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Better Together LIVE | Episode 143

November 11, 2020

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Singleness is a gift! We can embrace the season that God has us in and establish healthy habits that will last a lifetime! | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 143

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- LAURIE CROUCH: IF YOU THINK
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- LAURIE CROUCH: IF YOU THINKBEING SINGLE MEANS FEELING
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BEING SINGLE MEANS FEELINGLONELY ALL THE TIME, YOU NEED
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LONELY ALL THE TIME, YOU NEEDTO THINK AGAIN.
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TO THINK AGAIN.JESUS PROMISED US A LIFE AND
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JESUS PROMISED US A LIFE ANDLIFE MORE ABUNDANTLY.
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LIFE MORE ABUNDANTLY.TODAY, WE ARE LEARNING HOW TO
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TODAY, WE ARE LEARNING HOW TOMAKE THE MOST OF EVERY SEASON
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MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY SEASONAND BUILD HEALTHY
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AND BUILD HEALTHYRELATIONSHIPS.
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RELATIONSHIPS.COME ON -- JOIN US.
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COME ON -- JOIN US.[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING]
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[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING][MUSIC]
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[MUSIC][MUSIC]
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[MUSIC]- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: OKAY, SO,
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- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: OKAY, SO,LADIES, I'M ABOUT TO BE REAL
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LADIES, I'M ABOUT TO BE REALREAL WITH YOU.
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REAL WITH YOU.- MANDISA: COME ON.
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- MANDISA: COME ON.[SOUND OF FINGERS SNAPPING]
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[SOUND OF FINGERS SNAPPING]- MELINDA: UH...WHEN I WAS
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- MELINDA: UH...WHEN I WASGROWING UP, LIKE EARLY 20s,
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GROWING UP, LIKE EARLY 20s,I WROTE DOWN A LIST OF WHAT I
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I WROTE DOWN A LIST OF WHAT IWOULD WANT IN A HUSBAND.
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WOULD WANT IN A HUSBAND.THEY TOLD ME, AT CHURCH, THAT
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THEY TOLD ME, AT CHURCH, THATTHAT WAS A GREAT IDEA.
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THAT WAS A GREAT IDEA.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]AND SO, I WROTE THIS LIST.
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AND SO, I WROTE THIS LIST.AND THEY SAID, "BE SPECIFIC."
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AND THEY SAID, "BE SPECIFIC."YOU KNOW?
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YOU KNOW?BECAUSE WE WERE GONNA PRAY OVER
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BECAUSE WE WERE GONNA PRAY OVERTHAT LIST, EVERY DAY.
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THAT LIST, EVERY DAY.LIKE, THAT WAS SOMETHING THAT
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LIKE, THAT WAS SOMETHING THATWE WERE ABOUT TO PRAY OVER.
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WE WERE ABOUT TO PRAY OVER.AND SO, I WAS EXTREMELY
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AND SO, I WAS EXTREMELYSPECIFIC.
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SPECIFIC.I PROBABLY, IN RETROSPECT,
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I PROBABLY, IN RETROSPECT,SHOULD HAVE KNOWN, LIKE:
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SHOULD HAVE KNOWN, LIKE:MAYBE...MAYBE YOU'RE NOT
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MAYBE...MAYBE YOU'RE NOTLOOKING TO GET MARRIED.
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LOOKING TO GET MARRIED.'CAUSE I WAS WRITING THINGS
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'CAUSE I WAS WRITING THINGSLIKE: LORD, PLEASE MAKE SURE
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LIKE: LORD, PLEASE MAKE SURETHAT HE TRAVELS AT LEAST FOUR
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THAT HE TRAVELS AT LEAST FOURDAYS A WEEK.
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DAYS A WEEK.AND...UM...
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AND...UM...[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT HE'S
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PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT HE'SOKAY, YOU KNOW, NOT BEING
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OKAY, YOU KNOW, NOT BEINGAROUND THAT MUCH.
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AROUND THAT MUCH.AND ALL OF THAT KIND OF STUFF.
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AND ALL OF THAT KIND OF STUFF.AND SO, I, LITERALLY, HAD THIS
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AND SO, I, LITERALLY, HAD THISLONG LIST.
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LONG LIST.AND I PRAYED OVER IT, OVER AND
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AND I PRAYED OVER IT, OVER ANDOVER.
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OVER.AND THAT WAS A TIME IN MY LIFE
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AND THAT WAS A TIME IN MY LIFEWHERE I DID A LOT OF TALKING TO
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WHERE I DID A LOT OF TALKING TOGOD, BUT NOT A LOT OF
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GOD, BUT NOT A LOT OFLISTENING.
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LISTENING.AND SO, I WOULD JUST TALK AND
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AND SO, I WOULD JUST TALK ANDBE LIKE: OKAY, I READ THIS
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BE LIKE: OKAY, I READ THISLIST.
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LIST.MAKE IT HAPPEN.
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MAKE IT HAPPEN.THAT'S WHAT YOU DO, LORD.
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THAT'S WHAT YOU DO, LORD.GO FOR IT.
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GO FOR IT.AND...PROBABLY A YEAR INTO THAT
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AND...PROBABLY A YEAR INTO THATPROCESS, Y'ALL -- IT TOOK ME A
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PROCESS, Y'ALL -- IT TOOK ME AYEAR TO GET HERE -- BUT A YEAR
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YEAR TO GET HERE -- BUT A YEARINTO THE PROCESS, IT DAWNED ON
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INTO THE PROCESS, IT DAWNED ONME: MAYBE I SHOULD LISTEN,
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ME: MAYBE I SHOULD LISTEN,AFTER THIS PRAYER.
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AFTER THIS PRAYER.AND, SO, I SAT DOWN, I PRAYED
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AND, SO, I SAT DOWN, I PRAYEDOVER THIS LIST, AND THEN I JUST
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OVER THIS LIST, AND THEN I JUSTLISTENED.
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LISTENED.AND, IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SAID
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AND, IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SAIDTO ME, IN THAT MOMENT: HEY, YOU
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TO ME, IN THAT MOMENT: HEY, YOUMADE THIS WHOLE LIST.
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MADE THIS WHOLE LIST.WHAT KIND OF WOMAN WOULD YOU
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WHAT KIND OF WOMAN WOULD YOUNEED TO BE IN ORDER TO BE READY
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NEED TO BE IN ORDER TO BE READYFOR THIS LIST THAT YOU'VE
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FOR THIS LIST THAT YOU'VEWRITTEN OUT?
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WRITTEN OUT?AND I WAS LIKE: OH!
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AND I WAS LIKE: OH!SO, I SPENT THE NEXT AMOUNT OF
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SO, I SPENT THE NEXT AMOUNT OFTIME WRITING A LIST ABOUT THE
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TIME WRITING A LIST ABOUT THETYPE OF WOMAN THAT I WANTED TO
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TYPE OF WOMAN THAT I WANTED TOBE, IN ORDER TO EVEN ATTRACT
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BE, IN ORDER TO EVEN ATTRACTTHAT KIND OF MAN; THAT, LIKE,
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THAT KIND OF MAN; THAT, LIKE,WHAT I HAD ASKED FOR -- ALL OF
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WHAT I HAD ASKED FOR -- ALL OFTHAT -- I MADE THIS LIST ABOUT
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THAT -- I MADE THIS LIST ABOUTTHE TYPE OF WOMAN I WANTED TO
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THE TYPE OF WOMAN I WANTED TOBE.
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BE.AND THEN, I STARTED FOCUSING ON
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AND THEN, I STARTED FOCUSING ONTHAT.
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THAT.I STARTED WORKING ON THAT
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I STARTED WORKING ON THATWOMAN.
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WOMAN.I STARTED LEARNING HOW TO BE
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I STARTED LEARNING HOW TO BESPONTANEOUS.
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SPONTANEOUS.I HAD WRITTEN THAT I WANTED HIM
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I HAD WRITTEN THAT I WANTED HIMTO BE SPONTANEOUS AND I CAN'T
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TO BE SPONTANEOUS AND I CAN'TSURPRISES.
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SURPRISES.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]SO, I WAS LIKE: YOU
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SO, I WAS LIKE: YOUGOTTA...LIKE, YOU GOTTA GET
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GOTTA...LIKE, YOU GOTTA GETTHIS...TOGETHER, YOU KNOW?
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THIS...TOGETHER, YOU KNOW?LIKE, YOU'RE ASKING THESE
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LIKE, YOU'RE ASKING THESEQUESTIONS: WHAT WOULD YOU BRING
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QUESTIONS: WHAT WOULD YOU BRINGTO THE TABLE?
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TO THE TABLE?AND SO, I WORKED ON MYSELF, FOR
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AND SO, I WORKED ON MYSELF, FORA COUPLE OF YEARS, ACTUALLY.
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A COUPLE OF YEARS, ACTUALLY.AND, WHAT HAPPENED WAS I FELL
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AND, WHAT HAPPENED WAS I FELLIN LOVE WITH THE WOMAN THAT I
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IN LOVE WITH THE WOMAN THAT IGREW TO BE.
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GREW TO BE.I...STARTED TO ENJOY MY
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I...STARTED TO ENJOY MYCOMPANY.
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COMPANY.AND THIS MAY SOUND-- I DON'T
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AND THIS MAY SOUND-- I DON'TWANT IT TO SOUND ARROGANT AT
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WANT IT TO SOUND ARROGANT ATALL, BUT I JUST LIKE HANGING
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ALL, BUT I JUST LIKE HANGINGOUT WITH ME!
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OUT WITH ME!AND I REALIZED IN THAT MOMENT:
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AND I REALIZED IN THAT MOMENT:WAIT A MINUTE.
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WAIT A MINUTE.I LIKE BEING SINGLE.
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I LIKE BEING SINGLE.LIKE, I'M OKAY.
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LIKE, I'M OKAY.LIKE, I LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITH
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LIKE, I LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITHMYSELF.
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MYSELF.I LIKE TO JUST HANG.
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I LIKE TO JUST HANG.MY FAVORITE BIRTHDAY IS ALL BY
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MY FAVORITE BIRTHDAY IS ALL BYMYSELF WITH NOBODY AROUND.
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MYSELF WITH NOBODY AROUND.THAT'S SOMETHING...
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THAT'S SOMETHING...[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]'CAUSE I AM FUN!
