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December 17, 2019
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  • - Baking cookies, caroling, gift giving.
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  • Do you have a cherished Christmas memory or tradition?
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  • Today, we're sharing some of ours.
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  • Come on, grab some hot cocoa, maybe some cider
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  • and join us.
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  • (inspirational music)
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  • - You know growing up, my dad made Christmas
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  • such a big deal and so Christmas has always been you know,
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  • one of my favorite times of the year
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  • and we always had traditions growing up
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  • and I knew that when I got married and had kids,
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  • I was gonna have to create some of my own traditions
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  • and I love it.
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  • I'm always coming up with something
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  • because I'm big on creating memories
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  • and so one of our traditions that we do is
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  • we have all of the kids come over and we all dress up
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  • in pajamas that I buy so nobody can complain,
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  • I don't care what it is, it could be a onesie,
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  • two piece but everybody...
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  • - Now see, we need a photo of this.
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  • - I should give you a photo, I'll show you a photo.
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  • I have them.
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  • - We'll get a photo. - I will give you a photo.
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  • - And we all dress up.
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  • My parents they live with us now so they dress up
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  • so we look like one big happy family
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  • have our kids, our grandchildren, our in-laws, everybody,
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  • it's insane. - Aww.
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  • - Back in gear and so we all come together for Christmas Eve
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  • and we sit around and we just talk and eat
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  • and sit in front of the fireplace and play games
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  • and before we go to bed that night,
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  • we set up all of the kids toys cause they stay with me
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  • they have to stay with me so the in-laws know
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  • Christmas Eve, you do it at my house and all of the kids
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  • I buy all of the toys and we put them all under the tree
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  • and everybody can open up at least one gift
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  • before we go to bed and they are so excited about it
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  • but the sad part is is that I have grown kids
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  • that are married that have in-laws and I have to share
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  • and so when we wake up that morning, we open up the gifts,
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  • traditions have changed, they off Bredan is off to Detroit
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  • Brittany is off to another part, you know,
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  • Josh son my grandson, mom, because my son is divorced
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  • and so that has caused a different dynamic you know
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  • in all of our traditions but I believe if you kinda just
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  • keep one tradition in place, it still keeps the solidity
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  • of everything else.
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  • It's like stuff change, seasons change, but what do you do?
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  • You just keep it moving and enjoy the time
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  • you can have with the right?
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  • - And I think like for us that candlelight service
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  • was something that we always did.
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  • Like our Christmas Eve candlelight service.
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  • - You do that with your family?
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  • - Yeah
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  • - Okay, okay.
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  • - And our kids are a part of it and their kids
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  • - At church - At church
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  • I think the reason that a candlelight service
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  • is special to me is there's just this,
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  • like a holiness to it if you will.
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  • It's family but there's this holiness,
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  • there's this wonder, there's an excitement cause
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  • Christmas is tomorrow so it's kinda all wrapped in one
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  • and it's, I just think so many times in my life
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  • in particular, maybe yours too but where we can just
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  • go, go, go, go, go and I think this is one time
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  • which slows me down and I'm not always good at that
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  • and so it slows me down to be a part of just the majesty.
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  • I mean from singing Oh Holy Night which is just divine
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  • it's just such a powerful song to lighting candles
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  • and seeing all of the people in the room
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  • with their candles lit and it's as if we all get it
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  • you know, for a moment, for a moment,
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  • we all understand what Christmas is all about.
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  • - We come back to the house like you did
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  • and everybody opens a present and then the other tradition
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  • is I every Christmas Eve, I always say
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  • lets open the rest of the presents and they all say no.
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  • It's like a tradition every year.
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  • - It happens to me too - And they say no.
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  • It's a tradition.
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  • - Yeah, I've done that as well like come on.
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  • And my mom she loves her packages to just be wrapped
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  • so she don't want to open them.
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  • It may be a week later, she likes looking at the boxes,
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  • she likes the wrapping and we're like ma,
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  • open the gift.
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  • Oh no, it's so pretty, it's like okay.
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  • - That is so funny.
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  • - So I'm thinking now maybe I should just buy her a box
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  • and wrap it.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - The other fun Christmas morning its cinnamon rolls always.
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  • - Mine's gorilla bread.
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  • - Gorilla bread, so we all have one thing.
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  • But now to your point - Mine's the waffles.
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  • - Waffles?
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  • - I get up and make waffles for everybody.
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  • I make the best waffles.
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  • - And why did you not do that today?
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  • - I should have, I should have, I should have.
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  • - Christmas at Better Together - Yes, it is Christmas.
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  • - We got time.
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  • - We got time, I love it, I love it.
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  • - You know but Christmas does look different every year
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  • doesn't it?
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  • - Yes it does.
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  • - So, my son just got married so
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  • - New season - New season
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  • - I can't believe that little boy is married.
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  • - I know right, no tears. - No tears.
