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Better Together LIVE | Episode 141

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November 9, 2020
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Single; but never alone! God is with us always; and His plans are greater than any relationship status. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 141

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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: EVERY SEASON
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: EVERY SEASONOF LIFE SHOULD BE CELEBRATED.
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  • OF LIFE SHOULD BE CELEBRATED.WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE OR YOU'RE
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  • WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE OR YOU'REMARRIED, GOD'S PLANS FOR US ARE
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  • MARRIED, GOD'S PLANS FOR US AREGREATER THAN ANY RELATIONSHIP
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  • GREATER THAN ANY RELATIONSHIPSTATUS.
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  • STATUS.COME ON.
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  • COME ON.LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.
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  • LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING]
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  • [MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING][MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC]- HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: SO,
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  • - HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: SO,TODAY, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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  • TODAY, WE'RE TALKING ABOUTBEING SINGLE.
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  • BEING SINGLE.NOW, I WAS THE GIRL THAT GOT
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  • NOW, I WAS THE GIRL THAT GOTMARRIED AT 27.
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  • MARRIED AT 27.I HEARD THIS MESSAGE ABOUT
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  • I HEARD THIS MESSAGE ABOUTGIVING GOD A TENTH OF OR A
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  • GIVING GOD A TENTH OF OR ATITHE OF YOUR LIFE, WHICH WAS
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  • TITHE OF YOUR LIFE, WHICH WASGIVING GOD SEVEN OF YOUR LIFE.
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  • GIVING GOD SEVEN OF YOUR LIFE.AND SO, IT WAS VERY EASY AS
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  • AND SO, IT WAS VERY EASY ASYOUNG WOMAN TO BE LIKE: I'M
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  • YOUNG WOMAN TO BE LIKE: I'MGONNA GIVE GOD MY WHOLE LIFE
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  • GONNA GIVE GOD MY WHOLE LIFEAND MY WHOLE PURPOSE!
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  • AND MY WHOLE PURPOSE!AND HE'S GONNA GET ALL
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  • AND HE'S GONNA GET ALLTHESE YEARS!
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  • THESE YEARS!AND, IT WAS GREAT UNTIL I WAS,
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  • AND, IT WAS GREAT UNTIL I WAS,LIKE, 22, AND THEN 23,
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  • LIKE, 22, AND THEN 23,AND THEN 26.
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  • AND THEN 26.AND IT FELT LIKE THE GUYS THAT
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  • AND IT FELT LIKE THE GUYS THATI WANTED TO MARRY WEREN'T
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  • I WANTED TO MARRY WEREN'TGETTING MARRIED.
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  • GETTING MARRIED.AND THERE WAS, LIKE, NO GOOD
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  • AND THERE WAS, LIKE, NO GOODONES TO PICK FROM.
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  • ONES TO PICK FROM.AND, I REMEMBER, FINALLY, ABOUT
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  • AND, I REMEMBER, FINALLY, ABOUT27, I HAD IT OUT WITH GOD.
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  • 27, I HAD IT OUT WITH GOD.AND I SAID: "GOD,
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  • AND I SAID: "GOD,I DON'T GET IT.
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  • I DON'T GET IT.I WANNA DO THIS THE RIGHT WAY.
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  • I WANNA DO THIS THE RIGHT WAY.I WANNA BE MARRIED.
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  • I WANNA BE MARRIED.I CAN'T SEEM TO FIND ANY MEN
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  • I CAN'T SEEM TO FIND ANY MENOUT HERE THAT ARE, LIKE,
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  • OUT HERE THAT ARE, LIKE,THE RIGHT ONE FOR ME."
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  • THE RIGHT ONE FOR ME."AND HE SAID TO ME, SO CLEARLY:
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  • AND HE SAID TO ME, SO CLEARLY:HAVILAH, IF YOU WANTED TO BE
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  • HAVILAH, IF YOU WANTED TO BEMARRIED TODAY, YOU COULD GO
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  • MARRIED TODAY, YOU COULD GOMARRY SOMEBODY.
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  • MARRY SOMEBODY.THE POINT IS NOT BEING MARRIED.
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  • THE POINT IS NOT BEING MARRIED.THE POINT IS THAT YOU WANT THE
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  • THE POINT IS THAT YOU WANT THERIGHT PERSON FOR THE RIGHT TIME
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  • RIGHT PERSON FOR THE RIGHT TIMEAND THE RIGHT SEASON OF
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  • AND THE RIGHT SEASON OFYOUR LIFE.
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  • YOUR LIFE.AND, I WANNA BE A PART OF THAT.
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  • AND, I WANNA BE A PART OF THAT.AND, I REMEMBER HIM SO CLEARLY
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  • AND, I REMEMBER HIM SO CLEARLY-- IT WAS LIKE THIS REALIZATION
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  • -- IT WAS LIKE THIS REALIZATIONTHAT ME BEING SINGLE --
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  • THAT ME BEING SINGLE --AND I ALMOST WANNA SAY ME BEING
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  • AND I ALMOST WANNA SAY ME BEINGWHOLE AND NOT PART OF ANOTHER
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  • WHOLE AND NOT PART OF ANOTHERWHOLE -- WAS REALLY A CHOICE
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  • WHOLE -- WAS REALLY A CHOICETHAT I WAS FULLY IN CONTROL OF,
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  • THAT I WAS FULLY IN CONTROL OF,THAT I COULD GO MARRY SOME
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  • THAT I COULD GO MARRY SOMERANDOM PERSON TO BE "MARRIED,"
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  • RANDOM PERSON TO BE "MARRIED,"BUT THAT WASN'T WHAT I WANTED
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  • BUT THAT WASN'T WHAT I WANTEDMY STORY TO BE.
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  • MY STORY TO BE.I WANTED MY STORY TO HAVE
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  • I WANTED MY STORY TO HAVEINTENTION AND PURPOSE AND TO
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  • INTENTION AND PURPOSE AND TOHAVE THE HAND OF GOD ON IT.
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  • HAVE THE HAND OF GOD ON IT.AND, I LOVE WHAT ONE OF MY
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  • AND, I LOVE WHAT ONE OF MYFRIENDS, KRISTA SMITH
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  • FRIENDS, KRISTA SMITHSAYS.
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  • SAYS.SHE SAYS: THERE'S THIS TENSION
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  • SHE SAYS: THERE'S THIS TENSIONBETWEEN CONTENTMENT AND
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  • BETWEEN CONTENTMENT ANDCONTENDING.
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  • CONTENDING.AND I FELT IN MY LIFE THERE WAS
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  • AND I FELT IN MY LIFE THERE WASTHIS HUGE BATTLE BETWEEN
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  • THIS HUGE BATTLE BETWEENWANTING TO BE CONTENT--
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  • WANTING TO BE CONTENT--WHICH I LOVE THAT VERSE IN
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  • WHICH I LOVE THAT VERSE IN1 CORINTHIANS 7 THAT SAYS:
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  • 1 CORINTHIANS 7 THAT SAYS:AND DON'T BE WISHING YOU WERE
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  • AND DON'T BE WISHING YOU WERESOMEWHERE ELSE OR WITH
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  • SOMEWHERE ELSE OR WITHSOMEONE ELSE.
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  • SOMEONE ELSE.RIGHT HERE IS WHERE GOD
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  • RIGHT HERE IS WHERE GODHAS YOU.
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  • HAS YOU.LIVE AND OBEY AND LOVE AND
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  • LIVE AND OBEY AND LOVE ANDBELIEVE, RIGHT THERE.
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  • BELIEVE, RIGHT THERE.UM, I LOVE THAT REALITY.
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  • UM, I LOVE THAT REALITY.AND I FELT LIKE I NEEDED TO
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  • AND I FELT LIKE I NEEDED TOUNDERSTAND HOW TO BE CONTENT.
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  • UNDERSTAND HOW TO BE CONTENT.BUT, THEN, THERE WAS THIS PART
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  • BUT, THEN, THERE WAS THIS PARTOF ME THAT WANTED TO CONTEND!
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  • OF ME THAT WANTED TO CONTEND!LIKE: THERE'S OTHER THINGS I
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  • LIKE: THERE'S OTHER THINGS IWANT IN MY LIFE.
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  • WANT IN MY LIFE.AND...AND I HAD TO REALLY RELAX
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  • AND...AND I HAD TO REALLY RELAXIN THE WILL OF GOD, IN THE
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  • IN THE WILL OF GOD, IN THESTORY OF GOD, AND GIVE UP --
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  • STORY OF GOD, AND GIVE UP --I ALMOST WANNA SAY -- A DEMONIC
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  • I ALMOST WANNA SAY -- A DEMONICTIME CLOCK THAT WANTED TO KEEP
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  • TIME CLOCK THAT WANTED TO KEEPME FOCUSED ON THAT: I SHOULD BE
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  • ME FOCUSED ON THAT: I SHOULD BEHERE, I SHOULD HAVE THIS, I'M
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  • HERE, I SHOULD HAVE THIS, I'MMISSING OUT, NO ONE PICKED ME.
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  • MISSING OUT, NO ONE PICKED ME.OR I MESSED THAT UP.
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  • OR I MESSED THAT UP.AND I HAD TO REALLY GO AFTER
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  • AND I HAD TO REALLY GO AFTERTHE REALITY THAT I COULD BE
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  • THE REALITY THAT I COULD BECONTENT AND CONTEND AT THE
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  • CONTENT AND CONTEND AT THEEXACT SAME TIME.
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  • EXACT SAME TIME.AND I THINK, LIVING A FULFILLED
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  • AND I THINK, LIVING A FULFILLEDSINGLE LIFE, THAT WAS REQUIRED.
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  • SINGLE LIFE, THAT WAS REQUIRED.AND CAN I GIVE YOU GUYS A HINT?
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  • AND CAN I GIVE YOU GUYS A HINT?AND I KNOW A LOT OF US
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  • AND I KNOW A LOT OF USUNDERSTAND THIS.
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  • UNDERSTAND THIS.BEING CONTENT AND CONTENDING AT
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  • BEING CONTENT AND CONTENDING ATTHE SAME TIME HAPPENS IN EVERY
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  • THE SAME TIME HAPPENS IN EVERYPHASE OF OUR LIFE.
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  • PHASE OF OUR LIFE.IT'S NOT JUST WHEN YOU'RE
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  • IT'S NOT JUST WHEN YOU'RESINGLE.
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  • SINGLE.AND I THINK WE KIND OF GET
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  • AND I THINK WE KIND OF GETCAUGHT UP THINKING: IT'S JUST
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  • CAUGHT UP THINKING: IT'S JUSTA SINGLE PERSON'S REALITY.
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  • A SINGLE PERSON'S REALITY.AND SO, FOR ME, THAT WAS MY
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  • AND SO, FOR ME, THAT WAS MYJOURNEY.
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  • JOURNEY.I DID MARRY MY HUSBAND.
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  • I DID MARRY MY HUSBAND.HE IS FOUR YEARS YOUNGER
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  • HE IS FOUR YEARS YOUNGERTHAN I AM.
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  • THAN I AM.I SAID GOD WAITED FOR HIM TO BE
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  • I SAID GOD WAITED FOR HIM TO BELEGAL SO I COULD MARRY HIM.
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  • LEGAL SO I COULD MARRY HIM.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND NOW, WE ARE HAPPILY
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  • AND NOW, WE ARE HAPPILYMARRIED.
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  • MARRIED.WE HAVE FOUR YOUNG BOYS.
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  • WE HAVE FOUR YOUNG BOYS.AND, UM, WE ARE DONE HAVING
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  • AND, UM, WE ARE DONE HAVINGCHILDREN.
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  • CHILDREN.WE DON'T HUG, KISS, GO IN
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  • WE DON'T HUG, KISS, GO INJACUZZIS -- WE KEEP IT CLEAN.
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  • JACUZZIS -- WE KEEP IT CLEAN.BUT WE DO TRY TO,
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  • BUT WE DO TRY TO,I DO LOVE BEING MARRIED.
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  • I DO LOVE BEING MARRIED.BUT WHEN I LOOK BACK, I REALIZE
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  • BUT WHEN I LOOK BACK, I REALIZETHAT ME LEARNING TO BE CONTENT
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  • THAT ME LEARNING TO BE CONTENTWAS ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP WITH
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  • WAS ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP WITHCHRIST AND ALLOWING HIM TO MEET
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  • CHRIST AND ALLOWING HIM TO MEETMY NEEDS AT A DEEPER LEVEL.
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  • MY NEEDS AT A DEEPER LEVEL.AND THAT SAME CONTENTMENT AND
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  • AND THAT SAME CONTENTMENT ANDCONTENDING HAPPENS STILL
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  • CONTENDING HAPPENS STILLIN BEING MARRIED.
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  • IN BEING MARRIED.SO, WHAT ABOUT YOU GUYS?
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  • SO, WHAT ABOUT YOU GUYS?HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THIS
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  • HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THISIN YOUR LIFE?
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  • IN YOUR LIFE?- JANICE GAINES: YES!
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  • - JANICE GAINES: YES!AND, HAVILAH, I LOVE YOU JUST
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  • AND, HAVILAH, I LOVE YOU JUSTFOR BEING SO FUNNY AND SO REAL
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  • FOR BEING SO FUNNY AND SO REAL-- AT ALL TIME.
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  • -- AT ALL TIME.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]I ALSO GOT MARRIED AT 27.
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  • I ALSO GOT MARRIED AT 27.UM, BUT MY JOURNEY BEFORE THAT
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  • UM, BUT MY JOURNEY BEFORE THATWAS PROBABLY THE OPPOSITE
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  • WAS PROBABLY THE OPPOSITEOF YOURS.
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  • OF YOURS.I WAS NOT TRYING TO GET
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  • I WAS NOT TRYING TO GETMARRIED.
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  • MARRIED.I WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO...
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  • I WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO...CLIMB THE SOCIAL AND ECONOMIC
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  • CLIMB THE SOCIAL AND ECONOMICLADDERS OF OUR WORLD.
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  • LADDERS OF OUR WORLD.AND, YOU KNOW, IT'S REALLY
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  • AND, YOU KNOW, IT'S REALLYINTERESTING THAT OUR CHRISTIAN
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  • INTERESTING THAT OUR CHRISTIANCULTURE DOES OFTEN TEND TO VIEW
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  • CULTURE DOES OFTEN TEND TO VIEWSINGLENESS AS A PROBLEM TO
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  • SINGLENESS AS A PROBLEM TOBE SOLVED.
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  • BE SOLVED.AND I WAS NOT ON BOARD
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  • AND I WAS NOT ON BOARDWITH THAT.
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  • WITH THAT.I WAS LIKE: I'M GOOD.
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  • I WAS LIKE: I'M GOOD.I WANT THIS, THIS, AND THIS,
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  • I WANT THIS, THIS, AND THIS,BEFORE ANY ANYTHING HAPPENS.
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  • BEFORE ANY ANYTHING HAPPENS.AND, YOU KNOW: BEFORE I TRY TO
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  • AND, YOU KNOW: BEFORE I TRY TOHAVE KIDS, I WANNA DO THESE
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  • HAVE KIDS, I WANNA DO THESETHINGS.
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  • THINGS.AND, SO, IT REALLY WAS
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  • AND, SO, IT REALLY WASCOMING TO GRIPS WITH GIVING THE
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  • COMING TO GRIPS WITH GIVING THELORD MY ENTIRE LIFE THAT
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  • LORD MY ENTIRE LIFE THATACTUALLY LED ME TO GET MARRIED,
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  • ACTUALLY LED ME TO GET MARRIED,UM, FROM BEING A SINGLE WOMAN,
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  • UM, FROM BEING A SINGLE WOMAN,BECAUSE I WAS...ENJOYING BEING
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  • BECAUSE I WAS...ENJOYING BEINGA SINGLE WOMAN.