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'CAUSE I AM FUN!AND I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT
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AND I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUTMYSELF IN THAT IN GROWING JUST
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MYSELF IN THAT IN GROWING JUSTINTO MY SINGLENESS AND INTO THE
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INTO MY SINGLENESS AND INTO THEWOMAN THAT GOD CREATED ME TO
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WOMAN THAT GOD CREATED ME TOBE, THAT THAT LIST FOR THE MAN
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BE, THAT THAT LIST FOR THE MANDIDN'T MATTER, ANYMORE.
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DIDN'T MATTER, ANYMORE.THE LIST, FOR ME, BECAME: DO
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THE LIST, FOR ME, BECAME: DOYOU LOVE YOURSELF?
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YOU LOVE YOURSELF?DO YOU LOVE WHO GOD CREATED YOU
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DO YOU LOVE WHO GOD CREATED YOUAS?
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AS?AND, I THINK THAT THAT IS WHAT
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AND, I THINK THAT THAT IS WHATHAS KIND OF INFORMED ME BEING
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HAS KIND OF INFORMED ME BEINGSINGLE AND ABSOLUTELY LOVING
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SINGLE AND ABSOLUTELY LOVINGIT.
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IT.- MANDISA: LOVE THAT!
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- MANDISA: LOVE THAT!- MELINDA: I TRULY, TRULY LOVE
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- MELINDA: I TRULY, TRULY LOVEIT.
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IT.AND I WONDER, FOR OUR MARRIED
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AND I WONDER, FOR OUR MARRIEDLADIES -- HAVILAH, LIKE...DO
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LADIES -- HAVILAH, LIKE...DOYOU REMEMBER BEING SINGLE AND
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YOU REMEMBER BEING SINGLE ANDWHAT DID YOU LOVE ABOUT IT?
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WHAT DID YOU LOVE ABOUT IT?IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS?
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IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS?- HAVILAH: YEAH.
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- HAVILAH: YEAH.UH, WELL...ABSOLUTELY.
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UH, WELL...ABSOLUTELY.I MEAN, FIRST OF ALL, I ENJOYED
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I MEAN, FIRST OF ALL, I ENJOYEDTHAT MY BODY WAS MY OWN AND IT
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THAT MY BODY WAS MY OWN AND ITWASN'T A EQUAL-LENDING PROPERTY
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WASN'T A EQUAL-LENDING PROPERTYOF THE HOUSE.
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OF THE HOUSE.BUT, I WILL SAY-- YOU KNOW,
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BUT, I WILL SAY-- YOU KNOW,MELINDA, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.
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MELINDA, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.AND I'VE NEVER HEARD IT SAID SO
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AND I'VE NEVER HEARD IT SAID SOARTICULATELY ABOUT WHAT YOU
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ARTICULATELY ABOUT WHAT YOUDID, AND HOW YOU PROCESSED
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DID, AND HOW YOU PROCESSEDTHAT, AND HOW YOU FELL IN LOVE
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THAT, AND HOW YOU FELL IN LOVEWITH YOURSELF.
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WITH YOURSELF.I HAVEN'T EVER HEARD SOMEONE
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I HAVEN'T EVER HEARD SOMEONEQUITE SAY IT THAT WAY.
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QUITE SAY IT THAT WAY.I JUST FEEL LIKE YOU SAID IT
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I JUST FEEL LIKE YOU SAID ITREALLY WELL.
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REALLY WELL.- MELINDA: AW, THANK YOU.
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- MELINDA: AW, THANK YOU.- HAVILAH: FOR ME, I REMEMBER
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- HAVILAH: FOR ME, I REMEMBERI GOT MARRIED AT 27 AND THEN
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I GOT MARRIED AT 27 AND THENSTARTED HAVING KIDS.
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STARTED HAVING KIDS.AND, I'D MAKE A JOKE ABOUT
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AND, I'D MAKE A JOKE ABOUTTHIS, BUT I REALLY DO REMEMBER
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THIS, BUT I REALLY DO REMEMBERTELLING GOD: WHY DIDN'T YOU LET
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TELLING GOD: WHY DIDN'T YOU LETME GET MARRIED LATER?
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ME GET MARRIED LATER?LIKE, HAVING MY BABIES IN MY
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LIKE, HAVING MY BABIES IN MY30s, I'M HAVING C-SECTIONS IN
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30s, I'M HAVING C-SECTIONS INMY 30s...
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MY 30s...I MEAN, I HAVE THESE YOUNG MOMS
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I MEAN, I HAVE THESE YOUNG MOMSTHAT ARE LIKE BEBOPPING IN AT
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THAT ARE LIKE BEBOPPING IN AT20, 21, WITH THEIR LITTLES, AND
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20, 21, WITH THEIR LITTLES, ANDI'M THE WOMAN THAT'S LIKE:
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I'M THE WOMAN THAT'S LIKE:WE'RE NOT HAVING A PLAYDATE,
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WE'RE NOT HAVING A PLAYDATE,'CAUSE I HAVE TO LAY DOWN IN
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'CAUSE I HAVE TO LAY DOWN INTHE MIDDLE OF THE AFTERNOON,
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THE MIDDLE OF THE AFTERNOON,LIKE.
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LIKE.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]AND I HAVE TO EAT CHIPS AND
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AND I HAVE TO EAT CHIPS ANDSALSA, LAYING DOWN AND WATCHING
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SALSA, LAYING DOWN AND WATCHINGAN AFTERNOON TALK SHOW OR I
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AN AFTERNOON TALK SHOW OR IWON'T MAKE IT.
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WON'T MAKE IT.LIKE, THAT WAS MY THOUGHT.
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LIKE, THAT WAS MY THOUGHT.SO, I DIDN'T KNOW MY DREAMS
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SO, I DIDN'T KNOW MY DREAMSWOULD BE COMING TRUE AND I WAS
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WOULD BE COMING TRUE AND I WASCOMPLETELY EXHAUSTED.
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COMPLETELY EXHAUSTED.BUT I REMEMBER TELLING GOD
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BUT I REMEMBER TELLING GODTHAT.
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THAT.AND GOD SAID: HAVILAH, IF I HAD
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AND GOD SAID: HAVILAH, IF I HADGIVEN YOU THIS WHEN YOU WERE IN
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GIVEN YOU THIS WHEN YOU WERE INYOUR 20s, YOU WOULD HAVE
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YOUR 20s, YOU WOULD HAVERESENTED ME.
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RESENTED ME.AND I SAID, "WELL, WHAT DO YOU
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AND I SAID, "WELL, WHAT DO YOUMEAN BY THAT?"
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MEAN BY THAT?"AND HE SAID: BECAUSE YOU WERE
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AND HE SAID: BECAUSE YOU WERESOMEBODY THAT NEEDED TO
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SOMEBODY THAT NEEDED TOEXPERIENCE, TO TOUCH, AND TO
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EXPERIENCE, TO TOUCH, AND TOFEEL LIFE IN A WAY THAT, BEING
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FEEL LIFE IN A WAY THAT, BEINGA MOM, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE THAT
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A MOM, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE THATLUXURY.
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LUXURY.AND I KNEW IT WAS TRUE.
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AND I KNEW IT WAS TRUE.WHEN I WAS SINGLE, YOU GUYS, I
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WHEN I WAS SINGLE, YOU GUYS, IDID EVERYTHING.
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DID EVERYTHING.MY GIRLFRIEND AND I WENT
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MY GIRLFRIEND AND I WENTBACKPACKING IN THAILAND AND
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BACKPACKING IN THAILAND ANDCAMBODIA FOR THREE WEEKS.
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CAMBODIA FOR THREE WEEKS.I WENT TO MULTIPLE NATIONS.
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I WENT TO MULTIPLE NATIONS.I MEAN, I HAD A BLAST!
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I MEAN, I HAD A BLAST!BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?
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BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?I DON'T LOOK BACK ON MY SINGLE
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I DON'T LOOK BACK ON MY SINGLEYEARS AND THINK: OH, I WAS
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YEARS AND THINK: OH, I WASJUST...MISERABLE.
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JUST...MISERABLE.NO, NO, NO.
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NO, NO, NO.I HAD A COMPLETE-- I HAD THE
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I HAD A COMPLETE-- I HAD THETIME OF MY LIFE.
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TIME OF MY LIFE.THERE WERE YEARS WHERE I WAS
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THERE WERE YEARS WHERE I WASMISERABLE.
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MISERABLE.I WAS IN 17 WEDDINGS.
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I WAS IN 17 WEDDINGS.SEVENTEEN WEDDINGS, BEFORE I
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SEVENTEEN WEDDINGS, BEFORE IGOT MARRIED.
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GOT MARRIED.WAS HORRIBLE.
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WAS HORRIBLE.(LAUGHING) IT WAS HORRIBLE.
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(LAUGHING) IT WAS HORRIBLE.AND I REMEMBER THERE WOULD BE
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AND I REMEMBER THERE WOULD BETHESE GIRLS THAT WOULD BE
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THESE GIRLS THAT WOULD BECOMING UP AND GO: "YOU KNOW,
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COMING UP AND GO: "YOU KNOW,I'VE WAITED MY WHOLE LIFE FOR
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I'VE WAITED MY WHOLE LIFE FORYOU."
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YOU."AND I'M LIKE: YOU'RE 19.
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AND I'M LIKE: YOU'RE 19.CALM DOWN.
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CALM DOWN.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]YOU JUST GOT OUT OF YOUR MOM'S
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YOU JUST GOT OUT OF YOUR MOM'SWOMB!
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WOMB!AND YOU WAITED?
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AND YOU WAITED?FORGOT YOU'RE 19!
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FORGOT YOU'RE 19!CALM DOWN.
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CALM DOWN.BUT, WHAT I REALIZED WAS IS
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BUT, WHAT I REALIZED WAS ISTHAT BECAUSE I USED MY SINGLE
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THAT BECAUSE I USED MY SINGLELIFE AS A WHOLE PERSON, AND I
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LIFE AS A WHOLE PERSON, AND IDID EVERYTHING I COULD, AND I
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DID EVERYTHING I COULD, AND IGREW MY MINISTRY GIFTS, AND I
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GREW MY MINISTRY GIFTS, AND ISPOKE, AND I PROPHESIED, AND I
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SPOKE, AND I PROPHESIED, AND IDID ALL THE THINGS I WANTED TO
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DID ALL THE THINGS I WANTED TODO, WHEN I GOT MARRIED, I WAS
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DO, WHEN I GOT MARRIED, I WASREADY TO GO BACK INTO FIRST
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READY TO GO BACK INTO FIRSTGEAR.