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  • Cause it's amazing, I've got my girl now
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  • but it's gonna change and now hopefully
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  • babies are gonna come along soon
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  • but it changes every year now,
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  • we opened up all of our presents on Christmas Eve.
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  • - Really?
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  • - Yeah she did.
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  • - I hope my family's watching (laughing)
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  • - We open in the Orndorf house, we open up on
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  • Christmas Eve and then at the Crouches
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  • they opened up Christmas day.
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  • - Okay
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  • - So we always had that but then papa always read
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  • the Christmas story to all the kids
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  • and then papa died you know,
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  • and so all through the years things change
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  • and I think, I think a lot of us have a romanticized idea
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  • of what Christmas should look like every year
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  • and I think we all desire that probably my biggest tradition
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  • is that I try to buy every beautiful Christmas book
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  • I can possibly and then I just
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  • oh, wouldn't that be lovely?
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  • (laughter)
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  • - It's not real, but wouldn't it be lovely.
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  • - I'd like to cook like that someday you know?
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  • - Oh gosh, yeah.
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  • - But times change, I mean,
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  • sometimes we're out of the country.
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  • Sometimes I'm in the editing suite with Matt
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  • during the night.
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  • I've done that so many Christmas Eves
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  • of just being in there to have the TBN Christmas special
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  • on the next day you know, I did that for years
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  • you know, just spending that time in the editing suite.
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  • - Ours is about to shift because our son,
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  • our tradition is always we buy the matching jammies
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  • but for the dogs as well.
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  • (laughter)
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  • The dogs wear matching jammies, we're all the same
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  • and I've always loved that
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  • and we always go to the Christmas Eve service
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  • and then we come home and we open one gift
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  • and I'm always like can we just open them all
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  • and they're like no, absolutely not
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  • but now our son is dating a girl he really loves.
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  • - Yeah
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  • - And so I know that things are about to shift
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  • cause I'm so used to he always comes home for Christmas
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  • but I'm realizing there's gonna come a time
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  • when we're gonna have to say okay,
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  • this Christmas you go there and just hope they don't notice
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  • that I'm coming with them.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - We'll just get a little room down the street.
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  • - It's like this Christmas Mike wanted to spend
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  • Christmas in the Bahamas, the whole month of December.
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  • - By yourself - By ourselves.
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  • This year is gonna be very different for me,
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  • it has been very different for me.
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  • I love transitions.
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  • In order to grow, in order to be better,
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  • there must be transitions in life.
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  • Well this year, I am somewhere sitting on the beach
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  • in the Bahamas.
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  • My husband decided that he wanted
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  • to create something new this year.
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  • He wanted to create a new memory and
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  • he wanted to sweep me off to the Bahamas
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  • without my children.
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  • I'm like where are my babies?
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  • I like my kids.
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  • I know some of you don't like your children but it's okay.
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  • I guarantee you, you just hold fast,
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  • you gonna like em one day (laughing)
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  • but I like my children and I like my grandchildren
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  • and I am away from them but it's okay,
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  • cause I love Jesus, and I love my husband
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  • and I love creating memories.
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  • So Holly helped me out a lot,
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  • she said no, this is what you do, you go
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  • and so while they're watching this broadcast,
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  • I will be sitting in the Bahamas.
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  • - Then you're coming back for the
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  • - But I'm gonna come back on the 23rd.
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  • - Look out for your husband - Yeah
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  • - I love it
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  • - I mean, he really wants to do that and so
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  • I believe I'm on the beach right now.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Thanks for that, she's rubbing it in.
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  • - That's like so I have a grandchild.
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  • - Yeah, your grandbaby.
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  • - And that shifted everything cause now all of a sudden
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  • young and so my daughter will say no, come to our house
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  • in the morning cause we wanna
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  • and I'm like wait what, what, wait what?
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  • - Mm-hmm, mm-hmm (affirmative)
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  • - So its just that season like navigating
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  • cause with the baby it's easier and I'm like okay,
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  • I have to be flexible.
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  • - Missy is who initiated
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  • one of our current Christmas traditions.
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  • I wanted to go all Clark Griswold on her
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  • and when I first brought her home,
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  • the adoption agents I was working with and counselor said
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  • Lisa, don't overdo it.
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  • She's never experienced Christmas.
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  • It will overwhelm her, it could even scar her,
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  • really rile her up emotionally
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  • so they said do Christmas really, really simple
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  • and it was hard cause I wanted to do this massive,
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  • huge Christmas but of course you know,
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  • we all hear it's not about the gifts
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  • its about the giver, so she gets up about 9 or 10
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  • on Christmas morning and she kinda meanders into
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  • where the tree is and she wants to just hang with me
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  • and she usually takes all day to open her presents.
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  • She doesn't rip em all off and it's helped me just
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  • actually enjoy that season instead of rush through it
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  • and all of a sudden it's over.
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  • It's all about cleaning up the wrappings
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  • so I'd say the tradition my little girl
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  • has brought into our home is one of a real consistent,
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  • simple, peaceful joy.