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  • A SINGLE WOMAN.UM, AND IT REALLY WAS ABOUT,
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  • UM, AND IT REALLY WAS ABOUT,YOU KNOW...GIVING MY LIFE TO
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  • YOU KNOW...GIVING MY LIFE TOTHE LORD -- ALL OF THOSE LAST
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  • THE LORD -- ALL OF THOSE LASTPIECES THAT I DIDN'T REALIZE I
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  • PIECES THAT I DIDN'T REALIZE INEEDED TO GIVE HIM, AS A
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  • NEEDED TO GIVE HIM, AS AYOUNG WOMAN.
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  • YOUNG WOMAN.THERE'S A SCRIPTURE THAT I
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  • THERE'S A SCRIPTURE THAT IREMEMBER, AS I LEARNED WHAT IT
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  • REMEMBER, AS I LEARNED WHAT ITMEANT TO LET THE LORD BE MY
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  • MEANT TO LET THE LORD BE MYLORD AND SAVIOR, AS A
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  • LORD AND SAVIOR, AS AYOUNG WOMAN.
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  • YOUNG WOMAN.THERE IS A SCRIPTURE THAT I
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  • THERE IS A SCRIPTURE THAT ICAME ACROSS THAT I WANNA
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  • CAME ACROSS THAT I WANNAHIGHLIGHT, HERE.
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  • HIGHLIGHT, HERE.AND IT'S
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  • AND IT'S1 CORINTHIANS 7:34 AND 35.
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  • 1 CORINTHIANS 7:34 AND 35."THE UNMARRIED OR BETROTHED
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  • "THE UNMARRIED OR BETROTHEDWOMAN IS ANXIOUS ABOUT THE
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  • WOMAN IS ANXIOUS ABOUT THETHINGS OF THE LORD, HOW TO BE
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  • THINGS OF THE LORD, HOW TO BEHOLY IN BODY AND SPIRIT.
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  • HOLY IN BODY AND SPIRIT.BUT THE MARRIED WOMAN IS
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  • BUT THE MARRIED WOMAN ISANXIOUS ABOUT WORLDLY THINGS,
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  • ANXIOUS ABOUT WORLDLY THINGS,HOW TO PLEASE HER HUSBAND.
  • 00:05:32.210 --> 00:05:33.779
  • HOW TO PLEASE HER HUSBAND.I SAY THIS FOR YOUR OWN
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  • I SAY THIS FOR YOUR OWNBENEFIT, NOT TO LAY ANY
  • 00:05:34.880 --> 00:05:36.548
  • BENEFIT, NOT TO LAY ANYRESTRAIN UPON YOU, BUT TO
  • 00:05:36.548 --> 00:05:37.783
  • RESTRAIN UPON YOU, BUT TOPROMOTE GOOD ORDER AND TO
  • 00:05:37.783 --> 00:05:39.518
  • PROMOTE GOOD ORDER AND TOSECURE YOUR UNDIVIDED DEVOTION
  • 00:05:39.518 --> 00:05:40.352
  • SECURE YOUR UNDIVIDED DEVOTIONTO THE LORD."
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  • TO THE LORD."AND, I REMEMBER READING THAT
  • 00:05:41.920 --> 00:05:43.655
  • AND, I REMEMBER READING THATAND COMING TO GRIPS WITH THAT,
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  • AND COMING TO GRIPS WITH THAT,AND SAYING, AS MY SINGLENESS--
  • 00:05:45.791 --> 00:05:46.892
  • AND SAYING, AS MY SINGLENESS--I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS COMING
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  • I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS COMINGTO AN END.
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  • TO AN END.BUT AS IT WAS, IT WAS LIKE:
  • 00:05:49.928 --> 00:05:50.862
  • BUT AS IT WAS, IT WAS LIKE:OH, MY GOODNESS.
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  • OH, MY GOODNESS.WELL, LET ME THINK ABOUT THIS!
  • 00:05:51.930 --> 00:05:52.931
  • WELL, LET ME THINK ABOUT THIS!I'VE GOT SO MANY THINGS I WANNA
  • 00:05:52.931 --> 00:05:54.332
  • I'VE GOT SO MANY THINGS I WANNABE COMMITTED TO, FOR THE SAKE
  • 00:05:54.332 --> 00:05:55.801
  • BE COMMITTED TO, FOR THE SAKEOF THE LORD.
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  • OF THE LORD.AND IF THE WORD SAYS THAT THIS
  • 00:05:57.636 --> 00:05:59.704
  • AND IF THE WORD SAYS THAT THISCHANGES MY MINDSET, MY FOCUS
  • 00:05:59.704 --> 00:06:00.505
  • CHANGES MY MINDSET, MY FOCUSCHANGES, THEN MY FOCUS HAS
  • 00:06:00.505 --> 00:06:03.375
  • CHANGES, THEN MY FOCUS HASBEEN OFF.
  • 00:06:03.375 --> 00:06:04.743
  • BEEN OFF.AND SO, I THINK IT'S REALLY
  • 00:06:04.743 --> 00:06:05.977
  • AND SO, I THINK IT'S REALLYIMPORTANT, WHEREVER YOU ARE,
  • 00:06:05.977 --> 00:06:07.579
  • IMPORTANT, WHEREVER YOU ARE,LIKE YOU SAID HAVILAH --
  • 00:06:07.579 --> 00:06:08.713
  • LIKE YOU SAID HAVILAH --YOU'RE CONTENDING
  • 00:06:08.713 --> 00:06:09.281
  • YOU'RE CONTENDINGAND LEARNING TO BE
  • 00:06:09.281 --> 00:06:11.349
  • AND LEARNING TO BECONTENT AT THE SAME TIME.
  • 00:06:11.349 --> 00:06:12.284
  • CONTENT AT THE SAME TIME.IN EVERY STAGE OF LIFE, MY GOAL
  • 00:06:12.284 --> 00:06:13.518
  • IN EVERY STAGE OF LIFE, MY GOALWAS TO SAY: OH! WHAT DO I HAVE
  • 00:06:13.518 --> 00:06:15.086
  • WAS TO SAY: OH! WHAT DO I HAVETO GIVE TO THE LORD,
  • 00:06:15.086 --> 00:06:16.455
  • TO GIVE TO THE LORD,IN THIS SEASON?
  • 00:06:16.455 --> 00:06:18.123
  • IN THIS SEASON?WHAT DO I HAVE TO BE CONTENT
  • 00:06:18.123 --> 00:06:19.024
  • WHAT DO I HAVE TO BE CONTENTABOUT AND WHAT AM I
  • 00:06:19.024 --> 00:06:19.858
  • ABOUT AND WHAT AM ICONTENDING FOR?
  • 00:06:19.858 --> 00:06:22.027
  • CONTENDING FOR?BECAUSE SEASONS CHANGE.
  • 00:06:22.027 --> 00:06:23.295
  • BECAUSE SEASONS CHANGE.AND IF THIS IS THE SEASON HE'S
  • 00:06:23.295 --> 00:06:25.197
  • AND IF THIS IS THE SEASON HE'SGIVEN ME, NOW, IT'S VALUABLE
  • 00:06:25.197 --> 00:06:26.364
  • GIVEN ME, NOW, IT'S VALUABLETHAT I LEARN THAT, NOW.
  • 00:06:26.364 --> 00:06:27.499
  • THAT I LEARN THAT, NOW.YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?DISA, I KNOW YOU KNOW A LOT
  • 00:06:28.934 --> 00:06:30.469
  • DISA, I KNOW YOU KNOW A LOTABOUT THAT.
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  • ABOUT THAT.WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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  • WHAT DO YOU THINK?- MANDISA: YEAH, IT'S FUNNY.
  • 00:06:34.005 --> 00:06:36.007
  • - MANDISA: YEAH, IT'S FUNNY.I'M SO GLAD THAT WE'RE HAVING
  • 00:06:36.007 --> 00:06:37.075
  • I'M SO GLAD THAT WE'RE HAVINGTHIS CONVERSATION, THAT I'VE
  • 00:06:37.075 --> 00:06:37.709
  • THIS CONVERSATION, THAT I'VEGOT TWO PEOPLE, HERE, WHO KNOW
  • 00:06:37.709 --> 00:06:38.310
  • GOT TWO PEOPLE, HERE, WHO KNOWME VERY WELL --
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  • ME VERY WELL --MELINDA AND JANICE.
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  • MELINDA AND JANICE.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]UM, BECAUSE...Y'ALL, YOU'VE
  • 00:06:41.713 --> 00:06:42.814
  • UM, BECAUSE...Y'ALL, YOU'VEHEARD ME TALK ABOUT THIS.
  • 00:06:42.814 --> 00:06:44.282
  • HEARD ME TALK ABOUT THIS.LIKE, THERE ARE MOMENTS WHERE
  • 00:06:44.282 --> 00:06:46.451
  • LIKE, THERE ARE MOMENTS WHEREI'M SAYING: "WHEN, GOD, WHEN?"
  • 00:06:46.451 --> 00:06:47.652
  • I'M SAYING: "WHEN, GOD, WHEN?"LIKE: I'M READY, I WANT -- AND
  • 00:06:47.652 --> 00:06:49.287
  • LIKE: I'M READY, I WANT -- ANDYOU ALL CAN SAY IT WITH ME -- I
  • 00:06:49.287 --> 00:06:51.122
  • YOU ALL CAN SAY IT WITH ME -- IWANT THE BIG, BLACK, BORN-AGAIN
  • 00:06:51.122 --> 00:06:52.724
  • WANT THE BIG, BLACK, BORN-AGAINBELIEVER WITH A...
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  • BELIEVER WITH A...- JANICE, MANDISA, MELINDA:
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  • - JANICE, MANDISA, MELINDA:...BALD HEAD.
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  • ...BALD HEAD.- MANDISA: ...AND A GOATEE.
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  • - MANDISA: ...AND A GOATEE.- JANICE: AND A GOATEE.
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  • - JANICE: AND A GOATEE.THERE IT IS.
  • 00:06:56.628 --> 00:06:57.162
  • THERE IT IS.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]- MANDISA: AND SO...LOOK, I'M
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  • - MANDISA: AND SO...LOOK, I'MGONNA BE HONEST: I WANT TO
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  • GONNA BE HONEST: I WANT TOBE MARRIED.
  • 00:07:00.765 --> 00:07:01.633
  • BE MARRIED.I DO.
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  • I DO.AND I LOVED WHAT YOU SAID,
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  • AND I LOVED WHAT YOU SAID,HAVILAH, BECAUSE, I CAN WANT TO
  • 00:07:05.203 --> 00:07:07.339
  • HAVILAH, BECAUSE, I CAN WANT TOBE MARRIED AND ALSO BE CONTENT.
  • 00:07:07.339 --> 00:07:09.941
  • BE MARRIED AND ALSO BE CONTENT.LIKE, I LOVE THIS SEASON THAT
  • 00:07:09.941 --> 00:07:11.009
  • LIKE, I LOVE THIS SEASON THATI'M IN, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:07:11.009 --> 00:07:11.877
  • I'M IN, RIGHT NOW.I'M DOING A LOT.
  • 00:07:11.877 --> 00:07:13.678
  • I'M DOING A LOT.I'M GETTING READY TO WRITE A
  • 00:07:13.678 --> 00:07:14.412
  • I'M GETTING READY TO WRITE ABOOK, I'M DOING A PODCAST ABOUT
  • 00:07:14.412 --> 00:07:15.580
  • BOOK, I'M DOING A PODCAST ABOUTMENTAL HEALTH.
  • 00:07:15.580 --> 00:07:17.215
  • MENTAL HEALTH.I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO BE ABLE
  • 00:07:17.215 --> 00:07:18.683
  • I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO BE ABLETO COME HERE WHEN I WANT TO,
  • 00:07:18.683 --> 00:07:19.718
  • TO COME HERE WHEN I WANT TO,HOW I WANT TO, WITHOUT CHECKING
  • 00:07:19.718 --> 00:07:20.886
  • HOW I WANT TO, WITHOUT CHECKINGIN WITH ANYBODY.
  • 00:07:20.886 --> 00:07:22.621
  • IN WITH ANYBODY.I CAN WATCH AS MUCH NFL
  • 00:07:22.621 --> 00:07:24.623
  • I CAN WATCH AS MUCH NFLFOOTBALL AS I WANT TO.
  • 00:07:24.623 --> 00:07:25.924
  • FOOTBALL AS I WANT TO.I HAVE COMPLETE CONTROL OF MY
  • 00:07:25.924 --> 00:07:26.858
  • I HAVE COMPLETE CONTROL OF MYREMOTE CONTROL.
  • 00:07:26.858 --> 00:07:27.659
  • REMOTE CONTROL.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]I CAN SPRAWL ACROSS MY BED.
  • 00:07:28.260 --> 00:07:32.063
  • I CAN SPRAWL ACROSS MY BED.SO, I APPRECIATE THOSE THINGS.
  • 00:07:32.063 --> 00:07:33.498
  • SO, I APPRECIATE THOSE THINGS.BUT WHEN IT COMES TO WHAT
  • 00:07:33.498 --> 00:07:36.268
  • BUT WHEN IT COMES TO WHATMATTERS THE MOST, THAT PASSAGE
  • 00:07:36.268 --> 00:07:39.504
  • MATTERS THE MOST, THAT PASSAGEIN 1 CORINTHIANS 7 IS MY JAM.
  • 00:07:39.504 --> 00:07:41.373
  • IN 1 CORINTHIANS 7 IS MY JAM.I READ THAT, OVER AND OVER.
  • 00:07:41.373 --> 00:07:43.675
  • I READ THAT, OVER AND OVER.BECAUSE, MY DEVOTION IS SOLELY
  • 00:07:43.675 --> 00:07:45.544
  • BECAUSE, MY DEVOTION IS SOLELYTO THE LORD, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:07:45.544 --> 00:07:47.045
  • TO THE LORD, RIGHT NOW.WHEN I GET MARRIED --
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  • WHEN I GET MARRIED --AND I DO BELIEVE THAT
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  • AND I DO BELIEVE THATI WILL --
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  • I WILL --I KNOW THAT I WILL
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  • I KNOW THAT I WILLHAVE TO TAKE CARE OF
  • 00:07:51.016 --> 00:07:51.883
  • HAVE TO TAKE CARE OFMY HUSBAND, IN A SENSE.
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  • MY HUSBAND, IN A SENSE.AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THAT'S
  • 00:07:53.151 --> 00:07:54.085
  • AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THAT'STHE RIGHT WAY TO SAY IT.
  • 00:07:54.085 --> 00:07:55.220
  • THE RIGHT WAY TO SAY IT.BUT, I'M GONNA--
  • 00:07:55.220 --> 00:07:55.987
  • BUT, I'M GONNA--[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]I-- THAT'S GONNA HAVE TO BE
  • 00:07:57.289 --> 00:07:58.957
  • I-- THAT'S GONNA HAVE TO BESOMETHING THAT I WILL BE
  • 00:07:58.957 --> 00:07:59.491
  • SOMETHING THAT I WILL BECONSCIOUS OF.
