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Ed Young - Practical Parenting

July 2, 2025 | S25 E158 | 29:0

Ed Young - Practical Parenting
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Practical Parenting | July 2, 2025
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  • Pastor ed: we hear a lot about colors.
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  • Red states, blue states, purple states, white, green,
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  • Black, orange.
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  • We hear a lot about colors, but there's one color that is a
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  • Very, very dangerous color.
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  • I don't think you could guess what it is.
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  • It is an angry color.
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  • It is a dangerous color.
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  • It is a color that breeds discord and the color is gray.
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  • Gray is pigment without any colors.
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  • All the colors are absent.
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  • It's just sort of a bland gray.
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  • And gray is a very, very dangerous color.
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  • Somebody might say, i thought we'd talk about parenting.
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  • What does that have to do with parenting?
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  • I can tell you what it has to do with parenting.
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  • It has everything to do with parenting.
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  • You have a gray father who is passive.
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  • You can predict with almost unerring accuracy the plight of
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  • The sons of the daughters of a gray dad.
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  • You can find a mom who is gray and just going through
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  • The motions.
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  • It's such a labor, it's such a problem.
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  • It's exhausting, and you can find children that will turn out
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  • Tragically like their mom.
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  • What does it mean to say someone is gray?
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  • Someone is gray comes out of a lot of our colleges and
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  • Universities because there are no absolutes.
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  • You have your truth.
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  • Oh, i have my truth.
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  • Whether something is right and wrong, depends upon
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  • The situation.
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  • There's nothing you can say that is the way it is.
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  • That is the way.
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  • Oh, no, no.
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  • Everything has to be gray.
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  • Everything has to be negotiable.
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  • Everything has to be open.
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  • But i've got good news.
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  • ♪ the stars at night are big and bright, where? ♪
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  • Pitiful.
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  • ♪ the stars at night are big and bright, where? ♪♪
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  • Now, what does that mean?
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  • Why are the stars at night big and bright deep in the heart
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  • Of texas?
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  • I dare say there's only a handful of us here know where
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  • The heart of texas is located.
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  • Only a handful.
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  • It's located in brady, texas, ten miles out to the northeast.
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  • That's the very heart and central point in texas.
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  • And brady is a small town.
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  • It is noted for only one thing, dr. rudder, who was president of
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  • Texas a&m.
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  • He's the product of this wide spot in the road almost in the
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  • Very heart of texas.
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  • Now, why are the stars at night big and bright
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  • In the heart in brady, texas?
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  • Do you know why?
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  • It's because there's no ambient lights, there's nothing
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  • Competing with the darkness except you look up and the stars
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  • At night are big and bright.
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  • Decisiveness.
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  • Clarity.
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  • And when something is gray or someone is gray, there is no
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  • Deci-- too many competing lights, too many competing
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  • Agendas, too much noise, too much racket.
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  • But when there is clarity and that's our problem with
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  • Parenting, ladies and gentlemen.
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  • You take any mom and dad and say here's a baby that you've
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  • Been given.
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  • What is your goal for that child?
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  • Well, i want them to be upwardly mobile.
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  • I hope they're educated, and i hope they have more than i have,
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  • And i hope-- just some sort of general type of things.
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  • If you've ever been bird hunting and you think you shotgun, you
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  • Shoot up there without aiming, chances are you'll hit nothing.
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  • You'll hit nothing.
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  • And therefore parents need to know what their goal is.
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  • What are you trying to develop?
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  • What would god have you to build into that son and that daughter?
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  • It has to be a clear thing, a clear definition and that's
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  • Exactly what we're talking about, isn't it?
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  • We've been saying, "train up a child in the way he should go."
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  • Review here for most of us, you may have missed it.
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  • The way is one way.
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  • You could train up our children.
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  • I could train up my children in many ways, but there's really
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  • One way to train up a child, according to the bible.
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  • You can read all the psychologists, all the modern
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  • Books, but god has one way to do it.