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GEAR.AND I DIDN'T MIND BEING BORED.
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AND I DIDN'T MIND BEING BORED.I DIDN'T MIND BEING TIRED.
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I DIDN'T MIND BEING TIRED.BECAUSE I HAD LIVED MY STORY.
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BECAUSE I HAD LIVED MY STORY.AND I THINK IT'S JUST CRITICAL
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AND I THINK IT'S JUST CRITICALTHAT WE KEEP THINKING THAT A
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THAT WE KEEP THINKING THAT AMOMENT IN TIME'S GONNA UNLOCK
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MOMENT IN TIME'S GONNA UNLOCKOUR PASSION AND CALLING IN ALL
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OUR PASSION AND CALLING IN ALLTHE THINGS.
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THE THINGS.AND WE'VE MADE IT AN IDOL.
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AND WE'VE MADE IT AN IDOL.LIKE: OH, IF WE GET MARRIED,
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LIKE: OH, IF WE GET MARRIED,THEN I'M GONNA FEEL FULFILLED.
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THEN I'M GONNA FEEL FULFILLED.IF I CAN HAVE SEX, THEN I WON'T
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IF I CAN HAVE SEX, THEN I WON'THAVE TO HAD SELF-CONTROL.
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HAVE TO HAD SELF-CONTROL.IF I CAN JUST HAVE A SPOUSE
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IF I CAN JUST HAVE A SPOUSETHAT CARES ABOUT ME, I'M NEVER
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THAT CARES ABOUT ME, I'M NEVERGONNA FEEL LONELY.
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GONNA FEEL LONELY.AND I JUST WANNA BE HONEST WITH
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AND I JUST WANNA BE HONEST WITHYOU.
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YOU.AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S JUST
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AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S JUSTMY MARRIAGE, BUT I KNOW-- I
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MY MARRIAGE, BUT I KNOW-- ITHINK JANICE CAN TALK-- AGREE
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THINK JANICE CAN TALK-- AGREEWITH THIS: I DON'T THINK THAT'S
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WITH THIS: I DON'T THINK THAT'STRUE AT ALL.
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TRUE AT ALL.I HAVEN'T SEEN THAT TO BE THE
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I HAVEN'T SEEN THAT TO BE THECASE AT ALL.
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CASE AT ALL.I THINK MARRIAGE IS WHAT YOU
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I THINK MARRIAGE IS WHAT YOUGIVE TO IT, BUT I ALSO THINK
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GIVE TO IT, BUT I ALSO THINKBEING SINGLE IS WHAT YOU GIVE
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BEING SINGLE IS WHAT YOU GIVETO IT.
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TO IT.AND TO BE HONEST, I DON'T FEEL
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AND TO BE HONEST, I DON'T FEELLIKE THERE'S THAT MUCH OF A
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LIKE THERE'S THAT MUCH OF ADIFFERENCE IN HOW I'M GONNA
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DIFFERENCE IN HOW I'M GONNALIVE FULFILLED.
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LIVE FULFILLED.BECAUSE, I'M EITHER GONNA LIKE
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BECAUSE, I'M EITHER GONNA LIKEWHO I AM AND CHOOSE THE LIFE I
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WHO I AM AND CHOOSE THE LIFE IHAVE, AND GIVE GOD ALL OF IT,
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HAVE, AND GIVE GOD ALL OF IT,AND ENJOY IT, OR I'M NOT.
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AND ENJOY IT, OR I'M NOT.AND I CAN BE SINGLE AND
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AND I CAN BE SINGLE ANDMISERABLE, OR I CAN BE MARRIED
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MISERABLE, OR I CAN BE MARRIEDAND MISERABLE.
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AND MISERABLE.OR I CAN BE SINGLE AND LOVING
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OR I CAN BE SINGLE AND LOVINGIT, AND I CAN BE MARRIED AND
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IT, AND I CAN BE MARRIED ANDLOVING IT.
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LOVING IT.EVERYTHING LIES WITHIN THE
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EVERYTHING LIES WITHIN THEPOWER FOR ME TO CHOOSE WHO I
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POWER FOR ME TO CHOOSE WHO IWANNA BE, AND WHERE I WANNA BE,
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WANNA BE, AND WHERE I WANNA BE,AND HOW I WANNA LIVE IT.
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AND HOW I WANNA LIVE IT.SO, I DON'T KNOW.
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SO, I DON'T KNOW.BUT THAT WAS REALLY-- THAT WAS
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BUT THAT WAS REALLY-- THAT WASREALLY TRUE.
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REALLY TRUE.AND I WILL SAY THIS -- AND NOT
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AND I WILL SAY THIS -- AND NOTTO BELABOR IT -- BUT WHEN THE
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TO BELABOR IT -- BUT WHEN THEBIBLE SAYS THAT TWO SHALL BECOME
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BIBLE SAYS THAT TWO SHALL BECOMEONE, I ASSUMED THAT IT WOULD
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ONE, I ASSUMED THAT IT WOULDBE ME.
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BE ME.I WAS THE BEST CHOICE OF WHO WE
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I WAS THE BEST CHOICE OF WHO WEWERE GONNA BECOME.
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WERE GONNA BECOME.AND WHAT I REALIZED AFTER THAT
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AND WHAT I REALIZED AFTER THATWAS: I BECAME THE WOMAN THAT I
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WAS: I BECAME THE WOMAN THAT ICOULD BE TO BE MARRIED, BUT
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COULD BE TO BE MARRIED, BUTMARRIAGE IS WHERE YOU PICK UP
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MARRIAGE IS WHERE YOU PICK UPYOUR CROSS AND YOU DIE.
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YOUR CROSS AND YOU DIE.MARRIAGE IS NOT A PLACE WHERE I
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MARRIAGE IS NOT A PLACE WHERE IFULFILL ALL MY DREAMS, AND THEY
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FULFILL ALL MY DREAMS, AND THEYARE THE ONES THAT'S GONNA SERVE
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ARE THE ONES THAT'S GONNA SERVEME, AND I'M GONNA END UP, AT
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ME, AND I'M GONNA END UP, ATTHE END OF THE DATE, WITH A
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THE END OF THE DATE, WITH AROSE AND A HELICOPTER RIDE.
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ROSE AND A HELICOPTER RIDE.AND, YOU KNOW, WE BECOME-- WE
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AND, YOU KNOW, WE BECOME-- WEDO BECOME AND TO A POINT.
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DO BECOME AND TO A POINT.BUT IT'S ONLY THROUGH MATURITY,
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BUT IT'S ONLY THROUGH MATURITY,EXPERIENCE, LEARNING, KIND OF
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EXPERIENCE, LEARNING, KIND OFLAY OUR LIVES DOWN FOR EACH
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LAY OUR LIVES DOWN FOR EACHOTHER: DO I REALLY LOVE WHO
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OTHER: DO I REALLY LOVE WHOI'VE BECOME?
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I'VE BECOME?AND BEN IS MY BROTHER, FIRST.
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AND BEN IS MY BROTHER, FIRST.YEAH, HE'S MY HUSBAND.
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YEAH, HE'S MY HUSBAND.BUT HE'S MY BROTHER IN CHRIST.
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BUT HE'S MY BROTHER IN CHRIST.LIKE, I NEED TO LOVE HIM LIKE
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LIKE, I NEED TO LOVE HIM LIKEHE BELONGS TO CHRIST, THAT HE'S
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HE BELONGS TO CHRIST, THAT HE'SCHRIST'S KID, AND I'M GONNA LAY
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CHRIST'S KID, AND I'M GONNA LAYMY LIFE DOWN FOR HIM IN A WAY
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MY LIFE DOWN FOR HIM IN A WAYTHAT SERVES HIM AND HONORS HIM.
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THAT SERVES HIM AND HONORS HIM.AND SO, IF YOU THINK YOU'RE
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AND SO, IF YOU THINK YOU'REGONNA GET MARRIED TO SOLVE YOUR
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GONNA GET MARRIED TO SOLVE YOURPROBLEMS, PLEASE DON'T GET
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PROBLEMS, PLEASE DON'T GETMARRIED.
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MARRIED.IT WILL BE A VERY MISERABLE
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IT WILL BE A VERY MISERABLEJOURNEY.
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JOURNEY.- MANDISA: WOW.
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- MANDISA: WOW.- MELINDA: THAT'S GOOD.
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- MELINDA: THAT'S GOOD.- JANICE: AW...THAT IS
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- JANICE: AW...THAT ISBRILLIANT.
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BRILLIANT.LISTEN, HAVILAH -- I'M LAUGHING
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LISTEN, HAVILAH -- I'M LAUGHINGAND CRYING SO HARD AT YOU THAT,
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AND CRYING SO HARD AT YOU THAT,LIKE, I'M HOLDING ONTO MY
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LIKE, I'M HOLDING ONTO MYMAGNETIC LASHES, OKAY?
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MAGNETIC LASHES, OKAY?BECAUSE, THEY DON'T DO WELL
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BECAUSE, THEY DON'T DO WELLWITH THE WATER.
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WITH THE WATER.AND THE REALITY IS THAT IS SO
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AND THE REALITY IS THAT IS SOTRUE.
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TRUE.I CAN RELATE TO BOTH WHAT
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I CAN RELATE TO BOTH WHATYOU'RE SAYING AND WHAT MELINDA
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YOU'RE SAYING AND WHAT MELINDASAID.
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SAID.YOU KNOW, AS A MOM, NOW -- AS A
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YOU KNOW, AS A MOM, NOW -- AS AWIFE AND A MOM -- I REALLY--
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WIFE AND A MOM -- I REALLY--WELL, 12 YEARS AGO, MY HUSBAND
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WELL, 12 YEARS AGO, MY HUSBANDAND I SAW THIS COMMERCIAL FOR
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AND I SAW THIS COMMERCIAL FORTHIS EXERCISE ROUTINE THAT WAS
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THIS EXERCISE ROUTINE THAT WASCALLED AND HAD A DOMAIN CALLED
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CALLED AND HAD A DOMAIN CALLEDMAMAWANTSHERBODYBACK.COM.
