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Better Together LIVE | Episode 142

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November 10, 2020
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Do we trust God's plan or try to "make it happen" in our own strength? Having a vision for the future, grows our faith and defeats doubt. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 142

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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: THE PERFECT
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: THE PERFECTRELATIONSHIP, FAMILY, OR CAREER
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  • RELATIONSHIP, FAMILY, OR CAREER-- WE ALL DREAM BIG.
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  • -- WE ALL DREAM BIG.BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LIFE
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  • BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LIFETAKES A DIFFERENT TURN?
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  • TAKES A DIFFERENT TURN?DO WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO RUSH
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  • DO WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO RUSHTO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN OUR
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  • TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN OUROWN STRENGTH?
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  • OWN STRENGTH?WELL, HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS: GOD
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  • WELL, HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS: GODIS ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME.
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  • IS ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME.HIS PLAN FOR US IS THE ONLY ONE
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  • HIS PLAN FOR US IS THE ONLY ONETHAT REALLY, TRULY MATTERS.
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  • THAT REALLY, TRULY MATTERS.COME ON -- WE NEED TO TALK
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  • COME ON -- WE NEED TO TALKABOUT IT.
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  • ABOUT IT.[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING]
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  • [MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING][MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC][MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC][OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]
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  • [OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: YOU
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  • - DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: YOUKNOW, TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING IN
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  • KNOW, TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING INOUR LIVES -- WELL, FOR ME
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  • OUR LIVES -- WELL, FOR MEPERSONALLY, I THINK THAT'S GOT
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  • PERSONALLY, I THINK THAT'S GOTTO BE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS
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  • TO BE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGSTHAT I DO AS A BELIEVER.
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  • THAT I DO AS A BELIEVER.I MEAN, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE I
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  • I MEAN, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE ISEEM TO PRAY, AND THEN, LIKE,
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  • SEEM TO PRAY, AND THEN, LIKE,GOD-- WELL, OFTEN, I FIND
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  • GOD-- WELL, OFTEN, I FINDMYSELF WONDERING:
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  • MYSELF WONDERING:ARE YOU THERE?
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  • ARE YOU THERE?DID YOU HEAR ME?
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  • DID YOU HEAR ME?I MEAN, I HAD A PLAN.
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  • I MEAN, I HAD A PLAN.AND IT DIDN'T SEEM TO HAPPEN
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  • AND IT DIDN'T SEEM TO HAPPENTHE WAY I THOUGHT IT WAS
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  • THE WAY I THOUGHT IT WASGOING TO HAPPEN.
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  • GOING TO HAPPEN.NOW, THE TESTIMONY I'VE GOT IS
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  • NOW, THE TESTIMONY I'VE GOT ISTHAT ALWAYS, WHEN I LOOK BACK,
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  • THAT ALWAYS, WHEN I LOOK BACK,I CAN SEE THAT GOD REALLY DID
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  • I CAN SEE THAT GOD REALLY DIDHAVE A BETTER IDEA THAN I DID.
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  • HAVE A BETTER IDEA THAN I DID.BUT AT THE TIME, IT CAN BE
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  • BUT AT THE TIME, IT CAN BEKIND OF HARD.
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  • KIND OF HARD.I MEAN, THAT'S THE TRUTH.
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  • I MEAN, THAT'S THE TRUTH.AND SO, TODAY, WE'RE TALKING
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  • AND SO, TODAY, WE'RE TALKINGABOUT TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING IN
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  • ABOUT TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING INOUR LIFE WITH SINGLENESS.
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  • OUR LIFE WITH SINGLENESS.NOW, FOR ME, I'VE BEEN
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  • NOW, FOR ME, I'VE BEENMARRIED 48 YEARS.
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  • MARRIED 48 YEARS.AND SO, MY TESTIMONY PERSONALLY
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  • AND SO, MY TESTIMONY PERSONALLY-- AS I GOT MARRIED AT 19, EVEN
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  • -- AS I GOT MARRIED AT 19, EVENWHEN I NEVER THOUGHT AT THAT
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  • WHEN I NEVER THOUGHT AT THATYOUNG AGE THAT I WANTED TO GET
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  • YOUNG AGE THAT I WANTED TO GETMARRIED THAT EARLY -- WELL, IT
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  • MARRIED THAT EARLY -- WELL, ITTURNED OUT TO BE GOD'S PLAN FOR
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  • TURNED OUT TO BE GOD'S PLAN FORME AND THAT WAS MY PURPOSE AND
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  • ME AND THAT WAS MY PURPOSE ANDTHAT WAS MY DESTINY.
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  • THAT WAS MY DESTINY.BUT, YOU KNOW, I'VE HAD
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  • BUT, YOU KNOW, I'VE HADLOTS OF FRIENDS.
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  • LOTS OF FRIENDS.I'M SO BLESSED TO BE A PASTOR
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  • I'M SO BLESSED TO BE A PASTORAND I'M SO BLESSED TO HAVE SO
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  • AND I'M SO BLESSED TO HAVE SOMANY HUNDREDS OF WONDERFUL
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  • MANY HUNDREDS OF WONDERFULFRIENDS OVER THE YEARS, BUT NOT
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  • FRIENDS OVER THE YEARS, BUT NOTEVERY WOMAN HAS A STORY OF HER
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  • EVERY WOMAN HAS A STORY OF HERMARRIAGE WORKING OUT OR EVER
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  • MARRIAGE WORKING OUT OR EVERFINDING THE MAN OF HER DREAMS.
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  • FINDING THE MAN OF HER DREAMS.AND SO, JUST AS WE'RE TALKING
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  • AND SO, JUST AS WE'RE TALKINGABOUT THIS CONVERSATION OF
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  • ABOUT THIS CONVERSATION OFTRUSTING GOD WITH THE TIMING OF
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  • TRUSTING GOD WITH THE TIMING OFBEING SINGLE OR MARRIED IN YOUR
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  • BEING SINGLE OR MARRIED IN YOURLIFE, I JUST THOUGHT I WOULD
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  • LIFE, I JUST THOUGHT I WOULDSTART THE CONVERSATION WITH A
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  • START THE CONVERSATION WITH AFRIEND OF MINE.
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  • FRIEND OF MINE.AND, HER NAME IS AIRATA.
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  • AND, HER NAME IS AIRATA.AND SHE CAME INTO MY LIFE ABOUT
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  • AND SHE CAME INTO MY LIFE ABOUT15 YEARS AGO, AND SHE HAD AN
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  • 15 YEARS AGO, AND SHE HAD ANAMAZING MARRIAGE, AND SHE USED
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  • AMAZING MARRIAGE, AND SHE USEDTO TELL ME THAT IT WAS THE
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  • TO TELL ME THAT IT WAS THEPERFECT MARRIAGE.
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  • PERFECT MARRIAGE.AND I USED TO KID HER.
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  • AND I USED TO KID HER.BECAUSE I USED TO SAY I DON'T
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  • BECAUSE I USED TO SAY I DON'TKNOW THAT THAT'S TRUE, BECAUSE,
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  • KNOW THAT THAT'S TRUE, BECAUSE,I DIDN'T THINK ANYBODY COULD
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  • I DIDN'T THINK ANYBODY COULDHAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE, RIGHT?
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  • HAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE, RIGHT?I MEAN, HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT.
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  • I MEAN, HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT.AND I'D KID HER, YOU KNOW.
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  • AND I'D KID HER, YOU KNOW.I USED TO SAY, YOU KNOW, RICH
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  • I USED TO SAY, YOU KNOW, RICHAND I, MY HUSBAND, 48 YEARS
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  • AND I, MY HUSBAND, 48 YEARSMARRIAGE -- WE NEVER TALKED
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  • MARRIAGE -- WE NEVER TALKEDABOUT DIVORCE; WE JUST TALK
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  • ABOUT DIVORCE; WE JUST TALKABOUT MURDER!
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  • ABOUT MURDER!RIGHT?
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  • RIGHT?NO, NO, NO!
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  • NO, NO, NO![LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]I'M JUST KIDDING.
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  • I'M JUST KIDDING.BUT, I KNOW.
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  • BUT, I KNOW.ANYWAY.
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  • ANYWAY.BUT SINCE SHE ALWAYS TOLD ME
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  • BUT SINCE SHE ALWAYS TOLD METHAT HER MARRIAGE WAS PERFECT--
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  • THAT HER MARRIAGE WAS PERFECT--AND, SHE WORKED WITH ME AT
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  • AND, SHE WORKED WITH ME ATCHURCH
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  • CHURCHAND, ONE DAY, SHE CAME IN,
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  • AND, ONE DAY, SHE CAME IN,WEEPING, AND SAID, "YOU KNOW,
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  • WEEPING, AND SAID, "YOU KNOW,I'M SORRY TO TELL YOU, BUT, OUR
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  • I'M SORRY TO TELL YOU, BUT, OURMARRIAGE ISN'T...GOING TO STAY
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  • MARRIAGE ISN'T...GOING TO STAYTOGETHER."
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  • TOGETHER."THEY HAD ALREADY RAISED A
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  • THEY HAD ALREADY RAISED A20-PLUS-YEAR-OLD SON, AND THEY
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  • 20-PLUS-YEAR-OLD SON, AND THEYWERE SO ACTIVE IN MINISTRY AT
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  • WERE SO ACTIVE IN MINISTRY ATCHURCH, AND SHE WAS ON TEAM.
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  • CHURCH, AND SHE WAS ON TEAM.AND, THE STORY FELL APART
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  • AND, THE STORY FELL APARTAND...SHE WAS HEARTBROKEN!
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  • AND...SHE WAS HEARTBROKEN!DEVASTATED!
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  • DEVASTATED!IT WAS TERRIBLE.
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  • IT WAS TERRIBLE.IN FACT, SHE GAVE UP HER
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  • IN FACT, SHE GAVE UP HERMINISTRY AT CHURCH.
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  • MINISTRY AT CHURCH.SHE HAD A MINISTRY TO MARRIED
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  • SHE HAD A MINISTRY TO MARRIEDCOUPLES, AND, IT WAS VERY
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  • COUPLES, AND, IT WAS VERYDEVASTATING.
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  • DEVASTATING.AND YOU'VE KNOWN PEOPLE WHO
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  • AND YOU'VE KNOWN PEOPLE WHOHAVE GONE THROUGH THIS TRAUMA.
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  • HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS TRAUMA.AND IT WAS SO HORRIFIC THAT SHE
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  • AND IT WAS SO HORRIFIC THAT SHEFOUND HERSELF WONDERING IF SHE
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  • FOUND HERSELF WONDERING IF SHESHOULD EVEN STAY AT CHURCH AND
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  • SHOULD EVEN STAY AT CHURCH ANDIF SHE SHOULD CONTINUE AS A
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  • IF SHE SHOULD CONTINUE AS AVOLUNTEER SERVANT LEADER.
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  • VOLUNTEER SERVANT LEADER.AND I JUST WANNA SHARE THIS
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  • AND I JUST WANNA SHARE THISSTORY WITH YOU TO SAY THAT GOD
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  • STORY WITH YOU TO SAY THAT GODIS ON TIME.
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  • IS ON TIME.NOW, TIME WENT ON.
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  • NOW, TIME WENT ON.HER HUSBAND MOVED IN WITH THE
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  • HER HUSBAND MOVED IN WITH THEGIRLFRIEND.
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  • GIRLFRIEND.AND, THERE WAS ALL KINDS OF
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  • AND, THERE WAS ALL KINDS OFCOUNSELING, AND THE ELDERS OF
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  • COUNSELING, AND THE ELDERS OFTHE CHURCH TRIED TO RECONCILE
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  • THE CHURCH TRIED TO RECONCILEWITH HIM, AND WITH HER.
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  • WITH HIM, AND WITH HER.AND, FINALLY, IT CAME TO THE
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  • AND, FINALLY, IT CAME TO THEPLACE WHERE HE FILED FOR
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  • PLACE WHERE HE FILED FORDIVORCE.
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  • DIVORCE.AND, TIME WENT BY.
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  • AND, TIME WENT BY.BUT, EVENTUALLY, SHE MET A MAN
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  • BUT, EVENTUALLY, SHE MET A MANIN THE CHURCH WHOSE WIFE HAD
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  • IN THE CHURCH WHOSE WIFE HADDIED.
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  • DIED.AND, AS IT TURNED OUT, THEY
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  • AND, AS IT TURNED OUT, THEYDATED AND THEY CAME TO A PLACE
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  • DATED AND THEY CAME TO A PLACEWHERE THEY GOT MARRIED.
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  • WHERE THEY GOT MARRIED.AND I BROUGHT THIS, TODAY,
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  • AND I BROUGHT THIS, TODAY,BECAUSE I WANTED TO SHOW YOU:
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  • BECAUSE I WANTED TO SHOW YOU:HERE'S THEIR WEDDING
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  • HERE'S THEIR WEDDINGINVITATION!
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  • INVITATION!- FEMALE VOICE: WOW!
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  • - FEMALE VOICE: WOW!- FEMALE VOICE:/MANDISA: OH,
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  • - FEMALE VOICE:/MANDISA: OH,MY GOD!
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  • MY GOD!- DR. ROBYN: AND THEY'VE GOT A
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  • - DR. ROBYN: AND THEY'VE GOT ATRUE LOVE STORY!
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  • TRUE LOVE STORY!AND THIS IS, NOW, ALMOST 10
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  • AND THIS IS, NOW, ALMOST 10YEARS LATER!
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  • YEARS LATER!AND THEY, NOW, HAVE A WONDERFUL
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  • AND THEY, NOW, HAVE A WONDERFULMINISTRY IN THE CHURCH.
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  • MINISTRY IN THE CHURCH.THAT'S MY TOUCH POINT OF FAITH,
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  • THAT'S MY TOUCH POINT OF FAITH,FOR SO MANY WOMEN WHO ARE
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  • FOR SO MANY WOMEN WHO AREDEVASTATED.
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  • DEVASTATED.THEY'RE SO DISCOURAGED.
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  • THEY'RE SO DISCOURAGED.AND YET, GOD'S TIMING HAS
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  • AND YET, GOD'S TIMING HASBROUGHT HER AND SHE TELLS ME OF
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  • BROUGHT HER AND SHE TELLS ME OFHOW GOD HAS HEALED HER HEART.
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  • HOW GOD HAS HEALED HER HEART.NOW, WHY I WANTED TO START THE
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  • NOW, WHY I WANTED TO START THECONVERSATION WITH THIS IS THAT,
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  • CONVERSATION WITH THIS IS THAT,IN ACTS 1:7, THE BIBLE SAYS:
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  • IN ACTS 1:7, THE BIBLE SAYS:"HE SAID TO THEM, 'IT IS NOT
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  • "HE SAID TO THEM, 'IT IS NOTFOR YOU TO KNOW THE TIMES OR
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  • FOR YOU TO KNOW THE TIMES ORTHE SEASONS THAT THE FATHER HAS
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  • THE SEASONS THAT THE FATHER HASFIXED BY HIS OWN AUTHORITY.'"
