Better Together LIVE | Episode 142
November 10, 2020
26:00
Do we trust God's plan or try to "make it happen" in our own strength? Having a vision for the future, grows our faith and defeats doubt. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 142
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- - LAURIE CROUCH: THE PERFECT
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- - LAURIE CROUCH: THE PERFECTRELATIONSHIP, FAMILY, OR CAREER
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- RELATIONSHIP, FAMILY, OR CAREER-- WE ALL DREAM BIG.
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- -- WE ALL DREAM BIG.BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LIFE
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- BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LIFETAKES A DIFFERENT TURN?
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- TAKES A DIFFERENT TURN?DO WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO RUSH
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- DO WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO RUSHTO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN OUR
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- TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN OUROWN STRENGTH?
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- OWN STRENGTH?WELL, HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS: GOD
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- WELL, HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS: GODIS ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME.
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- IS ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME.HIS PLAN FOR US IS THE ONLY ONE
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- HIS PLAN FOR US IS THE ONLY ONETHAT REALLY, TRULY MATTERS.
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- THAT REALLY, TRULY MATTERS.COME ON -- WE NEED TO TALK
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- COME ON -- WE NEED TO TALKABOUT IT.
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- ABOUT IT.[MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING]
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- [MUSIC WITH VOCALIZING][MUSIC]
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- [MUSIC][MUSIC]
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- [MUSIC][OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]
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- [OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: YOU
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- - DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: YOUKNOW, TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING IN
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- KNOW, TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING INOUR LIVES -- WELL, FOR ME
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- OUR LIVES -- WELL, FOR MEPERSONALLY, I THINK THAT'S GOT
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- PERSONALLY, I THINK THAT'S GOTTO BE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS
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- TO BE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGSTHAT I DO AS A BELIEVER.
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- THAT I DO AS A BELIEVER.I MEAN, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE I
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- I MEAN, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE ISEEM TO PRAY, AND THEN, LIKE,
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- SEEM TO PRAY, AND THEN, LIKE,GOD-- WELL, OFTEN, I FIND
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- GOD-- WELL, OFTEN, I FINDMYSELF WONDERING:
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- MYSELF WONDERING:ARE YOU THERE?
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- ARE YOU THERE?DID YOU HEAR ME?
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- DID YOU HEAR ME?I MEAN, I HAD A PLAN.
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- I MEAN, I HAD A PLAN.AND IT DIDN'T SEEM TO HAPPEN
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- AND IT DIDN'T SEEM TO HAPPENTHE WAY I THOUGHT IT WAS
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- THE WAY I THOUGHT IT WASGOING TO HAPPEN.
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- GOING TO HAPPEN.NOW, THE TESTIMONY I'VE GOT IS
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- NOW, THE TESTIMONY I'VE GOT ISTHAT ALWAYS, WHEN I LOOK BACK,
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- THAT ALWAYS, WHEN I LOOK BACK,I CAN SEE THAT GOD REALLY DID
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- I CAN SEE THAT GOD REALLY DIDHAVE A BETTER IDEA THAN I DID.
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- HAVE A BETTER IDEA THAN I DID.BUT AT THE TIME, IT CAN BE
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- BUT AT THE TIME, IT CAN BEKIND OF HARD.
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- KIND OF HARD.I MEAN, THAT'S THE TRUTH.
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- I MEAN, THAT'S THE TRUTH.AND SO, TODAY, WE'RE TALKING
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- AND SO, TODAY, WE'RE TALKINGABOUT TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING IN
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- ABOUT TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING INOUR LIFE WITH SINGLENESS.
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- OUR LIFE WITH SINGLENESS.NOW, FOR ME, I'VE BEEN
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- NOW, FOR ME, I'VE BEENMARRIED 48 YEARS.
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- MARRIED 48 YEARS.AND SO, MY TESTIMONY PERSONALLY
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- AND SO, MY TESTIMONY PERSONALLY-- AS I GOT MARRIED AT 19, EVEN
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- -- AS I GOT MARRIED AT 19, EVENWHEN I NEVER THOUGHT AT THAT
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- WHEN I NEVER THOUGHT AT THATYOUNG AGE THAT I WANTED TO GET
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- YOUNG AGE THAT I WANTED TO GETMARRIED THAT EARLY -- WELL, IT
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- MARRIED THAT EARLY -- WELL, ITTURNED OUT TO BE GOD'S PLAN FOR
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- TURNED OUT TO BE GOD'S PLAN FORME AND THAT WAS MY PURPOSE AND
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- ME AND THAT WAS MY PURPOSE ANDTHAT WAS MY DESTINY.
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- THAT WAS MY DESTINY.BUT, YOU KNOW, I'VE HAD
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- BUT, YOU KNOW, I'VE HADLOTS OF FRIENDS.
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- LOTS OF FRIENDS.I'M SO BLESSED TO BE A PASTOR
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- I'M SO BLESSED TO BE A PASTORAND I'M SO BLESSED TO HAVE SO
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- AND I'M SO BLESSED TO HAVE SOMANY HUNDREDS OF WONDERFUL
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- MANY HUNDREDS OF WONDERFULFRIENDS OVER THE YEARS, BUT NOT
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- FRIENDS OVER THE YEARS, BUT NOTEVERY WOMAN HAS A STORY OF HER
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- EVERY WOMAN HAS A STORY OF HERMARRIAGE WORKING OUT OR EVER
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- MARRIAGE WORKING OUT OR EVERFINDING THE MAN OF HER DREAMS.
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- FINDING THE MAN OF HER DREAMS.AND SO, JUST AS WE'RE TALKING
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- AND SO, JUST AS WE'RE TALKINGABOUT THIS CONVERSATION OF
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- ABOUT THIS CONVERSATION OFTRUSTING GOD WITH THE TIMING OF
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- TRUSTING GOD WITH THE TIMING OFBEING SINGLE OR MARRIED IN YOUR
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- BEING SINGLE OR MARRIED IN YOURLIFE, I JUST THOUGHT I WOULD
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- LIFE, I JUST THOUGHT I WOULDSTART THE CONVERSATION WITH A
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- START THE CONVERSATION WITH AFRIEND OF MINE.
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- FRIEND OF MINE.AND, HER NAME IS AIRATA.
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- AND, HER NAME IS AIRATA.AND SHE CAME INTO MY LIFE ABOUT
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- AND SHE CAME INTO MY LIFE ABOUT15 YEARS AGO, AND SHE HAD AN
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- 15 YEARS AGO, AND SHE HAD ANAMAZING MARRIAGE, AND SHE USED
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- AMAZING MARRIAGE, AND SHE USEDTO TELL ME THAT IT WAS THE
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- TO TELL ME THAT IT WAS THEPERFECT MARRIAGE.
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- PERFECT MARRIAGE.AND I USED TO KID HER.
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- AND I USED TO KID HER.BECAUSE I USED TO SAY I DON'T
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- BECAUSE I USED TO SAY I DON'TKNOW THAT THAT'S TRUE, BECAUSE,
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- KNOW THAT THAT'S TRUE, BECAUSE,I DIDN'T THINK ANYBODY COULD
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- I DIDN'T THINK ANYBODY COULDHAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE, RIGHT?
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- HAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE, RIGHT?I MEAN, HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT.
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- I MEAN, HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT.AND I'D KID HER, YOU KNOW.
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- AND I'D KID HER, YOU KNOW.I USED TO SAY, YOU KNOW, RICH
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- I USED TO SAY, YOU KNOW, RICHAND I, MY HUSBAND, 48 YEARS
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- AND I, MY HUSBAND, 48 YEARSMARRIAGE -- WE NEVER TALKED
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- MARRIAGE -- WE NEVER TALKEDABOUT DIVORCE; WE JUST TALK
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- ABOUT DIVORCE; WE JUST TALKABOUT MURDER!
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- ABOUT MURDER!RIGHT?
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- RIGHT?NO, NO, NO!
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- NO, NO, NO![LAUGHTER]
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- [LAUGHTER]I'M JUST KIDDING.
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- I'M JUST KIDDING.BUT, I KNOW.
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- BUT, I KNOW.ANYWAY.
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- ANYWAY.BUT SINCE SHE ALWAYS TOLD ME
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- BUT SINCE SHE ALWAYS TOLD METHAT HER MARRIAGE WAS PERFECT--
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- THAT HER MARRIAGE WAS PERFECT--AND, SHE WORKED WITH ME AT
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- AND, SHE WORKED WITH ME ATCHURCH
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- CHURCHAND, ONE DAY, SHE CAME IN,
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- AND, ONE DAY, SHE CAME IN,WEEPING, AND SAID, "YOU KNOW,
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- WEEPING, AND SAID, "YOU KNOW,I'M SORRY TO TELL YOU, BUT, OUR
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- I'M SORRY TO TELL YOU, BUT, OURMARRIAGE ISN'T...GOING TO STAY
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- MARRIAGE ISN'T...GOING TO STAYTOGETHER."
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- TOGETHER."THEY HAD ALREADY RAISED A
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- THEY HAD ALREADY RAISED A20-PLUS-YEAR-OLD SON, AND THEY
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- 20-PLUS-YEAR-OLD SON, AND THEYWERE SO ACTIVE IN MINISTRY AT
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- WERE SO ACTIVE IN MINISTRY ATCHURCH, AND SHE WAS ON TEAM.
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- CHURCH, AND SHE WAS ON TEAM.AND, THE STORY FELL APART
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- AND, THE STORY FELL APARTAND...SHE WAS HEARTBROKEN!
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- AND...SHE WAS HEARTBROKEN!DEVASTATED!
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- DEVASTATED!IT WAS TERRIBLE.
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- IT WAS TERRIBLE.IN FACT, SHE GAVE UP HER
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- IN FACT, SHE GAVE UP HERMINISTRY AT CHURCH.
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- MINISTRY AT CHURCH.SHE HAD A MINISTRY TO MARRIED
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- SHE HAD A MINISTRY TO MARRIEDCOUPLES, AND, IT WAS VERY
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- COUPLES, AND, IT WAS VERYDEVASTATING.
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- DEVASTATING.AND YOU'VE KNOWN PEOPLE WHO
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- AND YOU'VE KNOWN PEOPLE WHOHAVE GONE THROUGH THIS TRAUMA.
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- HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS TRAUMA.AND IT WAS SO HORRIFIC THAT SHE
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- AND IT WAS SO HORRIFIC THAT SHEFOUND HERSELF WONDERING IF SHE
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- FOUND HERSELF WONDERING IF SHESHOULD EVEN STAY AT CHURCH AND
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- SHOULD EVEN STAY AT CHURCH ANDIF SHE SHOULD CONTINUE AS A
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- IF SHE SHOULD CONTINUE AS AVOLUNTEER SERVANT LEADER.
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- VOLUNTEER SERVANT LEADER.AND I JUST WANNA SHARE THIS
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- AND I JUST WANNA SHARE THISSTORY WITH YOU TO SAY THAT GOD
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- STORY WITH YOU TO SAY THAT GODIS ON TIME.
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- IS ON TIME.NOW, TIME WENT ON.
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- NOW, TIME WENT ON.HER HUSBAND MOVED IN WITH THE
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- HER HUSBAND MOVED IN WITH THEGIRLFRIEND.
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- GIRLFRIEND.AND, THERE WAS ALL KINDS OF
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- AND, THERE WAS ALL KINDS OFCOUNSELING, AND THE ELDERS OF
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- COUNSELING, AND THE ELDERS OFTHE CHURCH TRIED TO RECONCILE
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- THE CHURCH TRIED TO RECONCILEWITH HIM, AND WITH HER.
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- WITH HIM, AND WITH HER.AND, FINALLY, IT CAME TO THE
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- AND, FINALLY, IT CAME TO THEPLACE WHERE HE FILED FOR
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- PLACE WHERE HE FILED FORDIVORCE.
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- DIVORCE.AND, TIME WENT BY.
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- AND, TIME WENT BY.BUT, EVENTUALLY, SHE MET A MAN
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- BUT, EVENTUALLY, SHE MET A MANIN THE CHURCH WHOSE WIFE HAD
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- IN THE CHURCH WHOSE WIFE HADDIED.
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- DIED.AND, AS IT TURNED OUT, THEY
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- AND, AS IT TURNED OUT, THEYDATED AND THEY CAME TO A PLACE
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- DATED AND THEY CAME TO A PLACEWHERE THEY GOT MARRIED.
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- WHERE THEY GOT MARRIED.AND I BROUGHT THIS, TODAY,
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- AND I BROUGHT THIS, TODAY,BECAUSE I WANTED TO SHOW YOU:
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- BECAUSE I WANTED TO SHOW YOU:HERE'S THEIR WEDDING
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- HERE'S THEIR WEDDINGINVITATION!
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- INVITATION!- FEMALE VOICE: WOW!
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- - FEMALE VOICE: WOW!- FEMALE VOICE:/MANDISA: OH,
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- - FEMALE VOICE:/MANDISA: OH,MY GOD!
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- MY GOD!- DR. ROBYN: AND THEY'VE GOT A
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- - DR. ROBYN: AND THEY'VE GOT ATRUE LOVE STORY!
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- TRUE LOVE STORY!AND THIS IS, NOW, ALMOST 10
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- AND THIS IS, NOW, ALMOST 10YEARS LATER!
