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  • - God's love is enduring even when we are at our worst.
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  • How can we love like him, when we feel like giving up?
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  • Let's talk about it.
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  • (light music)
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  • - But we're at the point now of talking
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  • about love is patient.
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  • We keep coming back to 1st Corinthians chapter 13,
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  • and there's that verse four where it says "Love is Patient".
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  • And I think just to really show her faith in God,
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  • Laurie asked if I would talk about this.
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  • (laughs)
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  • - [Laurie] That's right.
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  • - If lightning would strike
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  • when I talk about love is patient,
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  • but I'll tell ya, I've learned so much
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  • about the fact that love is patient
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  • by being a relatively new adoptive mom.
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  • I've learned more about patience
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  • and because I love Missy,
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  • there's some places where
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  • my heart is learning patience
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  • because I love her so much.
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  • About a year ago...
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  • She, since I brought her home from Haiti,
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  • they didn't have toilets,
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  • much less toilet paper in the part
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  • of Haiti that she's from
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  • and so when I brought her home to the States
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  • after a two year adoption process,
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  • she is just enthralled with running water
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  • and toilet paper and so the first couple
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  • years she was home,
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  • I lost count of how many times
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  • I paid a plumber to come to our house
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  • because in her-
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  • - Exuberance. (chuckles)
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  • - Exuberance.
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  • She was super exuberant
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  • and she likes my bathroom more than hers
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  • for a lot of reasons, but anyway,
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  • it was always my bathroom
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  • and it got to where it was
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  • literally warping the floors in our bathroom.
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  • So at first it was cute,
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  • and then your like maybe this is actually like a thing.
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  • - Right, flood the house here.
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  • - Less than a roll and so we worked on it.
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  • I made up little songs about
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  • five squares is where it's at
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  • and I mean everything I knew.
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  • (laughter)
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  • To gently shepard her to be a
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  • better tissue steward.
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  • Well about a year ago,
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  • I'm walking into my bathroom,
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  • and she likes to take baths in my bath,
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  • it's a little bigger than hers,
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  • and she's just,
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  • I mean other than ya'lls kids
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  • and of yours kids,
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  • Missy is like the greatest kid
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  • in the history of childhood,
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  • just beautiful,
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  • I mean bubbles up to here-
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  • - Awww, sweet baby. - I walk in and I'm going in
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  • to get something out of the shelf
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  • in the restroom where the toilet is
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  • in my bathroom.
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  • It's separate from where the bathtub is.
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  • I walk passed her and she's like, "Hey Mommy."
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  • and I'm like, "Hey Pumpkin."
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  • And I step into where our commode is
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  • and step into water cus it goes down a step,
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  • and so for the 100th and some odd time,
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  • she has been enthusiastic and once again
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  • water is just overflowing with other things
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  • and I'm standing in it and I
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  • just morph into this shrill woman,
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  • (laughter) and I start fussing and she can't see me,
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  • she's right around the corner behind me,
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  • she can totally hear me,
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  • but I was like,
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  • "Honey, I have told you about this,
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  • and if you clogged it up,
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  • why didn't you tell me?"
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  • Cus I told her,
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  • if you just tell me when you clog,
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  • I can fix it faster then if you let it go
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  • for a half an hour and then we have to call the plumber
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  • and get a structural engineer.
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  • So I'm just fussing and then I realize,
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  • she hasn't said a word.
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  • So I kinda step out of where the
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  • commode is overflowing
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  • and there's my miracle kid
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  • with just tears streaming down her face.
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  • - [Ann] Sweet baby.
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  • - And in that moment I thought,
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  • "Lisa, this is not a character issue,
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  • this is a plumbing issue."
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  • And I called our contractor and I was like,
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  • "Hey Fred,"
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  • "you know those toilets they have on cruise ships,"
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  • "that'll like suck a Coke can down?"
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  • and I said,
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  • "Do those have a residential application?"
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  • And he was like,
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  • "Well yeah, it's called a such and such toilet." And I said,
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  • "Are they like prohibitively expensive?"
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  • And he was like, "No, they're like 100 bucks more"
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  • "than the regular toilet at Home Depot."
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  • And I said,
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  • "How soon can you put those in our house?"
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  • And so by the next day,
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  • within 24 hours of berating my child
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  • for using too much toilet paper,
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  • I got new toilets
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  • and so as soon as it was installed,
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  • I had Missy, you know,
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  • christen the potty,
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  • (laughter)
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  • And I mean I cheered like she had
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  • won an Olympic medal because
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  • I was like, this is just not a big deal.
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  • To lose my patience over,
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  • I'm gonna ruin my kids heart
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  • over something that really is a minor thing
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  • and think at some level,
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  • he's not actually talking about toilets here,
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  • Paul in 1st Corinthians,
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  • but when he says love is patient,
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  • I did a little word study,
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  • and that word,
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  • in the original language is
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  • macro thermea.
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  • In other words, take a long time to get hot.
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  • It's about having a long, long fuse.
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  • (reaffirming verbals)
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  • About don't get angry or lose your patience
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  • unless the situation really, really calls for it.
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  • And when I think of how Father God is with me,
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  • goodness gracious, He's bought a lot of toilets,
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  • (laughter)
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  • on my behalf.
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  • He's been so kind.
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  • He disciplines me in kindness,
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  • but more often then not,
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  • he gives me a lot of grace.
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  • How have ya'll experienced God's patience?
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  • And then what does it look like for you
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  • to be patient with others
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  • because of the love of Christ for you first
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  • and then because you love them.
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  • God has been so patient with me
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  • in that I feel like He's had to remind me
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  • a lot of the same things my whole life.
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  • He's had to constantly remind me
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  • through various people how valuable I am to Him,
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  • how I don't have to work for His love.
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  • How safe I in with Him.