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  • We talked about it in training, train them to love god with all
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  • They got, first commandment.
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  • Love god with everything, first and foremost.
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  • Secondly, train them to love people, love your neighbor, try
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  • To love-- that we can't as much as we love ourselves, but that's
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  • Our goal.
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  • The third thing is bandera, the bandera principle.
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  • Most of you had a little psychology.
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  • You don't know who that is.
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  • Bandera said the way you best teach people is by example, is
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  • By saying, walk after me, do as i do, live as i live, follow me,
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  • Follow me.
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  • That's the principle, and that's the third thing.
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  • Teach our kids to love god with all they've got.
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  • Teach our kids how to love people, and you know how they
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  • Learn to do that, by looking at mom and dad, and we have to say,
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  • That's the way i want to live, obeying those first two
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  • Commandments that jesus said has priority of all the other rules
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  • And regulations.
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  • Not going too fast for anybody am i? god doesn't make it
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  • Exceedingly complex.
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  • It is relatively simple and therefore, i would do anything
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  • In the world for my kids.
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  • Model jesus christ in your life.
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  • Oh, because remember they do pretty much what we require them
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  • To do until they become teenagers and they begin to do
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  • And live the way you and i live.
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  • The way you and i do things, the way you and i think.
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  • Train up a child.
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  • When we're doing that, we're not gray parents are we?
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  • We are decisive.
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  • We see what god's goal is.
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  • And then we looked at bringing up a child, remember?
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  • We looked at proverbs training, then we looked to ephesians in
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  • Chapter number 6, it says bring up a child in the discipline,
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  • Big word, an instruction, oh, of the lord.
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  • And we discovered that discipline primarily takes place
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  • Between, remember the ages 3 to 13.
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  • That's when mom and dad really has a role in the eyes and the
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  • Life of that son or daughter of god.
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  • That is when we bring them to submission.
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  • That is when we say this is the way it is, this is how
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  • Things operate.
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  • And therefore we take over the authority of our children
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  • Between three and 13.
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  • If you don't, oh, that's when you have so many problems with
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  • Teenagers because they haven't learned that when you say yes,
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  • You mean yes, you say no, you say no.
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  • And if you don't do that from 3 to 13, you're in for a long,
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  • Long, tough ride mom and dad.
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  • It can change, but it's much more difficult.
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  • So, discipline first.
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  • And then after that, there is instruction.
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  • This is when we talk with them, this is when we explain.
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  • In those years, 3 to 13, we say you do this, you don't do this.
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  • You stop, here, you go there and they say, well, why?
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  • Because i said so, that's enough!
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  • That's what happens during those years.
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  • And then the years from 13 followed, it's so much easier
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  • Because they, you've established a sense of authority, then you
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  • Can explain.
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  • Then you can go in the other details that needs to
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  • Take place.
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  • We've already been through this.
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  • Some of you, you missed it.
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  • Foundational principles of not being a gray mom and dad.
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  • Clarity, distinctiveness, understanding the goal
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  • Right there.
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  • And then we're still in proverbs.
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  • I wanna show you another little pregnant verse, that's in the
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  • Same chapter that we find, "train up a child."
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  • It's in chapter number 22, verse number 15, foolishness is bound
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  • Up in the heart of the child, and the answer for that is the
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  • Rod of discipline will remove it far from him.
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  • Foolishness is bound up in the mind of a child.
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  • That's our challenge.
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  • Children are fools.
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  • Oh boy, oh how my child is.
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  • Oh, no.
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  • Children are fools because they cannot determine that which is
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  • Best for themselves.
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  • They have free will, but they do not have the ability to make
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  • Those wise choices, do they?
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  • No.
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  • A child is self centered.
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  • A child is all about me.
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  • A child is all about what i want, what i like, what gives me
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  • Pleasure, what i love to eat.
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  • That's children.
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  • And we can encourage that foolishness, illustration.