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  • CONSCIOUS OF.AND SO, I DON'T TAKE FOR
  • 00:08:00.458 --> 00:08:01.192
  • AND SO, I DON'T TAKE FORGRANTED, RIGHT NOW, THAT I
  • 00:08:01.192 --> 00:08:02.961
  • GRANTED, RIGHT NOW, THAT IDON'T HAVE THAT DIVIDED HEART,
  • 00:08:02.961 --> 00:08:04.362
  • DON'T HAVE THAT DIVIDED HEART,RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:08:04.362 --> 00:08:06.231
  • RIGHT NOW.AND WHEN I AM GETTING TOGETHER
  • 00:08:06.231 --> 00:08:07.866
  • AND WHEN I AM GETTING TOGETHERWITH MY MARRIED FRIENDS, WHEN
  • 00:08:07.866 --> 00:08:08.800
  • WITH MY MARRIED FRIENDS, WHENTHEIR RESPONSE IS,
  • 00:08:08.800 --> 00:08:09.534
  • THEIR RESPONSE IS,"LET ME CHECK IN
  • 00:08:09.534 --> 00:08:10.535
  • "LET ME CHECK INWITH MY HUSBAND,"
  • 00:08:10.535 --> 00:08:11.503
  • WITH MY HUSBAND,"IT'S MOMENTS LIKE THAT
  • 00:08:11.503 --> 00:08:12.671
  • IT'S MOMENTS LIKE THATTHAT MAKE ME GO:
  • 00:08:12.671 --> 00:08:14.039
  • THAT MAKE ME GO:YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:08:14.039 --> 00:08:14.940
  • YOU KNOW WHAT?I'M JUST GON' CHECK IN WITH
  • 00:08:14.940 --> 00:08:16.207
  • I'M JUST GON' CHECK IN WITHJESUS AND KEEP IT MOVIN'.
  • 00:08:16.207 --> 00:08:16.841
  • JESUS AND KEEP IT MOVIN'.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:08:16.841 --> 00:08:18.777
  • [LAUGHTER]SO, THAT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT
  • 00:08:18.777 --> 00:08:20.111
  • SO, THAT IS NOT SOMETHING THATI TAKE FOR GRANTED.
  • 00:08:20.111 --> 00:08:22.247
  • I TAKE FOR GRANTED.SO, ON BEHALF OF THE SINGLE
  • 00:08:22.247 --> 00:08:22.914
  • SO, ON BEHALF OF THE SINGLELADIES -- MELINDA AND I ARE
  • 00:08:22.914 --> 00:08:24.316
  • LADIES -- MELINDA AND I AREREPRESENTING, HERE, FOR THE
  • 00:08:24.316 --> 00:08:25.250
  • REPRESENTING, HERE, FOR THESINGLE LADIES -- THERE--
  • 00:08:25.250 --> 00:08:26.718
  • SINGLE LADIES -- THERE--LOOKING AT SINGLENESS AS
  • 00:08:26.718 --> 00:08:28.553
  • LOOKING AT SINGLENESS ASA GIFT, WHICH IS WHAT
  • 00:08:28.553 --> 00:08:29.988
  • A GIFT, WHICH IS WHAT1 CORINTHIANS 7 TALKS ABOUT,
  • 00:08:29.988 --> 00:08:32.023
  • 1 CORINTHIANS 7 TALKS ABOUT,THAT IS IMPORTANT.
  • 00:08:32.023 --> 00:08:33.291
  • THAT IS IMPORTANT.- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON:
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  • - DR. ROBYN WILKERSON:YES...YES.
  • 00:08:33.792 --> 00:08:34.693
  • YES...YES.- MANDISA: AND, LOOK --
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  • - MANDISA: AND, LOOK --MARRIAGE IS A GIFT, TOO!
  • 00:08:35.427 --> 00:08:36.661
  • MARRIAGE IS A GIFT, TOO!BUT, BECAUSE I'M SINGLE, I CAN
  • 00:08:36.661 --> 00:08:38.029
  • BUT, BECAUSE I'M SINGLE, I CANSAY SINGLENESS IS A GIFT.
  • 00:08:38.029 --> 00:08:38.964
  • SAY SINGLENESS IS A GIFT.AND SO, I'M CURIOUS.
  • 00:08:38.964 --> 00:08:40.298
  • AND SO, I'M CURIOUS.I'M GONNA ASK DR. ROBYN --
  • 00:08:40.298 --> 00:08:42.300
  • I'M GONNA ASK DR. ROBYN --BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED AND
  • 00:08:42.300 --> 00:08:43.301
  • BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED ANDYOU'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR A LONG
  • 00:08:43.301 --> 00:08:43.835
  • YOU'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR A LONGTIME --
  • 00:08:43.835 --> 00:08:44.936
  • TIME --- DR. ROBYN: YEAH...
  • 00:08:44.936 --> 00:08:45.904
  • - DR. ROBYN: YEAH...LONG TIME.
  • 00:08:45.904 --> 00:08:46.771
  • LONG TIME.- MANDISA: MARRIAGE AND
  • 00:08:46.771 --> 00:08:47.806
  • - MANDISA: MARRIAGE ANDSINGLENESS IS A GIFT.
  • 00:08:47.806 --> 00:08:48.607
  • SINGLENESS IS A GIFT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:08:48.607 --> 00:08:49.240
  • [LAUGHTER]- DR. ROBYN: A LONG TIME.
  • 00:08:49.240 --> 00:08:49.908
  • - DR. ROBYN: A LONG TIME.A REALLY LONG TIME, RIGHT?
  • 00:08:49.908 --> 00:08:54.579
  • A REALLY LONG TIME, RIGHT?AND TO THE SAME GUY.
  • 00:08:54.579 --> 00:08:55.480
  • AND TO THE SAME GUY.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:08:55.480 --> 00:08:58.049
  • [LAUGHTER]A REALLY, REALLY LONG TIME.
  • 00:08:58.049 --> 00:08:58.650
  • A REALLY, REALLY LONG TIME.- MANDISA: THAT'S SO GOOD.
  • 00:08:58.650 --> 00:08:59.651
  • - MANDISA: THAT'S SO GOOD.- DR. ROBYN: YOU KNOW, UH,
  • 00:08:59.651 --> 00:09:00.652
  • - DR. ROBYN: YOU KNOW, UH,MARRIAGE IS A GIFT.
  • 00:09:00.652 --> 00:09:01.753
  • MARRIAGE IS A GIFT.AND, WE'VE BEEN MARRIED 48
  • 00:09:01.753 --> 00:09:03.788
  • AND, WE'VE BEEN MARRIED 48YEARS.
  • 00:09:03.788 --> 00:09:04.322
  • YEARS.CAN YOU IMAGINE?
  • 00:09:04.322 --> 00:09:04.956
  • CAN YOU IMAGINE?- MANDISA: WOW...
  • 00:09:04.956 --> 00:09:05.824
  • - MANDISA: WOW...- DR. ROBYN: THAT'S A LONG
  • 00:09:05.824 --> 00:09:06.291
  • - DR. ROBYN: THAT'S A LONGTIME, ISN'T IT?
  • 00:09:06.291 --> 00:09:10.562
  • TIME, ISN'T IT?AND, I WAS 19 YEARS OLD.
  • 00:09:10.562 --> 00:09:11.262
  • AND, I WAS 19 YEARS OLD.AND THE TRUTH IS I DIDN'T WANT
  • 00:09:11.262 --> 00:09:13.765
  • AND THE TRUTH IS I DIDN'T WANTTO GET MARRIED.
  • 00:09:13.765 --> 00:09:14.499
  • TO GET MARRIED.I WASN'T LOOKIN' TO GET
  • 00:09:14.499 --> 00:09:15.634
  • I WASN'T LOOKIN' TO GETMARRIED.
  • 00:09:15.634 --> 00:09:16.935
  • MARRIED.I DIDN'T THINK IT WAS COOL TO
  • 00:09:16.935 --> 00:09:18.470
  • I DIDN'T THINK IT WAS COOL TOGET MARRIED.
  • 00:09:18.470 --> 00:09:20.905
  • GET MARRIED.I DIDN'T HAVE THAT ON MY RADAR.
  • 00:09:20.905 --> 00:09:22.607
  • I DIDN'T HAVE THAT ON MY RADAR.I WAS GONNA BE AN ATTORNEY.
  • 00:09:22.607 --> 00:09:24.943
  • I WAS GONNA BE AN ATTORNEY.I WAS GONNA BE A JUDGE.
  • 00:09:24.943 --> 00:09:25.877
  • I WAS GONNA BE A JUDGE.MAYBE I WAS GONNA BE THE
  • 00:09:25.877 --> 00:09:27.145
  • MAYBE I WAS GONNA BE THEPRESIDENT.
  • 00:09:27.145 --> 00:09:28.179
  • PRESIDENT.YOU KNOW, I WAS YOUNG, RIGHT
  • 00:09:28.179 --> 00:09:29.314
  • YOU KNOW, I WAS YOUNG, RIGHTOUT OF HIGH SCHOOL.
  • 00:09:29.314 --> 00:09:32.384
  • OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL.BUT WHAT HAPPENED TO ME WAS I
  • 00:09:32.384 --> 00:09:34.252
  • BUT WHAT HAPPENED TO ME WAS IMET THE GUY.
  • 00:09:34.252 --> 00:09:35.286
  • MET THE GUY.AND, LIKE WE'VE ALREADY
  • 00:09:35.286 --> 00:09:36.388
  • AND, LIKE WE'VE ALREADYTALKED ABOUT, IT'S BETTER TO
  • 00:09:36.388 --> 00:09:37.088
  • TALKED ABOUT, IT'S BETTER TOGET MARRIED THAN GET BURNED,
  • 00:09:37.088 --> 00:09:40.291
  • GET MARRIED THAN GET BURNED,RIGHT?
  • 00:09:40.291 --> 00:09:41.092
  • RIGHT?WE WON'T GO INTO THAT.
  • 00:09:41.092 --> 00:09:41.893
  • WE WON'T GO INTO THAT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:41.893 --> 00:09:42.560
  • [LAUGHTER]- MANDISA: LET'S GO INTO IT!
  • 00:09:42.560 --> 00:09:43.194
  • - MANDISA: LET'S GO INTO IT!- DR. ROBYN: WE WON'T GO INTO
  • 00:09:43.194 --> 00:09:44.796
  • - DR. ROBYN: WE WON'T GO INTOTHAT.
  • 00:09:44.796 --> 00:09:46.731
  • THAT.NOOOO! WE WON'T GO INTO THAT.
  • 00:09:46.731 --> 00:09:47.532
  • NOOOO! WE WON'T GO INTO THAT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:47.532 --> 00:09:48.633
  • [LAUGHTER]I WILL TELL YA -- THAT'S STILL
  • 00:09:48.633 --> 00:09:49.367
  • I WILL TELL YA -- THAT'S STILLGOING ON, FOR ALL OF YOU THAT
  • 00:09:49.367 --> 00:09:51.036
  • GOING ON, FOR ALL OF YOU THATWONDER.
  • 00:09:51.036 --> 00:09:51.836
  • WONDER.- HAVILAH: WHOOH!
  • 00:09:51.836 --> 00:09:52.937
  • - HAVILAH: WHOOH!- DR. ROBYN: JUST THAT YOU'RE
  • 00:09:52.937 --> 00:09:53.805
  • - DR. ROBYN: JUST THAT YOU'REOLD -- YOU'RE NOT DEAD!
  • 00:09:53.805 --> 00:09:55.407
  • OLD -- YOU'RE NOT DEAD!OKAY?
  • 00:09:55.407 --> 00:09:55.940
  • OKAY?[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:55.940 --> 00:09:56.741
  • [LAUGHTER]SO, UH, THAT'S THE GOOD NEWS.
  • 00:09:56.741 --> 00:09:57.475
  • SO, UH, THAT'S THE GOOD NEWS.THAT'S THE GOOD NEWS.
  • 00:09:57.475 --> 00:09:58.076
  • THAT'S THE GOOD NEWS.THAT'S THE--
  • 00:09:58.076 --> 00:09:59.878
  • THAT'S THE--- JANICE: YEEES...
  • 00:09:59.878 --> 00:10:01.246
  • - JANICE: YEEES...- DR. ROBYN: BUT, THE TRUTH IS
  • 00:10:01.246 --> 00:10:02.781
  • - DR. ROBYN: BUT, THE TRUTH ISIS THAT THE BIBLE IS CLEAR THAT
  • 00:10:02.781 --> 00:10:05.784
  • IS THAT THE BIBLE IS CLEAR THATMARRIAGE IS A GIFT AND WE'RE
  • 00:10:05.784 --> 00:10:07.318
  • MARRIAGE IS A GIFT AND WE'RETALKING, RIGHT NOW, ABOUT
  • 00:10:07.318 --> 00:10:10.255
  • TALKING, RIGHT NOW, ABOUTREDEFINING SINGLENESS.
  • 00:10:10.255 --> 00:10:12.657
  • REDEFINING SINGLENESS.AND, THE BIBLE IS VERY CLEAR
  • 00:10:12.657 --> 00:10:14.793
  • AND, THE BIBLE IS VERY CLEARTHAT SINGLE IS A GIFT, JUST
  • 00:10:14.793 --> 00:10:16.161
  • THAT SINGLE IS A GIFT, JUSTLIKE MARRIAGE IS A GIFT.
  • 00:10:16.161 --> 00:10:19.531
  • LIKE MARRIAGE IS A GIFT.AND, IN MATTHEW 19, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:10:19.531 --> 00:10:21.266
  • AND, IN MATTHEW 19, YOU KNOW,JESUS HIMSELF SAYS THAT"...
  • 00:10:21.266 --> 00:10:23.635
  • JESUS HIMSELF SAYS THAT"...IF THAT IS THE CASE
  • 00:10:23.635 --> 00:10:24.202
  • IF THAT IS THE CASEOF A MAN WITH HIS WIFE,
  • 00:10:24.202 --> 00:10:25.904
  • OF A MAN WITH HIS WIFE,IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY...
  • 00:10:25.904 --> 00:10:27.038
  • IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY...SOME ARE INCAPABLE OF
  • 00:10:27.038 --> 00:10:28.506
  • SOME ARE INCAPABLE OFMARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY WERE BORN
  • 00:10:28.506 --> 00:10:29.741
  • MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY WERE BORNSO; SOME, BECAUSE THEY WERE
  • 00:10:29.741 --> 00:10:31.042
  • SO; SOME, BECAUSE THEY WEREMADE SO BY OTHERS; SOME,
  • 00:10:31.042 --> 00:10:33.244
  • MADE SO BY OTHERS; SOME,BECAUSE THEY HAVE RENOUNCED
  • 00:10:33.244 --> 00:10:34.312
  • BECAUSE THEY HAVE RENOUNCEDMARRIAGE FOR THE SAKE OF THE
  • 00:10:34.312 --> 00:10:35.513
  • MARRIAGE FOR THE SAKE OF THEKINGDOM OF HEAVEN."
  • 00:10:35.513 --> 00:10:37.482
  • KINGDOM OF HEAVEN."I'M JUST GOING TO THE SCRIPTURE
  • 00:10:37.482 --> 00:10:38.349
  • I'M JUST GOING TO THE SCRIPTURETO LET YOU KNOW THAT JESUS
  • 00:10:38.349 --> 00:10:39.818
  • TO LET YOU KNOW THAT JESUSHIMSELF TALKED ABOUT NOT
  • 00:10:39.818 --> 00:10:42.487
  • HIMSELF TALKED ABOUT NOTGETTING MARRIED FOR THE PURPOSE
  • 00:10:42.487 --> 00:10:45.190
  • GETTING MARRIED FOR THE PURPOSEOF MINISTRY AND THAT IT IS A
  • 00:10:45.190 --> 00:10:47.125
  • OF MINISTRY AND THAT IT IS AGIFT TO STAY SINGLE.