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  • - I think there's a lot of freedom in knowing
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  • you can evolve your traditions.
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  • - That's good.
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  • - I think some more people need to be set free.
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  • - No, that was very good Hosanna.
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  • - Like do not worship nostalgia.
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  • Do not live in a prison of something you saw on TV
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  • when you were 10 years old, like don't let Christmas
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  • be stolen from you
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  • because you have unrealistic expectations.
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  • - Which I think most people do.
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  • - Hallmark movies do not help.
  • 00:11:15.050 --> 00:11:18.080
  • - They do not - They do not help us.
  • 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:20.100
  • - Cause it's unrealistic - Yes
  • 00:11:20.100 --> 00:11:22.270
  • - And it's freeing that it can evolve.
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  • You need to self assess where your life is
  • 00:11:25.090 --> 00:11:27.110
  • and I think for some people that weren't raised
  • 00:11:27.110 --> 00:11:30.080
  • with a lot of traditions that that's okay
  • 00:11:30.080 --> 00:11:34.000
  • and you can create your own traditions
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  • from something you've seen someone else do
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  • or something you saw on TV.
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  • Do you want to make that what your Christmas tradition is?
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  • You don't have to have had this tradition
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  • since you were five years old.
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  • - Right
  • 00:11:45.280 --> 00:11:47.100
  • - I had a unique opportunity when I was touring
  • 00:11:47.100 --> 00:11:48.260
  • as a spoken word artist for four and a half years
  • 00:11:48.260 --> 00:11:50.130
  • by myself where because of whatever church I was out
  • 00:11:50.130 --> 00:11:53.020
  • for that Christmas, I would stay with a host family.
  • 00:11:53.020 --> 00:11:56.130
  • They wouldn't let me just be in a hotel room
  • 00:11:56.130 --> 00:11:57.280
  • if I was at their church during Christmas
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  • so I would stay with some host family
  • 00:11:59.170 --> 00:12:01.090
  • for four and a half years and experience Christmas
  • 00:12:01.090 --> 00:12:03.190
  • through their eyes, through their lens,
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  • four different states and that was first of all,
  • 00:12:05.040 --> 00:12:08.000
  • powerful, and healing to see different kinds of families
  • 00:12:08.000 --> 00:12:11.280
  • and how they interacted with their grandkids, kids,
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  • aunts, uncles, like, they were all very different families
  • 00:12:16.120 --> 00:12:19.240
  • with different traditions
  • 00:12:19.240 --> 00:12:21.070
  • but there was something so beautiful about that
  • 00:12:21.070 --> 00:12:24.090
  • and I have taken something from all those families.
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  • Growing up, my family didn't have a ton of traditions
  • 00:12:27.250 --> 00:12:30.260
  • for Christmas but my husband and I you know,
  • 00:12:30.260 --> 00:12:34.020
  • we've been married for five years now
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  • and we're kinda creating our own traditions
  • 00:12:35.070 --> 00:12:37.030
  • a little bit of things we've seen from other couples
  • 00:12:37.030 --> 00:12:39.150
  • from other pastors, other mentors, things we've seen on TV,
  • 00:12:39.150 --> 00:12:42.110
  • things we've seen our friends do,
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  • things we've come up with ourselves,
  • 00:12:43.190 --> 00:12:45.040
  • kind of piecing together and creating our own little family
  • 00:12:45.040 --> 00:12:48.290
  • our own little traditions and stuff we hope to give
  • 00:12:48.290 --> 00:12:52.280
  • to our kids when they come in due time.
  • 00:12:52.280 --> 00:12:56.040
  • And it's like, you have to own it,
  • 00:12:56.040 --> 00:12:57.120
  • you have to create the life you want sometimes.
  • 00:12:57.120 --> 00:13:00.020
  • You have to create the family you want sometimes.
  • 00:13:00.020 --> 00:13:02.010
  • It's okay if you didn't have these traditions,
  • 00:13:02.010 --> 00:13:04.090
  • what is your tradition now?
  • 00:13:04.090 --> 00:13:05.260
  • - Yeah, your tradition could be
  • 00:13:05.260 --> 00:13:07.030
  • to create a new memory every year.
  • 00:13:07.030 --> 00:13:09.060
  • - I like that.
  • 00:13:09.060 --> 00:13:10.200
  • - You know, I am very big on creating memories.
  • 00:13:10.200 --> 00:13:13.180
  • You don't have to have been one to have been raised
  • 00:13:13.180 --> 00:13:16.280
  • in a home where traditions of Christmas
  • 00:13:16.280 --> 00:13:20.070
  • was a big thing for you.
  • 00:13:21.050 --> 00:13:22.200
  • It's okay, you're grown now, you can go and create
  • 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:25.060
  • a tradition of your very own
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  • whether its going to just have a cup of coffee with someone
  • 00:13:27.150 --> 00:13:31.240
  • or going to a soup kitchen and feeding the hungry
  • 00:13:31.240 --> 00:13:36.110
  • or the homeless, it's like just be a blessing to somebody.