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MAMAWANTSHERBODYBACK.COM.AND I MEAN, WE LAUGHED...WE
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AND I MEAN, WE LAUGHED...WELAUGHED AT HER!
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LAUGHED AT HER!WE LAUGHED AT HER!
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WE LAUGHED AT HER!THOSE FOOLISH, FOOLISH PEOPLE.
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THOSE FOOLISH, FOOLISH PEOPLE.AND CUT TO ME LAST WEEK, TRYING
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AND CUT TO ME LAST WEEK, TRYINGTO SEE IF THE DOMAIN IS STILL
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TO SEE IF THE DOMAIN IS STILLLIVE.
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LIVE.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]MYPOORLITTLEBODYBACK.COM,
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MYPOORLITTLEBODYBACK.COM,RIGHT?
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RIGHT?[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]BECAUSE THAT IS SO TRUE, YOU
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BECAUSE THAT IS SO TRUE, YOUKNOW.
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KNOW.MY BODY IS NOT MY OWN, AT THIS
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MY BODY IS NOT MY OWN, AT THISPOINT.
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POINT.BUT WHEN I WAS SINGLE, I
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BUT WHEN I WAS SINGLE, IREMEMBER GOING TO THE MOVIES BY
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REMEMBER GOING TO THE MOVIES BYMYSELF, GOING TO THE STORE BY
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MYSELF, GOING TO THE STORE BYMYSELF, AND JUST ENJOYING MY
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MYSELF, AND JUST ENJOYING MYOWN COMPANY, LAUGHING AT MY OWN
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OWN COMPANY, LAUGHING AT MY OWNJOKES IN MY OWN HEAD, AND IT'S
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JOKES IN MY OWN HEAD, AND IT'SJUST A DIFFERENT SEASON, YOU
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JUST A DIFFERENT SEASON, YOUKNOW, WHERE I APPRECIATE MY
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KNOW, WHERE I APPRECIATE MYHUSBAND AND MY CHILDREN.
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HUSBAND AND MY CHILDREN.BUT, YES, I DID, AT SOME POINT,
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BUT, YES, I DID, AT SOME POINT,HAVE TO COME TO THE PLACE WHERE
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HAVE TO COME TO THE PLACE WHEREI ENJOYED ME.
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I ENJOYED ME.AND, IT WAS REFRESHING.
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AND, IT WAS REFRESHING.AND I CAN REMEMBER BEING IN
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AND I CAN REMEMBER BEING INSEMINARY, AND WALKING DOWN TO
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SEMINARY, AND WALKING DOWN TOTHE THEATER IN ASHLAND, OHIO,
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THE THEATER IN ASHLAND, OHIO,BY MYSELF, TO SEE ALL THE
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BY MYSELF, TO SEE ALL THEMOVIES COMING TO THE THEATER.
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MOVIES COMING TO THE THEATER.GETTING MY POPCORN AND MY
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GETTING MY POPCORN AND MYM&M'S, BECAUSE THOSE ARE THE
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M&M'S, BECAUSE THOSE ARE THESNACK OF CHOICE...
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SNACK OF CHOICE...- MELINDA: YES, THEY ARE.
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- MELINDA: YES, THEY ARE.- JANICE: ...AND SITTING
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- JANICE: ...AND SITTINGTHERE, WITH MY SPRITE, AND JUST
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THERE, WITH MY SPRITE, AND JUSTTHINKING: WHAT A WONDERFUL
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THINKING: WHAT A WONDERFULEVENING!
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EVENING!I DON'T KNOW WHY MORE PEOPLE
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I DON'T KNOW WHY MORE PEOPLEDON'T DO THIS!
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DON'T DO THIS!YOU KNOW?
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YOU KNOW?AND SO. BUT IT REALLY DID COME
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AND SO. BUT IT REALLY DID COMETO ME HAVING TO ENJOY MYSELF.
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TO ME HAVING TO ENJOY MYSELF.THE ONE THING THE LORD TAUGHT
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THE ONE THING THE LORD TAUGHTME, IN THE BEGINNING OF
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ME, IN THE BEGINNING OFMARRIAGE, IS: THE MORE I--
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MARRIAGE, IS: THE MORE I--WE'RE ALL COMING TO MARRIAGE
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WE'RE ALL COMING TO MARRIAGEWITH, YOU KNOW, TRUCKS THAT
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WITH, YOU KNOW, TRUCKS THATNEED TO BE UNPACKED, BASICALLY.
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NEED TO BE UNPACKED, BASICALLY.YOU COME INTO ADULTHOOD AND YOU
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YOU COME INTO ADULTHOOD AND YOUGOTTA UNPACK THE PAST, ALL THE
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GOTTA UNPACK THE PAST, ALL THETHINGS IN CULTURE THAT HAVE
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THINGS IN CULTURE THAT HAVEBEEN, YOU KNOW, STUFFED INTO
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BEEN, YOU KNOW, STUFFED INTOTHIS TRUCK THAT IS YOUR MIND
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THIS TRUCK THAT IS YOUR MINDAND YOUR HEART, RIGHT?
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AND YOUR HEART, RIGHT?AND I GOT MARRIED AND REALIZED
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AND I GOT MARRIED AND REALIZEDTHAT: THE MORE YOU UNPACK THAT
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THAT: THE MORE YOU UNPACK THATTRUCK BEFORE MARRIAGE, THE
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TRUCK BEFORE MARRIAGE, THEBETTER YOU ARE, THE LESS YOU
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BETTER YOU ARE, THE LESS YOUHAVE TO UNPACK TOGETHER --
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HAVE TO UNPACK TOGETHER --'CAUSE YOU'RE BOTH COMING WITH
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'CAUSE YOU'RE BOTH COMING WITHTHAT.
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THAT.AND IT'S LIKE: CONSIDER MOVING
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AND IT'S LIKE: CONSIDER MOVINGWITH A FRIEND, RIGHT?
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WITH A FRIEND, RIGHT?AND YOU THINK: OH! THE BETTER
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AND YOU THINK: OH! THE BETTERWE DID THIS BEFORE WE CAME
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WE DID THIS BEFORE WE CAMETOGETHER IS GONNA MAKE THIS A
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TOGETHER IS GONNA MAKE THIS AMUCH SMOOTHER RIDE.
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MUCH SMOOTHER RIDE.BECAUSE IT IS NOT EASY TO BE
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BECAUSE IT IS NOT EASY TO BEONE, LIKE HAVILAH WAS TALKING
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ONE, LIKE HAVILAH WAS TALKINGABOUT.
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ABOUT.IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ONE.
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IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ONE.AND THE BEAUTY IS YOU CAN BE
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AND THE BEAUTY IS YOU CAN BEDOING THAT PROCESS, EVEN IF YOU
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DOING THAT PROCESS, EVEN IF YOUNEVER GET ATTACHED TO ANOTHER
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NEVER GET ATTACHED TO ANOTHERTRUCK.
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TRUCK.LIKE, I LOVE MELINDA SAYING--
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LIKE, I LOVE MELINDA SAYING--AND I KNOW MELINDA AND WE'VE
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AND I KNOW MELINDA AND WE'VETALKED ABOUT THIS.
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TALKED ABOUT THIS.SHE'S LIKE: "I'M GOOD.
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SHE'S LIKE: "I'M GOOD.I AM GOOD."
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I AM GOOD."AND, I CAN SEE THAT.
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AND, I CAN SEE THAT.SHE'S NOT MAKING THIS UP TO
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SHE'S NOT MAKING THIS UP TOTELL YOU.
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TELL YOU.- MELINDA: MM...YEP.
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- MELINDA: MM...YEP.- JANICE: SHE ENJOYS LIFE!
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- JANICE: SHE ENJOYS LIFE!AND SHE IS ENJOYABLE!
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AND SHE IS ENJOYABLE!AND SO, I THINK IT'S JUST AN
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AND SO, I THINK IT'S JUST ANIMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER
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IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBERTHAT THE LORD WANTS EACH OF US
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THAT THE LORD WANTS EACH OF USTO BE SANCTIFIED.
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TO BE SANCTIFIED.AND HE WANTS TO BE AT THE HEAD
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AND HE WANTS TO BE AT THE HEADOF THAT PROCESS.
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OF THAT PROCESS.AND HE'LL USE WHATEVER TOOL HE
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AND HE'LL USE WHATEVER TOOL HEDEEMS NECESSARY.
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DEEMS NECESSARY.BECAUSE HE DID KNOW YOU,
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BECAUSE HE DID KNOW YOU,BEFOREHAND, AND HE DID DECIDE,
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BEFOREHAND, AND HE DID DECIDE,BEFOREHAND.
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BEFOREHAND.AND IT'S REALLY ABOUT
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AND IT'S REALLY ABOUTCONNECTING WITH HIM AND SAYING:
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CONNECTING WITH HIM AND SAYING:WHAT IS THE PLAN?
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WHAT IS THE PLAN?WHAT IS THE NEXT TOOL?
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WHAT IS THE NEXT TOOL?IF I'M PINING FOR THIS AND YOU
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IF I'M PINING FOR THIS AND YOUDON'T HAVE IT, IS THERE
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DON'T HAVE IT, IS THERESOMETHING ELSE THAT I SHOULD BE
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SOMETHING ELSE THAT I SHOULD BEFOCUSED ON, RIGHT NOW?
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FOCUSED ON, RIGHT NOW?YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?
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YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?BECAUSE HE KNOWS AND HE CARES,
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BECAUSE HE KNOWS AND HE CARES,AND HE HAS ALREADY PLANNED.
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AND HE HAS ALREADY PLANNED.AND IT'S A GOOD PLAN.
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AND IT'S A GOOD PLAN.I JUST WANNA PROMISE EVERYBODY
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I JUST WANNA PROMISE EVERYBODYTHAT THE PLAN THAT HE HAS IS A
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THAT THE PLAN THAT HE HAS IS AGOOD PLAN.
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GOOD PLAN.IT IS A PLAN TO PROSPER YOU AND
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IT IS A PLAN TO PROSPER YOU ANDNOT TO HARM YOU, NO MATTER THE
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NOT TO HARM YOU, NO MATTER THECIRCUMSTANCES.
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CIRCUMSTANCES.IT'S A GOOD PLAN.
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IT'S A GOOD PLAN.WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT,
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WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT,DISA?
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DISA?- MANDISA: YEAH.