  • 00:10:47.125 --> 00:10:48.626
  • GIFT TO STAY SINGLE.IT'S ALSO, AS PAUL TALKED
  • 00:10:48.626 --> 00:10:49.761
  • IT'S ALSO, AS PAUL TALKEDABOUT, A GIFT TO BE...
  • 00:10:49.761 --> 00:10:52.130
  • ABOUT, A GIFT TO BE...A DISCIPLE AND CHOOSE NOT
  • 00:10:52.130 --> 00:10:53.932
  • A DISCIPLE AND CHOOSE NOTTO GET MARRIED.
  • 00:10:53.932 --> 00:10:56.101
  • TO GET MARRIED.SO, IT'S A LIFESTYLE ISSUE.
  • 00:10:56.101 --> 00:10:59.671
  • SO, IT'S A LIFESTYLE ISSUE.NOW, WE NEED TO REDEFINE
  • 00:10:59.671 --> 00:11:01.372
  • NOW, WE NEED TO REDEFINESINGLENESS -- AND ESPECIALLY
  • 00:11:01.372 --> 00:11:03.942
  • SINGLENESS -- AND ESPECIALLYIN THE CHURCH.
  • 00:11:03.942 --> 00:11:05.376
  • IN THE CHURCH.SINGLE WOMEN ARE NOT
  • 00:11:05.376 --> 00:11:08.379
  • SINGLE WOMEN ARE NOTNECESSARILY BROKEN, RIGHT?
  • 00:11:08.379 --> 00:11:10.148
  • NECESSARILY BROKEN, RIGHT?THEY MAY HAVE CHOSEN TO
  • 00:11:10.148 --> 00:11:12.450
  • THEY MAY HAVE CHOSEN TOBE SINGLE.
  • 00:11:12.450 --> 00:11:13.985
  • BE SINGLE.NOW, I HAVE FRIENDS WHO HAVE
  • 00:11:13.985 --> 00:11:16.554
  • NOW, I HAVE FRIENDS WHO HAVECHOSEN A SINGLE LIFESTYLE.
  • 00:11:16.554 --> 00:11:21.259
  • CHOSEN A SINGLE LIFESTYLE.AND, CULTURE CAN BE VERY CRUEL,
  • 00:11:21.259 --> 00:11:24.829
  • AND, CULTURE CAN BE VERY CRUEL,BECAUSE IT CAN BE SETTING THE
  • 00:11:24.829 --> 00:11:26.364
  • BECAUSE IT CAN BE SETTING THECURVE TO SAY: HEY, IF YOU DON'T
  • 00:11:26.364 --> 00:11:27.799
  • CURVE TO SAY: HEY, IF YOU DON'THAVE A MAN, THEN SOMEHOW YOU'RE
  • 00:11:27.799 --> 00:11:31.836
  • HAVE A MAN, THEN SOMEHOW YOU'REINCOMPLETE.
  • 00:11:31.836 --> 00:11:33.271
  • INCOMPLETE.BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT JESUS
  • 00:11:33.271 --> 00:11:34.439
  • BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT JESUSTAUGHT.
  • 00:11:34.439 --> 00:11:35.073
  • TAUGHT.THAT'S NOT WHAT THE SCRIPTURE
  • 00:11:35.073 --> 00:11:37.108
  • THAT'S NOT WHAT THE SCRIPTURETEACHES.
  • 00:11:37.108 --> 00:11:38.343
  • TEACHES.WE ARE WHOLE.
  • 00:11:38.343 --> 00:11:38.943
  • WE ARE WHOLE.AND ONE OF THE DECLARATIONS
  • 00:11:38.943 --> 00:11:40.011
  • AND ONE OF THE DECLARATIONSTHAT THE SCRIPTURE HAS TAUGHT
  • 00:11:40.011 --> 00:11:42.413
  • THAT THE SCRIPTURE HAS TAUGHTME TO DECLARE OVER MY LIFE,
  • 00:11:42.413 --> 00:11:43.515
  • ME TO DECLARE OVER MY LIFE,EVERY DAY, EVEN THOUGH I'M A
  • 00:11:43.515 --> 00:11:44.482
  • EVERY DAY, EVEN THOUGH I'M AVERY HAPPILY WOMAN, IS:
  • 00:11:44.482 --> 00:11:49.888
  • VERY HAPPILY WOMAN, IS:I AM WHOLE.
  • 00:11:49.888 --> 00:11:51.422
  • I AM WHOLE.I AM WHOLE, IN JESUS CHRIST.
  • 00:11:51.422 --> 00:11:52.891
  • I AM WHOLE, IN JESUS CHRIST.AND I HAVE FRIENDS WHO HAVE
  • 00:11:52.891 --> 00:11:56.461
  • AND I HAVE FRIENDS WHO HAVECOME THROUGH LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES
  • 00:11:56.461 --> 00:11:57.729
  • COME THROUGH LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES-- SOME THAT THEY HAVE FOUND TO
  • 00:11:57.729 --> 00:11:59.430
  • -- SOME THAT THEY HAVE FOUND TOBE TRAGIC, BECAUSE MAYBE THEY
  • 00:11:59.430 --> 00:12:00.765
  • BE TRAGIC, BECAUSE MAYBE THEYARE NOW A WIDOW, OR MAYBE THEY
  • 00:12:00.765 --> 00:12:03.234
  • ARE NOW A WIDOW, OR MAYBE THEYHAVE BEEN DIVORCED.
  • 00:12:03.234 --> 00:12:04.335
  • HAVE BEEN DIVORCED.SOMETIMES, DIVORCES HAVE BEEN
  • 00:12:04.335 --> 00:12:07.005
  • SOMETIMES, DIVORCES HAVE BEENSO TRAUMATIC.
  • 00:12:07.005 --> 00:12:09.607
  • SO TRAUMATIC.OR, MAYBE THEY'RE A MOM, EVEN A
  • 00:12:09.607 --> 00:12:11.042
  • OR, MAYBE THEY'RE A MOM, EVEN ASINGLE MOM.
  • 00:12:11.042 --> 00:12:12.544
  • SINGLE MOM.AND, MAYBE THAT DAD HASN'T
  • 00:12:12.544 --> 00:12:13.478
  • AND, MAYBE THAT DAD HASN'TSTEPPED UP AND SAID, "I'M GONNA
  • 00:12:13.478 --> 00:12:14.512
  • STEPPED UP AND SAID, "I'M GONNABE PART," AND MAKE A FAMILY.
  • 00:12:14.512 --> 00:12:17.882
  • BE PART," AND MAKE A FAMILY.AND SO, I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE
  • 00:12:17.882 --> 00:12:20.251
  • AND SO, I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARESINGLE -- SOMETIMES BY CHOICE,
  • 00:12:20.251 --> 00:12:22.020
  • SINGLE -- SOMETIMES BY CHOICE,SOMETIMES NOT BY CHOICE.
  • 00:12:22.020 --> 00:12:23.488
  • SOMETIMES NOT BY CHOICE.AND I JUST WANNA DECLARE IN
  • 00:12:23.488 --> 00:12:25.190
  • AND I JUST WANNA DECLARE INTHIS CONVERSATION THAT THEY ARE
  • 00:12:25.190 --> 00:12:27.859
  • THIS CONVERSATION THAT THEY ARENOT BROKEN!
  • 00:12:27.859 --> 00:12:28.760
  • NOT BROKEN!- MANDISA: YEEEES!
  • 00:12:28.760 --> 00:12:29.394
  • - MANDISA: YEEEES!- DR. ROBYN: WE MUST REDEFINE
  • 00:12:29.394 --> 00:12:32.330
  • - DR. ROBYN: WE MUST REDEFINETHAT WE ARE NOT BROKEN.
  • 00:12:32.330 --> 00:12:35.600
  • THAT WE ARE NOT BROKEN.I.AM.WHOLE.
  • 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:37.168
  • I.AM.WHOLE.IN JESUS' NAME, HALLELUJAH.
  • 00:12:37.168 --> 00:12:38.002
  • IN JESUS' NAME, HALLELUJAH.- MANDISA: AMEN!
  • 00:12:38.002 --> 00:12:40.505
  • - MANDISA: AMEN!- DR. ROBYN: I AM WHOLE!
  • 00:12:40.505 --> 00:12:41.806
  • - DR. ROBYN: I AM WHOLE!AND SO, TODAY, I JUST WANNA
  • 00:12:41.806 --> 00:12:45.577
  • AND SO, TODAY, I JUST WANNASAY: "LET THE WEAK SAY,
  • 00:12:45.577 --> 00:12:50.615
  • SAY: "LET THE WEAK SAY,'I AM STRONG.'"
  • 00:12:50.615 --> 00:12:51.282
  • 'I AM STRONG.'"HALLELUJAH!
  • 00:12:51.282 --> 00:12:52.116
  • HALLELUJAH!THAT IS JOEL 3:10.
  • 00:12:52.116 --> 00:12:52.750
  • THAT IS JOEL 3:10.AND SO, I'M NOT GONNA PREACH.
  • 00:12:52.750 --> 00:12:53.618
  • AND SO, I'M NOT GONNA PREACH.YOU GO AHEAD, MELINDA --
  • 00:12:53.618 --> 00:12:55.620
  • YOU GO AHEAD, MELINDA --YOU PREACH.
  • 00:12:55.620 --> 00:12:56.287
  • YOU PREACH.- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: I'M GONNA
  • 00:12:56.287 --> 00:12:56.921
  • - MELINDA DOOLITTLE: I'M GONNALET YOU PREACH, DR. ROBYN.
  • 00:12:56.921 --> 00:12:57.689
  • LET YOU PREACH, DR. ROBYN.THAT WAS A GREAT--
  • 00:12:57.689 --> 00:12:59.390
  • THAT WAS A GREAT--I...I LOVE THAT.
  • 00:12:59.390 --> 00:13:00.525
  • I...I LOVE THAT.'CAUSE I DO FEEL LIKE,
  • 00:13:00.525 --> 00:13:02.126
  • 'CAUSE I DO FEEL LIKE,ESPECIALLY FOR THE CHURCH,
  • 00:13:02.126 --> 00:13:04.996
  • ESPECIALLY FOR THE CHURCH,A REDEFINITION OF SINGLENESS
  • 00:13:04.996 --> 00:13:05.964
  • A REDEFINITION OF SINGLENESSIS WHAT'S REALLY, REALLY
  • 00:13:05.964 --> 00:13:06.664
  • IS WHAT'S REALLY, REALLYIMPORTANT FOR US.
  • 00:13:06.664 --> 00:13:08.032
  • IMPORTANT FOR US.RIGHT NOW, UM, I-- I WAS
  • 00:13:08.032 --> 00:13:10.268
  • RIGHT NOW, UM, I-- I WASNERVOUS.
  • 00:13:10.268 --> 00:13:11.502
  • NERVOUS.I'M GONNA BE REALLY HONEST.
  • 00:13:11.502 --> 00:13:12.570
  • I'M GONNA BE REALLY HONEST.I WAS SO NERVOUS COMING ON THIS
  • 00:13:12.570 --> 00:13:13.504
  • I WAS SO NERVOUS COMING ON THISSHOW.
  • 00:13:13.504 --> 00:13:14.505
  • SHOW.NUMBER ONE, IT'S MY FIRST TIME.
  • 00:13:14.505 --> 00:13:16.074
  • NUMBER ONE, IT'S MY FIRST TIME.AND I LOVE THIS SHOW, BUT I WAS
  • 00:13:16.074 --> 00:13:17.742
  • AND I LOVE THIS SHOW, BUT I WASLIKE: [MAKES FRETTING NOISE]
  • 00:13:17.742 --> 00:13:18.543
  • LIKE: [MAKES FRETTING NOISE]IT'S MY FIRST TIME.
  • 00:13:18.543 --> 00:13:20.411
  • IT'S MY FIRST TIME.BUT, NUMBER TWO WAS BECAUSE I
  • 00:13:20.411 --> 00:13:22.213
  • BUT, NUMBER TWO WAS BECAUSE IAM THE SINGLE PERSON WHO
  • 00:13:22.213 --> 00:13:23.114
  • AM THE SINGLE PERSON WHODOESN'T...REALLY HAVE A DESIRE
  • 00:13:23.114 --> 00:13:25.750
  • DOESN'T...REALLY HAVE A DESIRETO BE MARRIED.
  • 00:13:25.750 --> 00:13:27.285
  • TO BE MARRIED.I-- (LAUGHS)
  • 00:13:27.285 --> 00:13:28.653
  • I-- (LAUGHS)I-I JUST NEVER HAVE.
  • 00:13:28.653 --> 00:13:30.822
  • I-I JUST NEVER HAVE.I TRIED, BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT I
  • 00:13:30.822 --> 00:13:32.090
  • I TRIED, BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT ILEARNED IN CHURCH.
  • 00:13:32.090 --> 00:13:34.792
  • LEARNED IN CHURCH.LIKE: THAT'S THE NEXT STEP.
  • 00:13:34.792 --> 00:13:35.827
  • LIKE: THAT'S THE NEXT STEP.WE EVEN HAD A THING CALLED
  • 00:13:35.827 --> 00:13:37.795
  • WE EVEN HAD A THING CALLEDYOUNG WOMEN IN TRAINING.
  • 00:13:37.795 --> 00:13:38.930
  • YOUNG WOMEN IN TRAINING.WE CALLED IT Y-WIT
  • 00:13:38.930 --> 00:13:40.331
  • WE CALLED IT Y-WITFOR SHORT.
  • 00:13:40.331 --> 00:13:42.200
  • FOR SHORT.AND, THEY TRAINED US IN
  • 00:13:42.200 --> 00:13:44.636
  • AND, THEY TRAINED US INHOW TO BE A WIFE --
  • 00:13:44.636 --> 00:13:45.937
  • HOW TO BE A WIFE --NOT JUST HOW TO
  • 00:13:45.937 --> 00:13:47.305
  • NOT JUST HOW TOBE A WHOLE WOMAN,
  • 00:13:47.305 --> 00:13:48.573
  • BE A WHOLE WOMAN,BUT HOW TO BE A WIFE.
  • 00:13:48.573 --> 00:13:51.476
  • BUT HOW TO BE A WIFE.AND, WHILE I THINK THAT IS
  • 00:13:51.476 --> 00:13:54.012
  • AND, WHILE I THINK THAT ISBEAUTIFUL, I THINK THERE'S A
  • 00:13:54.012 --> 00:13:56.180
  • BEAUTIFUL, I THINK THERE'S APOWER IN REALIZING THAT WE ARE
  • 00:13:56.180 --> 00:13:58.082
  • POWER IN REALIZING THAT WE AREWHOLE, AS THE WOMAN THAT GOD
  • 00:13:58.082 --> 00:13:59.050
  • WHOLE, AS THE WOMAN THAT GODCREATED US TO BE, AND FINDING
  • 00:13:59.050 --> 00:14:02.220
  • CREATED US TO BE, AND FINDINGTHAT WHOLENESS.
  • 00:14:02.220 --> 00:14:03.388
  • THAT WHOLENESS.BECAUSE, FIRST OF ALL, YOU
  • 00:14:03.388 --> 00:14:04.355
  • BECAUSE, FIRST OF ALL, YOUMEET SOMEBODY,
  • 00:14:04.355 --> 00:14:05.256
  • MEET SOMEBODY,YOU WANNA COME TO
  • 00:14:05.256 --> 00:14:05.957
  • YOU WANNA COME TOTHEM WHOLE.
