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Better Together LIVE | Episode 143

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November 11, 2020
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 143

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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: IF YOU THINK
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: IF YOU THINKBEING SINGLE MEANS FEELING
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  • BEING SINGLE MEANS FEELINGLONELY ALL THE TIME, YOU NEED
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  • LONELY ALL THE TIME, YOU NEEDTO THINK AGAIN.
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  • TO THINK AGAIN.JESUS PROMISED US A LIFE AND
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  • JESUS PROMISED US A LIFE ANDLIFE MORE ABUNDANTLY.
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  • LIFE MORE ABUNDANTLY.TODAY, WE ARE LEARNING HOW TO
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  • TODAY, WE ARE LEARNING HOW TOMAKE THE MOST OF EVERY SEASON
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  • MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY SEASONAND BUILD HEALTHY
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  • AND BUILD HEALTHYRELATIONSHIPS.
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.COME ON -- JOIN US.
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  • COME ON -- JOIN US.[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING]
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  • [MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING][MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC][MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC]- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: OKAY, SO,
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  • - MELINDA DOOLITTLE: OKAY, SO,LADIES, I'M ABOUT TO BE REAL
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  • LADIES, I'M ABOUT TO BE REALREAL WITH YOU.
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  • REAL WITH YOU.- MANDISA: COME ON.
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  • - MANDISA: COME ON.[SOUND OF FINGERS SNAPPING]
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  • [SOUND OF FINGERS SNAPPING]- MELINDA: UH...WHEN I WAS
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  • - MELINDA: UH...WHEN I WASGROWING UP, LIKE EARLY 20s,
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  • GROWING UP, LIKE EARLY 20s,I WROTE DOWN A LIST OF WHAT I
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  • I WROTE DOWN A LIST OF WHAT IWOULD WANT IN A HUSBAND.
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  • WOULD WANT IN A HUSBAND.THEY TOLD ME, AT CHURCH, THAT
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  • THEY TOLD ME, AT CHURCH, THATTHAT WAS A GREAT IDEA.
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  • THAT WAS A GREAT IDEA.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND SO, I WROTE THIS LIST.
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  • AND SO, I WROTE THIS LIST.AND THEY SAID, "BE SPECIFIC."
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  • AND THEY SAID, "BE SPECIFIC."YOU KNOW?
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  • YOU KNOW?BECAUSE WE WERE GONNA PRAY OVER
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  • BECAUSE WE WERE GONNA PRAY OVERTHAT LIST, EVERY DAY.
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  • THAT LIST, EVERY DAY.LIKE, THAT WAS SOMETHING THAT
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  • LIKE, THAT WAS SOMETHING THATWE WERE ABOUT TO PRAY OVER.
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  • WE WERE ABOUT TO PRAY OVER.AND SO, I WAS EXTREMELY
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  • AND SO, I WAS EXTREMELYSPECIFIC.
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  • SPECIFIC.I PROBABLY, IN RETROSPECT,
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  • I PROBABLY, IN RETROSPECT,SHOULD HAVE KNOWN, LIKE:
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  • SHOULD HAVE KNOWN, LIKE:MAYBE...MAYBE YOU'RE NOT
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  • MAYBE...MAYBE YOU'RE NOTLOOKING TO GET MARRIED.
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  • LOOKING TO GET MARRIED.'CAUSE I WAS WRITING THINGS
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  • 'CAUSE I WAS WRITING THINGSLIKE: LORD, PLEASE MAKE SURE
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  • LIKE: LORD, PLEASE MAKE SURETHAT HE TRAVELS AT LEAST FOUR
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  • THAT HE TRAVELS AT LEAST FOURDAYS A WEEK.
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  • DAYS A WEEK.AND...UM...
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  • AND...UM...[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT HE'S
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  • PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT HE'SOKAY, YOU KNOW, NOT BEING
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  • OKAY, YOU KNOW, NOT BEINGAROUND THAT MUCH.
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  • AROUND THAT MUCH.AND ALL OF THAT KIND OF STUFF.
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  • AND ALL OF THAT KIND OF STUFF.AND SO, I, LITERALLY, HAD THIS
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  • AND SO, I, LITERALLY, HAD THISLONG LIST.
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  • LONG LIST.AND I PRAYED OVER IT, OVER AND
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  • AND I PRAYED OVER IT, OVER ANDOVER.
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  • OVER.AND THAT WAS A TIME IN MY LIFE
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  • AND THAT WAS A TIME IN MY LIFEWHERE I DID A LOT OF TALKING TO
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  • WHERE I DID A LOT OF TALKING TOGOD, BUT NOT A LOT OF
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  • GOD, BUT NOT A LOT OFLISTENING.
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  • LISTENING.AND SO, I WOULD JUST TALK AND
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  • AND SO, I WOULD JUST TALK ANDBE LIKE: OKAY, I READ THIS
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  • BE LIKE: OKAY, I READ THISLIST.
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  • LIST.MAKE IT HAPPEN.
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  • MAKE IT HAPPEN.THAT'S WHAT YOU DO, LORD.
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  • THAT'S WHAT YOU DO, LORD.GO FOR IT.
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  • GO FOR IT.AND...PROBABLY A YEAR INTO THAT
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  • AND...PROBABLY A YEAR INTO THATPROCESS, Y'ALL -- IT TOOK ME A
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  • PROCESS, Y'ALL -- IT TOOK ME AYEAR TO GET HERE -- BUT A YEAR
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  • YEAR TO GET HERE -- BUT A YEARINTO THE PROCESS, IT DAWNED ON
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  • INTO THE PROCESS, IT DAWNED ONME: MAYBE I SHOULD LISTEN,
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  • ME: MAYBE I SHOULD LISTEN,AFTER THIS PRAYER.
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  • AFTER THIS PRAYER.AND, SO, I SAT DOWN, I PRAYED
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  • AND, SO, I SAT DOWN, I PRAYEDOVER THIS LIST, AND THEN I JUST
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  • OVER THIS LIST, AND THEN I JUSTLISTENED.
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  • LISTENED.AND, IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SAID
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  • AND, IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SAIDTO ME, IN THAT MOMENT: HEY, YOU
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  • TO ME, IN THAT MOMENT: HEY, YOUMADE THIS WHOLE LIST.
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  • MADE THIS WHOLE LIST.WHAT KIND OF WOMAN WOULD YOU
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  • WHAT KIND OF WOMAN WOULD YOUNEED TO BE IN ORDER TO BE READY
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  • NEED TO BE IN ORDER TO BE READYFOR THIS LIST THAT YOU'VE
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  • FOR THIS LIST THAT YOU'VEWRITTEN OUT?
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  • WRITTEN OUT?AND I WAS LIKE: OH!
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  • AND I WAS LIKE: OH!SO, I SPENT THE NEXT AMOUNT OF
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  • SO, I SPENT THE NEXT AMOUNT OFTIME WRITING A LIST ABOUT THE
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  • TIME WRITING A LIST ABOUT THETYPE OF WOMAN THAT I WANTED TO
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  • TYPE OF WOMAN THAT I WANTED TOBE, IN ORDER TO EVEN ATTRACT
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  • BE, IN ORDER TO EVEN ATTRACTTHAT KIND OF MAN; THAT, LIKE,
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  • THAT KIND OF MAN; THAT, LIKE,WHAT I HAD ASKED FOR -- ALL OF
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  • WHAT I HAD ASKED FOR -- ALL OFTHAT -- I MADE THIS LIST ABOUT
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  • THAT -- I MADE THIS LIST ABOUTTHE TYPE OF WOMAN I WANTED TO
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  • THE TYPE OF WOMAN I WANTED TOBE.
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  • BE.AND THEN, I STARTED FOCUSING ON
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  • AND THEN, I STARTED FOCUSING ONTHAT.
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  • THAT.I STARTED WORKING ON THAT
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  • I STARTED WORKING ON THATWOMAN.
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  • WOMAN.I STARTED LEARNING HOW TO BE
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  • I STARTED LEARNING HOW TO BESPONTANEOUS.
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  • SPONTANEOUS.I HAD WRITTEN THAT I WANTED HIM
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  • I HAD WRITTEN THAT I WANTED HIMTO BE SPONTANEOUS AND I CAN'T
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  • TO BE SPONTANEOUS AND I CAN'TSURPRISES.
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  • SURPRISES.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]SO, I WAS LIKE: YOU
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  • SO, I WAS LIKE: YOUGOTTA...LIKE, YOU GOTTA GET
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  • GOTTA...LIKE, YOU GOTTA GETTHIS...TOGETHER, YOU KNOW?
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  • THIS...TOGETHER, YOU KNOW?LIKE, YOU'RE ASKING THESE
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  • LIKE, YOU'RE ASKING THESEQUESTIONS: WHAT WOULD YOU BRING
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  • QUESTIONS: WHAT WOULD YOU BRINGTO THE TABLE?
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  • TO THE TABLE?AND SO, I WORKED ON MYSELF, FOR
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  • AND SO, I WORKED ON MYSELF, FORA COUPLE OF YEARS, ACTUALLY.
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  • A COUPLE OF YEARS, ACTUALLY.AND, WHAT HAPPENED WAS I FELL
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  • AND, WHAT HAPPENED WAS I FELLIN LOVE WITH THE WOMAN THAT I
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  • IN LOVE WITH THE WOMAN THAT IGREW TO BE.
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  • GREW TO BE.I...STARTED TO ENJOY MY
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  • I...STARTED TO ENJOY MYCOMPANY.
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  • COMPANY.AND THIS MAY SOUND-- I DON'T
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  • AND THIS MAY SOUND-- I DON'TWANT IT TO SOUND ARROGANT AT
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  • WANT IT TO SOUND ARROGANT ATALL, BUT I JUST LIKE HANGING
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  • ALL, BUT I JUST LIKE HANGINGOUT WITH ME!
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  • OUT WITH ME!AND I REALIZED IN THAT MOMENT:
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  • AND I REALIZED IN THAT MOMENT:WAIT A MINUTE.
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  • WAIT A MINUTE.I LIKE BEING SINGLE.
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  • I LIKE BEING SINGLE.LIKE, I'M OKAY.
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  • LIKE, I'M OKAY.LIKE, I LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITH
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  • LIKE, I LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITHMYSELF.
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  • MYSELF.I LIKE TO JUST HANG.
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  • I LIKE TO JUST HANG.MY FAVORITE BIRTHDAY IS ALL BY
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  • MY FAVORITE BIRTHDAY IS ALL BYMYSELF WITH NOBODY AROUND.
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  • MYSELF WITH NOBODY AROUND.THAT'S SOMETHING...
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  • THAT'S SOMETHING...[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]'CAUSE I AM FUN!
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  • 'CAUSE I AM FUN!AND I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT
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  • AND I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUTMYSELF IN THAT IN GROWING JUST
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  • MYSELF IN THAT IN GROWING JUSTINTO MY SINGLENESS AND INTO THE
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  • INTO MY SINGLENESS AND INTO THEWOMAN THAT GOD CREATED ME TO
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  • WOMAN THAT GOD CREATED ME TOBE, THAT THAT LIST FOR THE MAN
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  • BE, THAT THAT LIST FOR THE MANDIDN'T MATTER, ANYMORE.
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  • DIDN'T MATTER, ANYMORE.THE LIST, FOR ME, BECAME: DO
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  • THE LIST, FOR ME, BECAME: DOYOU LOVE YOURSELF?
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  • YOU LOVE YOURSELF?DO YOU LOVE WHO GOD CREATED YOU
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  • DO YOU LOVE WHO GOD CREATED YOUAS?
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  • AS?AND, I THINK THAT THAT IS WHAT
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  • AND, I THINK THAT THAT IS WHATHAS KIND OF INFORMED ME BEING
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  • HAS KIND OF INFORMED ME BEINGSINGLE AND ABSOLUTELY LOVING
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  • SINGLE AND ABSOLUTELY LOVINGIT.
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  • IT.- MANDISA: LOVE THAT!
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  • - MANDISA: LOVE THAT!- MELINDA: I TRULY, TRULY LOVE
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  • - MELINDA: I TRULY, TRULY LOVEIT.
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  • IT.AND I WONDER, FOR OUR MARRIED
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  • AND I WONDER, FOR OUR MARRIEDLADIES -- HAVILAH, LIKE...DO
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  • LADIES -- HAVILAH, LIKE...DOYOU REMEMBER BEING SINGLE AND
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  • YOU REMEMBER BEING SINGLE ANDWHAT DID YOU LOVE ABOUT IT?
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  • WHAT DID YOU LOVE ABOUT IT?IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS?
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  • IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS?- HAVILAH: YEAH.
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  • - HAVILAH: YEAH.UH, WELL...ABSOLUTELY.
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  • UH, WELL...ABSOLUTELY.I MEAN, FIRST OF ALL, I ENJOYED
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  • I MEAN, FIRST OF ALL, I ENJOYEDTHAT MY BODY WAS MY OWN AND IT
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  • THAT MY BODY WAS MY OWN AND ITWASN'T A EQUAL-LENDING PROPERTY
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  • WASN'T A EQUAL-LENDING PROPERTYOF THE HOUSE.
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  • OF THE HOUSE.BUT, I WILL SAY-- YOU KNOW,
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  • BUT, I WILL SAY-- YOU KNOW,MELINDA, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.
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  • MELINDA, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.AND I'VE NEVER HEARD IT SAID SO
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  • AND I'VE NEVER HEARD IT SAID SOARTICULATELY ABOUT WHAT YOU
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  • ARTICULATELY ABOUT WHAT YOUDID, AND HOW YOU PROCESSED
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  • DID, AND HOW YOU PROCESSEDTHAT, AND HOW YOU FELL IN LOVE
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  • THAT, AND HOW YOU FELL IN LOVEWITH YOURSELF.
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  • WITH YOURSELF.I HAVEN'T EVER HEARD SOMEONE
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  • I HAVEN'T EVER HEARD SOMEONEQUITE SAY IT THAT WAY.
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  • QUITE SAY IT THAT WAY.I JUST FEEL LIKE YOU SAID IT
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  • I JUST FEEL LIKE YOU SAID ITREALLY WELL.
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  • REALLY WELL.- MELINDA: AW, THANK YOU.
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  • - MELINDA: AW, THANK YOU.- HAVILAH: FOR ME, I REMEMBER
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  • - HAVILAH: FOR ME, I REMEMBERI GOT MARRIED AT 27 AND THEN
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  • I GOT MARRIED AT 27 AND THENSTARTED HAVING KIDS.
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  • STARTED HAVING KIDS.AND, I'D MAKE A JOKE ABOUT
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  • AND, I'D MAKE A JOKE ABOUTTHIS, BUT I REALLY DO REMEMBER
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  • THIS, BUT I REALLY DO REMEMBERTELLING GOD: WHY DIDN'T YOU LET
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  • TELLING GOD: WHY DIDN'T YOU LETME GET MARRIED LATER?
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  • ME GET MARRIED LATER?LIKE, HAVING MY BABIES IN MY
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  • LIKE, HAVING MY BABIES IN MY30s, I'M HAVING C-SECTIONS IN
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  • 30s, I'M HAVING C-SECTIONS INMY 30s...