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  • FIXED BY HIS OWN AUTHORITY.'"AND, IF YOU'RE SINGLE, TODAY,
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  • AND, IF YOU'RE SINGLE, TODAY,AND YOU'RE WATCHING AND YOU'RE
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  • AND YOU'RE WATCHING AND YOU'RETHINKING TO YOURSELF, "I DON'T
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  • THINKING TO YOURSELF, "I DON'TWANNA BE SINGLE, ANYMORE;
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  • WANNA BE SINGLE, ANYMORE;I DESIRE THAT GOD HAS A MAN, A
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  • I DESIRE THAT GOD HAS A MAN, AMARRIAGE FOR ME, IN MY FUTURE,"
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  • MARRIAGE FOR ME, IN MY FUTURE,"I WANNA SAY WHAT WE SAID
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  • I WANNA SAY WHAT WE SAIDYESTERDAY.
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  • YESTERDAY.AND THAT IS THAT YOU'RE NOT
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  • AND THAT IS THAT YOU'RE NOTBROKEN.
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  • BROKEN.YOU ARE DESIRABLE.
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  • YOU ARE DESIRABLE.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
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  • BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.
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  • GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.AND THE DREAM OF YOUR HEART CAN
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  • AND THE DREAM OF YOUR HEART CANBE FULFILLED, AS YOU WALK IN
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  • BE FULFILLED, AS YOU WALK INFAITH AND VICTORY, AND IT
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  • FAITH AND VICTORY, AND ITSTARTS BY BELIEVING IN
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  • STARTS BY BELIEVING INYOURSELF.
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  • YOURSELF.BUT I WANNA CAUTION YOU THAT
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  • BUT I WANNA CAUTION YOU THATWHOLENESS IS NOT FOUND IN A
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  • WHOLENESS IS NOT FOUND IN AMARRIAGE.
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  • MARRIAGE.WHOLENESS IS FOUND IN CHRIST.
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  • WHOLENESS IS FOUND IN CHRIST.AND THAT HE IS OUR HUSBAND, THE
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  • AND THAT HE IS OUR HUSBAND, THEBIBLE TEACHES, AND THAT WE ARE
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  • BIBLE TEACHES, AND THAT WE AREGROWING IN CHRIST.
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  • GROWING IN CHRIST.AND IT'S THROUGH SPIRITUAL
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  • AND IT'S THROUGH SPIRITUALMATURITY AND GROWTH THAT WE
  • 00:06:29.301 --> 00:06:32.137
  • MATURITY AND GROWTH THAT WEBECOME THIS ATTRACTIVE, HAPPY,
  • 00:06:32.137 --> 00:06:34.039
  • BECOME THIS ATTRACTIVE, HAPPY,JOYFUL BELIEVER; THAT WE BEGIN
  • 00:06:34.039 --> 00:06:37.609
  • JOYFUL BELIEVER; THAT WE BEGINTO FIND OUR PURPOSE AND
  • 00:06:37.609 --> 00:06:42.481
  • TO FIND OUR PURPOSE ANDDESTINY IN CHRIST; AND NOT TO
  • 00:06:42.481 --> 00:06:43.515
  • DESTINY IN CHRIST; AND NOT TOWORRY THAT THE TIMING WILL
  • 00:06:43.515 --> 00:06:47.953
  • WORRY THAT THE TIMING WILLNEVER BE FULFILLED.
  • 00:06:47.953 --> 00:06:48.887
  • NEVER BE FULFILLED.NOW, NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO GET
  • 00:06:48.887 --> 00:06:49.521
  • NOW, NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO GETMARRIED, BUT MY FRIEND AIRATA
  • 00:06:49.521 --> 00:06:53.058
  • MARRIED, BUT MY FRIEND AIRATAWANTED TO.
  • 00:06:53.058 --> 00:06:54.259
  • WANTED TO.AND THE SEASON EVENTUALLY WAS
  • 00:06:54.259 --> 00:06:54.826
  • AND THE SEASON EVENTUALLY WASFULFILLED.
  • 00:06:54.826 --> 00:06:56.328
  • FULFILLED.NOW, MELINDA, HOW DO YOU FEEL
  • 00:06:56.328 --> 00:06:58.864
  • NOW, MELINDA, HOW DO YOU FEELABOUT AIRATA'S STORY, TODAY?
  • 00:06:58.864 --> 00:07:01.766
  • ABOUT AIRATA'S STORY, TODAY?[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:07:01.766 --> 00:07:02.868
  • [LAUGHTER]- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: FIRST OF
  • 00:07:02.868 --> 00:07:03.401
  • - MELINDA DOOLITTLE: FIRST OFALL, I LOVE THAT STORY.
  • 00:07:03.401 --> 00:07:04.269
  • ALL, I LOVE THAT STORY.I DO.
  • 00:07:04.269 --> 00:07:05.837
  • I DO.I BELIEVE THAT THE TIMING OF
  • 00:07:05.837 --> 00:07:06.505
  • I BELIEVE THAT THE TIMING OFGOD IS ALWAYS SO PERFECT AND SO
  • 00:07:06.505 --> 00:07:08.840
  • GOD IS ALWAYS SO PERFECT AND SOSPECIFIC FOR US.
  • 00:07:08.840 --> 00:07:10.509
  • SPECIFIC FOR US.MY MOM, IN RAISING ME, ALWAYS
  • 00:07:10.509 --> 00:07:12.878
  • MY MOM, IN RAISING ME, ALWAYSSAID, "ON TIME IS SOON ENOUGH,"
  • 00:07:12.878 --> 00:07:14.112
  • SAID, "ON TIME IS SOON ENOUGH,"WHEN SHE'D TALK ABOUT GOD.
  • 00:07:14.112 --> 00:07:15.680
  • WHEN SHE'D TALK ABOUT GOD.AND I USED TO HATE IT, BECAUSE
  • 00:07:15.680 --> 00:07:17.048
  • AND I USED TO HATE IT, BECAUSEI WAS LIKE: I DON'T WANNA WAIT!
  • 00:07:17.048 --> 00:07:18.550
  • I WAS LIKE: I DON'T WANNA WAIT!I DON'T WANNA WAIT FOR THINGS!
  • 00:07:18.550 --> 00:07:22.387
  • I DON'T WANNA WAIT FOR THINGS!AND, WITH OUR CULTURE, SOCIETY
  • 00:07:22.387 --> 00:07:24.189
  • AND, WITH OUR CULTURE, SOCIETYTHESE DAYS, THERE'S, LIKE, A
  • 00:07:24.189 --> 00:07:27.092
  • THESE DAYS, THERE'S, LIKE, ACLOCK OF, LIKE, WHEN MARRIAGE
  • 00:07:27.092 --> 00:07:28.827
  • CLOCK OF, LIKE, WHEN MARRIAGESHOULD HAPPEN, WHEN THINGS
  • 00:07:28.827 --> 00:07:30.195
  • SHOULD HAPPEN, WHEN THINGSSHOULD HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:07:30.195 --> 00:07:32.998
  • SHOULD HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE.AND, A LOT OF TIMES, WE END UP
  • 00:07:32.998 --> 00:07:34.332
  • AND, A LOT OF TIMES, WE END UPFEELING LIKE: WAIT-- AM I STILL
  • 00:07:34.332 --> 00:07:35.934
  • FEELING LIKE: WAIT-- AM I STILLWAITING ON YOU, GOD?
  • 00:07:35.934 --> 00:07:37.235
  • WAITING ON YOU, GOD?OR IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOU
  • 00:07:37.235 --> 00:07:38.870
  • OR IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOUWANTED ME TO DO, IN THE MIDST
  • 00:07:38.870 --> 00:07:39.604
  • WANTED ME TO DO, IN THE MIDSTOF ALL OF THIS?
  • 00:07:39.604 --> 00:07:42.073
  • OF ALL OF THIS?AND, I HAVE LEARNED THAT IN THE
  • 00:07:42.073 --> 00:07:43.575
  • AND, I HAVE LEARNED THAT IN THEWAITING, LIKE, WAITING IS NOT
  • 00:07:43.575 --> 00:07:44.910
  • WAITING, LIKE, WAITING IS NOTSTAGNANT.
  • 00:07:44.910 --> 00:07:46.745
  • STAGNANT.THERE CAN BE MOVEMENT WITHIN
  • 00:07:46.745 --> 00:07:47.546
  • THERE CAN BE MOVEMENT WITHINTHE WAITING.
  • 00:07:47.546 --> 00:07:49.814
  • THE WAITING.AND AS...AS A SINGLE WOMAN,
  • 00:07:49.814 --> 00:07:51.783
  • AND AS...AS A SINGLE WOMAN,SOME OF THAT MOVEMENT MAY BE
  • 00:07:51.783 --> 00:07:53.518
  • SOME OF THAT MOVEMENT MAY BELOOKING LIKE: OH, I'M GONNA-- I
  • 00:07:53.518 --> 00:07:55.120
  • LOOKING LIKE: OH, I'M GONNA-- ICAN GO 'HEAD AND GET THAT
  • 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:56.121
  • CAN GO 'HEAD AND GET THATHOUSE.
  • 00:07:56.121 --> 00:07:57.622
  • HOUSE.I CAN GO 'HEAD AND DO THAT.
  • 00:07:57.622 --> 00:08:00.859
  • I CAN GO 'HEAD AND DO THAT.IT'S OKAY FOR ME NOT TO JUST
  • 00:08:00.859 --> 00:08:03.995
  • IT'S OKAY FOR ME NOT TO JUSTSIT STILL, AS I'M WAITING, BUT
  • 00:08:03.995 --> 00:08:05.630
  • SIT STILL, AS I'M WAITING, BUTTO ALSO LOOK TO THE LORD FOR
  • 00:08:05.630 --> 00:08:07.499
  • TO ALSO LOOK TO THE LORD FORWHAT I CAN BE DOING IN THE
  • 00:08:07.499 --> 00:08:08.366
  • WHAT I CAN BE DOING IN THEMIDST OF THE TIME THAT HE'S
  • 00:08:08.366 --> 00:08:09.434
  • MIDST OF THE TIME THAT HE'SGIVEN ME.
  • 00:08:09.434 --> 00:08:10.902
  • GIVEN ME.LIKE, WHAT CAN I BE DOING?
  • 00:08:10.902 --> 00:08:12.837
  • LIKE, WHAT CAN I BE DOING?AND, I HAD A FRIEND, UM, WHO
  • 00:08:12.837 --> 00:08:14.306
  • AND, I HAD A FRIEND, UM, WHOTALKED TO ME.
  • 00:08:14.306 --> 00:08:15.674
  • TALKED TO ME.SHE, UM, SADLY, ENDED UP IN AN
  • 00:08:15.674 --> 00:08:17.075
  • SHE, UM, SADLY, ENDED UP IN ANABUSIVE MARRIAGE.
  • 00:08:17.075 --> 00:08:19.010
  • ABUSIVE MARRIAGE.AND, SHE SAT ME DOWN, VERY
  • 00:08:19.010 --> 00:08:21.546
  • AND, SHE SAT ME DOWN, VERYEARLY ON, IN MY 20s, AND SHE
  • 00:08:21.546 --> 00:08:23.148
  • EARLY ON, IN MY 20s, AND SHESAID: "I STAYED IN THIS
  • 00:08:23.148 --> 00:08:24.783
  • SAID: "I STAYED IN THISMARRIAGE SO LONG BECAUSE I
  • 00:08:24.783 --> 00:08:25.517
  • MARRIAGE SO LONG BECAUSE IDIDN'T KNOW WHO I WAS WITHOUT
  • 00:08:25.517 --> 00:08:28.920
  • DIDN'T KNOW WHO I WAS WITHOUTHIM.
  • 00:08:28.920 --> 00:08:29.788
  • HIM.I GOT MARRIED SO EARLY THAT I
  • 00:08:29.788 --> 00:08:31.690
  • I GOT MARRIED SO EARLY THAT IHADN'T DONE ANYTHING BY MYSELF.
  • 00:08:31.690 --> 00:08:34.225
  • HADN'T DONE ANYTHING BY MYSELF.LIKE, I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD
  • 00:08:34.225 --> 00:08:35.293
  • LIKE, I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULDSUPPORT MYSELF.
  • 00:08:35.293 --> 00:08:36.027
  • SUPPORT MYSELF.I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD GET A
  • 00:08:36.027 --> 00:08:38.196
  • I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD GET AHOUSE.
  • 00:08:38.196 --> 00:08:39.230
  • HOUSE.LIKE, I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HOW
  • 00:08:39.230 --> 00:08:41.366
  • LIKE, I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HOWANY OF THAT WORKED."
  • 00:08:41.366 --> 00:08:43.201
  • ANY OF THAT WORKED."AND SO, SHE MADE ME PROMISE HER
  • 00:08:43.201 --> 00:08:44.336
  • AND SO, SHE MADE ME PROMISE HERTHAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, I WOULD
  • 00:08:44.336 --> 00:08:46.805
  • THAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, I WOULDFIGURE THAT OUT FIRST.
  • 00:08:46.805 --> 00:08:47.973
  • FIGURE THAT OUT FIRST.SHE WAS LIKE: "I WANT YOU TO GO
  • 00:08:47.973 --> 00:08:50.809
  • SHE WAS LIKE: "I WANT YOU TO GOINTO MARRIAGE WHOLLY KNOWING
  • 00:08:50.809 --> 00:08:51.443
  • INTO MARRIAGE WHOLLY KNOWINGWHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, WHOLLY
  • 00:08:51.443 --> 00:08:52.877
  • WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, WHOLLYKNOWING THAT YOU ARE FULLY
  • 00:08:52.877 --> 00:08:55.280
  • KNOWING THAT YOU ARE FULLYCAPABLE, AND THAT GOD HAS GIVEN
  • 00:08:55.280 --> 00:08:56.915
  • CAPABLE, AND THAT GOD HAS GIVENYOU WHAT YOU NEED TO SUCCEED IN
  • 00:08:56.915 --> 00:08:59.084
  • YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO SUCCEED INLIFE, OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
  • 00:08:59.084 --> 00:09:00.952
  • LIFE, OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.AND THEN, YOU BRING THAT
  • 00:09:00.952 --> 00:09:01.786
  • AND THEN, YOU BRING THATWHOLENESS INTO A MARRIAGE AND
  • 00:09:01.786 --> 00:09:03.288
  • WHOLENESS INTO A MARRIAGE ANDIT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING."
  • 00:09:03.288 --> 00:09:05.423
  • IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING."AND SO, SHE HAS HELPED ME, JUST
  • 00:09:05.423 --> 00:09:07.125
  • AND SO, SHE HAS HELPED ME, JUSTWITH THE TIMING OF ALL OF IT,
  • 00:09:07.125 --> 00:09:10.095
  • WITH THE TIMING OF ALL OF IT,TO NOT JUST FOCUS ON, LIKE, END
  • 00:09:10.095 --> 00:09:11.463
  • TO NOT JUST FOCUS ON, LIKE, ENDRESULT, BUT: WHAT CAN I BE
  • 00:09:11.463 --> 00:09:12.664
  • RESULT, BUT: WHAT CAN I BEDOING IN THE MIDST OF IT?
  • 00:09:12.664 --> 00:09:14.032
  • DOING IN THE MIDST OF IT?AND I THINK THAT THAT'S BEEN
  • 00:09:14.032 --> 00:09:15.567
  • AND I THINK THAT THAT'S BEENSOMETHING THAT'S BEEN SO
  • 00:09:15.567 --> 00:09:16.768
  • SOMETHING THAT'S BEEN SOPOWERFUL FOR ME.