  • 00:14:05.957 --> 00:14:07.292
  • THEM WHOLE.RIGHT?
  • 00:14:07.292 --> 00:14:09.427
  • RIGHT?I THINK, AT FIRST, YOU'RE
  • 00:14:09.427 --> 00:14:10.595
  • I THINK, AT FIRST, YOU'RETHINKING: TWO HALVES COME
  • 00:14:10.595 --> 00:14:11.296
  • THINKING: TWO HALVES COMETOGETHER AND MAKE A WHOLE.
  • 00:14:11.296 --> 00:14:12.430
  • TOGETHER AND MAKE A WHOLE.BUT IT'S TWO WHOLES THAT NEED
  • 00:14:12.430 --> 00:14:14.499
  • BUT IT'S TWO WHOLES THAT NEEDTO COME TOGETHER.
  • 00:14:14.499 --> 00:14:16.267
  • TO COME TOGETHER.SO, YOU WANNA BE WHOLE, AS A
  • 00:14:16.267 --> 00:14:18.336
  • SO, YOU WANNA BE WHOLE, AS AWOMAN, AND, I HAVE ENJOYED THE
  • 00:14:18.336 --> 00:14:19.971
  • WOMAN, AND, I HAVE ENJOYED THEJOURNEY OF BECOMING WHOLE, AS A
  • 00:14:19.971 --> 00:14:21.873
  • JOURNEY OF BECOMING WHOLE, AS AWOMAN.
  • 00:14:21.873 --> 00:14:23.341
  • WOMAN.AND I'VE ENJOYED IT SO MUCH
  • 00:14:23.341 --> 00:14:24.475
  • AND I'VE ENJOYED IT SO MUCHTHAT I'M LIKE: I'M GOOD!
  • 00:14:24.475 --> 00:14:25.243
  • THAT I'M LIKE: I'M GOOD![LAUGHTER]
  • 00:14:25.243 --> 00:14:28.012
  • [LAUGHTER]AND I-- SO, COMING ON THIS
  • 00:14:28.012 --> 00:14:29.414
  • AND I-- SO, COMING ON THISSHOW, I, HONESTLY-- I WAS
  • 00:14:29.414 --> 00:14:30.515
  • SHOW, I, HONESTLY-- I WASNERVOUS, AT FIRST, BECAUSE I
  • 00:14:30.515 --> 00:14:31.683
  • NERVOUS, AT FIRST, BECAUSE ITHOUGHT: I'M GONNA BE THE ODD
  • 00:14:31.683 --> 00:14:32.951
  • THOUGHT: I'M GONNA BE THE ODDWOMAN OUT.
  • 00:14:32.951 --> 00:14:34.419
  • WOMAN OUT.BUT, NOW, I'M NERVOUS BECAUSE
  • 00:14:34.419 --> 00:14:36.454
  • BUT, NOW, I'M NERVOUS BECAUSETWO OF YOU HAVE ALREADY
  • 00:14:36.454 --> 00:14:37.488
  • TWO OF YOU HAVE ALREADYSAID YOU DIDN'T WANNA BE
  • 00:14:37.488 --> 00:14:38.089
  • SAID YOU DIDN'T WANNA BEMARRIED -- AND YOU ARE.
  • 00:14:38.089 --> 00:14:39.257
  • MARRIED -- AND YOU ARE.AND SO, I'M LIKE: WAIT A
  • 00:14:39.257 --> 00:14:40.091
  • AND SO, I'M LIKE: WAIT AMINUTE!
  • 00:14:40.091 --> 00:14:42.627
  • MINUTE!WHAT IS-- Y'ALL SETTIN' ME UP!
  • 00:14:42.627 --> 00:14:43.561
  • WHAT IS-- Y'ALL SETTIN' ME UP![LAUGHTER]
  • 00:14:43.561 --> 00:14:44.195
  • [LAUGHTER]YOU GUYS ARE SETTING ME UP, ON
  • 00:14:44.195 --> 00:14:45.063
  • YOU GUYS ARE SETTING ME UP, ONTHIS SHOW.
  • 00:14:45.063 --> 00:14:47.465
  • THIS SHOW.BUT IT IS EXCITING TO BE ABLE
  • 00:14:47.465 --> 00:14:48.533
  • BUT IT IS EXCITING TO BE ABLETO TALK ABOUT THIS, 'CAUSE I
  • 00:14:48.533 --> 00:14:49.734
  • TO TALK ABOUT THIS, 'CAUSE ITHINK, SOMETIMES, IN THE
  • 00:14:49.734 --> 00:14:52.470
  • THINK, SOMETIMES, IN THECHURCH, UM...SINGLENESS IS KIND
  • 00:14:52.470 --> 00:14:54.238
  • CHURCH, UM...SINGLENESS IS KINDOF PUT ON THE SIDE BURNER, JUST
  • 00:14:54.238 --> 00:14:55.740
  • OF PUT ON THE SIDE BURNER, JUSTA BIT, AND NOT CELEBRATED FOR
  • 00:14:55.740 --> 00:14:58.776
  • A BIT, AND NOT CELEBRATED FORTHE FREEDOM THAT IT IS AND THE
  • 00:14:58.776 --> 00:15:00.211
  • THE FREEDOM THAT IT IS AND THEBEAUTY THAT IS IN IT.
  • 00:15:00.211 --> 00:15:02.580
  • BEAUTY THAT IS IN IT.AND, UM-- SO, THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:15:02.580 --> 00:15:04.782
  • AND, UM-- SO, THANK YOU FORTAKING THE TIME TO HELP US
  • 00:15:04.782 --> 00:15:06.317
  • TAKING THE TIME TO HELP USCELEBRATE AND TALK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:15:06.317 --> 00:15:07.151
  • CELEBRATE AND TALK ABOUT IT.- MANDISA: YEEEES.
  • 00:15:07.151 --> 00:15:07.785
  • - MANDISA: YEEEES.- MELINDA: THANK YOU SO MUCH.
  • 00:15:07.785 --> 00:15:08.519
  • - MELINDA: THANK YOU SO MUCH.- MANDISA: CAN I INTERJECT
  • 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:09.287
  • - MANDISA: CAN I INTERJECTSOMETHING?
  • 00:15:09.287 --> 00:15:11.889
  • SOMETHING?I WOULD ACTUALLY LOVE TO ASK,
  • 00:15:11.889 --> 00:15:12.690
  • I WOULD ACTUALLY LOVE TO ASK,UM, HAVILAH AND DR. ROBYN--
  • 00:15:12.690 --> 00:15:15.727
  • UM, HAVILAH AND DR. ROBYN--BECAUSE, ONE OF THE ISSUES THAT
  • 00:15:15.727 --> 00:15:17.462
  • BECAUSE, ONE OF THE ISSUES THATI HAVE FOUND IN CHURCH IS THAT
  • 00:15:17.462 --> 00:15:19.063
  • I HAVE FOUND IN CHURCH IS THATSOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE I'M NOT
  • 00:15:19.063 --> 00:15:20.098
  • SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE I'M NOTSEEN.
  • 00:15:20.098 --> 00:15:21.933
  • SEEN.LIKE, THERE IS THE...YOUNG
  • 00:15:21.933 --> 00:15:22.900
  • LIKE, THERE IS THE...YOUNGWOMEN IN TRAINING, MELINDA.
  • 00:15:22.900 --> 00:15:24.736
  • WOMEN IN TRAINING, MELINDA.THAT'S DEEP.
  • 00:15:24.736 --> 00:15:26.504
  • THAT'S DEEP.BUT, I OFTEN FEEL LIKE THE
  • 00:15:26.504 --> 00:15:28.006
  • BUT, I OFTEN FEEL LIKE THECONVERSATIONS THAT I HEAR IN
  • 00:15:28.006 --> 00:15:29.007
  • CONVERSATIONS THAT I HEAR INCHURCH ABOUT SINGLENESS IS
  • 00:15:29.007 --> 00:15:32.977
  • CHURCH ABOUT SINGLENESS ISALWAYS ABOUT..."ONE DAY, YOU'RE
  • 00:15:32.977 --> 00:15:34.479
  • ALWAYS ABOUT..."ONE DAY, YOU'REGONNA BE ABLE TO HAVE THIS
  • 00:15:34.479 --> 00:15:36.247
  • GONNA BE ABLE TO HAVE THISBLESSING OF A MARRIAGE..."
  • 00:15:36.247 --> 00:15:38.416
  • BLESSING OF A MARRIAGE..."AND SO, AS LEADERS IN THE
  • 00:15:38.416 --> 00:15:39.350
  • AND SO, AS LEADERS IN THECHURCH, I GUESS I'M CURIOUS TO
  • 00:15:39.350 --> 00:15:41.886
  • CHURCH, I GUESS I'M CURIOUS TOHEAR FROM YOU ALL, LIKE, WHAT
  • 00:15:41.886 --> 00:15:43.287
  • HEAR FROM YOU ALL, LIKE, WHATARE SOME THINGS THAT...CAN
  • 00:15:43.287 --> 00:15:45.790
  • ARE SOME THINGS THAT...CANHAPPEN IN CHURCH TO MAKE SINGLE
  • 00:15:45.790 --> 00:15:48.526
  • HAPPEN IN CHURCH TO MAKE SINGLEMEN AND SINGLE WOMEN NOT FEEL
  • 00:15:48.526 --> 00:15:49.360
  • MEN AND SINGLE WOMEN NOT FEELLIKE, YOU KNOW, JERRY MCGUIRE?
  • 00:15:49.360 --> 00:15:50.495
  • LIKE, YOU KNOW, JERRY MCGUIRE?LIKE: "YOU COMPLETE ME."
  • 00:15:50.495 --> 00:15:51.496
  • LIKE: "YOU COMPLETE ME."LIKE: NO!
  • 00:15:51.496 --> 00:15:52.864
  • LIKE: NO!JESUS COMPLETES ME!
  • 00:15:52.864 --> 00:15:53.865
  • JESUS COMPLETES ME![LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:53.865 --> 00:15:55.166
  • [LAUGHTER]I WOULD BE CURIOUS TO KNOW WHAT
  • 00:15:55.166 --> 00:15:56.367
  • I WOULD BE CURIOUS TO KNOW WHATARE SOME THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN
  • 00:15:56.367 --> 00:15:57.368
  • ARE SOME THINGS THAT CAN HAPPENTO HELP THAT?
  • 00:15:57.368 --> 00:15:59.170
  • TO HELP THAT?- HAVILAH: WELL, I WILL SAY,
  • 00:15:59.170 --> 00:16:02.640
  • - HAVILAH: WELL, I WILL SAY,MANDISA, THAT YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:16:02.640 --> 00:16:04.175
  • MANDISA, THAT YOU ARE NOTWRONG.
  • 00:16:04.175 --> 00:16:04.976
  • WRONG.LIKE, WHAT YOU SENSE IN THE
  • 00:16:04.976 --> 00:16:05.610
  • LIKE, WHAT YOU SENSE IN THECHURCH, THAT YOU MIGHT BE
  • 00:16:05.610 --> 00:16:06.344
  • CHURCH, THAT YOU MIGHT BEOVERLOOKED OR NOT INCLUDED --
  • 00:16:06.344 --> 00:16:09.280
  • OVERLOOKED OR NOT INCLUDED --YOU'RE NOT WRONG.
  • 00:16:09.280 --> 00:16:10.848
  • YOU'RE NOT WRONG.AND THE REASON I KNOW THAT IS I
  • 00:16:10.848 --> 00:16:13.351
  • AND THE REASON I KNOW THAT IS IWAS A 27-YEAR-OLD ORDAINED
  • 00:16:13.351 --> 00:16:14.352
  • WAS A 27-YEAR-OLD ORDAINEDMINISTER/TEACHING PASTOR AT OUR
  • 00:16:14.352 --> 00:16:15.153
  • MINISTER/TEACHING PASTOR AT OURCHURCH AND I WAS FULFILLING
  • 00:16:15.153 --> 00:16:17.021
  • CHURCH AND I WAS FULFILLINGEVERYTHING THAT WAS ON MY LIFE
  • 00:16:17.021 --> 00:16:18.489
  • EVERYTHING THAT WAS ON MY LIFEAND I WAS LIVING A WHOLE LIFE.
  • 00:16:18.489 --> 00:16:19.390
  • AND I WAS LIVING A WHOLE LIFE.BUT PEOPLE DIDN'T SEE ME UNTIL
  • 00:16:19.390 --> 00:16:20.558
  • BUT PEOPLE DIDN'T SEE ME UNTILI GOT MARRIED.
  • 00:16:20.558 --> 00:16:23.094
  • I GOT MARRIED.AND IT WAS SO OFFENSIVE!
  • 00:16:23.094 --> 00:16:24.495
  • AND IT WAS SO OFFENSIVE!IT WAS-- IT HURT ME!
  • 00:16:24.495 --> 00:16:26.798
  • IT WAS-- IT HURT ME!BECAUSE I REALIZED IT REALLY
  • 00:16:26.798 --> 00:16:28.199
  • BECAUSE I REALIZED IT REALLYWASN'T ABOUT ME.
  • 00:16:28.199 --> 00:16:28.900
  • WASN'T ABOUT ME.IT WAS ABOUT THEM AND THAT WAY
  • 00:16:28.900 --> 00:16:31.069
  • IT WAS ABOUT THEM AND THAT WAYTHAT THEY LIMITED ME.
  • 00:16:31.069 --> 00:16:31.869
  • THAT THEY LIMITED ME.AND, WHEN I HAD KIDS, I HAD THE
  • 00:16:31.869 --> 00:16:33.304
  • AND, WHEN I HAD KIDS, I HAD THEEXACT SAME EXPERIENCE: NOW,
  • 00:16:33.304 --> 00:16:34.138
  • EXACT SAME EXPERIENCE: NOW,THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LISTEN TO
  • 00:16:34.138 --> 00:16:35.073
  • THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LISTEN TOME BECAUSE I HAVE KIDS.
  • 00:16:35.073 --> 00:16:38.342
  • ME BECAUSE I HAVE KIDS.OR WHATEVER IT IS.
  • 00:16:38.342 --> 00:16:39.510
  • OR WHATEVER IT IS.I THINK THAT THE TRUTH IS --
  • 00:16:39.510 --> 00:16:40.678
  • I THINK THAT THE TRUTH IS --AND YOU GUYS KNOW THIS -- WE
  • 00:16:40.678 --> 00:16:42.313
  • AND YOU GUYS KNOW THIS -- WEHAVE-- ONCE WE START WAITING
  • 00:16:42.313 --> 00:16:43.981
  • HAVE-- ONCE WE START WAITINGFOR PEOPLE TO GIVE US
  • 00:16:43.981 --> 00:16:44.782
  • FOR PEOPLE TO GIVE USPERMISSION, WE WILL NOT LIVE
  • 00:16:44.782 --> 00:16:45.550
  • PERMISSION, WE WILL NOT LIVEPOWERFUL LIVES.
  • 00:16:45.550 --> 00:16:46.984
  • POWERFUL LIVES.SO, IN MY OWN LIFE AS A
  • 00:16:46.984 --> 00:16:49.353
  • SO, IN MY OWN LIFE AS AMINISTER, MY HUSBAND DOES NOT
  • 00:16:49.353 --> 00:16:51.122
  • MINISTER, MY HUSBAND DOES NOTSPEAK, HE DOES NOT GET ON A
  • 00:16:51.122 --> 00:16:53.257
  • SPEAK, HE DOES NOT GET ON AMICROPHONE, HE DOES NOT TRAVEL.