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  • MY 30s...I MEAN, I HAVE THESE YOUNG MOMS
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  • I MEAN, I HAVE THESE YOUNG MOMSTHAT ARE LIKE BEBOPPING IN AT
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  • THAT ARE LIKE BEBOPPING IN AT20, 21, WITH THEIR LITTLES, AND
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  • 20, 21, WITH THEIR LITTLES, ANDI'M THE WOMAN THAT'S LIKE:
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  • I'M THE WOMAN THAT'S LIKE:WE'RE NOT HAVING A PLAYDATE,
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  • WE'RE NOT HAVING A PLAYDATE,'CAUSE I HAVE TO LAY DOWN IN
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  • 'CAUSE I HAVE TO LAY DOWN INTHE MIDDLE OF THE AFTERNOON,
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  • THE MIDDLE OF THE AFTERNOON,LIKE.
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  • LIKE.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND I HAVE TO EAT CHIPS AND
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  • AND I HAVE TO EAT CHIPS ANDSALSA, LAYING DOWN AND WATCHING
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  • SALSA, LAYING DOWN AND WATCHINGAN AFTERNOON TALK SHOW OR I
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  • AN AFTERNOON TALK SHOW OR IWON'T MAKE IT.
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  • WON'T MAKE IT.LIKE, THAT WAS MY THOUGHT.
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  • LIKE, THAT WAS MY THOUGHT.SO, I DIDN'T KNOW MY DREAMS
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  • SO, I DIDN'T KNOW MY DREAMSWOULD BE COMING TRUE AND I WAS
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  • WOULD BE COMING TRUE AND I WASCOMPLETELY EXHAUSTED.
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  • COMPLETELY EXHAUSTED.BUT I REMEMBER TELLING GOD
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  • BUT I REMEMBER TELLING GODTHAT.
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  • THAT.AND GOD SAID: HAVILAH, IF I HAD
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  • AND GOD SAID: HAVILAH, IF I HADGIVEN YOU THIS WHEN YOU WERE IN
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  • GIVEN YOU THIS WHEN YOU WERE INYOUR 20s, YOU WOULD HAVE
  • 00:05:28.607 --> 00:05:31.376
  • YOUR 20s, YOU WOULD HAVERESENTED ME.
  • 00:05:31.376 --> 00:05:32.010
  • RESENTED ME.AND I SAID, "WELL, WHAT DO YOU
  • 00:05:32.010 --> 00:05:32.344
  • AND I SAID, "WELL, WHAT DO YOUMEAN BY THAT?"
  • 00:05:32.344 --> 00:05:32.978
  • MEAN BY THAT?"AND HE SAID: BECAUSE YOU WERE
  • 00:05:32.978 --> 00:05:34.045
  • AND HE SAID: BECAUSE YOU WERESOMEBODY THAT NEEDED TO
  • 00:05:34.045 --> 00:05:35.414
  • SOMEBODY THAT NEEDED TOEXPERIENCE, TO TOUCH, AND TO
  • 00:05:35.414 --> 00:05:37.182
  • EXPERIENCE, TO TOUCH, AND TOFEEL LIFE IN A WAY THAT, BEING
  • 00:05:37.182 --> 00:05:38.316
  • FEEL LIFE IN A WAY THAT, BEINGA MOM, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE THAT
  • 00:05:38.316 --> 00:05:40.952
  • A MOM, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE THATLUXURY.
  • 00:05:40.952 --> 00:05:42.454
  • LUXURY.AND I KNEW IT WAS TRUE.
  • 00:05:42.454 --> 00:05:43.755
  • AND I KNEW IT WAS TRUE.WHEN I WAS SINGLE, YOU GUYS, I
  • 00:05:43.755 --> 00:05:45.457
  • WHEN I WAS SINGLE, YOU GUYS, IDID EVERYTHING.
  • 00:05:45.457 --> 00:05:46.958
  • DID EVERYTHING.MY GIRLFRIEND AND I WENT
  • 00:05:46.958 --> 00:05:48.226
  • MY GIRLFRIEND AND I WENTBACKPACKING IN THAILAND AND
  • 00:05:48.226 --> 00:05:48.994
  • BACKPACKING IN THAILAND ANDCAMBODIA FOR THREE WEEKS.
  • 00:05:48.994 --> 00:05:50.762
  • CAMBODIA FOR THREE WEEKS.I WENT TO MULTIPLE NATIONS.
  • 00:05:50.762 --> 00:05:52.864
  • I WENT TO MULTIPLE NATIONS.I MEAN, I HAD A BLAST!
  • 00:05:52.864 --> 00:05:53.632
  • I MEAN, I HAD A BLAST!BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:05:53.632 --> 00:05:55.167
  • BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?I DON'T LOOK BACK ON MY SINGLE
  • 00:05:55.167 --> 00:05:56.134
  • I DON'T LOOK BACK ON MY SINGLEYEARS AND THINK: OH, I WAS
  • 00:05:56.134 --> 00:05:58.370
  • YEARS AND THINK: OH, I WASJUST...MISERABLE.
  • 00:05:58.370 --> 00:05:58.837
  • JUST...MISERABLE.NO, NO, NO.
  • 00:05:58.837 --> 00:06:00.071
  • NO, NO, NO.I HAD A COMPLETE-- I HAD THE
  • 00:06:00.071 --> 00:06:02.040
  • I HAD A COMPLETE-- I HAD THETIME OF MY LIFE.
  • 00:06:02.040 --> 00:06:03.442
  • TIME OF MY LIFE.THERE WERE YEARS WHERE I WAS
  • 00:06:03.442 --> 00:06:03.809
  • THERE WERE YEARS WHERE I WASMISERABLE.
  • 00:06:03.809 --> 00:06:06.678
  • MISERABLE.I WAS IN 17 WEDDINGS.
  • 00:06:06.678 --> 00:06:07.279
  • I WAS IN 17 WEDDINGS.SEVENTEEN WEDDINGS, BEFORE I
  • 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:07.913
  • SEVENTEEN WEDDINGS, BEFORE IGOT MARRIED.
  • 00:06:07.913 --> 00:06:09.214
  • GOT MARRIED.WAS HORRIBLE.
  • 00:06:09.214 --> 00:06:09.981
  • WAS HORRIBLE.(LAUGHING) IT WAS HORRIBLE.
  • 00:06:09.981 --> 00:06:11.283
  • (LAUGHING) IT WAS HORRIBLE.AND I REMEMBER THERE WOULD BE
  • 00:06:11.283 --> 00:06:12.317
  • AND I REMEMBER THERE WOULD BETHESE GIRLS THAT WOULD BE
  • 00:06:12.317 --> 00:06:13.318
  • THESE GIRLS THAT WOULD BECOMING UP AND GO: "YOU KNOW,
  • 00:06:13.318 --> 00:06:14.352
  • COMING UP AND GO: "YOU KNOW,I'VE WAITED MY WHOLE LIFE FOR
  • 00:06:14.352 --> 00:06:15.353
  • I'VE WAITED MY WHOLE LIFE FORYOU."
  • 00:06:15.353 --> 00:06:15.921
  • YOU."AND I'M LIKE: YOU'RE 19.
  • 00:06:15.921 --> 00:06:17.422
  • AND I'M LIKE: YOU'RE 19.CALM DOWN.
  • 00:06:17.422 --> 00:06:18.323
  • CALM DOWN.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:06:18.323 --> 00:06:18.957
  • [LAUGHTER]YOU JUST GOT OUT OF YOUR MOM'S
  • 00:06:18.957 --> 00:06:19.925
  • YOU JUST GOT OUT OF YOUR MOM'SWOMB!
  • 00:06:19.925 --> 00:06:20.625
  • WOMB!AND YOU WAITED?
  • 00:06:20.625 --> 00:06:22.127
  • AND YOU WAITED?FORGOT YOU'RE 19!
  • 00:06:22.127 --> 00:06:24.129
  • FORGOT YOU'RE 19!CALM DOWN.
  • 00:06:24.129 --> 00:06:24.863
  • CALM DOWN.BUT, WHAT I REALIZED WAS IS
  • 00:06:24.863 --> 00:06:26.565
  • BUT, WHAT I REALIZED WAS ISTHAT BECAUSE I USED MY SINGLE
  • 00:06:26.565 --> 00:06:28.099
  • THAT BECAUSE I USED MY SINGLELIFE AS A WHOLE PERSON, AND I
  • 00:06:28.099 --> 00:06:29.301
  • LIFE AS A WHOLE PERSON, AND IDID EVERYTHING I COULD, AND I
  • 00:06:29.301 --> 00:06:30.902
  • DID EVERYTHING I COULD, AND IGREW MY MINISTRY GIFTS, AND I
  • 00:06:30.902 --> 00:06:33.305
  • GREW MY MINISTRY GIFTS, AND ISPOKE, AND I PROPHESIED, AND I
  • 00:06:33.305 --> 00:06:34.840
  • SPOKE, AND I PROPHESIED, AND IDID ALL THE THINGS I WANTED TO
  • 00:06:34.840 --> 00:06:36.174
  • DID ALL THE THINGS I WANTED TODO, WHEN I GOT MARRIED, I WAS
  • 00:06:36.174 --> 00:06:38.076
  • DO, WHEN I GOT MARRIED, I WASREADY TO GO BACK INTO FIRST
  • 00:06:38.076 --> 00:06:38.577
  • READY TO GO BACK INTO FIRSTGEAR.
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  • GEAR.AND I DIDN'T MIND BEING BORED.
  • 00:06:40.278 --> 00:06:41.546
  • AND I DIDN'T MIND BEING BORED.I DIDN'T MIND BEING TIRED.
  • 00:06:41.546 --> 00:06:43.682
  • I DIDN'T MIND BEING TIRED.BECAUSE I HAD LIVED MY STORY.
  • 00:06:43.682 --> 00:06:45.283
  • BECAUSE I HAD LIVED MY STORY.AND I THINK IT'S JUST CRITICAL
  • 00:06:45.283 --> 00:06:47.252
  • AND I THINK IT'S JUST CRITICALTHAT WE KEEP THINKING THAT A
  • 00:06:47.252 --> 00:06:49.187
  • THAT WE KEEP THINKING THAT AMOMENT IN TIME'S GONNA UNLOCK
  • 00:06:49.187 --> 00:06:50.355
  • MOMENT IN TIME'S GONNA UNLOCKOUR PASSION AND CALLING IN ALL
  • 00:06:50.355 --> 00:06:51.790
  • OUR PASSION AND CALLING IN ALLTHE THINGS.
  • 00:06:51.790 --> 00:06:53.592
  • THE THINGS.AND WE'VE MADE IT AN IDOL.
  • 00:06:53.592 --> 00:06:54.659
  • AND WE'VE MADE IT AN IDOL.LIKE: OH, IF WE GET MARRIED,
  • 00:06:54.659 --> 00:06:55.827
  • LIKE: OH, IF WE GET MARRIED,THEN I'M GONNA FEEL FULFILLED.
  • 00:06:55.827 --> 00:06:57.195
  • THEN I'M GONNA FEEL FULFILLED.IF I CAN HAVE SEX, THEN I WON'T
  • 00:06:57.195 --> 00:06:59.064
  • IF I CAN HAVE SEX, THEN I WON'THAVE TO HAD SELF-CONTROL.
  • 00:06:59.064 --> 00:07:01.433
  • HAVE TO HAD SELF-CONTROL.IF I CAN JUST HAVE A SPOUSE
  • 00:07:01.433 --> 00:07:02.234
  • IF I CAN JUST HAVE A SPOUSETHAT CARES ABOUT ME, I'M NEVER
  • 00:07:02.234 --> 00:07:03.301
  • THAT CARES ABOUT ME, I'M NEVERGONNA FEEL LONELY.
  • 00:07:03.301 --> 00:07:04.636
  • GONNA FEEL LONELY.AND I JUST WANNA BE HONEST WITH
  • 00:07:04.636 --> 00:07:05.237
  • AND I JUST WANNA BE HONEST WITHYOU.
  • 00:07:05.237 --> 00:07:06.438
  • YOU.AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S JUST
  • 00:07:06.438 --> 00:07:07.672
  • AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S JUSTMY MARRIAGE, BUT I KNOW-- I
  • 00:07:07.672 --> 00:07:08.707
  • MY MARRIAGE, BUT I KNOW-- ITHINK JANICE CAN TALK-- AGREE
  • 00:07:08.707 --> 00:07:10.041
  • THINK JANICE CAN TALK-- AGREEWITH THIS: I DON'T THINK THAT'S
  • 00:07:10.041 --> 00:07:10.976
  • WITH THIS: I DON'T THINK THAT'STRUE AT ALL.
  • 00:07:10.976 --> 00:07:13.778
  • TRUE AT ALL.I HAVEN'T SEEN THAT TO BE THE
  • 00:07:13.778 --> 00:07:14.846
  • I HAVEN'T SEEN THAT TO BE THECASE AT ALL.
  • 00:07:14.846 --> 00:07:17.883
  • CASE AT ALL.I THINK MARRIAGE IS WHAT YOU
  • 00:07:17.883 --> 00:07:18.517
  • I THINK MARRIAGE IS WHAT YOUGIVE TO IT, BUT I ALSO THINK
  • 00:07:18.517 --> 00:07:19.951
  • GIVE TO IT, BUT I ALSO THINKBEING SINGLE IS WHAT YOU GIVE
  • 00:07:19.951 --> 00:07:20.919
  • BEING SINGLE IS WHAT YOU GIVETO IT.
  • 00:07:20.919 --> 00:07:22.053
  • TO IT.AND TO BE HONEST, I DON'T FEEL
  • 00:07:22.053 --> 00:07:23.255
  • AND TO BE HONEST, I DON'T FEELLIKE THERE'S THAT MUCH OF A
  • 00:07:23.255 --> 00:07:24.623
  • LIKE THERE'S THAT MUCH OF ADIFFERENCE IN HOW I'M GONNA
  • 00:07:24.623 --> 00:07:26.224
  • DIFFERENCE IN HOW I'M GONNALIVE FULFILLED.
  • 00:07:26.224 --> 00:07:27.893
  • LIVE FULFILLED.BECAUSE, I'M EITHER GONNA LIKE
  • 00:07:27.893 --> 00:07:29.594
  • BECAUSE, I'M EITHER GONNA LIKEWHO I AM AND CHOOSE THE LIFE I
  • 00:07:29.594 --> 00:07:30.896
  • WHO I AM AND CHOOSE THE LIFE IHAVE, AND GIVE GOD ALL OF IT,
  • 00:07:30.896 --> 00:07:32.597
  • HAVE, AND GIVE GOD ALL OF IT,AND ENJOY IT, OR I'M NOT.
  • 00:07:32.597 --> 00:07:35.000
  • AND ENJOY IT, OR I'M NOT.AND I CAN BE SINGLE AND
  • 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:35.634
  • AND I CAN BE SINGLE ANDMISERABLE, OR I CAN BE MARRIED
  • 00:07:35.634 --> 00:07:37.502
  • MISERABLE, OR I CAN BE MARRIEDAND MISERABLE.
  • 00:07:37.502 --> 00:07:38.270
  • AND MISERABLE.OR I CAN BE SINGLE AND LOVING
  • 00:07:38.270 --> 00:07:39.371
  • OR I CAN BE SINGLE AND LOVINGIT, AND I CAN BE MARRIED AND
  • 00:07:39.371 --> 00:07:39.804
  • IT, AND I CAN BE MARRIED ANDLOVING IT.