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  • It's like these constant themes
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  • that He has to keep reminding me of
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  • because of how low I can bring myself to
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  • with my own emotions and my own insecurities,
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  • so God has been very patient with me
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  • in that He has used many people
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  • throughout the world to remind me
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  • of how much He loves me
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  • and how valuable I am to Him.
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  • I mean, it's been 29 years
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  • of trying to get that message instilled in me.
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  • So He's very patient and He's not even done with me.
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  • - I think for me,
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  • I was going through a rough season,
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  • actually when it is really hard for me,
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  • I'll go up to the lake,
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  • and just sit by the water.
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  • And on the way home,
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  • I stopped at a little Mennonite store,
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  • and when I mean a Mennonite store,
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  • I mean there is no electricity,
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  • and they hang lanterns.
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  • I picked up a few things,
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  • and at the till they had this little
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  • stack of buckets at the till
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  • and I thought,
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  • "You know what?"
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  • "I'm gonna take home that little bucket,"
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  • "and I'm gonna put it on the windowsill,"
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  • "to remind myself to keep living cruciform,"
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  • "to keep living pouring myself out,"
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  • - [Lisa] Right, right.
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  • - I got home and I put it up there
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  • and a week later I was dusting the windowsill
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  • and I pick up this little steel bucket
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  • and I just happened to turn it over,
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  • thinking it's gonna say like made in China.
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  • And I have no idea why,
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  • when I turn it over,
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  • it says endurance.
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  • - Wow.
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  • - And I'm like,
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  • oh it's a word from the Lord.
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  • (chuckles)
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  • How can I go ahead and in my pouring out,
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  • be long suffering.
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  • My love has endurance to it,
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  • and when you look at that word,
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  • endurance in the greek,
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  • it puts together two words,
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  • and it says under and abide,
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  • - Right.
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  • - So we think lots of times endurance means
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  • I have to abide under burden
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  • and a heavy weight.
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  • And that's not what I abide under.
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  • I abide under His wing.
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  • I abide under a Niagara Falls if grace.
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  • - That's right.
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  • - So I think we stay abiding,
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  • enduring under that Niagara Falls of grace,
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  • we can do nothing but pour that out for somebody else.
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  • It takes us a long time to get hot,
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  • because we are living, abiding under His grace.
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  • So for me, when I think about impatience,
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  • patience it comes along with endurance.
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  • How can I go ahead and endure staying
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  • underneath the cross
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  • so that I can pass that love on to somebody else
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  • because it is,
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  • love is about,
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  • who am I willing to suffer for?
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  • And we just have to choose.
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  • Who am I willing to suffer for
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  • and that means sometimes swallowing the heat.
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  • - Yeah, absolutely.
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  • - It comes boiling up, right.
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  • - Because you know that heat incinerates.
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  • - It is.
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  • - And I want to be really if fire's gonna come out of me,
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  • I want to make sure it's holy fire.
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  • (chuckles)
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  • - [Lisa] And that is something that
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  • burns somebody appropriately.
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  • - Exactly. - How do you all practically
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  • hang onto patience when you are
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  • either exhausted or you're feelings are...
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  • I mean you've got six little ones at home.
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  • - Yeah it's, you gave me one. (chuckles)
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  • Kids will definitely teach you patience.
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  • - Yeah, kinda far.
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  • - I mean definitely,
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  • I walked in the bathroom one time
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  • and Levi got...
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  • I'm so in love, he's such a Momma's boy,
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  • and I could have a frown and he's in tears,
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  • (reaffirming verbals)
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  • "Why are you sad?"
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  • Like he's the only child of mine
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  • who is like,
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  • "No, I gotta make you feel better,"
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  • "I want you to be happy"
  • 00:09:10.180 --> 00:09:12.090
  • "You're beautiful."
  • 00:09:12.090 --> 00:09:13.160
  • and he wants to rub over my hair,
  • 00:09:13.160 --> 00:09:15.020
  • so it's a little harder for me to correct him,
  • 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:19.010
  • but he's probably,
  • 00:09:19.010 --> 00:09:21.220
  • I don't want to say the most um...
  • 00:09:21.220 --> 00:09:23.280
  • - Spiciest.
  • 00:09:23.280 --> 00:09:24.270
  • - [Brittney] He's very curious.
  • 00:09:24.270 --> 00:09:26.010
  • - The most spirited, okay.
  • 00:09:26.010 --> 00:09:26.290
  • - He's very curious, yes.
  • 00:09:26.290 --> 00:09:28.150
  • Cus I've tried to use positive words.
  • 00:09:28.150 --> 00:09:29.250
  • - [Lisa] Which is a great thing.
  • 00:09:29.250 --> 00:09:31.180
  • - It's great of you shape it the right way.
  • 00:09:31.180 --> 00:09:34.150
  • So I walk into my bathroom
  • 00:09:35.190 --> 00:09:37.110
  • and I see brown stuff like all over my walls.
  • 00:09:37.110 --> 00:09:41.120
  • - [Laurie] Is that poop or chocolate? (laughs)
  • 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:43.130
  • - [Brittney] Oh no, what is this?
  • 00:09:43.130 --> 00:09:45.010
  • - Oh dear.
  • 00:09:45.010 --> 00:09:47.050
  • - So I lean in and I'm like,
  • 00:09:47.050 --> 00:09:50.030
  • "Oh it's defiantly poop."
  • 00:09:50.030 --> 00:09:50.280
  • - It wasn't chocolate.
  • 00:09:50.280 --> 00:09:51.270
  • - It was not chocolate.
  • 00:09:51.270 --> 00:09:53.130
  • (laughter)
  • 00:09:53.130 --> 00:09:54.170
  • So I always know by the crime,
  • 00:09:54.170 --> 00:09:57.190
  • which kid did it and
  • 00:09:57.190 --> 00:09:59.240
  • so I call him and I say,
  • 00:09:59.240 --> 00:10:02.030
  • "Levi, come here son."