  • 00:13:36.110 --> 00:13:40.250
  • The Bible says that God has blessed us to be a blessing.
  • 00:13:40.250 --> 00:13:44.200
  • - Well, when you just said like your dad
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  • made Christmas amazing.
  • 00:13:46.230 --> 00:13:48.210
  • All right, so did my parents.
  • 00:13:48.210 --> 00:13:49.240
  • They made it amazing.
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  • I just remember this conversation with Philip
  • 00:13:51.140 --> 00:13:52.180
  • I just remember this conversation with Philip
  • 00:13:52.180 --> 00:13:53.130
  • and he said there comes a time when you have to realize
  • 00:13:53.240 --> 00:13:57.040
  • you're the one that now makes it amazing.
  • 00:13:57.040 --> 00:13:59.060
  • - The baton is passed, yeah.
  • 00:14:00.040 --> 00:14:01.270
  • - It's yeah, you're the one that makes it amazing
  • 00:14:01.270 --> 00:14:04.020
  • for other people so the giving, the creating traditions.
  • 00:14:04.020 --> 00:14:06.070
  • Quit looking for the traditions in somebody else.
  • 00:14:06.070 --> 00:14:10.000
  • You're now the one that does it so
  • 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:11.280
  • and I think so many people to your point
  • 00:14:13.040 --> 00:14:14.160
  • they get sentimental and frustrated cause they want that
  • 00:14:14.160 --> 00:14:16.010
  • when no, you're the grown up, you make it amazing.
  • 00:14:16.010 --> 00:14:18.040
  • - It is very freeing actually.
  • 00:14:18.040 --> 00:14:20.040
  • - Yeah it is.
  • 00:14:20.040 --> 00:14:21.100
  • - It takes a lot of pressure off you think,
  • 00:14:21.100 --> 00:14:22.160
  • how can I make this better for you?
  • 00:14:22.160 --> 00:14:23.160
  • - Yeah
  • 00:14:23.160 --> 00:14:24.230
  • - I think that's really beautiful.
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  • to show us how you and your friends are creating
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  • Christmas memories this season.
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  • - We can't wait to see your beautiful faces.
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  • - Christmas at the Ivy's house involves
  • 00:14:37.090 --> 00:14:38.250
  • a lot of movies on the couch.
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  • It involves a lot of cooking so we just love to spend
  • 00:14:40.180 --> 00:14:43.230
  • as many moments as we can together in the kitchen,
  • 00:14:43.230 --> 00:14:46.220
  • eating good food.
  • 00:14:46.220 --> 00:14:47.260
  • - My favorite Christmas tradition is
  • 00:14:47.260 --> 00:14:49.170
  • everybody getting around the table eating.
  • 00:14:49.170 --> 00:14:52.010
  • I love to cook when I'm home, it's very relaxing
  • 00:14:52.010 --> 00:14:55.120
  • and so my greatest joy is seeing my family eat
  • 00:14:55.120 --> 00:14:58.070
  • and enjoy it and us just having a good time
  • 00:14:58.070 --> 00:15:00.090
  • not worrying about anything.
  • 00:15:00.090 --> 00:15:01.280
  • - One of my favorite Christmas memories
  • 00:15:01.280 --> 00:15:03.140
  • when we lived in Nashville and Christian was probably about
  • 00:15:03.140 --> 00:15:06.030
  • seven or eight and they said there was a potential of snow
  • 00:15:06.030 --> 00:15:09.100
  • for Christmas and he stood outside all Christmas Eve
  • 00:15:09.100 --> 00:15:12.090
  • just watching the sky and he was so disappointed.
  • 00:15:12.090 --> 00:15:15.060
  • I remember saying to him Christian,
  • 00:15:15.060 --> 00:15:16.210
  • do you know we can make it snow inside the house?
  • 00:15:16.210 --> 00:15:19.100
  • He was like no.
  • 00:15:19.100 --> 00:15:20.050
  • Go get that big bag of flour we got from Cosco.
  • 00:15:21.100 --> 00:15:23.260
  • - Oh my gosh.
  • 00:15:23.260 --> 00:15:25.080
  • - See, so my father-in-law who lived with us,
  • 00:15:25.080 --> 00:15:26.150
  • he was 82.
  • 00:15:26.150 --> 00:15:27.130
  • - Oh my gosh.
  • 00:15:27.130 --> 00:15:28.280
  • - My husband, my son, and I, we took handfuls of flour
  • 00:15:28.280 --> 00:15:30.210
  • in the kitchen and we made it snow on Christmas Eve.
  • 00:15:30.210 --> 00:15:33.160
  • - Yes - Oh my gosh.
  • 00:15:33.160 --> 00:15:34.220
  • - Mother of the year.