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- MANDISA: YEAH.IT IS...A GOOD PLAN.
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IT IS...A GOOD PLAN.AND I...BELIEVE IT.
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AND I...BELIEVE IT.AND THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I...
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AND THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I...STRUGGLE WITH THAT.
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STRUGGLE WITH THAT.BUT I LOVE WHAT YOU-- I LOVE
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BUT I LOVE WHAT YOU-- I LOVETHE VISUAL OF A DUMP TRUCK.
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THE VISUAL OF A DUMP TRUCK.LIKE, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU SAID
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LIKE, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU SAIDIT WAS A DUMP TRUCK, BUT, IT
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IT WAS A DUMP TRUCK, BUT, ITWAS A TRUCK...OF SOME SORT.
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WAS A TRUCK...OF SOME SORT.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]AND, ONE OF MY FRIENDS, SHE
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AND, ONE OF MY FRIENDS, SHESAID, "YOU KNOW, THE BEST GIFT
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SAID, "YOU KNOW, THE BEST GIFTTHAT YOU CAN BRING INTO YOUR
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THAT YOU CAN BRING INTO YOURMARRIAGE IS THE HEALTHIEST
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MARRIAGE IS THE HEALTHIESTVERSION OF YOURSELF."
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VERSION OF YOURSELF."- JANICE: YES...
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- JANICE: YES...- MANDISA: AND SO, THAT IS A
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- MANDISA: AND SO, THAT IS AJOURNEY THAT I HAVE BEEN ON,
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JOURNEY THAT I HAVE BEEN ON,NOW, FOR 44 YEARS.
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NOW, FOR 44 YEARS.AND, I WOULD SAY, REALLY IN THE
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AND, I WOULD SAY, REALLY IN THELAST TWO YEARS OR SO, I'M
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LAST TWO YEARS OR SO, I'MREALLY GOING TO TOWN WITH SOME
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REALLY GOING TO TOWN WITH SOMEOF THE BAGGAGE THAT I KNOW THAT
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OF THE BAGGAGE THAT I KNOW THATI AM CARRYING THAT, WHENEVER I
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I AM CARRYING THAT, WHENEVER IGET MARRIED, OR IF I GET
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GET MARRIED, OR IF I GETMARRIED, THESE ARE SOME THINGS
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MARRIED, THESE ARE SOME THINGSTHAT I KNOW ARE NOT GONNA SERVE
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THAT I KNOW ARE NOT GONNA SERVEME WELL.
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ME WELL.AND SO, IT'S CERTAINLY NOT
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AND SO, IT'S CERTAINLY NOTGONNA SERVE MY FUTURE HUSBAND
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GONNA SERVE MY FUTURE HUSBANDWELL.
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WELL.AND SO, I'M DOING THE THINGS
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AND SO, I'M DOING THE THINGSLIKE COUNSELING, AND I'M
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LIKE COUNSELING, AND I'MDEALING WITH SOME CHILDHOOD
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DEALING WITH SOME CHILDHOODISSUES THAT I HAVE BEEN
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ISSUES THAT I HAVE BEENDRAGGING ALONG FOR DECADES AND
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DRAGGING ALONG FOR DECADES ANDDECADES, SOME HARD PLACES IN MY
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DECADES, SOME HARD PLACES IN MYHEART, SOME DISAPPOINTMENTS.
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HEART, SOME DISAPPOINTMENTS.AND SO, ME LEARNING TO BECOME
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AND SO, ME LEARNING TO BECOMETHE HEALTHIEST VERSION OF
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THE HEALTHIEST VERSION OFMYSELF -- THAT IS SOMETHING
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MYSELF -- THAT IS SOMETHINGTHAT I'M DOING, RIGHT NOW.
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THAT I'M DOING, RIGHT NOW.I'M SINGLE AND LOVING IT,
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I'M SINGLE AND LOVING IT,TODAY.
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TODAY.MAYBE TONIGHT I'M NOT GONNA BE
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MAYBE TONIGHT I'M NOT GONNA BELOVING IT AS MUCH.
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LOVING IT AS MUCH.BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT I
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BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT ICAN BRING ALL OF THOSE THINGS
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CAN BRING ALL OF THOSE THINGSTO THE LORD.
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TO THE LORD.AND, RATHER THAN FOCUSING
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AND, RATHER THAN FOCUSINGON FINDING MR. RIGHT, I'M
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ON FINDING MR. RIGHT, I'MTRYING TO FOCUS ON BECOMING
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TRYING TO FOCUS ON BECOMINGMRS. RIGHT.
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MRS. RIGHT.AND SO, ONE OF THE WAYS THAT
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AND SO, ONE OF THE WAYS THATI'M DOING THAT IS I USE
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I'M DOING THAT IS I USE1 CORINTHIANS 13 AS, LIKE, MY
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1 CORINTHIANS 13 AS, LIKE, MYTEMPLATE.
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TEMPLATE.THERE ARE SOME WAYS THAT GOD IS
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THERE ARE SOME WAYS THAT GOD ISTRYING TO SHOW ME: I NEED YOU
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TRYING TO SHOW ME: I NEED YOUTO GROW IN LOVE.
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TO GROW IN LOVE.AND, WHEN I THINK ABOUT BEING
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AND, WHEN I THINK ABOUT BEINGPATIENT -- NOT A STRONG SUIT OF
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PATIENT -- NOT A STRONG SUIT OFMINE.
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MINE.BUT, IF I USE OPPORTUNITIES TO
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BUT, IF I USE OPPORTUNITIES TOGROW IN PATIENCE, THEN THAT IS
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GROW IN PATIENCE, THEN THAT ISNOT JUST GONNA SERVE MY FUTURE
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NOT JUST GONNA SERVE MY FUTUREHUSBAND WELL.
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HUSBAND WELL.THAT'S GONNA SERVE ME WELL,
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THAT'S GONNA SERVE ME WELL,RIGHT NOW, IF I TRY TO GROW IN
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RIGHT NOW, IF I TRY TO GROW INBECOMING KIND, NOT ENVYING, NOT
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BECOMING KIND, NOT ENVYING, NOTBOASTING, NOT BEING PROUD, NOT
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BOASTING, NOT BEING PROUD, NOTBEING RUDE.
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BEING RUDE.I CAN BE RUDE SOMETIMES, Y'ALL!
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I CAN BE RUDE SOMETIMES, Y'ALL!AND SO, WHEN I THINK OF A
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AND SO, WHEN I THINK OF AFUTURE MARRIAGE, AND HOW MEN
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FUTURE MARRIAGE, AND HOW MENCAN FEEL SO DISRESPECTED IF I
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CAN FEEL SO DISRESPECTED IF IJUST SAY THE FIRST THING THAT
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JUST SAY THE FIRST THING THATCOMES TO MY MIND, THAT IS
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COMES TO MY MIND, THAT ISSOMETHING THAT I'M WORKING ON
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SOMETHING THAT I'M WORKING ONWITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, RIGHT
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WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, RIGHTNOW.
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NOW.SO, I'M USING 1 CORINTHIANS 13
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SO, I'M USING 1 CORINTHIANS 13AS MY TEMPLATE OF TRYING TO
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AS MY TEMPLATE OF TRYING TOBECOME MRS. RIGHT.
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BECOME MRS. RIGHT.AND I THINK IT STARTED OUT WITH
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AND I THINK IT STARTED OUT WITHDOING IT FOR MY FUTURE HUSBAND.
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DOING IT FOR MY FUTURE HUSBAND.I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACE
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I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACEWHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.
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WHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.
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AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO GROW IN
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BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO GROW INLOVE.
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LOVE.COLOSSIANS 3 SAYS CLOTHE
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COLOSSIANS 3 SAYS CLOTHEYOURSELVES WITH COMPASSION, AND
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YOURSELVES WITH COMPASSION, ANDKINDNESS, AND HUMILITY, AND
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KINDNESS, AND HUMILITY, ANDGENTLENESS, AND PATIENCE.
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GENTLENESS, AND PATIENCE.AND SO, THOSE ARE THINGS THAT
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AND SO, THOSE ARE THINGS THATI'M SAYING: OKAY, HOW CAN I
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I'M SAYING: OKAY, HOW CAN ICLOTHE MYSELF, RIGHT NOW, WITH
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CLOTHE MYSELF, RIGHT NOW, WITHKINDNESS.
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KINDNESS.AND HERE'S THE THING IS THAT I
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AND HERE'S THE THING IS THAT IHAVE TO BE WILLING TO BE PUT
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HAVE TO BE WILLING TO BE PUTMYSELF IN SITUATIONS THAT TEST
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MYSELF IN SITUATIONS THAT TESTMY KINDNESS.
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MY KINDNESS.IF I WANNA GROW IN GRACE, BE
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IF I WANNA GROW IN GRACE, BEEXPECTING TO BE PUT IN
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EXPECTING TO BE PUT INSITUATIONS THAT TEST YOUR
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SITUATIONS THAT TEST YOURGRACE.
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GRACE.AND SO, KNOWING THAT EVERY
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AND SO, KNOWING THAT EVERYSITUATION THAT I FACE, IF THIS
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SITUATION THAT I FACE, IF THISIS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR ME TO
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IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR ME TOGROW IN THAT AREA, IT'S GONNA
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GROW IN THAT AREA, IT'S GONNASERVE ME BETTER, RIGHT NOW.
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SERVE ME BETTER, RIGHT NOW.SO, THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS
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SO, THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGSTHAT I'M DOING TO JUST...REALLY
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THAT I'M DOING TO JUST...REALLYTAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SINGLE
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TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SINGLESEASON THAT I'M IN, RIGHT NOW.
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SEASON THAT I'M IN, RIGHT NOW.I DO THINK IT'S A SEASON, AND I
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I DO THINK IT'S A SEASON, AND IDO BELIEVE THAT ANOTHER SEASON
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DO BELIEVE THAT ANOTHER SEASONIS COMING.
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IS COMING.BUT I LOVE THAT I GET TO HEAR
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BUT I LOVE THAT I GET TO HEARFROM MY MARRIED FRIENDS -- LIKE
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FROM MY MARRIED FRIENDS -- LIKEYOU, JANICE.
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YOU, JANICE.AND, I'M JUST NOW MEETING YOU,
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AND, I'M JUST NOW MEETING YOU,DR. ROBYN, BUT YOU'VE GOT SO
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DR. ROBYN, BUT YOU'VE GOT SOMUCH WISDOM.