  • 00:10:02.030 --> 00:10:04.150
  • And my husband is getting ready to like, blow.
  • 00:10:04.150 --> 00:10:08.060
  • No, no, let's not.
  • 00:10:08.060 --> 00:10:10.090
  • I say, "Hey Buddy..."
  • 00:10:10.090 --> 00:10:11.180
  • cus we're working on telling the truth,
  • 00:10:11.180 --> 00:10:13.170
  • so when they tell the truth,
  • 00:10:13.170 --> 00:10:15.020
  • I try to be calmer to help them
  • 00:10:15.020 --> 00:10:17.250
  • through different things-
  • 00:10:17.250 --> 00:10:19.110
  • (affirming verbals) because I'm like, yes to save face,
  • 00:10:19.110 --> 00:10:21.020
  • cus I need you to be a truth teller.
  • 00:10:21.020 --> 00:10:23.040
  • So I ask him,
  • 00:10:23.040 --> 00:10:24.070
  • "How did poop get on the walls?"
  • 00:10:25.150 --> 00:10:28.260
  • (laughter)
  • 00:10:28.260 --> 00:10:30.030
  • You know, and I'm trying to be smart,
  • 00:10:30.030 --> 00:10:31.040
  • and he's,
  • 00:10:31.040 --> 00:10:32.060
  • "Oh well, it was on my hands,"
  • 00:10:32.060 --> 00:10:35.060
  • "and I didn't want it on my hands anymore."
  • 00:10:35.060 --> 00:10:37.240
  • I said, "So the tissue didn't work?"
  • 00:10:37.240 --> 00:10:40.280
  • "The wall was better?"
  • 00:10:40.280 --> 00:10:42.240
  • (cross chatter), (laughter)
  • 00:10:42.240 --> 00:10:47.190
  • And he's like,
  • 00:10:47.190 --> 00:10:48.260
  • "The wall was just right there, so I did it."
  • 00:10:48.260 --> 00:10:51.080
  • And I said, "Okay."
  • 00:10:51.080 --> 00:10:52.200
  • And I had a choice to either flip like-
  • 00:10:52.200 --> 00:10:55.200
  • - [Lisa] You did. It's a choice.
  • 00:10:55.200 --> 00:10:56.270
  • - You know so, you know what,
  • 00:10:56.270 --> 00:10:58.160
  • I'm gonna show him patience
  • 00:10:58.160 --> 00:11:00.020
  • and I said,
  • 00:11:00.020 --> 00:11:01.090
  • "Son, okay next time let's use the tissue."
  • 00:11:01.090 --> 00:11:03.240
  • I said, " Why don't you go get something"
  • 00:11:03.240 --> 00:11:05.150
  • "to help me clean it up since you put it on the wall."
  • 00:11:05.150 --> 00:11:08.180
  • And he said,
  • 00:11:08.180 --> 00:11:10.020
  • "Whew, okay, I thought that was gonna go deferent."
  • 00:11:10.020 --> 00:11:13.220
  • He's very sharp, he's very smart.
  • 00:11:13.220 --> 00:11:17.000
  • He said, "Mommy, I thought you were gonna be angry."
  • 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:19.220
  • I said, "Why didn't you clean it before I saw it?"
  • 00:11:19.220 --> 00:11:22.190
  • He said, "I didn't know how. That's why I smeared."
  • 00:11:22.190 --> 00:11:25.060
  • (laughter)
  • 00:11:25.060 --> 00:11:26.040
  • "But I'll go get something."
  • 00:11:26.040 --> 00:11:27.120
  • And look, he turned around and he said,
  • 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:29.040
  • "Thank you,"
  • 00:11:29.040 --> 00:11:30.190
  • "because I was so scared that I was gonna get in trouble."
  • 00:11:30.190 --> 00:11:35.040
  • (affirmative cross talk)
  • 00:11:35.040 --> 00:11:36.140
  • And to be patient.
  • 00:11:36.140 --> 00:11:37.200
  • Like all I had to do was chose to be patient.
  • 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.220
  • Teach him how next time just use the tissue.
  • 00:11:39.220 --> 00:11:42.230
  • - I will still discipline when it's perfect,
  • 00:11:42.230 --> 00:11:45.070
  • but I don't want to discipline out of the-
  • 00:11:45.070 --> 00:11:47.040
  • - [Ann] In the heat.
  • 00:11:47.040 --> 00:11:48.120
  • - In heat, like that's not good discipline.
  • 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:49.210
  • That's uncut and God doesn't
  • 00:11:49.210 --> 00:11:51.230
  • discipline me with anger.
  • 00:11:51.230 --> 00:11:54.240
  • God disciplines me for my good.
  • 00:11:54.240 --> 00:11:57.040
  • It's redemptive discipline,
  • 00:11:57.040 --> 00:11:58.290
  • but he doesn't go,
  • 00:11:58.290 --> 00:11:59.280
  • "YOU'RE BUGGIN ME, BOOM!"
  • 00:11:59.280 --> 00:12:01.180
  • (affirmative cross talk)
  • 00:12:01.180 --> 00:12:02.130
  • It's not unusable heat.
  • 00:12:02.130 --> 00:12:04.210
  • (light guitar music)
  • 00:12:04.210 --> 00:12:05.280
  • - So I think parents are the definition of
  • 00:12:05.280 --> 00:12:08.280
  • love, patient love. (laughs)
  • 00:12:08.280 --> 00:12:13.200
  • Is being a parent,
  • 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:14.270
  • and loving no matter what.
  • 00:12:14.270 --> 00:12:17.130
  • Standing by no matter what.
