responsibility for your life, and if you're a jesus
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  • Follower--in other words, if it's--you're going
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  • To--you're more than just the christian who believes a
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  • Bunch of stuff, then you absolutely have to take
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  • Responsibility for your life because as you walk jesus
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  • Through the gospels and he walks you through his life and you
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  • Read the--what the--his apostles wrote later on, it's so
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  • Very clear that living responsibly and taking
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  • Responsibility for our life is where your king will
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  • Lead you if you decide to follow.
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  • And why would this be the will of your heavenly father, and why
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  • Do--would your king care?
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  • Two reasons.
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  • Number one, it's good for you, and it's good for the people
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  • Around you.
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  • And if god is love and if god really loves you, then he cares
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  • For you and he cares what you do and he cares about the things
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  • That you do that negatively impact you.
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  • And because he cares about the people around you and because as
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  • Followers of jesus, we're to let our light shine in such a way
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  • That people see our good works, not imagine our good thoughts
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  • But see our good works and connect our good works and our
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  • Deeds to our father in heaven, then of course it's good for the
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  • People around you that we take responsibility for our lives
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  • Because when we don't, it eventually dings somebody else.
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  • It eventually dumps something on somebody else.
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  • We penalize other people eventually if we don't take
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  • Responsibility for our life.
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  • So of course your heavenly father would care and of
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  • Course jesus would want his people to be the most
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  • Responsible citizens in any community and would want his
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  • Followers to be the most responsible people on the planet
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  • Because taking responsibility for our lives is part of what it
  • 00:10:49.567 --> 00:10:52.503
  • Means not simply to be a jesus's follower but what it means to
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  • Be human.
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  • Here's why i say that.
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  • You were created in the image of god, which means you were
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  • Created for responsibility and you were created with
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  • Responsibility, that your--this is important--
  • 00:11:07.752 --> 00:11:10.187
  • That your responsibility isn't just something you have, your
  • 00:11:10.187 --> 00:11:14.091
  • Responsibility is something that you are.
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  • It is baked into what it means to be human because we are all
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  • Part of a community, whether you
  • 00:11:21.398 --> 00:11:22.800
  • Want to be in a community or not.
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  • You can't exist, you can't survive without community, and
  • 00:11:24.135 --> 00:11:27.471
  • Part of being in a healthy community are for the people in
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  • Those communities to take responsibility for their lives
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  • And to take responsibility for their actions.
  • 00:11:33.310 --> 00:11:36.080
  • We were designed this way.
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  • And here's the thing, and you can think about this later if
  • 00:11:38.349 --> 00:11:40.684
  • You don't believe me.
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  • When you dodge, when you avoid, when you duck, when you duck out
  • 00:11:42.019 --> 00:11:48.425
  • Of, when you turn your back on what you are responsible for,
  • 00:11:48.425 --> 00:11:52.930
  • You lose a piece of you.
  • 00:11:52.930 --> 00:11:57.301
  • You literally--literally you leave a piece of you behind.
  • 00:11:57.301 --> 00:12:03.741
  • Now, let me tell you who is most aware of this.
  • 00:12:03.741 --> 00:12:07.311
  • Our parents or grandparents.
  • 00:12:07.311 --> 00:12:10.014
  • Or if you can just remember growing up in the home you grew
  • 00:12:10.014 --> 00:12:12.783
  • Up in, maybe you can relate to this as well, but if i can just
  • 00:12:12.783 --> 00:12:15.452
  • Speak it for--as a parent for just a minute.
  • 00:12:15.452 --> 00:12:17.488
  • When a--every parent experiences this.
  • 00:12:17.488 --> 00:12:19.890
  • When a child refuses to take responsibility for their
  • 00:12:19.890 --> 00:12:22.793
  • Actions, whether they're a child--you know, 11 years old or
  • 00:12:22.793 --> 00:12:26.964
  • They're middle school or high school or college,
  • 00:12:26.964 --> 00:12:28.766
  • Doesn't matter.
  • 00:12:28.766 --> 00:12:30.134
  • When a parent sees one of their children refusing to take
  • 00:12:30.134 --> 00:12:32.903
  • Responsibility for something they've done, whether it's in
  • 00:12:32.903 --> 00:12:35.206
  • School, at work, at home; when a parent sees that, do you know
  • 00:12:35.206 --> 00:12:38.475
  • What the parent feels?