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- YEARS LATER!AND THEY, NOW, HAVE A WONDERFUL
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- AND THEY, NOW, HAVE A WONDERFULMINISTRY IN THE CHURCH.
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- MINISTRY IN THE CHURCH.THAT'S MY TOUCH POINT OF FAITH,
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- THAT'S MY TOUCH POINT OF FAITH,FOR SO MANY WOMEN WHO ARE
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- FOR SO MANY WOMEN WHO AREDEVASTATED.
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- DEVASTATED.THEY'RE SO DISCOURAGED.
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- THEY'RE SO DISCOURAGED.AND YET, GOD'S TIMING HAS
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- AND YET, GOD'S TIMING HASBROUGHT HER AND SHE TELLS ME OF
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- BROUGHT HER AND SHE TELLS ME OFHOW GOD HAS HEALED HER HEART.
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- HOW GOD HAS HEALED HER HEART.NOW, WHY I WANTED TO START THE
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- NOW, WHY I WANTED TO START THECONVERSATION WITH THIS IS THAT,
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- CONVERSATION WITH THIS IS THAT,IN ACTS 1:7, THE BIBLE SAYS:
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- IN ACTS 1:7, THE BIBLE SAYS:"HE SAID TO THEM, 'IT IS NOT
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- "HE SAID TO THEM, 'IT IS NOTFOR YOU TO KNOW THE TIMES OR
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- FOR YOU TO KNOW THE TIMES ORTHE SEASONS THAT THE FATHER HAS
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- THE SEASONS THAT THE FATHER HASFIXED BY HIS OWN AUTHORITY.'"
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- FIXED BY HIS OWN AUTHORITY.'"AND, IF YOU'RE SINGLE, TODAY,
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- AND, IF YOU'RE SINGLE, TODAY,AND YOU'RE WATCHING AND YOU'RE
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- AND YOU'RE WATCHING AND YOU'RETHINKING TO YOURSELF, "I DON'T
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- THINKING TO YOURSELF, "I DON'TWANNA BE SINGLE, ANYMORE;
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- WANNA BE SINGLE, ANYMORE;I DESIRE THAT GOD HAS A MAN, A
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- I DESIRE THAT GOD HAS A MAN, AMARRIAGE FOR ME, IN MY FUTURE,"
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- MARRIAGE FOR ME, IN MY FUTURE,"I WANNA SAY WHAT WE SAID
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- I WANNA SAY WHAT WE SAIDYESTERDAY.
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- YESTERDAY.AND THAT IS THAT YOU'RE NOT
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- AND THAT IS THAT YOU'RE NOTBROKEN.
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- BROKEN.YOU ARE DESIRABLE.
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- YOU ARE DESIRABLE.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
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- BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.
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- GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.AND THE DREAM OF YOUR HEART CAN
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- AND THE DREAM OF YOUR HEART CANBE FULFILLED, AS YOU WALK IN
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- BE FULFILLED, AS YOU WALK INFAITH AND VICTORY, AND IT
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- FAITH AND VICTORY, AND ITSTARTS BY BELIEVING IN
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- STARTS BY BELIEVING INYOURSELF.
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- YOURSELF.BUT I WANNA CAUTION YOU THAT
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- BUT I WANNA CAUTION YOU THATWHOLENESS IS NOT FOUND IN A
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- WHOLENESS IS NOT FOUND IN AMARRIAGE.
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- MARRIAGE.WHOLENESS IS FOUND IN CHRIST.
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- WHOLENESS IS FOUND IN CHRIST.AND THAT HE IS OUR HUSBAND, THE
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- AND THAT HE IS OUR HUSBAND, THEBIBLE TEACHES, AND THAT WE ARE
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- BIBLE TEACHES, AND THAT WE AREGROWING IN CHRIST.
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- GROWING IN CHRIST.AND IT'S THROUGH SPIRITUAL
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- AND IT'S THROUGH SPIRITUALMATURITY AND GROWTH THAT WE
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- MATURITY AND GROWTH THAT WEBECOME THIS ATTRACTIVE, HAPPY,
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- BECOME THIS ATTRACTIVE, HAPPY,JOYFUL BELIEVER; THAT WE BEGIN
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- JOYFUL BELIEVER; THAT WE BEGINTO FIND OUR PURPOSE AND
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- TO FIND OUR PURPOSE ANDDESTINY IN CHRIST; AND NOT TO
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- DESTINY IN CHRIST; AND NOT TOWORRY THAT THE TIMING WILL
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- WORRY THAT THE TIMING WILLNEVER BE FULFILLED.
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- NEVER BE FULFILLED.NOW, NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO GET
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- NOW, NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO GETMARRIED, BUT MY FRIEND AIRATA
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- MARRIED, BUT MY FRIEND AIRATAWANTED TO.
- 00:06:53.058 --> 00:06:54.259
- WANTED TO.AND THE SEASON EVENTUALLY WAS
- 00:06:54.259 --> 00:06:54.826
- AND THE SEASON EVENTUALLY WASFULFILLED.
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- FULFILLED.NOW, MELINDA, HOW DO YOU FEEL
- 00:06:56.328 --> 00:06:58.864
- NOW, MELINDA, HOW DO YOU FEELABOUT AIRATA'S STORY, TODAY?
- 00:06:58.864 --> 00:07:01.766
- ABOUT AIRATA'S STORY, TODAY?[LAUGHTER]
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- [LAUGHTER]- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: FIRST OF
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- - MELINDA DOOLITTLE: FIRST OFALL, I LOVE THAT STORY.
- 00:07:03.401 --> 00:07:04.269
- ALL, I LOVE THAT STORY.I DO.
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- I DO.I BELIEVE THAT THE TIMING OF
- 00:07:05.837 --> 00:07:06.505
- I BELIEVE THAT THE TIMING OFGOD IS ALWAYS SO PERFECT AND SO
- 00:07:06.505 --> 00:07:08.840
- GOD IS ALWAYS SO PERFECT AND SOSPECIFIC FOR US.
- 00:07:08.840 --> 00:07:10.509
- SPECIFIC FOR US.MY MOM, IN RAISING ME, ALWAYS
- 00:07:10.509 --> 00:07:12.878
- MY MOM, IN RAISING ME, ALWAYSSAID, "ON TIME IS SOON ENOUGH,"
- 00:07:12.878 --> 00:07:14.112
- SAID, "ON TIME IS SOON ENOUGH,"WHEN SHE'D TALK ABOUT GOD.
- 00:07:14.112 --> 00:07:15.680
- WHEN SHE'D TALK ABOUT GOD.AND I USED TO HATE IT, BECAUSE
- 00:07:15.680 --> 00:07:17.048
- AND I USED TO HATE IT, BECAUSEI WAS LIKE: I DON'T WANNA WAIT!
- 00:07:17.048 --> 00:07:18.550
- I WAS LIKE: I DON'T WANNA WAIT!I DON'T WANNA WAIT FOR THINGS!
- 00:07:18.550 --> 00:07:22.387
- I DON'T WANNA WAIT FOR THINGS!AND, WITH OUR CULTURE, SOCIETY
- 00:07:22.387 --> 00:07:24.189
- AND, WITH OUR CULTURE, SOCIETYTHESE DAYS, THERE'S, LIKE, A
- 00:07:24.189 --> 00:07:27.092
- THESE DAYS, THERE'S, LIKE, ACLOCK OF, LIKE, WHEN MARRIAGE
- 00:07:27.092 --> 00:07:28.827
- CLOCK OF, LIKE, WHEN MARRIAGESHOULD HAPPEN, WHEN THINGS
- 00:07:28.827 --> 00:07:30.195
- SHOULD HAPPEN, WHEN THINGSSHOULD HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE.
- 00:07:30.195 --> 00:07:32.998
- SHOULD HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE.AND, A LOT OF TIMES, WE END UP
- 00:07:32.998 --> 00:07:34.332
- AND, A LOT OF TIMES, WE END UPFEELING LIKE: WAIT-- AM I STILL
- 00:07:34.332 --> 00:07:35.934
- FEELING LIKE: WAIT-- AM I STILLWAITING ON YOU, GOD?
- 00:07:35.934 --> 00:07:37.235
- WAITING ON YOU, GOD?OR IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOU
- 00:07:37.235 --> 00:07:38.870
- OR IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOUWANTED ME TO DO, IN THE MIDST
- 00:07:38.870 --> 00:07:39.604
- WANTED ME TO DO, IN THE MIDSTOF ALL OF THIS?
- 00:07:39.604 --> 00:07:42.073
- OF ALL OF THIS?AND, I HAVE LEARNED THAT IN THE
- 00:07:42.073 --> 00:07:43.575
- AND, I HAVE LEARNED THAT IN THEWAITING, LIKE, WAITING IS NOT
- 00:07:43.575 --> 00:07:44.910
- WAITING, LIKE, WAITING IS NOTSTAGNANT.
- 00:07:44.910 --> 00:07:46.745
- STAGNANT.THERE CAN BE MOVEMENT WITHIN
- 00:07:46.745 --> 00:07:47.546
- THERE CAN BE MOVEMENT WITHINTHE WAITING.
- 00:07:47.546 --> 00:07:49.814
- THE WAITING.AND AS...AS A SINGLE WOMAN,
- 00:07:49.814 --> 00:07:51.783
- AND AS...AS A SINGLE WOMAN,SOME OF THAT MOVEMENT MAY BE
- 00:07:51.783 --> 00:07:53.518
- SOME OF THAT MOVEMENT MAY BELOOKING LIKE: OH, I'M GONNA-- I
- 00:07:53.518 --> 00:07:55.120
- LOOKING LIKE: OH, I'M GONNA-- ICAN GO 'HEAD AND GET THAT
- 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:56.121
- CAN GO 'HEAD AND GET THATHOUSE.
- 00:07:56.121 --> 00:07:57.622
- HOUSE.I CAN GO 'HEAD AND DO THAT.
- 00:07:57.622 --> 00:08:00.859
- I CAN GO 'HEAD AND DO THAT.IT'S OKAY FOR ME NOT TO JUST
- 00:08:00.859 --> 00:08:03.995
- IT'S OKAY FOR ME NOT TO JUSTSIT STILL, AS I'M WAITING, BUT
- 00:08:03.995 --> 00:08:05.630
- SIT STILL, AS I'M WAITING, BUTTO ALSO LOOK TO THE LORD FOR
- 00:08:05.630 --> 00:08:07.499
- TO ALSO LOOK TO THE LORD FORWHAT I CAN BE DOING IN THE
- 00:08:07.499 --> 00:08:08.366
- WHAT I CAN BE DOING IN THEMIDST OF THE TIME THAT HE'S
- 00:08:08.366 --> 00:08:09.434
- MIDST OF THE TIME THAT HE'SGIVEN ME.
- 00:08:09.434 --> 00:08:10.902
- GIVEN ME.LIKE, WHAT CAN I BE DOING?
- 00:08:10.902 --> 00:08:12.837
- LIKE, WHAT CAN I BE DOING?AND, I HAD A FRIEND, UM, WHO
- 00:08:12.837 --> 00:08:14.306
- AND, I HAD A FRIEND, UM, WHOTALKED TO ME.
- 00:08:14.306 --> 00:08:15.674
- TALKED TO ME.SHE, UM, SADLY, ENDED UP IN AN
- 00:08:15.674 --> 00:08:17.075
- SHE, UM, SADLY, ENDED UP IN ANABUSIVE MARRIAGE.
- 00:08:17.075 --> 00:08:19.010
- ABUSIVE MARRIAGE.AND, SHE SAT ME DOWN, VERY
- 00:08:19.010 --> 00:08:21.546
- AND, SHE SAT ME DOWN, VERYEARLY ON, IN MY 20s, AND SHE
- 00:08:21.546 --> 00:08:23.148
- EARLY ON, IN MY 20s, AND SHESAID: "I STAYED IN THIS
- 00:08:23.148 --> 00:08:24.783
- SAID: "I STAYED IN THISMARRIAGE SO LONG BECAUSE I
- 00:08:24.783 --> 00:08:25.517
- MARRIAGE SO LONG BECAUSE IDIDN'T KNOW WHO I WAS WITHOUT
- 00:08:25.517 --> 00:08:28.920
- DIDN'T KNOW WHO I WAS WITHOUTHIM.
- 00:08:28.920 --> 00:08:29.788
- HIM.I GOT MARRIED SO EARLY THAT I
- 00:08:29.788 --> 00:08:31.690
- I GOT MARRIED SO EARLY THAT IHADN'T DONE ANYTHING BY MYSELF.
- 00:08:31.690 --> 00:08:34.225
- HADN'T DONE ANYTHING BY MYSELF.LIKE, I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD
- 00:08:34.225 --> 00:08:35.293
- LIKE, I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULDSUPPORT MYSELF.
- 00:08:35.293 --> 00:08:36.027
- SUPPORT MYSELF.I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD GET A
- 00:08:36.027 --> 00:08:38.196
- I DIDN'T KNOW IF I COULD GET AHOUSE.
- 00:08:38.196 --> 00:08:39.230
- HOUSE.LIKE, I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HOW
- 00:08:39.230 --> 00:08:41.366
- LIKE, I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HOWANY OF THAT WORKED."