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  • Here's a five year old says to mama, i want with my friends are
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  • Having to spend the night party over at so and so's house and i
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  • Wanna go.
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  • The mother says, no, you cannot go five years old.
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  • Man, there's a temper tantrum, "why?
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  • Everybody's going, i'm invited.
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  • They're going to have e a good time."
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  • But mama knows what will happen at
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  • That little five year old overnight party.
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  • Mama knows the family, the home in which those children will
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  • Spend the night.
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  • And so mama without any explanation says no and there's
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  • A temper tantrum.
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  • And then mama says, "well, maybe i made a mistake, you know,
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  • Maybe i acted too hasty.
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  • Maybe we need to consider," and then that mother starts to
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  • Negotiate with the child, a five year old, folks?
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  • That's the modern world.
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  • You have to cooperate with your children.
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  • Let me tell you something, if no doesn't work and you have to
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  • Bribe-- animals, you trained by food and by punishment.
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  • Not humans, not children.
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  • It doesn't work that way ladies and gentlemen.
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  • And if that mother begins to negotiate with that child, you
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  • Mark it down, wait till that child gets to be a teenager.
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  • You know, i don't know why my teenagers like this.
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  • It's because a father and a mother didn't establish clear
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  • Without shouting, absolute authority between three and 13.
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  • A child has a foolish heart because they cannot determine
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  • With their own understanding with their background, how to
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  • Really make wise choices, so fathers and mothers have to step
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  • In and without argument, without debate, without negotiation,
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  • Without manipulation, without rewards, this is the way we
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  • Do it.
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  • You do that from 3 to 13, the teenage years would be a blast.
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  • It won't be perfect but it'll be infinite easier.
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  • Throw a temper tantrum ho ho.
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  • So then train up a child the way they should go because the child
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  • Has a heart that is foolish.
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  • Anybody want to debate the foolish of a child's heart?
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  • No, we understand that.
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  • What is the answer for that?
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  • This will surprise you.
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  • It is the latter part of that 15th verse.
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  • Look at it.
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  • The rod, "the rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
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  • "the rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
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  • You know the verse.
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  • Spare the rod spoil for the child.
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  • Everybody mirror that verse only one problem that is not in
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  • The bible.
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  • Hello?
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  • Oh, i thought, no, no, no.
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  • "spare the rod, spoil the child," is not in the bible.
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  • Look for it.
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  • Can't find it.
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  • All of us who raised our hand, woop it's not there.
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  • But what is there?
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  • It's the instructions, the latter part of what we do about
  • 00:14:06.458 --> 00:14:09.628
  • Foolishness in the heart of a child as parents.
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  • It says this is what we do.
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  • The rod, "the rod of discipline will move it far from him."
  • 00:14:14.400 --> 00:14:18.904
  • You see the rod of discipline.
  • 00:14:18.904 --> 00:14:22.374
  • Now, the rod there is in the definite article, what does
  • 00:14:22.374 --> 00:14:26.879
  • That mean?
  • 00:14:26.879 --> 00:14:28.213
  • It means that the rod, it is a specific procedure by which we
  • 00:14:28.213 --> 00:14:35.921
  • Engage in as parents to get the foolish out of our children.
  • 00:14:35.921 --> 00:14:41.660
  • A rod, not the baseball player, a rod is an indefinite article.
  • 00:14:41.660 --> 00:14:48.100
  • Rod is used many times in the bible for many things.
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  • It's used for staff.
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  • It's used for what the shepherd has, it's used and that is
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  • A rod.
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  • You find it over there in exodus chapter number 21.
  • 00:14:56.976 --> 00:14:59.945
  • A rod can be harmful.
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  • It is a harm.
  • 00:15:01.981 --> 00:15:03.315
  • It is a rod, it is a stick, it is a bar, it is a limb, it is
  • 00:15:03.315 --> 00:15:07.119
  • Something they will harm.