  • 00:07:39.804 --> 00:07:41.139
  • LOVING IT.EVERYTHING LIES WITHIN THE
  • 00:07:41.139 --> 00:07:42.941
  • EVERYTHING LIES WITHIN THEPOWER FOR ME TO CHOOSE WHO I
  • 00:07:42.941 --> 00:07:44.809
  • POWER FOR ME TO CHOOSE WHO IWANNA BE, AND WHERE I WANNA BE,
  • 00:07:44.809 --> 00:07:46.545
  • WANNA BE, AND WHERE I WANNA BE,AND HOW I WANNA LIVE IT.
  • 00:07:46.545 --> 00:07:47.445
  • AND HOW I WANNA LIVE IT.SO, I DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:07:47.445 --> 00:07:48.513
  • SO, I DON'T KNOW.BUT THAT WAS REALLY-- THAT WAS
  • 00:07:48.513 --> 00:07:50.048
  • BUT THAT WAS REALLY-- THAT WASREALLY TRUE.
  • 00:07:50.048 --> 00:07:50.916
  • REALLY TRUE.AND I WILL SAY THIS -- AND NOT
  • 00:07:50.916 --> 00:07:52.684
  • AND I WILL SAY THIS -- AND NOTTO BELABOR IT -- BUT WHEN THE
  • 00:07:52.684 --> 00:07:55.120
  • TO BELABOR IT -- BUT WHEN THEBIBLE SAYS THAT TWO SHALL BECOME
  • 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:55.720
  • BIBLE SAYS THAT TWO SHALL BECOMEONE, I ASSUMED THAT IT WOULD
  • 00:07:55.720 --> 00:07:56.221
  • ONE, I ASSUMED THAT IT WOULDBE ME.
  • 00:07:56.221 --> 00:07:58.723
  • BE ME.I WAS THE BEST CHOICE OF WHO WE
  • 00:07:58.723 --> 00:07:59.658
  • I WAS THE BEST CHOICE OF WHO WEWERE GONNA BECOME.
  • 00:07:59.658 --> 00:08:01.560
  • WERE GONNA BECOME.AND WHAT I REALIZED AFTER THAT
  • 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:03.028
  • AND WHAT I REALIZED AFTER THATWAS: I BECAME THE WOMAN THAT I
  • 00:08:03.028 --> 00:08:04.629
  • WAS: I BECAME THE WOMAN THAT ICOULD BE TO BE MARRIED, BUT
  • 00:08:04.629 --> 00:08:07.198
  • COULD BE TO BE MARRIED, BUTMARRIAGE IS WHERE YOU PICK UP
  • 00:08:07.198 --> 00:08:08.733
  • MARRIAGE IS WHERE YOU PICK UPYOUR CROSS AND YOU DIE.
  • 00:08:08.733 --> 00:08:09.901
  • YOUR CROSS AND YOU DIE.MARRIAGE IS NOT A PLACE WHERE I
  • 00:08:09.901 --> 00:08:11.036
  • MARRIAGE IS NOT A PLACE WHERE IFULFILL ALL MY DREAMS, AND THEY
  • 00:08:11.036 --> 00:08:14.105
  • FULFILL ALL MY DREAMS, AND THEYARE THE ONES THAT'S GONNA SERVE
  • 00:08:14.105 --> 00:08:15.774
  • ARE THE ONES THAT'S GONNA SERVEME, AND I'M GONNA END UP, AT
  • 00:08:15.774 --> 00:08:16.374
  • ME, AND I'M GONNA END UP, ATTHE END OF THE DATE, WITH A
  • 00:08:16.374 --> 00:08:18.543
  • THE END OF THE DATE, WITH AROSE AND A HELICOPTER RIDE.
  • 00:08:18.543 --> 00:08:19.578
  • ROSE AND A HELICOPTER RIDE.AND, YOU KNOW, WE BECOME-- WE
  • 00:08:19.578 --> 00:08:21.646
  • AND, YOU KNOW, WE BECOME-- WEDO BECOME AND TO A POINT.
  • 00:08:21.646 --> 00:08:22.847
  • DO BECOME AND TO A POINT.BUT IT'S ONLY THROUGH MATURITY,
  • 00:08:22.847 --> 00:08:24.115
  • BUT IT'S ONLY THROUGH MATURITY,EXPERIENCE, LEARNING, KIND OF
  • 00:08:24.115 --> 00:08:25.550
  • EXPERIENCE, LEARNING, KIND OFLAY OUR LIVES DOWN FOR EACH
  • 00:08:25.550 --> 00:08:26.451
  • LAY OUR LIVES DOWN FOR EACHOTHER: DO I REALLY LOVE WHO
  • 00:08:26.451 --> 00:08:28.887
  • OTHER: DO I REALLY LOVE WHOI'VE BECOME?
  • 00:08:28.887 --> 00:08:30.121
  • I'VE BECOME?AND BEN IS MY BROTHER, FIRST.
  • 00:08:30.121 --> 00:08:31.990
  • AND BEN IS MY BROTHER, FIRST.YEAH, HE'S MY HUSBAND.
  • 00:08:31.990 --> 00:08:34.492
  • YEAH, HE'S MY HUSBAND.BUT HE'S MY BROTHER IN CHRIST.
  • 00:08:34.492 --> 00:08:35.760
  • BUT HE'S MY BROTHER IN CHRIST.LIKE, I NEED TO LOVE HIM LIKE
  • 00:08:35.760 --> 00:08:36.995
  • LIKE, I NEED TO LOVE HIM LIKEHE BELONGS TO CHRIST, THAT HE'S
  • 00:08:36.995 --> 00:08:39.531
  • HE BELONGS TO CHRIST, THAT HE'SCHRIST'S KID, AND I'M GONNA LAY
  • 00:08:39.531 --> 00:08:41.333
  • CHRIST'S KID, AND I'M GONNA LAYMY LIFE DOWN FOR HIM IN A WAY
  • 00:08:41.333 --> 00:08:43.201
  • MY LIFE DOWN FOR HIM IN A WAYTHAT SERVES HIM AND HONORS HIM.
  • 00:08:43.201 --> 00:08:44.836
  • THAT SERVES HIM AND HONORS HIM.AND SO, IF YOU THINK YOU'RE
  • 00:08:44.836 --> 00:08:45.704
  • AND SO, IF YOU THINK YOU'REGONNA GET MARRIED TO SOLVE YOUR
  • 00:08:45.704 --> 00:08:46.304
  • GONNA GET MARRIED TO SOLVE YOURPROBLEMS, PLEASE DON'T GET
  • 00:08:46.304 --> 00:08:47.272
  • PROBLEMS, PLEASE DON'T GETMARRIED.
  • 00:08:47.272 --> 00:08:48.039
  • MARRIED.IT WILL BE A VERY MISERABLE
  • 00:08:48.039 --> 00:08:49.841
  • IT WILL BE A VERY MISERABLEJOURNEY.
  • 00:08:49.841 --> 00:08:50.942
  • JOURNEY.- MANDISA: WOW.
  • 00:08:50.942 --> 00:08:51.443
  • - MANDISA: WOW.- MELINDA: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:08:51.443 --> 00:08:52.277
  • - MELINDA: THAT'S GOOD.- JANICE: AW...THAT IS
  • 00:08:52.277 --> 00:08:52.777
  • - JANICE: AW...THAT ISBRILLIANT.
  • 00:08:52.777 --> 00:08:53.445
  • BRILLIANT.LISTEN, HAVILAH -- I'M LAUGHING
  • 00:08:53.445 --> 00:08:54.112
  • LISTEN, HAVILAH -- I'M LAUGHINGAND CRYING SO HARD AT YOU THAT,
  • 00:08:54.112 --> 00:08:55.046
  • AND CRYING SO HARD AT YOU THAT,LIKE, I'M HOLDING ONTO MY
  • 00:08:55.046 --> 00:08:56.982
  • LIKE, I'M HOLDING ONTO MYMAGNETIC LASHES, OKAY?
  • 00:08:56.982 --> 00:08:57.582
  • MAGNETIC LASHES, OKAY?BECAUSE, THEY DON'T DO WELL
  • 00:08:57.582 --> 00:08:58.550
  • BECAUSE, THEY DON'T DO WELLWITH THE WATER.
  • 00:08:58.550 --> 00:08:59.484
  • WITH THE WATER.AND THE REALITY IS THAT IS SO
  • 00:08:59.484 --> 00:09:01.519
  • AND THE REALITY IS THAT IS SOTRUE.
  • 00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:02.320
  • TRUE.I CAN RELATE TO BOTH WHAT
  • 00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:02.988
  • I CAN RELATE TO BOTH WHATYOU'RE SAYING AND WHAT MELINDA
  • 00:09:02.988 --> 00:09:04.522
  • YOU'RE SAYING AND WHAT MELINDASAID.
  • 00:09:04.522 --> 00:09:05.423
  • SAID.YOU KNOW, AS A MOM, NOW -- AS A
  • 00:09:05.423 --> 00:09:06.825
  • YOU KNOW, AS A MOM, NOW -- AS AWIFE AND A MOM -- I REALLY--
  • 00:09:06.825 --> 00:09:09.227
  • WIFE AND A MOM -- I REALLY--WELL, 12 YEARS AGO, MY HUSBAND
  • 00:09:09.227 --> 00:09:11.162
  • WELL, 12 YEARS AGO, MY HUSBANDAND I SAW THIS COMMERCIAL FOR
  • 00:09:11.162 --> 00:09:13.264
  • AND I SAW THIS COMMERCIAL FORTHIS EXERCISE ROUTINE THAT WAS
  • 00:09:13.264 --> 00:09:16.101
  • THIS EXERCISE ROUTINE THAT WASCALLED AND HAD A DOMAIN CALLED
  • 00:09:16.101 --> 00:09:17.302
  • CALLED AND HAD A DOMAIN CALLEDMAMAWANTSHERBODYBACK.COM.
  • 00:09:17.302 --> 00:09:20.572
  • MAMAWANTSHERBODYBACK.COM.AND I MEAN, WE LAUGHED...WE
  • 00:09:20.572 --> 00:09:21.539
  • AND I MEAN, WE LAUGHED...WELAUGHED AT HER!
  • 00:09:21.539 --> 00:09:22.374
  • LAUGHED AT HER!WE LAUGHED AT HER!
  • 00:09:22.374 --> 00:09:23.808
  • WE LAUGHED AT HER!THOSE FOOLISH, FOOLISH PEOPLE.
  • 00:09:23.808 --> 00:09:25.076
  • THOSE FOOLISH, FOOLISH PEOPLE.AND CUT TO ME LAST WEEK, TRYING
  • 00:09:25.076 --> 00:09:25.977
  • AND CUT TO ME LAST WEEK, TRYINGTO SEE IF THE DOMAIN IS STILL
  • 00:09:25.977 --> 00:09:27.278
  • TO SEE IF THE DOMAIN IS STILLLIVE.
  • 00:09:27.278 --> 00:09:28.747
  • LIVE.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:28.747 --> 00:09:30.815
  • [LAUGHTER]MYPOORLITTLEBODYBACK.COM,
  • 00:09:30.815 --> 00:09:31.683
  • MYPOORLITTLEBODYBACK.COM,RIGHT?
  • 00:09:31.683 --> 00:09:32.484
  • RIGHT?[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:32.484 --> 00:09:33.652
  • [LAUGHTER]BECAUSE THAT IS SO TRUE, YOU
  • 00:09:33.652 --> 00:09:34.486
  • BECAUSE THAT IS SO TRUE, YOUKNOW.
  • 00:09:34.486 --> 00:09:36.755
  • KNOW.MY BODY IS NOT MY OWN, AT THIS
  • 00:09:36.755 --> 00:09:37.355
  • MY BODY IS NOT MY OWN, AT THISPOINT.
  • 00:09:37.355 --> 00:09:39.057
  • POINT.BUT WHEN I WAS SINGLE, I
  • 00:09:39.057 --> 00:09:40.458
  • BUT WHEN I WAS SINGLE, IREMEMBER GOING TO THE MOVIES BY
  • 00:09:40.458 --> 00:09:44.162
  • REMEMBER GOING TO THE MOVIES BYMYSELF, GOING TO THE STORE BY
  • 00:09:44.162 --> 00:09:47.465
  • MYSELF, GOING TO THE STORE BYMYSELF, AND JUST ENJOYING MY
  • 00:09:47.465 --> 00:09:49.634
  • MYSELF, AND JUST ENJOYING MYOWN COMPANY, LAUGHING AT MY OWN
  • 00:09:49.634 --> 00:09:51.670
  • OWN COMPANY, LAUGHING AT MY OWNJOKES IN MY OWN HEAD, AND IT'S
  • 00:09:51.670 --> 00:09:53.138
  • JOKES IN MY OWN HEAD, AND IT'SJUST A DIFFERENT SEASON, YOU
  • 00:09:53.138 --> 00:09:54.339
  • JUST A DIFFERENT SEASON, YOUKNOW, WHERE I APPRECIATE MY
  • 00:09:54.339 --> 00:09:56.107
  • KNOW, WHERE I APPRECIATE MYHUSBAND AND MY CHILDREN.
  • 00:09:56.107 --> 00:09:58.043
  • HUSBAND AND MY CHILDREN.BUT, YES, I DID, AT SOME POINT,
  • 00:09:58.043 --> 00:09:59.210
  • BUT, YES, I DID, AT SOME POINT,HAVE TO COME TO THE PLACE WHERE
  • 00:09:59.210 --> 00:10:02.614
  • HAVE TO COME TO THE PLACE WHEREI ENJOYED ME.
  • 00:10:02.614 --> 00:10:04.015
  • I ENJOYED ME.AND, IT WAS REFRESHING.
  • 00:10:04.015 --> 00:10:05.350
  • AND, IT WAS REFRESHING.AND I CAN REMEMBER BEING IN
  • 00:10:05.350 --> 00:10:07.052
  • AND I CAN REMEMBER BEING INSEMINARY, AND WALKING DOWN TO
  • 00:10:07.052 --> 00:10:08.386
  • SEMINARY, AND WALKING DOWN TOTHE THEATER IN ASHLAND, OHIO,
  • 00:10:08.386 --> 00:10:10.255
  • THE THEATER IN ASHLAND, OHIO,BY MYSELF, TO SEE ALL THE
  • 00:10:10.255 --> 00:10:12.223
  • BY MYSELF, TO SEE ALL THEMOVIES COMING TO THE THEATER.
  • 00:10:12.223 --> 00:10:14.859
  • MOVIES COMING TO THE THEATER.GETTING MY POPCORN AND MY
  • 00:10:14.859 --> 00:10:15.460
  • GETTING MY POPCORN AND MYM&M'S, BECAUSE THOSE ARE THE
  • 00:10:15.460 --> 00:10:16.261
  • M&M'S, BECAUSE THOSE ARE THESNACK OF CHOICE...
  • 00:10:16.261 --> 00:10:18.363
  • SNACK OF CHOICE...- MELINDA: YES, THEY ARE.