- 00:08:41.366 --> 00:08:43.201
- ANY OF THAT WORKED."AND SO, SHE MADE ME PROMISE HER
- 00:08:43.201 --> 00:08:44.336
- AND SO, SHE MADE ME PROMISE HERTHAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, I WOULD
- 00:08:44.336 --> 00:08:46.805
- THAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, I WOULDFIGURE THAT OUT FIRST.
- 00:08:46.805 --> 00:08:47.973
- FIGURE THAT OUT FIRST.SHE WAS LIKE: "I WANT YOU TO GO
- 00:08:47.973 --> 00:08:50.809
- SHE WAS LIKE: "I WANT YOU TO GOINTO MARRIAGE WHOLLY KNOWING
- 00:08:50.809 --> 00:08:51.443
- INTO MARRIAGE WHOLLY KNOWINGWHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, WHOLLY
- 00:08:51.443 --> 00:08:52.877
- WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, WHOLLYKNOWING THAT YOU ARE FULLY
- 00:08:52.877 --> 00:08:55.280
- KNOWING THAT YOU ARE FULLYCAPABLE, AND THAT GOD HAS GIVEN
- 00:08:55.280 --> 00:08:56.915
- CAPABLE, AND THAT GOD HAS GIVENYOU WHAT YOU NEED TO SUCCEED IN
- 00:08:56.915 --> 00:08:59.084
- YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO SUCCEED INLIFE, OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
- 00:08:59.084 --> 00:09:00.952
- LIFE, OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.AND THEN, YOU BRING THAT
- 00:09:00.952 --> 00:09:01.786
- AND THEN, YOU BRING THATWHOLENESS INTO A MARRIAGE AND
- 00:09:01.786 --> 00:09:03.288
- WHOLENESS INTO A MARRIAGE ANDIT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING."
- 00:09:03.288 --> 00:09:05.423
- IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING."AND SO, SHE HAS HELPED ME, JUST
- 00:09:05.423 --> 00:09:07.125
- AND SO, SHE HAS HELPED ME, JUSTWITH THE TIMING OF ALL OF IT,
- 00:09:07.125 --> 00:09:10.095
- WITH THE TIMING OF ALL OF IT,TO NOT JUST FOCUS ON, LIKE, END
- 00:09:10.095 --> 00:09:11.463
- TO NOT JUST FOCUS ON, LIKE, ENDRESULT, BUT: WHAT CAN I BE
- 00:09:11.463 --> 00:09:12.664
- RESULT, BUT: WHAT CAN I BEDOING IN THE MIDST OF IT?
- 00:09:12.664 --> 00:09:14.032
- DOING IN THE MIDST OF IT?AND I THINK THAT THAT'S BEEN
- 00:09:14.032 --> 00:09:15.567
- AND I THINK THAT THAT'S BEENSOMETHING THAT'S BEEN SO
- 00:09:15.567 --> 00:09:16.768
- SOMETHING THAT'S BEEN SOPOWERFUL FOR ME.
- 00:09:16.768 --> 00:09:19.037
- POWERFUL FOR ME.- HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: OH, I AM
- 00:09:19.037 --> 00:09:19.804
- - HAVILAH CUNNINGTON: OH, I AMSO FOLLOWING AND TRACKING WHAT
- 00:09:19.804 --> 00:09:20.405
- SO FOLLOWING AND TRACKING WHATYOU'RE SAYING.
- 00:09:20.405 --> 00:09:21.573
- YOU'RE SAYING.AND I THINK WHAT YOU'RE REALLY
- 00:09:21.573 --> 00:09:22.941
- AND I THINK WHAT YOU'RE REALLYSAYING IS: YOU'RE ALLOWED TO
- 00:09:22.941 --> 00:09:24.542
- SAYING IS: YOU'RE ALLOWED TOINVEST IN YOURSELF BEFORE WE
- 00:09:24.542 --> 00:09:25.677
- INVEST IN YOURSELF BEFORE WEGET MARRIED.
- 00:09:25.677 --> 00:09:26.678
- GET MARRIED.AND I THINK THERE'S THIS PAUSE
- 00:09:26.678 --> 00:09:28.546
- AND I THINK THERE'S THIS PAUSETHAT WE WAIT.
- 00:09:28.546 --> 00:09:29.147
- THAT WE WAIT.YOU KNOW, I WAS LOOKING AT MY
- 00:09:29.147 --> 00:09:30.015
- YOU KNOW, I WAS LOOKING AT MYLIFE.
- 00:09:30.015 --> 00:09:31.516
- LIFE.AND, AGAIN, I GOT PREGNANT AT
- 00:09:31.516 --> 00:09:34.919
- AND, AGAIN, I GOT PREGNANT ATTHREE MONTHS IN THE MARRIAGE,
- 00:09:34.919 --> 00:09:36.087
- THREE MONTHS IN THE MARRIAGE,AND I HAD FOUR BABIES IN FIVE
- 00:09:36.087 --> 00:09:37.389
- AND I HAD FOUR BABIES IN FIVEYEARS -- I HAD FOUR C-SECTIONS
- 00:09:37.389 --> 00:09:38.256
- YEARS -- I HAD FOUR C-SECTIONSIN FIVE YEARS.
- 00:09:38.256 --> 00:09:38.823
- IN FIVE YEARS.WE DID NOT KNOW HOW NOT TO
- 00:09:38.823 --> 00:09:39.858
- WE DID NOT KNOW HOW NOT TOPROCREATE.
- 00:09:39.858 --> 00:09:40.925
- PROCREATE.THAT WAS KIND OF WHAT WAS
- 00:09:40.925 --> 00:09:41.726
- THAT WAS KIND OF WHAT WASHAPPENING.
- 00:09:41.726 --> 00:09:42.827
- HAPPENING.[LAUGHTER]
- 00:09:42.827 --> 00:09:43.461
- [LAUGHTER]BUT, WE-- WHEN I GOT-- WHEN I
- 00:09:43.461 --> 00:09:44.129
- BUT, WE-- WHEN I GOT-- WHEN IHAD ALL MY BABIES-- AND, WE
- 00:09:44.129 --> 00:09:45.897
- HAD ALL MY BABIES-- AND, WEENDED UP LOSING OUR JOB WHEN MY
- 00:09:45.897 --> 00:09:47.565
- ENDED UP LOSING OUR JOB WHEN MYLITTLEST WAS 3 MONTHS OLD.
- 00:09:47.565 --> 00:09:48.800
- LITTLEST WAS 3 MONTHS OLD.AND WE HAD TO PACK UP OUR WHOLE
- 00:09:48.800 --> 00:09:50.235
- AND WE HAD TO PACK UP OUR WHOLEHOUSE AND MOVE TO A DIFFERENT
- 00:09:50.235 --> 00:09:52.404
- HOUSE AND MOVE TO A DIFFERENTCITY.
- 00:09:52.404 --> 00:09:54.272
- CITY.AND I HAD BEEN-- UM, OUR BABY
- 00:09:54.272 --> 00:09:55.573
- AND I HAD BEEN-- UM, OUR BABYHAD BEEN IN THE NICU FOR 10
- 00:09:55.573 --> 00:09:56.808
- HAD BEEN IN THE NICU FOR 10DAYS.
- 00:09:56.808 --> 00:09:58.476
- DAYS.AND, WE WERE FIRED -- AND, NOT
- 00:09:58.476 --> 00:09:59.611
- AND, WE WERE FIRED -- AND, NOTBECAUSE OF ANYTHING WE HAD
- 00:09:59.611 --> 00:10:01.513
- BECAUSE OF ANYTHING WE HADDONE, BUT BECAUSE OF THE
- 00:10:01.513 --> 00:10:02.614
- DONE, BUT BECAUSE OF THEFINANCIAL CRASH IN 2008.
- 00:10:02.614 --> 00:10:03.882
- FINANCIAL CRASH IN 2008.AND THEN, I ALWAYS DEALT WITH
- 00:10:03.882 --> 00:10:05.216
- AND THEN, I ALWAYS DEALT WITHPOSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, WITH ALL
- 00:10:05.216 --> 00:10:07.652
- POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, WITH ALLOF MY BABIES.
- 00:10:07.652 --> 00:10:09.354
- OF MY BABIES.AND SO, I WOULD HAVE TO GO
- 00:10:09.354 --> 00:10:10.021
- AND SO, I WOULD HAVE TO GOTHROUGH RECOVERY, WHICH WOULD
- 00:10:10.021 --> 00:10:11.089
- THROUGH RECOVERY, WHICH WOULDTAKE ME MONTHS TO MEET WITH A
- 00:10:11.089 --> 00:10:12.323
- TAKE ME MONTHS TO MEET WITH ADOCTOR AND A CHRISTIAN
- 00:10:12.323 --> 00:10:12.957
- DOCTOR AND A CHRISTIANCOUNSELOR AND WALK ME THROUGH
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- COUNSELOR AND WALK ME THROUGHIT -- AND ALL WHILE BEING AN
- 00:10:13.892 --> 00:10:14.959
- IT -- AND ALL WHILE BEING ANORDAINED MINISTER.
- 00:10:14.959 --> 00:10:16.394
- ORDAINED MINISTER.AND, WHEN I ACTUALLY HAD TIME
- 00:10:16.394 --> 00:10:18.096
- AND, WHEN I ACTUALLY HAD TIMETO SIT BACK AND LOOK AT WHAT
- 00:10:18.096 --> 00:10:18.697
- TO SIT BACK AND LOOK AT WHATGOD DID...
- 00:10:18.697 --> 00:10:20.899
- GOD DID...I WANNA SAY TO YOU: FOR SOME OF
- 00:10:20.899 --> 00:10:22.167
- I WANNA SAY TO YOU: FOR SOME OFYOU THAT ARE IN THE WAITING
- 00:10:22.167 --> 00:10:23.168
- YOU THAT ARE IN THE WAITINGSEASON AND YOU WONDER WHY
- 00:10:23.168 --> 00:10:25.637
- SEASON AND YOU WONDER WHYSOMETHING ISN'T HAPPENING, I
- 00:10:25.637 --> 00:10:27.272
- SOMETHING ISN'T HAPPENING, IWANT YOU TO HEAR THIS.
- 00:10:27.272 --> 00:10:29.941
- WANT YOU TO HEAR THIS.I THINK THE NUMBER-ONE REASON
- 00:10:29.941 --> 00:10:30.575
- I THINK THE NUMBER-ONE REASONWHY IT'S NOT HAPPENING IN YOUR
- 00:10:30.575 --> 00:10:31.776
- WHY IT'S NOT HAPPENING IN YOURLIFE, RIGHT NOW, IS BECAUSE
- 00:10:31.776 --> 00:10:34.813
- LIFE, RIGHT NOW, IS BECAUSEIT'S SIMPLY NOT TIME.
- 00:10:34.813 --> 00:10:36.381
- IT'S SIMPLY NOT TIME.IT'S JUST ABOUT TIMING.
- 00:10:36.381 --> 00:10:37.582
- IT'S JUST ABOUT TIMING.IT'S NOT THAT YOU'RE BROKEN.
- 00:10:37.582 --> 00:10:38.817
- IT'S NOT THAT YOU'RE BROKEN.IT'S NOT THAT YOU MISSED
- 00:10:38.817 --> 00:10:40.351
- IT'S NOT THAT YOU MISSEDSOMETHING.
- 00:10:40.351 --> 00:10:41.219
- SOMETHING.IT'S NOT THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY.
- 00:10:41.219 --> 00:10:43.121
- IT'S NOT THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY.IT'S JUST NOT TIME.
- 00:10:43.121 --> 00:10:44.355
- IT'S JUST NOT TIME.AND I WROTE THIS DOWN, JUST FOR
- 00:10:44.355 --> 00:10:46.024
- AND I WROTE THIS DOWN, JUST FORFUN, TO LOOK AT THIS.
- 00:10:46.024 --> 00:10:47.826
- FUN, TO LOOK AT THIS.BUT, IN 10 YEARS OF MY LIFE, I
- 00:10:47.826 --> 00:10:49.694
- BUT, IN 10 YEARS OF MY LIFE, IWENT FROM A 27-YEAR-OLD WHO WAS
- 00:10:49.694 --> 00:10:51.429
- WENT FROM A 27-YEAR-OLD WHO WASLIVING WITH HER PARENTS AND A--
- 00:10:51.429 --> 00:10:53.364
- LIVING WITH HER PARENTS AND A--I HAD MY OWN BEDROOM -- THAT'S
- 00:10:53.364 --> 00:10:54.899
- I HAD MY OWN BEDROOM -- THAT'SHOW MUCH I OWNED IN MY LIFE.
- 00:10:54.899 --> 00:10:57.202
- HOW MUCH I OWNED IN MY LIFE.I WASN'T DATING ANYBODY.
- 00:10:57.202 --> 00:10:58.236
- I WASN'T DATING ANYBODY.I DIDN'T HAVE ANY POTENTIAL
- 00:10:58.236 --> 00:11:00.171
- I DIDN'T HAVE ANY POTENTIALPEOPLE.