  • 00:15:34.220 --> 00:15:36.040
  • - Oh gosh, it was such a mess but I mean
  • 00:15:36.040 --> 00:15:38.270
  • the delight in his face and his eyes
  • 00:15:38.270 --> 00:15:41.010
  • and of my father-in-laws
  • 00:15:41.010 --> 00:15:43.100
  • cause he, my mother-in-law was a little difficult
  • 00:15:43.100 --> 00:15:46.050
  • and so everything had to be perfect and in place
  • 00:15:47.110 --> 00:15:49.160
  • and to watch him, 82, throw flour all over the place
  • 00:15:49.160 --> 00:15:53.140
  • is one of my favorite memories that Christmas.
  • 00:15:53.140 --> 00:15:56.160
  • - Oh, see, that's beautiful.
  • 00:15:56.160 --> 00:15:58.070
  • - Okay, do you feel now that you're a grandmother.
  • 00:15:58.070 --> 00:16:01.010
  • - Yes
  • 00:16:01.010 --> 00:16:02.160
  • - That now you have a new opportunity to do things
  • 00:16:02.160 --> 00:16:06.200
  • that you didn't do with your kids
  • 00:16:06.200 --> 00:16:08.070
  • or maybe wish you could've done with your kids
  • 00:16:08.070 --> 00:16:10.000
  • that now you will focus on?
  • 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:12.030
  • - Yeah, for sure.
  • 00:16:12.030 --> 00:16:13.010
  • I'm pretty sure my kids think
  • 00:16:13.010 --> 00:16:15.070
  • that they no longer get my love, that it's pretty much
  • 00:16:15.070 --> 00:16:18.160
  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:18.160 --> 00:16:20.190
  • - Tradition has changed.
  • 00:16:20.190 --> 00:16:22.150
  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:23.100 --> 00:16:25.060
  • - You know, but I'm a little different.
  • 00:16:25.060 --> 00:16:26.210
  • I was very creative when my children were younger.
  • 00:16:26.210 --> 00:16:29.180
  • We would have always done something, made gifts,
  • 00:16:29.180 --> 00:16:33.260
  • bought stuff you know to create some fun for one another
  • 00:16:33.260 --> 00:16:38.260
  • and with my grandchildren, I'm always doing the same things
  • 00:16:40.090 --> 00:16:41.280
  • now like one year we made gingerbread houses.
  • 00:16:41.280 --> 00:16:45.170
  • Now, I'm not a baker so I just went and bought,
  • 00:16:45.170 --> 00:16:49.070
  • well, I'm not a cook at all really.
  • 00:16:49.070 --> 00:16:50.290
  • - Other than waffles. - Yeah, other than waffles
  • 00:16:52.110 --> 00:16:54.070
  • but you wouldn't want to say oh, let's go to DeeDeed's
  • 00:16:54.070 --> 00:16:57.230
  • house and have dinner you know,
  • 00:16:57.230 --> 00:16:59.100
  • cause she made the amazing meal tonight
  • 00:16:59.100 --> 00:17:01.270
  • but I can make great waffles
  • 00:17:01.270 --> 00:17:04.060
  • but so we made these gingerbread houses
  • 00:17:05.110 --> 00:17:07.080
  • and they were horrible, they looked ugly,
  • 00:17:07.080 --> 00:17:09.090
  • they you know stuff was all over the place so whatever
  • 00:17:09.090 --> 00:17:12.280
  • but it was a memory that they will never ever forget
  • 00:17:12.280 --> 00:17:17.130
  • that I took the time to invest time in them.
  • 00:17:17.130 --> 00:17:21.110
  • Time to me is one of the things
  • 00:17:21.110 --> 00:17:24.040
  • - Its the best gift
  • 00:17:24.040 --> 00:17:25.020
  • - It's the best gift to give
  • 00:17:25.020 --> 00:17:26.160
  • even if it's just sitting around telling stories
  • 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:28.240
  • making up stories you know?
  • 00:17:28.240 --> 00:17:31.000
  • - We live in such a busy culture.
  • 00:17:31.000 --> 00:17:33.040
  • I mean, we're always on the go.
  • 00:17:33.040 --> 00:17:34.200
  • There's always so much to do and I think
  • 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:36.220
  • that's why so many people are stressed and full of anxiety
  • 00:17:36.220 --> 00:17:41.220
  • and I think one of the greatest gifts that we can give
  • 00:17:41.220 --> 00:17:44.140
  • each other is our time.
  • 00:17:44.140 --> 00:17:46.280
  • Even just, every morning when I wake up
  • 00:17:46.280 --> 00:17:48.290
  • one of my first prayers every single day is
  • 00:17:48.290 --> 00:17:51.130
  • Lord give me eyes to see today what I would miss
  • 00:17:51.130 --> 00:17:54.180
  • and give me ears to hear behind what somebody's saying
  • 00:17:54.180 --> 00:17:57.140
  • to maybe what's really going in their heart
  • 00:17:57.140 --> 00:18:01.020
  • and I think sometimes if you just take time to listen
  • 00:18:01.020 --> 00:18:04.230
  • to someone, perhaps even to think of someone
  • 00:18:04.230 --> 00:18:08.260
  • maybe in your church, your Bible study group
  • 00:18:08.260 --> 00:18:11.040
  • or your small group, just someone in your circle.