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MUCH WISDOM.I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW SOME OTHER
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I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW SOME OTHERAREAS THAT IF WE TALK ABOUT
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AREAS THAT IF WE TALK ABOUTBEING SINGLE AND LOVING IT,
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BEING SINGLE AND LOVING IT,WHAT ARE SOME OTHER AREAS THAT
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WHAT ARE SOME OTHER AREAS THATYOU CAN GIVE SOME WISDOM TO
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YOU CAN GIVE SOME WISDOM TOSINGLE GIRLS LIKE ME?
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SINGLE GIRLS LIKE ME?- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,
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- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,YOU KNOW, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.
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YOU KNOW, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE OR
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WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE ORWHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED, LOVING
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WHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED, LOVINGLIFE REALLY COMES BACK TO WHAT
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LIFE REALLY COMES BACK TO WHATTHE SCRIPTURE TEACHES.
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THE SCRIPTURE TEACHES.AND I CAN READ IT, AGAIN.
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AND I CAN READ IT, AGAIN.THAT'S 1 CORINTHIANS 7:7.
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THAT'S 1 CORINTHIANS 7:7.BUT IN THE MESSAGE VERSION,
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BUT IN THE MESSAGE VERSION,"SOMETIMES I WISH EVERYONE WERE
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"SOMETIMES I WISH EVERYONE WERESINGLE LIKE ME," PAUL SAYS.
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SINGLE LIKE ME," PAUL SAYS."...A SIMPLER LIFE, IN MANY
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"...A SIMPLER LIFE, IN MANYWAYS.
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WAYS.BUT CELIBACY IS NOT FOR
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BUT CELIBACY IS NOT FOREVERYONE ANY MORE THAN MARRIAGE
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EVERYONE ANY MORE THAN MARRIAGEIS."
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IS."I'LL SAY AN AMEN TO THAT.
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I'LL SAY AN AMEN TO THAT.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]"GOD GIVES THE GIFT OF THE
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"GOD GIVES THE GIFT OF THESINGLE LIFE TO SOME, THE GIFT
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SINGLE LIFE TO SOME, THE GIFTOF MARRIED LIFE TO OTHERS."
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OF MARRIED LIFE TO OTHERS."SO, I GUESS AS A PERSONAL
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SO, I GUESS AS A PERSONALILLUSTRATION, I JUST HAVE TO
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ILLUSTRATION, I JUST HAVE TOTESTIFY THAT THERE ARE WOMEN IN
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TESTIFY THAT THERE ARE WOMEN INMY LIFE WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED,
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MY LIFE WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED,AND HAVE MADE A BIG IMPRESSION,
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AND HAVE MADE A BIG IMPRESSION,AND HAVE BEEN ROLE MODELS.
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AND HAVE BEEN ROLE MODELS.AND THEN, THERE HAVE BEEN
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AND THEN, THERE HAVE BEENSINGLE WOMEN, SOME WHO HAVE
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SINGLE WOMEN, SOME WHO HAVENEVER EVEN BEEN MARRIED, THAT
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NEVER EVEN BEEN MARRIED, THATHAVE MADE A HUGE IMPRESSION ON
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HAVE MADE A HUGE IMPRESSION ONME.
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ME.AND AS I THINK ABOUT IT, TODAY
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AND AS I THINK ABOUT IT, TODAY-- OVER MY ENTIRE LIFETIME,
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-- OVER MY ENTIRE LIFETIME,WHAT IS IT THAT MADE THE
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WHAT IS IT THAT MADE THEIMPRESSION?
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IMPRESSION?AND, AS I WAS PONDERING AND
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AND, AS I WAS PONDERING ANDMEDITATING, I WAS THINKING
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MEDITATING, I WAS THINKINGABOUT MY MIDDLE NAME IS MARIE.
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ABOUT MY MIDDLE NAME IS MARIE.I'M ROBYN MARIE.
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I'M ROBYN MARIE.AND THE WOMAN I AM NAMED FOR IS
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AND THE WOMAN I AM NAMED FOR ISMY AUNT MARIE.
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MY AUNT MARIE.AND, YOU KNOW, MANY, MANY,
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AND, YOU KNOW, MANY, MANY,MANY YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS A
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MANY YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS ALITTLE TINY GIRL -- I WAS MAYBE
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LITTLE TINY GIRL -- I WAS MAYBE5 YEARS OLD -- SHE WENT AS A
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5 YEARS OLD -- SHE WENT AS ASINGLE WOMAN--
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SINGLE WOMAN--NOW, SHE WAS-- I THINK SHE'S A
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NOW, SHE WAS-- I THINK SHE'S AWARRIOR.
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WARRIOR.SHE GOT ON A SHIP AND SHE WENT
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SHE GOT ON A SHIP AND SHE WENTTO AFRICA.
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TO AFRICA.SHE ACTUALLY HAD LEARNED
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SHE ACTUALLY HAD LEARNEDFRENCH.
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FRENCH.SHE WAS A NORWEGIAN WOMAN.
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SHE WAS A NORWEGIAN WOMAN.HER MOTHER WAS AN IMMIGRANT
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HER MOTHER WAS AN IMMIGRANTFROM NORWAY.
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FROM NORWAY.AND SHE HAD GONE TO BIBLE
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AND SHE HAD GONE TO BIBLECOLLEGE.
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COLLEGE.SHE HAD HOPED TO GET MARRIED,
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SHE HAD HOPED TO GET MARRIED,BUT THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN; GOT ON
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BUT THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN; GOT ONA SHIP -- SHE WAS ON THIS SHIP
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A SHIP -- SHE WAS ON THIS SHIPFOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS; WENT TO
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FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS; WENT TOAFRICA, GOT TO AFRICA; AND,
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AFRICA, GOT TO AFRICA; AND,THERE, SHE DISCOVERED THAT SHE
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THERE, SHE DISCOVERED THAT SHECOULD BE PART OF A MISSIONARY
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COULD BE PART OF A MISSIONARYTEAM.
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TEAM.SHE LIVED IN A HUT; AND SHE
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SHE LIVED IN A HUT; AND SHELEARNED HOW TO TAKE CARE OF
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LEARNED HOW TO TAKE CARE OFCHILDREN; AND SHE WAS A
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CHILDREN; AND SHE WAS APREACHER; AND SHE DID ALL THESE
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PREACHER; AND SHE DID ALL THESEWONDERFUL THINGS.
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WONDERFUL THINGS.SHE ACTUALLY TRANSLATED THE
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SHE ACTUALLY TRANSLATED THEBIBLE FROM FRENCH INTO THE
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BIBLE FROM FRENCH INTO THELOCAL INDIGENOUS LANGUAGE.
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LOCAL INDIGENOUS LANGUAGE.- MANDISA: WOW...
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- MANDISA: WOW...- DR. ROBYN: AND SHE WAS PART
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- DR. ROBYN: AND SHE WAS PARTOF THE ORIGINAL TRANSLATION
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OF THE ORIGINAL TRANSLATIONTEAM.
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TEAM.YOU KNOW WHAT?
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YOU KNOW WHAT?ONE OF THE FUN STORIES SHE
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ONE OF THE FUN STORIES SHETOLD: SHE PRAYED AND PRAYED AND
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TOLD: SHE PRAYED AND PRAYED ANDPRAYED FOR A TYPEWRITER 'CAUSE
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PRAYED FOR A TYPEWRITER 'CAUSESHE WANTED TO WORK ON THE
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SHE WANTED TO WORK ON THETRANSLATION TEAM.
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TRANSLATION TEAM.AND THEN, FINALLY, WHEN GOD
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AND THEN, FINALLY, WHEN GODSENT HER AN ELECTRIC
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SENT HER AN ELECTRICTYPEWRITER, SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANY
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TYPEWRITER, SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANYELECTRICITY TO PLUG IT IN.
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ELECTRICITY TO PLUG IT IN.SO, SHE KEPT HER MANUAL
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SO, SHE KEPT HER MANUALTYPEWRITER AND KEPT PLUGGING
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TYPEWRITER AND KEPT PLUGGINGAWAY ON IT, YOU KNOW.
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AWAY ON IT, YOU KNOW.NOW, WHY DID I TELL YOU THAT
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NOW, WHY DID I TELL YOU THATSTORY?
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STORY?BECAUSE, YEARS LATER, AFTER 50
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BECAUSE, YEARS LATER, AFTER 50YEARS OF SERVICE THERE IN
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YEARS OF SERVICE THERE INAFRICA, A SINGLE WOMAN ALL THAT
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AFRICA, A SINGLE WOMAN ALL THATTIME, ONE OF MY OTHER AUNTIES
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TIME, ONE OF MY OTHER AUNTIESTOOK HER BACK, AND THEY WENT TO
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TOOK HER BACK, AND THEY WENT TOA CONFERENCE.
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A CONFERENCE.AND WHEN THEY WENT TO THE
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AND WHEN THEY WENT TO THECONFERENCE, SHE TOOK HER TO
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CONFERENCE, SHE TOOK HER TOTHE-- IT WAS A GET-TOGETHER OF
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THE-- IT WAS A GET-TOGETHER OFALL THE CHURCHES WHERE SHE HAD
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ALL THE CHURCHES WHERE SHE HADBEEN A PART OF THAT
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BEEN A PART OF THATDENOMINATION.
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DENOMINATION.AND WHEN SHE GOT TO THE
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AND WHEN SHE GOT TO THECONFERENCE, SHE WAS SHOCKED,
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CONFERENCE, SHE WAS SHOCKED,AND THE AUNTIE THAT TOOK HER
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AND THE AUNTIE THAT TOOK HERWAS SHOCKED, TOO, BECAUSE IT
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WAS SHOCKED, TOO, BECAUSE ITWAS THIS BIG COLISEUM; AND WHEN
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WAS THIS BIG COLISEUM; AND WHENTHEY GOT THERE, SHE WAS SITTING
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THEY GOT THERE, SHE WAS SITTINGIN THE AUDIENCE, AND, ALL OF A
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IN THE AUDIENCE, AND, ALL OF ASUDDEN, THEY CALLED HER NAME.