  • 00:10:18.363 --> 00:10:18.930
  • - MELINDA: YES, THEY ARE.- JANICE: ...AND SITTING
  • 00:10:18.930 --> 00:10:19.998
  • - JANICE: ...AND SITTINGTHERE, WITH MY SPRITE, AND JUST
  • 00:10:19.998 --> 00:10:20.532
  • THERE, WITH MY SPRITE, AND JUSTTHINKING: WHAT A WONDERFUL
  • 00:10:20.532 --> 00:10:22.100
  • THINKING: WHAT A WONDERFULEVENING!
  • 00:10:22.100 --> 00:10:23.001
  • EVENING!I DON'T KNOW WHY MORE PEOPLE
  • 00:10:23.001 --> 00:10:23.702
  • I DON'T KNOW WHY MORE PEOPLEDON'T DO THIS!
  • 00:10:23.702 --> 00:10:24.936
  • DON'T DO THIS!YOU KNOW?
  • 00:10:24.936 --> 00:10:26.004
  • YOU KNOW?AND SO. BUT IT REALLY DID COME
  • 00:10:26.004 --> 00:10:27.906
  • AND SO. BUT IT REALLY DID COMETO ME HAVING TO ENJOY MYSELF.
  • 00:10:27.906 --> 00:10:29.340
  • TO ME HAVING TO ENJOY MYSELF.THE ONE THING THE LORD TAUGHT
  • 00:10:29.340 --> 00:10:31.443
  • THE ONE THING THE LORD TAUGHTME, IN THE BEGINNING OF
  • 00:10:31.443 --> 00:10:32.911
  • ME, IN THE BEGINNING OFMARRIAGE, IS: THE MORE I--
  • 00:10:32.911 --> 00:10:34.979
  • MARRIAGE, IS: THE MORE I--WE'RE ALL COMING TO MARRIAGE
  • 00:10:34.979 --> 00:10:36.981
  • WE'RE ALL COMING TO MARRIAGEWITH, YOU KNOW, TRUCKS THAT
  • 00:10:36.981 --> 00:10:37.882
  • WITH, YOU KNOW, TRUCKS THATNEED TO BE UNPACKED, BASICALLY.
  • 00:10:37.882 --> 00:10:40.318
  • NEED TO BE UNPACKED, BASICALLY.YOU COME INTO ADULTHOOD AND YOU
  • 00:10:40.318 --> 00:10:42.620
  • YOU COME INTO ADULTHOOD AND YOUGOTTA UNPACK THE PAST, ALL THE
  • 00:10:42.620 --> 00:10:44.422
  • GOTTA UNPACK THE PAST, ALL THETHINGS IN CULTURE THAT HAVE
  • 00:10:44.422 --> 00:10:45.957
  • THINGS IN CULTURE THAT HAVEBEEN, YOU KNOW, STUFFED INTO
  • 00:10:45.957 --> 00:10:47.392
  • BEEN, YOU KNOW, STUFFED INTOTHIS TRUCK THAT IS YOUR MIND
  • 00:10:47.392 --> 00:10:50.762
  • THIS TRUCK THAT IS YOUR MINDAND YOUR HEART, RIGHT?
  • 00:10:50.762 --> 00:10:51.362
  • AND YOUR HEART, RIGHT?AND I GOT MARRIED AND REALIZED
  • 00:10:51.362 --> 00:10:52.497
  • AND I GOT MARRIED AND REALIZEDTHAT: THE MORE YOU UNPACK THAT
  • 00:10:52.497 --> 00:10:53.565
  • THAT: THE MORE YOU UNPACK THATTRUCK BEFORE MARRIAGE, THE
  • 00:10:53.565 --> 00:10:55.867
  • TRUCK BEFORE MARRIAGE, THEBETTER YOU ARE, THE LESS YOU
  • 00:10:55.867 --> 00:10:57.769
  • BETTER YOU ARE, THE LESS YOUHAVE TO UNPACK TOGETHER --
  • 00:10:57.769 --> 00:10:58.937
  • HAVE TO UNPACK TOGETHER --'CAUSE YOU'RE BOTH COMING WITH
  • 00:10:58.937 --> 00:10:59.471
  • 'CAUSE YOU'RE BOTH COMING WITHTHAT.
  • 00:10:59.471 --> 00:11:00.672
  • THAT.AND IT'S LIKE: CONSIDER MOVING
  • 00:11:00.672 --> 00:11:02.507
  • AND IT'S LIKE: CONSIDER MOVINGWITH A FRIEND, RIGHT?
  • 00:11:02.507 --> 00:11:04.209
  • WITH A FRIEND, RIGHT?AND YOU THINK: OH! THE BETTER
  • 00:11:04.209 --> 00:11:08.313
  • AND YOU THINK: OH! THE BETTERWE DID THIS BEFORE WE CAME
  • 00:11:08.313 --> 00:11:09.247
  • WE DID THIS BEFORE WE CAMETOGETHER IS GONNA MAKE THIS A
  • 00:11:09.247 --> 00:11:11.049
  • TOGETHER IS GONNA MAKE THIS AMUCH SMOOTHER RIDE.
  • 00:11:11.049 --> 00:11:12.884
  • MUCH SMOOTHER RIDE.BECAUSE IT IS NOT EASY TO BE
  • 00:11:12.884 --> 00:11:14.919
  • BECAUSE IT IS NOT EASY TO BEONE, LIKE HAVILAH WAS TALKING
  • 00:11:14.919 --> 00:11:15.386
  • ONE, LIKE HAVILAH WAS TALKINGABOUT.
  • 00:11:15.386 --> 00:11:16.755
  • ABOUT.IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ONE.
  • 00:11:16.755 --> 00:11:18.256
  • IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ONE.AND THE BEAUTY IS YOU CAN BE
  • 00:11:18.256 --> 00:11:20.291
  • AND THE BEAUTY IS YOU CAN BEDOING THAT PROCESS, EVEN IF YOU
  • 00:11:20.291 --> 00:11:21.459
  • DOING THAT PROCESS, EVEN IF YOUNEVER GET ATTACHED TO ANOTHER
  • 00:11:21.459 --> 00:11:23.128
  • NEVER GET ATTACHED TO ANOTHERTRUCK.
  • 00:11:23.128 --> 00:11:24.262
  • TRUCK.LIKE, I LOVE MELINDA SAYING--
  • 00:11:24.262 --> 00:11:25.597
  • LIKE, I LOVE MELINDA SAYING--AND I KNOW MELINDA AND WE'VE
  • 00:11:25.597 --> 00:11:26.531
  • AND I KNOW MELINDA AND WE'VETALKED ABOUT THIS.
  • 00:11:26.531 --> 00:11:27.298
  • TALKED ABOUT THIS.SHE'S LIKE: "I'M GOOD.
  • 00:11:27.298 --> 00:11:29.000
  • SHE'S LIKE: "I'M GOOD.I AM GOOD."
  • 00:11:29.000 --> 00:11:30.702
  • I AM GOOD."AND, I CAN SEE THAT.
  • 00:11:30.702 --> 00:11:31.302
  • AND, I CAN SEE THAT.SHE'S NOT MAKING THIS UP TO
  • 00:11:31.302 --> 00:11:33.138
  • SHE'S NOT MAKING THIS UP TOTELL YOU.
  • 00:11:33.138 --> 00:11:33.638
  • TELL YOU.- MELINDA: MM...YEP.
  • 00:11:33.638 --> 00:11:34.506
  • - MELINDA: MM...YEP.- JANICE: SHE ENJOYS LIFE!
  • 00:11:34.506 --> 00:11:36.040
  • - JANICE: SHE ENJOYS LIFE!AND SHE IS ENJOYABLE!
  • 00:11:36.040 --> 00:11:38.009
  • AND SHE IS ENJOYABLE!AND SO, I THINK IT'S JUST AN
  • 00:11:38.009 --> 00:11:38.576
  • AND SO, I THINK IT'S JUST ANIMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER
  • 00:11:38.576 --> 00:11:40.879
  • IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBERTHAT THE LORD WANTS EACH OF US
  • 00:11:40.879 --> 00:11:42.580
  • THAT THE LORD WANTS EACH OF USTO BE SANCTIFIED.
  • 00:11:42.580 --> 00:11:43.214
  • TO BE SANCTIFIED.AND HE WANTS TO BE AT THE HEAD
  • 00:11:43.214 --> 00:11:45.183
  • AND HE WANTS TO BE AT THE HEADOF THAT PROCESS.
  • 00:11:45.183 --> 00:11:45.817
  • OF THAT PROCESS.AND HE'LL USE WHATEVER TOOL HE
  • 00:11:45.817 --> 00:11:47.152
  • AND HE'LL USE WHATEVER TOOL HEDEEMS NECESSARY.
  • 00:11:47.152 --> 00:11:48.820
  • DEEMS NECESSARY.BECAUSE HE DID KNOW YOU,
  • 00:11:48.820 --> 00:11:50.288
  • BECAUSE HE DID KNOW YOU,BEFOREHAND, AND HE DID DECIDE,
  • 00:11:50.288 --> 00:11:51.790
  • BEFOREHAND, AND HE DID DECIDE,BEFOREHAND.
  • 00:11:51.790 --> 00:11:52.857
  • BEFOREHAND.AND IT'S REALLY ABOUT
  • 00:11:52.857 --> 00:11:54.159
  • AND IT'S REALLY ABOUTCONNECTING WITH HIM AND SAYING:
  • 00:11:54.159 --> 00:11:55.960
  • CONNECTING WITH HIM AND SAYING:WHAT IS THE PLAN?
  • 00:11:55.960 --> 00:11:57.328
  • WHAT IS THE PLAN?WHAT IS THE NEXT TOOL?
  • 00:11:57.328 --> 00:11:58.396
  • WHAT IS THE NEXT TOOL?IF I'M PINING FOR THIS AND YOU
  • 00:11:58.396 --> 00:11:59.731
  • IF I'M PINING FOR THIS AND YOUDON'T HAVE IT, IS THERE
  • 00:11:59.731 --> 00:12:01.166
  • DON'T HAVE IT, IS THERESOMETHING ELSE THAT I SHOULD BE
  • 00:12:01.166 --> 00:12:02.500
  • SOMETHING ELSE THAT I SHOULD BEFOCUSED ON, RIGHT NOW?
  • 00:12:02.500 --> 00:12:03.802
  • FOCUSED ON, RIGHT NOW?YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?
  • 00:12:03.802 --> 00:12:04.836
  • YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?BECAUSE HE KNOWS AND HE CARES,
  • 00:12:04.836 --> 00:12:07.071
  • BECAUSE HE KNOWS AND HE CARES,AND HE HAS ALREADY PLANNED.
  • 00:12:07.071 --> 00:12:08.606
  • AND HE HAS ALREADY PLANNED.AND IT'S A GOOD PLAN.
  • 00:12:08.606 --> 00:12:09.974
  • AND IT'S A GOOD PLAN.I JUST WANNA PROMISE EVERYBODY
  • 00:12:09.974 --> 00:12:11.609
  • I JUST WANNA PROMISE EVERYBODYTHAT THE PLAN THAT HE HAS IS A
  • 00:12:11.609 --> 00:12:13.077
  • THAT THE PLAN THAT HE HAS IS AGOOD PLAN.
  • 00:12:13.077 --> 00:12:14.979
  • GOOD PLAN.IT IS A PLAN TO PROSPER YOU AND
  • 00:12:14.979 --> 00:12:16.347
  • IT IS A PLAN TO PROSPER YOU ANDNOT TO HARM YOU, NO MATTER THE
  • 00:12:16.347 --> 00:12:18.383
  • NOT TO HARM YOU, NO MATTER THECIRCUMSTANCES.
  • 00:12:18.383 --> 00:12:19.050
  • CIRCUMSTANCES.IT'S A GOOD PLAN.
  • 00:12:19.050 --> 00:12:20.185
  • IT'S A GOOD PLAN.WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT,
  • 00:12:20.185 --> 00:12:21.519
  • WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT,DISA?
  • 00:12:21.519 --> 00:12:21.953
  • DISA?- MANDISA: YEAH.
  • 00:12:21.953 --> 00:12:23.154
  • - MANDISA: YEAH.IT IS...A GOOD PLAN.
  • 00:12:23.154 --> 00:12:24.689
  • IT IS...A GOOD PLAN.AND I...BELIEVE IT.
  • 00:12:24.689 --> 00:12:27.492
  • AND I...BELIEVE IT.AND THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I...
  • 00:12:27.492 --> 00:12:28.860
  • AND THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I...STRUGGLE WITH THAT.
  • 00:12:28.860 --> 00:12:29.961
  • STRUGGLE WITH THAT.BUT I LOVE WHAT YOU-- I LOVE
  • 00:12:29.961 --> 00:12:31.696
  • BUT I LOVE WHAT YOU-- I LOVETHE VISUAL OF A DUMP TRUCK.
  • 00:12:31.696 --> 00:12:33.097
  • THE VISUAL OF A DUMP TRUCK.LIKE, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU SAID
  • 00:12:33.097 --> 00:12:34.299
  • LIKE, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU SAIDIT WAS A DUMP TRUCK, BUT, IT
  • 00:12:34.299 --> 00:12:35.266
  • IT WAS A DUMP TRUCK, BUT, ITWAS A TRUCK...OF SOME SORT.
  • 00:12:35.266 --> 00:12:36.901
  • WAS A TRUCK...OF SOME SORT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:12:36.901 --> 00:12:38.169
  • [LAUGHTER]AND, ONE OF MY FRIENDS, SHE
  • 00:12:38.169 --> 00:12:39.571
  • AND, ONE OF MY FRIENDS, SHESAID, "YOU KNOW, THE BEST GIFT
  • 00:12:39.571 --> 00:12:40.638
  • SAID, "YOU KNOW, THE BEST GIFTTHAT YOU CAN BRING INTO YOUR
  • 00:12:40.638 --> 00:12:41.973
  • THAT YOU CAN BRING INTO YOURMARRIAGE IS THE HEALTHIEST
  • 00:12:41.973 --> 00:12:42.807
  • MARRIAGE IS THE HEALTHIESTVERSION OF YOURSELF."
  • 00:12:42.807 --> 00:12:43.408
  • VERSION OF YOURSELF."- JANICE: YES...
  • 00:12:43.408 --> 00:12:44.776
  • - JANICE: YES...- MANDISA: AND SO, THAT IS A
  • 00:12:44.776 --> 00:12:45.844
  • - MANDISA: AND SO, THAT IS AJOURNEY THAT I HAVE BEEN ON,
  • 00:12:45.844 --> 00:12:48.213
  • JOURNEY THAT I HAVE BEEN ON,NOW, FOR 44 YEARS.