  • 00:18:11.040 --> 00:18:13.220
  • Perhaps, in your child's school whose lost someone this year
  • 00:18:13.220 --> 00:18:17.020
  • or has gone through something hard
  • 00:18:17.020 --> 00:18:19.060
  • and even just the simple gift of a letter
  • 00:18:19.060 --> 00:18:22.160
  • of writing and saying, hey, I'm aware that things
  • 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:25.250
  • have been hard for you this year, and I'm praying for you.
  • 00:18:25.250 --> 00:18:28.220
  • Sometimes something like that will mean way more
  • 00:18:28.220 --> 00:18:32.100
  • than just some gift that we pick up quickly
  • 00:18:32.100 --> 00:18:34.250
  • and just drop off.
  • 00:18:34.250 --> 00:18:37.060
  • We're very busy but I think it's a beautiful thing
  • 00:18:37.060 --> 00:18:40.250
  • when we give each other time enough
  • 00:18:40.250 --> 00:18:42.250
  • so that when we ask the question how are you doing
  • 00:18:44.080 --> 00:18:46.110
  • we actually give them time to answer.
  • 00:18:46.110 --> 00:18:48.120
  • - I was raised in a poor family you know,
  • 00:18:48.120 --> 00:18:50.170
  • after my fathers suicide, we were on a very limited budget.
  • 00:18:50.170 --> 00:18:54.130
  • My mom lived in what was called the widows pension
  • 00:18:54.130 --> 00:18:57.010
  • but I never felt that as a child
  • 00:18:57.010 --> 00:18:59.130
  • because my grandmother would always come over
  • 00:18:59.130 --> 00:19:01.240
  • and stay on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning
  • 00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:04.030
  • we would all wake up and my grandmother and my mom
  • 00:19:04.030 --> 00:19:06.030
  • had to go down first and see if Santa had been
  • 00:19:06.030 --> 00:19:08.130
  • and then they would tell us and we would come down
  • 00:19:08.130 --> 00:19:10.280
  • and there were never great big gifts
  • 00:19:10.280 --> 00:19:13.120
  • but it was the atmosphere that my mom and my grandmother
  • 00:19:13.120 --> 00:19:17.040
  • created in the house, that you are surrounded by love.
  • 00:19:17.040 --> 00:19:20.100
  • - Yes
  • 00:19:20.100 --> 00:19:21.080
  • - That Jesus came at Christmas.
  • 00:19:21.080 --> 00:19:22.150
  • There would always be this thing of
  • 00:19:22.150 --> 00:19:24.010
  • you have a gift that nobody can ever take away from you.
  • 00:19:24.010 --> 00:19:28.020
  • You know, it doesn't matter whether you're a millionaire
  • 00:19:28.020 --> 00:19:30.100
  • or you live in the street,
  • 00:19:30.100 --> 00:19:31.260
  • when you understand that the greatest gift of Christmas
  • 00:19:31.260 --> 00:19:34.140
  • is the gift of Christ.
  • 00:19:34.140 --> 00:19:35.220
  • I have so many wonderful memories from childhood
  • 00:19:35.220 --> 00:19:38.100
  • even though Christmas Eve it was a family from the church
  • 00:19:38.100 --> 00:19:41.180
  • that would bring to all the widows a turkey
  • 00:19:41.180 --> 00:19:43.130
  • so we would always wait for our turkey was delivered
  • 00:19:43.130 --> 00:19:45.270
  • and then we cook it together with gratitude
  • 00:19:45.270 --> 00:19:48.220
  • that we were part of a church family
  • 00:19:48.220 --> 00:19:50.120
  • that cared for us enough to make sure
  • 00:19:50.120 --> 00:19:52.170
  • Christmas was wonderful.
  • 00:19:52.170 --> 00:19:53.230
  • - I believe as Christ followers
  • 00:19:54.190 --> 00:19:56.020
  • because of the gift we were given by Jesus.
  • 00:19:56.020 --> 00:19:59.040
  • He saved our sins, He healed us from our brokenness,
  • 00:19:59.040 --> 00:20:01.100
  • because of what He's done for us,
  • 00:20:01.100 --> 00:20:03.040
  • we are so compelled to give to others.
  • 00:20:03.040 --> 00:20:06.030
  • The gospel message changes us
  • 00:20:06.030 --> 00:20:08.130
  • so 100%, we as Christ followers
  • 00:20:08.130 --> 00:20:11.230
  • should be serving every month,
  • 00:20:11.230 --> 00:20:14.040
  • we should be involved in something where we are giving
  • 00:20:14.040 --> 00:20:16.270
  • and we should be raising our kids
  • 00:20:16.270 --> 00:20:18.130
  • to make that a normal part of their lives.