  • 00:12:38.475 --> 00:12:39.844
  • The parent feels like, "wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
  • 00:12:39.844 --> 00:12:41.812
  • Wait, wait.
  • 00:12:41.812 --> 00:12:43.214
  • Wait, you can't just move on.
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  • Wait--honey, wait. you got to come back.
  • 00:12:46.550 --> 00:12:48.485
  • Honey, you got to go--you got to call her.
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  • You've got to go next door and apologize.
  • 00:12:50.621 --> 00:12:52.489
  • You can't just move on.
  • 00:12:52.489 --> 00:12:54.692
  • You've got to come back, you've got to come back and pick
  • 00:12:54.692 --> 00:12:56.627
  • This up.
  • 00:12:56.627 --> 00:12:57.995
  • You've got to come back and clean this up.
  • 00:12:57.995 --> 00:12:59.463
  • You know, honey, you've got to take responsibility."
  • 00:12:59.463 --> 00:13:01.432
  • And as a parent, when we see one of our kids just kind of move on
  • 00:13:01.432 --> 00:13:04.602
  • Like it doesn't matter and refuse to look back, it scares
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  • Us because here's what we know as adults: that if they are
  • 00:13:07.471 --> 00:13:11.208
  • Irresponsible and if this becomes a habit or a pattern,
  • 00:13:11.208 --> 00:13:15.079
  • Irresponsibility reduces them and it reduces their potential
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  • For the rest of their life because we know what happens to
  • 00:13:21.085 --> 00:13:23.787
  • Irresponsible people.
  • 00:13:23.787 --> 00:13:25.155
  • But what's true of our kids or our grandkids or the kids that
  • 00:13:25.155 --> 00:13:27.558
  • Live next door to you is true for you as well.
  • 00:13:27.558 --> 00:13:29.727
  • Your irresponsibility reduces you as well.
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  • You literally leave a piece of you behind.
  • 00:13:34.865 --> 00:13:39.503
  • The irresponsibility makes you small, and it makes you smaller
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  • In the estimation of other people, and eventually it makes
  • 00:13:43.307 --> 00:13:45.743
  • You small in your own estimation because you begin to believe the
  • 00:13:45.743 --> 00:13:49.013
  • Narrative, you begin to believe the lies, you begin to believe
  • 00:13:49.013 --> 00:13:51.448
  • The excuses.
  • 00:13:51.448 --> 00:13:52.816
  • But there's something in you and you know you aren't telling you
  • 00:13:52.816 --> 00:13:56.820
  • Or other people the truth, and there's a piece of you you've
  • 00:13:56.820 --> 00:14:00.925
  • Left behind.
  • 00:14:00.925 --> 00:14:02.426
  • It forces you to hide behind your excuses, and all the time
  • 00:14:02.426 --> 00:14:07.097
  • You're getting smaller and smaller and smaller.
  • 00:14:07.097 --> 00:14:10.234
  • If you don't believe me, just turn it around.
  • 00:14:10.234 --> 00:14:11.869
  • Isn't it true that--when somebody steps up and takes
  • 00:14:11.869 --> 00:14:16.140
  • Responsibility for their past, when somebody steps up and takes
  • 00:14:16.140 --> 00:14:19.777
  • Responsibility for something they've said, isn't it true they
  • 00:14:19.777 --> 00:14:22.980
  • Get bigger and they grow in our estimation?
  • 00:14:22.980 --> 00:14:28.252
  • Taking responsibility for our actions, reactions, and lack of
  • 00:14:28.252 --> 00:14:32.189
  • Action, it's what keeps us whole, it's what keeps us
  • 00:14:32.189 --> 00:14:36.126
  • Healthy, it's what keeps us complete.
  • 00:14:36.126 --> 00:14:37.828
  • If you're single, lis--just listen to me for a minute, okay?
  • 00:14:37.828 --> 00:14:39.997
  • College students, single adult, doesn't matter.
  • 00:14:39.997 --> 00:14:41.665
  • Single again, listen, listen.
  • 00:14:41.665 --> 00:14:44.635
  • Taking responsibility for your past, taking responsibility for
  • 00:14:44.635 --> 00:14:47.438
  • Your life, this is how you ensure that you can bring all of
  • 00:14:47.438 --> 00:14:51.542
  • You, not just part of you, to a relationship.
  • 00:14:51.542 --> 00:14:55.946
  • This is how you ensure that you're able to bring all of you,
  • 00:14:55.946 --> 00:14:59.516
  • Not just part of you, to a relationship.