  • 00:12:48.213 --> 00:12:49.614
  • NOW, FOR 44 YEARS.AND, I WOULD SAY, REALLY IN THE
  • 00:12:49.614 --> 00:12:51.015
  • AND, I WOULD SAY, REALLY IN THELAST TWO YEARS OR SO, I'M
  • 00:12:51.015 --> 00:12:53.218
  • LAST TWO YEARS OR SO, I'MREALLY GOING TO TOWN WITH SOME
  • 00:12:53.218 --> 00:12:55.486
  • REALLY GOING TO TOWN WITH SOMEOF THE BAGGAGE THAT I KNOW THAT
  • 00:12:55.486 --> 00:12:57.388
  • OF THE BAGGAGE THAT I KNOW THATI AM CARRYING THAT, WHENEVER I
  • 00:12:57.388 --> 00:12:59.657
  • I AM CARRYING THAT, WHENEVER IGET MARRIED, OR IF I GET
  • 00:12:59.657 --> 00:13:01.426
  • GET MARRIED, OR IF I GETMARRIED, THESE ARE SOME THINGS
  • 00:13:01.426 --> 00:13:02.560
  • MARRIED, THESE ARE SOME THINGSTHAT I KNOW ARE NOT GONNA SERVE
  • 00:13:02.560 --> 00:13:03.461
  • THAT I KNOW ARE NOT GONNA SERVEME WELL.
  • 00:13:03.461 --> 00:13:04.629
  • ME WELL.AND SO, IT'S CERTAINLY NOT
  • 00:13:04.629 --> 00:13:05.830
  • AND SO, IT'S CERTAINLY NOTGONNA SERVE MY FUTURE HUSBAND
  • 00:13:05.830 --> 00:13:06.297
  • GONNA SERVE MY FUTURE HUSBANDWELL.
  • 00:13:06.297 --> 00:13:08.233
  • WELL.AND SO, I'M DOING THE THINGS
  • 00:13:08.233 --> 00:13:09.567
  • AND SO, I'M DOING THE THINGSLIKE COUNSELING, AND I'M
  • 00:13:09.567 --> 00:13:11.135
  • LIKE COUNSELING, AND I'MDEALING WITH SOME CHILDHOOD
  • 00:13:11.135 --> 00:13:13.538
  • DEALING WITH SOME CHILDHOODISSUES THAT I HAVE BEEN
  • 00:13:13.538 --> 00:13:14.639
  • ISSUES THAT I HAVE BEENDRAGGING ALONG FOR DECADES AND
  • 00:13:14.639 --> 00:13:17.475
  • DRAGGING ALONG FOR DECADES ANDDECADES, SOME HARD PLACES IN MY
  • 00:13:17.475 --> 00:13:18.810
  • DECADES, SOME HARD PLACES IN MYHEART, SOME DISAPPOINTMENTS.
  • 00:13:18.810 --> 00:13:21.446
  • HEART, SOME DISAPPOINTMENTS.AND SO, ME LEARNING TO BECOME
  • 00:13:21.446 --> 00:13:22.914
  • AND SO, ME LEARNING TO BECOMETHE HEALTHIEST VERSION OF
  • 00:13:22.914 --> 00:13:24.315
  • THE HEALTHIEST VERSION OFMYSELF -- THAT IS SOMETHING
  • 00:13:24.315 --> 00:13:25.516
  • MYSELF -- THAT IS SOMETHINGTHAT I'M DOING, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:13:25.516 --> 00:13:26.784
  • THAT I'M DOING, RIGHT NOW.I'M SINGLE AND LOVING IT,
  • 00:13:26.784 --> 00:13:27.252
  • I'M SINGLE AND LOVING IT,TODAY.
  • 00:13:27.252 --> 00:13:29.487
  • TODAY.MAYBE TONIGHT I'M NOT GONNA BE
  • 00:13:29.487 --> 00:13:29.988
  • MAYBE TONIGHT I'M NOT GONNA BELOVING IT AS MUCH.
  • 00:13:29.988 --> 00:13:32.156
  • LOVING IT AS MUCH.BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT I
  • 00:13:32.156 --> 00:13:33.524
  • BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT ICAN BRING ALL OF THOSE THINGS
  • 00:13:33.524 --> 00:13:34.859
  • CAN BRING ALL OF THOSE THINGSTO THE LORD.
  • 00:13:34.859 --> 00:13:36.160
  • TO THE LORD.AND, RATHER THAN FOCUSING
  • 00:13:36.160 --> 00:13:37.495
  • AND, RATHER THAN FOCUSINGON FINDING MR. RIGHT, I'M
  • 00:13:37.495 --> 00:13:39.130
  • ON FINDING MR. RIGHT, I'MTRYING TO FOCUS ON BECOMING
  • 00:13:39.130 --> 00:13:41.266
  • TRYING TO FOCUS ON BECOMINGMRS. RIGHT.
  • 00:13:41.266 --> 00:13:42.634
  • MRS. RIGHT.AND SO, ONE OF THE WAYS THAT
  • 00:13:42.634 --> 00:13:43.601
  • AND SO, ONE OF THE WAYS THATI'M DOING THAT IS I USE
  • 00:13:43.601 --> 00:13:45.637
  • I'M DOING THAT IS I USE1 CORINTHIANS 13 AS, LIKE, MY
  • 00:13:45.637 --> 00:13:46.337
  • 1 CORINTHIANS 13 AS, LIKE, MYTEMPLATE.
  • 00:13:46.337 --> 00:13:47.906
  • TEMPLATE.THERE ARE SOME WAYS THAT GOD IS
  • 00:13:47.906 --> 00:13:49.607
  • THERE ARE SOME WAYS THAT GOD ISTRYING TO SHOW ME: I NEED YOU
  • 00:13:49.607 --> 00:13:50.475
  • TRYING TO SHOW ME: I NEED YOUTO GROW IN LOVE.
  • 00:13:50.475 --> 00:13:53.611
  • TO GROW IN LOVE.AND, WHEN I THINK ABOUT BEING
  • 00:13:53.611 --> 00:13:54.512
  • AND, WHEN I THINK ABOUT BEINGPATIENT -- NOT A STRONG SUIT OF
  • 00:13:54.512 --> 00:13:56.381
  • PATIENT -- NOT A STRONG SUIT OFMINE.
  • 00:13:56.381 --> 00:13:57.882
  • MINE.BUT, IF I USE OPPORTUNITIES TO
  • 00:13:57.882 --> 00:14:01.319
  • BUT, IF I USE OPPORTUNITIES TOGROW IN PATIENCE, THEN THAT IS
  • 00:14:01.319 --> 00:14:01.920
  • GROW IN PATIENCE, THEN THAT ISNOT JUST GONNA SERVE MY FUTURE
  • 00:14:01.920 --> 00:14:02.987
  • NOT JUST GONNA SERVE MY FUTUREHUSBAND WELL.
  • 00:14:02.987 --> 00:14:04.022
  • HUSBAND WELL.THAT'S GONNA SERVE ME WELL,
  • 00:14:04.022 --> 00:14:05.757
  • THAT'S GONNA SERVE ME WELL,RIGHT NOW, IF I TRY TO GROW IN
  • 00:14:05.757 --> 00:14:08.526
  • RIGHT NOW, IF I TRY TO GROW INBECOMING KIND, NOT ENVYING, NOT
  • 00:14:08.526 --> 00:14:09.727
  • BECOMING KIND, NOT ENVYING, NOTBOASTING, NOT BEING PROUD, NOT
  • 00:14:09.727 --> 00:14:10.228
  • BOASTING, NOT BEING PROUD, NOTBEING RUDE.
  • 00:14:10.228 --> 00:14:12.697
  • BEING RUDE.I CAN BE RUDE SOMETIMES, Y'ALL!
  • 00:14:12.697 --> 00:14:14.198
  • I CAN BE RUDE SOMETIMES, Y'ALL!AND SO, WHEN I THINK OF A
  • 00:14:14.198 --> 00:14:17.502
  • AND SO, WHEN I THINK OF AFUTURE MARRIAGE, AND HOW MEN
  • 00:14:17.502 --> 00:14:18.736
  • FUTURE MARRIAGE, AND HOW MENCAN FEEL SO DISRESPECTED IF I
  • 00:14:18.736 --> 00:14:21.205
  • CAN FEEL SO DISRESPECTED IF IJUST SAY THE FIRST THING THAT
  • 00:14:21.205 --> 00:14:22.073
  • JUST SAY THE FIRST THING THATCOMES TO MY MIND, THAT IS
  • 00:14:22.073 --> 00:14:23.741
  • COMES TO MY MIND, THAT ISSOMETHING THAT I'M WORKING ON
  • 00:14:23.741 --> 00:14:24.609
  • SOMETHING THAT I'M WORKING ONWITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, RIGHT
  • 00:14:24.609 --> 00:14:26.544
  • WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, RIGHTNOW.
  • 00:14:26.544 --> 00:14:27.979
  • NOW.SO, I'M USING 1 CORINTHIANS 13
  • 00:14:27.979 --> 00:14:30.014
  • SO, I'M USING 1 CORINTHIANS 13AS MY TEMPLATE OF TRYING TO
  • 00:14:30.014 --> 00:14:32.183
  • AS MY TEMPLATE OF TRYING TOBECOME MRS. RIGHT.
  • 00:14:32.183 --> 00:14:32.850
  • BECOME MRS. RIGHT.AND I THINK IT STARTED OUT WITH
  • 00:14:32.850 --> 00:14:34.786
  • AND I THINK IT STARTED OUT WITHDOING IT FOR MY FUTURE HUSBAND.
  • 00:14:34.786 --> 00:14:37.155
  • DOING IT FOR MY FUTURE HUSBAND.I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACE
  • 00:14:37.155 --> 00:14:38.556
  • I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACEWHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.
  • 00:14:38.556 --> 00:14:39.891
  • WHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.
  • 00:14:39.891 --> 00:14:42.060
  • AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO GROW IN
  • 00:14:42.060 --> 00:14:43.061
  • BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO GROW INLOVE.
  • 00:14:43.061 --> 00:14:45.229
  • LOVE.COLOSSIANS 3 SAYS CLOTHE
  • 00:14:45.229 --> 00:14:47.065
  • COLOSSIANS 3 SAYS CLOTHEYOURSELVES WITH COMPASSION, AND
  • 00:14:47.065 --> 00:14:48.900
  • YOURSELVES WITH COMPASSION, ANDKINDNESS, AND HUMILITY, AND
  • 00:14:48.900 --> 00:14:50.601
  • KINDNESS, AND HUMILITY, ANDGENTLENESS, AND PATIENCE.
  • 00:14:50.601 --> 00:14:52.103
  • GENTLENESS, AND PATIENCE.AND SO, THOSE ARE THINGS THAT
  • 00:14:52.103 --> 00:14:52.804
  • AND SO, THOSE ARE THINGS THATI'M SAYING: OKAY, HOW CAN I
  • 00:14:52.804 --> 00:14:54.605
  • I'M SAYING: OKAY, HOW CAN ICLOTHE MYSELF, RIGHT NOW, WITH
  • 00:14:54.605 --> 00:14:57.909
  • CLOTHE MYSELF, RIGHT NOW, WITHKINDNESS.
  • 00:14:57.909 --> 00:14:58.543
  • KINDNESS.AND HERE'S THE THING IS THAT I
  • 00:14:58.543 --> 00:14:59.344
  • AND HERE'S THE THING IS THAT IHAVE TO BE WILLING TO BE PUT
  • 00:14:59.344 --> 00:15:00.144
  • HAVE TO BE WILLING TO BE PUTMYSELF IN SITUATIONS THAT TEST
  • 00:15:00.144 --> 00:15:01.479
  • MYSELF IN SITUATIONS THAT TESTMY KINDNESS.
  • 00:15:01.479 --> 00:15:03.848
  • MY KINDNESS.IF I WANNA GROW IN GRACE, BE
  • 00:15:03.848 --> 00:15:05.917
  • IF I WANNA GROW IN GRACE, BEEXPECTING TO BE PUT IN
  • 00:15:05.917 --> 00:15:06.751
  • EXPECTING TO BE PUT INSITUATIONS THAT TEST YOUR
  • 00:15:06.751 --> 00:15:08.453
  • SITUATIONS THAT TEST YOURGRACE.
  • 00:15:08.453 --> 00:15:09.887
  • GRACE.AND SO, KNOWING THAT EVERY
  • 00:15:09.887 --> 00:15:11.456
  • AND SO, KNOWING THAT EVERYSITUATION THAT I FACE, IF THIS
  • 00:15:11.456 --> 00:15:12.991
  • SITUATION THAT I FACE, IF THISIS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR ME TO
  • 00:15:12.991 --> 00:15:13.992
  • IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR ME TOGROW IN THAT AREA, IT'S GONNA
  • 00:15:13.992 --> 00:15:16.794
  • GROW IN THAT AREA, IT'S GONNASERVE ME BETTER, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:15:16.794 --> 00:15:18.062
  • SERVE ME BETTER, RIGHT NOW.SO, THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS
  • 00:15:18.062 --> 00:15:19.964
  • SO, THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGSTHAT I'M DOING TO JUST...REALLY
  • 00:15:19.964 --> 00:15:21.399
  • THAT I'M DOING TO JUST...REALLYTAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SINGLE
  • 00:15:21.399 --> 00:15:22.667
  • TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS SINGLESEASON THAT I'M IN, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:15:22.667 --> 00:15:24.335
  • SEASON THAT I'M IN, RIGHT NOW.I DO THINK IT'S A SEASON, AND I
  • 00:15:24.335 --> 00:15:25.436
  • I DO THINK IT'S A SEASON, AND IDO BELIEVE THAT ANOTHER SEASON
  • 00:15:25.436 --> 00:15:27.271
  • DO BELIEVE THAT ANOTHER SEASONIS COMING.
  • 00:15:27.271 --> 00:15:28.639
  • IS COMING.BUT I LOVE THAT I GET TO HEAR
  • 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.741
  • BUT I LOVE THAT I GET TO HEARFROM MY MARRIED FRIENDS -- LIKE
  • 00:15:29.741 --> 00:15:30.942
  • FROM MY MARRIED FRIENDS -- LIKEYOU, JANICE.
  • 00:15:30.942 --> 00:15:32.944
  • YOU, JANICE.AND, I'M JUST NOW MEETING YOU,
  • 00:15:32.944 --> 00:15:33.644
  • AND, I'M JUST NOW MEETING YOU,DR. ROBYN, BUT YOU'VE GOT SO
  • 00:15:33.644 --> 00:15:35.013
  • DR. ROBYN, BUT YOU'VE GOT SOMUCH WISDOM.
  • 00:15:35.013 --> 00:15:36.981
  • MUCH WISDOM.I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW SOME OTHER
  • 00:15:36.981 --> 00:15:38.783
  • I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW SOME OTHERAREAS THAT IF WE TALK ABOUT
  • 00:15:38.783 --> 00:15:40.018
  • AREAS THAT IF WE TALK ABOUTBEING SINGLE AND LOVING IT,
  • 00:15:40.018 --> 00:15:41.452
  • BEING SINGLE AND LOVING IT,WHAT ARE SOME OTHER AREAS THAT
  • 00:15:41.452 --> 00:15:42.887
  • WHAT ARE SOME OTHER AREAS THATYOU CAN GIVE SOME WISDOM TO
  • 00:15:42.887 --> 00:15:44.489
  • YOU CAN GIVE SOME WISDOM TOSINGLE GIRLS LIKE ME?
  • 00:15:44.489 --> 00:15:45.456
  • SINGLE GIRLS LIKE ME?- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,
  • 00:15:45.456 --> 00:15:47.291
  • - DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,YOU KNOW, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.