- 00:11:00.171 --> 00:11:01.172
- PEOPLE.UM, I LITERALLY WAS WILLING TO
- 00:11:01.172 --> 00:11:02.674
- UM, I LITERALLY WAS WILLING TODATE ANYBODY THAT WANTED TO
- 00:11:02.674 --> 00:11:03.708
- DATE ANYBODY THAT WANTED TODATE ME.
- 00:11:03.708 --> 00:11:04.342
- DATE ME.[LAUGHTER]
- 00:11:04.342 --> 00:11:05.610
- [LAUGHTER]UM, I HAD NO KIDS.
- 00:11:05.610 --> 00:11:06.711
- UM, I HAD NO KIDS.MY WOMB WAS CRYING OUT.
- 00:11:06.711 --> 00:11:08.580
- MY WOMB WAS CRYING OUT.UM, I HAD NEVER WRITTEN A BOOK.
- 00:11:08.580 --> 00:11:09.681
- UM, I HAD NEVER WRITTEN A BOOK.I WAS NOT TRAVELING.
- 00:11:09.681 --> 00:11:10.782
- I WAS NOT TRAVELING.I WAS SIMPLY TEACHING AT THE
- 00:11:10.782 --> 00:11:12.283
- I WAS SIMPLY TEACHING AT THECHURCH I WAS DOING.
- 00:11:12.283 --> 00:11:13.952
- CHURCH I WAS DOING.I HAD NEVER OWNED A HOME.
- 00:11:13.952 --> 00:11:14.552
- I HAD NEVER OWNED A HOME.UM, I HAD ONLY OWNED A USED
- 00:11:14.552 --> 00:11:15.420
- UM, I HAD ONLY OWNED A USEDCAR.
- 00:11:15.420 --> 00:11:16.154
- CAR.I MEAN, WE'RE TALKING ALL OF
- 00:11:16.154 --> 00:11:17.322
- I MEAN, WE'RE TALKING ALL OFTHIS AT 27.
- 00:11:17.322 --> 00:11:18.757
- THIS AT 27.I WENT -- IN LITERALLY SIX
- 00:11:18.757 --> 00:11:20.191
- I WENT -- IN LITERALLY SIXYEARS -- I WENT TO BEING
- 00:11:20.191 --> 00:11:22.927
- YEARS -- I WENT TO BEINGMARRIED, HAVING FOUR BABIES,
- 00:11:22.927 --> 00:11:25.797
- MARRIED, HAVING FOUR BABIES,I'VE WRITTEN NINE BOOKS, I
- 00:11:25.797 --> 00:11:27.999
- I'VE WRITTEN NINE BOOKS, IREACH OVER A HUNDRED THOUSAND
- 00:11:27.999 --> 00:11:29.701
- REACH OVER A HUNDRED THOUSANDPEOPLE A YEAR THROUGH OUR BIBLE
- 00:11:29.701 --> 00:11:31.236
- PEOPLE A YEAR THROUGH OUR BIBLESTUDIES, WE OWN OUR OWN HOME,
- 00:11:31.236 --> 00:11:32.871
- STUDIES, WE OWN OUR OWN HOME,WE HAVE CARS -- ALL THE THINGS.
- 00:11:32.871 --> 00:11:35.573
- WE HAVE CARS -- ALL THE THINGS.BUT, THE MAIN THING IS: AT 27
- 00:11:35.573 --> 00:11:38.710
- BUT, THE MAIN THING IS: AT 27YEARS OLD, I WAS SO DISCOURAGED
- 00:11:38.710 --> 00:11:40.044
- YEARS OLD, I WAS SO DISCOURAGEDAND FELT LIKE LIFE WAS PASSING
- 00:11:40.044 --> 00:11:42.147
- AND FELT LIKE LIFE WAS PASSINGME BY.
- 00:11:42.147 --> 00:11:43.148
- ME BY.AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT IN AN
- 00:11:43.148 --> 00:11:45.316
- AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT IN ANINSTANT GOD CAN MOVE THE WHOLE
- 00:11:45.316 --> 00:11:46.751
- INSTANT GOD CAN MOVE THE WHOLETHING AROUND AND SWITCH--
- 00:11:46.751 --> 00:11:49.320
- THING AROUND AND SWITCH--AND I USED TO TELL GOD: "WHY'D
- 00:11:49.320 --> 00:11:49.954
- AND I USED TO TELL GOD: "WHY'DYOU HAVE TO MAKE ALL MY DREAMS
- 00:11:49.954 --> 00:11:52.390
- YOU HAVE TO MAKE ALL MY DREAMSCOME TRUE IN ONE YEAR!"
- 00:11:52.390 --> 00:11:53.925
- COME TRUE IN ONE YEAR!"BUT ALL OF THAT WAS ABOUT
- 00:11:53.925 --> 00:11:54.492
- BUT ALL OF THAT WAS ABOUTTIMING.
- 00:11:54.492 --> 00:11:56.227
- TIMING.AND I FELT SO ASHAMED.
- 00:11:56.227 --> 00:11:57.796
- AND I FELT SO ASHAMED.I THINK I FELT LIKE SOMETHING
- 00:11:57.796 --> 00:11:59.731
- I THINK I FELT LIKE SOMETHINGWAS WRONG WITH ME.
- 00:11:59.731 --> 00:12:00.398
- WAS WRONG WITH ME.I FELT LIKE-- PEOPLE WOULD SAY,
- 00:12:00.398 --> 00:12:01.232
- I FELT LIKE-- PEOPLE WOULD SAY,"OH, THEY'RE JUST INTIMIDATED
- 00:12:01.232 --> 00:12:01.766
- "OH, THEY'RE JUST INTIMIDATEDBY YOU."
- 00:12:01.766 --> 00:12:03.701
- BY YOU."AND I'D BE LIKE: "I'M NOT
- 00:12:03.701 --> 00:12:04.803
- AND I'D BE LIKE: "I'M NOTINTIMIDATING.
- 00:12:04.803 --> 00:12:05.570
- INTIMIDATING.I'M JUST BEING ME!"
- 00:12:05.570 --> 00:12:06.237
- I'M JUST BEING ME!"AND I WANT YOU GUYS WHO ARE
- 00:12:06.237 --> 00:12:06.838
- AND I WANT YOU GUYS WHO AREWATCHING THIS TO REALLY HEAR
- 00:12:06.838 --> 00:12:07.605
- WATCHING THIS TO REALLY HEARTHIS.
- 00:12:07.605 --> 00:12:08.606
- THIS.THIS IS SIMPLY A TIMING ISSUE.
- 00:12:08.606 --> 00:12:10.408
- THIS IS SIMPLY A TIMING ISSUE.IT'S NOT AN OBEDIENCE ISSUE.
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- IT'S NOT AN OBEDIENCE ISSUE.IT'S NOT A HEART ISSUE.
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- IT'S NOT A HEART ISSUE.IT'S NOT THE RIGHT ONE GOT
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- IT'S NOT THE RIGHT ONE GOTAWAY.
- 00:12:15.246 --> 00:12:17.115
- AWAY.IT'S JUST TIMING.
- 00:12:17.115 --> 00:12:18.416
- IT'S JUST TIMING.AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT, I
- 00:12:18.416 --> 00:12:19.651
- AND IF I HAD KNOWN THAT, IWOULD HAVE BEEN SO MUCH KINDER
- 00:12:19.651 --> 00:12:20.285
- WOULD HAVE BEEN SO MUCH KINDERTO MYSELF.
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- TO MYSELF.AND I THINK THAT'S REALLY WHAT
- 00:12:21.786 --> 00:12:23.021
- AND I THINK THAT'S REALLY WHATWE NEED TO BE IS KIND TO
- 00:12:23.021 --> 00:12:25.657
- WE NEED TO BE IS KIND TOOURSELVES.
- 00:12:25.657 --> 00:12:26.825
- OURSELVES.IN A CULTURE -- AND I KNOW
- 00:12:26.825 --> 00:12:27.959
- IN A CULTURE -- AND I KNOWJANICE SAID THIS BEFORE -- IN A
- 00:12:27.959 --> 00:12:29.194
- JANICE SAID THIS BEFORE -- IN ACULTURE THAT HAS A FORMULA AND
- 00:12:29.194 --> 00:12:31.563
- CULTURE THAT HAS A FORMULA ANDA CONVEYER BELT OF LIFE, WE
- 00:12:31.563 --> 00:12:33.298
- A CONVEYER BELT OF LIFE, WEHAVE TO BE ABLE TO GET OFF THAT
- 00:12:33.298 --> 00:12:34.599
- HAVE TO BE ABLE TO GET OFF THATCONVEYER BELT AND SAY: THAT'S
- 00:12:34.599 --> 00:12:36.467
- CONVEYER BELT AND SAY: THAT'SGREAT, IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANNA
- 00:12:36.467 --> 00:12:38.102
- GREAT, IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANNATELL ME I'M SUPPOSED TO DO.
- 00:12:38.102 --> 00:12:39.470
- TELL ME I'M SUPPOSED TO DO.BUT I AM GOING TO FOLLOW THE
- 00:12:39.470 --> 00:12:40.238
- BUT I AM GOING TO FOLLOW THEWILL OF GOD.
- 00:12:40.238 --> 00:12:41.372
- WILL OF GOD.I'M NOT GONNA FOLLOW THE TIMING
- 00:12:41.372 --> 00:12:42.640
- I'M NOT GONNA FOLLOW THE TIMINGOF "THE BACHELORETTE."
- 00:12:42.640 --> 00:12:43.741
- OF "THE BACHELORETTE."AND I THINK IT'S JUST REALLY
- 00:12:43.741 --> 00:12:45.276
- AND I THINK IT'S JUST REALLYIMPORTANT THAT WE GO: NO!
- 00:12:45.276 --> 00:12:47.078
- IMPORTANT THAT WE GO: NO!I'M NOT GONNA DO IT.
- 00:12:47.078 --> 00:12:47.645
- I'M NOT GONNA DO IT.I'M GONNA ACTUALLY GET OFF--
- 00:12:47.645 --> 00:12:49.247
- I'M GONNA ACTUALLY GET OFF--AND I FOLLOW ONE OPINION, AND
- 00:12:49.247 --> 00:12:50.481
- AND I FOLLOW ONE OPINION, ANDIT'S THE OPINION OF MY
- 00:12:50.481 --> 00:12:52.283
- IT'S THE OPINION OF MYFATHER -- THAT'S IT.
- 00:12:52.283 --> 00:12:53.618
- FATHER -- THAT'S IT.I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, JANICE,
- 00:12:53.618 --> 00:12:54.219
- I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, JANICE,BUT THAT'S HOW I FELT IN MY
- 00:12:54.219 --> 00:12:55.486
- BUT THAT'S HOW I FELT IN MYLIFE.
- 00:12:55.486 --> 00:12:56.788
- LIFE.- JANICE GAINES: THAT'S
- 00:12:56.788 --> 00:12:57.856
- - JANICE GAINES: THAT'SBRILLIANT, HAVILAH.
- 00:12:57.856 --> 00:12:58.456
- BRILLIANT, HAVILAH.THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT'S ALL
- 00:12:58.456 --> 00:12:59.424
- THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT'S ALLABOUT IS GOD'S TIMING.
- 00:12:59.424 --> 00:13:01.192
- ABOUT IS GOD'S TIMING.YOU KNOW, WHEN I GOT MARRIED,
- 00:13:01.192 --> 00:13:02.994
- YOU KNOW, WHEN I GOT MARRIED,I...I REMEMBER HAVING A
- 00:13:02.994 --> 00:13:04.762
- I...I REMEMBER HAVING ACONVERSATION WITH MY DAD.
- 00:13:04.762 --> 00:13:05.697
- CONVERSATION WITH MY DAD.AND I WAS LIKE: "OH, I GUESS,
- 00:13:05.697 --> 00:13:07.131
- AND I WAS LIKE: "OH, I GUESS,YOU KNOW, I'M LIVING LIFE AS A
- 00:13:07.131 --> 00:13:08.299
- YOU KNOW, I'M LIVING LIFE AS AMARRIED WOMAN, NOW."
- 00:13:08.299 --> 00:13:08.967
- MARRIED WOMAN, NOW."AND HE STOPPED ME AND HE SAID,
- 00:13:08.967 --> 00:13:10.568
- AND HE STOPPED ME AND HE SAID,"YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LIFE HAS
- 00:13:10.568 --> 00:13:11.169
- "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LIFE HASTO OFFER."
- 00:13:11.169 --> 00:13:14.906
- TO OFFER."AND, IT HIT ME, LIKE: RIGHT.
- 00:13:14.906 --> 00:13:16.574
- AND, IT HIT ME, LIKE: RIGHT.I DON'T KNOW WHY I THINK I
- 00:13:16.574 --> 00:13:18.009
- I DON'T KNOW WHY I THINK ICOULD...MAKE A DECISION AND
- 00:13:18.009 --> 00:13:19.611
- COULD...MAKE A DECISION ANDIT'S GOING TO AFFECT THE REST
- 00:13:19.611 --> 00:13:20.211
- IT'S GOING TO AFFECT THE RESTOF MY LIFE.
- 00:13:20.211 --> 00:13:22.046
- OF MY LIFE.THE REALITY IS THIS LIFE IS
- 00:13:22.046 --> 00:13:24.015
- THE REALITY IS THIS LIFE ISFULL OF TIMES AND SEASONS THAT
- 00:13:24.015 --> 00:13:25.583
- FULL OF TIMES AND SEASONS THATTHE LORD HAS PREPARED.