  • 00:20:18.130 --> 00:20:20.130
  • This is not extra curricular,
  • 00:20:20.130 --> 00:20:22.010
  • this is basic loving the world like Jesus did.
  • 00:20:22.010 --> 00:20:25.240
  • This is just the basics so around Christmas
  • 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:28.100
  • I think it's so important that we have traditions
  • 00:20:28.100 --> 00:20:30.210
  • or just make it a tradition to do something.
  • 00:20:30.210 --> 00:20:33.040
  • It doesn't have to be the same thing every year
  • 00:20:33.040 --> 00:20:35.260
  • where your kids or serving, where the moms and dads
  • 00:20:35.260 --> 00:20:37.110
  • are coming together.
  • 00:20:37.110 --> 00:20:38.190
  • Husbands and wives are coming together.
  • 00:20:38.190 --> 00:20:40.070
  • I promise you there's opportunities at your local church.
  • 00:20:40.070 --> 00:20:42.190
  • I promise you there's opportunities at community events
  • 00:20:42.190 --> 00:20:45.170
  • in your neighborhood.
  • 00:20:45.170 --> 00:20:47.030
  • I promise you there's more ways that you can serve
  • 00:20:47.030 --> 00:20:50.180
  • than you're currently thinking of.
  • 00:20:50.180 --> 00:20:53.050
  • - I have a memory when I was a little kid.
  • 00:20:53.050 --> 00:20:57.260
  • It's seven of us, seven siblings
  • 00:20:57.260 --> 00:20:59.240
  • and I have a younger brother, one that's under me.
  • 00:21:01.050 --> 00:21:04.100
  • Well, we weren't born in a family that had a whole bunch
  • 00:21:04.100 --> 00:21:08.070
  • but we always had the best of what they could give
  • 00:21:08.070 --> 00:21:11.290
  • and with my children and us growing up
  • 00:21:13.210 --> 00:21:15.200
  • was totally different.
  • 00:21:15.200 --> 00:21:16.270
  • I would give my kids money to say hey,
  • 00:21:16.270 --> 00:21:18.130
  • go buy your brothers and sisters a gift.
  • 00:21:18.130 --> 00:21:20.210
  • Well, my parents never did that for us
  • 00:21:20.210 --> 00:21:22.240
  • so we had to just be creative
  • 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:25.000
  • and I remember going through all of my sisters.
  • 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:28.130
  • I had four sisters, going through all of their jewelry boxes
  • 00:21:28.130 --> 00:21:32.030
  • and finding earrings that they probably didn't wear anymore
  • 00:21:32.030 --> 00:21:35.280
  • because one was over here and one was over there,
  • 00:21:35.280 --> 00:21:38.130
  • finding all of their earrings and putting them together
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  • and putting them in boxes and giving them back to them
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  • for Christmas (laughing)
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  • and my brother would do the same thing.
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  • How about he would go and get their tooth brushes
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  • and wrap them up.
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  • - He just wanted to give something.
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  • - He just wanted to give something you know
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  • it was like, when you look back over it's just like
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  • oh my God, how do you rewrap somebody's toothbrush.
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  • But it really took the pressure out of Christmas for me
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  • because it really taught me that it's just about giving
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  • whatever you purpose in your heart to give
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  • opposed to giving based upon pressure from people.
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  • - Right
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  • - Because people can put pressure on you to
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  • you know, come up to measure up to what they desire
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  • to have of you opposed to what you purpose in your heart
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  • to give to them and I believe if we could just take
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  • the pressure out of this time,
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  • you could enjoy it so much better.
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  • - 100 % right and then there's that weird tension sometimes
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  • with people and they will say to you
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  • hey I wanna stop by the house or something
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  • I have a gift for you and you're going
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  • I don't have a gift for them.
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  • I didn't even think about it.
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  • - Get a basket, throw some fruit in there
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  • - But who wants to give like that?
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  • I liked that part of the conversation
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  • about the transaction element of gifts
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  • because I think that's how people see it
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  • is that you know, I'll give you a gift,
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  • you give me a gift as if it's a transaction
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  • but it shouldn't be.
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  • It's I'm giving you a gift freely
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  • you don't ever have to give me something.
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  • That's how we got Jesus.
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  • God gave us Jesus, we didn't give him anything
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  • and so I just think we have to be careful about
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  • not expecting gifts from people
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  • but just freely give it
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  • and I mean I've had to learn that.
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  • I think there was time when I used to feel so guilty
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  • if I didn't have a gift for someone because they showed up
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  • with a present and I would go ah,
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  • but no, I just don't, I just don't.
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  • If I have one great, and so to me,
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  • I'd rather a gift be an intentional.
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  • I thought about you, I bought you this gift
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  • rather than an obligation.
  • 00:23:37.110 --> 00:23:38.170
  • - And that's not how Jesus showed love to us.
  • 00:23:38.170 --> 00:23:40.290
  • - Thank God - It wasn't a transaction.