  • 00:15:47.291 --> 00:15:48.693
  • YOU KNOW, YOU SAID IT SO WELL.WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE OR
  • 00:15:48.693 --> 00:15:50.328
  • WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE ORWHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED, LOVING
  • 00:15:50.328 --> 00:15:53.364
  • WHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED, LOVINGLIFE REALLY COMES BACK TO WHAT
  • 00:15:53.364 --> 00:15:55.266
  • LIFE REALLY COMES BACK TO WHATTHE SCRIPTURE TEACHES.
  • 00:15:55.266 --> 00:15:57.135
  • THE SCRIPTURE TEACHES.AND I CAN READ IT, AGAIN.
  • 00:15:57.135 --> 00:15:59.837
  • AND I CAN READ IT, AGAIN.THAT'S 1 CORINTHIANS 7:7.
  • 00:15:59.837 --> 00:16:01.305
  • THAT'S 1 CORINTHIANS 7:7.BUT IN THE MESSAGE VERSION,
  • 00:16:01.305 --> 00:16:02.974
  • BUT IN THE MESSAGE VERSION,"SOMETIMES I WISH EVERYONE WERE
  • 00:16:02.974 --> 00:16:04.876
  • "SOMETIMES I WISH EVERYONE WERESINGLE LIKE ME," PAUL SAYS.
  • 00:16:04.876 --> 00:16:06.878
  • SINGLE LIKE ME," PAUL SAYS."...A SIMPLER LIFE, IN MANY
  • 00:16:06.878 --> 00:16:08.046
  • "...A SIMPLER LIFE, IN MANYWAYS.
  • 00:16:08.046 --> 00:16:10.048
  • WAYS.BUT CELIBACY IS NOT FOR
  • 00:16:10.048 --> 00:16:13.985
  • BUT CELIBACY IS NOT FOREVERYONE ANY MORE THAN MARRIAGE
  • 00:16:13.985 --> 00:16:14.485
  • EVERYONE ANY MORE THAN MARRIAGEIS."
  • 00:16:14.485 --> 00:16:15.253
  • IS."I'LL SAY AN AMEN TO THAT.
  • 00:16:15.253 --> 00:16:15.887
  • I'LL SAY AN AMEN TO THAT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:16:15.887 --> 00:16:18.990
  • [LAUGHTER]"GOD GIVES THE GIFT OF THE
  • 00:16:18.990 --> 00:16:20.491
  • "GOD GIVES THE GIFT OF THESINGLE LIFE TO SOME, THE GIFT
  • 00:16:20.491 --> 00:16:23.561
  • SINGLE LIFE TO SOME, THE GIFTOF MARRIED LIFE TO OTHERS."
  • 00:16:23.561 --> 00:16:25.363
  • OF MARRIED LIFE TO OTHERS."SO, I GUESS AS A PERSONAL
  • 00:16:25.363 --> 00:16:26.631
  • SO, I GUESS AS A PERSONALILLUSTRATION, I JUST HAVE TO
  • 00:16:26.631 --> 00:16:29.634
  • ILLUSTRATION, I JUST HAVE TOTESTIFY THAT THERE ARE WOMEN IN
  • 00:16:29.634 --> 00:16:31.769
  • TESTIFY THAT THERE ARE WOMEN INMY LIFE WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED,
  • 00:16:31.769 --> 00:16:36.541
  • MY LIFE WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED,AND HAVE MADE A BIG IMPRESSION,
  • 00:16:36.541 --> 00:16:38.309
  • AND HAVE MADE A BIG IMPRESSION,AND HAVE BEEN ROLE MODELS.
  • 00:16:38.309 --> 00:16:39.911
  • AND HAVE BEEN ROLE MODELS.AND THEN, THERE HAVE BEEN
  • 00:16:39.911 --> 00:16:40.511
  • AND THEN, THERE HAVE BEENSINGLE WOMEN, SOME WHO HAVE
  • 00:16:40.511 --> 00:16:41.479
  • SINGLE WOMEN, SOME WHO HAVENEVER EVEN BEEN MARRIED, THAT
  • 00:16:41.479 --> 00:16:42.413
  • NEVER EVEN BEEN MARRIED, THATHAVE MADE A HUGE IMPRESSION ON
  • 00:16:42.413 --> 00:16:44.248
  • HAVE MADE A HUGE IMPRESSION ONME.
  • 00:16:44.248 --> 00:16:44.882
  • ME.AND AS I THINK ABOUT IT, TODAY
  • 00:16:44.882 --> 00:16:46.918
  • AND AS I THINK ABOUT IT, TODAY-- OVER MY ENTIRE LIFETIME,
  • 00:16:46.918 --> 00:16:48.753
  • -- OVER MY ENTIRE LIFETIME,WHAT IS IT THAT MADE THE
  • 00:16:48.753 --> 00:16:50.154
  • WHAT IS IT THAT MADE THEIMPRESSION?
  • 00:16:50.154 --> 00:16:53.658
  • IMPRESSION?AND, AS I WAS PONDERING AND
  • 00:16:53.658 --> 00:16:55.460
  • AND, AS I WAS PONDERING ANDMEDITATING, I WAS THINKING
  • 00:16:55.460 --> 00:16:56.427
  • MEDITATING, I WAS THINKINGABOUT MY MIDDLE NAME IS MARIE.
  • 00:16:56.427 --> 00:16:57.862
  • ABOUT MY MIDDLE NAME IS MARIE.I'M ROBYN MARIE.
  • 00:16:57.862 --> 00:17:00.264
  • I'M ROBYN MARIE.AND THE WOMAN I AM NAMED FOR IS
  • 00:17:00.264 --> 00:17:03.734
  • AND THE WOMAN I AM NAMED FOR ISMY AUNT MARIE.
  • 00:17:03.734 --> 00:17:04.969
  • MY AUNT MARIE.AND, YOU KNOW, MANY, MANY,
  • 00:17:04.969 --> 00:17:06.971
  • AND, YOU KNOW, MANY, MANY,MANY YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS A
  • 00:17:06.971 --> 00:17:07.939
  • MANY YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS ALITTLE TINY GIRL -- I WAS MAYBE
  • 00:17:07.939 --> 00:17:09.740
  • LITTLE TINY GIRL -- I WAS MAYBE5 YEARS OLD -- SHE WENT AS A
  • 00:17:09.740 --> 00:17:11.442
  • 5 YEARS OLD -- SHE WENT AS ASINGLE WOMAN--
  • 00:17:11.442 --> 00:17:12.477
  • SINGLE WOMAN--NOW, SHE WAS-- I THINK SHE'S A
  • 00:17:12.477 --> 00:17:14.278
  • NOW, SHE WAS-- I THINK SHE'S AWARRIOR.
  • 00:17:14.278 --> 00:17:17.682
  • WARRIOR.SHE GOT ON A SHIP AND SHE WENT
  • 00:17:17.682 --> 00:17:19.484
  • SHE GOT ON A SHIP AND SHE WENTTO AFRICA.
  • 00:17:19.484 --> 00:17:20.017
  • TO AFRICA.SHE ACTUALLY HAD LEARNED
  • 00:17:20.017 --> 00:17:22.820
  • SHE ACTUALLY HAD LEARNEDFRENCH.
  • 00:17:22.820 --> 00:17:25.656
  • FRENCH.SHE WAS A NORWEGIAN WOMAN.
  • 00:17:25.656 --> 00:17:27.225
  • SHE WAS A NORWEGIAN WOMAN.HER MOTHER WAS AN IMMIGRANT
  • 00:17:27.225 --> 00:17:29.060
  • HER MOTHER WAS AN IMMIGRANTFROM NORWAY.
  • 00:17:29.060 --> 00:17:30.027
  • FROM NORWAY.AND SHE HAD GONE TO BIBLE
  • 00:17:30.027 --> 00:17:31.662
  • AND SHE HAD GONE TO BIBLECOLLEGE.
  • 00:17:31.662 --> 00:17:33.498
  • COLLEGE.SHE HAD HOPED TO GET MARRIED,
  • 00:17:33.498 --> 00:17:34.765
  • SHE HAD HOPED TO GET MARRIED,BUT THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN; GOT ON
  • 00:17:34.765 --> 00:17:36.067
  • BUT THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN; GOT ONA SHIP -- SHE WAS ON THIS SHIP
  • 00:17:36.067 --> 00:17:37.735
  • A SHIP -- SHE WAS ON THIS SHIPFOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS; WENT TO
  • 00:17:37.735 --> 00:17:41.038
  • FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS; WENT TOAFRICA, GOT TO AFRICA; AND,
  • 00:17:41.038 --> 00:17:43.741
  • AFRICA, GOT TO AFRICA; AND,THERE, SHE DISCOVERED THAT SHE
  • 00:17:43.741 --> 00:17:44.375
  • THERE, SHE DISCOVERED THAT SHECOULD BE PART OF A MISSIONARY
  • 00:17:44.375 --> 00:17:45.309
  • COULD BE PART OF A MISSIONARYTEAM.
  • 00:17:45.309 --> 00:17:47.211
  • TEAM.SHE LIVED IN A HUT; AND SHE
  • 00:17:47.211 --> 00:17:50.448
  • SHE LIVED IN A HUT; AND SHELEARNED HOW TO TAKE CARE OF
  • 00:17:50.448 --> 00:17:53.384
  • LEARNED HOW TO TAKE CARE OFCHILDREN; AND SHE WAS A
  • 00:17:53.384 --> 00:17:54.051
  • CHILDREN; AND SHE WAS APREACHER; AND SHE DID ALL THESE
  • 00:17:54.051 --> 00:17:56.521
  • PREACHER; AND SHE DID ALL THESEWONDERFUL THINGS.
  • 00:17:56.521 --> 00:17:57.588
  • WONDERFUL THINGS.SHE ACTUALLY TRANSLATED THE
  • 00:17:57.588 --> 00:18:01.058
  • SHE ACTUALLY TRANSLATED THEBIBLE FROM FRENCH INTO THE
  • 00:18:01.058 --> 00:18:02.894
  • BIBLE FROM FRENCH INTO THELOCAL INDIGENOUS LANGUAGE.
  • 00:18:02.894 --> 00:18:03.661
  • LOCAL INDIGENOUS LANGUAGE.- MANDISA: WOW...
  • 00:18:03.661 --> 00:18:04.295
  • - MANDISA: WOW...- DR. ROBYN: AND SHE WAS PART
  • 00:18:04.295 --> 00:18:05.329
  • - DR. ROBYN: AND SHE WAS PARTOF THE ORIGINAL TRANSLATION
  • 00:18:05.329 --> 00:18:06.063
  • OF THE ORIGINAL TRANSLATIONTEAM.
  • 00:18:06.063 --> 00:18:07.498
  • TEAM.YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:18:07.498 --> 00:18:08.966
  • YOU KNOW WHAT?ONE OF THE FUN STORIES SHE
  • 00:18:08.966 --> 00:18:10.902
  • ONE OF THE FUN STORIES SHETOLD: SHE PRAYED AND PRAYED AND
  • 00:18:10.902 --> 00:18:12.737
  • TOLD: SHE PRAYED AND PRAYED ANDPRAYED FOR A TYPEWRITER 'CAUSE
  • 00:18:12.737 --> 00:18:14.405
  • PRAYED FOR A TYPEWRITER 'CAUSESHE WANTED TO WORK ON THE
  • 00:18:14.405 --> 00:18:15.506
  • SHE WANTED TO WORK ON THETRANSLATION TEAM.
  • 00:18:15.506 --> 00:18:17.441
  • TRANSLATION TEAM.AND THEN, FINALLY, WHEN GOD
  • 00:18:17.441 --> 00:18:18.242
  • AND THEN, FINALLY, WHEN GODSENT HER AN ELECTRIC
  • 00:18:18.242 --> 00:18:19.844
  • SENT HER AN ELECTRICTYPEWRITER, SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANY
  • 00:18:19.844 --> 00:18:21.112
  • TYPEWRITER, SHE DIDN'T HAVE ANYELECTRICITY TO PLUG IT IN.
  • 00:18:21.112 --> 00:18:23.948
  • ELECTRICITY TO PLUG IT IN.SO, SHE KEPT HER MANUAL
  • 00:18:23.948 --> 00:18:26.083
  • SO, SHE KEPT HER MANUALTYPEWRITER AND KEPT PLUGGING
  • 00:18:26.083 --> 00:18:28.419
  • TYPEWRITER AND KEPT PLUGGINGAWAY ON IT, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:18:28.419 --> 00:18:29.020
  • AWAY ON IT, YOU KNOW.NOW, WHY DID I TELL YOU THAT
  • 00:18:29.020 --> 00:18:29.420
  • NOW, WHY DID I TELL YOU THATSTORY?
  • 00:18:29.420 --> 00:18:32.690
  • STORY?BECAUSE, YEARS LATER, AFTER 50
  • 00:18:32.690 --> 00:18:34.725
  • BECAUSE, YEARS LATER, AFTER 50YEARS OF SERVICE THERE IN
  • 00:18:34.725 --> 00:18:36.093
  • YEARS OF SERVICE THERE INAFRICA, A SINGLE WOMAN ALL THAT
  • 00:18:36.093 --> 00:18:37.595
  • AFRICA, A SINGLE WOMAN ALL THATTIME, ONE OF MY OTHER AUNTIES
  • 00:18:37.595 --> 00:18:39.864
  • TIME, ONE OF MY OTHER AUNTIESTOOK HER BACK, AND THEY WENT TO
  • 00:18:39.864 --> 00:18:41.165
  • TOOK HER BACK, AND THEY WENT TOA CONFERENCE.
  • 00:18:41.165 --> 00:18:41.699
  • A CONFERENCE.AND WHEN THEY WENT TO THE
  • 00:18:41.699 --> 00:18:44.302
  • AND WHEN THEY WENT TO THECONFERENCE, SHE TOOK HER TO
  • 00:18:44.302 --> 00:18:46.237
  • CONFERENCE, SHE TOOK HER TOTHE-- IT WAS A GET-TOGETHER OF
  • 00:18:46.237 --> 00:18:47.438
  • THE-- IT WAS A GET-TOGETHER OFALL THE CHURCHES WHERE SHE HAD
  • 00:18:47.438 --> 00:18:48.372
  • ALL THE CHURCHES WHERE SHE HADBEEN A PART OF THAT
  • 00:18:48.372 --> 00:18:49.473
  • BEEN A PART OF THATDENOMINATION.
  • 00:18:49.473 --> 00:18:50.808
  • DENOMINATION.AND WHEN SHE GOT TO THE
  • 00:18:50.808 --> 00:18:51.976
  • AND WHEN SHE GOT TO THECONFERENCE, SHE WAS SHOCKED,
  • 00:18:51.976 --> 00:18:53.311
  • CONFERENCE, SHE WAS SHOCKED,AND THE AUNTIE THAT TOOK HER
  • 00:18:53.311 --> 00:18:54.645
  • AND THE AUNTIE THAT TOOK HERWAS SHOCKED, TOO, BECAUSE IT
  • 00:18:54.645 --> 00:18:57.582
  • WAS SHOCKED, TOO, BECAUSE ITWAS THIS BIG COLISEUM; AND WHEN
  • 00:18:57.582 --> 00:18:59.784
  • WAS THIS BIG COLISEUM; AND WHENTHEY GOT THERE, SHE WAS SITTING
  • 00:18:59.784 --> 00:19:00.585
  • THEY GOT THERE, SHE WAS SITTINGIN THE AUDIENCE, AND, ALL OF A
  • 00:19:00.585 --> 00:19:01.752
  • IN THE AUDIENCE, AND, ALL OF ASUDDEN, THEY CALLED HER NAME.