  • 00:14:59.516 --> 00:15:02.953
  • Taking responsibility for our lives frees us.
  • 00:15:02.953 --> 00:15:05.122
  • It frees us from the lies we tell ourselves, and it
  • 00:15:05.122 --> 00:15:09.860
  • Frees us from the excuses that we sell ourselves.
  • 00:15:09.860 --> 00:15:14.198
  • But as i said, there are two reasons our heavenly father
  • 00:15:14.198 --> 00:15:17.434
  • Cares about this.
  • 00:15:17.434 --> 00:15:18.769
  • There are two reasons that jesus our king cares about this.
  • 00:15:18.769 --> 00:15:21.105
  • Being responsible is good for you, but it's also good for the
  • 00:15:21.105 --> 00:15:25.175
  • People around you because, again, we're not the only people
  • 00:15:25.175 --> 00:15:28.612
  • Affected by our irresponsibility, and this is
  • 00:15:28.612 --> 00:15:31.081
  • Why this is imperative.
  • 00:15:31.081 --> 00:15:33.884
  • This is not an add-on.
  • 00:15:33.884 --> 00:15:35.252
  • This isn't a--you know, you get extra credit for this.
  • 00:15:35.252 --> 00:15:37.421
  • This is absolutely imperative for jesus's followers because,
  • 00:15:37.421 --> 00:15:40.924
  • Again, our irresponsibility eventually robs someone of
  • 00:15:40.924 --> 00:15:45.195
  • Something that they deserve to keep, that we ding their light.
  • 00:15:45.195 --> 00:15:48.399
  • They're left to clean up our mess.
  • 00:15:48.399 --> 00:15:49.800
  • It costs them financially.
  • 00:15:49.800 --> 00:15:51.168
  • It costs them relationally, right?
  • 00:15:51.168 --> 00:15:52.536
  • Our irresponsibility eventually robs other people.
  • 00:15:52.536 --> 00:15:54.705
  • Eventually your ir, your irresponsibility becomes
  • 00:15:54.705 --> 00:15:58.275
  • Somebody's re.
  • 00:15:58.275 --> 00:15:59.610
  • Every single time it trickles down, it shows up somewhere,
  • 00:15:59.610 --> 00:16:02.179
  • Your irresponsibility will become somebody's
  • 00:16:02.179 --> 00:16:04.014
  • Responsibility, and perhaps it already is.
  • 00:16:04.014 --> 00:16:06.984
  • Perhaps it already has happened, and this is why.
  • 00:16:06.984 --> 00:16:09.420
  • This is why.
  • 00:16:09.420 --> 00:16:10.754
  • Irresponsibility 100% of the time somewhere along the way
  • 00:16:10.754 --> 00:16:14.825
  • Creates conflict.
  • 00:16:14.825 --> 00:16:16.827
  • It creates conflict inside of us and it creates conflict with the
  • 00:16:16.827 --> 00:16:21.198
  • People around us, which creates conflict between
  • 00:16:21.198 --> 00:16:26.170
  • Us and our heavenly father.
  • 00:16:26.170 --> 00:16:27.504
  • Jesus was so clear about this and we talk about it all the
  • 00:16:27.504 --> 00:16:30.774
  • Time, and the reason we talk about it all the time is this is
  • 00:16:30.774 --> 00:16:33.410
  • Something we weren't necessarily told
  • 00:16:33.410 --> 00:16:34.745
  • If we were raised in church.
  • 00:16:34.745 --> 00:16:36.080
  • And if you weren't raised in church, here's something you
  • 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:38.182
  • Should know about christians that we've let slide off the
  • 00:16:38.182 --> 00:16:40.417
  • Table that we shouldn't have allowed slide off the table
  • 00:16:40.417 --> 00:16:43.287
  • Because jesus was so clear about this.
  • 00:16:43.287 --> 00:16:45.122
  • Jesus was so clear.
  • 00:16:45.122 --> 00:16:46.490
  • He said you can't be right with your father in heaven if you're
  • 00:16:46.490 --> 00:16:49.927
  • Not right with the people your father in heaven has put in your
  • 00:16:49.927 --> 00:16:52.863
  • Life and put in your path because your heavenly father
  • 00:16:52.863 --> 00:16:55.866
  • Cares about them like he cares about you.