  • 00:12:19.010 --> 00:12:21.100
  • And then they hand you off to your spouse
  • 00:12:22.140 --> 00:12:25.130
  • and Matthew has been around for 35 years now
  • 00:12:25.130 --> 00:12:30.130
  • and he is so patient with me.
  • 00:12:31.160 --> 00:12:34.200
  • (light music)
  • 00:12:34.200 --> 00:12:36.090
  • - If you need some friends to connect with,
  • 00:12:36.090 --> 00:12:38.070
  • to encourage you,
  • 00:12:38.070 --> 00:12:39.130
  • then you just found them right here.
  • 00:12:39.130 --> 00:12:41.080
  • - You can connect with us on social media
  • 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:43.090
  • and let us know how we can pray for you.
  • 00:12:43.090 --> 00:12:45.130
  • - And I want to model patience to Missy.
  • 00:12:46.190 --> 00:12:49.110
  • I remember one afternoon in particular,
  • 00:12:49.110 --> 00:12:51.240
  • after all these years of praying that God
  • 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:54.170
  • would allow me to be a Mom,
  • 00:12:54.170 --> 00:12:56.050
  • and finally after several adoption losses,
  • 00:12:56.050 --> 00:12:59.040
  • I finally get to be a Mom to this
  • 00:12:59.040 --> 00:13:02.110
  • amazing kid and one afternoon
  • 00:13:02.110 --> 00:13:05.160
  • she had said,
  • 00:13:05.160 --> 00:13:06.140
  • "Mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy."
  • 00:13:06.140 --> 00:13:08.000
  • She must have said Mommy a thousand times in one day.
  • 00:13:08.000 --> 00:13:11.220
  • And I remember having the emotional feeling of,
  • 00:13:11.220 --> 00:13:14.190
  • "Oh goodnight! If you say Mommy one more time,"
  • 00:13:14.190 --> 00:13:18.140
  • "I'm gonna punch myself in the face."
  • 00:13:18.140 --> 00:13:21.020
  • And it's like the Holy Spirit said,
  • 00:13:21.020 --> 00:13:22.120
  • "Really? Really Lisa?"
  • 00:13:22.120 --> 00:13:24.250
  • "For decades, you've been praying that God"
  • 00:13:24.250 --> 00:13:28.090
  • "would bless you and you'd get to be a mom,"
  • 00:13:28.090 --> 00:13:30.210
  • "and now because your beautiful miracle of kid"
  • 00:13:30.210 --> 00:13:33.260
  • "has said Mommy one too many times,"
  • 00:13:33.260 --> 00:13:36.130
  • "you're gonna lose your patience?"
  • 00:13:36.130 --> 00:13:38.010
  • And I mean it's like the Holy Spirit just
  • 00:13:38.010 --> 00:13:40.010
  • snatched me by the back of the neck
  • 00:13:40.010 --> 00:13:41.160
  • and jerked me up and I was like,
  • 00:13:41.160 --> 00:13:43.150
  • "Yes Sir, I'm sorry."
  • 00:13:43.150 --> 00:13:45.270
  • "Make my heart more tender."
  • 00:13:45.270 --> 00:13:47.110
  • So I want to be much richer in gratitude
  • 00:13:47.110 --> 00:13:52.110
  • than I am limited in patience.
  • 00:13:53.070 --> 00:13:55.190
  • - When people look at examples are in their lives.
  • 00:13:55.190 --> 00:13:57.210
  • Like, my husband and I don't have kids,
  • 00:13:57.210 --> 00:13:59.110
  • but certainly many mentors in our lives
  • 00:13:59.110 --> 00:14:01.110
  • have exemplified patience with us.
  • 00:14:01.110 --> 00:14:02.070
  • (affirmative cross talk)
  • 00:14:02.070 --> 00:14:04.120
  • Individually before we met each other,
  • 00:14:04.120 --> 00:14:06.020
  • before we got married,
  • 00:14:06.020 --> 00:14:07.220
  • and now even as a married couple,
  • 00:14:07.220 --> 00:14:09.100
  • people that have patience
  • 00:14:09.100 --> 00:14:10.120
  • and have endured with us
  • 00:14:10.120 --> 00:14:11.180
  • and people that are not our blood relatives.
  • 00:14:11.180 --> 00:14:13.120
  • People that for whatever reason, chose us,
  • 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:16.130
  • and have stuck with us.
  • 00:14:16.130 --> 00:14:18.080
  • Like eight years ago, nine years,
  • 00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:20.140
  • oh my gosh, 10 years ago, hmm, something.
  • 00:14:20.140 --> 00:14:23.070
  • I'm only half Chinese so the math sometimes is wonky.
  • 00:14:23.070 --> 00:14:25.280
  • - Okay.
  • 00:14:25.280 --> 00:14:26.240
  • (laughter)
  • 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:28.010
  • - But, maybe like eight years ago,
  • 00:14:28.010 --> 00:14:30.020
  • I stayed with this family while I was touring,
  • 00:14:30.020 --> 00:14:31.230
  • living on the road and a family said,
  • 00:14:31.230 --> 00:14:34.070
  • "Why don't you not stay in a hotel for this month."
  • 00:14:34.070 --> 00:14:35.220
  • "Cus you're in this city for this month,"
  • 00:14:35.220 --> 00:14:37.000
  • "and stay in our guest room for a month."
  • 00:14:37.000 --> 00:14:39.030
  • And I remember this family,
  • 00:14:39.030 --> 00:14:40.170
  • they took me in.
  • 00:14:40.170 --> 00:14:41.170
  • This couple with three daughters,
  • 00:14:41.170 --> 00:14:43.070
  • and they showed me...
  • 00:14:43.070 --> 00:14:44.240
  • I was so broken and scared
  • 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:47.260
  • and fearful of what I felt God was calling me to do,
  • 00:14:47.260 --> 00:14:51.090
  • and I was really trying to put people at bay,
  • 00:14:51.090 --> 00:14:53.290
  • but they fought for me.