  • 00:19:01.752 --> 00:19:03.955
  • SUDDEN, THEY CALLED HER NAME.AND THERE WERE LITERALLY-- IT
  • 00:19:03.955 --> 00:19:05.656
  • AND THERE WERE LITERALLY-- ITWAS A COLISEUM FULL OF PEOPLE.
  • 00:19:05.656 --> 00:19:07.592
  • WAS A COLISEUM FULL OF PEOPLE.AND THEY CALLED HER TO THE
  • 00:19:07.592 --> 00:19:08.059
  • AND THEY CALLED HER TO THEPLATFORM.
  • 00:19:08.059 --> 00:19:09.860
  • PLATFORM.AND, SHE DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE
  • 00:19:09.860 --> 00:19:11.062
  • AND, SHE DIDN'T KNOW THEY WEREGONNA RECOGNIZE HER.
  • 00:19:11.062 --> 00:19:13.664
  • GONNA RECOGNIZE HER.AND WHEN THEY DID, THE ENTIRE
  • 00:19:13.664 --> 00:19:16.567
  • AND WHEN THEY DID, THE ENTIRECOLISEUM STOOD AND APPLAUDED
  • 00:19:16.567 --> 00:19:18.402
  • COLISEUM STOOD AND APPLAUDEDHER, AND STARTED TO CHANT,
  • 00:19:18.402 --> 00:19:21.138
  • HER, AND STARTED TO CHANT,"MAMA! MAMA!"
  • 00:19:21.138 --> 00:19:22.240
  • "MAMA! MAMA!"IT KINDA MAKES ME WANNA CRY.
  • 00:19:22.240 --> 00:19:27.111
  • IT KINDA MAKES ME WANNA CRY.NOW, SHE COULD NEVER HAVE ANY
  • 00:19:27.111 --> 00:19:28.312
  • NOW, SHE COULD NEVER HAVE ANYCHILDREN, BIOLOGICALLY, OF HER
  • 00:19:28.312 --> 00:19:30.581
  • CHILDREN, BIOLOGICALLY, OF HEROWN, BUT SHE MOTHERED
  • 00:19:30.581 --> 00:19:34.552
  • OWN, BUT SHE MOTHEREDTHOUSANDS.
  • 00:19:34.552 --> 00:19:35.519
  • THOUSANDS.NOW, WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS
  • 00:19:35.519 --> 00:19:37.088
  • NOW, WHY AM I TELLING YOU THISSTORY?
  • 00:19:37.088 --> 00:19:39.624
  • STORY?BECAUSE MISSION BRINGS
  • 00:19:39.624 --> 00:19:42.827
  • BECAUSE MISSION BRINGSMOMENTUM.
  • 00:19:42.827 --> 00:19:45.730
  • MOMENTUM.AND, I JUST WANNA SAY THAT...
  • 00:19:45.730 --> 00:19:48.432
  • AND, I JUST WANNA SAY THAT...WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE AND WHEN
  • 00:19:48.432 --> 00:19:52.003
  • WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE AND WHENYOU'RE MARRIED, NO MATTER
  • 00:19:52.003 --> 00:19:56.841
  • YOU'RE MARRIED, NO MATTERWHAT, YOU HAVE PURPOSE.
  • 00:19:56.841 --> 00:19:57.475
  • WHAT, YOU HAVE PURPOSE.AND IT IS MISSION THAT BRINGS
  • 00:19:57.475 --> 00:19:59.343
  • AND IT IS MISSION THAT BRINGSTHAT ENERGY TO OUR LIFE.
  • 00:19:59.343 --> 00:20:01.679
  • THAT ENERGY TO OUR LIFE.BECAUSE GOD DESIGNED US FOR
  • 00:20:01.679 --> 00:20:06.751
  • BECAUSE GOD DESIGNED US FORPURPOSE AND DESTINY.
  • 00:20:06.751 --> 00:20:07.351
  • PURPOSE AND DESTINY.AND THERE IS A REASON THAT YOU
  • 00:20:07.351 --> 00:20:09.553
  • AND THERE IS A REASON THAT YOUWERE BORN.
  • 00:20:09.553 --> 00:20:11.756
  • WERE BORN.THERE'S A REASON I WAS BORN.
  • 00:20:11.756 --> 00:20:14.392
  • THERE'S A REASON I WAS BORN.AND THAT WHEN WE FIND
  • 00:20:14.392 --> 00:20:16.661
  • AND THAT WHEN WE FINDOURSELVES, WHETHER WE'RE SINGLE
  • 00:20:16.661 --> 00:20:17.595
  • OURSELVES, WHETHER WE'RE SINGLEAND WE'RE WAITING AND HOPING TO
  • 00:20:17.595 --> 00:20:21.465
  • AND WE'RE WAITING AND HOPING TOGET MARRIED, OR, WHETHER WE
  • 00:20:21.465 --> 00:20:23.234
  • GET MARRIED, OR, WHETHER WEBELIEVE THAT WE'RE NOT GONNA BE
  • 00:20:23.234 --> 00:20:25.670
  • BELIEVE THAT WE'RE NOT GONNA BEMARRIED, WHATEVER THAT PLACE IN
  • 00:20:25.670 --> 00:20:27.705
  • MARRIED, WHATEVER THAT PLACE INOUR LIFE IS, IT'S WHEN WE'RE...
  • 00:20:27.705 --> 00:20:31.942
  • OUR LIFE IS, IT'S WHEN WE'RE...ENGAGED IN MISSION THAT WE CAN
  • 00:20:31.942 --> 00:20:35.346
  • ENGAGED IN MISSION THAT WE CANBATTLE THINGS LIKE LONELINESS,
  • 00:20:35.346 --> 00:20:38.215
  • BATTLE THINGS LIKE LONELINESS,OR WE CAN OVERCOME THINGS LIKE
  • 00:20:38.215 --> 00:20:41.585
  • OR WE CAN OVERCOME THINGS LIKEDISCOURAGEMENT; AND WE CAN HAVE
  • 00:20:41.585 --> 00:20:44.655
  • DISCOURAGEMENT; AND WE CAN HAVETHE KIND OF FAITH WHERE WE CAN
  • 00:20:44.655 --> 00:20:46.324
  • THE KIND OF FAITH WHERE WE CANGET THROUGH THINGS LIKE A
  • 00:20:46.324 --> 00:20:48.859
  • GET THROUGH THINGS LIKE APANDEMIC; OR WE CAN FIND
  • 00:20:48.859 --> 00:20:51.896
  • PANDEMIC; OR WE CAN FINDOURSELVES WITH WAYS TO FIND THE
  • 00:20:51.896 --> 00:20:54.065
  • OURSELVES WITH WAYS TO FIND THEANSWER TO CIRCUMSTANCES AND
  • 00:20:54.065 --> 00:20:57.668
  • ANSWER TO CIRCUMSTANCES ANDWAYS TO FORGIVE PEOPLE WHO HURT
  • 00:20:57.668 --> 00:21:01.372
  • WAYS TO FORGIVE PEOPLE WHO HURTUS; OR TO BUILD A BRIDGE IN OUR
  • 00:21:01.372 --> 00:21:02.673
  • US; OR TO BUILD A BRIDGE IN OURCOMMUNITIES TO PEOPLE THAT ARE
  • 00:21:02.673 --> 00:21:03.841
  • COMMUNITIES TO PEOPLE THAT AREDIFFERENT THAN OURSELVES, SO
  • 00:21:03.841 --> 00:21:06.444
  • DIFFERENT THAN OURSELVES, SOTHAT WE CAN FIND THE WAY THAT
  • 00:21:06.444 --> 00:21:08.379
  • THAT WE CAN FIND THE WAY THATGOD IS TEACHING US TO BECOME
  • 00:21:08.379 --> 00:21:09.480
  • GOD IS TEACHING US TO BECOMETHE PERSON THAT WE'RE CALLED TO
  • 00:21:09.480 --> 00:21:10.781
  • THE PERSON THAT WE'RE CALLED TOBE.
  • 00:21:10.781 --> 00:21:12.750
  • BE.MISSION BRINGS MOMENTUM WHEN
  • 00:21:12.750 --> 00:21:14.151
  • MISSION BRINGS MOMENTUM WHENWE'RE FULFILLING THE CALL OF
  • 00:21:14.151 --> 00:21:16.620
  • WE'RE FULFILLING THE CALL OFGOD, IN OUR LIVES.
  • 00:21:16.620 --> 00:21:18.356
  • GOD, IN OUR LIVES.AND SO, I'M JUST SO GRATEFUL
  • 00:21:18.356 --> 00:21:20.524
  • AND SO, I'M JUST SO GRATEFULFOR SINGLE WOMEN IN MY LIFE AND
  • 00:21:20.524 --> 00:21:23.094
  • FOR SINGLE WOMEN IN MY LIFE ANDFOR MARRIED WOMEN IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:21:23.094 --> 00:21:24.695
  • FOR MARRIED WOMEN IN MY LIFE.AND, I JUST ENCOURAGE THE
  • 00:21:24.695 --> 00:21:26.931
  • AND, I JUST ENCOURAGE THEPEOPLE, MY FRIENDS THAT ARE
  • 00:21:26.931 --> 00:21:28.366
  • PEOPLE, MY FRIENDS THAT AREWATCHING, TO JUST BELIEVE IN
  • 00:21:28.366 --> 00:21:29.767
  • WATCHING, TO JUST BELIEVE INYOURSELF.
  • 00:21:29.767 --> 00:21:30.634
  • YOURSELF.BECAUSE YOU'RE STRONGER THAN
  • 00:21:30.634 --> 00:21:31.736
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE STRONGER THANYOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU'RE MORE
  • 00:21:31.736 --> 00:21:33.170
  • YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU'RE MORECREATIVE THAN YOU THINK YOU
  • 00:21:33.170 --> 00:21:33.771
  • CREATIVE THAN YOU THINK YOUARE.
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  • ARE.AND GOD HAS PURPOSE.
  • 00:21:36.407 --> 00:21:38.709
  • AND GOD HAS PURPOSE.SO, I MEAN, WHEN I THINK ABOUT
  • 00:21:38.709 --> 00:21:39.910
  • SO, I MEAN, WHEN I THINK ABOUTTHE LADIES HERE JUST ON THIS
  • 00:21:39.910 --> 00:21:42.113
  • THE LADIES HERE JUST ON THISCONVERSATION -- YOU TALK ABOUT
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  • CONVERSATION -- YOU TALK ABOUTCREATIVE AND BRAVE AND FULL OF
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  • CREATIVE AND BRAVE AND FULL OFMISSION?
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  • MISSION?I'M TALKING TO WORLD-CHANGERS,
  • 00:21:47.785 --> 00:21:48.886
  • I'M TALKING TO WORLD-CHANGERS,RIGHT HERE, ESPECIALLY SOMEBODY
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  • RIGHT HERE, ESPECIALLY SOMEBODYLIKE MELINDA.
  • 00:21:50.554 --> 00:21:51.288
  • LIKE MELINDA.- MANDISA: YEAH!
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  • - MANDISA: YEAH!- DR. ROBYN: SO, MELINDA, YOU
  • 00:21:52.823 --> 00:21:53.391
  • - DR. ROBYN: SO, MELINDA, YOUTALK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:21:53.391 --> 00:21:54.425
  • TALK ABOUT IT.YOU TALK ABOUT MISSION AND HOW
  • 00:21:54.425 --> 00:21:56.761
  • YOU TALK ABOUT MISSION AND HOWYOU'RE FULFILLING THAT, RIGHT
  • 00:21:56.761 --> 00:21:57.261
  • YOU'RE FULFILLING THAT, RIGHTNOW.
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  • NOW.- MELINDA: FIRST OF ALL, THANK
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  • - MELINDA: FIRST OF ALL, THANKYOU.
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  • YOU.BUT, SECONDLY, I GOT IT FROM MY
  • 00:21:59.997 --> 00:22:01.031
  • BUT, SECONDLY, I GOT IT FROM MYMAMA.
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  • MAMA.LIKE, I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE
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  • LIKE, I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLEMOTHER AND RAISED BY A WOMAN...
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  • MOTHER AND RAISED BY A WOMAN...- DR. ROBYN: THERE YOU GO.
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  • - DR. ROBYN: THERE YOU GO.- MELINDA: ...WHO PUT GOD
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  • - MELINDA: ...WHO PUT GODFIRST IN EVERYTHING THAT SHE
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  • FIRST IN EVERYTHING THAT SHEDID AND TAUGHT ME HOW TO ENJOY
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  • DID AND TAUGHT ME HOW TO ENJOYLIFE THE KINGDOM WAY.
  • 00:22:15.980 --> 00:22:17.181
  • LIFE THE KINGDOM WAY.AND BECAUSE OF THAT, HER
  • 00:22:17.181 --> 00:22:19.450
  • AND BECAUSE OF THAT, HERSINGLENESS WAS NOT A HINDRANCE.
  • 00:22:19.450 --> 00:22:22.620
  • SINGLENESS WAS NOT A HINDRANCE.HER SINGLENESS WAS SOMETHING
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  • HER SINGLENESS WAS SOMETHINGTHAT JUST BOLSTERED HER.
  • 00:22:23.421 --> 00:22:24.922
  • THAT JUST BOLSTERED HER.HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD GOT
  • 00:22:24.922 --> 00:22:27.825
  • HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD GOTDEEPER, AND SHE TAUGHT ME, AS
  • 00:22:27.825 --> 00:22:29.794
  • DEEPER, AND SHE TAUGHT ME, ASSHE RAISED ME AND BROUGHT ME
  • 00:22:29.794 --> 00:22:31.395
  • SHE RAISED ME AND BROUGHT METHROUGH THIS LIFE.
  • 00:22:31.395 --> 00:22:34.365
  • THROUGH THIS LIFE.AND SO, I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR
  • 00:22:34.365 --> 00:22:35.599
  • AND SO, I AM SO GRATEFUL FORTHAT EXAMPLE.
  • 00:22:35.599 --> 00:22:37.201
  • THAT EXAMPLE.I'M GRATEFUL FOR MY MARRIED
  • 00:22:37.201 --> 00:22:38.536
  • I'M GRATEFUL FOR MY MARRIEDFRIENDS AS EXAMPLES.
  • 00:22:38.536 --> 00:22:39.970
  • FRIENDS AS EXAMPLES.I TELL JANICE, ALL THE TIME,
  • 00:22:39.970 --> 00:22:42.239
  • I TELL JANICE, ALL THE TIME,SHE IS, LIKE, MAYBE THE ONLY
  • 00:22:42.239 --> 00:22:44.408
  • SHE IS, LIKE, MAYBE THE ONLYPERSON THAT EVEN MAKES ME THINK
  • 00:22:44.408 --> 00:22:45.543
  • PERSON THAT EVEN MAKES ME THINKABOUT WANTING TO BE MARRIED.