  • 00:09:16.768 --> 00:09:19.037
  • POWERFUL FOR ME.- HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: OH, I AM
  • 00:09:19.037 --> 00:09:19.804
  • - HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: OH, I AMSO FOLLOWING AND TRACKING WHAT
  • 00:09:19.804 --> 00:09:20.405
  • SO FOLLOWING AND TRACKING WHATYOU'RE SAYING.
  • 00:09:20.405 --> 00:09:21.573
  • YOU'RE SAYING.AND I THINK WHAT YOU'RE REALLY
  • 00:09:21.573 --> 00:09:22.941
  • AND I THINK WHAT YOU'RE REALLYSAYING IS: YOU'RE ALLOWED TO
  • 00:09:22.941 --> 00:09:24.542
  • SAYING IS: YOU'RE ALLOWED TOINVEST IN YOURSELF BEFORE WE
  • 00:09:24.542 --> 00:09:25.677
  • INVEST IN YOURSELF BEFORE WEGET MARRIED.
  • 00:09:25.677 --> 00:09:26.678
  • GET MARRIED.AND I THINK THERE'S THIS PAUSE
  • 00:09:26.678 --> 00:09:28.546
  • AND I THINK THERE'S THIS PAUSETHAT WE WAIT.
  • 00:09:28.546 --> 00:09:29.147
  • THAT WE WAIT.YOU KNOW, I WAS LOOKING AT MY
  • 00:09:29.147 --> 00:09:30.015
  • YOU KNOW, I WAS LOOKING AT MYLIFE.
  • 00:09:30.015 --> 00:09:31.516
  • LIFE.AND, AGAIN, I GOT PREGNANT AT
  • 00:09:31.516 --> 00:09:34.919
  • AND, AGAIN, I GOT PREGNANT ATTHREE MONTHS IN THE MARRIAGE,
  • 00:09:34.919 --> 00:09:36.087
  • THREE MONTHS IN THE MARRIAGE,AND I HAD FOUR BABIES IN FIVE
  • 00:09:36.087 --> 00:09:37.389
  • AND I HAD FOUR BABIES IN FIVEYEARS -- I HAD FOUR C-SECTIONS
  • 00:09:37.389 --> 00:09:38.256
  • YEARS -- I HAD FOUR C-SECTIONSIN FIVE YEARS.
  • 00:09:38.256 --> 00:09:38.823
  • IN FIVE YEARS.WE DID NOT KNOW HOW NOT TO
  • 00:09:38.823 --> 00:09:39.858
  • WE DID NOT KNOW HOW NOT TOPROCREATE.
  • 00:09:39.858 --> 00:09:40.925
  • PROCREATE.THAT WAS KIND OF WHAT WAS
  • 00:09:40.925 --> 00:09:41.726
  • THAT WAS KIND OF WHAT WASHAPPENING.
  • 00:09:41.726 --> 00:09:42.827
  • HAPPENING.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:42.827 --> 00:09:43.461
  • [LAUGHTER]BUT, WE-- WHEN I GOT-- WHEN I
  • 00:09:43.461 --> 00:09:44.129
  • BUT, WE-- WHEN I GOT-- WHEN IHAD ALL MY BABIES-- AND, WE
  • 00:09:44.129 --> 00:09:45.897
  • HAD ALL MY BABIES-- AND, WEENDED UP LOSING OUR JOB WHEN MY
  • 00:09:45.897 --> 00:09:47.565
  • ENDED UP LOSING OUR JOB WHEN MYLITTLEST WAS 3 MONTHS OLD.
  • 00:09:47.565 --> 00:09:48.800
  • LITTLEST WAS 3 MONTHS OLD.AND WE HAD TO PACK UP OUR WHOLE
  • 00:09:48.800 --> 00:09:50.235
  • AND WE HAD TO PACK UP OUR WHOLEHOUSE AND MOVE TO A DIFFERENT
  • 00:09:50.235 --> 00:09:52.404
  • HOUSE AND MOVE TO A DIFFERENTCITY.
  • 00:09:52.404 --> 00:09:54.272
  • CITY.AND I HAD BEEN-- UM, OUR BABY
  • 00:09:54.272 --> 00:09:55.573
  • AND I HAD BEEN-- UM, OUR BABYHAD BEEN IN THE NICU FOR 10
  • 00:09:55.573 --> 00:09:56.808
  • HAD BEEN IN THE NICU FOR 10DAYS.
  • 00:09:56.808 --> 00:09:58.476
  • DAYS.AND, WE WERE FIRED -- AND, NOT
  • 00:09:58.476 --> 00:09:59.611
  • AND, WE WERE FIRED -- AND, NOTBECAUSE OF ANYTHING WE HAD
  • 00:09:59.611 --> 00:10:01.513
  • BECAUSE OF ANYTHING WE HADDONE, BUT BECAUSE OF THE
  • 00:10:01.513 --> 00:10:02.614
  • DONE, BUT BECAUSE OF THEFINANCIAL CRASH IN 2008.
  • 00:10:02.614 --> 00:10:03.882
  • FINANCIAL CRASH IN 2008.AND THEN, I ALWAYS DEALT WITH
  • 00:10:03.882 --> 00:10:05.216
  • AND THEN, I ALWAYS DEALT WITHPOSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, WITH ALL
  • 00:10:05.216 --> 00:10:07.652
  • POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, WITH ALLOF MY BABIES.
  • 00:10:07.652 --> 00:10:09.354
  • OF MY BABIES.AND SO, I WOULD HAVE TO GO
  • 00:10:09.354 --> 00:10:10.021
  • AND SO, I WOULD HAVE TO GOTHROUGH RECOVERY, WHICH WOULD
  • 00:10:10.021 --> 00:10:11.089
  • THROUGH RECOVERY, WHICH WOULDTAKE ME MONTHS TO MEET WITH A
  • 00:10:11.089 --> 00:10:12.323
  • TAKE ME MONTHS TO MEET WITH ADOCTOR AND A CHRISTIAN
  • 00:10:12.323 --> 00:10:12.957
  • DOCTOR AND A CHRISTIANCOUNSELOR AND WALK ME THROUGH
  • 00:10:12.957 --> 00:10:13.892
  • COUNSELOR AND WALK ME THROUGHIT -- AND ALL WHILE BEING AN
  • 00:10:13.892 --> 00:10:14.959
  • IT -- AND ALL WHILE BEING ANORDAINED MINISTER.
  • 00:10:14.959 --> 00:10:16.394
  • ORDAINED MINISTER.AND, WHEN I ACTUALLY HAD TIME
  • 00:10:16.394 --> 00:10:18.096
  • AND, WHEN I ACTUALLY HAD TIMETO SIT BACK AND LOOK AT WHAT
  • 00:10:18.096 --> 00:10:18.697
  • TO SIT BACK AND LOOK AT WHATGOD DID...
  • 00:10:18.697 --> 00:10:20.899
  • GOD DID...I WANNA SAY TO YOU: FOR SOME OF
  • 00:10:20.899 --> 00:10:22.167
  • I WANNA SAY TO YOU: FOR SOME OFYOU THAT ARE IN THE WAITING
  • 00:10:22.167 --> 00:10:23.168
  • YOU THAT ARE IN THE WAITINGSEASON AND YOU WONDER WHY
  • 00:10:23.168 --> 00:10:25.637
  • SEASON AND YOU WONDER WHYSOMETHING ISN'T HAPPENING, I
  • 00:10:25.637 --> 00:10:27.272
  • SOMETHING ISN'T HAPPENING, IWANT YOU TO HEAR THIS.
  • 00:10:27.272 --> 00:10:29.941
  • WANT YOU TO HEAR THIS.I THINK THE NUMBER-ONE REASON
  • 00:10:29.941 --> 00:10:30.575
  • I THINK THE NUMBER-ONE REASONWHY IT'S NOT HAPPENING IN YOUR
  • 00:10:30.575 --> 00:10:31.776
  • WHY IT'S NOT HAPPENING IN YOURLIFE, RIGHT NOW, IS BECAUSE
  • 00:10:31.776 --> 00:10:34.813
  • LIFE, RIGHT NOW, IS BECAUSEIT'S SIMPLY NOT TIME.
  • 00:10:34.813 --> 00:10:36.381
  • IT'S SIMPLY NOT TIME.IT'S JUST ABOUT TIMING.
  • 00:10:36.381 --> 00:10:37.582
  • IT'S JUST ABOUT TIMING.IT'S NOT THAT YOU'RE BROKEN.
  • 00:10:37.582 --> 00:10:38.817
  • IT'S NOT THAT YOU'RE BROKEN.IT'S NOT THAT YOU MISSED
  • 00:10:38.817 --> 00:10:40.351
  • IT'S NOT THAT YOU MISSEDSOMETHING.
  • 00:10:40.351 --> 00:10:41.219
  • SOMETHING.IT'S NOT THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY.
  • 00:10:41.219 --> 00:10:43.121
  • IT'S NOT THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY.IT'S JUST NOT TIME.
  • 00:10:43.121 --> 00:10:44.355
  • IT'S JUST NOT TIME.AND I WROTE THIS DOWN, JUST FOR
  • 00:10:44.355 --> 00:10:46.024
  • AND I WROTE THIS DOWN, JUST FORFUN, TO LOOK AT THIS.
  • 00:10:46.024 --> 00:10:47.826
  • FUN, TO LOOK AT THIS.BUT, IN 10 YEARS OF MY LIFE, I
  • 00:10:47.826 --> 00:10:49.694
  • BUT, IN 10 YEARS OF MY LIFE, IWENT FROM A 27-YEAR-OLD WHO WAS
  • 00:10:49.694 --> 00:10:51.429
  • WENT FROM A 27-YEAR-OLD WHO WASLIVING WITH HER PARENTS AND A--
  • 00:10:51.429 --> 00:10:53.364
  • LIVING WITH HER PARENTS AND A--I HAD MY OWN BEDROOM -- THAT'S
  • 00:10:53.364 --> 00:10:54.899
  • I HAD MY OWN BEDROOM -- THAT'SHOW MUCH I OWNED IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:10:54.899 --> 00:10:57.202
  • HOW MUCH I OWNED IN MY LIFE.I WASN'T DATING ANYBODY.
  • 00:10:57.202 --> 00:10:58.236
  • I WASN'T DATING ANYBODY.I DIDN'T HAVE ANY POTENTIAL
  • 00:10:58.236 --> 00:11:00.171
  • I DIDN'T HAVE ANY POTENTIALPEOPLE.
  • 00:11:00.171 --> 00:11:01.172
  • PEOPLE.UM, I LITERALLY WAS WILLING TO
  • 00:11:01.172 --> 00:11:02.674
  • UM, I LITERALLY WAS WILLING TODATE ANYBODY THAT WANTED TO
  • 00:11:02.674 --> 00:11:03.708
  • DATE ANYBODY THAT WANTED TODATE ME.
  • 00:11:03.708 --> 00:11:04.342
  • DATE ME.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:11:04.342 --> 00:11:05.610
  • [LAUGHTER]UM, I HAD NO KIDS.
  • 00:11:05.610 --> 00:11:06.711
  • UM, I HAD NO KIDS.MY WOMB WAS CRYING OUT.
  • 00:11:06.711 --> 00:11:08.580
  • MY WOMB WAS CRYING OUT.UM, I HAD NEVER WRITTEN A BOOK.
  • 00:11:08.580 --> 00:11:09.681
  • UM, I HAD NEVER WRITTEN A BOOK.I WAS NOT TRAVELING.
  • 00:11:09.681 --> 00:11:10.782
  • I WAS NOT TRAVELING.I WAS SIMPLY TEACHING AT THE
  • 00:11:10.782 --> 00:11:12.283
  • I WAS SIMPLY TEACHING AT THECHURCH I WAS DOING.
  • 00:11:12.283 --> 00:11:13.952
  • CHURCH I WAS DOING.I HAD NEVER OWNED A HOME.
  • 00:11:13.952 --> 00:11:14.552
  • I HAD NEVER OWNED A HOME.UM, I HAD ONLY OWNED A USED
  • 00:11:14.552 --> 00:11:15.420
  • UM, I HAD ONLY OWNED A USEDCAR.
  • 00:11:15.420 --> 00:11:16.154
  • CAR.I MEAN, WE'RE TALKING ALL OF
  • 00:11:16.154 --> 00:11:17.322
  • I MEAN, WE'RE TALKING ALL OFTHIS AT 27.
  • 00:11:17.322 --> 00:11:18.757
  • THIS AT 27.I WENT -- IN LITERALLY SIX
  • 00:11:18.757 --> 00:11:20.191
  • I WENT -- IN LITERALLY SIXYEARS -- I WENT TO BEING
  • 00:11:20.191 --> 00:11:22.927
  • YEARS -- I WENT TO BEINGMARRIED, HAVING FOUR BABIES,
  • 00:11:22.927 --> 00:11:25.797
  • MARRIED, HAVING FOUR BABIES,I'VE WRITTEN NINE BOOKS, I
  • 00:11:25.797 --> 00:11:27.999
  • I'VE WRITTEN NINE BOOKS, IREACH OVER A HUNDRED THOUSAND
  • 00:11:27.999 --> 00:11:29.701
  • REACH OVER A HUNDRED THOUSANDPEOPLE A YEAR THROUGH OUR BIBLE
  • 00:11:29.701 --> 00:11:31.236
  • PEOPLE A YEAR THROUGH OUR BIBLESTUDIES, WE OWN OUR OWN HOME,
  • 00:11:31.236 --> 00:11:32.871
  • STUDIES, WE OWN OUR OWN HOME,WE HAVE CARS -- ALL THE THINGS.
  • 00:11:32.871 --> 00:11:35.573
  • WE HAVE CARS -- ALL THE THINGS.BUT, THE MAIN THING IS: AT 27
  • 00:11:35.573 --> 00:11:38.710
  • BUT, THE MAIN THING IS: AT 27YEARS OLD, I WAS SO DISCOURAGED
  • 00:11:38.710 --> 00:11:40.044
  • YEARS OLD, I WAS SO DISCOURAGEDAND FELT LIKE LIFE WAS PASSING
  • 00:11:40.044 --> 00:11:42.147
  • AND FELT LIKE LIFE WAS PASSINGME BY.
  • 00:11:42.147 --> 00:11:43.148
  • ME BY.AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT IN AN
  • 00:11:43.148 --> 00:11:45.316
  • AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT IN ANINSTANT GOD CAN MOVE THE WHOLE
  • 00:11:45.316 --> 00:11:46.751
  • INSTANT GOD CAN MOVE THE WHOLETHING AROUND AND SWITCH--
  • 00:11:46.751 --> 00:11:49.320
  • THING AROUND AND SWITCH--AND I USED TO TELL GOD: "WHY'D
  • 00:11:49.320 --> 00:11:49.954
  • AND I USED TO TELL GOD: "WHY'DYOU HAVE TO MAKE ALL MY DREAMS
  • 00:11:49.954 --> 00:11:52.390
  • YOU HAVE TO MAKE ALL MY DREAMSCOME TRUE IN ONE YEAR!"
  • 00:11:52.390 --> 00:11:53.925
  • COME TRUE IN ONE YEAR!"BUT ALL OF THAT WAS ABOUT
  • 00:11:53.925 --> 00:11:54.492
  • BUT ALL OF THAT WAS ABOUTTIMING.