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SUDDEN, THEY CALLED HER NAME.AND THERE WERE LITERALLY-- IT
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AND THERE WERE LITERALLY-- ITWAS A COLISEUM FULL OF PEOPLE.
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WAS A COLISEUM FULL OF PEOPLE.AND THEY CALLED HER TO THE
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AND THEY CALLED HER TO THEPLATFORM.
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PLATFORM.AND, SHE DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE
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AND, SHE DIDN'T KNOW THEY WEREGONNA RECOGNIZE HER.
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GONNA RECOGNIZE HER.AND WHEN THEY DID, THE ENTIRE
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AND WHEN THEY DID, THE ENTIRECOLISEUM STOOD AND APPLAUDED
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COLISEUM STOOD AND APPLAUDEDHER, AND STARTED TO CHANT,
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HER, AND STARTED TO CHANT,"MAMA! MAMA!"
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"MAMA! MAMA!"IT KINDA MAKES ME WANNA CRY.
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IT KINDA MAKES ME WANNA CRY.NOW, SHE COULD NEVER HAVE ANY
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NOW, SHE COULD NEVER HAVE ANYCHILDREN, BIOLOGICALLY, OF HER
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CHILDREN, BIOLOGICALLY, OF HEROWN, BUT SHE MOTHERED
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OWN, BUT SHE MOTHEREDTHOUSANDS.
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THOUSANDS.NOW, WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS
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NOW, WHY AM I TELLING YOU THISSTORY?
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STORY?BECAUSE MISSION BRINGS
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BECAUSE MISSION BRINGSMOMENTUM.
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MOMENTUM.AND, I JUST WANNA SAY THAT...
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AND, I JUST WANNA SAY THAT...WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE AND WHEN
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WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE AND WHENYOU'RE MARRIED, NO MATTER
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YOU'RE MARRIED, NO MATTERWHAT, YOU HAVE PURPOSE.
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WHAT, YOU HAVE PURPOSE.AND IT IS MISSION THAT BRINGS
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AND IT IS MISSION THAT BRINGSTHAT ENERGY TO OUR LIFE.
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THAT ENERGY TO OUR LIFE.BECAUSE GOD DESIGNED US FOR
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BECAUSE GOD DESIGNED US FORPURPOSE AND DESTINY.
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PURPOSE AND DESTINY.AND THERE IS A REASON THAT YOU
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AND THERE IS A REASON THAT YOUWERE BORN.
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WERE BORN.THERE'S A REASON I WAS BORN.
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THERE'S A REASON I WAS BORN.AND THAT WHEN WE FIND
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AND THAT WHEN WE FINDOURSELVES, WHETHER WE'RE SINGLE
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OURSELVES, WHETHER WE'RE SINGLEAND WE'RE WAITING AND HOPING TO
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AND WE'RE WAITING AND HOPING TOGET MARRIED, OR, WHETHER WE
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GET MARRIED, OR, WHETHER WEBELIEVE THAT WE'RE NOT GONNA BE
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BELIEVE THAT WE'RE NOT GONNA BEMARRIED, WHATEVER THAT PLACE IN
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MARRIED, WHATEVER THAT PLACE INOUR LIFE IS, IT'S WHEN WE'RE...
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OUR LIFE IS, IT'S WHEN WE'RE...ENGAGED IN MISSION THAT WE CAN
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ENGAGED IN MISSION THAT WE CANBATTLE THINGS LIKE LONELINESS,
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BATTLE THINGS LIKE LONELINESS,OR WE CAN OVERCOME THINGS LIKE
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OR WE CAN OVERCOME THINGS LIKEDISCOURAGEMENT; AND WE CAN HAVE
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DISCOURAGEMENT; AND WE CAN HAVETHE KIND OF FAITH WHERE WE CAN
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THE KIND OF FAITH WHERE WE CANGET THROUGH THINGS LIKE A
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GET THROUGH THINGS LIKE APANDEMIC; OR WE CAN FIND
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PANDEMIC; OR WE CAN FINDOURSELVES WITH WAYS TO FIND THE
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OURSELVES WITH WAYS TO FIND THEANSWER TO CIRCUMSTANCES AND
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ANSWER TO CIRCUMSTANCES ANDWAYS TO FORGIVE PEOPLE WHO HURT
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WAYS TO FORGIVE PEOPLE WHO HURTUS; OR TO BUILD A BRIDGE IN OUR
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US; OR TO BUILD A BRIDGE IN OURCOMMUNITIES TO PEOPLE THAT ARE
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COMMUNITIES TO PEOPLE THAT AREDIFFERENT THAN OURSELVES, SO
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DIFFERENT THAN OURSELVES, SOTHAT WE CAN FIND THE WAY THAT
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THAT WE CAN FIND THE WAY THATGOD IS TEACHING US TO BECOME
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GOD IS TEACHING US TO BECOMETHE PERSON THAT WE'RE CALLED TO
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THE PERSON THAT WE'RE CALLED TOBE.
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BE.MISSION BRINGS MOMENTUM WHEN
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MISSION BRINGS MOMENTUM WHENWE'RE FULFILLING THE CALL OF
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WE'RE FULFILLING THE CALL OFGOD, IN OUR LIVES.
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GOD, IN OUR LIVES.AND SO, I'M JUST SO GRATEFUL
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AND SO, I'M JUST SO GRATEFULFOR SINGLE WOMEN IN MY LIFE AND
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FOR SINGLE WOMEN IN MY LIFE ANDFOR MARRIED WOMEN IN MY LIFE.
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FOR MARRIED WOMEN IN MY LIFE.AND, I JUST ENCOURAGE THE
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AND, I JUST ENCOURAGE THEPEOPLE, MY FRIENDS THAT ARE
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PEOPLE, MY FRIENDS THAT AREWATCHING, TO JUST BELIEVE IN
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WATCHING, TO JUST BELIEVE INYOURSELF.
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YOURSELF.BECAUSE YOU'RE STRONGER THAN
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BECAUSE YOU'RE STRONGER THANYOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU'RE MORE
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YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU'RE MORECREATIVE THAN YOU THINK YOU
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CREATIVE THAN YOU THINK YOUARE.
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ARE.AND GOD HAS PURPOSE.
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AND GOD HAS PURPOSE.SO, I MEAN, WHEN I THINK ABOUT
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SO, I MEAN, WHEN I THINK ABOUTTHE LADIES HERE JUST ON THIS
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THE LADIES HERE JUST ON THISCONVERSATION -- YOU TALK ABOUT
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CONVERSATION -- YOU TALK ABOUTCREATIVE AND BRAVE AND FULL OF
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CREATIVE AND BRAVE AND FULL OFMISSION?
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MISSION?I'M TALKING TO WORLD-CHANGERS,
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I'M TALKING TO WORLD-CHANGERS,RIGHT HERE, ESPECIALLY SOMEBODY
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RIGHT HERE, ESPECIALLY SOMEBODYLIKE MELINDA.
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LIKE MELINDA.- MANDISA: YEAH!
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- MANDISA: YEAH!- DR. ROBYN: SO, MELINDA, YOU
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- DR. ROBYN: SO, MELINDA, YOUTALK ABOUT IT.
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TALK ABOUT IT.YOU TALK ABOUT MISSION AND HOW
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YOU TALK ABOUT MISSION AND HOWYOU'RE FULFILLING THAT, RIGHT
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YOU'RE FULFILLING THAT, RIGHTNOW.
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NOW.- MELINDA: FIRST OF ALL, THANK
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- MELINDA: FIRST OF ALL, THANKYOU.
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YOU.BUT, SECONDLY, I GOT IT FROM MY
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BUT, SECONDLY, I GOT IT FROM MYMAMA.
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MAMA.LIKE, I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE
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LIKE, I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLEMOTHER AND RAISED BY A WOMAN...
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MOTHER AND RAISED BY A WOMAN...- DR. ROBYN: THERE YOU GO.
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- DR. ROBYN: THERE YOU GO.- MELINDA: ...WHO PUT GOD
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- MELINDA: ...WHO PUT GODFIRST IN EVERYTHING THAT SHE
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FIRST IN EVERYTHING THAT SHEDID AND TAUGHT ME HOW TO ENJOY
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DID AND TAUGHT ME HOW TO ENJOYLIFE THE KINGDOM WAY.
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LIFE THE KINGDOM WAY.AND BECAUSE OF THAT, HER
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AND BECAUSE OF THAT, HERSINGLENESS WAS NOT A HINDRANCE.
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SINGLENESS WAS NOT A HINDRANCE.HER SINGLENESS WAS SOMETHING
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HER SINGLENESS WAS SOMETHINGTHAT JUST BOLSTERED HER.
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THAT JUST BOLSTERED HER.HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD GOT
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HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD GOTDEEPER, AND SHE TAUGHT ME, AS
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DEEPER, AND SHE TAUGHT ME, ASSHE RAISED ME AND BROUGHT ME
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SHE RAISED ME AND BROUGHT METHROUGH THIS LIFE.
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THROUGH THIS LIFE.AND SO, I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR
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AND SO, I AM SO GRATEFUL FORTHAT EXAMPLE.
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THAT EXAMPLE.I'M GRATEFUL FOR MY MARRIED
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I'M GRATEFUL FOR MY MARRIEDFRIENDS AS EXAMPLES.
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FRIENDS AS EXAMPLES.I TELL JANICE, ALL THE TIME,
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I TELL JANICE, ALL THE TIME,SHE IS, LIKE, MAYBE THE ONLY
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SHE IS, LIKE, MAYBE THE ONLYPERSON THAT EVEN MAKES ME THINK
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PERSON THAT EVEN MAKES ME THINKABOUT WANTING TO BE MARRIED.
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ABOUT WANTING TO BE MARRIED.BECAUSE, THE EXAMPLES OF SINGLE
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BECAUSE, THE EXAMPLES OF SINGLEWOMEN AND MARRIED WOMEN WHO DO
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WOMEN AND MARRIED WOMEN WHO DOLIFE WELL AND WHO ENJOY IT WELL
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LIFE WELL AND WHO ENJOY IT WELLARE SO BEAUTIFUL.
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ARE SO BEAUTIFUL.AND, NOW, HAVILAH IS MY NEXT
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AND, NOW, HAVILAH IS MY NEXTNEW FAVORITE, BECAUSE, YOU SEEM
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NEW FAVORITE, BECAUSE, YOU SEEMTO DO IT WELL AND ENJOY IT
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TO DO IT WELL AND ENJOY ITWELL.