- 00:13:25.583 --> 00:13:27.485
- THE LORD HAS PREPARED.AND THE GOAL IS TO LEARN TO
- 00:13:27.485 --> 00:13:28.953
- AND THE GOAL IS TO LEARN TOTRUST HIM, AND IT--
- 00:13:28.953 --> 00:13:30.521
- TRUST HIM, AND IT--I DON'T KNOW WHAT TOOLS HE'LL
- 00:13:30.521 --> 00:13:32.490
- I DON'T KNOW WHAT TOOLS HE'LLUSE, ULTIMATELY, TO SANCTIFY
- 00:13:32.490 --> 00:13:34.993
- USE, ULTIMATELY, TO SANCTIFYME, ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN.
- 00:13:34.993 --> 00:13:37.028
- ME, ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN.RIGHT NOW, HE'S USING MARRIAGE.
- 00:13:37.028 --> 00:13:37.729
- RIGHT NOW, HE'S USING MARRIAGE.AND I'M GRATEFUL FOR IT.
- 00:13:37.729 --> 00:13:39.330
- AND I'M GRATEFUL FOR IT.I LOVE MY HUSBAND.
- 00:13:39.330 --> 00:13:39.864
- I LOVE MY HUSBAND.HE'S MY BEST FRIEND.
- 00:13:39.864 --> 00:13:43.067
- HE'S MY BEST FRIEND.BUT WE MET AT 15 YEARS OLD, YOU
- 00:13:43.067 --> 00:13:43.801
- BUT WE MET AT 15 YEARS OLD, YOUKNOW WHAT I MEAN?
- 00:13:43.801 --> 00:13:45.603
- KNOW WHAT I MEAN?LIKE, WE MET IN A MATH AND
- 00:13:45.603 --> 00:13:46.704
- LIKE, WE MET IN A MATH ANDSCIENCE PROGRAM, SO YOU CAN
- 00:13:46.704 --> 00:13:47.639
- SCIENCE PROGRAM, SO YOU CANCALL US NERDY AND GET YOUR
- 00:13:47.639 --> 00:13:48.640
- CALL US NERDY AND GET YOURLITTLE CHUCKLE ON.
- 00:13:48.640 --> 00:13:49.073
- LITTLE CHUCKLE ON.GO 'HEAD.
- 00:13:49.073 --> 00:13:51.276
- GO 'HEAD.A-HA, HA, HA, HA.
- 00:13:51.276 --> 00:13:52.143
- A-HA, HA, HA, HA.[LAUGHTER]
- 00:13:52.143 --> 00:13:53.845
- [LAUGHTER]BUT THE REALITY IS IT TOOK US
- 00:13:53.845 --> 00:13:55.947
- BUT THE REALITY IS IT TOOK USFROM 15 TO 27 TO BE MARRIED.
- 00:13:55.947 --> 00:13:58.149
- FROM 15 TO 27 TO BE MARRIED.AND THAT WAS GOD'S TIMING.
- 00:13:58.149 --> 00:13:59.550
- AND THAT WAS GOD'S TIMING.MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HAVE A
- 00:13:59.550 --> 00:14:01.085
- MY HUSBAND DOES NOT HAVE AVOICE, RIGHT NOW, BECAUSE HE'S
- 00:14:01.085 --> 00:14:01.886
- VOICE, RIGHT NOW, BECAUSE HE'SNOT ON "BETTER TOGETHER" AND HE
- 00:14:01.886 --> 00:14:02.921
- NOT ON "BETTER TOGETHER" AND HEWOULD CATEGORIZE THAT
- 00:14:02.921 --> 00:14:03.721
- WOULD CATEGORIZE THATDIFFERENTLY.
- 00:14:03.721 --> 00:14:05.156
- DIFFERENTLY.BUT GUESS WHAT?
- 00:14:05.156 --> 00:14:05.823
- BUT GUESS WHAT?GUESS WHO'S TELLIN' THIS STORY?
- 00:14:05.823 --> 00:14:06.524
- GUESS WHO'S TELLIN' THIS STORY?[LAUGHTER]
- 00:14:06.524 --> 00:14:07.458
- [LAUGHTER]ME.
- 00:14:07.458 --> 00:14:08.359
- ME.AND THE REALITY IS THAT IT WAS
- 00:14:08.359 --> 00:14:10.862
- AND THE REALITY IS THAT IT WASNOT GOD'S TIMING.
- 00:14:10.862 --> 00:14:12.030
- NOT GOD'S TIMING.HE WANTED IT TO BE SOONER; IT
- 00:14:12.030 --> 00:14:14.132
- HE WANTED IT TO BE SOONER; ITWAS NOT YET SO.
- 00:14:14.132 --> 00:14:15.900
- WAS NOT YET SO.BECAUSE GOD KNEW ALL THINGS.
- 00:14:15.900 --> 00:14:17.468
- BECAUSE GOD KNEW ALL THINGS.AND HE KNEW, IN ORDER FOR YOU
- 00:14:17.468 --> 00:14:19.003
- AND HE KNEW, IN ORDER FOR YOUGUYS TO MAKE IT, IN ORDER FOR
- 00:14:19.003 --> 00:14:21.239
- GUYS TO MAKE IT, IN ORDER FORYOU GUYS TO DEAL WITH WHAT LIFE
- 00:14:21.239 --> 00:14:23.041
- YOU GUYS TO DEAL WITH WHAT LIFEWILL BRING YOU, YOU'RE GONNA
- 00:14:23.041 --> 00:14:24.275
- WILL BRING YOU, YOU'RE GONNANEED THIS, THIS, THIS, AND
- 00:14:24.275 --> 00:14:25.109
- NEED THIS, THIS, THIS, ANDTHIS.
- 00:14:25.109 --> 00:14:26.411
- THIS.AND THAT'S COMING IN THIS TIME.
- 00:14:26.411 --> 00:14:27.745
- AND THAT'S COMING IN THIS TIME.AND THEN, WHEN THAT TIME HITS,
- 00:14:27.745 --> 00:14:29.347
- AND THEN, WHEN THAT TIME HITS,YOU'RE GOING TO BE READY.
- 00:14:29.347 --> 00:14:30.381
- YOU'RE GOING TO BE READY.AND SO, LIKE YOU SAID, HAVILAH
- 00:14:30.381 --> 00:14:31.783
- AND SO, LIKE YOU SAID, HAVILAH-- IT IS ALL ABOUT GOD'S
- 00:14:31.783 --> 00:14:32.717
- -- IT IS ALL ABOUT GOD'STIMING.
- 00:14:32.717 --> 00:14:34.585
- TIMING.AND WE DON'T NEED TO DESPISE
- 00:14:34.585 --> 00:14:36.554
- AND WE DON'T NEED TO DESPISEIT, OR...OR BE CONCERNED ABOUT
- 00:14:36.554 --> 00:14:37.588
- IT, OR...OR BE CONCERNED ABOUTIT.
- 00:14:37.588 --> 00:14:39.023
- IT.BECAUSE, ONE OF THE THINGS I'VE
- 00:14:39.023 --> 00:14:40.758
- BECAUSE, ONE OF THE THINGS I'VEREALIZED IS I CAN LOOK BACK ON
- 00:14:40.758 --> 00:14:42.560
- REALIZED IS I CAN LOOK BACK ONSEASONS OF MY LIFE, AND THE ONE
- 00:14:42.560 --> 00:14:44.128
- SEASONS OF MY LIFE, AND THE ONETHING I CAN SAY TO MYSELF IS,
- 00:14:44.128 --> 00:14:45.930
- THING I CAN SAY TO MYSELF IS,"DID I USE THAT SEASON
- 00:14:45.930 --> 00:14:47.165
- "DID I USE THAT SEASONPROPERLY?"
- 00:14:47.165 --> 00:14:48.700
- PROPERLY?"THAT IS REALLY WHAT I WANT TO
- 00:14:48.700 --> 00:14:50.001
- THAT IS REALLY WHAT I WANT TOASK.
- 00:14:50.001 --> 00:14:50.635
- ASK.ONCE IT'S PASSED, I WANNA LOOK
- 00:14:50.635 --> 00:14:51.269
- ONCE IT'S PASSED, I WANNA LOOKBACK AND SAY: OH, MY GOODNESS,
- 00:14:51.269 --> 00:14:54.238
- BACK AND SAY: OH, MY GOODNESS,I DID THAT WELL.
- 00:14:54.238 --> 00:14:55.773
- I DID THAT WELL.I FINISHED THAT STRONG.
- 00:14:55.773 --> 00:14:57.742
- I FINISHED THAT STRONG.I THINK ABOUT THAT, AS A MOM OF
- 00:14:57.742 --> 00:14:59.010
- I THINK ABOUT THAT, AS A MOM OFYOUNG CHILDREN, THAT I WANT TO
- 00:14:59.010 --> 00:15:01.512
- YOUNG CHILDREN, THAT I WANT TOLOOK BACK ON MOTHERHOOD AND SAY
- 00:15:01.512 --> 00:15:03.281
- LOOK BACK ON MOTHERHOOD AND SAYTHAT I GAVE MY KIDS MORE THAN I
- 00:15:03.281 --> 00:15:05.783
- THAT I GAVE MY KIDS MORE THAN IGAVE MY MINISTRY, SINCE MY
- 00:15:05.783 --> 00:15:07.785
- GAVE MY MINISTRY, SINCE MYFAMILY IS MY FIRST MINISTRY.
- 00:15:07.785 --> 00:15:09.721
- FAMILY IS MY FIRST MINISTRY.AND SO, I DON'T WANT TO GET TO
- 00:15:09.721 --> 00:15:11.255
- AND SO, I DON'T WANT TO GET TOA NEW SEASON AND REALIZE: YOU
- 00:15:11.255 --> 00:15:12.657
- A NEW SEASON AND REALIZE: YOUDIDN'T GIVE IT YOUR ALL.
- 00:15:12.657 --> 00:15:14.092
- DIDN'T GIVE IT YOUR ALL.'CAUSE YOU WERE BEGGING FOR THE
- 00:15:14.092 --> 00:15:14.926
- 'CAUSE YOU WERE BEGGING FOR THENEXT SEASON.
- 00:15:14.926 --> 00:15:16.127
- NEXT SEASON.SO, WE GOTTA TRUST GOD'S
- 00:15:16.127 --> 00:15:17.895
- SO, WE GOTTA TRUST GOD'STIMING, BECAUSE, HE REALLY IS
- 00:15:17.895 --> 00:15:19.630
- TIMING, BECAUSE, HE REALLY ISIN CONTROL AND WE CAN TRUST HIM
- 00:15:19.630 --> 00:15:20.631
- IN CONTROL AND WE CAN TRUST HIMWITH IT.
- 00:15:20.631 --> 00:15:21.833
- WITH IT.- DR. ROBYN: AMEN.
- 00:15:21.833 --> 00:15:23.368
- - DR. ROBYN: AMEN.- MANDISA: WHEN I THINK ABOUT
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- - MANDISA: WHEN I THINK ABOUTTRUSTING GOD'S TIMING...I'M
- 00:15:24.569 --> 00:15:25.370
- TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING...I'MGON' BE HONEST, Y'ALL!
- 00:15:25.370 --> 00:15:26.270
- GON' BE HONEST, Y'ALL!CAN I KEEP IT REAL, AMONG MY
- 00:15:26.270 --> 00:15:26.738
- CAN I KEEP IT REAL, AMONG MYFRIENDS?
- 00:15:26.738 --> 00:15:27.672
- FRIENDS?- JANICE: OH, OH! WAIT...WAIT.
- 00:15:27.672 --> 00:15:28.639
- - JANICE: OH, OH! WAIT...WAIT.- HAVILAH: YEEES.
- 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.440
- - HAVILAH: YEEES.- JANICE: I'M JUST KIDDING.
- 00:15:29.440 --> 00:15:29.941
- - JANICE: I'M JUST KIDDING.KEEP IT REAL.
- 00:15:29.941 --> 00:15:31.275
- KEEP IT REAL.[LAUGHTER]
- 00:15:31.275 --> 00:15:33.578
- [LAUGHTER]- MANDISA: ANYWAY, SO...WHEN
- 00:15:33.578 --> 00:15:35.279
- - MANDISA: ANYWAY, SO...WHENI THINK OF THE TIMES WHERE I
- 00:15:35.279 --> 00:15:36.814
- I THINK OF THE TIMES WHERE ISAY TO GOD -- AND I SAY IT TO
- 00:15:36.814 --> 00:15:39.650
- SAY TO GOD -- AND I SAY IT TOHIM -- "GOD...WHY? WHEN?" LIKE,
- 00:15:39.650 --> 00:15:41.786
- HIM -- "GOD...WHY? WHEN?" LIKE,I THINK THAT IS THE BEST THING
- 00:15:41.786 --> 00:15:44.088
- I THINK THAT IS THE BEST THINGTHAT I CAN DO.