  • 00:15:07.119 --> 00:15:08.454
  • But the rod doesn't mean discipline can't be in there.
  • 00:15:08.454 --> 00:15:13.459
  • But the rod says this is the program, the way god has planned
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  • For you to get foolishness out of your child.
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  • Do you get the difference?
  • 00:15:22.835 --> 00:15:26.105
  • The rod is a definite article every time you see it in
  • 00:15:26.105 --> 00:15:30.676
  • The bible.
  • 00:15:30.676 --> 00:15:32.011
  • And it says this is god's program.
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  • This is the way god operates it's the rod.
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  • It's the program.
  • 00:15:37.750 --> 00:15:39.284
  • The agenda.
  • 00:15:39.284 --> 00:15:40.619
  • And you can look at, you can also, you can turn in your bible
  • 00:15:40.619 --> 00:15:43.188
  • To the very next chapter over to proverbs 23.
  • 00:15:43.188 --> 00:15:46.625
  • It says, "apply your heart to discipline, and your ears to
  • 00:15:46.625 --> 00:15:50.262
  • Words of knowledge.
  • 00:15:50.262 --> 00:15:51.597
  • Do not hold back discipline from the child.
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  • Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die."
  • 00:15:54.066 --> 00:15:58.404
  • The rod is not a stick.
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  • That is a rod.
  • 00:16:00.639 --> 00:16:02.107
  • The rod is god's principles for getting foolishness out of your
  • 00:16:02.107 --> 00:16:06.578
  • Sons and daughters.
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  • Do you get that?
  • 00:16:07.913 --> 00:16:09.248
  • It's very important.
  • 00:16:09.248 --> 00:16:10.616
  • Well, you say you don't believe in spanking?
  • 00:16:10.616 --> 00:16:15.921
  • You don't believe in corporate punishment?
  • 00:16:15.921 --> 00:16:18.290
  • Yes, but we'll deal with that next time in more detail and
  • 00:16:18.290 --> 00:16:23.228
  • More practicality.
  • 00:16:23.228 --> 00:16:24.563
  • But in the meantime, this verse doesn't say every time your
  • 00:16:24.563 --> 00:16:27.366
  • Child steps out of line, bam.
  • 00:16:27.366 --> 00:16:30.035
  • Some people think that.
  • 00:16:30.035 --> 00:16:31.370
  • Oh he did this bam, slap.
  • 00:16:31.370 --> 00:16:34.306
  • But no, no, no.
  • 00:16:34.306 --> 00:16:35.808
  • It says that we understand god's program for bringing
  • 00:16:35.808 --> 00:16:40.245
  • Up children.
  • 00:16:40.245 --> 00:16:41.580
  • And that is the rod.
  • 00:16:41.580 --> 00:16:44.283
  • That is a definite article.
  • 00:16:44.283 --> 00:16:47.286
  • A rod is a stick or a board as you see it in the bible.
  • 00:16:47.286 --> 00:16:52.057
  • My point, a child's heart is foolish and we have to deal with
  • 00:16:52.057 --> 00:16:59.565
  • That foolishness, with diligence, with
  • 00:16:59.565 --> 00:17:04.470
  • Conscientiousness and knowing that our big goal, what we built
  • 00:17:04.470 --> 00:17:08.207
  • In for our children to be and our children to become.
  • 00:17:08.207 --> 00:17:12.678
  • And it says we drive it out by what?
  • 00:17:12.678 --> 00:17:17.216
  • What do we drive it about by?
  • 00:17:17.216 --> 00:17:19.184
  • Right here in the scripture.
  • 00:17:19.184 --> 00:17:20.853
  • Go back to our scripture.
  • 00:17:20.853 --> 00:17:22.387
  • It's very clearly.
  • 00:17:22.387 --> 00:17:23.822
  • It says the rod, the rod, remember the rod is the
  • 00:17:23.822 --> 00:17:28.360
  • Principles of god will remove foolishness from that child.