  • 00:16:53.257 --> 00:16:54.358
  • MICROPHONE, HE DOES NOT TRAVEL.HE'S NOT IN MINISTRY, LIKE
  • 00:16:54.358 --> 00:16:55.126
  • HE'S NOT IN MINISTRY, LIKETHAT.
  • 00:16:55.126 --> 00:16:56.627
  • THAT.HE FILMS ME, HE'S THE BRAINS
  • 00:16:56.627 --> 00:16:57.295
  • HE FILMS ME, HE'S THE BRAINSBEHIND THE OPERATION, I'M THE
  • 00:16:57.295 --> 00:16:58.563
  • BEHIND THE OPERATION, I'M THEFACE.
  • 00:16:58.563 --> 00:17:01.566
  • FACE.IT REALLY REQUIRES ME TO BE WHO
  • 00:17:01.566 --> 00:17:04.569
  • IT REALLY REQUIRES ME TO BE WHOI AM AND A STRONG WOMAN AND A
  • 00:17:04.569 --> 00:17:07.338
  • I AM AND A STRONG WOMAN AND ALEADER, OUTSIDE OF A MARRIAGE
  • 00:17:07.338 --> 00:17:09.073
  • LEADER, OUTSIDE OF A MARRIAGETHAT'S GIVING ME CREDENTIALS OR
  • 00:17:09.073 --> 00:17:10.508
  • THAT'S GIVING ME CREDENTIALS ORGIVING MY CREDIBILITY.
  • 00:17:10.508 --> 00:17:12.410
  • GIVING MY CREDIBILITY.AND SO, I WOULD JUST SAY TO ANY
  • 00:17:12.410 --> 00:17:13.377
  • AND SO, I WOULD JUST SAY TO ANYWOMAN THAT'S WATCHING THIS,
  • 00:17:13.377 --> 00:17:15.613
  • WOMAN THAT'S WATCHING THIS,TODAY: WHAT YOU FEEL AND WHAT
  • 00:17:15.613 --> 00:17:16.280
  • TODAY: WHAT YOU FEEL AND WHATYOU'RE EXPERIENCING -- YOU ARE
  • 00:17:16.280 --> 00:17:17.415
  • YOU'RE EXPERIENCING -- YOU ARENOT WRONG.
  • 00:17:17.415 --> 00:17:17.915
  • NOT WRONG.THERE IS A LIMITATION.
  • 00:17:17.915 --> 00:17:20.184
  • THERE IS A LIMITATION.BUT ONCE YOU START TAKING
  • 00:17:20.184 --> 00:17:21.252
  • BUT ONCE YOU START TAKINGYOURSELF SERIOUSLY, THE WORLD
  • 00:17:21.252 --> 00:17:23.688
  • YOURSELF SERIOUSLY, THE WORLDHAS TO TAKE NOTICE.
  • 00:17:23.688 --> 00:17:25.022
  • HAS TO TAKE NOTICE.AND I AM SURE THAT, EVEN
  • 00:17:25.022 --> 00:17:26.691
  • AND I AM SURE THAT, EVENWATCHING YOU, MELINDA AND
  • 00:17:26.691 --> 00:17:27.859
  • WATCHING YOU, MELINDA ANDMANDISA, YOU-- I MEAN, YOU
  • 00:17:27.859 --> 00:17:29.360
  • MANDISA, YOU-- I MEAN, YOUSPEAK AND YOU TALK.
  • 00:17:29.360 --> 00:17:30.495
  • SPEAK AND YOU TALK.THERE'S THE BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:17:30.495 --> 00:17:31.129
  • THERE'S THE BEAUTIFULCONFIDENCE THAT YOU EXUDE AND
  • 00:17:31.129 --> 00:17:33.865
  • CONFIDENCE THAT YOU EXUDE ANDTHIS CLARITY.
  • 00:17:33.865 --> 00:17:34.398
  • THIS CLARITY.AND I CAN TELL THAT YOU'VE
  • 00:17:34.398 --> 00:17:35.933
  • AND I CAN TELL THAT YOU'VEFORGED YOUR OWN LIVES AND THAT
  • 00:17:35.933 --> 00:17:37.535
  • FORGED YOUR OWN LIVES AND THATYOU'RE NOT LACKING ANYTHING.
  • 00:17:37.535 --> 00:17:38.769
  • YOU'RE NOT LACKING ANYTHING.BUT YOU GOTTA KINDA REMIND THE
  • 00:17:38.769 --> 00:17:39.670
  • BUT YOU GOTTA KINDA REMIND THEWORLD THAT.
  • 00:17:39.670 --> 00:17:41.005
  • WORLD THAT.AND NOT ALLOW THEM TO HINDER
  • 00:17:41.005 --> 00:17:41.839
  • AND NOT ALLOW THEM TO HINDERYOU.
  • 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:43.574
  • YOU.AND WHEN YOU FEEL SMALL-- WHICH
  • 00:17:43.574 --> 00:17:44.542
  • AND WHEN YOU FEEL SMALL-- WHICHYOU WILL FEEL SMALL.
  • 00:17:44.542 --> 00:17:45.676
  • YOU WILL FEEL SMALL.I FEEL SMALL SOMETIMES JUST
  • 00:17:45.676 --> 00:17:47.912
  • I FEEL SMALL SOMETIMES JUSTBEING AN UNEDUCATED, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:17:47.912 --> 00:17:48.880
  • BEING AN UNEDUCATED, YOU KNOW,WOMAN THAT'S NOT MARRIED TO A
  • 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:50.648
  • WOMAN THAT'S NOT MARRIED TO APASTOR.
  • 00:17:50.648 --> 00:17:52.183
  • PASTOR.BUT THE TRUTH IS I AM POWERFUL
  • 00:17:52.183 --> 00:17:54.018
  • BUT THE TRUTH IS I AM POWERFULBECAUSE HE WHO LIVES INSIDE OF
  • 00:17:54.018 --> 00:17:55.620
  • BECAUSE HE WHO LIVES INSIDE OFME MAKES ME POWERFUL, RIGHT?
  • 00:17:55.620 --> 00:17:56.787
  • ME MAKES ME POWERFUL, RIGHT?I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH HIM
  • 00:17:56.787 --> 00:17:57.955
  • I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH HIMWHO GIVES ME STRENGTH.
  • 00:17:57.955 --> 00:17:59.390
  • WHO GIVES ME STRENGTH.SO, I WOULD-- AT LEAST, IN MY
  • 00:17:59.390 --> 00:18:01.392
  • SO, I WOULD-- AT LEAST, IN MYWORLD, I'M LIKE: FACE THAT HEAD
  • 00:18:01.392 --> 00:18:02.326
  • WORLD, I'M LIKE: FACE THAT HEADON.
  • 00:18:02.326 --> 00:18:03.528
  • ON.ADMIT IT.
  • 00:18:03.528 --> 00:18:04.662
  • ADMIT IT.DON'T FIGHT THAT AND THINK
  • 00:18:04.662 --> 00:18:05.630
  • DON'T FIGHT THAT AND THINKYOU'RE MAKING IT UP.
  • 00:18:05.630 --> 00:18:06.664
  • YOU'RE MAKING IT UP.YOU'RE NOT.
  • 00:18:06.664 --> 00:18:08.432
  • YOU'RE NOT.BUT THEN, ALSO, I WANT YOU JUST
  • 00:18:08.432 --> 00:18:09.867
  • BUT THEN, ALSO, I WANT YOU JUSTTO RELEASE YOURSELF FROM THE
  • 00:18:09.867 --> 00:18:12.170
  • TO RELEASE YOURSELF FROM THEIDEA THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TO
  • 00:18:12.170 --> 00:18:13.871
  • IDEA THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TOAPPROVE OF YOU, FOR YOU TO LIVE
  • 00:18:13.871 --> 00:18:14.906
  • APPROVE OF YOU, FOR YOU TO LIVEPOWERFUL.
  • 00:18:14.906 --> 00:18:16.507
  • POWERFUL.THAT IS A MIRAGE.
  • 00:18:16.507 --> 00:18:18.075
  • THAT IS A MIRAGE.IT WILL LEAD YOU THE WRONG
  • 00:18:18.075 --> 00:18:18.543
  • IT WILL LEAD YOU THE WRONGDIRECTION.
  • 00:18:18.543 --> 00:18:19.911
  • DIRECTION.ONE MINUTE, THEY'RE SAYING,
  • 00:18:19.911 --> 00:18:21.078
  • ONE MINUTE, THEY'RE SAYING,"JESUS, HOSANNA IN THE
  • 00:18:21.078 --> 00:18:21.879
  • "JESUS, HOSANNA IN THEHIGHEST!"
  • 00:18:21.879 --> 00:18:23.247
  • HIGHEST!"AND THE NEXT MINUTE, THEY'RE
  • 00:18:23.247 --> 00:18:24.015
  • AND THE NEXT MINUTE, THEY'RESAYING: "GIVE US, BARABBAS!"
  • 00:18:24.015 --> 00:18:24.882
  • SAYING: "GIVE US, BARABBAS!"THE CROWD WILL ALWAYS BE WRONG
  • 00:18:24.882 --> 00:18:27.985
  • THE CROWD WILL ALWAYS BE WRONGABOUT US.
  • 00:18:27.985 --> 00:18:28.686
  • ABOUT US.AND SO, YOU LIVE YOUR POWERFUL
  • 00:18:28.686 --> 00:18:29.520
  • AND SO, YOU LIVE YOUR POWERFULLIFE, BE UNASHAMED, AND YOUR
  • 00:18:29.520 --> 00:18:31.756
  • LIFE, BE UNASHAMED, AND YOURSTORY IS YOUR STORY.
  • 00:18:31.756 --> 00:18:33.958
  • STORY IS YOUR STORY.I KNOW, WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:18:33.958 --> 00:18:35.126
  • I KNOW, WE'RE GONNAHAVE MORE CONVERSATIONS ABOUT
  • 00:18:35.126 --> 00:18:37.161
  • HAVE MORE CONVERSATIONS ABOUTTHAT, BUT, UM, YOUR LIFE CAN
  • 00:18:37.161 --> 00:18:37.728
  • THAT, BUT, UM, YOUR LIFE CANCHANGE IN A MINUTE.
  • 00:18:37.728 --> 00:18:39.197
  • CHANGE IN A MINUTE.AND SO, I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU,
  • 00:18:39.197 --> 00:18:39.697
  • AND SO, I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU,JANICE.
  • 00:18:39.697 --> 00:18:40.264
  • JANICE.DID YOU FEEL THAT AT ALL?
  • 00:18:40.264 --> 00:18:41.032
  • DID YOU FEEL THAT AT ALL?WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED, DID YOU
  • 00:18:41.032 --> 00:18:41.632
  • WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED, DID YOUFEEL THAT THE WORLD SAW YOU
  • 00:18:41.632 --> 00:18:44.468
  • FEEL THAT THE WORLD SAW YOUDIFFERENTLY?
  • 00:18:44.468 --> 00:18:45.036
  • DIFFERENTLY?- JANICE: YES, THEY DID.
  • 00:18:45.036 --> 00:18:45.603
  • - JANICE: YES, THEY DID.AND I WAS ABOUT TO SAY:
  • 00:18:45.603 --> 00:18:46.337
  • AND I WAS ABOUT TO SAY:NEWSFLASH, DISA.
  • 00:18:46.337 --> 00:18:46.938
  • NEWSFLASH, DISA.LIKE, PEOPLE STILL DON'T SEE
  • 00:18:46.938 --> 00:18:48.339
  • LIKE, PEOPLE STILL DON'T SEEME, SOMETIMES, APART FROM MY
  • 00:18:48.339 --> 00:18:49.740
  • ME, SOMETIMES, APART FROM MYHUSBAND, BECAUSE WE LIVE IN A
  • 00:18:49.740 --> 00:18:51.342
  • HUSBAND, BECAUSE WE LIVE IN ASOCIETY THAT, UM, SENDS OUR
  • 00:18:51.342 --> 00:18:53.844
  • SOCIETY THAT, UM, SENDS OURCERTAIN MESSAGES.
  • 00:18:53.844 --> 00:18:57.448
  • CERTAIN MESSAGES.AND SO, I CAN-- I'VE DONE AN
  • 00:18:57.448 --> 00:18:58.382
  • AND SO, I CAN-- I'VE DONE ANINTERVIEW, ONE TIME, WHERE, YOU
  • 00:18:58.382 --> 00:18:59.817
  • INTERVIEW, ONE TIME, WHERE, YOUKNOW, MY HUSBAND IS AN ATTORNEY
  • 00:18:59.817 --> 00:19:01.786
  • KNOW, MY HUSBAND IS AN ATTORNEYAND A MUSIC EXECUTIVE, AND, HE
  • 00:19:01.786 --> 00:19:04.322
  • AND A MUSIC EXECUTIVE, AND, HEDOES SHOW UP TO SPEAK AT SOME
  • 00:19:04.322 --> 00:19:05.690
  • DOES SHOW UP TO SPEAK AT SOMETHINGS, SOMETIMES, BECAUSE, YOU
  • 00:19:05.690 --> 00:19:07.124
  • THINGS, SOMETIMES, BECAUSE, YOUKNOW, HE'S GOOD AT THAT, TOO.
  • 00:19:07.124 --> 00:19:09.260
  • KNOW, HE'S GOOD AT THAT, TOO.BUT I'VE DONE A WHOLE
  • 00:19:09.260 --> 00:19:11.295
  • BUT I'VE DONE A WHOLEINTERVIEW, LAID OUT SOMETHING
  • 00:19:11.295 --> 00:19:13.130
  • INTERVIEW, LAID OUT SOMETHINGTHAT I CREATED THAT THE LORD
  • 00:19:13.130 --> 00:19:14.298
  • THAT I CREATED THAT THE LORDGAVE ME TO CREATE, AND THE
  • 00:19:14.298 --> 00:19:15.533
  • GAVE ME TO CREATE, AND THEPERSON SAID, "YEAH, SURE, I'D
  • 00:19:15.533 --> 00:19:17.168
  • PERSON SAID, "YEAH, SURE, I'DLOVE TO HAVE YOU AND YOUR
  • 00:19:17.168 --> 00:19:18.536
  • LOVE TO HAVE YOU AND YOURHUSBAND, ON MY SHOW."
  • 00:19:18.536 --> 00:19:19.637
  • HUSBAND, ON MY SHOW."AND IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH
  • 00:19:19.637 --> 00:19:20.104
  • AND IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITHHIM.
  • 00:19:20.104 --> 00:19:21.372
  • HIM.AND THAT'S JUST THE SOCIETY
  • 00:19:21.372 --> 00:19:23.007
  • AND THAT'S JUST THE SOCIETYTHAT WE LIVE IN.
  • 00:19:23.007 --> 00:19:24.141
  • THAT WE LIVE IN.SOME PEOPLE ARE THINKING THAT
  • 00:19:24.141 --> 00:19:26.611
  • SOME PEOPLE ARE THINKING THATTHEY GET TO GIVE YOU PERMISSION
  • 00:19:26.611 --> 00:19:28.179
  • THEY GET TO GIVE YOU PERMISSIONTO LIVE A WHOLE LIFE, EVEN WHEN
  • 00:19:28.179 --> 00:19:30.114
  • TO LIVE A WHOLE LIFE, EVEN WHENYOU ARE MARRIED.