  • 00:16:55.866 --> 00:16:58.535
  • You can't just confess your sins to god and not confess the sins
  • 00:16:58.535 --> 00:17:01.605
  • That you've committed against other people.
  • 00:17:01.605 --> 00:17:04.041
  • You can't dump your irresponsibility and the results
  • 00:17:04.041 --> 00:17:06.743
  • Of your irresponsibility in somebody's lap and never
  • 00:17:06.743 --> 00:17:09.680
  • Go back to them and address it and
  • 00:17:09.680 --> 00:17:11.148
  • Be right with your father in heaven.
  • 00:17:11.148 --> 00:17:12.483
  • That's not how it works, but he--because he cares for them
  • 00:17:12.483 --> 00:17:15.819
  • Like he cares for you.
  • 00:17:15.819 --> 00:17:17.154
  • Taking responsibility for me is how i love the people around me.
  • 00:17:17.154 --> 00:17:20.124
  • Taking responsibility for you is how you love the people
  • 00:17:20.124 --> 00:17:22.559
  • Around you.
  • 00:17:22.559 --> 00:17:23.927
  • Now, that's the setup.
  • 00:17:23.927 --> 00:17:25.762
  • You ready for this?
  • 00:17:25.762 --> 00:17:27.131
  • With all that in mind--this is so amazing.
  • 00:17:27.131 --> 00:17:29.333
  • This is why i want everybody--you should read
  • 00:17:29.333 --> 00:17:31.001
  • Your bibles.
  • 00:17:31.001 --> 00:17:32.369
  • You should read your bibles.
  • 00:17:32.369 --> 00:17:33.704
  • And if you're not a christian, goodness, i--if you're not a
  • 00:17:33.704 --> 00:17:36.673
  • Jesus's follower or a christian, you have a reason not to be.
  • 00:17:36.673 --> 00:17:39.743
  • If i heard your story, i'd be like, "yeah, i don't blame you
  • 00:17:39.743 --> 00:17:41.612
  • A bit, i get that."
  • 00:17:41.612 --> 00:17:42.946
  • But here's what i just can't emphasize enough--and i come
  • 00:17:42.946 --> 00:17:45.816
  • Back to this over and over and i will continue to--
  • 00:17:45.816 --> 00:17:48.085
  • The teaching of the new testament in particular and the
  • 00:17:48.085 --> 00:17:50.320
  • Teaching of jesus and the teaching of the apostle paul,
  • 00:17:50.320 --> 00:17:52.556
  • Who teases out the teaching of jesus for gentiles, there are so
  • 00:17:52.556 --> 00:17:56.426
  • Many one-liners, there are so many nuggets that if people in
  • 00:17:56.426 --> 00:17:59.963
  • Our community would just do one of these things consistently, it
  • 00:17:59.963 --> 00:18:03.600
  • Literally would change everything, and what we're about
  • 00:18:03.600 --> 00:18:06.170
  • To read that the apostle paul wrote is one of those things
  • 00:18:06.170 --> 00:18:08.405
  • That would change everything.
  • 00:18:08.405 --> 00:18:10.874
  • He wraps some words around this entire idea.
  • 00:18:10.874 --> 00:18:14.912
  • He kind of summarizes it in one statement.
  • 00:18:14.912 --> 00:18:16.847
  • Again, this would change everything.
  • 00:18:16.847 --> 00:18:18.649
  • Listen to this, ready?
  • 00:18:18.649 --> 00:18:19.983
  • I'm just going to read a couple of statements at a time, kind of
  • 00:18:19.983 --> 00:18:21.885
  • Build this.
  • 00:18:21.885 --> 00:18:23.253
  • Here's what he says to 1st century christians.
  • 00:18:23.253 --> 00:18:25.122
  • And if we just stopped with this first statement and left,
  • 00:18:25.122 --> 00:18:27.558
  • It's enough.
  • 00:18:27.558 --> 00:18:29.226
  • "give to everyone what you owe them."
  • 00:18:29.226 --> 00:18:34.631
  • Give to everyone what you owe them.
  • 00:18:34.631 --> 00:18:38.202
  • The people from your past that you never gave them what you owe
  • 00:18:38.202 --> 00:18:41.438
  • Them, the people in your life now, whether it's an apology or
  • 00:18:41.438 --> 00:18:45.943
  • Fidelity or money or child support or discipline--if you're
  • 00:18:45.943 --> 00:18:51.815
  • Married, did you know you owe your spouse discipline?