  • 00:22:45.543 --> 00:22:47.912
  • ABOUT WANTING TO BE MARRIED.BECAUSE, THE EXAMPLES OF SINGLE
  • 00:22:47.912 --> 00:22:49.847
  • BECAUSE, THE EXAMPLES OF SINGLEWOMEN AND MARRIED WOMEN WHO DO
  • 00:22:49.847 --> 00:22:51.916
  • WOMEN AND MARRIED WOMEN WHO DOLIFE WELL AND WHO ENJOY IT WELL
  • 00:22:51.916 --> 00:22:53.517
  • LIFE WELL AND WHO ENJOY IT WELLARE SO BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:22:53.517 --> 00:22:56.287
  • ARE SO BEAUTIFUL.AND, NOW, HAVILAH IS MY NEXT
  • 00:22:56.287 --> 00:22:56.987
  • AND, NOW, HAVILAH IS MY NEXTNEW FAVORITE, BECAUSE, YOU SEEM
  • 00:22:56.987 --> 00:23:00.324
  • NEW FAVORITE, BECAUSE, YOU SEEMTO DO IT WELL AND ENJOY IT
  • 00:23:00.324 --> 00:23:02.526
  • TO DO IT WELL AND ENJOY ITWELL.
  • 00:23:02.526 --> 00:23:03.160
  • WELL.SO, THANK YOU FOR THAT.
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  • SO, THANK YOU FOR THAT.- HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I DON'T
  • 00:23:04.595 --> 00:23:05.296
  • - HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I DON'TKNOW IF ANY OF US ARE DOING IT
  • 00:23:05.296 --> 00:23:06.597
  • KNOW IF ANY OF US ARE DOING ITPERFECTLY, BUT WE'RE ALL TRYING
  • 00:23:06.597 --> 00:23:07.832
  • PERFECTLY, BUT WE'RE ALL TRYINGTO SURRENDER TO THE PROCESS,
  • 00:23:07.832 --> 00:23:09.400
  • TO SURRENDER TO THE PROCESS,WHATEVER THAT MIGHT LOOK LIKE.
  • 00:23:09.400 --> 00:23:11.435
  • WHATEVER THAT MIGHT LOOK LIKE.AND, I THINK BEING SINGLE, ON
  • 00:23:11.435 --> 00:23:12.636
  • AND, I THINK BEING SINGLE, ONPURPOSE, WHETHER WE WANNA BE
  • 00:23:12.636 --> 00:23:14.305
  • PURPOSE, WHETHER WE WANNA BESINGLE, ON PURPOSE, WHETHER WE
  • 00:23:14.305 --> 00:23:15.306
  • SINGLE, ON PURPOSE, WHETHER WEWANNA BE SINGLE WITH PURPOSE --
  • 00:23:15.306 --> 00:23:16.574
  • WANNA BE SINGLE WITH PURPOSE --I MEAN, THOSE ARE ALL VERY
  • 00:23:16.574 --> 00:23:17.708
  • I MEAN, THOSE ARE ALL VERYDIFFERENT THINGS.
  • 00:23:17.708 --> 00:23:19.610
  • DIFFERENT THINGS.JANICE, I'M CURIOUS, IF YOU
  • 00:23:19.610 --> 00:23:20.711
  • JANICE, I'M CURIOUS, IF YOUWERE TO HAVE SAY ONE THING TO
  • 00:23:20.711 --> 00:23:22.046
  • WERE TO HAVE SAY ONE THING TOYOUR SINGLE SELF, WHAT WOULD
  • 00:23:22.046 --> 00:23:23.414
  • YOUR SINGLE SELF, WHAT WOULDYOU HAVE SAID TO YOURSELF TO
  • 00:23:23.414 --> 00:23:25.115
  • YOU HAVE SAID TO YOURSELF TOENCOURAGE YOU, BACK IN THE DAY,
  • 00:23:25.115 --> 00:23:26.016
  • ENCOURAGE YOU, BACK IN THE DAY,NOW THAT YOU'RE A MARRIED
  • 00:23:26.016 --> 00:23:27.685
  • NOW THAT YOU'RE A MARRIEDWOMAN?
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  • WOMAN?- JANICE: YEAH. TRUST GOD AND
  • 00:23:28.619 --> 00:23:31.222
  • - JANICE: YEAH. TRUST GOD ANDGET ALL HE HAS FOR YOU -- NOW.
  • 00:23:31.222 --> 00:23:35.493
  • GET ALL HE HAS FOR YOU -- NOW.HE DOES WHAT HE DOES ON
  • 00:23:35.493 --> 00:23:36.360
  • HE DOES WHAT HE DOES ONPURPOSE.
  • 00:23:36.360 --> 00:23:36.961
  • PURPOSE.AND IT'S ALL ABOUT TRUSTING
  • 00:23:36.961 --> 00:23:37.995
  • AND IT'S ALL ABOUT TRUSTINGHIM.
  • 00:23:37.995 --> 00:23:39.363
  • HIM.AND SO, I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU
  • 00:23:39.363 --> 00:23:43.767
  • AND SO, I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOUGUYS WHO ARE WATCHING MIGHT
  • 00:23:43.767 --> 00:23:44.435
  • GUYS WHO ARE WATCHING MIGHTFIND YOURSELVES, WHETHER YOU'VE
  • 00:23:44.435 --> 00:23:45.069
  • FIND YOURSELVES, WHETHER YOU'VEBEEN GIFTED WITH SINGLENESS OR
  • 00:23:45.069 --> 00:23:46.403
  • BEEN GIFTED WITH SINGLENESS ORGIFTED WITH MARRIAGE.
  • 00:23:46.403 --> 00:23:47.805
  • GIFTED WITH MARRIAGE.I JUST PRAY THAT YOU WOULD
  • 00:23:47.805 --> 00:23:49.039
  • I JUST PRAY THAT YOU WOULDBEGIN TO TRUST GOD, WHEREVER
  • 00:23:49.039 --> 00:23:50.608
  • BEGIN TO TRUST GOD, WHEREVERYOU ARE, THAT YOU WOULD TRUST
  • 00:23:50.608 --> 00:23:52.776
  • YOU ARE, THAT YOU WOULD TRUSTTHAT HE'S DOING THIS ON PURPOSE
  • 00:23:52.776 --> 00:23:54.111
  • THAT HE'S DOING THIS ON PURPOSEAND HE HAS A PLAN FOR THIS
  • 00:23:54.111 --> 00:23:57.615
  • AND HE HAS A PLAN FOR THISSEASON ON YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:23:57.615 --> 00:23:58.616
  • SEASON ON YOUR LIFE.IF YOU HAVE KIDS CLIMBING ON
  • 00:23:58.616 --> 00:23:59.283
  • IF YOU HAVE KIDS CLIMBING ONYOUR HEAD, LIKE ME AND HAVILAH,
  • 00:23:59.283 --> 00:24:00.551
  • YOUR HEAD, LIKE ME AND HAVILAH,HE HAS A PLAN.
  • 00:24:00.551 --> 00:24:02.119
  • HE HAS A PLAN.IF YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR
  • 00:24:02.119 --> 00:24:04.121
  • IF YOU ARE ENJOYING YOURPRESENT COMPANY, RIGHT NOW,
  • 00:24:04.121 --> 00:24:07.558
  • PRESENT COMPANY, RIGHT NOW,BEING YOURSELF, HE HAS A PLAN.
  • 00:24:07.558 --> 00:24:08.826
  • BEING YOURSELF, HE HAS A PLAN.AND SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR YOU
  • 00:24:08.826 --> 00:24:10.594
  • AND SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR YOUREALLY QUICKLY.
  • 00:24:10.594 --> 00:24:11.829
  • REALLY QUICKLY.LORD, WE THANK YOU THAT YOU DO
  • 00:24:11.829 --> 00:24:13.464
  • LORD, WE THANK YOU THAT YOU DOHAVE A PLAN FOR EACH OF US --
  • 00:24:13.464 --> 00:24:14.231
  • HAVE A PLAN FOR EACH OF US --PLANS TO PROSPER US AND NOT TO
  • 00:24:14.231 --> 00:24:15.332
  • PLANS TO PROSPER US AND NOT TOHARM US.
  • 00:24:15.332 --> 00:24:18.168
  • HARM US.YOU HAVE GIFTED EACH AND EVERY
  • 00:24:18.168 --> 00:24:19.904
  • YOU HAVE GIFTED EACH AND EVERYONE OF US, FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR
  • 00:24:19.904 --> 00:24:20.337
  • ONE OF US, FOR THE SAKE OF YOURBODY.
  • 00:24:20.337 --> 00:24:21.438
  • BODY.AND I JUST PRAY, LORD GOD, THAT
  • 00:24:21.438 --> 00:24:22.840
  • AND I JUST PRAY, LORD GOD, THATYOU WOULD BEGIN TO HIGHLIGHT
  • 00:24:22.840 --> 00:24:26.010
  • YOU WOULD BEGIN TO HIGHLIGHTFOR THOSE WATCHING, EVERYBODY
  • 00:24:26.010 --> 00:24:27.211
  • FOR THOSE WATCHING, EVERYBODYWATCHING, RIGHT NOW, WHAT IT IS
  • 00:24:27.211 --> 00:24:28.045
  • WATCHING, RIGHT NOW, WHAT IT ISYOU'RE DOING IN THIS SEASON IN
  • 00:24:28.045 --> 00:24:29.280
  • YOU'RE DOING IN THIS SEASON INTHEIR LIVES.
  • 00:24:29.280 --> 00:24:30.648
  • THEIR LIVES.I PRAY FOR PEACE WHEN IT COMES
  • 00:24:30.648 --> 00:24:31.749
  • I PRAY FOR PEACE WHEN IT COMESTO THINKING ABOUT FUTURE
  • 00:24:31.749 --> 00:24:33.317
  • TO THINKING ABOUT FUTURESEASONS, AND I PRAY FOR
  • 00:24:33.317 --> 00:24:34.852
  • SEASONS, AND I PRAY FORCONTENTMENT WHILE CONTENDING,
  • 00:24:34.852 --> 00:24:37.288
  • CONTENTMENT WHILE CONTENDING,WHILE LEAVING THE SPACE OPEN
  • 00:24:37.288 --> 00:24:38.722
  • WHILE LEAVING THE SPACE OPENFOR WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO.
  • 00:24:38.722 --> 00:24:41.759
  • FOR WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO.I PRAY FOR PEACE, RIGHT NOW, IN
  • 00:24:41.759 --> 00:24:43.193
  • I PRAY FOR PEACE, RIGHT NOW, INTHE NAME OF JESUS; FOR JOY,
  • 00:24:43.193 --> 00:24:44.562
  • THE NAME OF JESUS; FOR JOY,RIGHT NOW; FOR PEACE; FOR
  • 00:24:44.562 --> 00:24:46.597
  • RIGHT NOW; FOR PEACE; FORGRATITUDE, LORD.
  • 00:24:46.597 --> 00:24:48.499
  • GRATITUDE, LORD.I JUST PRAY THAT THE FRUIT OF
  • 00:24:48.499 --> 00:24:49.934
  • I JUST PRAY THAT THE FRUIT OFTHE SPIRIT WOULD RUSH IN; THAT
  • 00:24:49.934 --> 00:24:51.435
  • THE SPIRIT WOULD RUSH IN; THATEVEN WHEN WE'RE SQUEEZED, WHAT
  • 00:24:51.435 --> 00:24:52.503
  • EVEN WHEN WE'RE SQUEEZED, WHATCOMES OUT IS THE FRUIT OF THE
  • 00:24:52.503 --> 00:24:53.470
  • COMES OUT IS THE FRUIT OF THESPIRIT.
  • 00:24:53.470 --> 00:24:55.306
  • SPIRIT.LET US AS MANDISA SAID,
  • 00:24:55.306 --> 00:24:56.006
  • LET US AS MANDISA SAID,CLOTHE OURSELVES WITH THOSE
  • 00:24:56.006 --> 00:24:58.576
  • CLOTHE OURSELVES WITH THOSETHINGS THAT ARE PLEASING TO
  • 00:24:58.576 --> 00:24:59.143
  • THINGS THAT ARE PLEASING TOYOU.
  • 00:24:59.143 --> 00:25:00.411
  • YOU.AND SO, LORD, WOULD YOU GIVE US
  • 00:25:00.411 --> 00:25:02.313
  • AND SO, LORD, WOULD YOU GIVE USTHE COURAGE, RIGHT NOW, TO DO
  • 00:25:02.313 --> 00:25:04.315
  • THE COURAGE, RIGHT NOW, TO DOIT?
  • 00:25:04.315 --> 00:25:04.848
  • IT?AND I ENCOURAGE EVERYBODY
  • 00:25:04.848 --> 00:25:05.749
  • AND I ENCOURAGE EVERYBODYWATCHING THAT YOU ARE GOOD AND
  • 00:25:05.749 --> 00:25:07.851
  • WATCHING THAT YOU ARE GOOD ANDYOU ARE TRUSTWORTHY AND THEY
  • 00:25:07.851 --> 00:25:09.053
  • YOU ARE TRUSTWORTHY AND THEYCAN TRUST YOU WITH THIS.
  • 00:25:09.053 --> 00:25:10.454
  • CAN TRUST YOU WITH THIS.I PRAY THAT YOU ARE BLESSED.
  • 00:25:10.454 --> 00:25:12.389
  • I PRAY THAT YOU ARE BLESSED.IN JESUS' NAME, WE PRAY...AMEN.
  • 00:25:12.389 --> 00:25:18.295
  • IN JESUS' NAME, WE PRAY...AMEN.- MANDISA: AMEN.
  • 00:25:18.295 --> 00:25:18.929
  • - MANDISA: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ON
  • 00:25:18.929 --> 00:25:19.530
  • - LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOW
  • 00:25:19.530 --> 00:25:26.870
  • SOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
  • 00:25:26.870 --> 00:25:27.671
  • HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.YOU CAN STREAM
  • 00:25:27.671 --> 00:25:28.505
  • YOU CAN STREAM"BETTER TOGETHER" EPISODES ON
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  • "BETTER TOGETHER" EPISODES ONTHE GO.
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  • THE GO.DOWNLOAD THE TBN APP TO
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  • CONVERSATIONS.NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
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  • NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- MANDISA: GOD, LET ME NOT
  • 00:25:36.246 --> 00:25:37.915
  • - MANDISA: GOD, LET ME NOTTAKE FOR GRANTED THE MOST
  • 00:25:37.915 --> 00:25:38.882
  • TAKE FOR GRANTED THE MOSTINCREDIBLE FRIENDS THAT I HAVE,
  • 00:25:38.882 --> 00:25:41.418
  • INCREDIBLE FRIENDS THAT I HAVE,AS A SINGLE WOMAN.
  • 00:25:41.418 --> 00:25:44.421
  • AS A SINGLE WOMAN.AND I FIND MY RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:25:44.421 --> 00:25:45.556
  • AND I FIND MY RELATIONSHIPSWITH OTHER PEOPLE -- THAT IS SO
  • 00:25:45.556 --> 00:25:48.525
  • WITH OTHER PEOPLE -- THAT IS SOIMPORTANT.
  • 00:25:48.525 --> 00:25:49.059
  • IMPORTANT.- LAURIE: WATCH "BETTER
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  • - LAURIE: WATCH "BETTERTOGETHER" WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY
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