  • 00:17:28.360 --> 00:17:35.434
  • Now, let's be practical for a moment.
  • 00:17:35.434 --> 00:17:39.271
  • What is the modus operandi of parenting?
  • 00:17:39.271 --> 00:17:43.609
  • Unconditional love.
  • 00:17:43.609 --> 00:17:46.245
  • That's what works in all of this.
  • 00:17:46.245 --> 00:17:48.447
  • That's how we're able to discipline, to instruct.
  • 00:17:48.447 --> 00:17:53.085
  • It's because they know our parents modus operandi is love
  • 00:17:53.085 --> 00:17:59.458
  • And we want them to know a couple of things, to know that
  • 00:17:59.458 --> 00:18:04.296
  • They are important and to know that they're safe.
  • 00:18:04.296 --> 00:18:09.301
  • Know that they're important and know that they're safe.
  • 00:18:09.301 --> 00:18:12.271
  • And they know that big time most of all by discipline.
  • 00:18:12.271 --> 00:18:17.643
  • They know they're loved because we care enough for them to go
  • 00:18:17.643 --> 00:18:20.879
  • Out of the way.
  • 00:18:20.879 --> 00:18:22.214
  • It's easier to bribe a child, to appease a child, to stop
  • 00:18:22.214 --> 00:18:25.817
  • The crying.
  • 00:18:25.817 --> 00:18:27.286
  • But how do we use this modus operandi, this unconditional
  • 00:18:27.286 --> 00:18:31.990
  • Love practically in the whole area of getting the foolishness
  • 00:18:31.990 --> 00:18:35.794
  • Out of our sons and daughters.
  • 00:18:35.794 --> 00:18:37.596
  • First of all, we have to control them with our eyes.
  • 00:18:37.596 --> 00:18:47.272
  • We have to control them with our eyes.
  • 00:18:47.272 --> 00:18:51.577
  • A baby is born.
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  • What about, for about three weeks to five weeks, their eyes
  • 00:18:54.680 --> 00:19:00.786
  • Are trying to focus, okay?
  • 00:19:00.786 --> 00:19:02.921
  • About five weeks to eight weeks, their eyes just flit around.
  • 00:19:02.921 --> 00:19:05.857
  • They're looking anywhere.
  • 00:19:05.857 --> 00:19:07.593
  • When they get about eight weeks up, their eyes begin to slow
  • 00:19:07.593 --> 00:19:10.596
  • Down and they're all looking for something.
  • 00:19:10.596 --> 00:19:13.198
  • What is it?
  • 00:19:13.198 --> 00:19:14.533
  • They're looking for eyes.
  • 00:19:14.533 --> 00:19:17.269
  • They're looking for the eyes of that mother, the eyes of
  • 00:19:17.269 --> 00:19:20.205
  • That person.
  • 00:19:20.205 --> 00:19:21.540
  • The eye is so important.
  • 00:19:21.540 --> 00:19:23.742
  • Parents need to understand.
  • 00:19:23.742 --> 00:19:25.711
  • Parents that sort of look at their children, glance at them
  • 00:19:25.711 --> 00:19:28.447
  • And look over here and they're talking over here, you instruct,
  • 00:19:28.447 --> 00:19:32.551
  • You communicate love, or discipline with your eyes.
  • 00:19:32.551 --> 00:19:37.956
  • Going back to school.
  • 00:19:37.956 --> 00:19:39.291
  • I had an english teacher maiden named miss satterfield.
  • 00:19:39.291 --> 00:19:43.495
  • She was something and the way she disciplined was that when
  • 00:19:43.495 --> 00:19:48.100
  • You're doing something wrong, she would say.
  • 00:19:48.100 --> 00:19:52.838
  • She wouldn't say a word, she'd just looked at you.
  • 00:19:52.838 --> 00:19:54.840
  • We call it the satterfield eye, and i'm telling you if it were
  • 00:19:54.840 --> 00:20:00.012
  • On you, you straightened up.