  • 00:18:51.815 --> 00:18:54.551
  • If you're married or in an important relationship, you owe
  • 00:18:54.551 --> 00:18:57.120
  • That person time.
  • 00:18:57.120 --> 00:18:58.455
  • Give to everyone what you owe them.
  • 00:18:58.455 --> 00:18:59.823
  • Then he continues and he gets so practical.
  • 00:18:59.823 --> 00:19:02.359
  • Some of you are going to think i made this part up and
  • 00:19:02.359 --> 00:19:04.561
  • Just stuck it in the bible.
  • 00:19:04.561 --> 00:19:06.697
  • Here--listen, listen to--he's going to give some illustrations
  • 00:19:06.697 --> 00:19:08.999
  • Of what it means to give to people what you owe them.
  • 00:19:08.999 --> 00:19:11.034
  • Here's his first illustration to 1st century christians.
  • 00:19:11.034 --> 00:19:14.671
  • "give to everyone what you owe them.
  • 00:19:14.671 --> 00:19:16.240
  • If you owe taxes, pay your taxes."
  • 00:19:16.240 --> 00:19:18.875
  • It's like, "whoa, whoa, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
  • 00:19:18.875 --> 00:19:20.344
  • We're in church, we should be talking about
  • 00:19:20.344 --> 00:19:21.678
  • Prayer, okay, and jesus stuff, you know, and god's stuff.
  • 00:19:21.678 --> 00:19:25.782
  • Andy, talk about stuff we can't really understand or do
  • 00:19:25.782 --> 00:19:28.118
  • Anything about, okay?
  • 00:19:28.118 --> 00:19:29.486
  • But don't--why so practical?"
  • 00:19:29.486 --> 00:19:31.021
  • Because we're jesus followers.
  • 00:19:31.021 --> 00:19:32.689
  • We're supposed to be the best of the best because we follow a
  • 00:19:32.689 --> 00:19:35.392
  • King that loves the people
  • 00:19:35.392 --> 00:19:36.727
  • Around us and loves our community.
  • 00:19:36.727 --> 00:19:38.061
  • So paul says, "let's start with something practical.
  • 00:19:38.061 --> 00:19:40.364
  • If you owe taxes, pay your taxes."
  • 00:19:40.364 --> 00:19:43.233
  • I mean, jesus your king paid a debt he didn't owe.
  • 00:19:43.233 --> 00:19:46.370
  • The least we can do is pay the debts that we owe.
  • 00:19:46.370 --> 00:19:51.942
  • And then it doesn't get any better.
  • 00:19:51.942 --> 00:19:54.044
  • Ready?
  • 00:19:54.044 --> 00:19:55.379
  • "if you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue."
  • 00:19:55.379 --> 00:19:58.615
  • Money again.
  • 00:19:58.615 --> 00:19:59.983
  • Why?
  • 00:19:59.983 --> 00:20:01.718
  • Because jesus followers are part of that elite group of
  • 00:20:01.718 --> 00:20:05.055
  • The responsibles.
  • 00:20:05.055 --> 00:20:06.556
  • You don't have to come looking for us.
  • 00:20:06.556 --> 00:20:08.292
  • You don't have to ask us twice.
  • 00:20:08.292 --> 00:20:10.193
  • You don't have to send us--send it to us again.
  • 00:20:10.193 --> 00:20:12.729
  • We--this is what we do because we don't want anybody or any
  • 00:20:12.729 --> 00:20:18.168
  • Organization having to make up for what we messed up and carry
  • 00:20:18.168 --> 00:20:22.673
  • A load or carry a responsibility, whether it's
  • 00:20:22.673 --> 00:20:24.975
  • Financial or anything else, that ultimately belongs to us.
  • 00:20:24.975 --> 00:20:27.778
  • Then he finally gets relational, and this is so powerful.
  • 00:20:27.778 --> 00:20:31.214
  • I mean, this would revolutionize just about any damaged or
  • 00:20:31.214 --> 00:20:35.919
  • Difficult relationship.
  • 00:20:35.919 --> 00:20:37.254
  • This is what you wish your parents had done, many of you.
  • 00:20:37.254 --> 00:20:41.024
  • He goes on.
  • 00:20:41.024 --> 00:20:42.359
  • He says, "give to everyone what you owe them.