- 00:15:44.088 --> 00:15:45.423
- THAT I CAN DO.WHEN I'M THINKING ABOUT
- 00:15:45.423 --> 00:15:47.692
- WHEN I'M THINKING ABOUTTRUSTING GOD'S TIMING, I SAY,
- 00:15:47.692 --> 00:15:50.361
- TRUSTING GOD'S TIMING, I SAY,"GOD, I TRUST YOU, AND I PRAY
- 00:15:50.361 --> 00:15:51.562
- "GOD, I TRUST YOU, AND I PRAYFOR GRACE, TO TRUST YOU MORE."
- 00:15:51.562 --> 00:15:53.164
- FOR GRACE, TO TRUST YOU MORE."I THINK THAT YOU CAN HAVE BOTH
- 00:15:53.164 --> 00:15:53.664
- I THINK THAT YOU CAN HAVE BOTHOF THOSE THINGS.
- 00:15:53.664 --> 00:15:54.766
- OF THOSE THINGS.'CAUSE I DO TRUST HIS TIMING.
- 00:15:54.766 --> 00:15:57.135
- 'CAUSE I DO TRUST HIS TIMING.AND, THERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT
- 00:15:57.135 --> 00:15:59.270
- AND, THERE ARE SOME THINGS THATHAPPEN THAT SOMETIMES IT MAKES
- 00:15:59.270 --> 00:16:00.838
- HAPPEN THAT SOMETIMES IT MAKESME GO: "I DON'T UNDERSTAND,
- 00:16:00.838 --> 00:16:03.107
- ME GO: "I DON'T UNDERSTAND,GOD.
- 00:16:03.107 --> 00:16:03.674
- GOD.WHY WOULD YOU ALLOW THIS?
- 00:16:03.674 --> 00:16:05.643
- WHY WOULD YOU ALLOW THIS?AND WHY NOT IN THIS WAY?"
- 00:16:05.643 --> 00:16:06.611
- AND WHY NOT IN THIS WAY?"AND: "IF I WERE DOING THINGS, I
- 00:16:06.611 --> 00:16:07.345
- AND: "IF I WERE DOING THINGS, IWOULD HAVE DONE THINGS THIS
- 00:16:07.345 --> 00:16:07.979
- WOULD HAVE DONE THINGS THISWAY."
- 00:16:07.979 --> 00:16:09.881
- WAY."BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT THE BEST
- 00:16:09.881 --> 00:16:11.449
- BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT THE BESTPLACE TO BRING THOSE QUESTIONS
- 00:16:11.449 --> 00:16:13.418
- PLACE TO BRING THOSE QUESTIONSTO, IT'S TO HIM.
- 00:16:13.418 --> 00:16:15.119
- TO, IT'S TO HIM.AND IF I'M QUESTIONING HIS
- 00:16:15.119 --> 00:16:16.320
- AND IF I'M QUESTIONING HISTIMING, RATHER THAN TALKING,
- 00:16:16.320 --> 00:16:17.321
- TIMING, RATHER THAN TALKING,GETTING ON THE PHONE AND
- 00:16:17.321 --> 00:16:18.856
- GETTING ON THE PHONE ANDTALKING TO MY FRIENDS AND JUST
- 00:16:18.856 --> 00:16:19.457
- TALKING TO MY FRIENDS AND JUSTCOMPLAINING, LET ME CALL UP
- 00:16:19.457 --> 00:16:21.359
- COMPLAINING, LET ME CALL UPJESUS.
- 00:16:21.359 --> 00:16:22.427
- JESUS.JESUS ON THE MAIN LINE.
- 00:16:22.427 --> 00:16:23.861
- JESUS ON THE MAIN LINE.TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT.
- 00:16:23.861 --> 00:16:26.464
- TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT.AND I FIND THAT WHEN I DO THAT,
- 00:16:26.464 --> 00:16:27.899
- AND I FIND THAT WHEN I DO THAT,WHEN I'M HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT
- 00:16:27.899 --> 00:16:29.400
- WHEN I'M HONEST WITH GOD ABOUTTHE QUESTIONING OF HIS TIMING,
- 00:16:29.400 --> 00:16:31.702
- THE QUESTIONING OF HIS TIMING,ABOUT THE QUESTIONING OF HIS
- 00:16:31.702 --> 00:16:33.471
- ABOUT THE QUESTIONING OF HISCIRCUMSTANCES, WHEN I HAVE WHAT
- 00:16:33.471 --> 00:16:35.206
- CIRCUMSTANCES, WHEN I HAVE WHATI CALL A SELAH MOMENT AND I
- 00:16:35.206 --> 00:16:37.041
- I CALL A SELAH MOMENT AND ISHUT MY MOUTH AND LET HIM,
- 00:16:37.041 --> 00:16:39.744
- SHUT MY MOUTH AND LET HIM,THEN, SPEAK TO ME, HE WILL
- 00:16:39.744 --> 00:16:41.979
- THEN, SPEAK TO ME, HE WILLCOURSE CORRECT ME IN THE MOST
- 00:16:41.979 --> 00:16:43.381
- COURSE CORRECT ME IN THE MOSTGENTLE, BUT SOMETIMES BLUNT,
- 00:16:43.381 --> 00:16:44.282
- GENTLE, BUT SOMETIMES BLUNT,WAY -- IN THE SAME WAY THAT HE
- 00:16:44.282 --> 00:16:46.818
- WAY -- IN THE SAME WAY THAT HEDID WITH JOB.
- 00:16:46.818 --> 00:16:48.119
- DID WITH JOB.AND, SOMETIMES, IT IS...FOR ME,
- 00:16:48.119 --> 00:16:48.886
- AND, SOMETIMES, IT IS...FOR ME,IT IS ME SAYING: "GOD, I DON'T
- 00:16:48.886 --> 00:16:50.354
- IT IS ME SAYING: "GOD, I DON'TUNDERSTAND THIS."
- 00:16:50.354 --> 00:16:52.723
- UNDERSTAND THIS."IT'S BEING HONEST WITH HIM.
- 00:16:52.723 --> 00:16:53.891
- IT'S BEING HONEST WITH HIM.AND WHEN I AM FEELING LONELY,
- 00:16:53.891 --> 00:16:56.227
- AND WHEN I AM FEELING LONELY,WHEN I AM QUESTIONING "HOW COME
- 00:16:56.227 --> 00:16:56.761
- WHEN I AM QUESTIONING "HOW COMETHIS HASN'T HAPPENED?"
- 00:16:56.761 --> 00:16:58.863
- THIS HASN'T HAPPENED?"I FIND THE BEST THING
- 00:16:58.863 --> 00:16:59.697
- I FIND THE BEST THINGTHAT I CAN DO IS TO
- 00:16:59.697 --> 00:17:00.865
- THAT I CAN DO IS TOBE HONEST WITH HIM.
- 00:17:00.865 --> 00:17:03.401
- BE HONEST WITH HIM.UM, THERE IS AN OLD SONG THAT I
- 00:17:03.401 --> 00:17:04.769
- UM, THERE IS AN OLD SONG THAT IWOULD ALWAYS LISTEN TO -- AND,
- 00:17:04.769 --> 00:17:05.736
- WOULD ALWAYS LISTEN TO -- AND,MY FRIENDS HERE ARE GONNA KNOW
- 00:17:05.736 --> 00:17:07.071
- MY FRIENDS HERE ARE GONNA KNOWTHIS, BUT: (SINGING)
- 00:17:07.071 --> 00:17:08.306
- THIS, BUT: (SINGING)♪ HE'S AN ON-TIME GOD ♪
- 00:17:08.306 --> 00:17:10.575
- ♪ HE'S AN ON-TIME GOD ♪♪ YES, HE IS ♪
- 00:17:10.575 --> 00:17:11.509
- ♪ YES, HE IS ♪- DR. ROBYN: YES, YES, YES!
- 00:17:11.509 --> 00:17:12.076
- - DR. ROBYN: YES, YES, YES!- JANICE: (VOCALIZING)
- 00:17:12.076 --> 00:17:13.010
- - JANICE: (VOCALIZING)♪ WHOA-OH-OH-OH... ♪
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- ♪ WHOA-OH-OH-OH... ♪- MANDISA: COME ON!
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- - MANDISA: COME ON![LAUGHS HAPPILY]
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- [LAUGHS HAPPILY]- MELINDA: (SINGING) ON TIME
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- - MELINDA: (SINGING) ON TIME- MANDISA: AND SO, WHEN I
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- - MANDISA: AND SO, WHEN ITHINK ABOUT THAT SONG: IT'S
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- THINK ABOUT THAT SONG: IT'SREALLY EASY TO SING; IT IS NOT
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- REALLY EASY TO SING; IT IS NOTAS EASY TO LIVE.
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- AS EASY TO LIVE.BUT IF I'M GOING TO LIVE IT,
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- BUT IF I'M GOING TO LIVE IT,I'M GOING TO SAY: "GOD, I TRUST
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- I'M GOING TO SAY: "GOD, I TRUSTYOU.
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- YOU.I DON'T GET IT.
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- I DON'T GET IT.HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND IT."
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- HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND IT."BE HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT THE
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- BE HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT THEDISAPPOINTMENT IN THE TIMING,
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- DISAPPOINTMENT IN THE TIMING,OR THE LACK OF THINGS HAPPENING
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- OR THE LACK OF THINGS HAPPENINGTHE WAY THAT YOU WANT IT TO, AND
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- THE WAY THAT YOU WANT IT TO, ANDTHEN, SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND LET
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- THEN, SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND LETHIM, THEN, TALK TO YOU.
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- HIM, THEN, TALK TO YOU.THAT'S WHAT I'M FINDING TO DO.
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- THAT'S WHAT I'M FINDING TO DO.AND I JUST WONDER: IS THAT-- DO
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- AND I JUST WONDER: IS THAT-- DOYOU THINK THAT'S THE RIGHT
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- YOU THINK THAT'S THE RIGHTTHING TO DO, DR. ROBYN?
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- THING TO DO, DR. ROBYN?'CAUSE THAT'S WHAT I'M DOING
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- 'CAUSE THAT'S WHAT I'M DOINGAND I HOPE YOU'RE GONNA AGREE
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- AND I HOPE YOU'RE GONNA AGREEWITH ME.
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- WITH ME.[LAUGHTER]
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- [LAUGHTER]- DR. ROBYN: OHHH...HONEY,
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- - DR. ROBYN: OHHH...HONEY,ABSOLUUUUTELY.
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- ABSOLUUUUTELY.ABSOLUTELY.
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- ABSOLUTELY.YOU ARE SO AWESOME.
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- YOU ARE SO AWESOME.I ADORE YOU.
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- I ADORE YOU.- MANDISA: AW...
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- - MANDISA: AW...- DR. ROBYN: AND, YOU KNOW
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- - DR. ROBYN: AND, YOU KNOWWHAT?
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- WHAT?YOU JUST GOTTA CLAIM THE WORD.
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- YOU JUST GOTTA CLAIM THE WORD.HERE'S THE VERSE THAT CAME TO
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- HERE'S THE VERSE THAT CAME TOME, WHILE YOU WERE SINGING.
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- ME, WHILE YOU WERE SINGING.I LOVE TO HEAR YOU.
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- I LOVE TO HEAR YOU."BEFORE I FORMED YOU..."
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- "BEFORE I FORMED YOU..."YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME IN THERE:
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- YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME IN THERE:"...ROBYN..."
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- "...ROBYN..."YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME.
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- YOU PUT YOUR OWN NAME."BEFORE I FORMED YOU IN THE
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- "BEFORE I FORMED YOU IN THEWOMB, I KNEW YOU; AND BEFORE
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- WOMB, I KNEW YOU; AND BEFOREYOU WERE BORN, I CONSECRATED
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- YOU WERE BORN, I CONSECRATEDYOU; I APPOINTED YOU A PROPHET
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- YOU; I APPOINTED YOU A PROPHETTO THE NATIONS."
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- TO THE NATIONS."DOES THAT SOUND LIKE THERE WAS
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- DOES THAT SOUND LIKE THERE WASA TIMING PROBLEM?
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- A TIMING PROBLEM?I DON'T THINK SO.
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- I DON'T THINK SO.WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
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- WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?NOW, HERE'S THE BIG IDEA,
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- NOW, HERE'S THE BIG IDEA,HERE'S THE PRINCIPLE: NOTHING
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- HERE'S THE PRINCIPLE: NOTHINGHAPPENS TO ME.
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- HAPPENS TO ME.IT ONLY HAPPENS FOR ME.
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- IT ONLY HAPPENS FOR ME.WHY?
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- WHY?THE SCRIPTURE ROMANS 8:28: "AND
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- THE SCRIPTURE ROMANS 8:28: "ANDWE KNOW THAT ALL THINGS WORK
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- WE KNOW THAT ALL THINGS WORKTOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE WHO
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- TOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE WHOLOVE GOD..."
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- LOVE GOD..."THAT'S YOU AND ME.
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- THAT'S YOU AND ME.THOSE HE HAS CALLED ACCORDING
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- THOSE HE HAS CALLED ACCORDINGTO HIS PLAN.
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- TO HIS PLAN.NOW, LISTEN -- HE HAS CALLED
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- NOW, LISTEN -- HE HAS CALLEDUS!
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- US!HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE!
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- HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE!SINGE WOMEN ARE NOT BROKEN --
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- SINGE WOMEN ARE NOT BROKEN --DIVORCED, WIDOWED, WAITING,
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- DIVORCED, WIDOWED, WAITING,NEVER MARRIED.