  • 00:19:30.114 --> 00:19:31.415
  • YOU ARE MARRIED.AND SO, THAT THING IS MORE OF A
  • 00:19:31.415 --> 00:19:33.251
  • AND SO, THAT THING IS MORE OF ASOCIETAL THING.
  • 00:19:33.251 --> 00:19:34.952
  • SOCIETAL THING.AND THAT'S NOT A BIBLICAL
  • 00:19:34.952 --> 00:19:35.486
  • AND THAT'S NOT A BIBLICALTHING.
  • 00:19:35.486 --> 00:19:37.121
  • THING.WE HAPPEN TO BE THE CHURCH IN
  • 00:19:37.121 --> 00:19:39.190
  • WE HAPPEN TO BE THE CHURCH INAMERICA LIVING WITHIN THIS
  • 00:19:39.190 --> 00:19:41.058
  • AMERICA LIVING WITHIN THISSOCIETY.
  • 00:19:41.058 --> 00:19:42.627
  • SOCIETY.AND OUR JOB, THEN, AS THE
  • 00:19:42.627 --> 00:19:43.661
  • AND OUR JOB, THEN, AS THECHURCH, IS TO SAY-- HOLD UP
  • 00:19:43.661 --> 00:19:45.596
  • CHURCH, IS TO SAY-- HOLD UPEVERYTHING, UP TO THE PLUMB
  • 00:19:45.596 --> 00:19:46.364
  • EVERYTHING, UP TO THE PLUMBLINE OF THE GOSPEL, AND SAY:
  • 00:19:46.364 --> 00:19:47.131
  • LINE OF THE GOSPEL, AND SAY:DOES THIS SHAKE OUT IN THE
  • 00:19:47.131 --> 00:19:50.368
  • DOES THIS SHAKE OUT IN THEGOSPEL?
  • 00:19:50.368 --> 00:19:50.968
  • GOSPEL?AND IF IT DOESN'T, TOSS THAT
  • 00:19:50.968 --> 00:19:52.136
  • AND IF IT DOESN'T, TOSS THATTHING OUT AND CALL IT CULTURAL.
  • 00:19:52.136 --> 00:19:53.971
  • THING OUT AND CALL IT CULTURAL.AND THEN, GO BACK TO THE
  • 00:19:53.971 --> 00:19:54.872
  • AND THEN, GO BACK TO THESACRED, AS FAR AS HOW THE
  • 00:19:54.872 --> 00:19:56.240
  • SACRED, AS FAR AS HOW THECHURCH OPERATES.
  • 00:19:56.240 --> 00:19:57.541
  • CHURCH OPERATES.AND SO, THAT'S SOMETHING WE
  • 00:19:57.541 --> 00:19:58.776
  • AND SO, THAT'S SOMETHING WEHAVE TO DO REGULARLY -- NOT OUT
  • 00:19:58.776 --> 00:20:00.611
  • HAVE TO DO REGULARLY -- NOT OUTOF SHAME, YOU KNOW, BUT JUST IN
  • 00:20:00.611 --> 00:20:03.214
  • OF SHAME, YOU KNOW, BUT JUST INREALITY THAT THIS IS SOMETHING
  • 00:20:03.214 --> 00:20:06.484
  • REALITY THAT THIS IS SOMETHINGTHAT HAS STAYED WITH US.
  • 00:20:06.484 --> 00:20:07.118
  • THAT HAS STAYED WITH US.AND WE NEED TO CHECK IN WITH
  • 00:20:07.118 --> 00:20:08.452
  • AND WE NEED TO CHECK IN WITHTHE LORD REGULARLY TO SAY:
  • 00:20:08.452 --> 00:20:10.121
  • THE LORD REGULARLY TO SAY:WHAT'S YOU?
  • 00:20:10.121 --> 00:20:11.055
  • WHAT'S YOU?AND WHAT ARE THE MESSAGES THAT
  • 00:20:11.055 --> 00:20:12.556
  • AND WHAT ARE THE MESSAGES THATWE'VE PICKED UP BY OSMOSIS,
  • 00:20:12.556 --> 00:20:14.625
  • WE'VE PICKED UP BY OSMOSIS,EVEN, OF BEING IN A SOCIETY
  • 00:20:14.625 --> 00:20:15.893
  • EVEN, OF BEING IN A SOCIETYTHAT WORKS THIS WAY.
  • 00:20:15.893 --> 00:20:17.662
  • THAT WORKS THIS WAY.WE CAN SEE THROUGH THE BIBLE--
  • 00:20:17.662 --> 00:20:19.997
  • WE CAN SEE THROUGH THE BIBLE--PEOPLE OFTEN GET OFFENDED BY
  • 00:20:19.997 --> 00:20:21.399
  • PEOPLE OFTEN GET OFFENDED BYTHE BIBLE AND THE SOCIETIES
  • 00:20:21.399 --> 00:20:23.134
  • THE BIBLE AND THE SOCIETIESTHEY SEE IN IT.
  • 00:20:23.134 --> 00:20:24.135
  • THEY SEE IN IT.BUT THE REALITY IS GOD HAS
  • 00:20:24.135 --> 00:20:25.303
  • BUT THE REALITY IS GOD HASALWAYS COME TO HUMANITY AS
  • 00:20:25.303 --> 00:20:27.638
  • ALWAYS COME TO HUMANITY ASHUMANITY WAS AND INSERTED HIS
  • 00:20:27.638 --> 00:20:30.641
  • HUMANITY WAS AND INSERTED HISOWN HOLY CULTURE AND SAID:
  • 00:20:30.641 --> 00:20:33.044
  • OWN HOLY CULTURE AND SAID:THESE ARE THE STANDARDS.
  • 00:20:33.044 --> 00:20:34.879
  • THESE ARE THE STANDARDS.YOU CAN DO IT.
  • 00:20:34.879 --> 00:20:35.379
  • YOU CAN DO IT.RIGHT?
  • 00:20:35.379 --> 00:20:36.180
  • RIGHT?WE HAVE A WOMAN AT THE TOMB,
  • 00:20:36.180 --> 00:20:36.847
  • WE HAVE A WOMAN AT THE TOMB,FIRST, WHEN JESUS IS RAISED
  • 00:20:36.847 --> 00:20:37.581
  • FIRST, WHEN JESUS IS RAISEDFROM THE DEAD.
  • 00:20:37.581 --> 00:20:39.350
  • FROM THE DEAD.THE REALITY IS JESUS IS ALWAYS
  • 00:20:39.350 --> 00:20:41.619
  • THE REALITY IS JESUS IS ALWAYSSENDING THE MESSAGE THAT YOUR
  • 00:20:41.619 --> 00:20:43.354
  • SENDING THE MESSAGE THAT YOURCULTURE IS NOT MY CULTURE.
  • 00:20:43.354 --> 00:20:44.422
  • CULTURE IS NOT MY CULTURE.AND THOUGH I WON'T SHAME YOU
  • 00:20:44.422 --> 00:20:45.456
  • AND THOUGH I WON'T SHAME YOUFOR IT, I DO WANT YOU TO COME
  • 00:20:45.456 --> 00:20:46.691
  • FOR IT, I DO WANT YOU TO COMEUP HIGHER AND I DO WANT YOU TO
  • 00:20:46.691 --> 00:20:47.825
  • UP HIGHER AND I DO WANT YOU TOGO DEEPER.
  • 00:20:47.825 --> 00:20:49.427
  • GO DEEPER.AND SO, WE GOTTA USE THE WORD
  • 00:20:49.427 --> 00:20:50.995
  • AND SO, WE GOTTA USE THE WORDTO DO THAT, TO BE THAT PLUMB
  • 00:20:50.995 --> 00:20:52.663
  • TO DO THAT, TO BE THAT PLUMBLINE, AGAIN, 'CAUSE...
  • 00:20:52.663 --> 00:20:53.197
  • LINE, AGAIN, 'CAUSE...- HAVILAH: COME ON.
  • 00:20:53.197 --> 00:20:53.964
  • - HAVILAH: COME ON.- JANICE: ...I'M STILL NOT
  • 00:20:53.964 --> 00:20:55.199
  • - JANICE: ...I'M STILL NOTSEEN, SOMETIMES -- EVEN
  • 00:20:55.199 --> 00:20:57.768
  • SEEN, SOMETIMES -- EVENTHOUGH I DO LOVE MY BOO,
  • 00:20:57.768 --> 00:20:59.203
  • THOUGH I DO LOVE MY BOO,E.J. GAINES, I MUST SAY.
  • 00:20:59.203 --> 00:20:59.770
  • E.J. GAINES, I MUST SAY.- MANDISA: HE'S GREAT.
  • 00:20:59.770 --> 00:21:00.471
  • - MANDISA: HE'S GREAT.WE LOVE E.J.
  • 00:21:00.471 --> 00:21:01.305
  • WE LOVE E.J.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:21:01.305 --> 00:21:02.073
  • [LAUGHTER]YOU TWO TOGETHER ARE ACTUALLY A
  • 00:21:02.073 --> 00:21:04.542
  • YOU TWO TOGETHER ARE ACTUALLY APOWER COUPLE.
  • 00:21:04.542 --> 00:21:05.276
  • POWER COUPLE.- JANICE: AWWW...THANK YOU,
  • 00:21:05.276 --> 00:21:05.776
  • - JANICE: AWWW...THANK YOU,FRIEND.
  • 00:21:05.776 --> 00:21:06.544
  • FRIEND.- MANDISA: LIKE, WHEN I THINK
  • 00:21:06.544 --> 00:21:07.645
  • - MANDISA: LIKE, WHEN I THINKOF WHAT YOU ALL ARE DOING,
  • 00:21:07.645 --> 00:21:08.846
  • OF WHAT YOU ALL ARE DOING,YOU'RE-- FIRST OF ALL, YOUR
  • 00:21:08.846 --> 00:21:10.448
  • YOU'RE-- FIRST OF ALL, YOURINDIVIDUAL MINISTRIES, BUT
  • 00:21:10.448 --> 00:21:11.649
  • INDIVIDUAL MINISTRIES, BUTSEEING YOU ALL TOGETHER -- IT'S
  • 00:21:11.649 --> 00:21:12.416
  • SEEING YOU ALL TOGETHER -- IT'SSO POWERFUL!
  • 00:21:12.416 --> 00:21:14.118
  • SO POWERFUL!- JANICE: THANK YOU, DISA!
  • 00:21:14.118 --> 00:21:14.752
  • - JANICE: THANK YOU, DISA!- MANDISA: AND, JANICE, LIKE,
  • 00:21:14.752 --> 00:21:16.253
  • - MANDISA: AND, JANICE, LIKE,WHEN I THINK OF THE WORK YOU'RE
  • 00:21:16.253 --> 00:21:17.388
  • WHEN I THINK OF THE WORK YOU'REDOING IN DIVERSITY AND KNOWING
  • 00:21:17.388 --> 00:21:19.256
  • DOING IN DIVERSITY AND KNOWINGTHE CHURCH AND THE IMPACT...
  • 00:21:19.256 --> 00:21:21.058
  • THE CHURCH AND THE IMPACT...AND YOU JUST DID SOMETHING AT
  • 00:21:21.058 --> 00:21:23.527
  • AND YOU JUST DID SOMETHING ATMY CHURCH, UM, WHERE MY LEADERS
  • 00:21:23.527 --> 00:21:24.395
  • MY CHURCH, UM, WHERE MY LEADERSSAT AROUND AND LISTENED TO YOU!
  • 00:21:24.395 --> 00:21:27.031
  • SAT AROUND AND LISTENED TO YOU!AND I'M THINKING: JANICE GAINES
  • 00:21:27.031 --> 00:21:29.734
  • AND I'M THINKING: JANICE GAINESIS LEADING THE CHURCH.
  • 00:21:29.734 --> 00:21:30.801
  • IS LEADING THE CHURCH.AND I'M HERE FOR IT. ]
  • 00:21:30.801 --> 00:21:31.535
  • AND I'M HERE FOR IT. ]- JANICE: THANK YOU, MY
  • 00:21:31.535 --> 00:21:32.136
  • - JANICE: THANK YOU, MYFRIEND.
  • 00:21:32.136 --> 00:21:32.703
  • FRIEND.- MANDISA: YEAH!
  • 00:21:32.703 --> 00:21:34.405
  • - MANDISA: YEAH!WELL-- AND I LOVE WHAT YOU SAID
  • 00:21:34.405 --> 00:21:35.172
  • WELL-- AND I LOVE WHAT YOU SAIDABOUT, UM, LOOKING TO THE WORD
  • 00:21:35.172 --> 00:21:36.307
  • ABOUT, UM, LOOKING TO THE WORDOF GOD.
  • 00:21:36.307 --> 00:21:38.376
  • OF GOD.WHEN I THINK OF HOW I'M GONNA
  • 00:21:38.376 --> 00:21:39.977
  • WHEN I THINK OF HOW I'M GONNAREDEFINE WHAT SINGLENESS IS--
  • 00:21:39.977 --> 00:21:41.245
  • REDEFINE WHAT SINGLENESS IS--FIRST OF ALL, I'VE MENTIONED
  • 00:21:41.245 --> 00:21:43.314
  • FIRST OF ALL, I'VE MENTIONEDTHIS BEFORE,
  • 00:21:43.314 --> 00:21:44.181
  • THIS BEFORE,BUT 1 CORINTHIANS 7 IS
  • 00:21:44.181 --> 00:21:44.915
  • BUT 1 CORINTHIANS 7 ISMY GO-TO.
  • 00:21:44.915 --> 00:21:45.516
  • MY GO-TO.BUT I CAN ALSO LOOK AT PAUL!
  • 00:21:45.516 --> 00:21:47.818
  • BUT I CAN ALSO LOOK AT PAUL!AND I CAN LOOK AT JESUS!
  • 00:21:47.818 --> 00:21:48.786
  • AND I CAN LOOK AT JESUS!HOW 'BOUT WE LOOK AT OUR
  • 00:21:48.786 --> 00:21:49.920
  • HOW 'BOUT WE LOOK AT OURSAVIOR...
  • 00:21:49.920 --> 00:21:50.488
  • SAVIOR...- HAVILAH: THAT'S EXACTLY
  • 00:21:50.488 --> 00:21:51.489
  • - HAVILAH: THAT'S EXACTLYRIGHT.
  • 00:21:51.489 --> 00:21:52.423
  • RIGHT.- MANDISA: ...WHO WAS SINGLE.
  • 00:21:52.423 --> 00:21:54.525
  • - MANDISA: ...WHO WAS SINGLE.AND WHEN I THINK OF-- MY
  • 00:21:54.525 --> 00:21:55.993
  • AND WHEN I THINK OF-- MYFAVORITE PSALM IS 139.
  • 00:21:55.993 --> 00:21:57.561
  • FAVORITE PSALM IS 139.AND THERE'S A VERSE IN THERE
  • 00:21:57.561 --> 00:21:59.163
  • AND THERE'S A VERSE IN THERETHAT SAYS: "ALL THE DAYS
  • 00:21:59.163 --> 00:22:00.865
  • THAT SAYS: "ALL THE DAYSORDAINED FOR ME WERE WRITTEN IN
  • 00:22:00.865 --> 00:22:01.932
  • ORDAINED FOR ME WERE WRITTEN INYOUR BOOK BEFORE ONE OF THEM
  • 00:22:01.932 --> 00:22:03.067
  • YOUR BOOK BEFORE ONE OF THEMCAME TO BE."