  • 00:20:42.359 --> 00:20:43.727
  • If respect, then respect; if honor, then honor."
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  • High school students, college students, you owe your parents
  • 00:20:50.500 --> 00:20:55.539
  • Honor and respect.
  • 00:20:55.539 --> 00:20:56.873
  • You go, "yeah, but they're not always respectable."
  • 00:20:56.873 --> 00:20:58.308
  • Look up here. neither are you.
  • 00:20:58.308 --> 00:21:01.478
  • That's not the point, okay?
  • 00:21:01.478 --> 00:21:03.046
  • They are your parents.
  • 00:21:03.046 --> 00:21:04.581
  • You owe this to them.
  • 00:21:04.581 --> 00:21:06.850
  • "yeah, but--" no, no, no, no, no, no, no, okay?
  • 00:21:06.850 --> 00:21:09.453
  • If you're a jesus follower, there are no excuses.
  • 00:21:09.453 --> 00:21:12.356
  • You--he says in your--listen, this is what he's saying.
  • 00:21:12.356 --> 00:21:15.926
  • In your role, whatever your role is and whatever relationship you
  • 00:21:15.926 --> 00:21:18.795
  • Want to think about, you have an obligation in that relationship
  • 00:21:18.795 --> 00:21:21.965
  • And as a jesus follower, you pay what you owe, whether it's
  • 00:21:21.965 --> 00:21:25.202
  • Honor or respect.
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  • Own your obligation.
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  • If you said you're going to be there at 8, you show up at 8.
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  • If you promise it'll to be ready by tuesday,
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  • It should be ready by tuesday.
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  • And if you're not going to make the tuesday deadline, you tell
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  • Him thursday the week before and he don't wait till tuesday
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  • Morning because honor and respect.
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  • This is what we do.
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  • If you're married, we owe.
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  • Take responsibility for your physical health.
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  • Look--and this is oftentimes more a guy thing than a female
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  • Thing, but also i'll just pick on the guys.
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  • Look, men, do you know why you need
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  • To take care of your health?
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  • It's not just so you'll look great.
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  • Because if you don't take care of your health, chances are your
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  • Wife is going to have to take care of your irresponsibility
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  • And your bad health.
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  • So this isn't just about diet and exercise for now, this is--
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  • This is how you love your spouse in the future, and it
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  • Goes both ways.
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  • You say, "is this--why are we talking about this in church?"
  • 00:22:13.417 --> 00:22:16.486
  • Because it's so practical and you have a king, right?
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  • Your financial habits, men, your financial habits, women, they
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  • Impact your entire family.
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  • So give to people what you owe, and you owe them
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  • Financial responsibility.
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  • It's what you owe.
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  • You owe fidelity and body and mind.
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  • It's a responsibility.
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  • And then the apostle paul punctuates this with this
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  • Amazing statement.
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  • I mean, it's just so rich.
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  • He says this.
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  • I love this.
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  • He says--let me just make it really easy for you.
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  • "let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing--"
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  • Present tense.
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  • Every day, every day, every morning, every night,
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  • Every afternoon.
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  • This is constant. you're never done.
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  • You never put this to rest. you don't ever retire this.
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  • He says, "let no debt remain outstanding, except the
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  • Continuing debt to love one another."
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  • In other words, he says if there are any relational gaps that
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  • You've created through your irresponsibility, not doing what
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  • You're supposed to do, you need to fill those gaps.
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  • You need to step up.
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  • And then he finishes it with this.
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  • "for--" in other words, he says, "because.
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  • Let me explain."
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  • "for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law."
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  • This is why following jesus is so powerful.
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  • He didn't bring 10 commandments or 600 commandments.
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  • He said, "i'm going to give you one commandment."
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  • It's so simple.
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  • The problem with this commandment is because there's
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  • Only one, there's no space between.
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  • There's just one. there are no loopholes.
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  • There are no workarounds.
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  • You are to love as your father in heaven has loved you.
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  • You are to love as christ loved you, which means the last thing
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  • You're going to do is dump the consequences of your
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  • Irresponsibility on somebody else.
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  • And if you've done that as a jesus follower, you go and you
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  • Apologize and you do what you can to clean it up and make up
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  • What you can make up for.
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  • What--it goes back to this question we ask all the time.
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  • "what does love require me?"
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  • That's what this verse is about.
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  • What does love require of me?