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  • It wasn't I'm gonna give this to you so you give this to me.
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  • He said I give this to you, and you still don't want me
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  • and I still give this to you.
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  • Even while you're still in your sin,
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  • I still give this to you.
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  • - Rejected me
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  • - Even while you're rejecting me,
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  • I still give this to you.
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  • I think that takes time to get to that place
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  • to not be insecure about whose giving it to you
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  • and not giving it to you but realizing
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  • that this is only about giving to others
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  • and this isn't a transaction.
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  • I think it takes time to get there.
  • 00:24:02.110 --> 00:24:03.180
  • - One of my first memories of that
  • 00:24:03.180 --> 00:24:05.060
  • I was probably 10 or 11 and this girl
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  • who I didn't really, I wasn't close to in school
  • 00:24:07.270 --> 00:24:10.210
  • but she showed up with a gift on Christmas Eve
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  • and I totally panicked and went upstairs
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  • and my mom had wrapping paper in her bedroom and tape
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  • - So you took her toothbrush
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  • (laughter)
  • 00:24:20.130 --> 00:24:23.020
  • - I wrapped my mothers bra.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - There's no way it would've fit this girl
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  • cause after she left my mom said what did you give her
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  • and I said I gave her a bra.
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  • (laughter)
  • 00:24:34.280 --> 00:24:37.050
  • - I couldn't look her in the eyes after that at school.
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  • - You win - The traditions of Christmas.
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  • So Christmas is not about a transaction.
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  • It is about sharing the love of God.
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  • Merry Christmas.
  • 00:24:52.050 --> 00:24:53.010
  • You know, we are all filled with the Spirit of God
  • 00:24:54.120 --> 00:24:56.240
  • and God is so awesome.
  • 00:24:56.240 --> 00:24:58.160
  • When He says that if we acknowledge Him,
  • 00:24:58.160 --> 00:25:00.290
  • He will lead and direct us into all truth.
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  • He is the creator of life.
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  • He is the creator of everything and guess what?
  • 00:25:05.080 --> 00:25:08.030
  • He is in us.
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  • We can create whatever it is that we wanna see
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  • here in the earth.
  • 00:25:12.250 --> 00:25:13.290
  • If you don't have any ideas.
  • 00:25:13.290 --> 00:25:15.170
  • If you don't know what to do
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  • just ask the Creator to allow you to create something new
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  • and exciting for your life.
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  • Let me pray for you.
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  • Father, in the name of Jesus,
  • 00:25:24.070 --> 00:25:25.240
  • I pray for all of the viewers on today.
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  • I pray that they would acknowledge you in all of their ways
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  • and that you would begin to expose them to new people.
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  • Expose them to new places.
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  • Expose them to new perspectives.
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  • God, allow them to see that life is worth living
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  • and that you are the giver of life.
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  • Father, I thank you now, that you are causing them
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  • to be greater in you.
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  • In Jesus name, amen.
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  • Merry Christmas.
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  • to talk to a prayer partner.
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  • We're here for you 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
  • 00:25:56.150 --> 00:26:00.070
  • We love you, but most importantly,
  • 00:26:00.070 --> 00:26:02.020
  • Jesus loves you.
  • 00:26:02.020 --> 00:26:03.040
  • - So one of my favorite TBN Christmases is last year
  • 00:26:04.160 --> 00:26:07.260
  • when we got to go to the Bochelli families home
  • 00:26:07.260 --> 00:26:11.000
  • right there in Tuscany Italy and bring you
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  • the famous Andrea Bochelli.
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  • Silent Night
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  • Holy Night
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  • All is calm
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  • All is bright
  • 00:26:32.230 --> 00:26:36.010
  • - Probably one thing that I love most about Christmas
  • 00:26:36.010 --> 00:26:38.050
  • is the music, the worship seems to get richer
  • 00:26:38.050 --> 00:26:42.120
  • somehow, someway but the cute Christmas music
  • 00:26:42.120 --> 00:26:46.130
  • is just fabulous.
  • 00:26:46.130 --> 00:26:48.290
  • - What better way to spend the holiday season
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  • than to curl up on the couch
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  • and catch up on Better Together?
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  • to watch all of our latest conversations.
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  • - But then the night where we were decorating the tree,
  • 00:27:04.050 --> 00:27:07.100
  • I mean, I thought we're not gonna make it to our first
  • 00:27:07.100 --> 00:27:10.220
  • year of marriage because I was hanging things on the tree
  • 00:27:10.220 --> 00:27:12.260
  • and he said no, that's wrong, and I'm like
  • 00:27:12.260 --> 00:27:15.000
  • what do you mean it's wrong.
  • 00:27:15.000 --> 00:27:16.120
  • And he took out a tape measure,
  • 00:27:17.150 --> 00:27:18.100
  • - No, he did not.
  • 00:27:18.100 --> 00:27:19.070
  • - Oh, he did.
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