  • 00:20:00.012 --> 00:20:02.214
  • I've used that for years, but it works.
  • 00:20:02.214 --> 00:20:05.417
  • So your eyes, we physically contact them with their eyes.
  • 00:20:05.417 --> 00:20:11.290
  • It is so important for parents.
  • 00:20:11.290 --> 00:20:13.525
  • Any personality, ever talk to somebody, they sort of talk to
  • 00:20:13.525 --> 00:20:16.328
  • You like this.
  • 00:20:16.328 --> 00:20:17.663
  • I don't mean you just stare them down to people, look
  • 00:20:17.663 --> 00:20:19.164
  • In your eyes.
  • 00:20:19.164 --> 00:20:20.499
  • No, you just confidently look at people with their eyes.
  • 00:20:20.499 --> 00:20:24.970
  • Parents, that's the way our children, our babies
  • 00:20:24.970 --> 00:20:29.007
  • Understand love.
  • 00:20:29.007 --> 00:20:30.409
  • Also, there is the physical contact, the eye contact, the
  • 00:20:30.409 --> 00:20:34.780
  • Physical contact.
  • 00:20:34.780 --> 00:20:36.114
  • There needs to be hugs, there need to be kisses, they need to
  • 00:20:36.114 --> 00:20:38.617
  • Be touch.
  • 00:20:38.617 --> 00:20:39.951
  • Even particularly a teenage girl used to be a teenager.
  • 00:20:39.951 --> 00:20:42.554
  • Her dad needs to hug her in the right way, hug her.
  • 00:20:42.554 --> 00:20:46.124
  • In fact, there's a study been done.
  • 00:20:46.124 --> 00:20:47.926
  • I don't know how accurate is that everybody needs ten hugs
  • 00:20:47.926 --> 00:20:51.163
  • A day.
  • 00:20:51.163 --> 00:20:53.498
  • That just helps everything.
  • 00:20:53.498 --> 00:20:55.701
  • This is nothing to do with sensuality.
  • 00:20:55.701 --> 00:20:58.270
  • By the way, they have large professional huggers all over
  • 00:20:58.270 --> 00:21:02.441
  • America now.
  • 00:21:02.441 --> 00:21:03.775
  • It is not prostitution, it's not anything sensual.
  • 00:21:03.775 --> 00:21:06.812
  • They're just people who go around and they hug people in
  • 00:21:06.812 --> 00:21:10.148
  • Rest homes.
  • 00:21:10.148 --> 00:21:11.483
  • After covid, they were really popular and they just go and hug
  • 00:21:11.483 --> 00:21:14.586
  • People and hug people.
  • 00:21:14.586 --> 00:21:16.221
  • One lady i read about made over $300,000 a year as a hugger, a
  • 00:21:16.221 --> 00:21:20.559
  • Professional hugger.
  • 00:21:20.559 --> 00:21:23.428
  • Why?
  • 00:21:23.428 --> 00:21:25.430
  • By our eyes, we communicate, we care, we love by hugging and
  • 00:21:25.430 --> 00:21:30.469
  • Affection in the right way.
  • 00:21:30.469 --> 00:21:33.171
  • We communicate that.
  • 00:21:33.171 --> 00:21:34.506
  • We all need about ten hugs a day.
  • 00:21:34.506 --> 00:21:37.809
  • This is what we have.
  • 00:21:37.809 --> 00:21:39.144
  • Also, there needs to be not only eye contact, physical contact,
  • 00:21:39.144 --> 00:21:44.649
  • There has to be emotional contact.
  • 00:21:44.649 --> 00:21:47.819
  • Study your baby, study your son, your daughter and get to know
  • 00:21:47.819 --> 00:21:51.690
  • Them and understand their heart and somehow bind your heart
  • 00:21:51.690 --> 00:21:56.261
  • Around their heart.