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WELL.SO, THANK YOU FOR THAT.
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SO, THANK YOU FOR THAT.- HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I DON'T
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- HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I DON'TKNOW IF ANY OF US ARE DOING IT
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KNOW IF ANY OF US ARE DOING ITPERFECTLY, BUT WE'RE ALL TRYING
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PERFECTLY, BUT WE'RE ALL TRYINGTO SURRENDER TO THE PROCESS,
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TO SURRENDER TO THE PROCESS,WHATEVER THAT MIGHT LOOK LIKE.
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WHATEVER THAT MIGHT LOOK LIKE.AND, I THINK BEING SINGLE, ON
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AND, I THINK BEING SINGLE, ONPURPOSE, WHETHER WE WANNA BE
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PURPOSE, WHETHER WE WANNA BESINGLE, ON PURPOSE, WHETHER WE
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SINGLE, ON PURPOSE, WHETHER WEWANNA BE SINGLE WITH PURPOSE --
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WANNA BE SINGLE WITH PURPOSE --I MEAN, THOSE ARE ALL VERY
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I MEAN, THOSE ARE ALL VERYDIFFERENT THINGS.
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DIFFERENT THINGS.JANICE, I'M CURIOUS, IF YOU
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JANICE, I'M CURIOUS, IF YOUWERE TO HAVE SAY ONE THING TO
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WERE TO HAVE SAY ONE THING TOYOUR SINGLE SELF, WHAT WOULD
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YOUR SINGLE SELF, WHAT WOULDYOU HAVE SAID TO YOURSELF TO
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YOU HAVE SAID TO YOURSELF TOENCOURAGE YOU, BACK IN THE DAY,
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ENCOURAGE YOU, BACK IN THE DAY,NOW THAT YOU'RE A MARRIED
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NOW THAT YOU'RE A MARRIEDWOMAN?
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WOMAN?- JANICE: YEAH. TRUST GOD AND
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- JANICE: YEAH. TRUST GOD ANDGET ALL HE HAS FOR YOU -- NOW.
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GET ALL HE HAS FOR YOU -- NOW.HE DOES WHAT HE DOES ON
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HE DOES WHAT HE DOES ONPURPOSE.
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PURPOSE.AND IT'S ALL ABOUT TRUSTING
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AND IT'S ALL ABOUT TRUSTINGHIM.
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HIM.AND SO, I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU
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AND SO, I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOUGUYS WHO ARE WATCHING MIGHT
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GUYS WHO ARE WATCHING MIGHTFIND YOURSELVES, WHETHER YOU'VE
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FIND YOURSELVES, WHETHER YOU'VEBEEN GIFTED WITH SINGLENESS OR
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BEEN GIFTED WITH SINGLENESS ORGIFTED WITH MARRIAGE.
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GIFTED WITH MARRIAGE.I JUST PRAY THAT YOU WOULD
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I JUST PRAY THAT YOU WOULDBEGIN TO TRUST GOD, WHEREVER
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BEGIN TO TRUST GOD, WHEREVERYOU ARE, THAT YOU WOULD TRUST
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YOU ARE, THAT YOU WOULD TRUSTTHAT HE'S DOING THIS ON PURPOSE
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THAT HE'S DOING THIS ON PURPOSEAND HE HAS A PLAN FOR THIS
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AND HE HAS A PLAN FOR THISSEASON ON YOUR LIFE.
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SEASON ON YOUR LIFE.IF YOU HAVE KIDS CLIMBING ON
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IF YOU HAVE KIDS CLIMBING ONYOUR HEAD, LIKE ME AND HAVILAH,
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YOUR HEAD, LIKE ME AND HAVILAH,HE HAS A PLAN.
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HE HAS A PLAN.IF YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR
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IF YOU ARE ENJOYING YOURPRESENT COMPANY, RIGHT NOW,
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PRESENT COMPANY, RIGHT NOW,BEING YOURSELF, HE HAS A PLAN.
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BEING YOURSELF, HE HAS A PLAN.AND SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR YOU
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AND SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR YOUREALLY QUICKLY.
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REALLY QUICKLY.LORD, WE THANK YOU THAT YOU DO
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LORD, WE THANK YOU THAT YOU DOHAVE A PLAN FOR EACH OF US --
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HAVE A PLAN FOR EACH OF US --PLANS TO PROSPER US AND NOT TO
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PLANS TO PROSPER US AND NOT TOHARM US.
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HARM US.YOU HAVE GIFTED EACH AND EVERY
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YOU HAVE GIFTED EACH AND EVERYONE OF US, FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR
00:24:19.904 --> 00:24:20.337
ONE OF US, FOR THE SAKE OF YOURBODY.
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BODY.AND I JUST PRAY, LORD GOD, THAT
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AND I JUST PRAY, LORD GOD, THATYOU WOULD BEGIN TO HIGHLIGHT
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YOU WOULD BEGIN TO HIGHLIGHTFOR THOSE WATCHING, EVERYBODY
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FOR THOSE WATCHING, EVERYBODYWATCHING, RIGHT NOW, WHAT IT IS
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WATCHING, RIGHT NOW, WHAT IT ISYOU'RE DOING IN THIS SEASON IN
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YOU'RE DOING IN THIS SEASON INTHEIR LIVES.
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THEIR LIVES.I PRAY FOR PEACE WHEN IT COMES
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I PRAY FOR PEACE WHEN IT COMESTO THINKING ABOUT FUTURE
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TO THINKING ABOUT FUTURESEASONS, AND I PRAY FOR
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SEASONS, AND I PRAY FORCONTENTMENT WHILE CONTENDING,
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CONTENTMENT WHILE CONTENDING,WHILE LEAVING THE SPACE OPEN
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WHILE LEAVING THE SPACE OPENFOR WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO.
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FOR WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO.I PRAY FOR PEACE, RIGHT NOW, IN
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I PRAY FOR PEACE, RIGHT NOW, INTHE NAME OF JESUS; FOR JOY,
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THE NAME OF JESUS; FOR JOY,RIGHT NOW; FOR PEACE; FOR
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RIGHT NOW; FOR PEACE; FORGRATITUDE, LORD.
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GRATITUDE, LORD.I JUST PRAY THAT THE FRUIT OF
00:24:48.499 --> 00:24:49.934
I JUST PRAY THAT THE FRUIT OFTHE SPIRIT WOULD RUSH IN; THAT
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THE SPIRIT WOULD RUSH IN; THATEVEN WHEN WE'RE SQUEEZED, WHAT
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EVEN WHEN WE'RE SQUEEZED, WHATCOMES OUT IS THE FRUIT OF THE
00:24:52.503 --> 00:24:53.470
COMES OUT IS THE FRUIT OF THESPIRIT.
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SPIRIT.LET US AS MANDISA SAID,
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LET US AS MANDISA SAID,CLOTHE OURSELVES WITH THOSE
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CLOTHE OURSELVES WITH THOSETHINGS THAT ARE PLEASING TO
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THINGS THAT ARE PLEASING TOYOU.
00:24:59.143 --> 00:25:00.411
YOU.AND SO, LORD, WOULD YOU GIVE US
00:25:00.411 --> 00:25:02.313
AND SO, LORD, WOULD YOU GIVE USTHE COURAGE, RIGHT NOW, TO DO
00:25:02.313 --> 00:25:04.315
THE COURAGE, RIGHT NOW, TO DOIT?
00:25:04.315 --> 00:25:04.848
IT?AND I ENCOURAGE EVERYBODY
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AND I ENCOURAGE EVERYBODYWATCHING THAT YOU ARE GOOD AND
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WATCHING THAT YOU ARE GOOD ANDYOU ARE TRUSTWORTHY AND THEY
00:25:07.851 --> 00:25:09.053
YOU ARE TRUSTWORTHY AND THEYCAN TRUST YOU WITH THIS.
00:25:09.053 --> 00:25:10.454
CAN TRUST YOU WITH THIS.I PRAY THAT YOU ARE BLESSED.
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I PRAY THAT YOU ARE BLESSED.IN JESUS' NAME, WE PRAY...AMEN.
00:25:12.389 --> 00:25:18.295
IN JESUS' NAME, WE PRAY...AMEN.- MANDISA: AMEN.
00:25:18.295 --> 00:25:18.929
- MANDISA: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ON
00:25:18.929 --> 00:25:19.530
- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOW
00:25:19.530 --> 00:25:26.870
SOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
00:25:26.870 --> 00:25:27.671
HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.YOU CAN STREAM
00:25:27.671 --> 00:25:28.505
YOU CAN STREAM"BETTER TOGETHER" EPISODES ON
00:25:28.505 --> 00:25:29.239
"BETTER TOGETHER" EPISODES ONTHE GO.
00:25:29.239 --> 00:25:30.007
THE GO.DOWNLOAD THE TBN APP TO
00:25:30.007 --> 00:25:30.674
DOWNLOAD THE TBN APP TOWATCH ALL OF OUR LATEST
00:25:30.674 --> 00:25:33.677
WATCH ALL OF OUR LATESTCONVERSATIONS.
00:25:33.677 --> 00:25:34.345
CONVERSATIONS.NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
00:25:34.345 --> 00:25:36.246
NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- MANDISA: GOD, LET ME NOT
00:25:36.246 --> 00:25:37.915
- MANDISA: GOD, LET ME NOTTAKE FOR GRANTED THE MOST
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TAKE FOR GRANTED THE MOSTINCREDIBLE FRIENDS THAT I HAVE,
00:25:38.882 --> 00:25:41.418
INCREDIBLE FRIENDS THAT I HAVE,AS A SINGLE WOMAN.
00:25:41.418 --> 00:25:44.421
AS A SINGLE WOMAN.AND I FIND MY RELATIONSHIPS
00:25:44.421 --> 00:25:45.556
AND I FIND MY RELATIONSHIPSWITH OTHER PEOPLE -- THAT IS SO
00:25:45.556 --> 00:25:48.525
WITH OTHER PEOPLE -- THAT IS SOIMPORTANT.
00:25:48.525 --> 00:25:49.059
IMPORTANT.- LAURIE: WATCH "BETTER
00:25:49.059 --> 00:25:50.260
- LAURIE: WATCH "BETTERTOGETHER" WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY
00:25:50.260 --> 00:25:53.163

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 143

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