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  • The only debt that should remain outstanding is the continuing
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  • Daily debt to love the people around me, especially the people
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  • That love me, especially the people closest to me.
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  • What does love require of you?
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  • What does love require of me?
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  • What love requires of me is to take responsibility.
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  • That's what love does.
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  • That's what following jesus looks like.
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  • That's what the responsibles, this elite group of superheroes,
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  • As we're referring to them, that's what this looks like.
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  • That's what they do, and that's--look up here--
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  • That's what you were created to do.
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  • You were created for this because you were made in the
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  • Image of your extraordinarily responsible,
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  • Community-minded god.
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  • It's how you ensure that you don't leave parts of you behind.
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  • So here's what i want you to think about next few weeks.
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  • And, again, don't lie to yourself, okay?
  • 00:25:07.123 --> 00:25:09.359
  • You have a narrative you tell yourself.
  • 00:25:09.359 --> 00:25:10.961
  • It's the same story you've told for years and years maybe, but
  • 00:25:10.961 --> 00:25:13.496
  • Maybe just in this moment would you be willing to be honest with
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  • The person in the mirror?
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  • Has your irresponsibility, has your irresponsibility become
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  • Someone's responsibility?
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  • In other words, is there somebody you've penalized
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  • Financially, you penalized their time, you penalized
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  • Their childhood?
  • 00:25:33.149 --> 00:25:34.484
  • Is there someone that--your irresponsibility has become
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  • Someone's responsibility?
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  • And you can't go back in time and you can't reverse the past,
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  • But just owning up to the fact that, "i left you with a mess,
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  • And if there's anything i can do, i'm willing to do it now,
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  • And i owe you, i owe you.
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  • And i'm a jesus follower and i don't want to owe anybody
  • 00:25:49.766 --> 00:25:53.036
  • Anything except a debt of love, and love requires me to come to
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  • You and take responsibility for what i've done."
  • 00:25:57.107 --> 00:26:01.044
  • Because you've left them shouldering a burden that you
  • 00:26:01.044 --> 00:26:03.380
  • Should be carrying.
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  • Then the flip side of this.
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  • Is there any--are you currently engaged in something or
  • 00:26:06.516 --> 00:26:08.952
  • Neglecting something that will in all likelihood create a
  • 00:26:08.952 --> 00:26:11.121
  • Future mess for somebody else to clean up?
  • 00:26:11.121 --> 00:26:13.156
  • Are you willing to step up, own up and do something about it,
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  • And take responsibility for what's coming?
  • 00:26:15.725 --> 00:26:18.495
  • These are the questions that jesus followers ask.
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  • These are the questions that the responsibles ask.
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  • These are the questions we've been invited to ask, and here's
  • 00:26:24.234 --> 00:26:27.070
  • The thing, it sounds so negative, but it's a privilege.
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  • This is our opportunity, again, to be the best we can possible
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  • Be, the best citizens we can possibly be, members and
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  • Be--members and participants in the kingdom of god.
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  • To participate in the kingdom of god is to recognize the reign
  • 00:26:40.483 --> 00:26:43.486
  • And the rule of god, the reign and the rule of our savior, and
  • 00:26:43.486 --> 00:26:46.723
  • We're saying, "i want to get up under the authority of my savior
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  • And live in such a way that i'm participating in the kingdom of
  • 00:26:49.926 --> 00:26:53.229
  • Heaven, the kingdom of god."
  • 00:26:53.229 --> 00:26:54.931
  • And this is what kingdom of god members do.
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  • This is how they live.
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  • That's what the responsibles do.
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  • That's what you were created to do.
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  • Andy: hey, thanks so much for watching.
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  • You may find it hard to believe that 75 million americans claim
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  • No religious affiliation.
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  • On a personal note, perhaps you found it nearly impossible to
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  • Believe that your son or your daughter or perhaps a grandchild
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  • Drifted away from faith as part of that number.
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  • This is a crisis culturally, and perhaps for you it's a
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  • Crisis personally.
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  • At "your move," we are committed to addressing that crisis.
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  • We actually have a plan to solve it, but we need your help.
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  • A personal assessment that launches them on a journey that
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  • Eventually intersects their questions with the teaching of
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  • Jesus, and ultimately with a bible-teaching church
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  • In their community.
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  • Tens of thousands of people are currently engaged in this
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  • Process, but we need your help to continue creating the bread
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  • Crumbs, the content that keeps them moving forward on their
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  • Faith journey.
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