  • 00:21:56.261 --> 00:21:58.330
  • And then you begin really to be a successful parent in the
  • 00:21:58.330 --> 00:22:02.467
  • 21st century.
  • 00:22:02.467 --> 00:22:05.137
  • It starts way back during pregnancy.
  • 00:22:05.137 --> 00:22:08.874
  • Certainly when they're born.
  • 00:22:08.874 --> 00:22:11.076
  • These are biblical principles that are beautiful when we
  • 00:22:11.076 --> 00:22:14.880
  • Practice them.
  • 00:22:14.880 --> 00:22:16.214
  • We see wonderful things coming through the life of your
  • 00:22:16.214 --> 00:22:19.651
  • Children, and my children and my grandchildren.
  • 00:22:19.651 --> 00:22:23.822
  • This is how we do it.
  • 00:22:23.822 --> 00:22:28.193
  • Tommy edison was in the second grade.
  • 00:22:28.193 --> 00:22:34.566
  • He came home from school one day, and tommy gave his mother a
  • 00:22:34.566 --> 00:22:38.336
  • Note and said mother this note is from the teacher, and she
  • 00:22:38.336 --> 00:22:48.013
  • Told me to give it to you.
  • 00:22:48.013 --> 00:22:50.916
  • And the note read, "dear mrs. edison," and as the mother read
  • 00:22:50.916 --> 00:22:57.889
  • It to little tommy, he said, read it to me and with tears in
  • 00:22:57.889 --> 00:23:01.660
  • Her eyes that she's read.
  • 00:23:01.660 --> 00:23:03.228
  • Dear mrs. edison, your son, tommy is brilliant.
  • 00:23:03.228 --> 00:23:09.367
  • He's a genius.
  • 00:23:09.367 --> 00:23:11.203
  • He's far beyond the ability of any teacher in this school to
  • 00:23:11.203 --> 00:23:14.406
  • Teach him.
  • 00:23:14.406 --> 00:23:15.740
  • You're going to have to teach him at home.
  • 00:23:15.740 --> 00:23:18.577
  • He's not welcome back here because he is far, far beyond
  • 00:23:18.577 --> 00:23:23.081
  • Anything we can do.
  • 00:23:23.081 --> 00:23:26.384
  • So mrs. edison taught her son at home.
  • 00:23:26.384 --> 00:23:31.389
  • He became thomas edison, perhaps one of the most creative minds
  • 00:23:31.389 --> 00:23:37.529
  • Ever produced, not only in america, but in the world.
  • 00:23:37.529 --> 00:23:41.800
  • When his mother died, years later, he was looking through
  • 00:23:41.800 --> 00:23:46.371
  • Some things in a drawer.
  • 00:23:46.371 --> 00:23:48.974
  • And according to his memoir, he saw that little note that he'd
  • 00:23:48.974 --> 00:23:53.278
  • Carried home to his mother.
  • 00:23:53.278 --> 00:23:56.047
  • And he said, you know, i want to read that note myself.
  • 00:23:56.047 --> 00:23:58.650
  • And the note didn't say what his mother said that it said, the
  • 00:23:58.650 --> 00:24:03.522
  • Note said, your son is addled, that meant mentally ill in
  • 00:24:03.522 --> 00:24:08.226
  • That day.
  • 00:24:08.226 --> 00:24:09.895
  • We won't let him come back to school here any more.
  • 00:24:09.895 --> 00:24:14.766
  • You'll have to teach him.
  • 00:24:14.766 --> 00:24:17.836
  • Edison said when he read that he cried and cried for hours.
  • 00:24:17.836 --> 00:24:24.643
  • And then he wrote in his memoir, these words, thomas alva edison
  • 00:24:24.643 --> 00:24:31.116
  • Was an addled child that a hero mother became, became the genius
  • 00:24:31.116 --> 00:24:39.291
  • Of the century.