  • 00:11:54.492 --> 00:11:56.227
  • TIMING.AND I FELT SO ASHAMED.
  • 00:11:56.227 --> 00:11:57.796
  • AND I FELT SO ASHAMED.I THINK I FELT LIKE SOMETHING
  • 00:11:57.796 --> 00:11:59.731
  • I THINK I FELT LIKE SOMETHINGWAS WRONG WITH ME.
  • 00:11:59.731 --> 00:12:00.398
  • WAS WRONG WITH ME.I FELT LIKE-- PEOPLE WOULD SAY,
  • 00:12:00.398 --> 00:12:01.232
  • I FELT LIKE-- PEOPLE WOULD SAY,"OH, THEY'RE JUST INTIMIDATED
  • 00:12:01.232 --> 00:12:01.766
  • "OH, THEY'RE JUST INTIMIDATEDBY YOU."
  • 00:12:01.766 --> 00:12:03.701
  • BY YOU."AND I'D BE LIKE: "I'M NOT
  • 00:12:03.701 --> 00:12:04.803
  • AND I'D BE LIKE: "I'M NOTINTIMIDATING.
  • 00:12:04.803 --> 00:12:05.570
  • INTIMIDATING.I'M JUST BEING ME!"
  • 00:12:05.570 --> 00:12:06.237
  • I'M JUST BEING ME!"AND I WANT YOU GUYS WHO ARE
  • 00:12:06.237 --> 00:12:06.838
  • AND I WANT YOU GUYS WHO AREWATCHING THIS TO REALLY HEAR
  • 00:12:06.838 --> 00:12:07.605
  • WATCHING THIS TO REALLY HEARTHIS.
  • 00:12:07.605 --> 00:12:08.606
  • THIS.THIS IS SIMPLY A TIMING ISSUE.
  • 00:12:08.606 --> 00:12:10.408
  • THIS IS SIMPLY A TIMING ISSUE.IT'S NOT AN OBEDIENCE ISSUE.
  • 00:12:10.408 --> 00:12:12.443
  • IT'S NOT AN OBEDIENCE ISSUE.IT'S NOT A HEART ISSUE.
  • 00:12:12.443 --> 00:12:13.611
  • IT'S NOT A HEART ISSUE.IT'S NOT THE RIGHT ONE GOT
  • 00:12:13.611 --> 00:12:15.246
  • IT'S NOT THE RIGHT ONE GOTAWAY.
  • 00:12:15.246 --> 00:12:17.115
  • AWAY.IT'S JUST TIMING.
  • 00:12:17.115 --> 00:12:18.416
  • IT'S JUST TIMING.AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT, I
  • 00:12:18.416 --> 00:12:19.651
  • AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT, IWOULD HAVE BEEN SO MUCH KINDER
  • 00:12:19.651 --> 00:12:20.285
  • WOULD HAVE BEEN SO MUCH KINDERTO MYSELF.
  • 00:12:20.285 --> 00:12:21.786
  • TO MYSELF.AND I THINK THAT'S REALLY WHAT
  • 00:12:21.786 --> 00:12:23.021
  • AND I THINK THAT'S REALLY WHATWE NEED TO BE IS KIND TO
  • 00:12:23.021 --> 00:12:25.657
  • WE NEED TO BE IS KIND TOOURSELVES.
  • 00:12:25.657 --> 00:12:26.825
  • OURSELVES.IN A CULTURE -- AND I KNOW
  • 00:12:26.825 --> 00:12:27.959
  • IN A CULTURE -- AND I KNOWJANICE SAID THIS BEFORE -- IN A
  • 00:12:27.959 --> 00:12:29.194
  • JANICE SAID THIS BEFORE -- IN ACULTURE THAT HAS A FORMULA AND
  • 00:12:29.194 --> 00:12:31.563
  • CULTURE THAT HAS A FORMULA ANDA CONVEYER BELT OF LIFE, WE
  • 00:12:31.563 --> 00:12:33.298
  • A CONVEYER BELT OF LIFE, WEHAVE TO BE ABLE TO GET OFF THAT
  • 00:12:33.298 --> 00:12:34.599
  • HAVE TO BE ABLE TO GET OFF THATCONVEYER BELT AND SAY: THAT'S
  • 00:12:34.599 --> 00:12:36.467
  • CONVEYER BELT AND SAY: THAT'SGREAT, IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANNA
  • 00:12:36.467 --> 00:12:38.102
  • GREAT, IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANNATELL ME I'M SUPPOSED TO DO.
  • 00:12:38.102 --> 00:12:39.470
  • TELL ME I'M SUPPOSED TO DO.BUT I AM GOING TO FOLLOW THE
  • 00:12:39.470 --> 00:12:40.238
  • BUT I AM GOING TO FOLLOW THEWILL OF GOD.
  • 00:12:40.238 --> 00:12:41.372
  • WILL OF GOD.I'M NOT GONNA FOLLOW THE TIMING
  • 00:12:41.372 --> 00:12:42.640
  • I'M NOT GONNA FOLLOW THE TIMINGOF "THE BACHELORETTE."
  • 00:12:42.640 --> 00:12:43.741
  • OF "THE BACHELORETTE."AND I THINK IT'S JUST REALLY
  • 00:12:43.741 --> 00:12:45.276
  • AND I THINK IT'S JUST REALLYIMPORTANT THAT WE GO: NO!
  • 00:12:45.276 --> 00:12:47.078
  • IMPORTANT THAT WE GO: NO!I'M NOT GONNA DO IT.
  • 00:12:47.078 --> 00:12:47.645
  • I'M NOT GONNA DO IT.I'M GONNA ACTUALLY GET OFF--
  • 00:12:47.645 --> 00:12:49.247
  • I'M GONNA ACTUALLY GET OFF--AND I FOLLOW ONE OPINION, AND
  • 00:12:49.247 --> 00:12:50.481
  • AND I FOLLOW ONE OPINION, ANDIT'S THE OPINION OF MY
  • 00:12:50.481 --> 00:12:52.283
  • IT'S THE OPINION OF MYFATHER -- THAT'S IT.
  • 00:12:52.283 --> 00:12:53.618
  • FATHER -- THAT'S IT.I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, JANICE,
  • 00:12:53.618 --> 00:12:54.219
  • I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, JANICE,BUT THAT'S HOW I FELT IN MY
  • 00:12:54.219 --> 00:12:55.486
  • BUT THAT'S HOW I FELT IN MYLIFE.
  • 00:12:55.486 --> 00:12:56.788
  • LIFE.- JANICE GAINES: THAT'S
  • 00:12:56.788 --> 00:12:57.856
  • - JANICE GAINES: THAT'SBRILLIANT, HAVILAH.
  • 00:12:57.856 --> 00:12:58.456
  • BRILLIANT, HAVILAH.THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT'S ALL
  • 00:12:58.456 --> 00:12:59.424
  • THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT'S ALLABOUT IS GOD'S TIMING.
  • 00:12:59.424 --> 00:13:01.192
  • ABOUT IS GOD'S TIMING.YOU KNOW, WHEN I GOT MARRIED,
  • 00:13:01.192 --> 00:13:02.994
  • YOU KNOW, WHEN I GOT MARRIED,I...I REMEMBER HAVING A
  • 00:13:02.994 --> 00:13:04.762
  • I...I REMEMBER HAVING ACONVERSATION WITH MY DAD.
  • 00:13:04.762 --> 00:13:05.697
  • CONVERSATION WITH MY DAD.AND I WAS LIKE: "OH, I GUESS,
  • 00:13:05.697 --> 00:13:07.131
  • AND I WAS LIKE: "OH, I GUESS,YOU KNOW, I'M LIVING LIFE AS A
  • 00:13:07.131 --> 00:13:08.299
  • YOU KNOW, I'M LIVING LIFE AS AMARRIED WOMAN, NOW."
  • 00:13:08.299 --> 00:13:08.967
  • MARRIED WOMAN, NOW."AND HE STOPPED ME AND HE SAID,
  • 00:13:08.967 --> 00:13:10.568
  • AND HE STOPPED ME AND HE SAID,"YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LIFE HAS
  • 00:13:10.568 --> 00:13:11.169
  • "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LIFE HASTO OFFER."
  • 00:13:11.169 --> 00:13:14.906
  • TO OFFER."AND, IT HIT ME, LIKE: RIGHT.
  • 00:13:14.906 --> 00:13:16.574
  • AND, IT HIT ME, LIKE: RIGHT.I DON'T KNOW WHY I THINK I
  • 00:13:16.574 --> 00:13:18.009
  • I DON'T KNOW WHY I THINK ICOULD...MAKE A DECISION AND
  • 00:13:18.009 --> 00:13:19.611
  • COULD...MAKE A DECISION ANDIT'S GOING TO AFFECT THE REST
  • 00:13:19.611 --> 00:13:20.211
  • IT'S GOING TO AFFECT THE RESTOF MY LIFE.
  • 00:13:20.211 --> 00:13:22.046
  • OF MY LIFE.THE REALITY IS THIS LIFE IS
  • 00:13:22.046 --> 00:13:24.015
  • THE REALITY IS THIS LIFE ISFULL OF TIMES AND SEASONS THAT
  • 00:13:24.015 --> 00:13:25.583
  • FULL OF TIMES AND SEASONS THATTHE LORD HAS PREPARED.
  • 00:13:25.583 --> 00:13:27.485
  • THE LORD HAS PREPARED.AND THE GOAL IS TO LEARN TO
  • 00:13:27.485 --> 00:13:28.953
  • AND THE GOAL IS TO LEARN TOTRUST HIM, AND IT--
  • 00:13:28.953 --> 00:13:30.521
  • TRUST HIM, AND IT--I DON'T KNOW WHAT TOOLS HE'LL
  • 00:13:30.521 --> 00:13:32.490
  • I DON'T KNOW WHAT TOOLS HE'LLUSE, ULTIMATELY, TO SANCTIFY
  • 00:13:32.490 --> 00:13:34.993
  • USE, ULTIMATELY, TO SANCTIFYME, ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN.
  • 00:13:34.993 --> 00:13:37.028
  • ME, ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN.RIGHT NOW, HE'S USING MARRIAGE.
  • 00:13:37.028 --> 00:13:37.729
  • RIGHT NOW, HE'S USING MARRIAGE.AND I'M GRATEFUL FOR IT.
  • 00:13:37.729 --> 00:13:39.330
  • AND I'M GRATEFUL FOR IT.I LOVE MY HUSBAND.
  • 00:13:39.330 --> 00:13:39.864
  • I LOVE MY HUSBAND.HE'S MY BEST FRIEND.
  • 00:13:39.864 --> 00:13:43.067
  • HE'S MY BEST FRIEND.BUT WE MET AT 15 YEARS OLD, YOU
  • 00:13:43.067 --> 00:13:43.801
  • BUT WE MET AT 15 YEARS OLD, YOUKNOW WHAT I MEAN?
  • 00:13:43.801 --> 00:13:45.603
  • KNOW WHAT I MEAN?LIKE, WE MET IN A MATH AND
  • 00:13:45.603 --> 00:13:46.704
  • LIKE, WE MET IN A MATH ANDSCIENCE PROGRAM, SO YOU CAN
  • 00:13:46.704 --> 00:13:47.639
  • SCIENCE PROGRAM, SO YOU CANCALL US NERDY AND GET YOUR
  • 00:13:47.639 --> 00:13:48.640
  • CALL US NERDY AND GET YOURLITTLE CHUCKLE ON.
  • 00:13:48.640 --> 00:13:49.073
  • LITTLE CHUCKLE ON.GO 'HEAD.
  • 00:13:49.073 --> 00:13:51.276
  • GO 'HEAD.A-HA, HA, HA, HA.
  • 00:13:51.276 --> 00:13:52.143
  • A-HA, HA, HA, HA.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:13:52.143 --> 00:13:53.845
  • [LAUGHTER]BUT THE REALITY IS IT TOOK US
  • 00:13:53.845 --> 00:13:55.947
  • BUT THE REALITY IS IT TOOK USFROM 15 TO 27 TO BE MARRIED.
  • 00:13:55.947 --> 00:13:58.149
  • FROM 15 TO 27 TO BE MARRIED.AND THAT WAS GOD'S TIMING.
  • 00:13:58.149 --> 00:13:59.550
  • AND THAT WAS GOD'S TIMING.MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HAVE A
  • 00:13:59.550 --> 00:14:01.085
  • MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HAVE AVOICE, RIGHT NOW, BECAUSE HE'S
  • 00:14:01.085 --> 00:14:01.886
  • VOICE, RIGHT NOW, BECAUSE HE'SNOT ON "BETTER TOGETHER" AND HE
  • 00:14:01.886 --> 00:14:02.921
  • NOT ON "BETTER TOGETHER" AND HEWOULD CATEGORIZE THAT
  • 00:14:02.921 --> 00:14:03.721
  • WOULD CATEGORIZE THATDIFFERENTLY.
  • 00:14:03.721 --> 00:14:05.156
  • DIFFERENTLY.BUT GUESS WHAT?
  • 00:14:05.156 --> 00:14:05.823
  • BUT GUESS WHAT?GUESS WHO'S TELLIN' THIS STORY?
  • 00:14:05.823 --> 00:14:06.524
  • GUESS WHO'S TELLIN' THIS STORY?[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:14:06.524 --> 00:14:07.458
  • [LAUGHTER]ME.
  • 00:14:07.458 --> 00:14:08.359
  • ME.AND THE REALITY IS THAT IT WAS
  • 00:14:08.359 --> 00:14:10.862
  • AND THE REALITY IS THAT IT WASNOT GOD'S TIMING.
  • 00:14:10.862 --> 00:14:12.030
  • NOT GOD'S TIMING.HE WANTED IT TO BE SOONER; IT
  • 00:14:12.030 --> 00:14:14.132
  • HE WANTED IT TO BE SOONER; ITWAS NOT YET SO.
  • 00:14:14.132 --> 00:14:15.900
  • WAS NOT YET SO.BECAUSE GOD KNEW ALL THINGS.
  • 00:14:15.900 --> 00:14:17.468
  • BECAUSE GOD KNEW ALL THINGS.AND HE KNEW, IN ORDER FOR YOU
  • 00:14:17.468 --> 00:14:19.003
  • AND HE KNEW, IN ORDER FOR YOUGUYS TO MAKE IT, IN ORDER FOR
  • 00:14:19.003 --> 00:14:21.239
  • GUYS TO MAKE IT, IN ORDER FORYOU GUYS TO DEAL WITH WHAT LIFE
  • 00:14:21.239 --> 00:14:23.041
  • YOU GUYS TO DEAL WITH WHAT LIFEWILL BRING YOU, YOU'RE GONNA
  • 00:14:23.041 --> 00:14:24.275
  • WILL BRING YOU, YOU'RE GONNANEED THIS, THIS, THIS, AND
  • 00:14:24.275 --> 00:14:25.109
  • NEED THIS, THIS, THIS, ANDTHIS.
  • 00:14:25.109 --> 00:14:26.411
  • THIS.AND THAT'S COMING IN THIS TIME.