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- NEVER MARRIED.GOD'S GOT A PURPOSE AND HERE'S
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- GOD'S GOT A PURPOSE AND HERE'STHE BIG IDEA: HE'S GOT A
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- THE BIG IDEA: HE'S GOT APURPOSE, RIGHT NOW, FOR RIGHT
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- PURPOSE, RIGHT NOW, FOR RIGHTNOW.
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- NOW.NOT FOR NEXT MONTH, NOT FOR
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- NOT FOR NEXT MONTH, NOT FORNEXT YEAR -- FOR TODAY.
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- NEXT YEAR -- FOR TODAY.'CAUSE EVERY DAY MATTERS.
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- 'CAUSE EVERY DAY MATTERS.MY TODAY, MY "RIGHT NOW"
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- MY TODAY, MY "RIGHT NOW"MATTERS.
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- MATTERS.YOUR "RIGHT NOW" MATTERS.
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- YOUR "RIGHT NOW" MATTERS.AND I FEEL THE HOLY GHOST,
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- AND I FEEL THE HOLY GHOST,RIGHT?
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- RIGHT?BECAUSE THAT'S THE ENERGY THAT
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- BECAUSE THAT'S THE ENERGY THATI NEED IN EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE
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- I NEED IN EVERY DAY OF MY LIFETO KEEP GOING IN THESE TRYING
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- TO KEEP GOING IN THESE TRYINGDAYS -- THIS PANDEMIC, THIS
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- DAYS -- THIS PANDEMIC, THISSEASON THAT WE'RE ALL LIVING
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- SEASON THAT WE'RE ALL LIVINGTHROUGH.
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- THROUGH.(CLAPPING FOR EMPHASIS) WE NEED
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- (CLAPPING FOR EMPHASIS) WE NEEDTO BE ABLE TO TRUST THE POWER
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- TO BE ABLE TO TRUST THE POWERAND THE ENERGY OF JESUS, TO
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- AND THE ENERGY OF JESUS, TOKNOW THAT HE'S WITH US, AS WE
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- KNOW THAT HE'S WITH US, AS WEARE ON TRACK TO MAKE A
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- ARE ON TRACK TO MAKE ADIFFERENCE IN OUR COMMUNITY AND
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- DIFFERENCE IN OUR COMMUNITY ANDIN OUR FAMILY.
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- IN OUR FAMILY.SO, MISS MELINDA, WHAT DO YOU
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- SO, MISS MELINDA, WHAT DO YOUDO THINK ABOUT IT?
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- DO THINK ABOUT IT?- MELINDA: WELL, THAT'S SO
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- - MELINDA: WELL, THAT'S SOTRUE.
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- TRUE.AND WHAT IS SO BEAUTIFUL ABOUT
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- AND WHAT IS SO BEAUTIFUL ABOUTTHE LORD -- THERE'S SO MANY
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- THE LORD -- THERE'S SO MANYBEAUTIFUL THINGS ABOUT HIM --
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- BEAUTIFUL THINGS ABOUT HIM --BUT ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGS
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- BUT ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGSIS THAT HE DOESN'T WASTE
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- IS THAT HE DOESN'T WASTEANYTHING -- AND, THAT INCLUDES
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- ANYTHING -- AND, THAT INCLUDESTIME.
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- TIME.HE DOESN'T WASTE OUR TIME.
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- HE DOESN'T WASTE OUR TIME.HE DOESN'T WASTE WHAT HE HAS
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- HE DOESN'T WASTE WHAT HE HASPUT IN US.
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- PUT IN US.AND SO, I WOULD ENCOURAGE
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- AND SO, I WOULD ENCOURAGEPEOPLE TO SEEK THE LORD
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- PEOPLE TO SEEK THE LORDON WHAT WE CAN BE
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- ON WHAT WE CAN BEDOING IN THIS TIME.
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- DOING IN THIS TIME.LIKE JANICE SAID, YOU KNOW:
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- LIKE JANICE SAID, YOU KNOW:LIKE, ARE YOU USING THIS SEASON
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- LIKE, ARE YOU USING THIS SEASONWELL?
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- WELL?WHAT DOES HE HAVE FOR YOU,
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- WHAT DOES HE HAVE FOR YOU,HERE, THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE
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- HERE, THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLETO DO, AS A MARRIED WOMAN?
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- TO DO, AS A MARRIED WOMAN?- MANDISA: THAT'S RIGHT!
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- - MANDISA: THAT'S RIGHT!- MELINDA: LIKE, WHAT HAS THIS
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- - MELINDA: LIKE, WHAT HAS THISFREEDOM ALLOWED FOR YOU?
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- FREEDOM ALLOWED FOR YOU?I HAVE HEARD SO MANY PEOPLE
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- I HAVE HEARD SO MANY PEOPLESAY, YOU KNOW, LIKE, EVEN IN
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- SAY, YOU KNOW, LIKE, EVEN INTHIS QUARANTINE, IT TAKES
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- THIS QUARANTINE, IT TAKESSOMETHING AWAY OR THINGS ARE
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- SOMETHING AWAY OR THINGS AREHARDER.
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- HARDER.BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE US TO
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- BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE US TOLOOK AT "WHAT DOES THIS MAKE
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- LOOK AT "WHAT DOES THIS MAKEPOSSIBLE?" INSTEAD.
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- POSSIBLE?" INSTEAD.LIKE, WHAT IS MY SINGLENESS
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- LIKE, WHAT IS MY SINGLENESSMAKING POSSIBLE FOR ME, RIGHT
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- MAKING POSSIBLE FOR ME, RIGHTNOW?
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- NOW?AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT.
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- AND SEEK THE LORD ON THAT.BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THE
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- BECAUSE HE'S GONNA HAVE THEBEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OF
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- BEST ANSWER ON THE BEST USE OFTHIS TIME THAT HE HAS GIVEN
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- THIS TIME THAT HE HAS GIVENYOU.
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- YOU.SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,
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- SO, TAKE THIS TIME AS A GIFT,INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IS AS A
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- INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IS AS ABURDEN.
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- BURDEN.THIS TIME IS A GIFT.
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- THIS TIME IS A GIFT.IT TRULY IS.
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- IT TRULY IS.AND IT MAY FEEL LONG, AND IT
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- AND IT MAY FEEL LONG, AND ITMAY FEEL ARDUOUS, BUT IT CAN BE
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- MAY FEEL ARDUOUS, BUT IT CAN BEA GIFT, IF YOU LOOK AT IT ON
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- A GIFT, IF YOU LOOK AT IT ONTHAT SIDE OF THINGS.
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- THAT SIDE OF THINGS.- MANDISA: YEAH...
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- - MANDISA: YEAH...- HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I LOVE
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- - HAVILAH: YOU KNOW, I LOVETHAT, MELINDA, AND I CAN TELL
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- THAT, MELINDA, AND I CAN TELLTHAT THAT IS REAL FOR YOU.
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- THAT THAT IS REAL FOR YOU.LIKE, YOU ARE USING YOUR SEASON
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- LIKE, YOU ARE USING YOUR SEASONAS A GIFT.
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- AS A GIFT.AND, YOU KNOW, I WAS THINKING
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- AND, YOU KNOW, I WAS THINKINGABOUT-- AND I THINK DR. ROBYN
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- ABOUT-- AND I THINK DR. ROBYNREALLY ALLUDED TO THIS, BUT,
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- REALLY ALLUDED TO THIS, BUT,SOMETIMES, OUR LOVE STORY CAN
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- SOMETIMES, OUR LOVE STORY CANBE OUR MOST BROKEN PART OF OUR
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- BE OUR MOST BROKEN PART OF OURLIVES, WHETHER IT'S, YOU KNOW,
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- LIVES, WHETHER IT'S, YOU KNOW,THE ONE THAT WE MARRIED, IT
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- THE ONE THAT WE MARRIED, ITDIDN'T WORK OUT; OR SOMETHING
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- DIDN'T WORK OUT; OR SOMETHINGHAPPENED WHERE WE LOST A
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- HAPPENED WHERE WE LOST ASPOUSE; OR, YOU KNOW, MAYBE
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- SPOUSE; OR, YOU KNOW, MAYBEWE--
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- WE--I REMEMBER I ALMOST GOT MARRIED
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- I REMEMBER I ALMOST GOT MARRIEDTWICE, BEFORE I MARRIED MY
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- TWICE, BEFORE I MARRIED MYHUSBAND.
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- HUSBAND.AND THERE WAS A LOT OF PAIN AND
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- AND THERE WAS A LOT OF PAIN ANDHEARTACHE.
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- HEARTACHE.AND WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO FIND
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- AND WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO FINDTHE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND SEE
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- THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND SEEIF YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE
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- IF YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BEMARRIED...
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- MARRIED...BUT I REMEMBER ONE TIME TALKING
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- BUT I REMEMBER ONE TIME TALKINGTO MY DAD, AND MY DAD'S A
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- TO MY DAD, AND MY DAD'S AMINISTER, AND I ASKED HIM, I
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- MINISTER, AND I ASKED HIM, ISAID: "YOU KNOW, DAD, WHAT
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- SAID: "YOU KNOW, DAD, WHATHAPPENS WHEN WE GO THROUGH
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- HAPPENS WHEN WE GO THROUGHTHINGS THAT WE DON'T
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- THINGS THAT WE DON'TUNDERSTAND?
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- UNDERSTAND?BECAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF PAIN
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- BECAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF PAINAND THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN LIFE
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- AND THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN LIFETHAT SEEM ALMOST LIKE THERE'S
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- THAT SEEM ALMOST LIKE THERE'SWITHOUT REASON, LIKE, WE DON'T
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- WITHOUT REASON, LIKE, WE DON'TKNOW WHAT TO DO."
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- KNOW WHAT TO DO."AND MY DAD CAME FROM, UM...A
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- AND MY DAD CAME FROM, UM...AVERY DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD.
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- VERY DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD.HIS DAD WANTED HIS MOM TO HAVE
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- HIS DAD WANTED HIS MOM TO HAVEAN ABORTION -- GAVE HER PILLS.
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- AN ABORTION -- GAVE HER PILLS.SHE WAS AN ITALIAN WOMAN THAT
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- SHE WAS AN ITALIAN WOMAN THATSAID, "IF YOU WANT AN ABORTION,
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- SAID, "IF YOU WANT AN ABORTION,YOU CAN TAKE THE PILLS
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- YOU CAN TAKE THE PILLSYOURSELF."
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- YOURSELF."- MELINDA: WOW...
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- - MELINDA: WOW...- HAVILAH: AND, THERE WAS THIS
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- - HAVILAH: AND, THERE WAS THISEXCHANGE, BUT, HE WAS REALLY
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- EXCHANGE, BUT, HE WAS REALLYABANDONED FROM A VERY EARLY
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- ABANDONED FROM A VERY EARLYAGE, CAME TO CHRIST, WAS AN
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- AGE, CAME TO CHRIST, WAS ANATHEIST FOR SEVEN YEARS, ENDED
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- ATHEIST FOR SEVEN YEARS, ENDEDUP COMING TO CHRIST.
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- UP COMING TO CHRIST.BUT I REMEMBER TELLING MY DAD:
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- BUT I REMEMBER TELLING MY DAD:"HOW DO YOU REMEDY THAT?
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- "HOW DO YOU REMEDY THAT?LIKE, YOU HAD THIS HORRIBLE
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- LIKE, YOU HAD THIS HORRIBLECHILDHOOD.
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- CHILDHOOD.NOW, OBVIOUSLY, GOD HAS SAVED
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- NOW, OBVIOUSLY, GOD HAS SAVEDYOU AND HEALED YOU, BUT..."
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- YOU AND HEALED YOU, BUT..."HE SAID, "YOU KNOW, HAVILAH, I
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- HE SAID, "YOU KNOW, HAVILAH, IBELIEVE...THAT THERE'S A FILE
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- BELIEVE...THAT THERE'S A FILEIN HEAVEN THAT'S TITLED,
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- IN HEAVEN THAT'S TITLED,'THINGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND.'"
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- 'THINGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND.'"AND HE SAID: "THERE ARE
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- AND HE SAID: "THERE ARESITUATIONS AND THINGS IN OUR
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- SITUATIONS AND THINGS IN OURLIVES THAT WE PUT IN THAT FILE.
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- LIVES THAT WE PUT IN THAT FILE.AND WE KNOW THE MOMENT WE GET
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- AND WE KNOW THE MOMENT WE GETINTO ETERNITY, WE WILL GO TAKE
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- INTO ETERNITY, WE WILL GO TAKETHAT FILE OUT, WITH GOD, AND WE
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- THAT FILE OUT, WITH GOD, AND WEWILL GO THROUGH EACH ITEM IN
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- WILL GO THROUGH EACH ITEM INTHAT FILE.
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- THAT FILE.BUT THERE IS A POINT WHERE WE
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- BUT THERE IS A POINT WHERE WECANNOT FIND PEACE IF WE HAVE TO
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- CANNOT FIND PEACE IF WE HAVE TOTRY TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT."