  • 00:22:03.067 --> 00:22:04.668
  • CAME TO BE."AND SO, I THINK ABOUT JESUS
  • 00:22:04.668 --> 00:22:06.670
  • AND SO, I THINK ABOUT JESUSWALKING FROM MY FUTURE INTO MY
  • 00:22:06.670 --> 00:22:07.505
  • WALKING FROM MY FUTURE INTO MYPRESENT.
  • 00:22:07.505 --> 00:22:08.806
  • PRESENT.HE'S ALREADY SEEN WHERE I'M
  • 00:22:08.806 --> 00:22:09.640
  • HE'S ALREADY SEEN WHERE I'MGOING.
  • 00:22:09.640 --> 00:22:11.108
  • GOING.AND BECAUSE THIS DESIRE THAT I
  • 00:22:11.108 --> 00:22:13.477
  • AND BECAUSE THIS DESIRE THAT IHAVE FOR MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING
  • 00:22:13.477 --> 00:22:15.212
  • HAVE FOR MARRIAGE IS SOMETHINGTHAT I DO BELIEVE IS FROM HIM,
  • 00:22:15.212 --> 00:22:16.480
  • THAT I DO BELIEVE IS FROM HIM,I DON'T KNOW WHEN.
  • 00:22:16.480 --> 00:22:17.948
  • I DON'T KNOW WHEN.I DON'T MIND TELLING Y'ALL --
  • 00:22:17.948 --> 00:22:19.850
  • I DON'T MIND TELLING Y'ALL --I'M 44 YEARS OLD AND THAT I'VE
  • 00:22:19.850 --> 00:22:20.918
  • I'M 44 YEARS OLD AND THAT I'VEACTUALLY DESIRED TO BE MARRIED
  • 00:22:20.918 --> 00:22:21.819
  • ACTUALLY DESIRED TO BE MARRIEDFOR A LONG TIME.
  • 00:22:21.819 --> 00:22:23.220
  • FOR A LONG TIME.AND I DO BELIEVE IT'S GONNA
  • 00:22:23.220 --> 00:22:25.089
  • AND I DO BELIEVE IT'S GONNAHAPPEN.
  • 00:22:25.089 --> 00:22:25.723
  • HAPPEN.BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT HOW ALL
  • 00:22:25.723 --> 00:22:28.192
  • BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT HOW ALLOF MY DAYS ARE ALREADY WRITTEN
  • 00:22:28.192 --> 00:22:29.226
  • OF MY DAYS ARE ALREADY WRITTENIN GOD'S BOOK -- HE KNOWS THE
  • 00:22:29.226 --> 00:22:30.828
  • IN GOD'S BOOK -- HE KNOWS THEDAY.
  • 00:22:30.828 --> 00:22:32.897
  • DAY.LIKE, HE KNOWS THE MEET QUEUE.
  • 00:22:32.897 --> 00:22:33.964
  • LIKE, HE KNOWS THE MEET QUEUE.HE KNOWS HOW I'M GONNA MEET MY
  • 00:22:33.964 --> 00:22:34.698
  • HE KNOWS HOW I'M GONNA MEET MYHUSBAND.
  • 00:22:34.698 --> 00:22:36.100
  • HUSBAND.BUT HE ALSO KNOWS THE TIMES
  • 00:22:36.100 --> 00:22:37.201
  • BUT HE ALSO KNOWS THE TIMESWHEN I'M CRYING MYSELF TO SLEEP
  • 00:22:37.201 --> 00:22:38.135
  • WHEN I'M CRYING MYSELF TO SLEEPAT NIGHT, AND, WHEN I FEEL
  • 00:22:38.135 --> 00:22:41.806
  • AT NIGHT, AND, WHEN I FEELLONELY.
  • 00:22:41.806 --> 00:22:42.973
  • LONELY.AND SO, FOR ME, REDEFINING
  • 00:22:42.973 --> 00:22:45.376
  • AND SO, FOR ME, REDEFININGSINGLENESS MEANS BEING HONEST
  • 00:22:45.376 --> 00:22:46.811
  • SINGLENESS MEANS BEING HONESTWITH GOD ABOUT ALL OF IT,
  • 00:22:46.811 --> 00:22:47.478
  • WITH GOD ABOUT ALL OF IT,SAYING, "I AM CONTENT, AND,
  • 00:22:47.478 --> 00:22:49.380
  • SAYING, "I AM CONTENT, AND,LORD, YES, I AM CONTENDING,
  • 00:22:49.380 --> 00:22:50.681
  • LORD, YES, I AM CONTENDING,'CAUSE I DO BELIEVE THIS IS
  • 00:22:50.681 --> 00:22:51.916
  • 'CAUSE I DO BELIEVE THIS ISSOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE FOR
  • 00:22:51.916 --> 00:22:53.217
  • SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE FORME."
  • 00:22:53.217 --> 00:22:54.418
  • ME."SO, I LOVE THAT I CAN DO BOTH,
  • 00:22:54.418 --> 00:22:55.753
  • SO, I LOVE THAT I CAN DO BOTH,THAT I CAN BE BOTH CONTENT AND
  • 00:22:55.753 --> 00:22:57.188
  • THAT I CAN BE BOTH CONTENT ANDCONTEND.
  • 00:22:57.188 --> 00:22:58.389
  • CONTEND.THAT'S A WORD THAT I
  • 00:22:58.389 --> 00:22:58.956
  • THAT'S A WORD THAT IAPPRECIATE, HAVILAH.
  • 00:22:58.956 --> 00:22:59.723
  • APPRECIATE, HAVILAH.THANK YOU.
  • 00:22:59.723 --> 00:23:01.325
  • THANK YOU.[CHUCKLING]
  • 00:23:01.325 --> 00:23:01.892
  • [CHUCKLING]- DR. ROBYN: WELL, I JUST
  • 00:23:01.892 --> 00:23:03.561
  • - DR. ROBYN: WELL, I JUSTAGREE WITH ALL THIS AMAZING
  • 00:23:03.561 --> 00:23:06.363
  • AGREE WITH ALL THIS AMAZINGCONVERSATION THAT WE HAVE HAD
  • 00:23:06.363 --> 00:23:07.798
  • CONVERSATION THAT WE HAVE HADAND HOW IMPORTANT IT IS THAT WE
  • 00:23:07.798 --> 00:23:09.800
  • AND HOW IMPORTANT IT IS THAT WEAS WOMEN SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER,
  • 00:23:09.800 --> 00:23:12.903
  • AS WOMEN SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER,AND THAT WE, AS BELIEVERS, SEE
  • 00:23:12.903 --> 00:23:16.040
  • AND THAT WE, AS BELIEVERS, SEEEACH OTHER, ESPECIALLY IN THE
  • 00:23:16.040 --> 00:23:17.908
  • EACH OTHER, ESPECIALLY IN THEBODY OF CHRIST; THAT WE NOT--
  • 00:23:17.908 --> 00:23:20.711
  • BODY OF CHRIST; THAT WE NOT--WE SEE EACH OTHER, AND WE
  • 00:23:20.711 --> 00:23:22.746
  • WE SEE EACH OTHER, AND WERECOGNIZE EACH OTHER; AND THEN,
  • 00:23:22.746 --> 00:23:26.383
  • RECOGNIZE EACH OTHER; AND THEN,WE SPEAK AFFIRMATION, AND THAT
  • 00:23:26.383 --> 00:23:28.919
  • WE SPEAK AFFIRMATION, AND THATWE REACH OUT.
  • 00:23:28.919 --> 00:23:30.221
  • WE REACH OUT.AND SO, RIGHT NOW, THROUGH THE
  • 00:23:30.221 --> 00:23:32.356
  • AND SO, RIGHT NOW, THROUGH THECAMERA, ACROSS THE DIGITAL
  • 00:23:32.356 --> 00:23:34.058
  • CAMERA, ACROSS THE DIGITALPLATFORM, I JUST WANT TO
  • 00:23:34.058 --> 00:23:36.293
  • PLATFORM, I JUST WANT TODECLARE WHAT I SAID EARLIER.
  • 00:23:36.293 --> 00:23:37.795
  • DECLARE WHAT I SAID EARLIER.AND THAT IS THAT YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:23:37.795 --> 00:23:40.865
  • AND THAT IS THAT YOU ARE NOTBROKEN.
  • 00:23:40.865 --> 00:23:41.665
  • BROKEN.IF YOU'RE SINGLE OR
  • 00:23:41.665 --> 00:23:43.234
  • IF YOU'RE SINGLE ORIF YOU'RE MARRIED,
  • 00:23:43.234 --> 00:23:47.771
  • IF YOU'RE MARRIED,YOU.ARE.WHOLE.IN.JESUS'.NAME.
  • 00:23:47.771 --> 00:23:49.006
  • YOU.ARE.WHOLE.IN.JESUS'.NAME.AND, LIKE I TOLD YOU -- EVERY
  • 00:23:49.006 --> 00:23:53.110
  • AND, LIKE I TOLD YOU -- EVERYDAY, I PUT MY HANDS ON MYSELF
  • 00:23:53.110 --> 00:23:55.212
  • DAY, I PUT MY HANDS ON MYSELFAND I DECLARE: ROBYN, YOU ARE
  • 00:23:55.212 --> 00:23:58.682
  • AND I DECLARE: ROBYN, YOU AREWHOLE, IN JESUS' NAME.
  • 00:23:58.682 --> 00:24:00.150
  • WHOLE, IN JESUS' NAME.I ENCOURAGE YOU, RIGHT NOW, TO
  • 00:24:00.150 --> 00:24:00.784
  • I ENCOURAGE YOU, RIGHT NOW, TODO THAT.
  • 00:24:00.784 --> 00:24:02.786
  • DO THAT.SAY IT WITH ME.
  • 00:24:02.786 --> 00:24:04.255
  • SAY IT WITH ME.I AM WHOLE.
  • 00:24:04.255 --> 00:24:04.855
  • I AM WHOLE.[WOMEN REPEAT]
  • 00:24:04.855 --> 00:24:08.759
  • [WOMEN REPEAT]AND WITH THE PROPHET, I SAY:
  • 00:24:08.759 --> 00:24:11.095
  • AND WITH THE PROPHET, I SAY:LET THE WEAK SAY: I AM STRONG.
  • 00:24:11.095 --> 00:24:12.429
  • LET THE WEAK SAY: I AM STRONG.JOEL SAID IT: I AM A WARRIOR.
  • 00:24:12.429 --> 00:24:16.100
  • JOEL SAID IT: I AM A WARRIOR.JOEL SAID IN
  • 00:24:16.100 --> 00:24:19.336
  • JOEL SAID INCHAPTER 3, VERSE 10.
  • 00:24:19.336 --> 00:24:21.138
  • CHAPTER 3, VERSE 10.FATHER, I LIFT MY FRIEND.
  • 00:24:21.138 --> 00:24:23.407
  • FATHER, I LIFT MY FRIEND.I LIFT HER, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:24:23.407 --> 00:24:26.377
  • I LIFT HER, RIGHT NOW.JESUS, YOU SAID THAT WHOEVER
  • 00:24:26.377 --> 00:24:29.613
  • JESUS, YOU SAID THAT WHOEVERBELIEVES THAT WE'LL BE ABLE TO
  • 00:24:29.613 --> 00:24:31.215
  • BELIEVES THAT WE'LL BE ABLE TODO EVEN GREATER THINGS.
  • 00:24:31.215 --> 00:24:32.216
  • DO EVEN GREATER THINGS.AND, FATHER, NOTHING CAN HOLD
  • 00:24:32.216 --> 00:24:34.718
  • AND, FATHER, NOTHING CAN HOLDUS BACK.
  • 00:24:34.718 --> 00:24:36.754
  • US BACK.WE ARE HEALTHY, WE ARE HAPPY,
  • 00:24:36.754 --> 00:24:39.690
  • WE ARE HEALTHY, WE ARE HAPPY,IN JESUS' NAME.
  • 00:24:39.690 --> 00:24:41.458
  • IN JESUS' NAME.THANK YOU, GOD, THAT YOU ARE
  • 00:24:41.458 --> 00:24:42.760
  • THANK YOU, GOD, THAT YOU AREWITH US.
  • 00:24:42.760 --> 00:24:44.094
  • WITH US.THANK YOU, JESUS, THAT YOU
  • 00:24:44.094 --> 00:24:45.829
  • THANK YOU, JESUS, THAT YOUNEVER LEAVE US, NEVER FORSAKE
  • 00:24:45.829 --> 00:24:46.931
  • NEVER LEAVE US, NEVER FORSAKEUS.
  • 00:24:46.931 --> 00:24:52.436
  • US.IN JESUS' NAME, WE ARE WHOLE.
  • 00:24:52.436 --> 00:24:52.937
  • IN JESUS' NAME, WE ARE WHOLE.HALLELUJAH.
  • 00:24:52.937 --> 00:24:54.071
  • HALLELUJAH.HALLELUJAH.
  • 00:24:54.071 --> 00:24:54.605
  • HALLELUJAH.- MANDISA: HALLELUJAH!
  • 00:24:54.605 --> 00:24:56.407
  • - MANDISA: HALLELUJAH!- DR. ROBYN: WE LOVE YOU.
  • 00:24:56.407 --> 00:24:58.142
  • - DR. ROBYN: WE LOVE YOU.THANK YOU FOR BEING WITH US.
  • 00:24:58.142 --> 00:24:58.943
  • THANK YOU FOR BEING WITH US.WE'LL SEE YOU SOON, AGAIN --
  • 00:24:58.943 --> 00:25:02.746
  • WE'LL SEE YOU SOON, AGAIN --TOMORROW!
  • 00:25:02.746 --> 00:25:03.581
  • TOMORROW!- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ON
  • 00:25:03.581 --> 00:25:04.214
  • - LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOW
  • 00:25:04.214 --> 00:25:07.618
  • SOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
  • 00:25:07.618 --> 00:25:08.519
  • HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.[NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]
  • 00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:10.187
  • [NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
  • 00:25:10.187 --> 00:25:10.955
  • NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- MELINDA: WHAT IS MY
  • 00:25:10.955 --> 00:25:12.323
  • - MELINDA: WHAT IS MYSINGLENESS MAKING POSSIBLE FOR
  • 00:25:12.323 --> 00:25:14.592
  • SINGLENESS MAKING POSSIBLE FORME, RIGHT NOW?
  • 00:25:14.592 --> 00:25:15.993
  • ME, RIGHT NOW?AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT,
  • 00:25:15.993 --> 00:25:17.261
  • AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT,BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THE
  • 00:25:17.261 --> 00:25:18.996
  • BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THEBEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OF
  • 00:25:18.996 --> 00:25:20.364
  • BEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OFTHIS TIME THAT HE HAS
  • 00:25:20.364 --> 00:25:22.232
  • THIS TIME THAT HE HASGIVEN YOU.
  • 00:25:22.232 --> 00:25:24.034
  • GIVEN YOU.SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,
  • 00:25:24.034 --> 00:25:25.536
  • SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IT AS A
  • 00:25:25.536 --> 00:25:26.837
  • INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IT AS ABURDEN.
  • 00:25:26.837 --> 00:25:28.305
  • BURDEN.- LAURIE: WATCH
  • 00:25:28.305 --> 00:25:28.839
  • - LAURIE: WATCH"BETTER TOGETHER"
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  • "BETTER TOGETHER"WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY NIGHTS,
  • 00:25:30.574 --> 00:25:32.977
  • WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY NIGHTS,RIGHT HERE ON TBN.
  • 00:25:32.977 --> 00:25:34.812