  • 00:14:26.411 --> 00:14:27.745
  • AND THAT'S COMING IN THIS TIME.AND THEN, WHEN THAT TIME HITS,
  • 00:14:27.745 --> 00:14:29.347
  • AND THEN, WHEN THAT TIME HITS,YOU'RE GOING TO BE READY.
  • 00:14:29.347 --> 00:14:30.381
  • YOU'RE GOING TO BE READY.AND SO, LIKE YOU SAID, HAVILAH
  • 00:14:30.381 --> 00:14:31.783
  • AND SO, LIKE YOU SAID, HAVILAH-- IT IS ALL ABOUT GOD'S
  • 00:14:31.783 --> 00:14:32.717
  • -- IT IS ALL ABOUT GOD'STIMING.
  • 00:14:32.717 --> 00:14:34.585
  • TIMING.AND WE DON'T NEED TO DESPISE
  • 00:14:34.585 --> 00:14:36.554
  • AND WE DON'T NEED TO DESPISEIT, OR...OR BE CONCERNED ABOUT
  • 00:14:36.554 --> 00:14:37.588
  • IT, OR...OR BE CONCERNED ABOUTIT.
  • 00:14:37.588 --> 00:14:39.023
  • IT.BECAUSE, ONE OF THE THINGS I'VE
  • 00:14:39.023 --> 00:14:40.758
  • BECAUSE, ONE OF THE THINGS I'VEREALIZED IS I CAN LOOK BACK ON
  • 00:14:40.758 --> 00:14:42.560
  • REALIZED IS I CAN LOOK BACK ONSEASONS OF MY LIFE, AND THE ONE
  • 00:14:42.560 --> 00:14:44.128
  • SEASONS OF MY LIFE, AND THE ONETHING I CAN SAY TO MYSELF IS,
  • 00:14:44.128 --> 00:14:45.930
  • THING I CAN SAY TO MYSELF IS,"DID I USE THAT SEASON
  • 00:14:45.930 --> 00:14:47.165
  • "DID I USE THAT SEASONPROPERLY?"
  • 00:14:47.165 --> 00:14:48.700
  • PROPERLY?"THAT IS REALLY WHAT I WANT TO
  • 00:14:48.700 --> 00:14:50.001
  • THAT IS REALLY WHAT I WANT TOASK.
  • 00:14:50.001 --> 00:14:50.635
  • ASK.ONCE IT'S PASSED, I WANNA LOOK
  • 00:14:50.635 --> 00:14:51.269
  • ONCE IT'S PASSED, I WANNA LOOKBACK AND SAY: OH, MY GOODNESS,
  • 00:14:51.269 --> 00:14:54.238
  • BACK AND SAY: OH, MY GOODNESS,I DID THAT WELL.
  • 00:14:54.238 --> 00:14:55.773
  • I DID THAT WELL.I FINISHED THAT STRONG.
  • 00:14:55.773 --> 00:14:57.742
  • I FINISHED THAT STRONG.I THINK ABOUT THAT, AS A MOM OF
  • 00:14:57.742 --> 00:14:59.010
  • I THINK ABOUT THAT, AS A MOM OFYOUNG CHILDREN, THAT I WANT TO
  • 00:14:59.010 --> 00:15:01.512
  • YOUNG CHILDREN, THAT I WANT TOLOOK BACK ON MOTHERHOOD AND SAY
  • 00:15:01.512 --> 00:15:03.281
  • LOOK BACK ON MOTHERHOOD AND SAYTHAT I GAVE MY KIDS MORE THAN I
  • 00:15:03.281 --> 00:15:05.783
  • THAT I GAVE MY KIDS MORE THAN IGAVE MY MINISTRY, SINCE MY
  • 00:15:05.783 --> 00:15:07.785
  • GAVE MY MINISTRY, SINCE MYFAMILY IS MY FIRST MINISTRY.
  • 00:15:07.785 --> 00:15:09.721
  • FAMILY IS MY FIRST MINISTRY.AND SO, I DON'T WANT TO GET TO
  • 00:15:09.721 --> 00:15:11.255
  • AND SO, I DON'T WANT TO GET TOA NEW SEASON AND REALIZE: YOU
  • 00:15:11.255 --> 00:15:12.657
  • A NEW SEASON AND REALIZE: YOUDIDN'T GIVE IT YOUR ALL.
  • 00:15:12.657 --> 00:15:14.092
  • DIDN'T GIVE IT YOUR ALL.'CAUSE YOU WERE BEGGING FOR THE
  • 00:15:14.092 --> 00:15:14.926
  • 'CAUSE YOU WERE BEGGING FOR THENEXT SEASON.
  • 00:15:14.926 --> 00:15:16.127
  • NEXT SEASON.SO, WE GOTTA TRUST GOD'S
  • 00:15:16.127 --> 00:15:17.895
  • SO, WE GOTTA TRUST GOD'STIMING, BECAUSE, HE REALLY IS
  • 00:15:17.895 --> 00:15:19.630
  • TIMING, BECAUSE, HE REALLY ISIN CONTROL AND WE CAN TRUST HIM
  • 00:15:19.630 --> 00:15:20.631
  • IN CONTROL AND WE CAN TRUST HIMWITH IT.
  • 00:15:20.631 --> 00:15:21.833
  • WITH IT.- DR. ROBYN: AMEN.
  • 00:15:21.833 --> 00:15:23.368
  • - DR. ROBYN: AMEN.- MANDISA: WHEN I THINK ABOUT
  • 00:15:23.368 --> 00:15:24.569
  • - MANDISA: WHEN I THINK ABOUTTRUSTING GOD'S TIMING...I'M
  • 00:15:24.569 --> 00:15:25.370
  • TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING...I'MGON' BE HONEST, Y'ALL!
  • 00:15:25.370 --> 00:15:26.270
  • GON' BE HONEST, Y'ALL!CAN I KEEP IT REAL, AMONG MY
  • 00:15:26.270 --> 00:15:26.738
  • CAN I KEEP IT REAL, AMONG MYFRIENDS?
  • 00:15:26.738 --> 00:15:27.672
  • FRIENDS?- JANICE: OH, OH! WAIT...WAIT.
  • 00:15:27.672 --> 00:15:28.639
  • - JANICE: OH, OH! WAIT...WAIT.- HAVILAH: YEEES.
  • 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.440
  • - HAVILAH: YEEES.- JANICE: I'M JUST KIDDING.
  • 00:15:29.440 --> 00:15:29.941
  • - JANICE: I'M JUST KIDDING.KEEP IT REAL.
  • 00:15:29.941 --> 00:15:31.275
  • KEEP IT REAL.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:31.275 --> 00:15:33.578
  • [LAUGHTER]- MANDISA: ANYWAY, SO...WHEN
  • 00:15:33.578 --> 00:15:35.279
  • - MANDISA: ANYWAY, SO...WHENI THINK OF THE TIMES WHERE I
  • 00:15:35.279 --> 00:15:36.814
  • I THINK OF THE TIMES WHERE ISAY TO GOD -- AND I SAY IT TO
  • 00:15:36.814 --> 00:15:39.650
  • SAY TO GOD -- AND I SAY IT TOHIM -- "GOD...WHY? WHEN?" LIKE,
  • 00:15:39.650 --> 00:15:41.786
  • HIM -- "GOD...WHY? WHEN?" LIKE,I THINK THAT IS THE BEST THING
  • 00:15:41.786 --> 00:15:44.088
  • I THINK THAT IS THE BEST THINGTHAT I CAN DO.
  • 00:15:44.088 --> 00:15:45.423
  • THAT I CAN DO.WHEN I'M THINKING ABOUT
  • 00:15:45.423 --> 00:15:47.692
  • WHEN I'M THINKING ABOUTTRUSTING GOD'S TIMING, I SAY,
  • 00:15:47.692 --> 00:15:50.361
  • TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING, I SAY,"GOD, I TRUST YOU, AND I PRAY
  • 00:15:50.361 --> 00:15:51.562
  • "GOD, I TRUST YOU, AND I PRAYFOR GRACE, TO TRUST YOU MORE."
  • 00:15:51.562 --> 00:15:53.164
  • FOR GRACE, TO TRUST YOU MORE."I THINK THAT YOU CAN HAVE BOTH
  • 00:15:53.164 --> 00:15:53.664
  • I THINK THAT YOU CAN HAVE BOTHOF THOSE THINGS.
  • 00:15:53.664 --> 00:15:54.766
  • OF THOSE THINGS.'CAUSE I DO TRUST HIS TIMING.
  • 00:15:54.766 --> 00:15:57.135
  • 'CAUSE I DO TRUST HIS TIMING.AND, THERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT
  • 00:15:57.135 --> 00:15:59.270
  • AND, THERE ARE SOME THINGS THATHAPPEN THAT SOMETIMES IT MAKES
  • 00:15:59.270 --> 00:16:00.838
  • HAPPEN THAT SOMETIMES IT MAKESME GO: "I DON'T UNDERSTAND,
  • 00:16:00.838 --> 00:16:03.107
  • ME GO: "I DON'T UNDERSTAND,GOD.
  • 00:16:03.107 --> 00:16:03.674
  • GOD.WHY WOULD YOU ALLOW THIS?
  • 00:16:03.674 --> 00:16:05.643
  • WHY WOULD YOU ALLOW THIS?AND WHY NOT IN THIS WAY?"
  • 00:16:05.643 --> 00:16:06.611
  • AND WHY NOT IN THIS WAY?"AND: "IF I WERE DOING THINGS, I
  • 00:16:06.611 --> 00:16:07.345
  • AND: "IF I WERE DOING THINGS, IWOULD HAVE DONE THINGS THIS
  • 00:16:07.345 --> 00:16:07.979
  • WOULD HAVE DONE THINGS THISWAY."
  • 00:16:07.979 --> 00:16:09.881
  • WAY."BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT THE BEST
  • 00:16:09.881 --> 00:16:11.449
  • BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT THE BESTPLACE TO BRING THOSE QUESTIONS
  • 00:16:11.449 --> 00:16:13.418
  • PLACE TO BRING THOSE QUESTIONSTO, IT'S TO HIM.
  • 00:16:13.418 --> 00:16:15.119
  • TO, IT'S TO HIM.AND IF I'M QUESTIONING HIS
  • 00:16:15.119 --> 00:16:16.320
  • AND IF I'M QUESTIONING HISTIMING, RATHER THAN TALKING,
  • 00:16:16.320 --> 00:16:17.321
  • TIMING, RATHER THAN TALKING,GETTING ON THE PHONE AND
  • 00:16:17.321 --> 00:16:18.856
  • GETTING ON THE PHONE ANDTALKING TO MY FRIENDS AND JUST
  • 00:16:18.856 --> 00:16:19.457
  • TALKING TO MY FRIENDS AND JUSTCOMPLAINING, LET ME CALL UP
  • 00:16:19.457 --> 00:16:21.359
  • COMPLAINING, LET ME CALL UPJESUS.
  • 00:16:21.359 --> 00:16:22.427
  • JESUS.JESUS ON THE MAIN LINE.
  • 00:16:22.427 --> 00:16:23.861
  • JESUS ON THE MAIN LINE.TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT.
  • 00:16:23.861 --> 00:16:26.464
  • TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT.AND I FIND THAT WHEN I DO THAT,
  • 00:16:26.464 --> 00:16:27.899
  • AND I FIND THAT WHEN I DO THAT,WHEN I'M HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT
  • 00:16:27.899 --> 00:16:29.400
  • WHEN I'M HONEST WITH GOD ABOUTTHE QUESTIONING OF HIS TIMING,
  • 00:16:29.400 --> 00:16:31.702
  • THE QUESTIONING OF HIS TIMING,ABOUT THE QUESTIONING OF HIS
  • 00:16:31.702 --> 00:16:33.471
  • ABOUT THE QUESTIONING OF HISCIRCUMSTANCES, WHEN I HAVE WHAT
  • 00:16:33.471 --> 00:16:35.206
  • CIRCUMSTANCES, WHEN I HAVE WHATI CALL A SELAH MOMENT AND I
  • 00:16:35.206 --> 00:16:37.041
  • I CALL A SELAH MOMENT AND ISHUT MY MOUTH AND LET HIM,
  • 00:16:37.041 --> 00:16:39.744
  • SHUT MY MOUTH AND LET HIM,THEN, SPEAK TO ME, HE WILL
  • 00:16:39.744 --> 00:16:41.979
  • THEN, SPEAK TO ME, HE WILLCOURSE CORRECT ME IN THE MOST
  • 00:16:41.979 --> 00:16:43.381
  • COURSE CORRECT ME IN THE MOSTGENTLE, BUT SOMETIMES BLUNT,
  • 00:16:43.381 --> 00:16:44.282
  • GENTLE, BUT SOMETIMES BLUNT,WAY -- IN THE SAME WAY THAT HE
  • 00:16:44.282 --> 00:16:46.818
  • WAY -- IN THE SAME WAY THAT HEDID WITH JOB.
  • 00:16:46.818 --> 00:16:48.119
  • DID WITH JOB.AND, SOMETIMES, IT IS...FOR ME,
  • 00:16:48.119 --> 00:16:48.886
  • AND, SOMETIMES, IT IS...FOR ME,IT IS ME SAYING: "GOD, I DON'T
  • 00:16:48.886 --> 00:16:50.354
  • IT IS ME SAYING: "GOD, I DON'TUNDERSTAND THIS."
  • 00:16:50.354 --> 00:16:52.723
  • UNDERSTAND THIS."IT'S BEING HONEST WITH HIM.
  • 00:16:52.723 --> 00:16:53.891
  • IT'S BEING HONEST WITH HIM.AND WHEN I AM FEELING LONELY,
  • 00:16:53.891 --> 00:16:56.227
  • AND WHEN I AM FEELING LONELY,WHEN I AM QUESTIONING "HOW COME
  • 00:16:56.227 --> 00:16:56.761
  • WHEN I AM QUESTIONING "HOW COMETHIS HASN'T HAPPENED?"
  • 00:16:56.761 --> 00:16:58.863
  • THIS HASN'T HAPPENED?"I FIND THE BEST THING
  • 00:16:58.863 --> 00:16:59.697
  • I FIND THE BEST THINGTHAT I CAN DO IS TO
  • 00:16:59.697 --> 00:17:00.865
  • THAT I CAN DO IS TOBE HONEST WITH HIM.
  • 00:17:00.865 --> 00:17:03.401
  • BE HONEST WITH HIM.UM, THERE IS AN OLD SONG THAT I
  • 00:17:03.401 --> 00:17:04.769
  • UM, THERE IS AN OLD SONG THAT IWOULD ALWAYS LISTEN TO -- AND,
  • 00:17:04.769 --> 00:17:05.736
  • WOULD ALWAYS LISTEN TO -- AND,MY FRIENDS HERE ARE GONNA KNOW
  • 00:17:05.736 --> 00:17:07.071
  • MY FRIENDS HERE ARE GONNA KNOWTHIS, BUT: (SINGING)
  • 00:17:07.071 --> 00:17:08.306
  • THIS, BUT: (SINGING)♪ HE'S AN ON-TIME GOD ♪
  • 00:17:08.306 --> 00:17:10.575
  • ♪ HE'S AN ON-TIME GOD ♪♪ YES, HE IS ♪
  • 00:17:10.575 --> 00:17:11.509
  • ♪ YES, HE IS ♪- DR. ROBYN: YES, YES, YES!