  • 00:14:53.290 --> 00:14:55.280
  • They were so kind to me. They brought me into their home
  • 00:14:55.280 --> 00:14:57.250
  • without really knowing me,
  • 00:14:57.250 --> 00:14:58.260
  • what I'm about,
  • 00:14:58.260 --> 00:14:59.210
  • if they can trust me.
  • 00:14:59.210 --> 00:15:00.170
  • They don't know.
  • 00:15:00.170 --> 00:15:01.250
  • They chose. I was not blood to them.
  • 00:15:01.250 --> 00:15:03.010
  • They didn't know me.
  • 00:15:03.010 --> 00:15:04.090
  • They just knew their church had hired me.
  • 00:15:04.090 --> 00:15:05.140
  • Man, what a risk taker this family was.
  • 00:15:05.140 --> 00:15:08.210
  • But they endured with me,
  • 00:15:08.210 --> 00:15:10.110
  • and as I came back around their town
  • 00:15:10.110 --> 00:15:13.010
  • every couple months,
  • 00:15:13.010 --> 00:15:14.010
  • I would stay with them again
  • 00:15:14.010 --> 00:15:15.040
  • and they stuck in my life
  • 00:15:15.040 --> 00:15:16.110
  • and I started dating my now husband
  • 00:15:16.110 --> 00:15:18.140
  • and I was really scared out of my mind.
  • 00:15:18.140 --> 00:15:19.270
  • They endured that with me.
  • 00:15:19.270 --> 00:15:21.070
  • (laughter)
  • 00:15:21.070 --> 00:15:22.010
  • And they endured with me
  • 00:15:22.010 --> 00:15:23.060
  • and sometimes the truth was hard to hear,
  • 00:15:23.060 --> 00:15:24.250
  • when they would say,
  • 00:15:24.250 --> 00:15:25.200
  • "You're closed off."
  • 00:15:25.200 --> 00:15:26.260
  • Really bringing some stuff out in me
  • 00:15:26.260 --> 00:15:30.090
  • as well as when they were encouraging me
  • 00:15:30.090 --> 00:15:31.200
  • and loving on me and coming to all my events.
  • 00:15:31.200 --> 00:15:33.100
  • They showed me what hospitality was.
  • 00:15:33.100 --> 00:15:35.120
  • They showed me what patience was.
  • 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:37.140
  • So for me,
  • 00:15:37.140 --> 00:15:38.130
  • and then you know,
  • 00:15:38.130 --> 00:15:39.210
  • he danced with me on my wedding day.
  • 00:15:39.210 --> 00:15:41.150
  • And they've stayed in our lives.
  • 00:15:42.160 --> 00:15:43.250
  • We're very, very close to this family now.
  • 00:15:43.250 --> 00:15:45.220
  • He's my second Dad.
  • 00:15:45.220 --> 00:15:47.000
  • My Dad has passed for 11 years
  • 00:15:47.000 --> 00:15:48.110
  • and this whole family has really brought me in
  • 00:15:48.110 --> 00:15:50.180
  • and they chose to stick with me.
  • 00:15:50.180 --> 00:15:53.190
  • I was not their blood.
  • 00:15:53.190 --> 00:15:54.260
  • Though there was no reason in the beginning,
  • 00:15:54.260 --> 00:15:56.250
  • and I had to chose to accept that,
  • 00:15:56.250 --> 00:15:59.010
  • and chose to learn from that.
  • 00:15:59.010 --> 00:16:00.180
  • I have a literal physical example of
  • 00:16:00.180 --> 00:16:02.260
  • somebody that showed me what it was like
  • 00:16:02.260 --> 00:16:04.210
  • to fight for someone that didn't even
  • 00:16:04.210 --> 00:16:06.070
  • want to be fought for.
  • 00:16:06.070 --> 00:16:07.110
  • They're kind of my examples,
  • 00:16:07.110 --> 00:16:09.060
  • my heroes,
  • 00:16:09.060 --> 00:16:10.130
  • they're still in me and my husband's life
  • 00:16:10.130 --> 00:16:11.210
  • and they still endure through stuff with us.
  • 00:16:11.210 --> 00:16:14.150
  • They do.
  • 00:16:14.150 --> 00:16:15.220
  • - Once we give our heart to Jesus,
  • 00:16:15.220 --> 00:16:16.200
  • we put our hope in Christ,
  • 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:18.070
  • we get the fruit of the spirit.
  • 00:16:18.070 --> 00:16:19.230
  • That's a singular term.
  • 00:16:19.230 --> 00:16:21.070
  • So we get patience when we've given our heart to Jesus,
  • 00:16:21.070 --> 00:16:23.280
  • but you also have to exercise patience
  • 00:16:23.280 --> 00:16:27.100
  • and model patience,
  • 00:16:27.100 --> 00:16:28.150
  • (affirmative cross talk)
  • 00:16:28.150 --> 00:16:29.220
  • so it's in us as Christ followers,
  • 00:16:29.220 --> 00:16:31.030
  • but it matures in us usually by watching
  • 00:16:31.030 --> 00:16:34.000
  • other Christ followers and when you,
  • 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:36.120
  • metaphorically, smear something on the wall you shouldn't,
  • 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:37.100
  • (laughter and cross talk)
  • 00:16:37.100 --> 00:16:40.150
  • and they treat you with patience.
  • 00:16:40.150 --> 00:16:42.110
  • I know in our little family, Missy,
  • 00:16:42.110 --> 00:16:45.030
  • the first time I went to get onto Missy,
  • 00:16:45.030 --> 00:16:48.120
  • Missy ducked.