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- TRY TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT."AND I THINK, SPECIFICALLY, YOU,
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- AND I THINK, SPECIFICALLY, YOU,AS MARRIED WOMEN-- I KNOW WE'RE
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- AS MARRIED WOMEN-- I KNOW WE'REKIND OF 50/50 IN THIS SPACE.
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- KIND OF 50/50 IN THIS SPACE.UM, THERE'S BEING NOT MARRIED
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- UM, THERE'S BEING NOT MARRIEDAND IN PAIN IS, I
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- AND IN PAIN IS, ITHINK, THE EXACT SAME PAIN AS
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- THINK, THE EXACT SAME PAIN ASBEING MARRIED AND BEING IN PAIN
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- BEING MARRIED AND BEING IN PAINAND BEING LONELY.
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- AND BEING LONELY.BECAUSE YOU CAN HAVE BOTH.
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- BECAUSE YOU CAN HAVE BOTH.LET'S NOT BE NAïVE TO THE FACT
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- LET'S NOT BE NAïVE TO THE FACTTHAT WE CAN BE MARRIED AND BE
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- THAT WE CAN BE MARRIED AND BETHE LONELIEST PERSON ON THE
- 00:23:27.985 --> 00:23:28.786
- THE LONELIEST PERSON ON THEPLANET.
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- PLANET.AND THERE'S NOTHING MORE-- YOU
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- AND THERE'S NOTHING MORE-- YOUCAN FEEL CLAUSTROPHOBIC BY
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- CAN FEEL CLAUSTROPHOBIC BYTHE PERSON YOU'RE WITH WHEN YOU
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- THE PERSON YOU'RE WITH WHEN YOUREALIZE: THE ONLY WAY
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- REALIZE: THE ONLY WAYFOR ME OUTTA THIS
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- FOR ME OUTTA THISIS A GLORIFIED WIDOW.
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- IS A GLORIFIED WIDOW.THIS IS NOT GOOD.
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- THIS IS NOT GOOD.I THINK THAT THERE'S PART OF
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- I THINK THAT THERE'S PART OFOUR STORIES WITH THE TIMING OF
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- OUR STORIES WITH THE TIMING OFGOD THAT WE HAVE TO BE WILLING
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- GOD THAT WE HAVE TO BE WILLINGTO PUT THINGS IN THAT FILE AND
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- TO PUT THINGS IN THAT FILE ANDSAY: I DON'T UNDERSTAND THE
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- SAY: I DON'T UNDERSTAND THETIMING.
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- TIMING.YOU KNOW, MANDISA: I DON'T KNOW
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- YOU KNOW, MANDISA: I DON'T KNOWWHY I'M 44, AND I'M SUPER CUTE,
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- WHY I'M 44, AND I'M SUPER CUTE,AND I'M REALLY ANOINTED, AND
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- AND I'M REALLY ANOINTED, ANDI'VE GOT A GREAT LIFE AND
- 00:23:52.910 --> 00:23:54.378
- I'VE GOT A GREAT LIFE ANDENERGY, AND I WANT TO ADD
- 00:23:54.378 --> 00:23:55.613
- ENERGY, AND I WANT TO ADDSOMETHING TO THAT.
- 00:23:55.613 --> 00:23:56.881
- SOMETHING TO THAT.OR, MELINDA, YOU KNOW: I HAVE
- 00:23:56.881 --> 00:23:58.082
- OR, MELINDA, YOU KNOW: I HAVETHIS BEAUTIFUL HOME, NOW.
- 00:23:58.082 --> 00:23:59.984
- THIS BEAUTIFUL HOME, NOW.AND IF GOD WANTED ME TO, GREAT.
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- AND IF GOD WANTED ME TO, GREAT.I DON'T WANNA BE MARRIED, BUT
- 00:24:01.218 --> 00:24:02.119
- I DON'T WANNA BE MARRIED, BUTWHY ARE YOU MAKING ME GET
- 00:24:02.119 --> 00:24:02.586
- WHY ARE YOU MAKING ME GETMARRIED?
- 00:24:02.586 --> 00:24:03.454
- MARRIED?YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT
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- YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW WHAT ITIS.
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- IS.[LAUGHTER]
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- [LAUGHTER]BUT, WHAT I DO KNOW IS IS THAT
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- BUT, WHAT I DO KNOW IS IS THATIF WE DON'T HAVE THAT SPIRITUAL
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- IF WE DON'T HAVE THAT SPIRITUALPRACTICE OF PUTTING IT IN HIS
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- PRACTICE OF PUTTING IT IN HISHANDS, WE WILL NOT BE AT PEACE,
- 00:24:11.028 --> 00:24:11.662
- HANDS, WE WILL NOT BE AT PEACE,NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN OUR
- 00:24:11.662 --> 00:24:12.963
- NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN OURLIFE.
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- LIFE.AND, I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR
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- AND, I JUST WANNA PRAY FORTHOSE OF YOU THAT ARE WATCHING,
- 00:24:14.465 --> 00:24:15.733
- THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE WATCHING,TODAY, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR
- 00:24:15.733 --> 00:24:18.402
- TODAY, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOURLOVE STORY IS A BROKEN STORY.
- 00:24:18.402 --> 00:24:19.403
- LOVE STORY IS A BROKEN STORY.OR YOUR LOVE STORY NEVER GOT
- 00:24:19.403 --> 00:24:20.371
- OR YOUR LOVE STORY NEVER GOTSTARTED.
- 00:24:20.371 --> 00:24:21.472
- STARTED.OR IT JUST-- YOU FEEL PAIN,
- 00:24:21.472 --> 00:24:23.107
- OR IT JUST-- YOU FEEL PAIN,WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
- 00:24:23.107 --> 00:24:24.408
- WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU
- 00:24:24.408 --> 00:24:26.210
- IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOUENJOY THINKING ABOUT OR TALKING
- 00:24:26.210 --> 00:24:27.578
- ENJOY THINKING ABOUT OR TALKINGABOUT.
- 00:24:27.578 --> 00:24:28.245
- ABOUT.AND I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR YOU,
- 00:24:28.245 --> 00:24:29.313
- AND I JUST WANNA PRAY FOR YOU,RIGHT NOW.
- 00:24:29.313 --> 00:24:30.147
- RIGHT NOW.SO, LORD, I THANK YOU FOR EVERY
- 00:24:30.147 --> 00:24:31.515
- SO, LORD, I THANK YOU FOR EVERYPERSON THAT'S WATCHING THIS
- 00:24:31.515 --> 00:24:31.982
- PERSON THAT'S WATCHING THISTODAY.
- 00:24:31.982 --> 00:24:33.918
- TODAY.LORD, I KNOW THAT THERE ARE
- 00:24:33.918 --> 00:24:35.119
- LORD, I KNOW THAT THERE ARETHINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED IN
- 00:24:35.119 --> 00:24:36.353
- THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED INOUR STORIES THAT WE DON'T
- 00:24:36.353 --> 00:24:36.854
- OUR STORIES THAT WE DON'TUNDERSTAND.
- 00:24:36.854 --> 00:24:38.088
- UNDERSTAND.IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.
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- IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE WHY WE
- 00:24:39.790 --> 00:24:41.225
- IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE WHY WEHAD TO WALK THROUGH IT, OR WHY
- 00:24:41.225 --> 00:24:41.859
- HAD TO WALK THROUGH IT, OR WHYIT DIDN'T HAPPEN, OR WHY THIS
- 00:24:41.859 --> 00:24:43.127
- IT DIDN'T HAPPEN, OR WHY THISISN'T...MAYBE TAKING PLACE IN
- 00:24:43.127 --> 00:24:45.496
- ISN'T...MAYBE TAKING PLACE INOUR LIVES.
- 00:24:45.496 --> 00:24:46.130
- OUR LIVES.AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACE THAT
- 00:24:46.130 --> 00:24:48.432
- AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACE THATSURPASSES UNDERSTANDING WOULD
- 00:24:48.432 --> 00:24:49.800
- SURPASSES UNDERSTANDING WOULDTRANSCEND OUR THOUGHTS AND OUR
- 00:24:49.800 --> 00:24:52.269
- TRANSCEND OUR THOUGHTS AND OURTIMEFRAMES AND EVERYTHING THAT
- 00:24:52.269 --> 00:24:52.903
- TIMEFRAMES AND EVERYTHING THATWE EXPECT, AND WE WOULD ALLOW
- 00:24:52.903 --> 00:24:55.272
- WE EXPECT, AND WE WOULD ALLOWIT TO GO DEEP INSIDE OF US;
- 00:24:55.272 --> 00:24:56.473
- IT TO GO DEEP INSIDE OF US;THAT WE AREN'T JUST LOOKING FOR
- 00:24:56.473 --> 00:24:57.474
- THAT WE AREN'T JUST LOOKING FORPEACE -- WE HAVE THE PRINCE OF
- 00:24:57.474 --> 00:24:58.275
- PEACE -- WE HAVE THE PRINCE OFPEACE LIVING ON THE INSIDE OF
- 00:24:58.275 --> 00:24:59.443
- PEACE LIVING ON THE INSIDE OFUS.
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- US.AND I PRAY, GOD, THAT AS WE
- 00:25:00.678 --> 00:25:02.413
- AND I PRAY, GOD, THAT AS WEFILE THOSE THINGS AWAY, WE
- 00:25:02.413 --> 00:25:04.014
- FILE THOSE THINGS AWAY, WEWOULD KNOW IN CONFIDENCE THAT
- 00:25:04.014 --> 00:25:04.982
- WOULD KNOW IN CONFIDENCE THATOUR FATHER IS NOT IGNORING
- 00:25:04.982 --> 00:25:07.418
- OUR FATHER IS NOT IGNORINGTHOSE MOMENTS.
- 00:25:07.418 --> 00:25:08.018
- THOSE MOMENTS.HE IS GOING TO TAKE THE TIME
- 00:25:08.018 --> 00:25:09.286
- HE IS GOING TO TAKE THE TIMEWITH EACH OF THESE MOMENTS TO
- 00:25:09.286 --> 00:25:11.388
- WITH EACH OF THESE MOMENTS TOSHOW US WHY AND HOW AND WHERE
- 00:25:11.388 --> 00:25:12.656
- SHOW US WHY AND HOW AND WHEREHE WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.
- 00:25:12.656 --> 00:25:14.825
- HE WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.SO, I PRAY FOR PEACE.
- 00:25:14.825 --> 00:25:15.426
- SO, I PRAY FOR PEACE.I PRAY FOR CONFIDENCE IN YOUR
- 00:25:15.426 --> 00:25:16.193
- I PRAY FOR CONFIDENCE IN YOURTIMING.
- 00:25:16.193 --> 00:25:17.795
- TIMING.AND I PRAY MOST OF ALL THAT YOU
- 00:25:17.795 --> 00:25:19.096
- AND I PRAY MOST OF ALL THAT YOUWOULD PROTECT US -- MENTALLY,
- 00:25:19.096 --> 00:25:19.930
- WOULD PROTECT US -- MENTALLY,PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND
- 00:25:19.930 --> 00:25:21.298
- PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, ANDSPIRITUALLY -- ALL THE DAY OF
- 00:25:21.298 --> 00:25:23.000
- SPIRITUALLY -- ALL THE DAY OFOUR LIVES; THAT WE WOULD TRUST
- 00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:25.636
- OUR LIVES; THAT WE WOULD TRUSTYOUR TIMEFRAME IN OUR LIVES.
- 00:25:25.636 --> 00:25:27.271
- YOUR TIMEFRAME IN OUR LIVES.IN JESUS' MIGHTY NAME, AMEN AND
- 00:25:27.271 --> 00:25:30.207
- IN JESUS' MIGHTY NAME, AMEN ANDAMEN.
- 00:25:30.207 --> 00:25:34.645
- AMEN.- MANDISA: AMEN.
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- - MANDISA: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US, ON
- 00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:35.913
- - LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US, ONSOCIAL MEDIA, AND LET US KNOW
- 00:25:35.913 --> 00:25:40.117
- SOCIAL MEDIA, AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
- 00:25:40.117 --> 00:25:40.818
- HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.[NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]
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- [NEW, UPBEAT MUSIC]NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
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- NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- MANDISA: AND I THINK IT
- 00:25:42.753 --> 00:25:43.654
- - MANDISA: AND I THINK ITSTARTED OUT WITH DOING IT FOR
- 00:25:43.654 --> 00:25:45.522
- STARTED OUT WITH DOING IT FORMY FUTURE HUSBAND.
- 00:25:45.522 --> 00:25:47.625
- MY FUTURE HUSBAND.I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACE
- 00:25:47.625 --> 00:25:49.493
- I THINK, NOW, I'M AT THE PLACEWHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.
- 00:25:49.493 --> 00:25:50.094
- WHERE I'M DOING IT FOR MYSELF.AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.
- 00:25:50.094 --> 00:25:51.328
- AND I'M DOING IT TO HONOR GOD.BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO
- 00:25:51.328 --> 00:25:53.097
- BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TOGROW IN LOVE.
- 00:25:53.097 --> 00:25:54.231
- GROW IN LOVE.- LAURIE: WATCH
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- - LAURIE: WATCH"BETTER TOGETHER"
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- "BETTER TOGETHER"WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY
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- WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAYNIGHTS, RIGHT HERE ON TBN.
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