  • 00:17:11.509 --> 00:17:12.076
  • - DR. ROBYN: YES, YES, YES!- JANICE: (VOCALIZING)
  • 00:17:12.076 --> 00:17:13.010
  • - JANICE: (VOCALIZING)♪ WHOA-OH-OH-OH... ♪
  • 00:17:13.010 --> 00:17:13.911
  • ♪ WHOA-OH-OH-OH... ♪- MANDISA: COME ON!
  • 00:17:13.911 --> 00:17:15.780
  • - MANDISA: COME ON![LAUGHS HAPPILY]
  • 00:17:15.780 --> 00:17:16.514
  • [LAUGHS HAPPILY]- MELINDA: (SINGING) ON TIME
  • 00:17:16.514 --> 00:17:17.415
  • - MELINDA: (SINGING) ON TIME- MANDISA: AND SO, WHEN I
  • 00:17:17.415 --> 00:17:18.116
  • - MANDISA: AND SO, WHEN ITHINK ABOUT THAT SONG: IT'S
  • 00:17:18.116 --> 00:17:18.816
  • THINK ABOUT THAT SONG: IT'SREALLY EASY TO SING; IT IS NOT
  • 00:17:18.816 --> 00:17:21.853
  • REALLY EASY TO SING; IT IS NOTAS EASY TO LIVE.
  • 00:17:21.853 --> 00:17:22.453
  • AS EASY TO LIVE.BUT IF I'M GOING TO LIVE IT,
  • 00:17:22.453 --> 00:17:23.821
  • BUT IF I'M GOING TO LIVE IT,I'M GOING TO SAY: "GOD, I TRUST
  • 00:17:23.821 --> 00:17:24.555
  • I'M GOING TO SAY: "GOD, I TRUSTYOU.
  • 00:17:24.555 --> 00:17:25.790
  • YOU.I DON'T GET IT.
  • 00:17:25.790 --> 00:17:27.692
  • I DON'T GET IT.HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND IT."
  • 00:17:27.692 --> 00:17:29.961
  • HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND IT."BE HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT THE
  • 00:17:29.961 --> 00:17:32.096
  • BE HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT THEDISAPPOINTMENT IN THE TIMING,
  • 00:17:32.096 --> 00:17:33.397
  • DISAPPOINTMENT IN THE TIMING,OR THE LACK OF THINGS HAPPENING
  • 00:17:33.397 --> 00:17:34.632
  • OR THE LACK OF THINGS HAPPENINGTHE WAY THAT YOU WANT IT TO, AND
  • 00:17:34.632 --> 00:17:37.935
  • THE WAY THAT YOU WANT IT TO, ANDTHEN, SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND LET
  • 00:17:37.935 --> 00:17:38.603
  • THEN, SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND LETHIM, THEN, TALK TO YOU.
  • 00:17:38.603 --> 00:17:40.404
  • HIM, THEN, TALK TO YOU.THAT'S WHAT I'M FINDING TO DO.
  • 00:17:40.404 --> 00:17:41.772
  • THAT'S WHAT I'M FINDING TO DO.AND I JUST WONDER: IS THAT-- DO
  • 00:17:41.772 --> 00:17:42.340
  • AND I JUST WONDER: IS THAT-- DOYOU THINK THAT'S THE RIGHT
  • 00:17:42.340 --> 00:17:42.874
  • YOU THINK THAT'S THE RIGHTTHING TO DO, DR. ROBYN?
  • 00:17:42.874 --> 00:17:43.541
  • THING TO DO, DR. ROBYN?'CAUSE THAT'S WHAT I'M DOING
  • 00:17:43.541 --> 00:17:44.175
  • 'CAUSE THAT'S WHAT I'M DOINGAND I HOPE YOU'RE GONNA AGREE
  • 00:17:44.175 --> 00:17:44.942
  • AND I HOPE YOU'RE GONNA AGREEWITH ME.
  • 00:17:44.942 --> 00:17:46.677
  • WITH ME.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:17:46.677 --> 00:17:47.712
  • [LAUGHTER]- DR. ROBYN: OHHH...HONEY,
  • 00:17:47.712 --> 00:17:48.513
  • - DR. ROBYN: OHHH...HONEY,ABSOLUUUUTELY.
  • 00:17:48.513 --> 00:17:51.115
  • ABSOLUUUUTELY.ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:17:51.115 --> 00:17:51.916
  • ABSOLUTELY.YOU ARE SO AWESOME.
  • 00:17:51.916 --> 00:17:53.584
  • YOU ARE SO AWESOME.I ADORE YOU.
  • 00:17:53.584 --> 00:17:54.285
  • I ADORE YOU.- MANDISA: AW...
  • 00:17:54.285 --> 00:17:55.052
  • - MANDISA: AW...- DR. ROBYN: AND, YOU KNOW
  • 00:17:55.052 --> 00:17:55.620
  • - DR. ROBYN: AND, YOU KNOWWHAT?
  • 00:17:55.620 --> 00:17:56.621
  • WHAT?YOU JUST GOTTA CLAIM THE WORD.
  • 00:17:56.621 --> 00:17:57.889
  • YOU JUST GOTTA CLAIM THE WORD.HERE'S THE VERSE THAT CAME TO
  • 00:17:57.889 --> 00:17:59.557
  • HERE'S THE VERSE THAT CAME TOME, WHILE YOU WERE SINGING.
  • 00:17:59.557 --> 00:18:01.325
  • ME, WHILE YOU WERE SINGING.I LOVE TO HEAR YOU.
  • 00:18:01.325 --> 00:18:03.995
  • I LOVE TO HEAR YOU."BEFORE I FORMED YOU..."
  • 00:18:03.995 --> 00:18:05.163
  • "BEFORE I FORMED YOU..."YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME IN THERE:
  • 00:18:05.163 --> 00:18:06.130
  • YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME IN THERE:"...ROBYN..."
  • 00:18:06.130 --> 00:18:06.898
  • "...ROBYN..."YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME.
  • 00:18:06.898 --> 00:18:08.099
  • YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME."BEFORE I FORMED YOU IN THE
  • 00:18:08.099 --> 00:18:10.501
  • "BEFORE I FORMED YOU IN THEWOMB, I KNEW YOU; AND BEFORE
  • 00:18:10.501 --> 00:18:13.538
  • WOMB, I KNEW YOU; AND BEFOREYOU WERE BORN, I CONSECRATED
  • 00:18:13.538 --> 00:18:15.506
  • YOU WERE BORN, I CONSECRATEDYOU; I APPOINTED YOU A PROPHET
  • 00:18:15.506 --> 00:18:20.878
  • YOU; I APPOINTED YOU A PROPHETTO THE NATIONS."
  • 00:18:20.878 --> 00:18:21.512
  • TO THE NATIONS."DOES THAT SOUND LIKE THERE WAS
  • 00:18:21.512 --> 00:18:24.515
  • DOES THAT SOUND LIKE THERE WASA TIMING PROBLEM?
  • 00:18:24.515 --> 00:18:27.018
  • A TIMING PROBLEM?I DON'T THINK SO.
  • 00:18:27.018 --> 00:18:28.686
  • I DON'T THINK SO.WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
  • 00:18:28.686 --> 00:18:30.521
  • WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?NOW, HERE'S THE BIG IDEA,
  • 00:18:30.521 --> 00:18:31.822
  • NOW, HERE'S THE BIG IDEA,HERE'S THE PRINCIPLE: NOTHING
  • 00:18:31.822 --> 00:18:35.893
  • HERE'S THE PRINCIPLE: NOTHINGHAPPENS TO ME.
  • 00:18:35.893 --> 00:18:36.527
  • HAPPENS TO ME.IT ONLY HAPPENS FOR ME.
  • 00:18:36.527 --> 00:18:41.499
  • IT ONLY HAPPENS FOR ME.WHY?
  • 00:18:41.499 --> 00:18:44.602
  • WHY?THE SCRIPTURE ROMANS 8:28: "AND
  • 00:18:44.602 --> 00:18:46.837
  • THE SCRIPTURE ROMANS 8:28: "ANDWE KNOW THAT ALL THINGS WORK
  • 00:18:46.837 --> 00:18:50.675
  • WE KNOW THAT ALL THINGS WORKTOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE WHO
  • 00:18:50.675 --> 00:18:54.178
  • TOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE WHOLOVE GOD..."
  • 00:18:54.178 --> 00:18:55.313
  • LOVE GOD..."THAT'S YOU AND ME.
  • 00:18:55.313 --> 00:18:58.282
  • THAT'S YOU AND ME.THOSE HE HAS CALLED ACCORDING
  • 00:18:58.282 --> 00:19:02.320
  • THOSE HE HAS CALLED ACCORDINGTO HIS PLAN.
  • 00:19:02.320 --> 00:19:02.920
  • TO HIS PLAN.NOW, LISTEN -- HE HAS CALLED
  • 00:19:02.920 --> 00:19:04.455
  • NOW, LISTEN -- HE HAS CALLEDUS!
  • 00:19:04.455 --> 00:19:07.225
  • US!HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE!
  • 00:19:07.225 --> 00:19:10.728
  • HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE!SINGE WOMEN ARE NOT BROKEN --
  • 00:19:10.728 --> 00:19:13.598
  • SINGE WOMEN ARE NOT BROKEN --DIVORCED, WIDOWED, WAITING,
  • 00:19:13.598 --> 00:19:15.633
  • DIVORCED, WIDOWED, WAITING,NEVER MARRIED.
  • 00:19:15.633 --> 00:19:17.068
  • NEVER MARRIED.GOD'S GOT A PURPOSE AND HERE'S
  • 00:19:17.068 --> 00:19:18.269
  • GOD'S GOT A PURPOSE AND HERE'STHE BIG IDEA: HE'S GOT A
  • 00:19:18.269 --> 00:19:19.904
  • THE BIG IDEA: HE'S GOT APURPOSE, RIGHT NOW, FOR RIGHT
  • 00:19:19.904 --> 00:19:22.907
  • PURPOSE, RIGHT NOW, FOR RIGHTNOW.
  • 00:19:22.907 --> 00:19:25.109
  • NOW.NOT FOR NEXT MONTH, NOT FOR
  • 00:19:25.109 --> 00:19:26.711
  • NOT FOR NEXT MONTH, NOT FORNEXT YEAR -- FOR TODAY.
  • 00:19:26.711 --> 00:19:29.080
  • NEXT YEAR -- FOR TODAY.'CAUSE EVERY DAY MATTERS.
  • 00:19:29.080 --> 00:19:30.014
  • 'CAUSE EVERY DAY MATTERS.MY TODAY, MY "RIGHT NOW"
  • 00:19:30.014 --> 00:19:32.750
  • MY TODAY, MY "RIGHT NOW"MATTERS.
  • 00:19:32.750 --> 00:19:33.985
  • MATTERS.YOUR "RIGHT NOW" MATTERS.
  • 00:19:33.985 --> 00:19:35.653
  • YOUR "RIGHT NOW" MATTERS.AND I FEEL THE HOLY GHOST,
  • 00:19:35.653 --> 00:19:37.154
  • AND I FEEL THE HOLY GHOST,RIGHT?
  • 00:19:37.154 --> 00:19:39.790
  • RIGHT?BECAUSE THAT'S THE ENERGY THAT
  • 00:19:39.790 --> 00:19:41.926
  • BECAUSE THAT'S THE ENERGY THATI NEED IN EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE
  • 00:19:41.926 --> 00:19:45.696
  • I NEED IN EVERY DAY OF MY LIFETO KEEP GOING IN THESE TRYING
  • 00:19:45.696 --> 00:19:48.633
  • TO KEEP GOING IN THESE TRYINGDAYS -- THIS PANDEMIC, THIS
  • 00:19:48.633 --> 00:19:49.867
  • DAYS -- THIS PANDEMIC, THISSEASON THAT WE'RE ALL LIVING
  • 00:19:49.867 --> 00:19:52.403
  • SEASON THAT WE'RE ALL LIVINGTHROUGH.
  • 00:19:52.403 --> 00:19:53.671
  • THROUGH.(CLAPPING FOR EMPHASIS) WE NEED
  • 00:19:53.671 --> 00:19:55.139
  • (CLAPPING FOR EMPHASIS) WE NEEDTO BE ABLE TO TRUST THE POWER
  • 00:19:55.139 --> 00:19:57.475
  • TO BE ABLE TO TRUST THE POWERAND THE ENERGY OF JESUS, TO
  • 00:19:57.475 --> 00:19:58.709
  • AND THE ENERGY OF JESUS, TOKNOW THAT HE'S WITH US, AS WE
  • 00:19:58.709 --> 00:20:02.079
  • KNOW THAT HE'S WITH US, AS WEARE ON TRACK TO MAKE A
  • 00:20:02.079 --> 00:20:04.415
  • ARE ON TRACK TO MAKE ADIFFERENCE IN OUR COMMUNITY AND
  • 00:20:04.415 --> 00:20:06.350
  • DIFFERENCE IN OUR COMMUNITY ANDIN OUR FAMILY.
  • 00:20:06.350 --> 00:20:07.885
  • IN OUR FAMILY.SO, MISS MELINDA, WHAT DO YOU
  • 00:20:07.885 --> 00:20:09.553
  • SO, MISS MELINDA, WHAT DO YOUDO THINK ABOUT IT?
  • 00:20:09.553 --> 00:20:10.154
  • DO THINK ABOUT IT?- MELINDA: WELL, THAT'S SO
  • 00:20:10.154 --> 00:20:11.789
  • - MELINDA: WELL, THAT'S SOTRUE.
  • 00:20:11.789 --> 00:20:13.157
  • TRUE.AND WHAT IS SO BEAUTIFUL ABOUT
  • 00:20:13.157 --> 00:20:14.158
  • AND WHAT IS SO BEAUTIFUL ABOUTTHE LORD -- THERE'S SO MANY
  • 00:20:14.158 --> 00:20:15.593
  • THE LORD -- THERE'S SO MANYBEAUTIFUL THINGS ABOUT HIM --
  • 00:20:15.593 --> 00:20:17.461
  • BEAUTIFUL THINGS ABOUT HIM --BUT ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGS
  • 00:20:17.461 --> 00:20:18.429
  • BUT ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGSIS THAT HE DOESN'T WASTE
  • 00:20:18.429 --> 00:20:20.931
  • IS THAT HE DOESN'T WASTEANYTHING -- AND, THAT INCLUDES
  • 00:20:20.931 --> 00:20:24.702
  • ANYTHING -- AND, THAT INCLUDESTIME.
  • 00:20:24.702 --> 00:20:25.269
  • TIME.HE DOESN'T WASTE OUR TIME.
  • 00:20:25.269 --> 00:20:26.337
  • HE DOESN'T WASTE OUR TIME.HE DOESN'T WASTE WHAT HE HAS
  • 00:20:26.337 --> 00:20:29.206
  • HE DOESN'T WASTE WHAT HE HASPUT IN US.
  • 00:20:29.206 --> 00:20:30.775
  • PUT IN US.AND SO, I WOULD ENCOURAGE
  • 00:20:30.775 --> 00:20:32.209
  • AND SO, I WOULD ENCOURAGEPEOPLE TO SEEK THE LORD
  • 00:20:32.209 --> 00:20:33.678
  • PEOPLE TO SEEK THE LORDON WHAT WE CAN BE
  • 00:20:33.678 --> 00:20:34.712
  • ON WHAT WE CAN BEDOING IN THIS TIME.