  • 00:16:48.120 --> 00:16:50.000
  • And I realized Missy was hit
  • 00:16:50.000 --> 00:16:53.200
  • in the head and around the head
  • 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:55.200
  • by some of the nannies in her orphanage,
  • 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:58.010
  • and it took a while when I would go to talk to her,
  • 00:16:58.010 --> 00:17:00.280
  • I wasn't gonna use my hands,
  • 00:17:00.280 --> 00:17:02.040
  • she wasn't gonna get hit,
  • 00:17:02.040 --> 00:17:03.230
  • I was just getting closer to go,
  • 00:17:03.230 --> 00:17:05.010
  • "Hey Baby, in the future we don't..."
  • 00:17:05.010 --> 00:17:07.070
  • She had a real hard time with
  • 00:17:07.070 --> 00:17:08.280
  • some boundaries and just some
  • 00:17:08.280 --> 00:17:10.060
  • things she hadn't learned in Haiti,
  • 00:17:10.060 --> 00:17:12.100
  • but it took a while to get to where she wouldn't flinch
  • 00:17:12.100 --> 00:17:16.270
  • because she knew that's not how it happens in our house
  • 00:17:16.270 --> 00:17:20.250
  • and think as Christ followers,
  • 00:17:20.250 --> 00:17:23.020
  • like where have you learned not to flinch
  • 00:17:23.020 --> 00:17:26.160
  • after you did something that actually
  • 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:29.240
  • somebody could have justified
  • 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:32.010
  • losing their temper or given a fast discipline
  • 00:17:32.010 --> 00:17:34.210
  • and they didn't and you go,
  • 00:17:34.210 --> 00:17:36.060
  • "Wow, they helped me actually learn a different behavior."
  • 00:17:36.060 --> 00:17:41.000
  • - When I think about love is patient,
  • 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:43.180
  • I think about the times my husband
  • 00:17:46.280 --> 00:17:50.070
  • has shown me unspeakable patience
  • 00:17:50.070 --> 00:17:53.270
  • and grace and long suffering.
  • 00:17:53.270 --> 00:17:55.160
  • And has modeled to me
  • 00:17:57.020 --> 00:17:58.070
  • what it's like to let the first word
  • 00:17:59.130 --> 00:18:03.190
  • out of your mouth always be grace
  • 00:18:03.190 --> 00:18:06.030
  • and not frustration.
  • 00:18:06.030 --> 00:18:07.230
  • Sometimes I go around the kitchen
  • 00:18:07.230 --> 00:18:09.190
  • and I say to myself,
  • 00:18:09.190 --> 00:18:10.190
  • "Frustration is soul contamination."
  • 00:18:11.290 --> 00:18:14.240
  • I have to remember that if I am frustrated,
  • 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:17.050
  • not only am I contaminating my soul,
  • 00:18:17.050 --> 00:18:18.270
  • I'm contaminating those around me
  • 00:18:18.270 --> 00:18:20.100
  • and my husband,
  • 00:18:20.100 --> 00:18:21.240
  • time and time again has only modeled to me patience,
  • 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:26.080
  • and long suffering and has endured
  • 00:18:28.110 --> 00:18:30.240
  • loving me through the most difficult
  • 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:33.010
  • and darkest days
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  • and when you have experienced a love like that
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  • the greatest gift you want to extend to others
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  • is to be that kind of patient love out into the world,
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  • So I think each of us get the opportunity to say,
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  • "We can change the culture."
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  • One person can change the culture.
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  • What would happen today if we stepped out of
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  • our front door and we showed profound
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  • patience to every service person
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  • we encountered,
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  • every engagement,
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  • we showed so much patience.
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  • That patience then lets that person
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  • turn around and show more patience
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  • and I think the whole world would take
  • 00:19:04.090 --> 00:19:05.220
  • a great big exhale and our joy factor
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  • would ex potentially expand.
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  • - Well, and consequences are different than abandonment.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - God will never ever so mad at us
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  • that he burns the bridge.
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  • If we're in him,
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  • (affirmative cross talk)
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  • nothing, not even death separates us from God.
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  • And that's,
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  • I think what I'm still in the process of learning.
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  • - I was gonna...
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  • - You know, is that in His righteous discipline with me,
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  • it's not an impatience where He's gonna burn that bridge.
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  • It is for my good,
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  • He allows me to suffer consequences,
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  • but that's the parent-
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  • - He never leaves you.
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  • - I want to be.
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  • I want Missy to...
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  • I want to shepard her,
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  • but I want to be so practically patient
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  • that she tells me,
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  • "Momma that was me."
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  • Because she knows I'm not gonna
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  • blow my top and so what are ways
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  • ya'll of since,
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  • not just another person,
  • 00:19:58.110 --> 00:19:59.160
  • but God Himself recently enduring with you,
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  • been patient with you?
  • 00:20:03.090 --> 00:20:04.200
  • - I think when we have a practice
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  • of repentance before Jesus
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  • and then we know there is now
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  • no condemnation in Jesus.
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  • That cross says, "I have..."
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  • When He stretched out those hands,
  • 00:20:16.010 --> 00:20:17.200
  • "I have infinite patience with you."
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  • And His love is over flowing.
  • 00:20:20.090 --> 00:20:22.040
  • So I think if we can have that posture of,
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  • "I'm as broken,"
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  • "I need Jesus as much as the kids need Jesus."
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  • and I'm gonna show them the same
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  • kind of patience that Jesus shows me
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  • day in and day out as I stumble
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  • and fumble and get a lot of things wrong.
  • 00:20:35.130 --> 00:20:37.290
  • - Oh I would so get over myself if I was God with me.
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  • (laughter)
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  • Like, "GOODNESS GRACIOUS!"
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  • - We did this yesterday.
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  • - Trying to teach you this a bazillion times.
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  • (affirmative cross talk)
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  • But He never stinking gives up on me.
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  • - [Laurie] No, he doesn't.
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  • - I would have.
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  • That's why I'm not God.