  • 00:24:39.291 --> 00:24:41.192
  • Mom and dad, everybody may give up on your son and daughter
  • 00:24:41.192 --> 00:24:44.729
  • Because they say, oh, they're fools, but a mom and dad who
  • 00:24:44.729 --> 00:24:50.468
  • Brings a child up, teaching, loving with unconditional love.
  • 00:24:50.468 --> 00:24:59.377
  • You'll be amazed at what that son and daughter will become.
  • 00:25:00.812 --> 00:25:06.017
  • Pastor ed: everybody in the world is hungry for something
  • 00:25:06.084 --> 00:25:08.320
  • That gives them assurance about the future and comfort about
  • 00:25:08.320 --> 00:25:12.190
  • What we are facing right today.
  • 00:25:12.190 --> 00:25:15.660
  • What all of us are looking for can only be found in god's word.
  • 00:25:15.660 --> 00:25:20.899
  • That's why now's the time to do all we can to share the proven
  • 00:25:20.899 --> 00:25:26.071
  • Truth of scripture with as many people as possible.
  • 00:25:26.071 --> 00:25:30.709
  • And so, with a gift today which will be worth double
  • 00:25:30.709 --> 00:25:33.712
  • Thanks to a special matching grant, we can help reach
  • 00:25:33.712 --> 00:25:37.682
  • Millions through the broadcast and resources of "the winning
  • 00:25:37.682 --> 00:25:41.686
  • Walk," and it's a winning walk, as you know, with jesus christ.
  • 00:25:41.686 --> 00:25:46.424
  • I'm excited about today, i'm excited about tomorrow,
  • 00:25:46.424 --> 00:25:49.894
  • And thank you, through your contributions, through your
  • 00:25:49.894 --> 00:25:53.031
  • Prayers, we scatter seeds of god's truth everywhere
  • 00:25:53.031 --> 00:25:58.169
  • And lives are changed.
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  • Congratulations, thank you for being a part
  • 00:26:00.171 --> 00:26:03.441
  • Of "the winning walk" family.
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  • ♪♪♪
  • 00:26:05.577 --> 00:26:19.124
  • Pastor ed: of all the responsibilities god has
  • 00:26:20.525 --> 00:26:22.427
  • Entrusted to me, i can't think of more thrilling or challenging
  • 00:26:22.427 --> 00:26:26.031
  • One than being a parent.
  • 00:26:26.031 --> 00:26:28.133
  • Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
  • 00:26:28.133 --> 00:26:30.669
  • We are to nurture them, to teach them, to build of them the right
  • 00:26:30.669 --> 00:26:34.372
  • Stuff as sons and daughters.
  • 00:26:34.372 --> 00:26:36.508
  • As you've probably figured out by now, parenting is truly a
  • 00:26:36.508 --> 00:26:40.512
  • Full time job and sometimes it could be an overwhelming task.
  • 00:26:40.512 --> 00:26:45.917
  • But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
  • 00:26:45.917 --> 00:26:49.087
  • You can begin today by admitting that you don't have all
  • 00:26:49.087 --> 00:26:52.390
  • The answers.
  • 00:26:52.390 --> 00:26:53.725
  • I certainly don't.
  • 00:26:53.725 --> 00:26:55.060
  • And then we turn to the one who does, god.
  • 00:26:55.060 --> 00:26:58.730
  • God's word, the bible offers practical principles for
  • 00:26:58.730 --> 00:27:02.634
  • Parenting today and every single day.
  • 00:27:02.634 --> 00:27:05.804
  • So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
  • 00:27:05.804 --> 00:27:09.908
  • And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
  • 00:27:09.908 --> 00:27:16.715
  • He invented the family.
  • 00:27:16.715 --> 00:27:18.750
  • Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
  • 00:27:18.750 --> 00:27:21.986
  • And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
  • 00:27:21.986 --> 00:27:26.124
  • Can you?
  • 00:27:26.124 --> 00:27:26.124