  • 00:20:34.712 --> 00:20:36.847
  • DOING IN THIS TIME.LIKE JANICE SAID, YOU KNOW:
  • 00:20:36.847 --> 00:20:38.516
  • LIKE JANICE SAID, YOU KNOW:LIKE, ARE YOU USING THIS SEASON
  • 00:20:38.516 --> 00:20:39.383
  • LIKE, ARE YOU USING THIS SEASONWELL?
  • 00:20:39.383 --> 00:20:41.485
  • WELL?WHAT DOES HE HAVE FOR YOU,
  • 00:20:41.485 --> 00:20:43.054
  • WHAT DOES HE HAVE FOR YOU,HERE, THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE
  • 00:20:43.054 --> 00:20:44.955
  • HERE, THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLETO DO, AS A MARRIED WOMAN?
  • 00:20:44.955 --> 00:20:45.823
  • TO DO, AS A MARRIED WOMAN?- MANDISA: THAT'S RIGHT!
  • 00:20:45.823 --> 00:20:47.325
  • - MANDISA: THAT'S RIGHT!- MELINDA: LIKE, WHAT HAS THIS
  • 00:20:47.325 --> 00:20:48.192
  • - MELINDA: LIKE, WHAT HAS THISFREEDOM ALLOWED FOR YOU?
  • 00:20:48.192 --> 00:20:50.428
  • FREEDOM ALLOWED FOR YOU?I HAVE HEARD SO MANY PEOPLE
  • 00:20:50.428 --> 00:20:52.063
  • I HAVE HEARD SO MANY PEOPLESAY, YOU KNOW, LIKE, EVEN IN
  • 00:20:52.063 --> 00:20:53.264
  • SAY, YOU KNOW, LIKE, EVEN INTHIS QUARANTINE, IT TAKES
  • 00:20:53.264 --> 00:20:54.598
  • THIS QUARANTINE, IT TAKESSOMETHING AWAY OR THINGS ARE
  • 00:20:54.598 --> 00:20:55.566
  • SOMETHING AWAY OR THINGS AREHARDER.
  • 00:20:55.566 --> 00:20:57.101
  • HARDER.BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE US TO
  • 00:20:57.101 --> 00:20:58.769
  • BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE US TOLOOK AT "WHAT DOES THIS MAKE
  • 00:20:58.769 --> 00:21:00.371
  • LOOK AT "WHAT DOES THIS MAKEPOSSIBLE?" INSTEAD.
  • 00:21:00.371 --> 00:21:02.173
  • POSSIBLE?" INSTEAD.LIKE, WHAT IS MY SINGLENESS
  • 00:21:02.173 --> 00:21:04.775
  • LIKE, WHAT IS MY SINGLENESSMAKING POSSIBLE FOR ME, RIGHT
  • 00:21:04.775 --> 00:21:06.043
  • MAKING POSSIBLE FOR ME, RIGHTNOW?
  • 00:21:06.043 --> 00:21:07.144
  • NOW?AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT.
  • 00:21:07.144 --> 00:21:08.679
  • AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT.BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THE
  • 00:21:08.679 --> 00:21:09.980
  • BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THEBEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OF
  • 00:21:09.980 --> 00:21:11.716
  • BEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OFTHIS TIME THAT HE HAS GIVEN
  • 00:21:11.716 --> 00:21:12.650
  • THIS TIME THAT HE HAS GIVENYOU.
  • 00:21:12.650 --> 00:21:14.885
  • YOU.SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,
  • 00:21:14.885 --> 00:21:16.520
  • SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IS AS A
  • 00:21:16.520 --> 00:21:17.922
  • INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IS AS ABURDEN.
  • 00:21:17.922 --> 00:21:19.156
  • BURDEN.THIS TIME IS A GIFT.
  • 00:21:19.156 --> 00:21:20.424
  • THIS TIME IS A GIFT.IT TRULY IS.
  • 00:21:20.424 --> 00:21:22.259
  • IT TRULY IS.AND IT MAY FEEL LONG, AND IT
  • 00:21:22.259 --> 00:21:24.428
  • AND IT MAY FEEL LONG, AND ITMAY FEEL ARDUOUS, BUT IT CAN BE
  • 00:21:24.428 --> 00:21:25.696
  • MAY FEEL ARDUOUS, BUT IT CAN BEA GIFT, IF YOU LOOK AT IT ON
  • 00:21:25.696 --> 00:21:26.664
  • A GIFT, IF YOU LOOK AT IT ONTHAT SIDE OF THINGS.
  • 00:21:26.664 --> 00:21:28.065
  • THAT SIDE OF THINGS.- MANDISA: YEAH...
  • 00:21:28.065 --> 00:21:29.433
  • - MANDISA: YEAH...- HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I LOVE
  • 00:21:29.433 --> 00:21:31.168
  • - HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I LOVETHAT, MELINDA, AND I CAN TELL
  • 00:21:31.168 --> 00:21:32.303
  • THAT, MELINDA, AND I CAN TELLTHAT THAT IS REAL FOR YOU.
  • 00:21:32.303 --> 00:21:33.671
  • THAT THAT IS REAL FOR YOU.LIKE, YOU ARE USING YOUR SEASON
  • 00:21:33.671 --> 00:21:34.605
  • LIKE, YOU ARE USING YOUR SEASONAS A GIFT.
  • 00:21:34.605 --> 00:21:35.773
  • AS A GIFT.AND, YOU KNOW, I WAS THINKING
  • 00:21:35.773 --> 00:21:37.641
  • AND, YOU KNOW, I WAS THINKINGABOUT-- AND I THINK DR. ROBYN
  • 00:21:37.641 --> 00:21:39.043
  • ABOUT-- AND I THINK DR. ROBYNREALLY ALLUDED TO THIS, BUT,
  • 00:21:39.043 --> 00:21:41.178
  • REALLY ALLUDED TO THIS, BUT,SOMETIMES, OUR LOVE STORY CAN
  • 00:21:41.178 --> 00:21:42.279
  • SOMETIMES, OUR LOVE STORY CANBE OUR MOST BROKEN PART OF OUR
  • 00:21:42.279 --> 00:21:44.515
  • BE OUR MOST BROKEN PART OF OURLIVES, WHETHER IT'S, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:21:44.515 --> 00:21:46.317
  • LIVES, WHETHER IT'S, YOU KNOW,THE ONE THAT WE MARRIED, IT
  • 00:21:46.317 --> 00:21:46.984
  • THE ONE THAT WE MARRIED, ITDIDN'T WORK OUT; OR SOMETHING
  • 00:21:46.984 --> 00:21:48.452
  • DIDN'T WORK OUT; OR SOMETHINGHAPPENED WHERE WE LOST A
  • 00:21:48.452 --> 00:21:49.220
  • HAPPENED WHERE WE LOST ASPOUSE; OR, YOU KNOW, MAYBE
  • 00:21:49.220 --> 00:21:50.087
  • SPOUSE; OR, YOU KNOW, MAYBEWE--
  • 00:21:50.087 --> 00:21:50.821
  • WE--I REMEMBER I ALMOST GOT MARRIED
  • 00:21:50.821 --> 00:21:52.156
  • I REMEMBER I ALMOST GOT MARRIEDTWICE, BEFORE I MARRIED MY
  • 00:21:52.156 --> 00:21:54.058
  • TWICE, BEFORE I MARRIED MYHUSBAND.
  • 00:21:54.058 --> 00:21:54.892
  • HUSBAND.AND THERE WAS A LOT OF PAIN AND
  • 00:21:54.892 --> 00:21:55.826
  • AND THERE WAS A LOT OF PAIN ANDHEARTACHE.
  • 00:21:55.826 --> 00:21:56.927
  • HEARTACHE.AND WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO FIND
  • 00:21:56.927 --> 00:21:57.561
  • AND WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO FINDTHE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND SEE
  • 00:21:57.561 --> 00:21:58.329
  • THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND SEEIF YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE
  • 00:21:58.329 --> 00:21:58.796
  • IF YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BEMARRIED...
  • 00:21:58.796 --> 00:21:59.930
  • MARRIED...BUT I REMEMBER ONE TIME TALKING
  • 00:21:59.930 --> 00:22:01.065
  • BUT I REMEMBER ONE TIME TALKINGTO MY DAD, AND MY DAD'S A
  • 00:22:01.065 --> 00:22:03.601
  • TO MY DAD, AND MY DAD'S AMINISTER, AND I ASKED HIM, I
  • 00:22:03.601 --> 00:22:05.770
  • MINISTER, AND I ASKED HIM, ISAID: "YOU KNOW, DAD, WHAT
  • 00:22:05.770 --> 00:22:07.004
  • SAID: "YOU KNOW, DAD, WHATHAPPENS WHEN WE GO THROUGH
  • 00:22:07.004 --> 00:22:07.905
  • HAPPENS WHEN WE GO THROUGHTHINGS THAT WE DON'T
  • 00:22:07.905 --> 00:22:08.572
  • THINGS THAT WE DON'TUNDERSTAND?
  • 00:22:08.572 --> 00:22:09.907
  • UNDERSTAND?BECAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF PAIN
  • 00:22:09.907 --> 00:22:11.108
  • BECAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF PAINAND THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN LIFE
  • 00:22:11.108 --> 00:22:12.810
  • AND THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN LIFETHAT SEEM ALMOST LIKE THERE'S
  • 00:22:12.810 --> 00:22:13.911
  • THAT SEEM ALMOST LIKE THERE'SWITHOUT REASON, LIKE, WE DON'T
  • 00:22:13.911 --> 00:22:14.812
  • WITHOUT REASON, LIKE, WE DON'TKNOW WHAT TO DO."
  • 00:22:14.812 --> 00:22:15.679
  • KNOW WHAT TO DO."AND MY DAD CAME FROM, UM...A
  • 00:22:15.679 --> 00:22:18.249
  • AND MY DAD CAME FROM, UM...AVERY DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD.
  • 00:22:18.249 --> 00:22:20.418
  • VERY DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD.HIS DAD WANTED HIS MOM TO HAVE
  • 00:22:20.418 --> 00:22:21.452
  • HIS DAD WANTED HIS MOM TO HAVEAN ABORTION -- GAVE HER PILLS.
  • 00:22:21.452 --> 00:22:22.920
  • AN ABORTION -- GAVE HER PILLS.SHE WAS AN ITALIAN WOMAN THAT
  • 00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:23.788
  • SHE WAS AN ITALIAN WOMAN THATSAID, "IF YOU WANT AN ABORTION,
  • 00:22:23.788 --> 00:22:24.889
  • SAID, "IF YOU WANT AN ABORTION,YOU CAN TAKE THE PILLS
  • 00:22:24.889 --> 00:22:25.689
  • YOU CAN TAKE THE PILLSYOURSELF."
  • 00:22:25.689 --> 00:22:26.590
  • YOURSELF."- MELINDA: WOW...
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  • - MELINDA: WOW...- HAVILAH: AND, THERE WAS THIS
  • 00:22:27.258 --> 00:22:28.526
  • - HAVILAH: AND, THERE WAS THISEXCHANGE, BUT, HE WAS REALLY
  • 00:22:28.526 --> 00:22:29.727
  • EXCHANGE, BUT, HE WAS REALLYABANDONED FROM A VERY EARLY
  • 00:22:29.727 --> 00:22:31.195
  • ABANDONED FROM A VERY EARLYAGE, CAME TO CHRIST, WAS AN
  • 00:22:31.195 --> 00:22:31.962
  • AGE, CAME TO CHRIST, WAS ANATHEIST FOR SEVEN YEARS, ENDED
  • 00:22:31.962 --> 00:22:34.165
  • ATHEIST FOR SEVEN YEARS, ENDEDUP COMING TO CHRIST.
  • 00:22:34.165 --> 00:22:34.999
  • UP COMING TO CHRIST.BUT I REMEMBER TELLING MY DAD:
  • 00:22:34.999 --> 00:22:36.834
  • BUT I REMEMBER TELLING MY DAD:"HOW DO YOU REMEDY THAT?
  • 00:22:36.834 --> 00:22:38.335
  • "HOW DO YOU REMEDY THAT?LIKE, YOU HAD THIS HORRIBLE
  • 00:22:38.335 --> 00:22:39.036
  • LIKE, YOU HAD THIS HORRIBLECHILDHOOD.
  • 00:22:39.036 --> 00:22:40.471
  • CHILDHOOD.NOW, OBVIOUSLY, GOD HAS SAVED
  • 00:22:40.471 --> 00:22:41.505
  • NOW, OBVIOUSLY, GOD HAS SAVEDYOU AND HEALED YOU, BUT..."
  • 00:22:41.505 --> 00:22:42.840
  • YOU AND HEALED YOU, BUT..."HE SAID, "YOU KNOW, HAVILAH, I
  • 00:22:42.840 --> 00:22:45.042
  • HE SAID, "YOU KNOW, HAVILAH, IBELIEVE...THAT THERE'S A FILE
  • 00:22:45.042 --> 00:22:47.178
  • BELIEVE...THAT THERE'S A FILEIN HEAVEN THAT'S TITLED,
  • 00:22:47.178 --> 00:22:48.946
  • IN HEAVEN THAT'S TITLED,'THINGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND.'"
  • 00:22:48.946 --> 00:22:50.414
  • 'THINGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND.'"AND HE SAID: "THERE ARE
  • 00:22:50.414 --> 00:22:52.082
  • AND HE SAID: "THERE ARESITUATIONS AND THINGS IN OUR
  • 00:22:52.082 --> 00:22:54.718
  • SITUATIONS AND THINGS IN OURLIVES THAT WE PUT IN THAT FILE.
  • 00:22:54.718 --> 00:22:56.287
  • LIVES THAT WE PUT IN THAT FILE.AND WE KNOW THE MOMENT WE GET
  • 00:22:56.287 --> 00:22:58.289
  • AND WE KNOW THE MOMENT WE GETINTO ETERNITY, WE WILL GO TAKE
  • 00:22:58.289 --> 00:23:00.057
  • INTO ETERNITY, WE WILL GO TAKETHAT FILE OUT, WITH GOD, AND WE
  • 00:23:00.057 --> 00:23:01.692
  • THAT FILE OUT, WITH GOD, AND WEWILL GO THROUGH EACH ITEM IN
  • 00:23:01.692 --> 00:23:02.526
  • WILL GO THROUGH EACH ITEM INTHAT FILE.
  • 00:23:02.526 --> 00:23:04.061
  • THAT FILE.BUT THERE IS A POINT WHERE WE
  • 00:23:04.061 --> 00:23:06.931
  • BUT THERE IS A POINT WHERE WECANNOT FIND PEACE IF WE HAVE TO
  • 00:23:06.931 --> 00:23:07.898
  • CANNOT FIND PEACE IF WE HAVE TOTRY TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT."
  • 00:23:07.898 --> 00:23:09.233
  • TRY TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT."AND I THINK, SPECIFICALLY, YOU,
  • 00:23:09.233 --> 00:23:11.168
  • AND I THINK, SPECIFICALLY, YOU,AS MARRIED WOMEN-- I KNOW WE'RE
  • 00:23:11.168 --> 00:23:14.538
  • AS MARRIED WOMEN-- I KNOW WE'REKIND OF 50/50 IN THIS SPACE.