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  • I'd be like, "(makes buzzer noise).
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  • (laughter) You know, grease spot of oblivion.
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  • Let me find somebody else who's a little
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  • less of a slow learner.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Right.
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  • There's so many life situations that can
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  • teach us patience,
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  • whether it's kids or your spouse,
  • 00:21:12.070 --> 00:21:14.040
  • cus you mentioned how your husband
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  • said something to you that
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  • you could have gotten offended about,
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  • but yet you practiced patience
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  • with knowing he didn't mean it.
  • 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:24.240
  • - He taught me that skill.
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  • Yeah, I didn't come that way naturally.
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  • (laughter)
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  • Wasn't the original packaging,
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  • that was the add on.
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  • (laughter and cross talk)
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  • From him.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - I mean whether we learn it or
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  • we come with it,
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  • no matter how we get it,
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  • it's like let's just get it,
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  • because even with our friends,
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  • we have to learn how to be patient.
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  • It's easier for us to be patient with our
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  • spouse or our child and we feel like that's
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  • forever but even with friends
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  • we're not patient with each other.
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  • I believe it's so important to have patience,
  • 00:21:55.080 --> 00:21:58.230
  • even with your friends.
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  • Like we choose them to be our family
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  • and we're so impatient with them
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  • the minute that they say something that
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  • hurts our feelings or I mean,
  • 00:22:10.030 --> 00:22:13.010
  • just so many different things.
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  • It's kinda like we have to
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  • remember what love is and how
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  • love is patient and sometimes
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  • they just need to be taught how to
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  • walk this journey with us
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  • and a lot of times we miss out on
  • 00:22:25.180 --> 00:22:28.110
  • people who God placed in our lives
  • 00:22:28.110 --> 00:22:31.070
  • to help us be greater in Him,
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  • in ourselves,
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  • in the world.
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  • We blow it because we're so impatient
  • 00:22:37.180 --> 00:22:40.060
  • because it's like,
  • 00:22:40.060 --> 00:22:41.010
  • you know what,
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  • I don't have to be here,
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  • I'm not obligated to be here
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  • with you and it's kind of like
  • 00:22:45.150 --> 00:22:48.040
  • with your husband and your kids
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  • there's a obligation there so
  • 00:22:50.200 --> 00:22:52.070
  • you try to say,
  • 00:22:52.070 --> 00:22:53.070
  • "It's my husband or my kid."
  • 00:22:53.070 --> 00:22:55.280
  • "I love them differently"
  • 00:22:55.280 --> 00:22:57.070
  • But it's more out of obligation you know,
  • 00:22:57.070 --> 00:23:00.040
  • then anything and I think
  • 00:23:00.040 --> 00:23:01.240
  • we just have to remember to use
  • 00:23:01.240 --> 00:23:04.290
  • that same patience that we feel
  • 00:23:04.290 --> 00:23:07.000
  • from obligation with our friends
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  • and really to just turn that into love
  • 00:23:10.260 --> 00:23:12.210
  • and do it because we want to,
  • 00:23:12.210 --> 00:23:14.280
  • because we want to be here for them.
  • 00:23:14.280 --> 00:23:17.100
  • - Patience is gonna require us to be
  • 00:23:17.100 --> 00:23:19.230
  • comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
  • 00:23:19.230 --> 00:23:21.170
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:23:21.170 --> 00:23:22.240
  • - That's what it really requires us
  • 00:23:22.240 --> 00:23:24.090
  • to go patience means it's gonna
  • 00:23:24.090 --> 00:23:26.050
  • hurt and I don't need to run away from that.
  • 00:23:26.050 --> 00:23:27.210
  • - [Brittney] Right. - But to step into that.
  • 00:23:27.210 --> 00:23:29.110
  • - Okay, we've all used the term,
  • 00:23:29.110 --> 00:23:31.000
  • learned patience-
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  • - [Ann] Yes.
  • 00:23:32.020 --> 00:23:33.090
  • - If you could tell yourself 10 years ago,
  • 00:23:33.090 --> 00:23:36.180
  • you'll start applying this one thing.
  • 00:23:36.180 --> 00:23:39.030
  • What's one practical thing that you've
  • 00:23:39.030 --> 00:23:42.080
  • started doing that has helped you in the area of
  • 00:23:42.080 --> 00:23:45.020
  • showing your love by being patient?
  • 00:23:45.020 --> 00:23:46.240
  • - Oh, so hard.
  • 00:23:47.210 --> 00:23:49.000
  • - [Lisa] You count.
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  • - I literally count.
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  • The kids also know when Momma's counting
  • 00:23:51.080 --> 00:23:53.070
  • she's bringing it down.
  • 00:23:53.070 --> 00:23:54.100
  • (laughter)
  • 00:23:54.100 --> 00:23:55.120
  • - Let's leave her alone.
  • 00:23:55.120 --> 00:23:56.180
  • - It makes it so when I open my mouth,
  • 00:23:56.180 --> 00:23:58.020
  • it's not gonna be harshness.
  • 00:23:58.020 --> 00:23:59.050
  • I brought it down,
  • 00:23:59.050 --> 00:24:00.150
  • so I'm not responding out of emotion.
  • 00:24:00.150 --> 00:24:03.020
  • I'm responding out of grace.
  • 00:24:03.020 --> 00:24:04.120
  • - And I love what the bible says.
  • 00:24:04.120 --> 00:24:06.200
  • The bible says that patience have it's perfect work.
  • 00:24:06.200 --> 00:24:09.130
  • - [Ann] Oh, so good.
  • 00:24:09.130 --> 00:24:10.180
  • - That you're complete and entire,
  • 00:24:10.180 --> 00:24:11.160
  • lacking no good thing from God.
  • 00:24:11.160 --> 00:24:13.290
  • - My brother will say
  • 00:24:13.290 --> 00:24:15.070
  • let it download and then speak.
  • 00:24:15.070 --> 00:24:17.120
  • (chuckles)
  • 00:24:17.120 --> 00:24:18.130
  • - That's good.
  • 00:24:18.130 --> 00:24:19.110
  • Download, and think dial up.
  • 00:24:19.110 --> 00:24:22.040
  • Like, give it time.
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  • (laughter)
  • 00:24:23.230 --> 00:24:24.180
  • - [Brittney] Right.
  • 00:24:24.180 --> 00:24:25.240
  • Some of you moms and dads are going,
  • 00:24:25.240 --> 00:24:27.000
  • "My goodness, there' no way my kids"
  • 00:24:27.000 --> 00:24:29.130
  • "are gonna rise up and called me blessed"
  • 00:24:29.130 --> 00:24:31.110
  • "cus I've really, really blown it."
  • 00:24:31.110 --> 00:24:34.100
  • I wanna encourage you.
  • 00:24:34.100 --> 00:24:35.220
  • I wanna, I hope speak life over you
  • 00:24:35.220 --> 00:24:37.260
  • and tell you,
  • 00:24:37.260 --> 00:24:39.010
  • God's love for you endures
  • 00:24:39.010 --> 00:24:41.200
  • and Malachi,
  • 00:24:42.280 --> 00:24:44.040
  • it's a book in the Old Testament,
  • 00:24:44.040 --> 00:24:45.120
  • and there's a promise in Malachi that says,
  • 00:24:45.120 --> 00:24:48.170
  • "My love doesn't change."
  • 00:24:48.170 --> 00:24:51.020
  • It says,
  • 00:24:51.020 --> 00:24:52.170
  • "I the Lord, do not change so that you are not destroyed."
  • 00:24:52.170 --> 00:24:56.290
  • So those of you right now that
  • 00:24:56.290 --> 00:24:58.220
  • are feeling devastated,
  • 00:24:58.220 --> 00:25:01.010
  • I'd love to encourage you,
  • 00:25:01.010 --> 00:25:02.190
  • that even where you've blown it,
  • 00:25:02.190 --> 00:25:04.130
  • God is big enough to cover it.
  • 00:25:04.130 --> 00:25:06.200
  • His love for you endures,
  • 00:25:06.200 --> 00:25:08.280
  • even when your love for other people hasn't.
  • 00:25:08.280 --> 00:25:11.010
  • So let's go to the Lord and just remember
  • 00:25:11.010 --> 00:25:13.190
  • that it's about His love enduring for us
  • 00:25:13.190 --> 00:25:15.110
  • more than our love enduring for others.
  • 00:25:15.110 --> 00:25:18.010
  • Jesus we confess as your Sons and Daughters
  • 00:25:18.010 --> 00:25:20.230
  • and as men and women who long to be
  • 00:25:20.230 --> 00:25:23.110
  • your Sons and Daughters
  • 00:25:23.110 --> 00:25:24.170
  • that we can't do this thing called life
  • 00:25:24.170 --> 00:25:27.120
  • well by ourselves.
  • 00:25:27.120 --> 00:25:29.010
  • We don't have perfect love,
  • 00:25:29.010 --> 00:25:30.230
  • even when we endeavor to endure.
  • 00:25:30.230 --> 00:25:32.220
  • We don't do that perfectly.
  • 00:25:32.220 --> 00:25:35.030
  • So Lord teach us what it is to be
  • 00:25:35.030 --> 00:25:36.260
  • defined by your unconditional love for us.
  • 00:25:36.260 --> 00:25:40.180
  • By the fact that your love for us
  • 00:25:40.180 --> 00:25:43.100
  • will never fade or fail.
  • 00:25:43.100 --> 00:25:45.180
  • You will never leave us,
  • 00:25:45.180 --> 00:25:46.230
  • you will never forsake us.
  • 00:25:46.230 --> 00:25:48.230
  • So Lord teach us what it is
  • 00:25:48.230 --> 00:25:50.070
  • to rest in you,
  • 00:25:50.070 --> 00:25:51.150
  • for your love to be the definition
  • 00:25:51.150 --> 00:25:55.030
  • an the scaffolding of our lives
  • 00:25:55.030 --> 00:25:56.240
  • and then Lord we ask for wisdom. That you'd teach us.
  • 00:25:58.060 --> 00:25:59.260
  • Especially those of us who've messed up big,
  • 00:25:59.260 --> 00:26:03.110
  • how to build our lives from here on,
  • 00:26:03.110 --> 00:26:06.210
  • on a scaffolding,
  • 00:26:06.210 --> 00:26:08.160
  • the sufficiency of your unchanging,
  • 00:26:08.160 --> 00:26:11.100
  • your immutable love for us.
  • 00:26:11.100 --> 00:26:12.240
  • Thank you,
  • 00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:14.020
  • Thank you that you saw us as
  • 00:26:14.020 --> 00:26:16.030
  • worth enduring all the weight of the cross for.
  • 00:26:16.030 --> 00:26:19.150
  • Thank you that your love for us
  • 00:26:19.150 --> 00:26:20.280
  • isn't based on our deservedness.
  • 00:26:20.280 --> 00:26:23.090
  • But it is based on your character.
  • 00:26:23.090 --> 00:26:24.250
  • We love you Jesus.
  • 00:26:24.250 --> 00:26:26.080
  • We're undone by your love for us Jesus.
  • 00:26:26.080 --> 00:26:29.010
  • Amen
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  • and most importantly,
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  • God loves you.
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  • - But that is the Hand of Heaven,
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  • who is relentless in saying,
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  • "You may feel like you're down in a pit,"
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  • "and you are so broken, and you are not enough,"
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  • "but I am coming after you."
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  • "And because of Jesus, I am pulling you out of that pit."
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