  • 00:23:14.538 --> 00:23:16.407
  • KIND OF 50/50 IN THIS SPACE.UM, THERE'S BEING NOT MARRIED
  • 00:23:16.407 --> 00:23:18.108
  • UM, THERE'S BEING NOT MARRIEDAND IN PAIN IS, I
  • 00:23:18.108 --> 00:23:19.910
  • AND IN PAIN IS, ITHINK, THE EXACT SAME PAIN AS
  • 00:23:19.910 --> 00:23:21.212
  • THINK, THE EXACT SAME PAIN ASBEING MARRIED AND BEING IN PAIN
  • 00:23:21.212 --> 00:23:22.813
  • BEING MARRIED AND BEING IN PAINAND BEING LONELY.
  • 00:23:22.813 --> 00:23:24.148
  • AND BEING LONELY.BECAUSE YOU CAN HAVE BOTH.
  • 00:23:24.148 --> 00:23:25.449
  • BECAUSE YOU CAN HAVE BOTH.LET'S NOT BE NAïVE TO THE FACT
  • 00:23:25.449 --> 00:23:27.051
  • LET'S NOT BE NAïVE TO THE FACTTHAT WE CAN BE MARRIED AND BE
  • 00:23:27.051 --> 00:23:27.985
  • THAT WE CAN BE MARRIED AND BETHE LONELIEST PERSON ON THE
  • 00:23:27.985 --> 00:23:28.786
  • THE LONELIEST PERSON ON THEPLANET.
  • 00:23:28.786 --> 00:23:29.854
  • PLANET.AND THERE'S NOTHING MORE-- YOU
  • 00:23:29.854 --> 00:23:32.022
  • AND THERE'S NOTHING MORE-- YOUCAN FEEL CLAUSTROPHOBIC BY
  • 00:23:32.022 --> 00:23:33.257
  • CAN FEEL CLAUSTROPHOBIC BYTHE PERSON YOU'RE WITH WHEN YOU
  • 00:23:33.257 --> 00:23:34.091
  • THE PERSON YOU'RE WITH WHEN YOUREALIZE: THE ONLY WAY
  • 00:23:34.091 --> 00:23:34.592
  • REALIZE: THE ONLY WAYFOR ME OUTTA THIS
  • 00:23:34.592 --> 00:23:35.693
  • FOR ME OUTTA THISIS A GLORIFIED WIDOW.
  • 00:23:35.693 --> 00:23:36.727
  • IS A GLORIFIED WIDOW.THIS IS NOT GOOD.
  • 00:23:36.727 --> 00:23:38.863
  • THIS IS NOT GOOD.I THINK THAT THERE'S PART OF
  • 00:23:38.863 --> 00:23:40.364
  • I THINK THAT THERE'S PART OFOUR STORIES WITH THE TIMING OF
  • 00:23:40.364 --> 00:23:41.866
  • OUR STORIES WITH THE TIMING OFGOD THAT WE HAVE TO BE WILLING
  • 00:23:41.866 --> 00:23:44.168
  • GOD THAT WE HAVE TO BE WILLINGTO PUT THINGS IN THAT FILE AND
  • 00:23:44.168 --> 00:23:44.835
  • TO PUT THINGS IN THAT FILE ANDSAY: I DON'T UNDERSTAND THE
  • 00:23:44.835 --> 00:23:46.003
  • SAY: I DON'T UNDERSTAND THETIMING.
  • 00:23:46.003 --> 00:23:48.138
  • TIMING.YOU KNOW, MANDISA: I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:23:48.138 --> 00:23:49.306
  • YOU KNOW, MANDISA: I DON'T KNOWWHY I'M 44, AND I'M SUPER CUTE,
  • 00:23:49.306 --> 00:23:50.941
  • WHY I'M 44, AND I'M SUPER CUTE,AND I'M REALLY ANOINTED, AND
  • 00:23:50.941 --> 00:23:52.910
  • AND I'M REALLY ANOINTED, ANDI'VE GOT A GREAT LIFE AND
  • 00:23:52.910 --> 00:23:54.378
  • I'VE GOT A GREAT LIFE ANDENERGY, AND I WANT TO ADD
  • 00:23:54.378 --> 00:23:55.613
  • ENERGY, AND I WANT TO ADDSOMETHING TO THAT.
  • 00:23:55.613 --> 00:23:56.881
  • SOMETHING TO THAT.OR, MELINDA, YOU KNOW: I HAVE
  • 00:23:56.881 --> 00:23:58.082
  • OR, MELINDA, YOU KNOW: I HAVETHIS BEAUTIFUL HOME, NOW.
  • 00:23:58.082 --> 00:23:59.984
  • THIS BEAUTIFUL HOME, NOW.AND IF GOD WANTED ME TO, GREAT.
  • 00:23:59.984 --> 00:24:01.218
  • AND IF GOD WANTED ME TO, GREAT.I DON'T WANNA BE MARRIED, BUT
  • 00:24:01.218 --> 00:24:02.119
  • I DON'T WANNA BE MARRIED, BUTWHY ARE YOU MAKING ME GET
  • 00:24:02.119 --> 00:24:02.586
  • WHY ARE YOU MAKING ME GETMARRIED?
  • 00:24:02.586 --> 00:24:03.454
  • MARRIED?YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT
  • 00:24:03.454 --> 00:24:04.054
  • YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW WHAT ITIS.
  • 00:24:04.054 --> 00:24:04.822
  • IS.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:24:04.822 --> 00:24:05.523
  • [LAUGHTER]BUT, WHAT I DO KNOW IS IS THAT
  • 00:24:05.523 --> 00:24:06.724
  • BUT, WHAT I DO KNOW IS IS THATIF WE DON'T HAVE THAT SPIRITUAL
  • 00:24:06.724 --> 00:24:08.092
  • IF WE DON'T HAVE THAT SPIRITUALPRACTICE OF PUTTING IT IN HIS
  • 00:24:08.092 --> 00:24:11.028
  • PRACTICE OF PUTTING IT IN HISHANDS, WE WILL NOT BE AT PEACE,
  • 00:24:11.028 --> 00:24:11.662
  • HANDS, WE WILL NOT BE AT PEACE,NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN OUR
  • 00:24:11.662 --> 00:24:12.963
  • NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN OURLIFE.
  • 00:24:12.963 --> 00:24:13.531
  • LIFE.AND, I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR
  • 00:24:13.531 --> 00:24:14.465
  • AND, I JUST WANNA PRAY FORTHOSE OF YOU THAT ARE WATCHING,
  • 00:24:14.465 --> 00:24:15.733
  • THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE WATCHING,TODAY, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR
  • 00:24:15.733 --> 00:24:18.402
  • TODAY, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOURLOVE STORY IS A BROKEN STORY.
  • 00:24:18.402 --> 00:24:19.403
  • LOVE STORY IS A BROKEN STORY.OR YOUR LOVE STORY NEVER GOT
  • 00:24:19.403 --> 00:24:20.371
  • OR YOUR LOVE STORY NEVER GOTSTARTED.
  • 00:24:20.371 --> 00:24:21.472
  • STARTED.OR IT JUST-- YOU FEEL PAIN,
  • 00:24:21.472 --> 00:24:23.107
  • OR IT JUST-- YOU FEEL PAIN,WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:24:23.107 --> 00:24:24.408
  • WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU
  • 00:24:24.408 --> 00:24:26.210
  • IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOUENJOY THINKING ABOUT OR TALKING
  • 00:24:26.210 --> 00:24:27.578
  • ENJOY THINKING ABOUT OR TALKINGABOUT.
  • 00:24:27.578 --> 00:24:28.245
  • ABOUT.AND I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR YOU,
  • 00:24:28.245 --> 00:24:29.313
  • AND I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR YOU,RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:24:29.313 --> 00:24:30.147
  • RIGHT NOW.SO, LORD, I THANK YOU FOR EVERY
  • 00:24:30.147 --> 00:24:31.515
  • SO, LORD, I THANK YOU FOR EVERYPERSON THAT'S WATCHING THIS
  • 00:24:31.515 --> 00:24:31.982
  • PERSON THAT'S WATCHING THISTODAY.
  • 00:24:31.982 --> 00:24:33.918
  • TODAY.LORD, I KNOW THAT THERE ARE
  • 00:24:33.918 --> 00:24:35.119
  • LORD, I KNOW THAT THERE ARETHINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED IN
  • 00:24:35.119 --> 00:24:36.353
  • THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED INOUR STORIES THAT WE DON'T
  • 00:24:36.353 --> 00:24:36.854
  • OUR STORIES THAT WE DON'TUNDERSTAND.
  • 00:24:36.854 --> 00:24:38.088
  • UNDERSTAND.IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.
  • 00:24:38.088 --> 00:24:39.790
  • IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE WHY WE
  • 00:24:39.790 --> 00:24:41.225
  • IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE WHY WEHAD TO WALK THROUGH IT, OR WHY
  • 00:24:41.225 --> 00:24:41.859
  • HAD TO WALK THROUGH IT, OR WHYIT DIDN'T HAPPEN, OR WHY THIS
  • 00:24:41.859 --> 00:24:43.127
  • IT DIDN'T HAPPEN, OR WHY THISISN'T...MAYBE TAKING PLACE IN
  • 00:24:43.127 --> 00:24:45.496
  • ISN'T...MAYBE TAKING PLACE INOUR LIVES.
  • 00:24:45.496 --> 00:24:46.130
  • OUR LIVES.AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACE THAT
  • 00:24:46.130 --> 00:24:48.432
  • AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACE THATSURPASSES UNDERSTANDING WOULD
  • 00:24:48.432 --> 00:24:49.800
  • SURPASSES UNDERSTANDING WOULDTRANSCEND OUR THOUGHTS AND OUR
  • 00:24:49.800 --> 00:24:52.269
  • TRANSCEND OUR THOUGHTS AND OURTIMEFRAMES AND EVERYTHING THAT
  • 00:24:52.269 --> 00:24:52.903
  • TIMEFRAMES AND EVERYTHING THATWE EXPECT, AND WE WOULD ALLOW
  • 00:24:52.903 --> 00:24:55.272
  • WE EXPECT, AND WE WOULD ALLOWIT TO GO DEEP INSIDE OF US;
  • 00:24:55.272 --> 00:24:56.473
  • IT TO GO DEEP INSIDE OF US;THAT WE AREN'T JUST LOOKING FOR
  • 00:24:56.473 --> 00:24:57.474
  • THAT WE AREN'T JUST LOOKING FORPEACE -- WE HAVE THE PRINCE OF
  • 00:24:57.474 --> 00:24:58.275
  • PEACE -- WE HAVE THE PRINCE OFPEACE LIVING ON THE INSIDE OF
  • 00:24:58.275 --> 00:24:59.443
  • PEACE LIVING ON THE INSIDE OFUS.
  • 00:24:59.443 --> 00:25:00.678
  • US.AND I PRAY, GOD, THAT AS WE
  • 00:25:00.678 --> 00:25:02.413
  • AND I PRAY, GOD, THAT AS WEFILE THOSE THINGS AWAY, WE
  • 00:25:02.413 --> 00:25:04.014
  • FILE THOSE THINGS AWAY, WEWOULD KNOW IN CONFIDENCE THAT
  • 00:25:04.014 --> 00:25:04.982
  • WOULD KNOW IN CONFIDENCE THATOUR FATHER IS NOT IGNORING
  • 00:25:04.982 --> 00:25:07.418
  • OUR FATHER IS NOT IGNORINGTHOSE MOMENTS.
  • 00:25:07.418 --> 00:25:08.018
  • THOSE MOMENTS.HE IS GOING TO TAKE THE TIME
  • 00:25:08.018 --> 00:25:09.286
  • HE IS GOING TO TAKE THE TIMEWITH EACH OF THESE MOMENTS TO
  • 00:25:09.286 --> 00:25:11.388
  • WITH EACH OF THESE MOMENTS TOSHOW US WHY AND HOW AND WHERE
  • 00:25:11.388 --> 00:25:12.656
  • SHOW US WHY AND HOW AND WHEREHE WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.
  • 00:25:12.656 --> 00:25:14.825
  • HE WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.SO, I PRAY FOR PEACE.
  • 00:25:14.825 --> 00:25:15.426
  • SO, I PRAY FOR PEACE.I PRAY FOR CONFIDENCE IN YOUR
  • 00:25:15.426 --> 00:25:16.193
  • I PRAY FOR CONFIDENCE IN YOURTIMING.
  • 00:25:16.193 --> 00:25:17.795
  • TIMING.AND I PRAY MOST OF ALL THAT YOU
  • 00:25:17.795 --> 00:25:19.096
  • AND I PRAY MOST OF ALL THAT YOUWOULD PROTECT US -- MENTALLY,
  • 00:25:19.096 --> 00:25:19.930
  • WOULD PROTECT US -- MENTALLY,PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND
  • 00:25:19.930 --> 00:25:21.298
  • PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, ANDSPIRITUALLY -- ALL THE DAY OF
  • 00:25:21.298 --> 00:25:23.000
  • SPIRITUALLY -- ALL THE DAY OFOUR LIVES; THAT WE WOULD TRUST
  • 00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:25.636
  • OUR LIVES; THAT WE WOULD TRUSTYOUR TIMEFRAME IN OUR LIVES.
  • 00:25:25.636 --> 00:25:27.271
  • YOUR TIMEFRAME IN OUR LIVES.IN JESUS' MIGHTY NAME, AMEN AND
  • 00:25:27.271 --> 00:25:30.207
  • IN JESUS' MIGHTY NAME, AMEN ANDAMEN.
  • 00:25:30.207 --> 00:25:34.645
  • AMEN.- MANDISA: AMEN.
  • 00:25:34.645 --> 00:25:35.279
  • - MANDISA: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US, ON
  • 00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:35.913
  • - LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US, ONSOCIAL MEDIA, AND LET US KNOW
  • 00:25:35.913 --> 00:25:40.117
  • SOCIAL MEDIA, AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
  • 00:25:40.117 --> 00:25:40.818
  • HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.[NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]
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  • [NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
  • 00:25:42.186 --> 00:25:42.753
  • NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- MANDISA: AND I THINK IT
  • 00:25:42.753 --> 00:25:43.654
  • - MANDISA: AND I THINK ITSTARTED OUT WITH DOING IT FOR
  • 00:25:43.654 --> 00:25:45.522
  • STARTED OUT WITH DOING IT FORMY FUTURE HUSBAND.
  • 00:25:45.522 --> 00:25:47.625
  • MY FUTURE HUSBAND.I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACE
  • 00:25:47.625 --> 00:25:49.493
  • I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACEWHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.
  • 00:25:49.493 --> 00:25:50.094
  • WHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.
  • 00:25:50.094 --> 00:25:51.328
  • AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO
  • 00:25:51.328 --> 00:25:53.097
  • BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TOGROW IN LOVE.
  • 00:25:53.097 --> 00:25:54.231
  • GROW IN LOVE.- LAURIE: WATCH
  • 00:25:54.231 --> 00:25:55.065
  • - LAURIE: WATCH"BETTER TOGETHER"
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